What To Do With Revenge, Anger and Betrayal
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- Опубліковано 19 жов 2011
- DrGaryDaniel.com. If you are still hurting and bothered by past events in your life from betrayal, and trust issues, here is a real way to deal with it so you can change your future and finally live life to it's fullest.
It's hard when you are not able to close a chapter in your life.
Yeah, it sure is Helen. Like my family of origin and connected; they've not wanted me in their life. They don't have a good reason either. I could say they have no reason. It's been very hurtful to me but I ask myself why would I want to be part of these kinds of people anyhow.
Helen Boula I agree totally,,,,
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If you don't confront the person who betrayed you, you will have that hurt and resentment channeled into anger misdirected at others. Go towards that uncomfortable place in life and speak your mind and walk away. There must be a moment that you live in truth. We are not entitled to being treated well. We have to earn our respect. Don't reward bad behavior. The secret to life is too care less about what others think and stand up for yourself. Live your life in authenticity, be brave and use your instinct. You are not alone.
Angie L Wise words, Angie. Thanks.
Indeed very wise words. They don't deserve my attention yet still you are right.
That doesn't work. If they are Christians they will 'throw forgiveness in your face'.
Nah im still piss nothing worse to me than a traitor
Angie L agreed; it's not easy especially if that person who perpetuated evil on you has authority like an attorney. I had to wait until that attorney messed up his relationship with the bar then took my argument back to the evil doer. It was so satisfying to tell that hypocrite he was wrong. Then I was free!
Toxic people love it when you are angry. Think hard on your situation- and, don't feed the toxic people. Get even by feeling the feelings, grieve, accept and find a way to be happy. It's your best revenge!
It TRULY is! Excellent advice!💥💯🌹
If try not to be angry so i annoy toxic people im still angry at them. Faulty logic. Being less angry as revenge is actually just denying anger
the problem is "just ignoring what happened" won't change anything... i experienced alot of that kind of shit.
Those bad people are happy through their betrayal..they live great lives because of the wealth/success they took from me.
they are literally rewarded their whole lifes for beeing selfish/evil/criminal. they benefit from doing stuff like that
there is no karma or god that will turn things for them one day because they have done so much evil... they will be rewarded because they just take what they want no matter what. The only way is to actually get revenge even if that means ruining you own life... it is most likely already ruined.
YuriNoirProductions Yes. So yes.
They may be happy the betrayal paid off and they can afford more stuff because of what they took from you and it may seem that they are literally rewarded for their evil ways and some may actually enjoy seeing you down and out but what he is trying to convey here is about what you can do to STOP YOUR PAIN and suffering, It is one way or technique that allows you shift the perception that you’re most likely already ruined… Thoughts are not facts! Don’t believe every thought that comes to you.. Know that you CAN shift your perspective consciously. The best revenge is to be so happy that they will shit all over themselves. No one who feels really good about themselves would hurt another and trust me true happiness is your best revenge and something nobody can steal from you. Peace out :)
YuriNoirProductions ...If you cutoff all physical contact and change your number and reject mail it will kill them like revenge. Fact.
I can’t let anyone divert me from doing what I really want. I’m happy it’s only this and that I’m being taught and trained this lesson before I really built my empire. I can easily get back up again and keep going and thereby getting stronger. I chose to keep going vs letting this crap affect me and cloud my precious days, feelings and thoughts. Times gonna go by anyway, might as well focus it on something that feels good and gets me what I want. If it happens again oh well I’m getting stronger and more persistent. I am getting this. It’s simple and doable and I’m figuring this shit out, how I can live my life and be safe without letting others divert me, distract me or destroy me. It’s not what happens to you it’s about what you can and are doing about what happens to you. What they want is to keep you down, so get back up and take life by it’s horns and try again, keep going, keep doing your best and being your best and keep shining, for this will bring you good rewards. you’re worth it.
universal order is wishful thinking
I like when the video says 'bad things happen to good people'
that makes it sting a little less; like it's not my fault it happened to me
BUT I will say, that if I were a little more conniving, it never would've happened
...Shutting Out and leaving the Energy Thieves and Emotional Saboteurs behind is your Best Bet!
