Tom: Downfall of a Functioning Alcoholic
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- Опубліковано 25 сер 2024
- The son of an alcoholic, Tom began drinking at a very young age. For much of the time, he was able to balance his family, his job, and his alcohol. However, the more success he had in his career, the more his drinking became a problem. And soon enough, the disease took everything he had. Please listen to his story...
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Alcohol and cigarettes addiction actually destroyed my life. I could remember several years ago after divorce with my wife which brought me into my disastrous journey on Alcohol and cigarettes. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Got diagnosed with cptsd. Not until a friend recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Much respect to mother nature the great magic shrooms.
Can you help me with the reliable source 🙏. I'm 56 and have suffered for years with addiction, anxiety and severe ptsd, I got my panic attacks under control myself years ago and they have come back with a vengeance, I'm constantly trying to take full breaths but can't get the full satisfying breath out, it's absolutely crippling me, i live in Germany. I don't know much about these mushrooms. Really need a reliable source!! Can't wait to get them.
YES very sure of Dr.benfungi. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
Yes he's Dr.benfungi.Shrooms to me is a natrual healer. I know a guy who has used mushrooms in the same way and they have really helped him. mah dudes have safe trips all.
I would like to know from those who have solved PTSD and anxiety, if they have solved it definitively and how to understand what quantity of psilocybin to take and when, for how long. And can you really heal without having an addiction?
Thanks to everyone for helping me understand, I want to understand if it's
something that can help me solve the problem (I have c-ptsd)
Does he ship? Can he deliver to me here in Lithuania 🇱🇹
I was a gutter Alcoholic and became sober in 2003..I am now an Artist and a Musician...
So you're unemployed.
@@philbecker4676 that's not what he said shit for brains. And who even gives a shit if he's doing what he loves to do and finding meaning in something? What's your problem
@@philbecker4676 yeah because nobody ever makes money off of being an artist or musician...the fuck is wrong with you?
Paint brush and a guitar.
@@irvingr.fatback886 AA is the million dollar solution..A dollar at a time.....
I am 39 and today I have admitted I am an alcoholic! I have lost my freedom in the past because of this and I've also had so many family issues. My life is a mess right now but I am determined to make a new life for myself. Currently times are hard for me but I need to change and put down the drink so that I can make a positive future.
Good deal brother! I'm rooting for u.
Right Wing weak? Addiction to a socially accepted drug sneaks up on you. Courage is sorting it ...
John I pray you have made progress since this last post. May God guide and bless you and deliver you from the addiction.
I am 37 and going through something similar. Been sober since June 8 2020, with a few relapses, but going strong. You are not alone out there!
That's why it's called the demon drink don't let it ruin your lives join aa
I’m 9 years sober this past Sunday, 7/25/21. Congratulations to who are seeing the light and want to get help.
Its hard to understand unless youv been through it.
zoomorphicrap agreed, I cannot wrap my around an addiction to alcohol. I smoked for 20 years and quit. I get addiction just not to something as gross as alcohol. My father was an alcoholic and that was enough for me to never become an alcoholic.
woodyfive0 alcohol is yum. Too yum ... hence the problem. It triggers 150% of the dopamine / seratonin than harder drugs do .. and keeps you euphoric for longer. Very seductive drug ..
andrew dods don’t get me wrong, I have done my share of drinking just never got that addiction. Hangovers are the grossest thing to live through. I will stick with the pot. Marijuana, now there’s an addiction I can get behind
@@woodyfive0 I’m an advocate for marijuana but it can turn on you too. I was a pothead throughout my twenties and early thirties. I absolutely loved it and it didn’t have many if any adverse effects. At 35 pot started giving me anxiety and I even had a couple panic attacks. I couldn’t believe it because weed had never made feel that way before but our brain chemistry naturally changes over time. This might be more common with habitual users like myself.
I’m proud of you, you did what my father could never do (quit drinking) he was a college educated athlete from a loving family and he died a functioning alcoholic from cirrhosis at 53. I myself am now 50 a proud father of three boys, a loving husband and a non-drinker, it would have been nice for my father to have been here today, sober enjoying his grandsons.
i guess Im asking the wrong place but does anyone know of a way to log back into an instagram account?
I was dumb forgot the login password. I would love any assistance you can give me
@Fisher Alaric Instablaster :)
@Ulises Shane I really appreciate your reply. I got to the site thru google and Im trying it out atm.
I see it takes quite some time so I will get back to you later with my results.
