I dislike it when some of my friends say that they don't want to have a dad or they compare their problems to mine bcs I don't have a dad. They say "You're so lucky" bffr. I hate it when my friends tell me abt how much their father loves them, knowing that I never experienced that. I dislike seeing other ppl spending time with their father. It's not fair and ppl still call me sensitive for crying everytime someone mentions abt my dad.
It makes sense from both angles. As someone with a less than terrific "dad" (gets angry and violent at a pin drop, but doesn't care enough to learn anything about you but your insecurities to later make fun of them and then gets angry when you're upset), I really wish he wasn't there. He's awful to his wife, his kids, and I (I don't consider him my father anymore). But if someone keeps saying it after you've told them why it makes you upset, that's crappy. Both feelings are valid, but sometimes there's a time and a place to express your hatred for your dad. Don't be friends with them anymore, would be my best advice. They clearly don't care about you.
my whole friend group has different issues with our parents, i have a verbally abusive dad, another has a verbally and physically abusive dad, another just has mommy issues, one doesn’t have a dad and their mom was on drugs
Extreme Level Hundred Daddy issues : Imaginations of bieng raped Having porn addiction to father and daughter vids or brother and sister vids or male teacher and female student vid. Thinking ur male teacher likes you and pays more attention to you Bieng jealous when your male teacher pays attetion to another student Bieng attracted to older men Lying about your age to older man Blaming your mom for not bieng able to keep a man
I have daddy issues where my dad has said horrible things about my sister behind her back and he has also told her bad things. He told her once that she is only causing misery in the house by venting. He also hit her and threw her against the wall once, right infront of me when I was 4. He yells at me and my sister constantly, and my mom knows about all of this and disagrees with it, yet she refuses to divorce. My dad is starting to change, but I still refuse to trust him after all of that. I always just assume the worst of him now. Some parents need to know how much these actions can affect a child’s trust, behavior, and life. edit: also, I’m pretty sure he traumatized me a bit too. Now everytime someone raises their voice, I tear up or start crying.
My dad. He makes me sooo mad. When I was little he would drink and take drugs and just be terrible. Mom finally divorced him right then and yelled at him to get out of her house. I'm so proud of her. He still texts me- every 6 months or so when he remembers me.
The way i realized how fucked up i am when i looked back at younger me telling myself that if i have a partner and we fight, i would say "How about we don't fight? I don't want my kids having the same childhood that i had..." like bestie that is manipulative af and doesn't work 9/10 times. Thanks dad for making me think manipulation is normal, should've been a mama's girl.
Me and my friend group either daddy issues or mommy issues so we all tey to comfort each other but im really the therapist friend who lets everyone vent to me but not to anyone else
i dont have a bad dad, he never had a father figure himself growing up, he loved me and i love him, i feel guilty, we never spent time together, im not gonna jump to self diagnosis but i have a very short attention span, i need something to fidget with constantly so i would constantly pick at skin or my nails with anything sharp nearby, i want to spend time with him, i really do, i dont wanna make the same mistake he did, but i cant help but have to feel like i owe him, i need to fidget which makes me feel like im not spending the time i have with him enough, i hope he sees this somehow bc i have no way of explaining to him how i feel and this is kinda the best explanation i have, i feel guilty
y'know my dad never left me. or beat me or anything like that, but he ruined my life. he yells at me for crying and says stuff like "stop being a crybaby" or "i'll give you a reason to cry" i mean people have it way worse so why do i feel this way?.. someone explain please cuz it sucks
There are different types of pain, but no pain is more greater or least than any other pain. If you are struggling, it is still valid and I am sorry you are going through that. :C
My baba left us my brother my mama and me for another girl and it really hurts that we were never important for him and i really thought that my family was perfect and slowly im falling apart and it breaks me down that my mama is always crying and he doesnt even feel guilty that he did this to us 😭😖
I wish i could have a dad. Bad or good. Really just a man looking at me i still thinking about him. Smiling at me ? Dude my heart his breaking with love
I remember when I was 10. My dad was obsessed with me being the best in math, but I wasn't. I loved math but because of him, he made me hate it. I was 10. When he made me do an excercice and yelling at me and stopping me from eating dinner with the rest of my family because I couldnt solve it.
