Everything You've Wanted To Know About Lesbians
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- Опубліковано 19 жов 2017
- "How do lesbians have sex?" Queer women get lots of questions and it's a lot of the same ones over and over, so here we shed some light on some of the biggest "mysteries":
- Do lesbians really "scissor"?
- Who is the man in the relationship?
- If you don't like *male genitalia*, why do you use dildos?
- Is it easier being with a woman?
- Are you into me?
- How do you protect yourself from STDs?
- How do you know who is queer?
- Do you share clothes?
- Do you want to have a threesome?
- How will you have kids?
By "lesbians" we mean women who are into women, bisexuals included, and these are just OUR answers - other queer girls might feel very differently!
What are your takes on these?
Which questions do you get all the time?
Which stereotypes are you annoyed with?
And do you have any more questions you've been wondering about?
Let us know in the comments!
We hope we were able to give some insights, thank you for watching and make sure to subscribe if you haven't yet.
Lots of Love,
Alexis and Lilian
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I am straight and in a 28 year marriage and I support your rite to be married or what ever you want. I think that you doing this can only be a good thing and I enjoy the information. lots of love and I will see you the next time..
I love how organic you guys are. I don't usually subscribe in such channels but you are an exception. Please keep it coming.
Thank you! 😊
Alexis has a crazy beautiful lip shape, and Lillian has a gorgeous accent. Y'all are cute together!
I've never heard anyone in my lesbian community raise the issue of the risk of mouth and throat cancers from the HPV virus from oral sex. I know a couple of non smoking lesbians who contracted their cancer from HPV. Why is no one in our community talking about this?
We get these questions ALL. THE. TIME. Great job on this video!
you are so comforting and peaceful. i like the vibe. thank you!
Thanks for sharing so candidly questions many of us have, it was honest, fun and I learned some new things, wish you all the best 🙂
I came across your videos on UA-cam lately and I like you two, give them best advice
You guys are the best!!! 💓
Yet another great video! I'm watching them randomly, this is not a new one I know, but efficiency and class are consistent in your channel and I'm glad I subscribed from day one! ;-)
Phrased or not, those questions are always around the corner when you come out to a new friend.
For those unfamiliar with gay women's lives, you've reached the best place to look for information.
Love you both! Can’t wait for the yoga challenge! 😂
You two are the cutest couple and so sweet to each other.
They are beautiful
Dental dams should be normalized and protected sex should be normal! I know sex ed is awful pretty much anywhere so people assume that there is no risk with oral sex or fingering for either partner. Thats not true. I would urge EVERYONE to be informed about sti! There are risks. Especially with partners you don't know, please use protection. Ok? Cool.
Even as a bi-male, I find dental dams fun with partners to play with. The flavors are nice (I favour vanilla, heh!), and if you have any old latex gear, you can mix those in while storing the gear (my masks and suits smell lovely because of those vanilla dental dams, or »Lecktücher« - licking sheets? -, as they are called in German). Oh, and it helps if you have a latex fetish like I happen to have. (-;
Give it a whirl, have fun, be safe!
Another tip for added pleasure is using a bit of lube underneath the dam onto the genitals! The added wetness is loads of fun!
@Reb Kro - I know this comment is old, but since you seem knowledgeable... I have a latex allergy and a dental dam would be a recipe for disaster and the consequent swelling could impede my breathing. When I had sex with men I had to use latex-free condoms, which were pretty easy to find. Do they make latex-free dental dams? And where would they be sold? Thx 😊
@@dipi71 where do I get these sheets tho? Never seen them anywhere
New subbie here! I love you! I am straight but my mothers in law are not and I have several friends that are gay. This was very informational and some of the questions I was completely thrown off by that anybody would ask you that. I’m sorry you have to go through that. Straight couples don’t ever have to go through some of those questions. I’m not sure why people are so comfortable asking those kinds of questions. I can’t wait to see more of your videos!
Thank you, we’re glad you found it informative! And yeah it can get pretty ridiculous... But we get why people are curious, so we thought we’d clear some things up :)
i'm in love with you guys omg 💓💓💓😍 so cuteeee
Thanks For The Video Guys! 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
I am 24 and single since day 1 to now. I have never had sexual relationship with other human . no girl friend , no boy friend at all . And I am normal as any one else in the world .
