Toddler won't sleep? Time for YOU to start calling the shots!
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- Опубліковано 7 вер 2024
- Child sleep expert Dana Obleman answers questions from parents like you about their children's sleep problems. Have a question of your own? Post it in the
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l just want to post a comment to let anyone else know that ive 2 kids under 5, we dread nighttime for the past 4 years me and my husband have took it in turns to each do one night with them they wake constantly, we have tryed everything l find myself wishing they were 9 or 10 or any age that they will sleep, most times l think im completely failing as a mother that my children arent sleeping and that im not as good as anyone else but thats just exhaustion making me feel that way, l just wanted anyone else tired and wondering what there doing wrong on this to tell you your doing nothing wrong because your there everyday and everynight and everyday your trying your best, your a good mother
Thank you
Mohamed Isapedo they usually don’t do shit so yeah f them
No, you are failing as a mother.
Thank you
They're older now, how's the sleep going?
My son is exactly the same. He has pushed all the boundaries.
I'm going through this right now.. It's been 2 years of no sleep for me.. Very good advice! Shalom.
is it normal for a 1 year old to still be hard to put to sleep?
Marra Israel same here..
i m pooja..he is 2 yr old....still dont get gud sleep
Shalom sis this is mad hard
This can be so hard.. but what you say is so true. This was a great reminder as my toddler is screaming in her room right now.. I’m not a bad parent for letting her just cry till she falls asleep 😅
That's awful.
@@marianalagoa4274sleep deprivation is not good when it comes to being a parent.
This is so hard to hear because truth honestly hurts because this sounds just like my situation..
Found this video today. My 2 year old has slept through the night maybe a dozen times since the day he was born.
You are absolutely great 👍 it is hard to find a video on here that gives you the best advice. You help give us a good reminder that it is important to run the schedule so they have the understanding they need.
Brilliant, sensible, spot on advice that works! Thank you Dana!!
My son is almost 1.5 and he’s always slept great. The past 5 days he has cried as if he’s scared as soon as we start going upstairs. Even during the day he doesn’t want to go to his room and I feel bad because I don’t know why. I’ve been driving him around then bringing him home and laying him down only to be woken up by his cries from 2-4 hours later where I then bring him down and sleep on the sofa with him so my husband can sleep.
Who else is a older sister/ older brother watching this to get your sister / brother to sleep
Danae program is amazing, it changed my life when my baby was 11 months.
What do you do when it's a 4.5 year old, you have a routine yet she constantly becomes this walking zombie at night. Meaning my child has a problem with me going to sleep so she does everything in her power so that I won't get any sleep and it's integrating with my sanity. I'm sleep deprived. She always wants to sleep with me which I don't like or allow but it has happened a few times because some times she will fall asleep in her room and as soon as I doze off here she comes to try and climb in my bed. This is so overwhelming. I feel like the joy of parenting has been ripped away
Interrupting
absolutely understandable dear, actually toddlers are not grown enough to stay away from their parents as they just started to feel things sensibly (according to me) and they are not ready to just rely on their feed and stay alone, this is not actually a sleeping problem its the matter of affection and you have to respond accordingly I guess. okay if you can manage I would recommend to give him "toddlers magic tea" although it wont prevent him from missing you but would definitely make him sleep tight. good to you
This is exactly what my son does. Drives me crazy.
Im curious why you guys do not use a babygate?
Those baby gates don't really stop them, just slows them down a little. My daughter can escape anything.
Boundaries were my problem . My daughter is 3 and since August we have been struggling with her to go to bed and stay in bed. She used to sleep from 7 pm until 7 am on her crib but one day she started getting out of her crib screaming, crying every 30 minutes we didn’t know what it was . Were the worst 3 days . She told us she saw 2 men on the wall and she got scared. We change everything in the room even bought her a bed but until today she fights with me to stay in bed . Every nap, every night she fights and doesn’t want me to leave the room . Also she can wake up 5 or 6 times during the night because “she needs to use the restroom “ and fights to go back to bed . I think my problem was that I didn’t set up boundaries . I am tired , stressed and also have my other baby who sleep in the same room and I am also afraid she might wake up her sister . I feel so bad, so tired and don’t know what to do . Sometimes I feel I am a terrible mom :(
Needed to hear this...thank you!
I can't be the only one that actually enjoyed (my 3 are teens now) the night time visits? I honestly miss waking up with my son laying on my back lol. Or my youngest laying facing me with her arm around my neck. I honestly miss those days.
I must remember that the days are long but the years are short.
Great video! Thank you.
Read your own letter and the problems mom is causing should smack you in the face! She's absolutely spot on! Parenting isn't for the weak and some parents are too weak to be good parents. It's a shame bc kids need boundaries to know they're loved.
Trisha, atleast he is having a nap... My daughter doesn't even know what is nap.. Tottaly 8 hours sleep only in night..
Sleeping always had been a problem she’s 6. Being consistent with the boundaries and rules are so difficult for me but its so exhausting this way i have to. She’s so stubborn 😮💨
My problem is that my toddler started getting out of the crib at ~ 16 months and at this point, I have no idea what to do. He climbs everything, so leaving him alone in the room is a no. Sitting in the room, he will just climb on top of you, playing with toys etc... Should I just remove all of the furniture and toys? ... Kind of joking but idk.
My son jumped his crib around the sametime. I would sit with him and read, rub his back and it didn't matter if I sat there for 10 min or an hour, the moment I left his room, I'd see a head peek out his door. This went on for months until one night when I thought he was asleep, I go to get in my bed and who do I find? Him asleep under my blanket. I was pregnant with my third and also had a 4 yr old. What did I do? Got right in bed with him and slept. He's now 13yrs old and the LAST place he'd ever want to sleep is with his mom and honestly I miss those days terribly.
