Hey, Dan, I've never seen Joel have an actual meltdown when we video chat, but I've seen him become get very agitated because of a Political company calling him constantly. When he's agitated, he signs hard and fast and slams his hand on his bed. Dan, I try my best to calm him down and say, ' Baby, calm down, it'll be okay. Talk to your Mom and get her to take care of it. With him being deaf, these Political companies calls him on video phone and he gets agitated easy. I do what I can to help him. Most importantly, be here for him. I love him. Thank you do much for making these videos. God bless you.
The Aspie World i start my formal autism evaluation on saturday. I moved last week so im having to reinvent my systems and recreate my ruteins but everyting feels upside down and out of place.
Yes, I also need to be held. Some of us need to be held, and some of us can’t stand the touch. When I’m having a meltdown I just crave for arms to hold me tight
Cosmic Weirdo absolutely! The worst way to calm someone during meltdown: 1. Being yelled and screamed at by your partner 2. Being told to calm down (in a angry abusive way). Verbal abuse never helps calm a person who is having a crying meltdown or anxiety attack.
As a 33 year old woman I am beyond humiliated I have these and nobody knows. My dad made fun of me today for it. He's a lot older than I am ..He's 83...so I get it..but I feel alone . I've always been alone. 33 and fighting this by myself for this long...I'm tired -_-...
@@TheAspieWorld thank you! Really! I had my mom sit down and watch a lot of you're videos just now . I also regularly share you're stuff on Facebook hoping someone will get it without telling them this is me because like I said I'm to embarrassed
I took me SO LONG to realize when someone asked me for a ride randomly that it caused me to have a meltdown. Like if I know the night before I'm okay, but if it's last minute it makes me so irrationally angry.
I never liked rides, rollercoasters and when I was expecting, I felt the speed of one of those fast trains more, I now feel nervous when going into them ..
I find that happens when I am over-tired (rambling - I rarely have meltdowns because I walk away, pet the horses, do gardening or chores, or watch a video = anything to derail the overwhelm.)
I literally just stop myself from breathing and let my face turn red, then I quickly exhale all the air out of my lungs, then inhale. Not healthy or safe at all imo, but it's the best, most effective method for calming myself down I've ever known.
Actually sensory overloads have rarely lead to meltdowns for me. Occasionally they may contribute to shutdowns. The overloads for me are always about emotions, other people, myself and relationships. I might feel hurt or upset and everything that all people have said to me in life eventually gets too much.
I’m crying because this video finally gave me clarity as to why I have intense moments where I hit myself, pull my hair, or punch things when I just feel overloaded.
Yep, same here. And everyone has just told me I'm an asshole/brat, etc my whole life who know one is ever going to love. What a bunch of fucking idiots
Whenever I have a meltdown I always try to hold it in because i always think people don't understand, even if my dad has Asperger's. It hurts alot and I have to go to my room most of the time to let it all out.
Yeah it’s not a nice thing so I can totally understand that!! Heyy I have a free autism coping secrets master class you can watch it here: www.copingsecrets.com/masterclass Thank you so much for the comment! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).
I have autism, and I become very irate when people argue, often times to the point where I will scream and hit my head, and will also punch doors, walls, or myself and break things.
Oh, my God! I hate it wen people argue. The anger I feel from them is too overwhelming and I have no choice but to leave the room. My body physically cannot take it.
My son is breaking down things around him since childhood, he is now adult, still the same. He is supper intelligent. He still lives with me at 43. It is hurting me, so much to see his anger. I do not know what to do. I may say something and see him so much upset.
I used to end up breaking things (oof bad I know) but now I usually end up pulling my hair and punching my leg lmao. I enjoy watching your videos and realizing I'm not alone. Didn't realize I was autistic until I was 19 (this year) but I've always suspected it. Everything makes so much more sense now.
I have a tendency of it gets really bad of punching myself in the head. Legs too, but my skull is whe it gets really severe... Happens maybe once every two years.
I had to quit my last job cause I was severely sleep deprived for extended periods of time. I don't think I'll ever be able to sleep on a reliable schedule but I hope we get there one day!