Gods revenge is the best. When you can witness vindication, that's the 🍒
I get so tired of people not understanding that how you treat me and talk to me can have every bit of how I’m going to respond as a HUMAN. I’m all for revenge
I experienced this my wife cheated on me I recorded it on our security home camera she put a fan in front of it in hopes to cover the sound I heard everything. My world crushed... I lost my job, tried to kill myself multiple times, and became homeless. Please pray for me
How are you doing now? Hope you are OK.
Wow! I'm so sorry that happened to you! I sincerely hope that you're doing well in your life now.
If you watched porn while with her you deserved to be cheated on
No woman is going to tolerate that
Thank you Dr Daniel. I decided last night to let go off a family betrayal. This is the first day for the rest of my life. I loved this.
There is a concept called "Radical Acceptance" read about it. There are some things in life that are not right and they are never going to be right because no matter how much you think about it and analyze it, we can not turn back the hands of time. Not saying it is always easy but at some point you have to choose to LIVE and be happy. One thing too is that sometimes you have to put some people out of your life. Some people only bring negative vibes - even if that person is a family member - we all have the right to safeguard our own sanity from the negative effects of chaotic people.
Yup, had to do it to my abusive mother and psycho siblings. In reality they were never there for me anyway, so putting them out of my life ends my getting hurt by them over and over again. Now, healing the damage they did to me? That's hard and unfortunately a 24/7 chore. I lament the energy I have to use just to feel worthy of living another day. I wonder what that energy could have done if I didn't have to use it to survive.
Bullshit make tlhoose who did wrong accountable and let them be fear
okay but when you say you can't make it right at least in my case I could wake up the devil in me and force everything to my will and I have to constantly choke down that urge it's hard for me because I have been a pretty bad person for most of my life and when I finally got my devil under control I was betrayed I fight constantly to not go back to the man I was but in my heart, I know how easily I could raise hell until my rage was satisfied but I swore to myself I would never be that man again and I'm not ashamed to say it hurts to just let a weakling walk all over me
U know u can forgive but that doesn't.mean you'll recover and everything is going to be perfect and great after that.
Because it isn't true. Some people after betrayal can move one Happ happy happy. And sometimes it doesn't happen that way. Sometimes it hurts for a long time.
That's why you need vegenges it's the only way
I had a devastating moment last year. This video was a reminder to me that what's done is done. The feelings of what happened to me were close to the time that is now a year ago, and I needed this to set my mind straight again. Thank you!
hope you ok, and getting stronger , i still want to baste their toes with oil and hang them above a camp fire. but apparently you shouldnt do this because they will scream a lot and ruin your peacefull evening. phahahaha hope ya laughed. xxx
@@446wasmynumber 😆 yea, I've moved on at this point. Very happy with where im at but I do still think about it. That stuff sticks. You just gotta say “im not going to let this hold me back from my potential” and commit to moving on. Hard, but works.
@@KennethCandelas you are strong to think that way, the victim mentality keeps you and everyone around in a never ending cycle of pain, and nothing changes. i said to myself you can die or you can live, i thought time goes so fast anyway whats the point of suicide. if you choose to live you have to get up and do it the best you can. we all have different ways of dealing with hurt and pain, but we are all the same as we are strong and will get stronger. take care my friend i wish you all the best love light and strength to you. xxx
@@KennethCandelas ps the roasting toes thing wasnt my idea , its an old english torture. i have far worst ideas than that, its not my fault im a pisces i have a very good imagination hehehe xxx
@@446wasmynumber dude thank you!! Much love and respect for the kind words 🤘
the most painful it's when your the one that have to remind them that they betrayed you, and telling them you forgive them . For them days past week's past,the never talk about it.
and expespecaily the people close and the one you love and would take a builid for
Thank you, I was betrayed by my eldest daughter, and then recently by my 'Best friend,' and have been almost unable to live with the pain and anguish...After watching your video, I feel empowered to follow your advice, and I feel better already. Thanks again!
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Man, You hit it on the head. Thank you.