I learned with my 3rd to forget all the "rules" and just enjoy them because they grow up way to fast.
I had a friend that cleared out her son's room of anything he could possibly hurt himself on and stacked 2 baby gates in the doorway. Worked for her.
They also sell crib nets for jumpers.
@@stayathomecichlidmom3579 thanks for sharing. Ya i think the 'rules' cause more stress than anything else...
You can also try a sleep tent! We have a same problem with my 22-month-old daughter and just started trying it. It will let him stay safe!
Ya and when you set boundaries they just laugh at you
I have a two year old that doesn't take naps and he don't sleep until 10 or 11 at night. When he doesn't get his way he will cry until he pukes, I need help because he sleeps in bed with me
My son is almost 5 and doesn’t sleep through the night. Do you have any suggestions for a child that is this old?
My wife and I have a 2 year old that not only fights his naps but also fights going to bed at night. We do our best to keep him on a regular schedule for naps and bedtime but that doesn't seem to make a difference. We have talked with his doctors and specialist and got no where fast. As I am writing this he is screaming his head off not wanting to go to bed and it is 10p. Are there any suggestions. We have tried natural things like oil and oral drops from the health food store and we have no luck. We live in an apartment complex and I worry the neighbors are going to call CPS on us thinking we just let him scream and cry. My wife and I are getting very concerned with this sleep battle. He has digestive issues that doctors can not pin point still to this date and I am wondering if that has something to do with the sleep problems. Please help we are at a loss.
Just give him A little spank on his butt IT won't Hurt. Kids need to Obey their parents at any time. Hè is the child and should know his place. First warn him 2 Times or 3 Times if he does not wanna listen bring him to his room and explain that he has to sleep. If he still does not listen spanking Will do
@@AG-wb3db toddlers don't respond well to spankings. It usually causes more defiance and anger.
@@JessicaWells1 That's not true I haven't spanked mine but spankings do work I just don't think spankings will work in this situation it depends how bad it gets
@Celtic girl there are different ways to discipline besides spankings. There are different ways to get a kid to listen besides yelling, that’s just what we’ve been taught by our parents. Our kids are little humans trying to figure out life, not dogs that we are trying to train
I thought my toddler's crying would wake my baby, but it never has at night. Only at naptime.
My two and half yr old daughter does not sleeps properly at night some time she will sleep throughout the night but some times she will bw awake thw ehole night and will be so active as if its day time
Unisom works wonders try it .
Nobody listen to this. Don’t drug your kids like that, that’s literally criminally insane
hello Dana..this is Kaniz from Bangkok...my daughter is 3 yrs and 3 months and I'm afraid she goes to sleep at 5:00 am every morning...I've applied everything like I brush her teeth, give her sleeping bath, apply oil on her hair and bend it, try to tell her bedtime story but she awakes till 5:00 morning watching cartoons on her iPad... something jumping on the bed...she wakes up at 2pm and again have a nap at 8pm to 9:30 pm...her school will started from this August and I don't know what to do...her routine was not like this before but suddenly don't know why she's behaving like this... everyday me and my husband take her to playground for physical exercise...but in vain... what would I do...pls help me.
Kumar Kamar
Have you tried taking away the iPad? Maybe some time limit can be set, like after 6pm she hands the iPad over to you and then you follow your normal routine...?
God Take away the iPad lol
I would love an update on this ipad kid
I have taken away the phone but my son won’t sleep until around 2am or even beyond, even when i try to deny him his evening nap the night time stays the same, he doesn’t like to eat I really don’t know what to do
If the child is overly upset and screaming or hysterical, why traumatize a child by denying them hugs or being held to sleep? Being tired can cause anxiety... why would I want my baby to suffer unnecessarily?
Is he suffering if he has no boundaries? You're the parent, you have to do what you think is right, but I believe toddlers are crying out for boundaries even if it is in their nature to push them. It comes down to this: who is the parent?
Also, they will not learn to self soothe if not given the opportunity.
@@jeaninepetty4923 boundaries are one thing but traumatizing them is not necessary. There is such a thing as panic...why would I ignore their panic? Panic tends to get higher with exhaustion. I remember begging my mom to sit with me as I fell asleep but she refused and held strong to her "boundaries " . I have a panic disorder now and feel traumatized. Especially after she implemented the lock on my door.
I think getting older in general teaches them to self sooth. Ignoring them could do the opposite. Based on my own experience and memory of my childhood
My gf needs to hear this..
Please help me .my baby is 2yrs old and 7months now.since birth she sleep in morning and awake at night.i tried everything even her vitamins but nothing works.what should I do???
leo l dont know if any of this will work ive tryed it all, l make up a massage oil of almond oil lavender and ylang ylang and massage them after a bath with 1-2 drops of lavender in it, it sometimes helps but they still dont sleep so im basically a walking zombie
Hello. I have same problem with my 22months. He won't take his nap until 3pm then he wakes up around 6:30 pm . I am so tired 🥱 i don't know what to do. It takes me 1to more hours to fall asleep. Bed time around 10:30 pm to 11pm the problem he wakes up at 3pm asks for milk the wakes up at 6:30 or 7pm. I need help please I can't focus during the day or relax I so tired. Help me with any advice please. Thank you
My 2.5 year old is smart man I’m so over it time to put my foot down lol
I did a serous help I cant get my 2.5 sister to get transferred from playpen to big girl bed I have no locks and she keeps getting out of bed and I can never get enough sleep for school because I share a room and it is really affecting my grades in school help Dana please
Spoiled kids , clueless sloppy parenting.
I do not agree it takes toddlers time too get used to going too bed after after co sleeping
Spoiled parent, judgmental awful personality.
You post videos of you baking bread you’re literally a loser trying to down talk parents who need help 😂