Many of my friends are autistic. I have many similar signs, but have been diagnosed with ADHD and not Autism. I get sensory overload a lot when I go out, but it usually causes intense dissociation, so I don't outwardly react much.
I have Asperger's but I've only had a few real meltdowns in my adult life, though I'm familiar with the feeling of being overloaded - I'm usually ok once I've had some quiet time to process. I also try to plan well enough to avoid being caught off guard, as you say.
my daughter hits her self, or plugs her ears. I Stimm, a LOT when I'm getting to that meltdown point. I use to cry, or go inside myself, now I fidget with my clothes, or say "Oh my" my college professor taught me how to use the two Stimms instead of not speaking or interacting, crying or getting real mad. Problem is, its kinda hard to explain to everyone on Earth why I say "Oh my" when I get triggered. Good part is, less people notice, so I don't feel as weird in public.
My ex wife would make fun of me. Tell me I’m Disgusting. All She would have to do is ask me why I’m Mad. Even if I wasn’t mad she would argue and push until I blew up then is usually say “woooow”. What the duck is wrong with you. I was usually having a good day up to that point but, I hope she isn’t, but she has several traits of narcissistic personality disorder. I would open up to her, I eventually stopped, but any trauma I went through she would torture me with until I would scream and punch the wall. A few times she was physically abusing me once I was smelting down. For me there is no pain at that point, so I would
I have aspergers and I manage my meltdown risk by using the things that calm me consciously each day. For me that's allowing time for myself to flap or stretch each day...I just think of that as being time to work the autism out of my bones and it's a relief like yawning. I find if I do it whenever I feel like it, it comforts me to know that I can always work out some of anxiety that way if I need to in an emergency. That's important for me because my worries have often taken the form of what will I do if there's an emergency and I can't be on my own or get home???!!! And sometimes I find new comforting movements by consciously indulging them! Other things I do...lots of bouncing on my rebounder. Listen to Chopin or Radiohead. Have a bath with epsom salts and essential oils. Holding fabric over my mouth. Wearing corsets (not such a good technique in summer as you get too hot!). Sticking to eating safe foods and bottled water throughout the day. CBD oil has really helped me too. It definitely takes the edge off my fried senses. ♡ I'm 45 this year and I would like to say to younger autistic people, you do learn to manage your life better over time and I have MASSIVELY less meltdowns now than I used to. It was something that would happen every 2 or 3 weeks. It's a good job I manage them better and avoid them more because these days they take me longer to recover from physically - I just feel the exhaustion so much more than when I was a kid!!!
I get the thing of getting into safe place if I get some kind of panic attack or something. And something I had especially when younger but still sometimes till this day I'd begin to worry if there is wc close to me do I can go somewhere to be behind closed doors without other people. On the worst cases it also turns my stomach upside down and I start to panic even more about wcs because last thing I want is to soil myself. This has caused very uncomfortable situations when I was in school and later in higher studies. Now I'm working in a place where I feel very comfortable so I don't get these attacks there and people there are aware of my condition and give me space to be weird as I do my job well anyway.
That's an important point. Sometimes you can be honest about autistic traits and people will be accomodating - which removes a massive amount of the anxiety! ♡ For me, one thing is carrying a bottle of evian around and everyone who knows me knows I drink water so it doesn't seem rude to them if I don't accept a drink they offer. That sort of acceptance is important because even if drinking a strange drink from a strange cup doesn't trigger a meltdown, it can be unnecessary stress for me. When I worked in a large office I was really lucky the person I sat with could tell if I can into work non verbal and he would talk to people who came over to me instead of me talking. Him doing that probably stopped me having a few meltdowns at work! ♡♡♡
Yes! It does get better. While I've only just recently started to learn language to describe what I was experiencing, over the years I have learned my own personal limits and I understand better now how to both prevent and deal with the occasional overload breakdown. Getting enough sleep and eating small meals more often instead of two large ones helps keep my system level. As does getting regular exercise.