I like that line, "don't empower the other person ". That will be my mantra the next time I get tempted to ruminate on "them". Thanks Gary
Forgiveness is deciding to not let that even hurt you anymore
Thank you so much. I was literally ready to act on some very bad intentions and probably ruin my life. It takes so much of your heart to be that bigger person. Lord knows what my intentions are because he's trying to talk me out of them. 🙏🤝
Very much appreciated.
and what if something has gnawed at you for over a decade and no matter how well you live no matter how hard you try to let it go it continues to gnaw at you constantly
and the only reason I haven't sought revenge is for karma's sake but the hate never subsides
I have watched so many videos and read so many articles on how to deal with hurt, betrayal and anger. This is the most beneficial advice I've ever heard. I will work hard I'm not letting this rent space or give away my power to that. I am the one allowing it to ruin my life! Good job I needed to hear that.
Thank you so much, you have no idea how this has helped me get through a really bad time/moment in my life and to move forward, it saved me so.
Not let their negativity affect my positivity. Brilliant. This content of this video is exactly what I've needed for a very long time. Brilliant!
9 years ago, but You send out the samme message as all the wise people that talk about forgiveness here on this channel - in Your own direct way. And I love it. Thank You so much🙋♀️😊🌻
Thank you. That is exactly what I needed to hear. I was obsessing about revenge on my brother thinking it would speed up the process of Karma if I kept thinking about it but I know now that he will get his. Amen. Have a great day Gary. Thank you again.
Thanks for the wake-up, your speaking what people need to hear.
I think it depends on what the situation has been sometimes someone destroyes your life so much u can't forget what they did no matter how u want to
Exactly that's why am still living in pain and suffering but I get happy knowing I've probably get my revenge in the end
Thank you Doc! I needed to hear that. Peace
I thank you, Dr. Gary Daniel. I am going to give my best in my heavy heart to really not give my heart's beatings to the hurt a relative did to me. I think I can do this. You have helped me. Sincerely, Tyler
9 years old video but SO relevant today. Gold. Thank you.
I prefer to listen to these words than most therapists who can't articulate positive life lessons and only serve to shrink and make their patients depended on criticsm and feeling bad. Thank you for the healing words !
This was a great talk for me! Thank you Dr. Gary. Just discovered your channel. Your talks are so down to earth and right on!!!
Life empowering words.Thank you for the well articulated lessons on how to thrive !
Very good advices from you, Dr.Gary. Thank you a lot for charing them with us. I really want to start applying them in my daily life .
Wow, what a great and very helpful video Dr. Gary! This kind of stuff is what I been doing my best to practice in my life now and letting go of those people who don't want me to be part of their life.
Thank you for clearing up "forgiveness"
This video truly had a positive impact on me. Thanks Gary !!! 🙏🏻
Hey Thanks Dr. Daniel. It took 30 years of the best 18-48 years of my life for the betrayal in my life to take place. When my friends and family were at the beach I was fixing things on the farm. Then the "promised" farm was stolen by my family that promised it. I learned that this world is full of lazy jealous people that hate hard workers. There's virtually nothing left of my life to live as you say "fully"; so I over eat to feel full.
Lord, make me an instrument of your peace.
Where there is hatred, let me sow love;
where there is injury, pardon;
where there is doubt, faith;
where there is despair, hope;
where there is darkness, light;
and where there is sadness, joy.
O Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek
to be consoled as to console;
to be understood as to understand;
to be loved as to love.
For it is in giving that we receive;
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned;
and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.
Amen
-Brother Mark and all at Saint Francis Retreat House
Thanks Doc. I needed this. Even 9 years later.
Truth. Don’t give negative energy away, however when opportunity come,seek revenge. Lex Taliones.
Exactly
I just watched this, 9 years later, on a weekend. Thank you for the simple straight shooting advice.
Thank you very sweetly. They tried to erase me. This video is So helpful to step forward and get over the hell that almost killed me. I’m more resilient now and still keep my compassion for others.
Thee BEST advice EVER heard....Mahalo Dr. Gary!
Really needed to hear this. Thank you sir.
10 years later. Thank u for telling me to shift my focus from the negativity. Also cutting myself some slack
Its extra painful because with All Narcissist you will Never Ever Get Closure from them . So Heal yourself 1st so when a painful situation arises your more equipped to maneuver life... Yes that lesson will continue to play out till you graduate the lesson .Thanks for sharing your wisdom 🤓🙏🏻
Thanks Doctor Gary, I think that’s the only solution for the rage that has cursed my life,
I’m going to take that advise and try.
Thank you I am going to give this a huge try. it's been so hard for me too move on, especially with suffering from bi-polar depression but I feel hope with your message.