my granny recently passed away and well my dad and mom were never there for me growing ...they kinda abandoned me i lived with my grandparents i love my grandpa very very much but i wasn't that close to him. i was very close to my granny i told her almost everything but after covid i dont know what got into me i behaved bery rudely to my granny but then she got sick i got worried she wouldn't talk nor eat nor walk i was praying to god almost every dad to make her well i really regretted the fact i wasn't a good kid for her and was rude to her ...i just wished she got well nothing more..i just wanted her no one else if it was just me and her it would'nt matter ... but she passed away i can't imagine a life without.. it's like i can't even believe she's not with me anymore ..i have my relatives that help me rn but it's just my granny ..i was comfortable with her the way i was with no one..she was the only person who constantly worried about me...when i was out it just hurt that she's not with me anymore i can't even process anything now ..i can't live without her ...but i know i can't left my grandpa.. every one is now pressuring me that i have to take care off every thing and my grandpa no one no one comferted me ....not even my grandpa...no one ask me if i was ok or do i need to vent ..no one..no one hugged me and said it's gonna be alright I'm here..
Like sometimes I don't feel like my feeling are valid beacuse these people went through so much and honestly I feel like I am overreacting but I know I am not but that irritating feeling-
It's not fair my dad left me when I was 3 and when me and my sisters see him we try to get a warm loving hug all he did to me was pat me on the back and almost broke down crying 😭🤡😃
0:33 Those type of moments make me cry every time i see a moment like that i burst into tears WISHING MY FATHER WAS THERE FOR ME LIKE THAT WISHING HE CARED ABOUT ME WISHING HE WAS THERE FOR ME EMOTIONALLY THE WAY I COPE WITH THAT IS BY MAKING JOKES ABOUT THAT WHEN DEEP DOWN I JUST WANT HIM TO HUG ME AND SHIW LOVE AND AFFECTION
When I was with my friend and holding his hand I was holding his finger, told me why I did that... I didn't say I had daddy issues cuz maybe he'd leave me...
i wish i had a dad that treated me nicely bc yk what he called me a HOE and a WHORE and he pushed me on the the floor and got a stick to hit me on the head just bc i went out to get food for my little brother now i have brusies bc of him
My dad thinks because he whooped us (My sister and brother) as children means he can control us with that. He's right, he raised his voice and his hand. He never slapped me though. He threatened to. I have a sister who is older by a few weeks and a brother who is younger by 5 years. All of us have different moms. My siblings moms are difficult, and didn't want to give him custody at all. I still see them though, he fought. He fought hard, which is respectable I guess. Even though they're there sometimes im still there more. Im the middle kid, and im there the most. Which means I have most of the responsibilities, and he expects more from me then he does them. I have to get good grades, I have to be nice, I have to be obedient, I have to be flawless. I can't complain, I can't yell, I can't get angry, I can't hit, I can't act out, I can't do anything against him, I can't rebel, I can't have too many male friends, I can't ever lie. I must always tell the truth, I must always listen, I must always stay in line, I must always do what he says, I must always help, I must do chores even if my siblings don't have too, I must do everything. But I get blamed for everything, I get blamed for not doing the dishes even if they're not mine, I get blamed for forgetting something, I get blamed if I forget a chore, I get blamed for being too loud even if its not me. I get yelled at for doing something the wrong way, I get yelled at for an accident, I get yelled at for knocking something over, I get yelled at for being me. I'm not allowed to ever love the same gender as me, I must love and pray to god, I can't cry over something "small," I have to be outstanding and exceed expectations. I must always forgive. I can't ever be me. God forbid I love the same gender as me. Or go to a pride fest. Or ever think about being part of "those people." (Lgbtq people) I have to watch video's of people explaining how singers make deals with the devil for fame. Celebrities who sold their souls. Why I should never be an actress because I would have to sell my soul, and its not what I want. Why can't he ever let me be me? Why am I not good enough? I get good grades. I do everything he tells me too. I go to the store with him, I go to my little brothers games and tournaments. I'm happy, and never ever act out. I wish I could just tell him Im bisexual. I wish I didn't have his anger. I wish he understood why I go to therapy. I wish he would stop asking what I talk about in therapy. I wish he would just love me for me. Im twelve years old.
honey i’m so sorry. you don’t deserve any of that especially considering how young you are. i’m so terribly sorry, and i’m so proud of you for dealing with that. you deserve so much better. i hope things get better ml. ❤
Im actually so not trusted to my dad I realized I had a nightmare of him and was scared of him just because of a dream and I’m so scared of him too when he’s drunk one time he came over to our house and was drunk he sat on me and thought it was funny it didn’t hurt but I was scared.
