I Survived Being Kidnapped By An End Of The World Survivalist
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- Опубліковано 29 лис 2019
- A sexual assault and kidnapping survivor shares her story.
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This whole story is so goddamn weird.
Fake
this is honestly the weirdest story I’ve ever heard
Th3 Envy p *???*
I really don’t wanna say it’s fake but like it seems like it I don’t know honestly it’s weird
drugs are weird
“Ex friend” 💀💀
princessali83 lol I have plenty of those
sis left her 😭
princessali83 she left her after she was waiting for her the hole time.
Ex because she left her in a bad situation. She was never friend material.
Add me on Twitter @BizzBeauty 😘🥰💕
Girl rules: You come together, you leave together. Period. No exceptions
honestly should be the same for boys too
For real. This is a rule me and my best friend have. And we don't take anything from strangers
@@haileycahill7298 yessss agreed
Oh but she didn't want to get on one of our buses (her excuse). lol seriously!
ALWAYS! Or you send the cavalry!
Her : I wanna leave
Her friend : okay let's go
Her : I'mma stay okay?
Well to be fair the Ecstasy started kicking in haha you lose all rationality and Just want to have fun
Her on drugs: Ima stay
Moral of the story: LISTEN TO YOUR GUT
And don't take drugs with strangers.
Moral of the story: LISTEN TO YOUR TAROT CARDS
@@olgaordell8745 😶
If you own tarot cards unsarcastically maybe you reevaluate your life choices
@@olgaordell8745 no lol
PSA:
Don’t EVER leave your friend alone at a party EVER. It is absolutely not okay.
Megan Montoney what do you do if they just DON’T want to go? You try dragging them out, but they threaten you. Are you just supposed to drag them out? They won’t be your friend after that for sure.
@@levistrudel9319 then you stay or call someone or just realise that their safety is more important than even your friendship..
@@levistrudel9319 like, what are you gonna say or do after they've been raped? I'd rather not be their friend anymore than have that happen to them
@@maartjevankampen1706 and you are the friend I wish I had! Everyone should strive for your kind of loyalty, and YOU are a true friend! Thank you for being that to yours!
Idk though, if you feel unsafe and your friend refuses to go, you shouldn't be forced to stay at a location where you feel unsafe and uncomfortable because of their bad choices
I’ve literally never seen someone make so many bad decisions in my life.
Ikr 😂
I can't believe it!!!!! She's not even bothered by any of the messed up stuff going on around her
Haha my best friend was just like this! Didnt say no to anything. Love her & so glad that nothing horrible happened to her. So glad this woman ended up safe too! ❤️
Yeah I keep hearing things thinking they would have left but it just keeps going
😂
Even the damn tarot cards were like “don’t do it, sis”
Her: does it anyways
Tarot cards: Am i a joke to you?
Her to her friend: you dont owe this guy anything
Her to herself: I just dont like saying no
madison jacob smh how does that make any sense?
thats what happens when you don't value yourself
I’m sorry but your acc picture to me is basically a green m&m
I’m like that😕
That's a pretty common thing for a lot of people. It's sad, but a lot of us are better at valuing and encouraging others and not having that same value inside ourselves.
“If I get on a double decker British bus, I’m going to vomit.” I was like, why was that your biggest concern when you just took some drugs and you’re in a place you don’t want to be in? I wouldn’t care if if I might throw up on a bus I’d leave.
Its basically expected that there's people throwing up on buses 😂
Because she’s on drugs 🤯 she’s obviously not in a good state of mind
Uhm, I don't know... Maybe because she's on drugs? 🙄
she literally explained her self esteem was not the highest.
Stop victim blaming
“I was kidnapped,
But I had to message my kidnapper “hey I just wanna be friends”
Then was weirded out when he blocked me”
I couldn’t even follow this story, it feels like a fever dream
So does your pfp 😂
(Mine kinda does too so no shade to you)
💀
“He offers me some pills” *exhales* “I took them”
this got me hahahaha
lol
Same 😧😧
so i broke out my tarot cards...
Exactly
Trust your gut. Seriously that feeling is there for a reason. We used to use it to sense dangerous predators who meant us harm, and the sense of the word predator has changed but it’s still our warning system for dangerous things and people.
Yep, it's saved me many a time from crapping myself.
Nikki Southwood absolutely
Yeah but she decided to use tarot cards instead.
@@Jayess-c Yeah but you forget that the tarot card literally threw a red flag at her and she took it as a challenge. I don't think we should be bashing on her for looking to tarot cards for advice, I mean it literally had more common sense.
