'Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too can become great' Mark Twain (1835-1910) Dream a big dream M. de Botton
This quote has struck a cord with me, made me quite emotional (after just hearing De Bottom speak with such fervour) and inspirited me to boldly march on in my passion for promoting mental wellness and advocating for the enforcement of certain policies in the country I come from; Kenya. Bless your soul.
Love his ideas! Absolutely eloquently put forward, and they're both charming and valid. I'm a Christian, and a lot of his ideas still resound true alongside my beliefs.
Alain was the first one who opened my eyes and got me to think differently. I can now acknowledge the anxieties that come with life and steer away from useless ideas implanted by religion and media. It is not and easy process... but thank you for inciting change and promoting our need for emotional intelligence !
Non-religious churches is an oximoronic idea. Because there must be something higher that should unite all those people together. And there is nothing more universally need than the meaningful unconditional love. And unfortunately we are very different in our understanding of love. We are quite limited as human beings and cannot offer by ourselves to all people that unconditional love they all need...
My daughter overdosed about a year ago. I'm not saying a class in school and she would still be alive but it might have helped her. It wouldn't have hurt.
She would have at least a little bit more power to rise above the suffering of not having that certain "something" that she thought the others were loving in order for her to feel accepted. Or to feel that she can grow in some way in that environment...
De Botton started the "School of Life" which publishes a huge number of "self help" and "how to" material, the very thing he absolutely writes-off in this video.
I just came across three of your video's and I think you are very entertaining. Dawkins knows now that God lives. People lie when they do not feel safe, children included. Imho and experience. I have enjoyed your talks. Thank you.
Wonderful!!! I'm a half-Academic because I studied 5 subjects to become a teacher. And while at University I always tried to convince my Professors and lecturers to discuss the beauty of it, the meaning of it, too that we shouldn't look at all these things so one-dimensionally. Why can't we work scientifically and absolutely dead-rationally, discuss stuff, write about stuff but THEN also indulge ourselves in the beauty of it, in the fascination we feel about the subject? Why is one aspect excluding the other? I don't get it! That's what I tried to tell these MEN (not many women out there)...and they just looked at me as if I were a hopeless, silly girl and said very disrespectful things. And if I wrote in my term papers only slightly like that (a little remakr after a paragraph or in the conclusion) they would mark me really badly....GOSH, that's why I really hate the academic world! That's why I'm a teacher because there BOTH is possible. But really, people, it's time for a change! And not only that but also the sophisticated language - it is a highly undemocratic thing. I hate the fact that a simple perseon (let's say a hairdresser) cannot profit from the education that is accessible at university or through books, because he or she simply cannot understand the language. STUPID!
The hair-dresser must find a dictionary +/- an encyclopaedia (which is very easy now with google) and work with it/with both until he or she can understand. Besides, we always fight to understand what we are really interested in. For the rest we don't bother much, even if we understand it very well.
Thanks for the best ideas I have ever heard dear Mr.Botton, if you , also do the most important implementation which is working on P4C . To help to change the world for better.
“There will be no end to the troubles of the state or indeed of humanity until philosophers become kings or until those we now call kings really and truly become philosophers.” ― Plato
Damn, the book I'm needing to write won't change the world? I guess I'll have to move on to plan B. Now ... where is plan B? I'm sure I wrote it down somewhere, now where did I put it?
Very interesting honest talk. The comment that I differ with is his opinion is the with regard to lying. He seems to place the reason for a lie solely on the infallible expectation of the audience rather than placing onus on the lack of the integrity and lack of courage of the individual telling the lie. This would make great dinner party conversation.
ShaQuan Buffaloe He doesn't leave it all on the audience. He says it is both. People often lie because they feel there is no good for them in telling the truth. But if you tell them you won't judge them and stick to it then they will become honest. How can you not judge them you ask? Instead you can try to understand like a partner cheats because they are not getting enough attention etc. etc. I know it's not always going to work but very few of us try.
What JB said. "Lying is not just a problem with the liar. It's also a problem with the audience." - How can one conclude then from that quote the problem only happens on one side of the equation? :)
I happen to agree it’s a two sided problem. My nephew can not talk to his mom about anything because her expectations for his behaviors Is too high. She criticizes him constantly. Therefore he lies or doesn’t say anything..ie lies of omission.