I have meltdowns constantly. I was diagnosed last year and Im 27. Always thought I was crazy or broken... Cannabis seems to help/prevent meltdowns and help control how strong they are... I just get embarassed because I wish I could control them more. I really appreciate your videos. They help me feel like Im not some broken person. I know Im not but the feeling can be sometimes overwhelming... Your amazing. Thank you for helping people understand the spectrum ♡
This is the same with me,i was diagnosed a month ago with autisim andI have meltdowns all the time, especially in school and I have to focus all of my power onto not having a panic attack in front of everyone and them thinking that there is something wrong with me. It’s really hard to keep up this façade all the time...
Same, except mine starts with anger, screaming, and hitting things (objects) that hurt my ears. One of my triggers are loud roaring trucks. I have trouble sleeping because I have to hold my ears and put on an ASMR video. I definitely can't handle change. Yesterday, I had to quit two games I loved and played for years because of the stupid connection in the game doesn't work. If I get lost, driving, I end up in a meltdown. It happened when I with my friend in the car and got lost, and she had to calm me down and help us get back home. Props to her! Other than that, I'm suffering from noises. In public, I'm trying to hold it in and not meltdown in public like I did in 8th grade (crying, banging head). As an adult, in public, it's a "fight or flight" response. At home, it's meltdowns.. After so many meltdowns, I end up depressed and crying.. ;( Right now, I'm having a meltdown towards these roaring vehicles outside! I just can't take it! It's just every five seconds, "RRRRRRRRrrrrr.. " It's driving me crazy! >.
The Aspie World when you talked about it it seemed sketchy, also you could just be feeling good because of the placebo effect (I don't remember what it is called when it is not about placebos). There is also a possibility that it does just work (Though I think that is unlikely.
The Aspie World If you like it, keep it. Maybe it's more a spiritual thing then but humans do have a need for that and I think this need itself is somewhat scientifically proven at this point, as well as placebo and imagination excercises being able to have actual positive effects. If it worked for you, keep imagining it filters toxins from your blood and enjoy the power of the human mind aiding the body in whatever it actually does do.
The replies are true. The placebo effect is a scientifically proven phenomenon. I believe it's McGill university that was doing work with a simulated MRI machine to treat children with symptoms of anxiety, ADHD, and other behaviors. The children were actually told that the process was going to help them heal themselves--essentially told about the placebo effect. Even being told that it really wasn't the machine, the children all made remarkable improvement. So, basically, if something works, great! Go with it! 😊
There are numerous studies that show the placebo effect still works even when people are directly told it's only a placebo. ...so if I choose to believe that Oreos are medicinal no one can tell me otherwise!
About two months ago, my boyfriend had his first meltdown in front of me. He and I planned on spending an afternoon doing some bowling, but his little nephew came home early and started needing my boyfriend's attention. My boyfriend and I didn't get to leave his residence until late in the afternoon. Once we got to the bowling alley, it would have been a three hour wait for a lane. Instead, we headed back to his place to have dinner. Once we got back to his house he mumbled something under his breath and started to hit his head. The day didn't go as he would have liked for us. I reassured him that I was game to try again on our next date. But I reassured him his nephew should always have top priority and I can wait. Having backup plans and allowing room for predictable improvisation has earned me brownie points with my boyfriend. 😁
ILoveAstronomy your boyfriend sounds exactly like me, someone who has active meltdowns rather that passive. A bit like a child in a mans body who has temper tantrums. That is what I do when I meltdown so shame on me!!! Because I’m autistic is that no excuse? The cynical part of me is saying I hope you’ve left him since this comment because of his behaviour. I’ve never had a relationship and because I respect girls I wish to never get into a relationship with one because no one deserves to put up with my bad behaviour, so out of kindness and respect for them, I will accept I will always be alone, because I am 25 and too far gone down the line to change my meltdown behaviour! And yes I get jealous of other autistic people who act mature and are younger than me, because I know I will never be like them. Unfortunately I am the autistic person people will get to hate!! I have failed myself! That’s just life I’m afraid! 😡😡😡😢😢😢😢 am actually in meltdown writing this
My brother is an Aspie diagnosed in his mid 50s, I am his caregiver. He was totally misunderstood from birth, didn't walk or speak until age 3. I'm the younger sister, our much older sister is my source of information. Our parents took him everywhere and got no diagnosis. My mom did not know how to get him to do every day tasks, so he was always waited on constantly. He married a very controlling woman who told him when to breathe! When she passed away my mom got him back. He still feels entitled to be taken care of and tends to meltdown when I won't do certain things for him, or I'm late doing a task for him...like making up his pill cases. This is difficult because i just finished caring for our dad for 8 years. He had Alzheimer's disease. I'm tired and exhausted myself. I'm on full disability. I know this isn't true but sometimes I feel like he has a list of things that piss me off and try to accomplish at least 5 per day. Oddly enough i taught inclusion classes for 7 years with students on the autism spectrum. They didn't annoy me, my brother frequently does. Sigh, just keep going.