Easier said than done. If you have low self-esteem and/ or aren’t assertive, are naive, it’s easy to ignore this not to ruffle any feathers. Trust me, I’ve been there!
"So yeah I felt really weird and kinda scared. Everything was super sketchy..."
"So anyway, I kept following them. I also took whatever they gave me, ya know, just because-"
"Did you get kidnapped?"
Her: well yes, but actually no.
“When you see the world with rose colored glasses, you miss all the red flags.”
It often takes a traumatic experience to prove to us why we can’t trust people and forces us to believe there are people who really can and will hurt us. All my love to this woman for living through something so horrible. I’m so sorry you learned that lesson this way.
well said.
I've never experienced anything "traumatic" yet knew this from a young age. No one can be trusted. No one.
Bojack Horseman :,(
But she didn't miss the red flags? She saw them all very clearly, but willfully chose to ignore them
@@amelie9297 But that's what a lot of us do. Hindsight is 20/20. I think we can all think of scenarios throughout our lives where this is the case and had we acted on our intuition, we would have avoided something really unpleasant. Yes, absolutely, there were some giant redflags for this woman, but I can also sympathize with her being really uncomfortable in even the slightest amount of conflict saying no to someone's face. Especially as she describes herself as an earnest, enthusiastic young adult just wanting to connect with new people and new experiences. I think we can gather that she acknowledges this about her younger self; she hardly needs thousands of people on the internet to tell her this traumatic thing she experienced was because she was an idiot that didn't do what we would have done.
The downplay of taking pills drives me insane.
I'm from europe, austria, and i've NEVER heard, that taking random pills/drugs (especially from strangers) is "a normal thing" in europe. Smoking weed has gotten pretty normal here, "like in the us/canada". But not taking pills...
@@iuliaionce it definitely is in the uk
@@niamheleanor9476 I'm literally from the UK, from my experience it's not
@@borderj9519 pills arent the same level as weed or alcohol but if someone takes them it's not some big scandal.
KimSal14 I’m British. It’s not normal.
Basically she found out it was a sex dungeon willingly stayed watched her friend have sex, willingly took pills, willingly made out with a man, willingly got in his car and willingly went to see him again. Honestly just don't get me started. U knew what u were doing the whole time and idk about u but i wudnt stay in a strangers house because im exhausted
You missed the part where she willingly gave him her phone just to see where it would escalate to. 🤢
Tiny Walnut willingly gave him her phone because she was AFRAID of where it might escalate to.* aka, she was scared that if she didn’t give him her phone, he may have hurt and/or killed her. he had weapons.
😂😂😂
abbey .....jeez woman...stop defending her...her behaviour was reprehensible....she did Everything willingly....and then in the end cries "kidnapped "?....as a woman I despair of these types...blaming anyone and everyone for their own bad decisions...." my body was abused " yeah right...YOU allowed yourself to be abused....YOU are the reason why feminists have an up hill struggle to be heard...low self esteem my arse!
@@maggielarkin8143 no one allows themselves to be abused. maybe stop victim blaming and learn some empathy
This was so hard to watch because she kept downplaying all of her mistakes and for some reason made her friend seem like the vilian and she barely took any responsibility for taking drugs I don't get
Welcome to the new world, personal responsibility and accountability no longer required
Some kind of self defense, coping mechanism?
i think it's more of a coping mechanism ^
Her ex friend took the blame. Even though she went readily
TBf I think it should ABSOLUTELY be widely known you should never ever take pills you don’t recognize or from people you don’t know and trust; however it’s common at parties to take pills from whoever. But it’s such an AWFUL practice.
That “ex friend” sounds like she’s been raped before. That switching is a sign that she’s trying to cope with the stress she’s feeling. Ewey. Jusy ickey. Everything about this story is horrible. I understand the feeling of “Oh, it’s not as bad as I think it is, my anxiety is just messing with me, I’m overacting.” But that anxiety, and that uneasiness, it’s there for a reason. It’s called fight or flight. Your instinct knows when to get the hell outta there.
LonelyPidgeon I was literally like, your friend is going into survival mode and you need to get her out of there...
Yeah it was very off-putting when she called her an "ex friend"...??
@@mamarobyn
This girl telling the story seems like a worse person than the ex friend imo.
daisychains When you’re panicking, it’s hard to think. Her friend isn’t bad, she was terrified and confused. I’m not blaming her, merely pointing out facts.
The switching is a response to trauma...
The amount of red flags. It sucks. I'm sorry you had to go through this.
So many red flags. She took so many random pills smh
She didn't have to go through this, she literally put herself in all those situations. A 10yr old would have known better....this girl made all those bad decisions herself. She could have gone home at any point.