The thing is my dad didn't leave us we had to leave him 👇He is👇(and did) 1.abusive 2.alcoholic 3.didn't feed us 4.Didn't bathe us I wish he would be here I see these dads with there daughters I remember he called me princess now hes calling another kid princess I thought I was his princess.I want my dad to bring me down the aisle not my mom or my brothers my dad.I want my dad to be there when I have a child,a house,for my first car I just wanna have him back not who is I want him before. I told someone about this my ex bsf told everyone I got bullied I cut my self in homeschooled now. I just want my dad to call me princess again.
I have had 2 dads, my bio dad, I only knew him for 4-5 years of my life before something happened and now I have no contact, he now lives in England and I’m pretty sure he was kids. I only have few memories of him, until recently I realised I don’t remember his face (I was given a picture of him, his face was barely visible though.) and my step-dad, who is the dad to my younger sister. i thought of him as my dad after awhile (i knew he wasn’t ‘actually’ my dad and for awhile I just used his name. they fought a lot, usually over stupid things, a few over me and my sister. I don’t think that counts as trauma, because they only fought. either way, they broke up nearly 6 years ago (?) and some other stuff happened and I stopped going over to his on weekends. I remember my mam telling me to stop calling him ‘dad’, for some reason that annoyed me, I did it anyway. im older now and don’t have a relationship with him anymore, just small hi(s) when I see him collecting my sister on his weekends and sometimes i feel like no one knows that I felt like I lost a dad, again. if that makes sense, I’ve never really talked about it, only jokes and stuff, but me and my mam have never really had a conversation about it, only barely about my bio dad. I don’t know, I feel like I don’t ‘deserve’ to miss him, maybe it’s the fact that he was four kids and I’m the only one who’s not blood related him or that I *choose* to stop seeing him. idk. it’s confusing. anyways thanks for coming to my ted talk.
Signs i have -daddy issues- Over -sexualizing- myself Imagine im being r@p3d Attraction in older men (im 15 and i like guys who are 27) -Jealous- Rude Depression
I hate my dad so freaking much. He put his “friend” and her kids before me he has known her for 2 weeks. I’m 11 and going through this. He has known me for 11 years and he puts this girl before me. I just miss when we went on daddy daughter days I miss those days but those days stopped 6 years ago. My mom’s boyfriend could be a better dad than my real dad. If my mom gets married to him I want his last name to. I would rather a funny, nice, cool guy for my mom than a guy that yells at her for being “ lazy “ when she does all the stuff around the house. When me or my brother asks to help with dishes or something else like yard work or laundry she would say no bc she wants to be a good mom and let me and my brother relax from all this divorce stuff. I hate my father for what he did but I miss him so much….
This comment it’s for the people with dads that worked away all the time why can people not understand the trauma it leaves us with yes i had a dad but he was so absent in my life I never got to see him and ppl will truly never understand unless they’ve been through it how much it rly affects u it felt like I didn’t even know him he didn’t even know me he was away all week then on a weekend it was rare I got to see him then it hurts sm cause ppl always sit n say Atleast u had a dad but I didn’t or atleast he didn’t feel like a dad to me it didn’t feel like he even cared for any of me or my siblings he was so distant he was like a stranger that u run into every once in awhile so yeah we may have grew up with a dad but he was never present emotionally or physically nor did he even try to be and I feel like I can’t validate my feelings cause Atleast I got to see him and I knew ppl had it worse I don’t even know how to describe it..