I am happy for you guys ,You made you decision.
congratulations ! love each other so much.
Wow, you guys are amazing! Thanks alots for sharing all the information I need, especially like last method to have kid of your own DNAs. Amazing! 😉
The app you used has to be wrong; two beautiful people creating an unattractive baby? Impossible.
Thanks for sharing ...
Love you guys! ima new subbie. Im 25 and my Girlfriend and I have been together for 10 yrs now, imagine since highschool. Hihi we started as classmates then friends, since we were both young then we didn't realize that we were falling in love with each other. Now we're getting stronger. And we can effin relate to everything you have said! Thanks for your lovely videos, and oh, you're both gorgeous!
Congratulations, Angelica. See high school romances are not always puppy love. You should watch the Daisy & Taylor video...a story similar to yours. There's NEEDS to be a movie.
Yay new video!!!
Love you both 😀
very useful video
U guys r amazing..
Very interesting! :)
OPEN MIND du auch hier? :D
Haha danke Simon! Ich hab mir auch grad dein neuestes Video angeguckt 👌🏻
Das ist eine Begegnung aus meiner Abo-Box mit der ich nicht gerechnet hätte :D
So nice to see both of u..very inspiring couple so cute...
U guys look cute
Just got into a relationship a week ago with my long 5+- years crush😊
We Queer😍🌹
I started to watch lgbt vlog and movies these past few months and i enjoy it. I think its kinda romantic and cute which makes me started to glance at girls more and this make me questioning my sesuality ....its a struggle living in a religious country
Alexis what a power pout your rocking 🤘🏻😂
Straight people go to pride or gay events to support family or friends. Its good to have straight people there. Maybe make it more obvious but other than that its not a big deal.
Hahaha you guys are great. As a gay man I feel this video has been very educational
Drunk scissoring is fucken hilarious let me tell ya. Hit and miss mainly miss. Aaah . . . whatever . . .
Sunflower * haha I love the mental picture. Like a drunk yoga challenge of sorts 😝
Love you guys so much.
I think scissoring is great and enjoyable. I find it very uncomplicated with one person lying down and one person sitting on top. I don't know why a lot of people find it difficult to do?
Tribbing in general gets mentioned too little. For example rubbing on the other person's leg or missionary style . . . but what do I know. I've only slept with one woman so far and haven't even had a long-term relationship.
In Finland, dental dams are actually not sold at all in anywhere in the whole country 🙄🙈
O Gosh you guys are so beautiful💕
you guys should be more active and do lots of videos frequently ..lol guys
You both are extremely beautiful and have very soothing voices! 👍. Nicely done video. I especially liked the fertility treatment and Lilian carrying the baby idea. I might use that with my future partner. 😉
That was very cute.
8:23 - 8:29 this is the cutes scene ever, I love you😍
I'm not even a lesbian and I'm tired of these questions! Like, Google and Wikipedia exist people! 😃
i'm 30 lesbian and have the same questions since 10years about all my couples, a happy live with only women?,..nope the majority of straight people can't record it and this is even more true when it's a"femme(lipstick) lesbian couple"!
maritia Fair point! Keep watching UA-cam and I'm sure you'll get all your questions answered. There's lots of great people around that know lots of things about lots of things. Good luck to you!
maritia I'm a 54 year old straight guy and I totally agree with you, plus all these labels lesbians, homosexuals, transgender if there has to be a label why can't it be that we're all just human beings.
And common sense!
My girlfriend and I get the...who's the man in the relationship question all the damn time. It's so annoying. You would think the obvious answer would be.... there isn't one. I mean fucking duh! We're two chicks that don't like dick😂 The whole dental dam thing idk. I've never in my life used one, but have been with the same woman for 13 years. Love the videos. You two are so cute. It just jumps out of the screen how much u love one another. 🏳️🌈
straight peoplel can't imagine that a couple with 2 women can become a harmony ! Pathetic :(
Hi! New sub. I'm very much enjoying your videos. Have you ever watched the channel Living Rosa? They documented their journey to motherhood via reciprocal IVF, like you were talking about here.
Both of you are so gorgeous i wish you the best that life could give
I tried a dental dam once with my lover who has genital herpes and it wasn't too bad! With a bit of lube it felt pretty good for her and it was strawberry flavoured.