For me an enjoyable presentation. The insight about implementation was spot on. Practical people understand that an idea needs repetition before it becomes habituated, hence builders learn apprenticeship style, armies do drill, musicians practice and monks do mantras or affirmations. The intellect can spin out theories for and against anything because no idea has to be grounded. Alain at 2.24 dogmatically asserts that there is no God in the same assured manner as my religious leaders asserted that there was a God. He is gentler than they. The intellect can design a building using the head and even draw it on paper but what will that look like as a real physical building. Maybe the real problem is intellectuals in churches and on podiums trumpeting out their latest theories pumped up with an arm full of paper certificates...Peter
I feel sad that such a brilliant extraordinary man is an atheist. I am not religious but I certainly believe in God. To me, living with the perspective of a dead end lacks purpose and meaning.
Hint: nothing important is happening visually. There's no slides or demonstrations. The video is not important, it's just a (rather irksome) bonus to the audio.
I think that, if I were going to die now, instead of angel someone to take my hand and say to me "You did good" would be enough. I am not afraid of death, nothing scary waits me there, NOTHING at all. But I am afraid of dying without knowing that I used every moment of life in a best way possible.
Why would you need another human to validate you? Isn't your own consciousness sufficient to tell you the truth? How could another human know all about your life?
@@3ascdo743 I think that, as Alain mentioned, you're missing the point that humans, as social creatures, need validation. Certainly, this is true for infants, children, and adolescents. If we matured through adolescence and "individuated", became "adults",we would have not only less need for validation; it might, quite rightly, make us more interested in the validation's source, and its intent. But, "we do need our mummy", for now. Certainly you can feel the tension of being invalidated. We must start where we are, and as a patho-adolescent culture, that's where we start. The notion that the commentor shouldn't need validation (i.e., there is no God), is a denial of her reality, and in a mature society, with intact "elders", she would see non-validation (and validation) diminishing in importance.
@@mariahspapaya His (Peterson's) assumptions are so obvious that it's difficult to take his perspective, especially politically, seriously, despite his compelling rhetoric.
"A lie is the responsibility of liar and lie-ee, and the bar of truth in a relationship shouldn't be set so high that lying is necessary." Alain appears to lack the understanding that this logic is typical of narcissists and ego-disordered people. Adequate emotional intelligence brings straightforward clarity to the importance of facing whatever consequences are due in a relationship you value and want to retain, as a rule.
Magella Newton- He is absolutely right about the liar and the lie-eve. My sister in law has set the behavior bar so high for her son, that no matter what he does, he’s wrong. Therefore he lies. Or he doesn’t say anything.. ie lies of omission. And yes I agree it’s her personality, she’s difficult to deal with because it’s her way or the highway. She needs emotional education stat before her relationship with her son is ruined. However as with all dominant personalities she will never see the damage done.
I like listening to Alan but I am curious that he didn't mention spirituality and what can it offer. The west being set in monotheistic religious doctrine struggle to understand concepts of like Spirituality and Dharma from the east. I believe there is lots to gain by understand the fundamentally different way of seeing the world and understanding our place within it.
"spirituality", depending on who you ask, is just a mish mash of concepts taken out of living and dead religions, all of which used completely out of context. modern spirituality adds to it a drop of pseudoscience, which quickly becomes dangerous. it's not a step up from religion or a step down, just a step sideways, and it harbours all of the same problems as religions.
Since I do believe G-d exists the idea that the "mechanism" of religion is necessary without the actual faith that makes it possible is ludicrous. It's like saying I don't believe in science but I do believe in medicines and the positive effects they have in treating illnesses.
religion not only about repetitions and feelings as fear, not only about words - it is about special states of mind as peace that must be understood and philosophers there no tools for it. There must be practitioners as Buddhist and scientist as neurologists then practical's philosophies that wants to understood life but not that want to say all is questioning or wording
I agree with the speaker. there is a verse Marc 8,36 and I will take it out of (original) context. It says "What good is it for someone to gain the whole world, yet forfeit their soul?". Thus whatever your gain is (might it the ultimate truth) what is the salvation you gain? (from the pain you might fear)? Isn't ignorance bliss? (Matrix quotation). Well, I do not want to take any position, but I leave to be a personal decision. There is another "quote" from one of the "alien" series. It is not so much of a question of "knowing" if there is a god, rather than a decision to make if you decide to believe. Again, this is complex and I suggest everybody should (without any prejudice) should do as they see fit.
Brilliant delivery! It's unfortunate that he chose to label himself atheist instead of agnostic. It would have open a door to observing the positive side of romantic love and religion as a step in evolution.
The progress of a nation is directly proportional to its support and encouragement of arts and artists .Even the crappy ones who yet to pass garbage as art .