He wasn’t an alcoholic he didn’t do drugs he could be abusive but ppl had it worse he just wasn’t there emotionally or physically and no one will ever understand the pain and hurt it caused and still causes for ppl like us
When I was younger I used to have a very physical and mental @busive dad when I was growing up and he just is mentally abusive but it hurts me still a lot my mom is gone half of my life I happy I see her a few hours every week I had to buy stuff for school before and I worked very hard …Ik I have daddy issues to I got a F in a class and now I’m scared when my teacher tells them when conference come I didn’t like any men but one online one I think I’m starting to like him he is a nice man my other friend that are man are mean this one said he liked my voice I never had that compliment before it hurts thinking of it bc idk if he likes me Ik he meant he liked my voice I don’t like my voice but he made me blush and made me happy I felt something turn on in me my irl self don’t sound like my voice I’m fat ugly I have to much acne to my friends are so pretty but I’m not
Maybe a little, but I've found that certain aspects of having these issues are harder to come to terms with (especially because I have c-ptsd, which makes it hard to think about the events). The definition of romanticizing, however, is to make something seem better or more appealing than it is, and none of these do that. You may be confusing them with some people who are using dark humor to cope, but could you tell me which ones are 'romanticizing' it?
… he wasn’t a bad dad. at least he wasn’t as far as little me knew. god. i used to be a daddy’s girl. why can’t i go back. i hate him. but. i love him. i don’t get why he had to do that. and doing it FOR YEARS. and little me thought i was safe. but no. he did it to my step sister. and didn’t think of how it would affect everyone.
if you are reading this just remember god loves you, jesus loves you and remember the world hated them first so if you feel like everyone hates you just remember that they are they for you❤❤🙏✝️
Vent bc I have to go to court August 22 ( AT 9 FUCKING AM) and testify against my "dad" and hope and pray my mom gets full custody and if she does we're moving to Spain bc that's where her boyfriend lives. I currently live in Erie pa and I've lived here all my life and I don't know what to do. If she wins we're moving, and if she loses (which ik she won't bc we have a ton of shit to use against him) I have to live with an abusive ahoholic and I will actually unlive myself. And also lord farquad (that's what we call him bc he looks and acts like him) gave me PTSD, depression, and anxiety. I was tested im not faking it. I have attempted suicide over a dozen times and I'm this close 👌🏼to attempting again. Also I have 4 siblings. And I'm the middle. The ages are 20F 16F 13F(me) 10M and 7F. I was one the caretakers of my younger sibs I did all of the cooking the 20 year old did all of the cleaning and the 16 year old helped them with their school work. We all have to testify in court except for the 7 year old bc shes in the younger side. I am on meds and they're helping a little but I need to be in a mental health hospital. My mom is a piece of shit too but not as much as lord farquad. She is controlling and manipulative. Idk what to do someone help🙃
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I dislike it when some of my friends say that they don't want to have a dad or they compare their problems to mine bcs I don't have a dad. They say "You're so lucky" bffr. I hate it when my friends tell me abt how much their father loves them, knowing that I never experienced that. I dislike seeing other ppl spending time with their father. It's not fair and ppl still call me sensitive for crying everytime someone mentions abt my dad.
It makes sense from both angles. As someone with a less than terrific "dad" (gets angry and violent at a pin drop, but doesn't care enough to learn anything about you but your insecurities to later make fun of them and then gets angry when you're upset), I really wish he wasn't there. He's awful to his wife, his kids, and I (I don't consider him my father anymore). But if someone keeps saying it after you've told them why it makes you upset, that's crappy. Both feelings are valid, but sometimes there's a time and a place to express your hatred for your dad. Don't be friends with them anymore, would be my best advice. They clearly don't care about you.
"Youre so lucky" screw those bitches man they dont know
Been there
I have a dad but not a great one
U want him ? Take him he comes with a free package of trauma
you know the kind of daddy issues I have?
The one where my father acts nice around me , but he does things to my mom.
I experience same
I have major daddy issues, and I get -Jealous- of people who has good relationship with their Dad tbh
my whole friend group has different issues with our parents, i have a verbally abusive dad, another has a verbally and physically abusive dad, another just has mommy issues, one doesn’t have a dad and their mom was on drugs
i hope everyone stays safe and has a great day/night, i love u and im proud of u
Thanks sm ! And I don't know you, but I know that you're doing so well with that thing in your life, that thing you don't share with anyone❤️
0:46 felt that a lil too much
Same
me too yall💔
ik i didn't think it was a normal thing-
I was a daddy's girl too :) I wish I was still..