She literally put herself in that position. She had so many outs.
@@artemisiak677 nothing she did was worthy of the horrifying abuse she experienced. Fix your brain.
@@Sashhe horrifying abuse?? Thats far to dramatic. She gave up her phone because of a mean face. He didn't even touch her, he touched himself.
The most complicated “sorry I was late” story ever
I'm tryin to tell you 😬😵😆
I’m crying 😭😭😭 “so I take the drugs that he offers me” you done kidnapped yourself
And this is her side of the story... while on drugs. The truth may be very different.
Yo...I’m like WTF is going on in this story. There’s too much going on. You can tell she spoke for forever cause there’s a million camera cuts lol. But legit. She took the drugs and then refused to leave the orgy house lol.
Yo, I wasn’t even finished the video😂😂😂She done took more drugs
😭😭
"so i broke out my tarot card deck"
And even they told her "Yo, home girl... STRANGER DANGER"
And then still went.🤦♀️ Someone obviously doesn't believe in their cards. 🤔
Keeli Thomas bc it’s bs
tf even is tarot
as soon as she said that she lost all credibility. how are you going to IGNORE your intuition based on some cards printed in a factory like what lol
When she says her friend “just switches” her demeanour “to perform” after previously indicating she was scared tells me that she (the friend) has been in a similar (i.e., abusive) situation before. It’s a survival tactic, as ironic as that may seem.
Edit: it seems my comment has stirred up some (unintended) controversy. My comment is from both a professional and personal perspective. I.e., from knowledge from my own life and diagnosis as well as from my post-secondary education and professional experience in clinical settings. I am not qualified to diagnose anyone and can not confirm that what I speculate true for the woman referenced in this story. I was just stating how I would interpret that behaviour, and decided it was worth commenting on it in hopes I could educate viewers or give a different perspective to people who may be confused or even appalled by how the friend reacted. Thank you to those who have shared their experience. I would also like to remind everyone that PTSD is a complex illness and that we should try to avoid invalidating each other’s feelings and experiences and instead remind ourselves that we will never know what the individual we are discussing from the video was thinking or feeling in that moment.
oor someone slipped her an extasis pill 😅
Albariza or that🤣
I struggled with something similar. Due to sexual abuse when i was very young (5), when in other situations like that (creepy guys at parties situations) I would find myself just complying to stay alive. As a result of PTSD.
where's your psychology degree
@@yungjoemighty879 its literally semi-common knowledge
This story doesn’t fully sound true it’s seems like there’s more to it
Why would she tell it... if she does then it wouldn’t seem more of a kidnapping rather than poor choices 101z
I can empathise with the college friend who hated her.
Lol word
Honestly
Lmao bruh
same
Same
when she says “she was crying and saying it hurt and i asked her if she was fine” literally the video “ask the child if he or she is choking”
"ARE YOU CHOKING?!"
AHAHAHAH OMFG
Why are there people blaming this girl instead of the person who did this to her? Sure she was naive, but experienced something horrible and there are commenters focusing on what she did as a victim and not what the actual culprit put her through.
Because people are dangerous but u have to have some level of being careful. Its like living in a big city and leaving your door open when you go out. People will rob you. Don't go to orgy parties with strangers off the internet and take drugs off of them when you're already getting red flags. ESPECIALLY if you're in a foreign country.
None of that would have happened if she had a good head on her shoulders who goes to orgies even when you feel uncomfortable and takes drugs from random people this turns into more of a choice after that
Both of them are to blame. She knew her behaviour could land her in hot water and it did. Not that I'm defending the assaultant.
They demonize women for expecting the worst from men, they demonize women for trusting men, people just love to blame women for the trauma they experience
Nobody is blaming her for anything. She broke out a tarot card deck! All she had to do was not meet this guy! Her friend said she had a very bad feeling about this. There was so many red flags before she even considered seeing him. It's extremely unfortunate she had to deal with this kind of trauma but you really need to listen to your instinct.
Maybe she should re-examine the definition of "kidnapping?"
If she’s not allowed to leave then that’s kidnapping
@@quirkyblackenby No, Kidnapping is abducting somebody against their will... she voluntarily went...
And to say that she was forced to stay there is quite a stretch.
@@KennyMcCormick99 yeah this story is just... she had so many chances for leaving but she didnt. also when she said "i felt the bad vibes but i saw this as a challenge"???? like wtf......
Lets go to buddys place that I already think is weird.. oh he offered me drugs,, well ok then.
@@KennyMcCormick99 Well he did drug her in the beginning. Though even that part is hard to stick since she willingly took the mystery drug. This whole story is a stretched out series of terrible decisions.