He raises some very important issues I completely agree with, but I don't agree with most of his proposed solutions. Having Education and Media rule as one (not only Education could have a bigger voice, but Media could permeate and pollute Education), and having both at the mercy of capitalism, sounds ill-advised. Trading health and well-being for Profit (which is what capitalism and sects are about), instead of for simply enough to meet one's needs like a country doctor may do, is a rather off-putting idea too. I'm aware that trade is the currency of many things in life, but religion wasn't about trade. People would give their money freely, within their means, for the sake of their community - not trade tit-for-tat like in a modern transaction. Having nothing to give didn't bar a poor person from redemption, and forgiveness could be bestowed on the sinner. I think like him that there's a need for institutions that cater to those emotional needs, but I hope we move forward into a world where money is not the currency by which to gain relief, where nobody reaps their heap off from another's parcel of pain and tears.
One has to believe that god doesnt exist but has to admit that we need god to comfort us. But this need is not like food and water, we won’t die without it. We have to understand that we can’t get it from god, therefore we source for an alternative, either through culture, community etc to keep us comfortable. Correct?
An enlightened person is not the one who understands he needs a hug, but the one who knows where to get it. I do not fault Dawkins for presenting Atheism 1.0. It is the vital 1st step. Button's 2.0 is certainly the next step, as it underscores the void. Atheism 3.0 would present the actual community, support and lifestyle needed to improve in the religion we left.
Do you think that the crowd who believe in God believe in him because they know him? No one knows God because we don't know anything. People assert their beliefs in a God they can't see and understand. What do they know about God those little and lesser people? I think that we must understand that there's a difference between religion and religious. A religion for everyone your own religion the one you live everyday life I call it the religion of the "the wise life". We must understand religion not from what religious and priests tell us to believe, to think and to do. But in the examination of life by searching for significations and signs. Being well intellectually and adequate in our search for the wise life.
And prudent religious people will always tell you that God cannot be known...that's what you find among theologians at universities but sadly not in churches....
You can know God through His actions in your favor, or in favor of your loved ones... And you really don't need to think at others as stupid beings just because they think differently. Thank God we are diferent and so the world is a so much challenging place to live... and grow...
Where there is religion, there is culture. Where there is culture, there is religion. You don't have either without people. Where you have people, you will have both.
Setting aside the whole concept of religion, it is clear that the world needs to introduce emotional intelligence education into school curriculums. Kids should be trained to think critically and be taught concepts of emotional intelligence from the first day they enter a school. Schools, in all parts of the world, focus on physical education but totally disregard the importance of emotional health and well being. I might not be such a basket case today if I had an Alain in my life when I was a kid 😵💫
What if a book inspires someone to get a group together and start an institution? THEN it would be fair to say that a book did in fact change the world. I rest my case Monsignor de Botton. And many, many books have changed the world in significant ways. I would mention the King James Bible and 1984 by George Orwell. Good day to you sir. JB
One of the problems is that you would have to teach it to teachers first... We need to start training teachers in emotional intelligence as a key part of their schooling, then maybe they could pass it on to their students.
He mentioned how he doesn’t like self help books, but self help books are fulfilling a need in people and making a ton of money. But brilliant guy, appreciate his intellect and insight.
Ahhh, wasn't it Niels Bohr reponding to Rutherford that it is not a matter of belive rather than an a fact that is works, when Rutherford ask if Bohr believes that the horseshoe above the door of Bohr's is really meant to be serious....
Chances are you believe coz you were born on a family that believes and expected you to do the same .If you solely depend on your thoughts, feelings and experience then ...who knows ?
@@AzimuthTao not believing doesn't make you more intelligent. You may have so many reasons for not believing in God, many of them - if not all - being rightly foolish...🙂
I love what Alain is trying to do but I believe that Angels do exist. I wonder if he has ever encountered John O’Donahue’s ideas, blessings and beliefs.
A person who says "i know there is no God but i want an imaginary angel to come and give me a hug" does not sound like a truly enlightened person to me...sounds covertly self serving to me. The dichotomy between the intellect and spirituality.
Perhaps, for many people, faced with imminent death, they need the equivalent of that angel's hug right then. We, as a society, haven't really come up with satisfying alternatives. In the last few weeks I've had some emotional turmoil and could really have done with the equivalent of those angel's hugs.
He basically said...Athiesm works in an educated indiviually self actualized society...But when the when emotional pain and human condition suffers...God is needed for soothing, because art music language science does not heal
I am sad to admit that I have attempted suicide many times, and was angry every time I woke up. I would not have attempted it the first time if I had access to the knowledge that I was not the only one who sees things this way...Things are quickly unraveling for Generation Z, and we need to champion this movement if we want to see the GENUINE CHANGE we need to fix this trainwreck....