Always been a mommy´s girl:)
But used to love him...
same. but now i love my mother more
I don't know why I'm watching this crying so hard, it all breaks my heart
Extreme Level Hundred Daddy issues :
Imaginations of bieng raped
Having porn addiction to father and daughter vids or brother and sister vids or male teacher and female student vid.
Thinking ur male teacher likes you and pays more attention to you
Bieng jealous when your male teacher pays attetion to another student
Bieng attracted to older men
Lying about your age to older man
Blaming your mom for not bieng able to keep a man
I relate to this a bit too much
god damn. i relate to this way more than i should
I really relate to this... It's scaring me...
I have daddy issues where my dad has said horrible things about my sister behind her back and he has also told her bad things. He told her once that she is only causing misery in the house by venting. He also hit her and threw her against the wall once, right infront of me when I was 4. He yells at me and my sister constantly, and my mom knows about all of this and disagrees with it, yet she refuses to divorce. My dad is starting to change, but I still refuse to trust him after all of that. I always just assume the worst of him now. Some parents need to know how much these actions can affect a child’s trust, behavior, and life.
edit: also, I’m pretty sure he traumatized me a bit too. Now everytime someone raises their voice, I tear up or start crying.
oml me too, even at teh hint of anger i start to cry
I dont have a dad and i get really jealous that right now im seeing so much of my cousins spending so much time with their dads i just feel so empty
My dad. He makes me sooo mad. When I was little he would drink and take drugs and just be terrible. Mom finally divorced him right then and yelled at him to get out of her house. I'm so proud of her. He still texts me- every 6 months or so when he remembers me.
when you have mommy and daddy issues…:
Oh poor eva.. you deserve good parents. They dont deserve you. Sending hugs
@@inMyVillainArc69 Thank you a lot 🫶🏻 I have nobody but i have you :)
@@luvlyxraexpeyton yes. You have me. You can vent here all the time ;)
@@inMyVillainArc69 i’m sorry the wink face mad me uncomfortable so i won’t be venting to you. ever..
@@luvlyxraexpeyton oh okay, i‘m sorry. I love using it tho. I would have listened to you, but nevermind
I’m crying and I don’t like this feeling
0:50 can comfirm, ive always felt ashamed of it, and i still do
I know my dad loves me. But he hurts me a lot sometimes.
It sucks how I’m used to my dad yelling so now when I want something I don’t get it thinking he’s gonna yell I just don’t wanna go back.
The neighborhood is such abusive household music ngl
The way i realized how fucked up i am when i looked back at younger me telling myself that if i have a partner and we fight, i would say "How about we don't fight? I don't want my kids having the same childhood that i had..." like bestie that is manipulative af and doesn't work 9/10 times. Thanks dad for making me think manipulation is normal, should've been a mama's girl.
Me and my friend group either daddy issues or mommy issues so we all tey to comfort each other but im really the therapist friend who lets everyone vent to me but not to anyone else
i don't wanna live bc of my dad....
i dont have a bad dad, he never had a father figure himself growing up, he loved me and i love him, i feel guilty, we never spent time together, im not gonna jump to self diagnosis but i have a very short attention span, i need something to fidget with constantly so i would constantly pick at skin or my nails with anything sharp nearby, i want to spend time with him, i really do, i dont wanna make the same mistake he did, but i cant help but have to feel like i owe him, i need to fidget which makes me feel like im not spending the time i have with him enough, i hope he sees this somehow bc i have no way of explaining to him how i feel and this is kinda the best explanation i have, i feel guilty
y'know my dad never left me. or beat me or anything like that, but he ruined my life. he yells at me for crying and says stuff like "stop being a crybaby" or "i'll give you a reason to cry" i mean people have it way worse so why do i feel this way?.. someone explain please cuz it sucks
There are different types of pain, but no pain is more greater or least than any other pain. If you are struggling, it is still valid and I am sorry you are going through that. :C
My baba left us my brother my mama and me for another girl and it really hurts that we were never important for him and i really thought that my family was perfect and slowly im falling apart and it breaks me down that my mama is always crying and he doesnt even feel guilty that he did this to us 😭😖
I have both, daddy issues and mommy issues.