This whole story has so many missing pieces that I find suspect to. Gotta say there’s a reason that other college girl Molly didn’t like this girl.
There's a tv show called I Survived that has lots of people sharing stories of situations they lived to talk about like this. It's horrifying, but the end result is they survived. This story reminded me of that
I remember the one about Mary Vincent. Still chills me to the bone.
I remember that show
I love that show!
I looooooove that show
Is it on Hulu or Netflix?
People in this comment section: "Listen to your gut"
My gut: *INTENSE GROWLING*
Same
ArtGeeks 😂
People like these exist and it discredits the actual victims of kidnappings. Just change the title of the video please.
Also the dude had some army rations, a gun, a gas mask and some dodgey conspiracy theories = end of the world survivalist? Sensationalising the whole thing further
No
Yes, agreed.
Wouldn’t being held somewhere without your permission count as kidnapping? He wouldn’t let her leave voluntarily...
For real
She wasn’t kidding about saying “yes” to everything
I’m glad she got to live and tell the tale.
k
💖
Flick 💀
Flick why are you so insensitive?
This person kinda created these problems like taking pills from strangers
Literally all of this could have been avoided like 12 different times
Literally from the fetish line
She's an idiot
She was kidnapped. She’s safe now. What’s done is done. Stop blaming her on this horrible thing that’s happened to her.
Ong bro that's where I'm like "bruh"
I would hate to make light of anyones pain but I got the same vibes.
“it’s london not many people own cars” have you seen london traffic
I was looking for this comment! 😆 I've never even been there and I was thinking wtf is she taking about.
Literally!! I’m from London and almost everyone has a car.....
This video/story is an insult and incredibly insensitive to people who have actually been kidnapped against their will, drugged against their will, and sexually assaulted against their will. None of these things happened to her. What happened was she was ignoring all of the red flags and putting herself in dangerous situations. She’s actually very lucky that this was all that happened to her and it didn’t escalate into anything further because of her lack of alertness. And that’s if this story is every real anyway 🤷🏼♀️
I was kidnapped once and given no food or water for 4 days straight. It was scary. Got very thirsty
Steven glad you made it out of that ❤️
Becks Sketch thanks, yes got out of the situation alright. It made it a lot worse being kept soo hungry and thirsty , hunger can get painful.
Ur talking about insensitivity but being insensitive to her story.
stop blaming a victim
"You go together, you leave together."
I never understand women who leave their friends anywhere, let alone in another country. No one deserves to be treated this way for sure but they definitely should have been more mindful of one another.
Yeah, the friend should’ve gotten her out of there or at least stay
are you talking about the girl telling the story? because she left her friend alone while getting sexually assualted. of course her friend is gonna leave the party, SHE GOT SEXUALLY ASSAULTED.
Her friend it seems was hurt. Even she said her face was white like she had seen a ghost but she refused to go with her. So no I don't blame the friend.
This video should be titled "That Time I Met a Guy at an Orgy and He Turns Out to be A Psycho"
Google this womans name. Shes an actress who lists one of her talents as crying on demand. Plus the orgy party part of her story is a direct rip off of the movie Eyes Wide Shut. This is obviously a fake story made by Buzzfeed for clicks
vaping Otter reality exceeds fiction... trust me.
“He gave me random drugs” instead of admitting SHE chose to take the random drugs offered to her. She had the option to not take what was offered but chose to take them.
“See you in 30 minutes luv” OKAY WATTPAD FANFIC
It's a shame she never reported this to authorities... who knows who else he did this to...
They might not believe her anyways so...
OJJL What makes you think she never did report it
@@cupid3890 Only if she is making it up, which she probably is
She didnt ?
I'm guessing they would have dismissed it knowing she consented to hanging out with this guy and accepted his offer of drugs, etc. She probably just wanted to avoid the furthering the situation. She was a young college student, so it's sad but it makes sense from her perspective...
As in adult I hear this story and internally scream "No!" at every twist, turn, and bad decision. Then I pause to think about teenage me who used to hitchhike and accept party invites to far out places from guys I knew nothing about, and I honestly have to wonder how I got lucky enough to avoid something so horrible.
Whoopsy Daisy As a teen (who’s literally a YEAR away from being an adult) im like Bro... NO! Its like when in horror movies someone goes to the attic like nooooo!
Crashshades same as a teen who’s going to be an young adult next year I was watching this and looking at this and think why would you say yes to any of this????