After being with a man, I never thought that we fit. Yes, it was okay but I never felt the fit. Intimacy ended after sex.
Cuddling, intimacy and talking were out of our realm.
That's interesting the baby situation, you just gave me something to consider 🤔...
there are just about two or three things to add for your information and awareness. Even though both you are in your 20's, and myself being old enough to be your Auntie lol bahahha lol! By the way, first thing about straight women noticing two females together, might see them as a 'threat'. I don't connect with the 'threat' thing coming from some lesbians/gays. I feel the right owrd would be 'fear', being 'afraid' is more of a proper word for straight people when around gays/lesbians. Explaining this, I see this differently from my own personal perspective and experience. For example, I have a best friend who regards me as her soul mate. She's been happily married for 25 years with 3 adult kids. However, inspite of our very close friendship, I have always guarded myself well from her falling for me, coz she was in a lesbian relationship with a girl in high school many years ago. Ours would be described as a romantic (non-sexual) friendship which is very much accepted and approved in our culture. Years ago, when I was around Lilian's age, I was offered to house sit her home whilst she lived interstate with her husband. She got homesick and moved back home. She begged me to continue living with her and her husband and their young family. I declined because I begin to notice some sub-conscious hints coming from her and so I moved out as I didn't feel comfortable living with married couple nor her husband finding out about her past (he's hexto). If I saw two women into each other in front of me, I wouldn't see it as a threat or get jealous, but I would become 'afraid' least the other lesbian/bi woman fell heels over me when I ain't into her. I like to think the word 'fear' is a more appropriate word for straight women rather than 'threat', as they neither want it to ruin their friendship with their female friend or best friend, or their friend's marriage being ruined.... this is a healthy kind of fear, of being afraid, not knowing what to do or how to deal with this kind of scenario..... and secondly, I do happen to have gaydar. I could sense whether the person is gay or bi etc..... without saying anything and just being myself. My best friend (the married one) does show a few subtle hints of being bi.....even without her being aware or noticing anything. For example, I notice the way she walks from where I stand behind her..... but she has been like this for years and I am so used to it that I don't make any bias or judgments about it. We just so love each other very much as best friends, soul mates and yes we do cuddle, hold hands etc..... and haven't had anyone question us...... maybe her being married was a big help in avoiding any confusion in our culture. Hope this helps?
Loved it ladies!! Cool Q&A, understandable answers, I'm a single lesbian getting asked questions like are you sure lesbian, have you had a penis before? Yes i have, and now i am a lesbian.. Or are you a guy? Nope, i just dress how i want to dress.. Stay sweet and keep on rockin!!.
How old are you?
Hi...i am very inspired by your amazing videos...i am lesbian post op transwoman with many wonderful friends and a good life but i am really struggling to form a relationship..could you give me some advice as i am finding it really hard to find a woman who could grow to love me for me as i am...i would really appreciate your help or views on this issue of how a lesbian post op female could ever find a woman to love..thx. Phaedra
Hi Phaedra, thank you! I have met several amazing lesbian trans women in my life who all had loving partners. It’s easier in bigger cities with a good LGBT community, because people there just understand gender identities etc better, but at the end of the day love is about the person you are, not the body you have or gender you are, and you will find someone who will love you exactly for who you are! Sending love! ❤️ - L
If anyone needs more gay in their life WHO DOESNT I write gay songs on my channel 🌈
With the legal status changed in most of Europe and in North America, do you now feel legitimated? In other words, does commitment to each other take on a new level because you have the right to enter a formal legal wedded union? Does same-sex marriage give you a feeling of validation of your attraction for women and the public face of your relationship? Is there pressure to marry a girlfriend, when before it didn't really ever come up?
Great questions, thank you! These are definitely interesting to talk about, so we'll answer them in a video :)
Yes very interesting 😊 your both beautiful
can you be mine lilian?ahahahahahaha... You're so incredible!
Hi girls it is very interesting yur vidéos..
When I was in a realionship with a woman and a man at the same time, we swapped our clothes all the time. Boxershorts, shirts and sweaters from him and crop tops and hot pants from her. Good times :D
You girls look cute. Both on your own and together.
Yeah, that's just the fault of the app. Thanks for stopping and educating us so we're all less likely to ask stupid/mean questions.