This video got me crying bc I relate so much-
I never met my dad and I have a stepdad but he stopped caring about me after I was 9
I wish i could have a dad. Bad or good. Really just a man looking at me i still thinking about him. Smiling at me ? Dude my heart his breaking with love
I remember when I was 10. My dad was obsessed with me being the best in math, but I wasn't. I loved math but because of him, he made me hate it. I was 10. When he made me do an excercice and yelling at me and stopping me from eating dinner with the rest of my family because I couldnt solve it.
my granny recently passed away and well my dad and mom were never there for me growing ...they kinda abandoned me i lived with my grandparents i love my grandpa very very much but i wasn't that close to him. i was very close to my granny i told her almost everything but after covid i dont know what got into me i behaved bery rudely to my granny but then she got sick i got worried she wouldn't talk nor eat nor walk i was praying to god almost every dad to make her well i really regretted the fact i wasn't a good kid for her and was rude to her ...i just wished she got well nothing more..i just wanted her no one else if it was just me and her it would'nt matter ... but she passed away i can't imagine a life without.. it's like i can't even believe she's not with me anymore ..i have my relatives that help me rn but it's just my granny ..i was comfortable with her the way i was with no one..she was the only person who constantly worried about me...when i was out it just hurt that she's not with me anymore i can't even process anything now ..i can't live without her ...but i know i can't left my grandpa.. every one is now pressuring me that i have to take care off every thing and my grandpa no one no one comferted me ....not even my grandpa...no one ask me if i was ok or do i need to vent ..no one..no one hugged me and said it's gonna be alright I'm here..
ik it’s three months later but how is everything going? i’m here if you need to talk
No wonder im so cold-hearted got it from him.
0:38 explains everything
I'm in my room sh ing myself as my parents yell at each other outside about my dad cheating on my but are still together just because of me.
3:27 is too relatable… :(
I can never imagine myself getting married in front of my dad like- just no
0:46 real.
my dad offering to bring me out to go do something but I already know the next day hes gonna scream at me for no reason !!
Like sometimes I don't feel like my feeling are valid beacuse these people went through so much and honestly I feel like I am overreacting but I know I am not but that irritating feeling-
My dad calls me a whore for wearing makeup but yells at me that no boys will love me when I don’t. There’s no winning.
I hate how ppl are sexualizing daddy issues
My younger cousins dad killed mine and now she goes to my school she is a 4th grader and I say hi everyday and act like it didn't happen.
0:25.. that hurt something inside me broke-
It's not fair my dad left me when I was 3 and when me and my sisters see him we try to get a warm loving hug all he did to me was pat me on the back and almost broke down crying 😭🤡😃
my dad didn’t even leave yknow just going around acting like he didn’t SA me
0:33
Those type of moments make me cry every time i see a moment like that i burst into tears WISHING MY FATHER WAS THERE FOR ME LIKE THAT WISHING HE CARED ABOUT ME WISHING HE WAS THERE FOR ME EMOTIONALLY THE WAY I COPE WITH THAT IS BY MAKING JOKES ABOUT THAT WHEN DEEP DOWN I JUST WANT HIM TO HUG ME AND SHIW LOVE AND AFFECTION
0:45 😭💯
My dad threatened to kill me and break my legs
When I was with my friend and holding his hand I was holding his finger, told me why I did that... I didn't say I had daddy issues cuz maybe he'd leave me...