Whoopsy Daisy as a teen, my mom taught me well not to go to random places i dont know, never take drugs from a stranger, and if im in a place i dont wanna be to leave asap
Same! I’m an adult now and back then (friends with the wrong people) and I used to go out to these place where I didn’t want to go mostly because I always wanted to please people and not disappoint them. I’m glad times have changed a bit and young girls are becoming more aware! And making sure girls know not to do anything you don’t want to do and it’s okay to say no. I wish I knew that when I was younger! I think I would have had a better time as a teen.
Whoopsy Daisy
I think a lot of people here don’t understand what it’s like to be a naïve young woman with low self esteem trying to find herself. Seeing men make these comments makes me especially frustrated because they don’t seem to get the pressure to comply that women feel. It hit home hearing her talk about her past self like a little sister. I wish people had more compassion.
Madders this is in my city, also, what kind of person takes random arse drugs and goes to a crackhead’s house for a sleepover
this whole story has so many holes and doesn’t make any sense at all. there are so many times she could’ve left, but she CHOSE to stay.
It‘s like black mirror: Bandersnatch
It’s a really serious story but I couldn’t help but laugh when she said she took out her tarot cards
right? "i was feeling scared! so i took out my tarot cards." girl if you have to take out your tarot cards to tell you not to do something, DON'T DO IT.
Not to stomp on her story, but the Tarot card reading was even sending her red flags.. I was like girl don't go.
Zomkay exactly even if you don’t believe in tarot cards, red flags had already been appearing
Slurp ME TOOOOOO
tarot cards don't have any actual meaning but they can actually help people think about stuff differently. it's actually really helpful even tho there's no 'magic' to it, just deeper self analyzation
“Everyone is in full on BDSM fetish, all the sub-fetishes that go on, ya know?” No, I do not know.
No One and yet she goes in 😂
LMFAO
Hahahahahahahah
Hi, prudes.
I’m sorry this should be re-named “how to get kidnapped”
so she's really trying to blame someone else for her poor choice making
She’s not responsible for that dude’s predatory behavior. She made bad decisions that lead to her being in that situation, but his behavior is his fault, not hers.
@@geekgirl_luv4262 I know, right? Blaming her for falling into the trap is what Psychopaths do lol
Not everyone is lucky. But she is.
Yes she is. She found a guy who was ready to take care of her for the rest of her life, and she blew it!🙃
Bear Post lmao psychopath
How is she lucky with all these things that happened to her?
Bear Post 😂
@@seandonkey857 she's lucky she made it through school with that empty block on her shoulders
Her: “Like he was the cat and we were the mice”
Me: a predator ?
I am screaming " Don't take the drugs " to my phone screen
This is good story for parents, a warning not to let your immature child study abroad.
Just pull out & call it a day from there jfc
@@annaelisavettavonnedozza9607 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
The fact that there are young girls that end up in these situations because they just don’t know any better... Sad. I feel bad for this girl and this entire story had red flags EVERYWHERE.
Aquarius Lovegood it was a very confusing story for me to follow if I’m being honest
crash bandicoochie she said she was naive and had no self esteem
She knew better but chose otherwise just to get some attention. Wtf???
@@artemisiak677 Yeah, everyone loves near death situations for attention.
crash bandicoochie but she saw all the red flags and ignored them. You can't put her in the same boat as people who "don't know any better".
I’m not even listening to the story, I’m too busy reading the comments 😭🙃
It isn't worth listening to, really.
@@josi4251 ?
Same😂
Same!
missamyiahh istg😂
“He offers me some pills... I take it..” girl what are you doing!? Lol
I think she took a line just before this interview
Girl code rule #1- NEVER LEAVE A MAN BEHIND
Her friend -sorry EX friend- left her behind.
If your friend wants to leave, you don’t let her leave alone. You’re safer at a party with a bunch of people than walking in a bad part of London trying to find your way home. She rolls her eyes at her friend being upset she had to leave alone to this day. Immature, naive, and self-centered.
“He gave me random drugs...” you TOOOK THEM LIKE IT WAS WHATEVER. Omg this girl
Yes and if you take a hit off of a guys joint you have also given him permission to take you captive. Stfu.
@@abifail4860 What are you talking about? You know thats not what she meant? She was in an already obviously dangerous situation and then even takes random Drugs....like really?
What drugs don't come from random strangers?
Nailah Al-amin thank you ❤️
Joeleen Webb thank you ❤️
The fact that she chose to consult a tarot card deck - or any deck of cards for that matter - rather than simply get the hell out of there told me all I needed to know.
The Magic 8 Ball NEVER lies . . . .
“I wake up and... he’s making eggs”
* *sad music* 🎻 *
Omg that's terrifying but I can relate as a young girl its hard to say no and assert yourself. Now I would never but 10 years ago it could've been me. I hope she can move on from this
@slartibartfast85 haha you are so funny :) :) :)
@slartibartfast85 it's a lot different and harder than that when you have self-esteem problems.