Even though it is hard to be a caregiver and not to mention challenging and exhausting... He is very lucky to have you. And he most likely has a hard time showing/expressing it. We are who we love and love is all. Stay strong, you're a blessing! Happy new year ;)
I haven’t been diagnosed. And i’m not self diagnosing... but i feel like i might have aspergers. I’ve been looking into it and realized how much of the “symptoms” apply to me. ... also had a meltdown today. ..
Same here! I'm having daily meltdowns and have every symptom, just haven't been diagnosed. Every doctor is convinced it's OCD, anxiety, PTSD and depression, but I feel at the bottom of my heart that I'm on the autism spectrum.
A video addressing meltdowns, thank you for making this. Folks have a lot of misunderstandings around meltdowns so thank you as always for your perspective!
Yes he does as we live in rural Queensland and there are no other options. It is difficult for him as his mind is about 10 but he is in classes with 15 or 16 year olds.
Thanks for your amazing videos. My son is on the spectrum and and I use your videos to help explain things for my family who struggle to understand my son. It’s taught me a lot too so thank you. Not sure you realise how much affect and help your videos have on lives xx
Tasha Lawrence me too Same situation & Dans videos really help me understand my sons condition. Were still in the beginning stages as he was just diagnosed 2 weeks ago so it’s all still new to us but now watching these videos a lot of it is making sense.
As someone with Autism, who has attempted to hide their emotions and meltdowns their entire life (not successfully I might add), I am grateful for further education and videos like yours. I am now able to discuss my experiences with people in my life. Thank you :)
I rarely have meltdowns as an autistic person, but when I do, they are rough, they can last for days, at school, embarrassing myself. My dad's side of the family don't believe I have Aspergers and think Dr Burg is rubbish at her job, which makes it even harder when I'm at my dad's having a meltdown. I want to spread awareness.
To be honest, having a family is my number one reason for overloads and melt-downs. I can handle up to two or three interruptions, when I (for example) learn, but when they just keep interrupting me, I get very angry. The strange thing is that my family as a whole has NEVER learned when it's better to just leave me alone. I can't understand that, because I show certain degrees of stress, and it would enable them to know when to stop bothering me. But they just keep on and on and on until I explode and then they seem to wonder what just happened LOL To me, this is just stupid. I explain that behaviour to myself with their less logical thinking (at least that's what it seems so me). If they were able to logically decide what they'd do, they surely wouldn't do that....I think...
Geez, wow, so I've been stimming, having trouble understanding social situations and cues, obsessing over certain things and being irrationally angry at so many things my entire life and I've always thought that I was crazy. I just two days ago found your videos and binge-watching them all I realize that I most likely am probably on the Autism spectrum. I had no idea because my parents apparently never saw anything off with my behaviour and often treated my weird stimming movements and meltdowns as me being a 'bad' kid. But they also had me when they were older and I have a chromosomal genetic mutation so that definitely makes me more likely to have something, I also had to go to speech therapy until I was 8 or so. I had no idea, but this made things so much clearer, I will have to see a specialist now, wow, thank you so much, you are so effective at educating, thank you.