Liebe Grüße aus Berlin 😘
Ilove you both😘😘😘
Oohhh 😍😍😍
Regarding that face combining app, I'd blame the app. No hetero or anything. 😄
Would you take fence or no wheels on four
Do you know of many lesbians who like ftm or intersexed ppl or is that more of a bi or pan thing?
What do you think of trans lesbians, or people who are somewhere in the gender nonbinary? Over past years on Second Life, I'm starting to think all the more definitely something that I've wondered since my early teens. That I may in some way be a lesbian who just got used to being in a male body. I've experienced some chemistry and flirting with female friends who I didn't know could possibly be go for my gender (whatever it may be).
I wouldn’t think that an nb person could be a lesbian since lesbians are two women who are attracted to each other, and nb people don’t consider themselves to be women.
Is gender identity normally that absolute? I've seen different types of gender (emotional, behavioral, anatomical, libido, how one presents their self, etc.) as a series of spectrums between the extremes of femininity and masculinity.
Even in the 80's (born in '84), I tended to identify more with females (as much as I looked up to Ray and Egon from the Ghostbusters, I LOVED Little Mermaid to the extent where sometimes I even pretended to be a mermaid). In the 90's not only did my feminine side get stronger, but also my attraction to women. I was more into the arts than sports, defined gender roles in my watching shoujo. A bunch of my crushes (I often went for the strong but gentle, sensual, affectionate, and warm women) ended up coming out. Like Maria Bello, Cat Cora, Sailor Neptune, or (her Xena character did) Victoria Pratt. The music that I listened to (especially in middle school and high school was mostly a Lilith Fair of female singer songwriters with some males here and there. Some classic rock. Between my parents being very detached when teaching about puberty, I wondered if my experiences were more relatable to females that I identified more with socially.
In college, I read more about gender identity and chromosomal anomalies. There were these times when stomach cramps (which I often got intensely since my early teens) were joined with pains in my groin, and migraines that got so bad that my vision dimmed to almost nothingness for up to 20 minutes at a time. It felt like what Emma Frost was experienced in her origin comic series. Even after an EKG test came back negative, I thought that either I was developing telepathy or something was irregular inside me. As I learned more about my being an Aspie, I found that my "cuspie-ness" was more often relatable to Liane Holiday Willey's Aspie memoir than John Elder Robison's. Through getting an emergency appendectomy done, and one of two inguinal hernias repaired (the cramps and migraines were part of my small intestine going far past where it was supposed to be, and to point where it was nearly fatal).
Despite my always being somewhat detached from my masculinity, it was Second Life that blew my mind. I was able to freely move between using male and female avatars both based on my own body. With any relationship on there, I was always up front about who I am in the tangible world, but spent an increasing amount of time as a lesbian there, vicariously experiencing the sensuality through my avi). An Aussie I've been with there for a while turned me on to Anais Nin's writing, and thinks that I may be a trans who's just not as gender dysmorphic. Possibly that I have an unusually high amount of estrogen in my body (something that I'm going to have checked).
While I empathize with people who've gone through name changes, gender changes, surgeries, etc., I've gotten used to even my more awkward of parts, but sexually, the kind of sweet. sensual, affectionate, gentle chemistry that I want to have with someone in the physical world (I'm a sappy romantic with a strong feminine side) is something that I see more often in lesbian couples than hetero or gay ones.
Ken Coleman Why is it so important to you to be called or considered a lesbian? That’s an honest question. I’m a lesbian, and it’s just what I am. I am a woman who dates other women. I’m not particularly attached to the label, I’m more into going about my normal life loving my girlfriend, working, etc.
It's not so much the label for me either. And there are lesbians who I relate less to. For me (single for now), it's about trying to find a way to articulate (verbal communication is one of the most common ways of expressing oneself) my own personal identity, and a... connection of sorts that I hope to some day find with a significant other. I feel deep down that thoughts, and concepts, and identities are rare defined in perfect accuracy in any of many languages. But to have pride in who you are, whatever you are, and not just hiding yourself a way, it takes the ability (or at least attempts to try) expressing to others how you feel that you identify.