For those of us how see the falces of religious beliefs getting through the Walls of tribal believe that those how does believe the Way I do are my, against me hard to do. Letting go of the past and live in the now is the only ancer courage wisdom and trust that humans are beautiful is the only way. Because we are
Regarding emotional education..a well presented insight. Alain may not know that another person Rudolf Steiner whose intellect penned the Philosophy of Freedom began training teachers 100 years ago to develop emotional sensitivity in prepubescent children.His school movement has 800 schools world wide now. The fly in the ointment though is that his mind was clairvoyant as well as logical and practical. He experienced phenomena that human eyeballs claim do not exist. Perhaps a fish will always assert that existence without water is impossible. Peter
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You should go to study some basics in biology and genetics to be able to judge better on such issues as life order and I should say religions provide more interesting theories then it appears at a first glance (sounds strange does't it -;). "I know that I know nothing" thats unfortunately where we still are.
I love love love his speeches . So intelligent, so needed in this world but what if I told you it was my belief in God and my spirituality that brought me to a point where I can actually understand what he is saying when he talks of love as I’m some of his others speeches . That some of what he says lines up with what I’ve learned from the Bible. There something to the Bible . It taught me so much BUT ITS MISGUIDED RELIGIOUS PEOPLE that really give me bad juju lol. I believe in God for reasons it would take a book to explain . I sit here thinking God just used an atheist to get a great message through lol because people are pushing religion away because of those misguided religious people who took the word away from love and humility and interpreted it in away to suit their own misguided ways of believing . Anyway still love the speech . Brilliant !
Alain de Botton has me beat by at least 100 I.Q. Points. However, I do have the ability to follow his logic, and I don't think this is a small feat on my part. I once thought it was, until I took a real good look at folks around me and find myself astonished at the number of otherwise intelligent people who completely lack this ability.
It's sad to see such a smart person an atheist. There's a god despite all the nonsense that we deceived ourselves with. and there's a life after. You just want to believe what you want to believe
When I was a kid I thought heroes wore a cap. I ended up at 30 having the following persons as heroes: Alain De Botton, Yuval Harari, Bill Gates. My heroes fly on the wings of philanthropy, curiosity, and culture.
The world needs more thinkers such as Alain de Botton. Insightful, original, and able to target towards what's important in life. Thank you!
indeed
Be one yourself Jorge.
Jorge Romera indeed!
Indeed.
'Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too can become great'
Mark Twain (1835-1910)
Dream a big dream M. de Botton
Thanks for that wonderful quote!
This quote has struck a cord with me, made me quite emotional (after just hearing De Bottom speak with such fervour) and inspirited me to boldly march on in my passion for promoting mental wellness and advocating for the enforcement of certain policies in the country I come from; Kenya. Bless your soul.
Love his ideas! Absolutely eloquently put forward, and they're both charming and valid. I'm a Christian, and a lot of his ideas still resound true alongside my beliefs.
We cannot grow inside as Christians without that kind of challenging ideas. Only by always confronting our beliefs we can measure their value.
Whose favorite video is this still in 2024??
What a brilliant man! im so glad i've found him! and thank you for sharing this lecture!
Alain was the first one who opened my eyes and got me to think differently. I can now acknowledge the anxieties that come with life and steer away from useless ideas implanted by religion and media. It is not and easy process... but thank you for inciting change and promoting our need for emotional intelligence !
Awesome! Really grateful for such a video. As someone commented, the world really needs more thinkers like this man.
Keep it up!
I've thought about the idea that we all need non-religious "churches" for the emotional well-being of people. Alain De Botton's videos are great!
libraries
Non-religious churches is an oximoronic idea. Because there must be something higher that should unite all those people together. And there is nothing more universally need than the meaningful unconditional love. And unfortunately we are very different in our understanding of love. We are quite limited as human beings and cannot offer by ourselves to all people that unconditional love they all need...
@@3ascdo743 Ideas are what Unite people. And yes atheist do have a very different understand of love since our love precludes eternal torture.
@@ktschiggi libraries are passive and inadequate, especially since as he said, since we are in an era of distractions
My daughter overdosed about a year ago. I'm not saying a class in school and she would still be alive but it might have helped her. It wouldn't have hurt.
I am sorry that happened. Condolences. As someone who works with kids, I was touched by your comment. Peace 🙏
She would have at least a little bit more power to rise above the suffering of not having that certain "something" that she thought the others were loving in order for her to feel accepted. Or to feel that she can grow in some way in that environment...
So sorry for your loss x
Heartful post...I wish you as much peace possible...
I am so sorry...
The fact that they are mortal.. you hit a nerve right there. Thank you for this inspiring talk.