i wish i had a dad that treated me nicely bc yk what he called me a HOE and a WHORE and he pushed me on the the floor and got a stick to hit me on the head just bc i went out to get food for my little brother now i have brusies bc of him
3:35 my arms be like
0:36 this
My dad thinks because he whooped us (My sister and brother) as children means he can control us with that. He's right, he raised his voice and his hand. He never slapped me though. He threatened to. I have a sister who is older by a few weeks and a brother who is younger by 5 years. All of us have different moms. My siblings moms are difficult, and didn't want to give him custody at all. I still see them though, he fought. He fought hard, which is respectable I guess. Even though they're there sometimes im still there more. Im the middle kid, and im there the most. Which means I have most of the responsibilities, and he expects more from me then he does them. I have to get good grades, I have to be nice, I have to be obedient, I have to be flawless. I can't complain, I can't yell, I can't get angry, I can't hit, I can't act out, I can't do anything against him, I can't rebel, I can't have too many male friends, I can't ever lie. I must always tell the truth, I must always listen, I must always stay in line, I must always do what he says, I must always help, I must do chores even if my siblings don't have too, I must do everything. But I get blamed for everything, I get blamed for not doing the dishes even if they're not mine, I get blamed for forgetting something, I get blamed if I forget a chore, I get blamed for being too loud even if its not me. I get yelled at for doing something the wrong way, I get yelled at for an accident, I get yelled at for knocking something over, I get yelled at for being me. I'm not allowed to ever love the same gender as me, I must love and pray to god, I can't cry over something "small," I have to be outstanding and exceed expectations. I must always forgive. I can't ever be me. God forbid I love the same gender as me. Or go to a pride fest. Or ever think about being part of "those people." (Lgbtq people) I have to watch video's of people explaining how singers make deals with the devil for fame. Celebrities who sold their souls. Why I should never be an actress because I would have to sell my soul, and its not what I want. Why can't he ever let me be me? Why am I not good enough? I get good grades. I do everything he tells me too. I go to the store with him, I go to my little brothers games and tournaments. I'm happy, and never ever act out. I wish I could just tell him Im bisexual. I wish I didn't have his anger. I wish he understood why I go to therapy. I wish he would stop asking what I talk about in therapy. I wish he would just love me for me. Im twelve years old.
honey i’m so sorry. you don’t deserve any of that especially considering how young you are. i’m so terribly sorry, and i’m so proud of you for dealing with that. you deserve so much better. i hope things get better ml. ❤
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im not even in my double digits and i have to make my own food and i have adhd to :( and i cant stop cutting…
2:45 My friends and me fr..
Ok. But like....
THE FIRST ONE IS MY WHOLE FUCKING CHILDHOOD
sorry for my language
0:45 I can very much relate too..
Im actually so not trusted to my dad I realized I had a nightmare of him and was scared of him just because of a dream and I’m so scared of him too when he’s drunk one time he came over to our house and was drunk he sat on me and thought it was funny it didn’t hurt but I was scared.
The thing is my dad didn't leave us we had to leave him
👇He is👇(and did)
1.abusive
2.alcoholic
3.didn't feed us
4.Didn't bathe us
I wish he would be here I see these dads with there daughters I remember he called me princess now hes calling another kid princess I thought I was his princess.I want my dad to bring me down the aisle not my mom or my brothers my dad.I want my dad to be there when I have a child,a house,for my first car I just wanna have him back not who is I want him before. I told someone about this my ex bsf told everyone I got bullied I cut my self in homeschooled now. I just want my dad to call me princess again.
Craving male attention because daddy issues
I have had 2 dads, my bio dad, I only knew him for 4-5 years of my life before something happened and now I have no contact, he now lives in England and I’m pretty sure he was kids. I only have few memories of him, until recently I realised I don’t remember his face (I was given a picture of him, his face was barely visible though.)
and my step-dad, who is the dad to my younger sister. i thought of him as my dad after awhile (i knew he wasn’t ‘actually’ my dad and for awhile I just used his name. they fought a lot, usually over stupid things, a few over me and my sister. I don’t think that counts as trauma, because they only fought. either way, they broke up nearly 6 years ago (?) and some other stuff happened and I stopped going over to his on weekends. I remember my mam telling me to stop calling him ‘dad’, for some reason that annoyed me, I did it anyway.
im older now and don’t have a relationship with him anymore, just small hi(s) when I see him collecting my sister on his weekends and sometimes i feel like no one knows that I felt like I lost a dad, again. if that makes sense, I’ve never really talked about it, only jokes and stuff, but me and my mam have never really had a conversation about it, only barely about my bio dad. I don’t know, I feel like I don’t ‘deserve’ to miss him, maybe it’s the fact that he was four kids and I’m the only one who’s not blood related him or that I *choose* to stop seeing him. idk. it’s confusing. anyways thanks for coming to my ted talk.
Signs i have -daddy issues-
Over -sexualizing- myself
Imagine im being r@p3d
Attraction in older men (im 15 and i like guys who are 27)
-Jealous-
Rude
Depression
same. the 3rd one i relate to even though i shouldnt
Bro my dad will say I’m bombing my grades because I have 1 C
I hate my dad so freaking much. He put his “friend” and her kids before me he has known her for 2 weeks. I’m 11 and going through this. He has known me for 11 years and he puts this girl before me. I just miss when we went on daddy daughter days I miss those days but those days stopped 6 years ago. My mom’s boyfriend could be a better dad than my real dad. If my mom gets married to him I want his last name to. I would rather a funny, nice, cool guy for my mom than a guy that yells at her for being “ lazy “ when she does all the stuff around the house. When me or my brother asks to help with dishes or something else like yard work or laundry she would say no bc she wants to be a good mom and let me and my brother relax from all this divorce stuff. I hate my father for what he did but I miss him so much….