Catherine Paris um. She used tarot cards to decide if it was a good idea or not to go with him. I pray you were not like that when you were younger and had some logic to your decision making.
@@Jayess-c I mean to be completely honest the tarot card had more logic than she did. The tarot card literally threw a red flag at her and she was like "hmmmm, is that a challenge?"
That's so silly how many red flags can you ignore, I say that but I've been kidnapped myself the guy ended up in prison for drugging and raping someone
She deadass messaged him after all of this lmao
probably so much that THAT's why she was blocked. People think she only messaged him once a day for those three days but how do yall know she wasn't spamming him to ask about getting more drugs or party locations. She was on a sugar daddy website wasn't she? or her friend was.
She's a people pleaser who had extremely low self esteem. Not uncommon for people like that to try to make things right or legitimize their perfectly legitimate and necessary actions after something happens to them. I tend to feel responsible for things that other people do to me and apologize for it, even if it makes zero sense, because I hate myself so much, I'd rather not bring them to justice because somehow I convince myself that not only was it my fault, but I don't deserve to be angry at what they did to me. It's more common than you'd think, tbh.
When she said “so I broke out my Tarot card deck” I was like okay I’m all in.
So... She said that her phone was taken by him. And then she looked at the phone and saw it was like 7 am or something. Who's phone? His?
Sorry but she's clearly withholding parts of the story. I got weird vibes off her.
So?
You’re trippin man, she seemed like she was genuinely telling the truth
Edit: (in my opinion)
kindve same
She said she was a partier and that she regrets going with the flow to a default. To me that was enough explanation as to why she was omitting certain things. She seemed like she didnt feel comfortable disclosing exactly which drugs she took and things like that. Didnt seem to weird to me.
Trauma. When you're passed the grieving process, you separate yourself from the experience enough to be able to tell the story. You can't live with that pain every moment. The awkwardness is a normal sign of coping
Yes, she made awful decisions, and walked into an unsafe situation. However that doesn’t mean that she deserved what happened when she got there. Maybe she could have avoided it, maybe she couldn’t, we don’t know what crazy man’s next steps would have been.
Tissaisme i dont think anyone has said “your deserved it”, at least i have read “you could have avoided it”. Its like going to a dark alleyway on purpose with you a cellphone on hand looking at facebook... NO ONE should rob you, but there are bad people that will do it. So why expose yourself to those things.
Daniel Morales the tarot cards told her not to though, which is crazy
Not saying she deserved it though, no one does
No, she definitely could have avoided it.
It's like loading a gun with a bullet & playing Russian roulette to say, "I survived a deadly game."
I'm not saying she deserved it, I'm saying wtf did you think would happen?
I don't think anyone is saying she "deserved" it. She didn't.
Daniel Morales exactly! You can't cry victim if you walked into a bad situation.
She’s not telling the full story
This is my wife when I ask how her day went
😂 😂 😂 😂
"So I broke out my tarot card set" okay sorry but lost me there lmao
Sade Metsävirta same!
Yeah same
Tarot cards really help some people make decisions though
But had she listened to the cards she would have stayed home.
lmaooo right!! I was like girlll, ok no offense but I have to laugh
The red flags/bad decisions;
-not telling your friend that meeting random guys is a bad idea
-not telling anyone else where you are going
-not looking up the address/seeing if it’s sketchy before going
-telling the guy you were backpacking across Europe so he knows you’re more vulnerable
-not leaving when you saw he was lying about the carnival rave
-the price of entrance for the party
-the guy kissing her as soon as he saw her
-not having a plan for leaving discussed before you went
-taking drugs multiple times from strangers
-having them drop you back at your address so they know where you live
-leaving your friend so you are alone at a party in a area you don’t know
-getting in a strangers car
-going to a strangers apartment
-going knowing you weren’t fit/healthy because you were doing drugs/ sleep deprived from the days previously
-falling asleep at a strangers apartment
-not telling people where you were or who you were with
-not telling your school/friends/police ect about the guy or sketchy behavior before meeting him again
-going to the party/doing drugs the night before a school trip
-going places knowing you didn’t have easy contact with people
-sending him a Facebook message saying you wanted to be ‘friends’
-not having your keys to get back into your accommodation
-going places you aren’t sure where they are at night/alone/on drugs in a country you don’t know
-sitting on his lap in his car with someone driving who’s probably intoxicated probably without a seatbelt
-meeting him again after the party
-seeing he had a gun and still staying in bed with him
-giving him your social media, so he has your full name, possibly address or work address, phone number, and you can easily be tracked , and will have access to all the people you are friends with on there including family and friends ect
-going to a party with no plan of how to get home in rave outfits, under the influence in central london
-basically being scared to say no and not following your gut
underrated comment, people should expect that it's dangerous to just willingly trust strangers... She even took pills he gave her lol
seriously all these things were what NOT to do ever and she’s soooooo lucky nothing too terrible happened because not only could she have wound up who god knows where and in what condition she also put the entire flat she lived in in serious danger especially if she had told there’s only one chaperone on the trip and it’s a large female group living there like this could have easily had a lot of assaulted and missing girls and by sheer luck nothing too awful happened
Cats Pajamboree exactly my thoughts, plus he had her social media so not only has personal info on her but all the people she’s friends with on there
Pedro Medalho fr and I get the peer pressure thing ect (being a young woman myself actually from London too lol) but you just have to plan these things at least a little like discuss with your friends what you do or don’t wanna do that night or when/how you wanna leave ect just like basic things for safety
I totally agree with you Victoria. I always thought I'm just sensible in that kind of way (regarding safety) but everything you just listed were what I saw as red flags while watching the video, so I'm glad I'm not alone on that. It's scary stuff!