Thank you so, so much! I really needed this!
Thanks so much for this Doc! Such a perfect solution - simply recondition yourself to focus on positivity any time unwanted thoughts come up about someone who has wronged you. I'll be practicing this method on a daily basis. Thanks again :)
You are so welcome. Thank you for tuning in.
@@drgarydaniel I believe my ex to be a narcissist
I've confronted him about his abusive behavior
It ended up in more abusive behavior
I decided to leave him
He can't get to me anymore I've went no contact
But he is poisoning my children against me
Do you have any advice for that?
Thank You, This is something I really needed to hear.
Thanks, this is hard to do, but I'm committed to moving forward. Betrayal cuts deep!
I wake up every single morning furious. As in I'm often in tears within minutes and racing heart just after opening my eyes smh, it's disturbing. You're so right about choosing what to give energy to..I realized recently that when I reflect others anger I feed it too. My life, the whole thing, has felt like the movie Anger Management except dark, no pity party, but I don't know how I can ever transmute all of this anger but I hate it and it's so ironic because I so love children, animals, elderly people, disabled kids and adults- basically anyone or thing that's vulnerable- feels like my duty to make sure they're taken care of..so I don't think anyone who cares about others can be a bad person, but all of the anger inside does make me feel like a terrible person- like there IS so much beauty and there is love and many reasons to be grateful and I know that but then memories just come out of nowhere, totally unsolicited, and I just can't stop them. Glad I found these videos, I hope I can find a psychologist who is laid back enough so that I can maybe relax and be myself but also REALLY knows their stuff- like Dr
Daniel.
Thank you Dr Gary, just what I needed to hear, at just the right time!
No anger whatsoever anymore, I look forward living my life in peace.
Thank you so much,this gave me so much peace 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Thank you so much. Liked when you said, if its not you who's gonna do it to them someone else will do it to them.
Great motivation.
In the meanwhile I am gonna hold on to my precious positive energy.
Writing down their names, just incase, one day.....you never know. Always remember their names.
Thanks man you probably saved a couple people's lives
Dr. Gary, I love your daily tune up~~~
Thank you, one and a half year after a break up and i'm still very depressed, but this was a great talk to listen to.
That was very insightful!
Thanks you so much I’m literally crying I needed to hear this I was thinking about getting revenge.
Thank you sooo much Dr.
Just when I needed it most. God bless you.
Thank you, Dr. Gary. :)
Just stay away from folks and build a 12 ft concrete ,enforced with steel, around your heart 💔 if you dont care and open yourself up to folks ,then they dont hav an open door to hurt u
Thanks man I really needed to hear that.Don't give that negative crap any of my energy & focus.
Thank you sir. I really needed this right now
I like what you're, saying. Good, common sense, advice. Thank you, doctor, Gary. I'm going to put your advice into, practice. I've, nothing to lose, & everything to gain.
Thanks, needed some help after betrayal from what I thought my best friend.
farside2009 Same with me.
me too
Late to this game, but yes, likewise. For me it was two "best friends" who turned out to be anything but.
Same here
Also here because I can’t let go of this hurt from my supposed best friend.
Thank you! Feels much better
A bad person ran over me and destroyed my body pretty much now my parents pay so much and I'm sure the person didn't even tell her parents she is still in my school and she doesn't care about anybody she's the most selfish person I've seen
Yes, my parents paid 10 thousand dollars just for me. My dad had t get off work and so did my mom. My grandma missed her flight at that day while my sister was so innocent and didnt deserve to see me in such pain now 20% of my body is not human :(
Holy fuck I'm getting my gun
Wow 9yrs the video posted and I needed that today. Thank you
Thank you for this video, I really needed it today. I hope I never have the misfortune of getting involved with a money thieving narcissist again.
Loved this so much! Thank you 💓
Thanks Dr. Gary. I love your videos.
I’ve been consumed by this resentment and hate towards a personal trainer who I paid $800 to. He trained me for 4 days and I was in the hospital for a week due to muscle tissue breakdown. He blocked me and took the money and ran.
That was around 7 months ago.
I’ve been working out by myself, I’ve lost 50lbs BY MYSELF! But I cannot get over the feeling of hurting him or even people close to him. EVEN THOUGH I’ve lost a ton of weight, money wasn’t a huge issue for us but I’m still so consumed
I feel like my immediate family is getting ready to betray me....again.