@Ulises Shane it did the trick and I finally got access to my account again. I am so happy!
Thanks so much, you saved my account :D
@Fisher Alaric glad I could help :D
Don't give up. I've been sober for 361 days and I'm 35 as well. Its been tough but so worth it!
How's it going now
@@WestsideCleveland He died from alcolism
💞💯
@@harryolsen603stupid comment
Hope u still are
As an alcoholic when I was still drinking I WAS DYING ONE DAY AT A TIME. That is the truth.
Hope you’re still clean. But aren’t we all dying one day at a time?
Yea we are all dying one day at a time bud. Glad your clean though
I'm digging a hole. My brother was a heroin addict. Gone five years. So many good people, so much pain.
Depends on the person. Alcoholism has been very good to me in the past.
@@turbompson4546you need to go back and watch this video again. You’ve seemed to miss something important
Not once do we consume alcohol and say I am proud of what I did, what I said and what I accomplished. Alcohol is a deceitful liar dressed up as a friend and comforter only bent on destroying everything in its path.
So true.....
I don't who he or this channel, I come across it by accident. But none of that matters, this man got up and showed his hearts and all the pain he went through. I have soooo much respect for him, how many of us could get online and expose ourselves as this man has done. NOT many I think!
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I'm five days in and I don't miss it at all. I'm kicking several addictions along with alcohol. Feel great now when I wake up.
Depends on your mental state. Anxiety, depression ?
@@Dicer86 No - Magnesium, max Vit C & Bupropion.
No offense, JJ, but my brother in law has said that about 50 times in the past 20 years...it gets old real fast. Post when you are sober for a year. God speed.
Post when you are sober 5 years..
Just wait.
Use to walk into bars swearing I wasn’t going to drink...by myself! Total insanity!
I am living this guy's life right now. Thank you for the wake up call. God bless.
God bless you
How are you doing
Addiction is so very cruel and heartbreaking!
I left my partner because of it
It was not too late for me to realize how much I lost. AA gave me a wonderful way of life.
Never liked AA. Everyone trading one addiction for another. The smell of cigarettes and coffee make me want to puke.
@@iceicekodi6402go in that bih and drink straight water not saying a single word ever.
I can listen to this guy all day, he has a talent for story telling
Thank you for your honesty. You speak from the heart which is a big one. One of the downfalls of being sensitive vulnerable and beautiful. Us with alcoholic bereavement have amazing qualities that tend to blind us with light that is a special force. The blindness contributes to a hole in the soul that is the pain of substance dependancy. With appreciation.
8 months sober. Glory to God!
we are in 2023 now. are you still sober ?
“Downfall of someone who thought he was a functioning alcoholic, but was actually a non-functioning alcoholic who got lucky for a while.”
This was a very enlightening series of videos. Disguise great! I’m so happy that he got out of that awful life. I know that video was 14 years ago, but I am praying that he is still doing OK!
disclaimer: i'm not alcoholic, but from time to time i am drinking much.
for me personally, it's quite important to understand that i'm not the only one struggling with life, trying to survive, and stuff. listening to similar stories as mine helps to accept that life isn't easy and after acceptance i start thinking about how to make things better, how to avoid problems and stuff. sometimes it's good to nag , but not constantly.
I know this video is 14 years old but it’s still a huge inspiration in 2024
Your testimony will change lives. THANK YOU
I 0nly drink on 2 occasions, when Im by myself and when Im around other people.
Norbero Fontanez "you aint funny but your funny"
Norbero Fontanez stfu u drunk
mostmasterful
*you’re* funny
gregory hudson .. and the other 2. When celebrating .. or when mourning ...
Personally I believe that alcohol should be illegal.
It Was…
🥃🕳🥃
I'm still on the insane rollercoaster. Each day I promise never again. Yet by early evening I am heading to the store. I will get sober time and go right back into the nightmare
How you doing?
Idle hands are the devil's playground. Keep your hands busy by learning a new skill or with something productive or healthy such as cycling, playing guitar, making music, photography or whatever else interests you. Whether you think you can or can't, you're right either way, so get excited about the good things that are coming into your life & plan accordingly. ✌️&❤️
I also have had an addiction since 14 years old i know how hard it is and people give you no credit unless you quit completely but cutting back till you can quit is better than nothing good luck man
I am 69 sober 15 years
Drunk and starting to cry... time for part two, I guess.
I CANT STOP DRINKING SOMEONE PRAY FOR ME!!!!!!!!!