‘You don’t owe him anything’ , “I just don’t like saying no”
Literally willingly did everything and yet blame her friend for everything.
She definitely could’ve made better decisions, but she didn’t expect the situation to escalate that much. She was a scared teenage girl with low self esteem and she made some bad decisions but she didn’t deserve what happened to her
AMEN
10000% absolutely
I definitely understand that she was young but that situation was completely avoidable. Some situations just take a matter of common sense and it's clear that she didn't use any of it
@@kingroka5870 I wonder what her childhood was like. Did her parents not teach her the dangers of the world? That things like this could happen if you're not careful? I hate to speculate on these sorts of topics, but based on her decisions in this video, it almost sounds like shes done some of this before, like taking drugs with other strangers but it didnt escalate to this level. Idk it's a sad situation entirely and just sounds like no one taught her to be more careful around people you dont know.
Panda23 and?
Her: “This guy creeped me out” Also her: “I went out with him again”
Also also her: “And I took the drugs.”
What you're saying makes sense, but unfortunately this is common for people pleasers, people with extremely low self esteem, people who don't know how to just say no, people who don't trust their own judgment, and people who feel like they owe people something that the people actually have no right to. All of those things apply to her.
I mean, red flags tend to attract me, idk why
@@Sofia-ik3sl If the low self esteem and people pleaser do apply to her, I don't know although she didn't appear to be someone with low self esteem in the video, this is not the other person's fault and this does not make them a kidnapper or close. They cannot be held responsible for that.
seraphic poison so you’re letting her off the hook for her own choices?
There were so many situations where she could have just made a different decision (like not going to this place, not taking the pills or not seeing the guy the next day again). Playing with fire can be intriguing but also dangerous.
She does happen to be an actor, and this video happens to be on her backstage page, I didn’t believe this before I saw that, but now I really have no way to believe it
Interesting... seems far more likely lol.
I wonder if it's a true story but they're just using her to tell it.
@@nightvisions8 I did question that
Thank God she survived, moral of the story, don't be afraid to say no, go home, or turn someone down
Also maybe dont take drugs from strangers at bdsm orgy raves
This really should’ve been reported especially if he had a gun in London...
Yeah that's how you know she is lying
@@th3envyp238 why would that mean shes lying? You clearly don't live in London if you think people don't have guns here.
Amber Pickering I frequently visit London and have family, it’s very rare for Londoners to have a gun unless you’re really in with a bad group.
I relate to her story soooo much!!!! I low-key teared up.
this just comes across as a party story from a girl who traveled abroad. very insensitive and confused why this was filmed or deemed appropriate
“He offers me pills, I take them” 😬😬😬
Bruhhhh!
Chad Chelo yeesh indeed
🤦♀️
yeahhhhh dunno about that one
Twice.
“so i pulled out my tarot cards”
sis....
the tarot cards literally *told* her not to go i-
I'm pagan and I'm just like...what?
That part!!!
@@ontxtteredwxngs I'm pagan and when she ignored the cards i went "did you just... *ignore* them??"
And yet the cards had more sense than her
😂
five and a half thousand people can see right through her!
This is such an incredible story. I feel so bad that this happened to her but I’m so glad she survived. I’m a similar age to her at that time and could see myself being in that vulnerable position from a series of circumstances trying to please others or seek out exciting experiences. I’ll take the lessons she said to heart
Don't take drugs of strangers kids.