1:54 my dad
3:27 does anyone know what website that is??
Fatal to the flesh
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0:35 real
This comment it’s for the people with dads that worked away all the time why can people not understand the trauma it leaves us with yes i had a dad but he was so absent in my life I never got to see him and ppl will truly never understand unless they’ve been through it how much it rly affects u it felt like I didn’t even know him he didn’t even know me he was away all week then on a weekend it was rare I got to see him then it hurts sm cause ppl always sit n say Atleast u had a dad but I didn’t or atleast he didn’t feel like a dad to me it didn’t feel like he even cared for any of me or my siblings he was so distant he was like a stranger that u run into every once in awhile so yeah we may have grew up with a dad but he was never present emotionally or physically nor did he even try to be and I feel like I can’t validate my feelings cause Atleast I got to see him and I knew ppl had it worse I don’t even know how to describe it..
He wasn’t an alcoholic he didn’t do drugs he could be abusive but ppl had it worse he just wasn’t there emotionally or physically and no one will ever understand the pain and hurt it caused and still causes for ppl like us
When I was younger I used to have a very physical and mental @busive dad when I was growing up and he just is mentally abusive but it hurts me still a lot my mom is gone half of my life I happy I see her a few hours every week I had to buy stuff for school before and I worked very hard …Ik I have daddy issues to I got a F in a class and now I’m scared when my teacher tells them when conference come I didn’t like any men but one online one I think I’m starting to like him he is a nice man my other friend that are man are mean this one said he liked my voice I never had that compliment before it hurts thinking of it bc idk if he likes me Ik he meant he liked my voice I don’t like my voice but he made me blush and made me happy I felt something turn on in me my irl self don’t sound like my voice I’m fat ugly I have to much acne to my friends are so pretty but I’m not
Some of these feel like romanitizing daddy issues
Maybe a little, but I've found that certain aspects of having these issues are harder to come to terms with (especially because I have c-ptsd, which makes it hard to think about the events). The definition of romanticizing, however, is to make something seem better or more appealing than it is, and none of these do that. You may be confusing them with some people who are using dark humor to cope, but could you tell me which ones are 'romanticizing' it?
How is everyone?
… he wasn’t a bad dad. at least he wasn’t as far as little me knew. god. i used to be a daddy’s girl. why can’t i go back. i hate him. but. i love him. i don’t get why he had to do that. and doing it FOR YEARS. and little me thought i was safe. but no. he did it to my step sister. and didn’t think of how it would affect everyone.
if you are reading this just remember god loves you, jesus loves you and remember the world hated them first so if you feel like everyone hates you just remember that they are they for you❤❤🙏✝️
Vent bc I have to go to court August 22 ( AT 9 FUCKING AM) and testify against my "dad" and hope and pray my mom gets full custody and if she does we're moving to Spain bc that's where her boyfriend lives. I currently live in Erie pa and I've lived here all my life and I don't know what to do. If she wins we're moving, and if she loses (which ik she won't bc we have a ton of shit to use against him) I have to live with an abusive ahoholic and I will actually unlive myself. And also lord farquad (that's what we call him bc he looks and acts like him) gave me PTSD, depression, and anxiety. I was tested im not faking it. I have attempted suicide over a dozen times and I'm this close 👌🏼to attempting again. Also I have 4 siblings. And I'm the middle. The ages are 20F 16F 13F(me) 10M and 7F. I was one the caretakers of my younger sibs I did all of the cooking the 20 year old did all of the cleaning and the 16 year old helped them with their school work. We all have to testify in court except for the 7 year old bc shes in the younger side. I am on meds and they're helping a little but I need to be in a mental health hospital. My mom is a piece of shit too but not as much as lord farquad. She is controlling and manipulative. Idk what to do someone help🙃
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Daddy issues by neighbourhood
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