Mine did.
I can’t let anyone divert me from doing what I really want. I’m happy it’s only this and that I’m being taught and trained this lesson before I really built my empire. I can easily get back up again and keep going and thereby getting stronger. I chose to keep going vs letting this crap affect me and cloud my precious days, feelings and thoughts. Times gonna go by anyway, might as well focus it on something that feels good and gets me what I want. If it happens again oh well I’m getting stronger and more persistent. I am getting this. It’s simple and doable and I’m figuring this shit out, how I can live my life and be safe without letting others divert me, distract me or destroy me. It’s not what happens to you it’s about what you can and are doing about what happens to you. What they want is to keep you down, so get back up and take life by it’s horns and try again, keep going, keep doing your best and being your best and keep shining, for this will bring you good rewards. you’re worth it.
thanks nice sensible words.
That actually helped. Thanks doctor
Thanx Mister that was wonderfull lets start healing and Let karma give 'em Hell
Thank you Dr. Gary.
Everytime i try stopping the mental reminders i find that ill never be free of the reminder of his betrayal since his baby with her will never go away now.
Grateful Dr. Gary.
Thank you Dr Gary for your wisdom, you taught me a lot in just a 7 min video
Genius words, just what I needed to hear.
Thank you, I already figured that out but hearing it from someone else’s mouth was like sweet music to me ;)
I needed to hear this thank you doctor! 👏🏾
thanks...youve confirmed what i been practicing but was despairing
YESSSSSS! The lesson eludes me in the wake of my rage, that is why I can't move on from it. I spend a lot of time in my head, analyzing this or that. So no, it doesn't feel satisfactory to simply decide I'm just gonna release it from my life. Yes I'm capable of deciding this or that for myself with a disciplined mind, but not until I feel/learn and am able to identify what my lesson was from it. Any suggestions or question grid I can take myself through (online anywhere) to whittle down what the lesson was? Cuz right now, the only one I can come up with is trust no one.
And you’re better off trusting nobody
"Trust no one" is not a good life lesson. Be more discerning about who you choose to trust in the future is a better life lesson. Watch out for red flags and trust your gut, those are good life lessons. I was betrayed terribly w/ an affair, but I choose to be more careful, but not to shut people out. In fact I invited 3 of my old friends back into my life and am working on opening my heart again. Not to him, I won't trust him again, but I won't punish myself for what he did by shutting everyone out for the rest of my life. I'm working on forgiving too. that is not coming as easy, but I'll get there.
This was very good thank you
What a fantastic video.
Yes you can. We all have the ability to close those chapters in our lives that we don’t want. It’s all within ourselves. Your body, your mind, your thoughts are all controlled by you. Dig deep.
Great video, thank you for sharing.
Thank you so much for this I really needed this thank you thank you
Thank you sir, I needed to hear this
Thank you. I needed this.
Thank for the info Doc
I learned that from Dr Gary. Who saved my life over 10 years ago. I am grateful to him to be standing here today. He showed me the way. Keep watching the videos.
I was cheated on and made me look like the bad one because I left. How do you forget that?
Claudia Adomah Are you still talking to that person? I also experienced something similar
I don’t know how to go on. His family had been smearing me for years unknowingly My heart is broken.
I had it happen to me, but I stayed so I wouldn’t be made out to be the bad person and because we have a son. But my anger and resentment only built until I couldn’t hold it in anymore and now I have nothing, if only I’d left when the betrayal came out then I’d be in a much better place.
I've never left a man who cheated on me without dishing it back. I realised from seeing other people while still seeing them they couldn't take it and they ended up just disappearing. The last one I was getting bored of the relationship so it wasn't as if I was missing anything. I just pretended to be upset and make him feel guilty so he won't be groveling back It felt good and the best part was I had a good time while doing it. It actually made up for all the annoying bs I put up with. It was cathartic. I'm better off. I see women just leave and carry bitterness with them for years. Then find another man and then end up in the same situation again. Life is too short to spend so much time trying to not get cheated on. I'd rather do other things with my time and energy. You'll realise over time that sex is overrated period.
@@TheQueenIsWithin ah, you're an abuser.