Don't fall asleep in stranger's beds.
Don't take drugs at all
Especially if you don't even know what the drug is ?!?!?!
It’s not that uncommon to take drugs from strangers tbh especially in college
also, don't kidnap people, kids.
Love how it says kidnapped , googled her name just comes up she’s an actress. Her story might be true and if so my heart goes out to her but buzzfeed always be click baiting
Oh same!
Bruh I knew she looked familiar.
To be fair, pretty much everybody who lives in LA under the age of 30 is an actor/actress
It hit me halfway through the video that it's probably fake.
whats her last name
So proud of her honesty. So hard to tell the truth like this.
Intuition is the biggest thing I teach my clients. And it’s listening to what your body and alarms are telling you. I am so glad she ended up safe and was able to tell this story!
3 minutes in and i have no clue why they decided to stay after that guy, after all those bdsm outfits, and the cost being 200 dollars
That's the whole point of her story at the end. When you are a really insecure person it is extremely difficult for your brain to process danger. Then when it does process danger you don't feel confident enough to save yourself. Especially fresh out of school and childhood. In childhood we are taught not to question authority, in some peoples life they are not taught how to be confident and assert themselves. They are taught to just shut up and listen. So when you become a young adult and someone acts like an authority figure your brain gets confused. You don't have a map of how to stand up for yourself and question the authority.
Being broke would save me lmao
I ask myself the same, but then am reminded of situations I've gotten in because I have the hardest time saying "no" to people. Fortunately, I never gotten into a situation quite *that* extreme, but still... I can imagine it may have been the same problem for them.
@@johndel5608 The guy paid for them
Oliver Hates Google yeah I would have turned around the minute they said entry fee was $200 🤣
*"I learned that self esteem is really important"*
After all that, THAT'S what you learned?!? 🤦♀️ Girl bye
"I feel like I was a really innocent younger girl
who just wanted like a fresh new opportunity and like meeting people. I just wanted to connect with others and I didn't stay true to who I was and I allowed myself to feel like that my personal safety and my physical body is allowed to be abused in exchange for that. You need to know where your moral boundary is and live comfortably within that because when you lie to yourself and when you turn on yourself and compromise for other people and other people's happiness, you're always going to lose." This is what she learned. You have a narrow mind if you degrade self-esteem, it's so important to set boundaries for yourself because if you can't advocate for yourself, no one will. And that's how you get yourself into compromised situations like she did. She learned a huge lesson from it.
She had a whole list of things she learned. You weren’t listening.
Havin' a few brain cells wouldn't hurt
@Angela Stussel over 550 ppl disagree w you 😂
@@NeeNee_B. omg u liked your own comment 😂😂 and what that girl said is true....pure facts
You didn’t owe anyone anything , be as brave as you was then as that younger woman and keep pushing her forward.. god bless you ..
I really wanted to hear her story, but when she started consulting a deck of cards to make an important decision....kind of lost interest.
she so casually just talked about taking drugs from a stranger tf
how old are you where youa yougn adult in 2014, it was just what happened espcially in london. they didnt used to be laced with things that could kill a healthy person . not saying drugs are good but times used to be different
SashaxBelle ...what?
@@sashaxbelle Taking drugs from a stranger has never been okay. I was in my teens in the late 1990s. Smart people even then knew that you don't take drugs from a stranger. That is just reckless. Some people are reckless.
SashaxBelle what?
SashaxBelle bet you were one drugs when you typed that
Wow. They literally walked repearedly into dangerous situations. I am so so glad she survivied and is ok. But this situation was HIGHLY avoidable and I hope any young girls stuggling with self esteem or saying no see this.
Dymond Kitty I’m glad someone said this.
sorry to say but if this happened to a girl in 2019 a lot of girls wouldn’t have gone back with him after they got back to the hotel because they had to get on a bus soon and not to mention this time there going ALONE
I’m both of what you just mentioned, but even I know better not to do that. That’s just weird and creepy. Always be aware when around strangers or someone you find suspicious or untrustworthy. Saying “no” is okay, especially when it comes down to your life, don’t ever agree to anything that could harm you.
Dymond Kitty why are you victim blaming. Gross
@@nicholekam5527 because sometimes the victim has a part in putting themselves in dangerous situations, dude. Victims are just humans and humans have faults and make decisions that harm themselves too.
i really hope she learned a lot from this situation bc she could have avoided almost every part of this story and seen every red flag
Thank you for your openness and honesty about your experience. Your ex friend also seems to have had things happen without consent or was dealing with trauma, guilt and/or shame. These kinds of stories show that usually the pressure is more subtle and less like what the media shows.