De Botton started the "School of Life" which publishes a huge number of "self help" and "how to" material, the very thing he absolutely writes-off in this video.
Wonderful... explained so many things that I was looking for answers. Boy did I have a laugh!!!😂
I just came across three of your video's and I think you are very entertaining. Dawkins knows now that God lives. People lie when they do not feel safe, children included. Imho and experience. I have enjoyed your talks. Thank you.
Loved watching this!!!
Can Alain fuel Netflix with some proper programming, par example?!
I'll resubscribe if he EVER does.
Philosophical Mass Media Station - a great idea! Ideas as these are sure to change the world as we know it today!!!
There is one already called FreeDomain Radio. Look it up on youtube
Wonderful!!! I'm a half-Academic because I studied 5 subjects to become a teacher. And while at University I always tried to convince my Professors and lecturers to discuss the beauty of it, the meaning of it, too that we shouldn't look at all these things so one-dimensionally. Why can't we work scientifically and absolutely dead-rationally, discuss stuff, write about stuff but THEN also indulge ourselves in the beauty of it, in the fascination we feel about the subject? Why is one aspect excluding the other? I don't get it! That's what I tried to tell these MEN (not many women out there)...and they just looked at me as if I were a hopeless, silly girl and said very disrespectful things. And if I wrote in my term papers only slightly like that (a little remakr after a paragraph or in the conclusion) they would mark me really badly....GOSH, that's why I really hate the academic world! That's why I'm a teacher because there BOTH is possible. But really, people, it's time for a change! And not only that but also the sophisticated language - it is a highly undemocratic thing. I hate the fact that a simple perseon (let's say a hairdresser) cannot profit from the education that is accessible at university or through books, because he or she simply cannot understand the language. STUPID!
The hair-dresser must find a dictionary +/- an encyclopaedia (which is very easy now with google) and work with it/with both until he or she can understand. Besides, we always fight to understand what we are really interested in. For the rest we don't bother much, even if we understand it very well.
We need each other - now more then ever !
Thanks for the best ideas I have ever heard dear Mr.Botton, if you , also do the most important implementation which is working on P4C . To help to change the world for better.
A very outstanding talk, i will remember this...
“There will be no end to the troubles of the state or indeed of humanity until philosophers become kings or until those we now call kings really and truly become philosophers.”
― Plato
I've been saying the same thing about changing our education system my entire adult life.
I love this teacher of life
You will 2 just open your mind
Damn, the book I'm needing to write won't change the world? I guess I'll have to move on to plan B. Now ... where is plan B? I'm sure I wrote it down somewhere, now where did I put it?
love this guy
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He is incredible
I love this man and what he says xx
Very interesting honest talk. The comment that I differ with is his opinion is the with regard to lying. He seems to place the reason for a lie solely on the infallible expectation of the audience rather than placing onus on the lack of the integrity and lack of courage of the individual telling the lie. This would make great dinner party conversation.
ShaQuan Buffaloe He doesn't leave it all on the audience. He says it is both. People often lie because they feel there is no good for them in telling the truth. But if you tell them you won't judge them and stick to it then they will become honest. How can you not judge them you ask? Instead you can try to understand like a partner cheats because they are not getting enough attention etc. etc. I know it's not always going to work but very few of us try.
What JB said.
"Lying is not just a problem with the liar. It's also a problem with the audience." - How can one conclude then from that quote the problem only happens on one side of the equation? :)
I happen to agree it’s a two sided problem. My nephew can not talk to his mom about anything because her expectations for his behaviors
Is too high. She criticizes him constantly. Therefore he lies or doesn’t say anything..ie lies of omission.
For me an enjoyable presentation. The insight about implementation was spot on. Practical people understand that an idea needs repetition before it becomes habituated, hence builders learn apprenticeship style, armies do drill, musicians practice and monks do mantras or affirmations. The intellect can spin out theories for and against anything because no idea has to be grounded. Alain at 2.24 dogmatically asserts that there is no God in the same assured manner as my religious leaders asserted that there was a God. He is gentler than they.
The intellect can design a building using the head and even draw it on paper but what will that look like as a real physical building. Maybe the real problem is intellectuals in churches and on podiums trumpeting out their latest theories pumped up with an arm full of paper certificates...Peter
I love this man!
I feel sad that such a brilliant extraordinary man is an atheist. I am not religious but I certainly believe in God. To me, living with the perspective of a dead end lacks purpose and meaning.
We don't draw meaning from the time span of existence, but from its contents. We're okay, don't worry :)
Wow! It’s exactly what I was looking for !
He lights up the room !