37 years sober and grateful every moment of every day
Thank you for sharing your story. I can relate to being a functional alcoholic. I'm only one month sober, but have made up my mind that I'm never going back. A friend of mine dropped me off at AA for my 40th Birthday! LOL!!! What a wake up call! I knew I was spiraling in a bad direction but didn't know how to stop drinking. I actually didn't see the alcohol as a problem. I would have never known that I could go this long without wanting a drink. Well...I can't say that it doesn't cross my mind, but the support I'm getting at AA has been amazing! There is really no reason to go back. Still dealing with withdrawals, which sucks! But it is part of the journey.
we are in 2023 now. are you still sober ?
@@BRIANDER100 Still sober...I had to reset my date to May 1, 2017. So I celebrated 6 years last month. I've been sponsoring and working with others since my first month till now. "Nothing so much insures my sobriety as intense work with other alcoholics...it works when nothing else does". Thanks for checking!!! Feel free to reach out anytime.
Some people CAN reduce their drinking to a moderate level, but it is difficult at first. My friend used to get drunk every night for 4 years. He quit for 6 months. Now he drinks 2-4 5oz glasses of wine two days a week. The key is to drink slower and infrequent enough to NOT build a tolerance, otherwise you go back to drinking heavily. But a heavy drinker must reduce GRADUALLY to avoid a life-threatening withdrawl.
we are in 2023 now. how is your friend doing now ?
Hope you got the help you needed mate! Wish you all the best!
My children's father was an alcoholic ....he put booze before his beautiful kids...it eventually killed him.
It ruined their childhood and definitely left them with issues as adults 😪
My dad was an alcoholic and died at 39. His mother was an alcoholic and died at 43 in the gutter not wanting too know anyone or her family ... I got sober 12 years ago when I was 31 and still remain so... It's a family illness there's no doubt about that 😢
So sorry to hear. That’s a very tough situation and am hoping you and your kids find a way to deal with this.
I'm leaving my husband tomorrow. I tried to help him and be supportive, but I'm tired of being called a cunt, a bitch, a piece of shit and getting pinched and poked and getting things thrown at me. I don't deserve this mental and physical abuse.
How are you doing now?
@@lindamiles5035
I'm living and working in another town far away from him, have my own apartment, car and life. It wasn't easy and I still have days where I miss him, but I'm very happy now.
@@vickyferreira3259 well done on being strong xx
@@lindamiles5035
Thank you..😌
Good for you Vicky. I’m sorry you had to endure all that.
Colin Quinn?
fantastic video. Fun fact my sober date is October 6, 2014.
October 6th cool my birthday i was a drinker Thank God I'm not anymore Life is way better 😊 congratulations to you 🎉 to anyone that can accomplish this
Very courageous to share the part about your kids and the cliff and the bottle of vodka. All the best to you and your family.
In my opinion an alcoholic DOES NO LONGER WANT TO DRINK!!! He is now at a stage WHERE HE HAS TO DRINK, at least that was my experience!
Exactly it becomes like smoking cigarettes. You hate it but can’t stop. I hate drinking. I know I’m killing my liver. I drink beer
As an alcoholic sympathy was no good for me, not only was I weak but I was powerless over alcohol, I could not control it, but alcohol CONTROLLED ME!!!
I was more of a black out drinker. It was very scary! I was going to die fast but surely. Caused me to stop drinking at a young age! Functioning alcoholics though they die slowly.
Was it scary because you always did dumb stuff or do stuff you won’t remember that was potentially dangerous? I’m kind of the same way I drink until I black out
@@Xstr3ngthz Yeah it was because my intentions were never to do the stupid stuff i would do. I just wanted to have a good time. Id be careful with that. Feel free to connect with me by email if you ever need to chat. The next day id wake up hung over regreting all the dumb stuff i did or things that I said!
Changed alchol for excercise,,aiming to run,marathon under 4 hrs when 60 ,,my vo2 max is 48 ,could go to mid 50 ,,not bad for 55 yrs
New addiction
We drink too much because we want to control our mood. Trouble is, we feel good WHILE drinking, but feel down AFTER drinking and want to lift our mood again=more drinking. When you can weather the down feeling the next day, you don't crave another consecutive night of drinking, and you can make it through the week. But you also have to cut down HOW MUCH you drink a given time, so as not to build a tolerance. This can be difficult, but then so is quitting completely.