I'm not going to pretend that I'm as female as seemingly over half the population, but when I see how cute a couple Lilian and Alexis are. Or Lauren and Lisa (This Colorful Wold). Or passion in movies like Elena Undone, I hope that I can find such happiness with a significant other of my own some day. I recently saw a music video of this amazing duet between Nena and Kim Wilde where their chemistry and heat projected in their performances seems more homoerotic than even Batman and Robin had been accused of. In the comment section, some people wanted to contort that sensual fire into a 3-way, but me.. Intuitively paraphrasing a Sophie B. Hawkins lyric, I was thinking "Damn, I wish I were her lover."
In terms of sexual identity, I considered for a while that I may be bisexual, but while I find all genders potentially attractive, I cannot imagine myself being with a guy (even the nicest ones that I've met), but on the flipside, my warmth, tenderness, and mild androgyny tends to attract very few women. I think that a deal breaker in an OKCupid correspondence was my wanting to give a woman I was talking with for months a warm hug as we were talking out a death in her extended family that just happens. There's a point where it just seems dishonest to more masculine than I feel comfortable being just for attraction to become more mutual.
oh fuck, subscribed.
I've read articles about that in the future it might be possible to take one part of each persons egg and bring them together so that both persons DNA will be involved. I wonder how long that process has come? A woman is working on that like ten tears ago or more.
That's one egg and the DNA of another or a stem cell. There's been some success in non-humans (I think it was mice) but not got to human trials yet.
Tho a lab established by the Raelian religion did claim they had done it with humans years ago
No one
Literally no one
Me : falling in love with that short hair girl
👍💪👏💖
What about a 3-some with a third girl?
ElRackadusch they want 3some with a boy or no? Because I don't understand now
Magda // As far as I understood they personally definitely don't want that, and find the question pretty offensive, but don't judge lesbian couples on the other hand, which are in to that.
Though they assume, rightly so, that this group will be very small certainly.
You can actually have an egg and stem cell fertilization, pretty new.
like asking chopsticks: who is the fork? ;)
Lily looks like a lesbian version of Angela from The Office lmao
😙😙😙
I agree that dental dems and protected lesbian sex should be normalized. But I'm a bit demisexual and so will probably never sleep with a woman before I know her very well. I don't think, I'll ever use it.
who also realized that they kissed right before
There is research being done on fertilizing an egg with DNA from another female and there has been some success which I think was with mice. Probably be decades til it's available for humans tho
Shaun W not decades :)
Interesting what you said to question "who is the man in the relationship". I know 3 gay and 2 lesbian couples. And in all these relationships there was a clear guy/girl division. But more distinctive to the gay couples.
I saw the video "our first time" few minutes ago and at the story "first sex" Lilian asked "how was it". I heared this is a typical male question^^
Dental dams 😂 I’ve never known anyone that uses them. What I hear often is why are you a lesbian? A man must have broke your heart or you had a bad experience right? I don’t get offended rather I like to discuss everything in detail and see their reaction. I tell them I have more O’s in 1 night then they would in a week 💋 we are always going to hear stupid remarks from people I just roll with it not a big deal
The whole like how do you guys do it really bothers us...
As if it matters: Let her talk, please...
Mi Ol huh...? -A
Ich dachte immer, gut aussehende Lesben sind eine Erfindung der Pornoindustrie :S
Ich wurde eines besseren belehrt..
Pick a man who has close features that Lillian has
Two girls means 2 times PMS. I can't imagine it's easier.
Not all women experience PMS.
Well, i'm oficially jeaulouss and looking for a feminine and lesbian, as me!
This video does not give no description nothing they should both get Lil Wayne g*********
I'm straight and have guys friends and go to guy events!!! :)
Yup.. assuming u r into them when they knw u r gay is super annoying.. bi loves everyone in the planet.. hahahaha.. they are funny
Does lesbians spend more time out door adventure or alot time indoor together?? How kong does a lesbian relatuonship last?? The only difference I see between a man couple and a women couple is giving birth!!
Don't answer,,,just show. That is what your straight friends really want you to do. #GETREAL #lmfao
you have beautiful big lips like Angelina Jolie's!😍
(the one with the big lips)
The questions from macho men are freaking annoying!
By watching your video most of my questions were answered but I have another question. Eventhough the Bible and the Lord is against people such as yourself how do you go about dealing with that? Don't you both consider your souls and how much you are going on hurting and disobeying God?