Please fix the problem of the synchronization picture and sound. It is a prerequisite if you want to watch this so important video
Giorgos Evangelidis Didn't bother me
Hint: nothing important is happening visually. There's no slides or demonstrations. The video is not important, it's just a (rather irksome) bonus to the audio.
Alain, he's so wise.. I want join him, eagerly sincerely...
I want to marry someone like him he understand my mind
Me too. Thank you
Great presentation..
I am a straight dude and I still to marry him 😂😂😂😂😂
No politician or government truly wants happy, emotionally balanced, smart tax cows...
They would never get voted back in
I think that, if I were going to die now, instead of angel someone to take my hand and say to me "You did good" would be enough. I am not afraid of death, nothing scary waits me there, NOTHING at all. But I am afraid of dying without knowing that I used every moment of life in a best way possible.
Why would you need another human to validate you? Isn't your own consciousness sufficient to tell you the truth? How could another human know all about your life?
@@3ascdo743 I think that, as Alain mentioned, you're missing the point that humans, as social creatures, need validation. Certainly, this is true for infants, children, and adolescents. If we matured through adolescence and "individuated", became "adults",we would have not only less need for validation; it might, quite rightly, make us more interested in the validation's source, and its intent. But, "we do need our mummy", for now. Certainly you can feel the tension of being invalidated. We must start where we are, and as a patho-adolescent culture, that's where we start. The notion that the commentor shouldn't need validation (i.e., there is no God), is a denial of her reality, and in a mature society, with intact "elders", she would see non-validation (and validation) diminishing in importance.
Get this guy chatting with Jordan Peterson.
Robert Valentine Jordan Peterson is nowhere near as insightful
@@mariahspapaya His (Peterson's) assumptions are so obvious that it's difficult to take his perspective, especially politically, seriously, despite his compelling rhetoric.
Why, will he fix him?
Vegan Buddhist Jordan Peterson have some very good different insight in a different matter.
Fuck JP
Great - I love that! Agree and will implement
"A lie is the responsibility of liar and lie-ee, and the bar of truth in a relationship shouldn't be set so high that lying is necessary."
Alain appears to lack the understanding that this logic is typical of narcissists and ego-disordered people. Adequate emotional intelligence brings straightforward clarity to the importance of facing whatever consequences are due in a relationship you value and want to retain, as a rule.
Magella Newton- He is absolutely right about the liar and the lie-eve. My sister in law has set the behavior bar so high for her son, that no matter what he does, he’s wrong. Therefore he lies. Or he doesn’t say anything.. ie lies of omission. And yes I agree it’s her personality, she’s difficult to deal with because it’s her way or the highway. She needs emotional education stat before her relationship with her son is ruined. However as with all dominant personalities she will never see the damage done.
Wow 🙌 simply amazing
I like listening to Alan but I am curious that he didn't mention spirituality and what can it offer. The west being set in monotheistic religious doctrine struggle to understand concepts of like Spirituality and Dharma from the east. I believe there is lots to gain by understand the fundamentally different way of seeing the world and understanding our place within it.
"spirituality", depending on who you ask, is just a mish mash of concepts taken out of living and dead religions, all of which used completely out of context. modern spirituality adds to it a drop of pseudoscience, which quickly becomes dangerous.
it's not a step up from religion or a step down, just a step sideways, and it harbours all of the same problems as religions.
It's because he doesn't like bullshit
Since I do believe G-d exists the idea that the "mechanism" of religion is necessary without the actual faith that makes it possible is ludicrous. It's like saying I don't believe in science but I do believe in medicines and the positive effects they have in treating illnesses.
religion not only about repetitions and feelings as fear, not only about words - it is about special states of mind as peace that must be understood and philosophers there no tools for it. There must be practitioners as Buddhist and scientist as neurologists then practical's philosophies that wants to understood life but not that want to say all is questioning or wording
He is brilliant
I agree with the speaker. there is a verse Marc 8,36 and I will take it out of (original) context. It says "What good is it for someone to gain the whole world, yet forfeit their soul?". Thus whatever your gain is (might it the ultimate truth) what is the salvation you gain? (from the pain you might fear)? Isn't ignorance bliss? (Matrix quotation). Well, I do not want to take any position, but I leave to be a personal decision. There is another "quote" from one of the "alien" series. It is not so much of a question of "knowing" if there is a god, rather than a decision to make if you decide to believe. Again, this is complex and I suggest everybody should (without any prejudice) should do as they see fit.
This man has cracked open my brain
Brilliant delivery! It's unfortunate that he chose to label himself atheist instead of agnostic. It would have open a door to observing the positive side of romantic love and religion as a step in evolution.