I'm starting to cut back after 13 years of heavy drinking has really taken it's toll on me physically and mentally, my memory I really struggle to remember things if only I could turn back time
@chaseturk tell me about it I want to kick the habit out of my life but so hard I've tried everything
@chaseturk not only that it's really taken it's toll on me especially my memory damage is already done hate to think what my liver looks like
wow. I like him. Hope he is well.
God bless you, Tom. I see your strength and your sensitivity. I respect your honesty and your obvious desire to communicate. I respect you as a man.
It is now 2023 - any idea what Tom is up to today ?
december 22, 2021 for me
i miss it every hour, every day
but i stay away because its for the best
Still hanging in there?
@@eldnahym yes , not 1 drop
but i have dreams of finding bottles or being at bars
Booze finally got to me. 8 months now without a drink. I was getting so grumpy with only 4 or 5 beers a day near the end. So glad I put it down. My family and I can surely see the difference. I guess my family is the only reason I dont drink. Booze creeps up on ya. Im 55, it took 40 years for my body to reject it.
Among many others, Leonard Nimoy (sp?) suffered from the booze. He recovered. It's a very hard nut to crack, but YOU can do it!!!
@@jujumulligan43 6 beers is
still enjoyable after work..along with only 10 cigarettes... once a week. singing and dancing in public seems to help..
I'm in western NC. Where are you?
@@jujumulligan43 use to live in Cullawee, sylva and highlands and ole franklin... Im livin johnson city... Cheers my man...
I lived there for 1 year in 5th grade... Momma wanted to get out florida for awhile. They some nice folks down that way
Sadly I'm attending the funeral of a friend next week who died at 56..quiet guy who drank to give himself confidence and now he's gone.
My father's an severe alcoholic. I started this channel to document him. Please help.
+Drunk Polish Dad has he read allen carrs Easyway to control alcohol
***** absolutely. i stopped drinking. I don't even need to cope. the book gets rid of any desire to consume alcohol. Highly recommended.
naltrexone!!!!! the sinclair method..it works!!!!!
My dad was an alcoholic.He was a "Functioning" alcoholic until one day he wasn't.The house of cards came crashing down.We lost our house and ended up on the street,me being just a kid.
I recommend for alcoholics to take psylocibin mushrooms.They're very effective at treating depression.They're close to a magic bullet.Anti-depressants are the next best option.
CerebralAssassin
Was thinking that for myself...I have to drink once a week or I get really stressed ...but looking for mushrooms once every year or so
I need help
A case of beer a day? I thought I was bad
this story helps me right now thank you
have you heard of SMART recovery? It's helping me, if you have one near you maybe it could help you too :)
Before I became an alcoholic, the world was my oyster. Then from many years of drinking, my world was my enemy. These days of complete sobriety 24/7. etc. etc .etc. My brain is clean. My mind is clear. My thoughts are SOUND! From past folly, one can become WISE. SHREWD even. The word NO!!! Holds so much POWER!!!!!
i feel like you are an addict when 1) you need it and will do anything for it.
2) first thing in the morning before anything
Coffee is a :hot: commodity
The problem being not that I took a drug of choice. The problem was that I did not have enough sanity to avoid taking a substance which was killing me.
My ex girlriend called me a functioning alcoholic. She had no job and I was paying all the bills. Oh well at least the bottle still loves me
+HowlOfMinerva it was a joke. I have not drank in 5+ years.
+HowlOfMinerva yeah being unemployed is great
Explaining is something most folks have either forgotten how to do, or either never knew how.
A functioning alcoholic is a drunk who's wife works. I say this from personal experience.
I'm struggling with this myself. Good video 👍
I heard it said like this, it's not so much as the amount your drink but sometimes why. Can you just let that all go? An alcoholic is someone who often times takes a drink to "take the edge off... but it doesn't always work that way and ends up an addiction: of the mental and emotional kind. Kind regards.
Total Respect to you !
Hope you one day get you get all your kids back !!
Im currently an alchoholic ,i quit but the panic attacks were more than i could handle. So im back drinking.
For what it's worth, I'm in the exact same boat as yourself.
Best of luck to you, sincerely 😢
I did too man it is possible I'm 66 days sober, I had the exact same issue It got worse to begin but now almost hardly get them
I'm 40 ( nearly 41) been in recovery now for 8 months , been told my liver is so damaged if i continued to drink I would suffer irreparable damage to my liver
Tony Nguyen vodka or whiskey
How you doing now?
we are in 2023 now. are you still sober ?
how much and how long did you drink ?