Thank you Mr. De Button. Truly.
Amazing, totally agree!
The progress of a nation is directly proportional to its support and encouragement of arts and artists .Even the crappy ones who yet to pass garbage as art .
He raises some very important issues I completely agree with, but I don't agree with most of his proposed solutions.
Having Education and Media rule as one (not only Education could have a bigger voice, but Media could permeate and pollute Education), and having both at the mercy of capitalism, sounds ill-advised. Trading health and well-being for Profit (which is what capitalism and sects are about), instead of for simply enough to meet one's needs like a country doctor may do, is a rather off-putting idea too.
I'm aware that trade is the currency of many things in life, but religion wasn't about trade. People would give their money freely, within their means, for the sake of their community - not trade tit-for-tat like in a modern transaction. Having nothing to give didn't bar a poor person from redemption, and forgiveness could be bestowed on the sinner.
I think like him that there's a need for institutions that cater to those emotional needs, but I hope we move forward into a world where money is not the currency by which to gain relief, where nobody reaps their heap off from another's parcel of pain and tears.
One has to believe that god doesnt exist but has to admit that we need god to comfort us. But this need is not like food and water, we won’t die without it. We have to understand that we can’t get it from god, therefore we source for an alternative, either through culture, community etc to keep us comfortable. Correct?
"Lies are not only a problem of the liar, but of the audience". So we all stop pretending to be so perfect. None of us is and no one needs us to be.
Yep! . . . Moses brought a Book of Laws down from the mountain and the institutions that came out of that Book of Laws truly speaks for itself.
This guy should meet Esther Perel and the talk should go in psychology books.
Absolutely correct!!!!!
An enlightened person is not the one who understands he needs a hug, but the one who knows where to get it.
I do not fault Dawkins for presenting Atheism 1.0. It is the vital 1st step. Button's 2.0 is certainly the next step, as it underscores the void. Atheism 3.0 would present the actual community, support and lifestyle needed to improve in the religion we left.
The answer to the Q:" how to change the world, I believe is , by taking the P4c ( philosophy for children) seriously .
Do you think that the crowd who believe in God believe in him because they know him? No one knows God because we don't know anything. People assert their beliefs in a God they can't see and understand. What do they know about God those little and lesser people? I think that we must understand that there's a difference between religion and religious. A religion for everyone your own religion the one you live everyday life I call it the religion of the "the wise life".
We must understand religion not from what religious and priests tell us to believe, to think and to do. But in the examination of life by searching for significations and signs. Being well intellectually and adequate in our search for the wise life.
And prudent religious people will always tell you that God cannot be known...that's what you find among theologians at universities but sadly not in churches....
@@PhoebeJaneway God cannot be known COMPLETELY, it would be by the way unspeakably more difficult than knowing a human being completely.
You can know God through His actions in your favor, or in favor of your loved ones...
And you really don't need to think at others as stupid beings just because they think differently. Thank God we are diferent and so the world is a so much challenging place to live... and grow...
Where there is religion, there is culture. Where there is culture, there is religion. You don't have either without people. Where you have people, you will have both.
I said the same when watching. Religion is culture, culture is religion. They are the same!
Setting aside the whole concept of religion, it is clear that the world needs to introduce emotional intelligence education into school curriculums. Kids should be trained to think critically and be taught concepts of emotional intelligence from the first day they enter a school. Schools, in all parts of the world, focus on physical education but totally disregard the importance of emotional health and well being. I might not be such a basket case today if I had an Alain in my life when I was a kid 😵💫
I agree with you Ramara.
I want to join it!!! This philosophical media idea and implementation )
16:20 How to change the world
19:00 any time you have a lie
-liar
-person who can't accept the truth
Mind blowing!!!!!!
Dear Alain , knowing Ekhart Tolle may help not to feel sad on Sunday afternoons !
just endless genius
"show me the mummy!"
What if a book inspires someone to get a group together and start an institution? THEN it would be fair to say that a book did in fact change the world.
I rest my case Monsignor de Botton.
And many, many books have changed the world in significant ways. I would mention the King James Bible and 1984 by George Orwell.
Good day to you sir.
JB
Emotional regulation can be taught in high schools, but they don't think it's their job.
One of the problems is that you would have to teach it to teachers first... We need to start training teachers in emotional intelligence as a key part of their schooling, then maybe they could pass it on to their students.
muy bueno mi hijita linda Gracias Papi
He mentioned how he doesn’t like self help books, but self help books are fulfilling a need in people and making a ton of money. But brilliant guy, appreciate his intellect and insight.
Alain, if you run for prime minister of Canada I would vote for you because
A book?, how about the Bible?