@@BRIANDER100 litre of vodka with orange juice so I got some vitamins lol the messed up mind of an addict eh
Where is he now
Addiction can break us apart, it can do horrible things to people, it can take away everything from you, your money, your loved ones, your job. Most often than not, it's always too late to realize how much we've lost.
Well done to you Tom
It takes courage
Absolutely it does
How are you doing now ?
God bless you and your family
Alcoholism is an EXTREMELY painful death when you get to the brink. When your pancreas is on the verge of exploding, you'll try to drink but the smallest amount will Magnifie the pain. It's torture you'll Die or, you'll finally go to the hospital
where you'll have a 10% chance of living.
Five years sober @ 54.
What got me to quit?
In a dream, my Holy Guardian Angel showed me something that was so horrible and terrifying.
And I am very glad you did. I would help anybody who put their hand out but so many willfully carry on & hurt all those around them. Good for you for finding the strength to fight your addiction. I realize it's not an easy task but it's the only way to overcome it. addiction.
Hats off to the brave individuals that share thr terrible affliction of alcoholism . and the destruction it leaves in its wake God bless them
Fair-play reaching success & being a functional alcoholic....but the money probably was ammunition to your addiction. Very honest video
This is as real as it gets.
My name is Mark and I am a functioning alcoholic!
ty so much for the vid!
What a good man, glad hes clean
My name is crooked level and I’m an alcoholic but I’m no quitter.. just here for the comments.
Superb! Takes guts to say those things
I have just cremated my last oldest friend three days ago , he bled to death very quickly when he had an internal rupture from cirrhosis .. he was 52 .
Wow! I am so sorry to hear that Paul! That is very sad. =0( I just gave up the bottle one month ago...dealing with withdrawals right now. At the rate I was drinking I knew it was just a matter of time till I got a bad report from the doctor. Hang in there again, so, so, sorry to hear about your friend.
paulspydar I am so sorry to hear that. It's so unfortunate that someone could lose their life because of alcohol.
I lost my friend the same way just this last April. He was 55.
@@sabrinaprovencal5954 how much and how long did he drink ?
how much and how long did he drink ?
I pray to Mantago the great sky daddy, creator of the world, and everything in it.... I follow his teachings from "The Book Of Shite"... I drink now and then, but because of my faith in Mantago and his Shite teachings I can never become addicted....
I'm a recovered alcoholic, I don't bore people with drunkalogues, my focus is on how I recovered from a seemingly hopeless condition of mind and body.
If an alcoholic can't tell how they got well, they didn't, they're just dry but still nuts. 90% of everyone in AA still suffer from untreated alcoholism, they think going to meetings is the solution, it isn't, it never was.
Its all about the steps.
I'm a friend of Bill's and I agree to a point. Without the meetings we can't help the newcomers get sponsors. But yes taking the steps is the path to freedom.
This is like a speaker meeting.thanks.
I hope Tom is doing ok.
Listening to this while drinking
Did they make that movie with Keanu Reeves based on this guy wheres his dad was a drunk and he started to fall in his footsteps
Thanks Tom.
I'm back and can't remember making the last comment or watching this...
The question is
So take alcohol from your life what is left?
Do you have anything else?
I can relate to your story.
It is not a physical disease, its mental. And it is not a bad habit,
yes, i feel if i quit completely people will notice me and will think i was a really mess, i want to quit but i dont want to tell people. i wanna feel normal like the other guys that go out and have a beer or two, and can stop. i dont want to people feel sorry for me. i just want to be treated like i never have the problem before. you know.
I was experiencing exactly the same. Find an AA group in your town. AA saved my life...
Hi Jim
Check out "Kick the drink ...easily" by Jason Vale. One of the best books I've read on the alcohol trap, and how to get out.
Actually i do know what i talking about . I was married to one of those alcholics not to mention my step was also a alcholic.
My man be lookin' like Harvey Keitel.
*Celebrating my 5th year of clean & sober living next month! ❤
"Other chemicals in my 30s." Bruh just say coke lmao
That's not so encouraging.
Hey, I'm not Tom.
Tom is the guy in the video and he was a heavy alcoholic drinking all day (he actually says he realized something was wrong when he got to drink a pint of whiskey before going to work just to look sober) and now is needs to be 100% sober.
His level of alcoholic disease needs hi to stay totally away from alcohol, one drink and he spirals back into 24/7 binging.
Ciao.