Ahhh, wasn't it Niels Bohr reponding to Rutherford that it is not a matter of belive rather than an a fact that is works, when Rutherford ask if Bohr believes that the horseshoe above the door of Bohr's is really meant to be serious....
Why is it so absurd to believe in God these days..I find that silly
Of course, you find it silly...you believe in God.
The fact that you don't find it absurd is a problem of cognitive bias...and that's not healthy.
Chances are you believe coz you were born on a family that believes and expected you to do the same .If you solely depend on your thoughts, feelings and experience then ...who knows ?
@@aristotle736 that's silly too. There's lots of people that believe in a different God than their family.
it is not absurd coz God created you and the one who u are listening to and enjoying the wonderful thoughts and feelings
@@AzimuthTao not believing doesn't make you more intelligent. You may have so many reasons for not believing in God, many of them - if not all - being rightly foolish...🙂
My boy spitting straight facts
I love what Alain is trying to do but I believe that Angels do exist. I wonder if he has ever encountered John O’Donahue’s ideas, blessings and beliefs.
A person who says "i know there is no God but i want an imaginary angel to come and give me a hug" does not sound like a truly enlightened person to me...sounds covertly self serving to me. The dichotomy between the intellect and spirituality.
Perhaps, for many people, faced with imminent death, they need the equivalent of that angel's hug right then. We, as a society, haven't really come up with satisfying alternatives. In the last few weeks I've had some emotional turmoil and could really have done with the equivalent of those angel's hugs.
Alain is a stud, a bit crazy but naive
Al Delgado You fancy him too? :)
ALAIN DE BOTTON FOR PRESIDENT
He basically said...Athiesm works in an educated indiviually self actualized society...But when the when emotional pain and human condition suffers...God is needed for soothing, because art music language science does not heal
I am sad to admit that I have attempted suicide many times, and was angry every time I woke up. I would not have attempted it the first time if I had access to the knowledge that I was not the only one who sees things this way...Things are quickly unraveling for Generation Z, and we need to champion this movement if we want to see the GENUINE CHANGE we need to fix this trainwreck....
For those of us how see the falces of religious beliefs getting through the Walls of tribal believe that those how does believe the Way I do are my, against me hard to do. Letting go of the past and live in the now is the only ancer courage wisdom and trust that humans are beautiful is the only way. Because we are
Bravo!
Regarding emotional education..a well presented insight. Alain may not know that another person Rudolf Steiner whose intellect penned the Philosophy of Freedom began training teachers 100 years ago to develop emotional sensitivity in prepubescent children.His school movement has 800 schools world wide now. The fly in the ointment though is that his mind was clairvoyant as well as logical and practical. He experienced phenomena that human eyeballs claim do not exist. Perhaps a fish will always assert that existence without water is impossible. Peter
Let’s create the constitution !
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FreeDomain is exactly what he is talking about. It exists and it is amazing. It has changed my life!
What if there is another life? What will you do??? There will be no come back???
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You should go to study some basics in biology and genetics to be able to judge better on such issues as life order and I should say religions provide more interesting theories then it appears at a first glance (sounds strange does't it -;). "I know that I know nothing" thats unfortunately where we still are.
I love love love his speeches . So intelligent, so needed in this world but what if I told you it was my belief in God and my spirituality that brought me to a point where I can actually understand what he is saying when he talks of love as I’m some of his others speeches . That some of what he says lines up with what I’ve learned from the Bible. There something to the Bible . It taught me so much BUT ITS MISGUIDED RELIGIOUS PEOPLE that really give me bad juju lol. I believe in God for reasons it would take a book to explain . I sit here thinking God just used an atheist to get a great message through lol because people are pushing religion away because of those misguided religious people who took the word away from love and humility and interpreted it in away to suit their own misguided ways of believing . Anyway still love the speech . Brilliant !
19:00 reminds me Carl Jung's Undiscovered Self.
Love
This is exactly what religions teaches, you need to pay attention more..
Alain de Botton has me beat by at least 100 I.Q. Points. However, I do have the ability to follow his logic, and I don't think this is a small feat on my part. I once thought it was, until I took a real good look at folks around me and find myself astonished at the number of otherwise intelligent people who completely lack this ability.
It's sad to see such a smart person an atheist. There's a god despite all the nonsense that we deceived ourselves with. and there's a life after. You just want to believe what you want to believe
When I was a kid I thought heroes wore a cap.
I ended up at 30 having the following persons as heroes: Alain De Botton, Yuval Harari, Bill Gates.
My heroes fly on the wings of philanthropy, curiosity, and culture.
Building an institution right now so just never mind