I was diagnosed with AS when I about 4 yrs old. I went to therapy for it as a child but didn't as a adult. I was hoping that this would phase out over time, but recently I'm learning that's not the case. My "meltdowns" are caused by a load of stress and negative forces coming down on me all at once (for example stress at work, at home, plans ideas and dreams not coming together or being achieved etc.)
Some things we do with my son: We won’t necessarily avoid places, but if there’s some thing visual that bothers him, we will bring sunglasses. If there is a place with bouncy houses that has noisy fans, we will bring headphones and watch for when he might need to get out of there. Some of his triggers are quick visual changes, or taking some thing out of his hand. For the visual changes, I try to let him be in control of it. For example if it’s time to turn off the TV, me turning it off will sit off a meltdown. However if I give him the remote and show him which buttons to press, he is much calmer with that, even if he wants to still watch TV. For taking things out of his hands, I need to just be patient and let him struggle or try more to finish up what he is doing. Me stepping in and trying to take over or hurry him up, really stresses him out.
As a kid I hated prep assembly in school. It was so loud and I had no way to escape. My parents don't acknowledge anything is different about me, my dad says I live a lie told to me by the devil. I don't even know if I'm on the spectrum but I relate to all of the symptoms and I have had meltdowns. I have learned to look at all possibilities associated with any event to be prepared for change. It seems I came to this on my own just trying to survive. Thank you for all the knowledge you share.
I've been diagnosed Asperger last week and trying to learn myself and how I work better. I believe I have meltdowns, but I am not sure I am able to recognise them yet. All this is helpful, but how can I be sure I had a meltdown and not only a panic attack or a rage attack?
That's the problem I always had. I told my therapists I have panic attacks for years before knowing that the "panic attack" or even "rage attack" were indeed meltdowns(that's why I was so late diagnosed with asperger). because I had no fear for death while panicking and thats what i have been told so is the main thing of "panic attacks".. my language doesn't even have a word for "meltdown". So I looked at the triggers. Is there a pattern? In my case my triggers for example were/are specific noises; when I have to be in a group with more than 2 people for in my opinion long time; when I don't have the chance to go out of a situation in discussions. And all of them because of sensory overload. As a kid I cut myself then I bumped my head against walls etc. Wiggling for and back. And if you can't see yourself in this- it doesn't have to mean anything. We're all different. ^^ Maybe if some therapist asks you about panic attacks, ask him what a panic attack for them is or just tell them what you are doing while panicking. For me personally that's pretty hard to talk about and if you don't want to you don't have to
I worry for my grandson, aged 5. He's isolated at school whilst he tries to integrate into his classes (but he does have a fantastic support group), he only does half days. My heart just cries out for him and I need to know how to help.
I have a 21 year old son and he’s only just been diagnosed. He’s been having meltdowns his entire life. Until we got the diagnosis it was very hard to understand but when we saw the psychiatrist he told him what helps so now I do what he said. It really shortens the meltdown. Thanks for being so relatable and informative. :0)
I care for a five year old boy, an aspie. His mother works a lot, so I can give him some one on one time. I’m learning a lot from your videos. Thank you. I find that this little boy is still trying to identify his emotions and manage them for socially acceptable situations when he goes to school. I’ve grown close to him even though I’m not related. We have built a trust between us and he is opening up to me. At his age, I find that when he has a meltdown it’s generally when he’s very tired, or hungry, or bored. He allows me to hug him and I gently rock him and quietly talk to him with positive affirmations. I’ve learned to see the meltdown coming and quickly divert him to another activity. Sometimes he wants quiet time alone on his iPad to play a few games I downloaded for him. Other times , directing him outside to the garden(he has a vege plot ) or. water play for giggles. I have noticed he can’t cope if his mum has overloaded his schedule, or he has just spent the weekend with his father. I did discover that favourite foods do calm him down, so when you mentioned that I felt a warm feeling of accomplishment. I’m doing something right. I will also implement your other suggestions as well. Keep up the good work, you never know just who you’re reaching and providing a window of understanding and advice, not only to Aspies, but those who care for them.
I grew up in a emotionally abusive house and when I would have a meltdown, I would be held down on the floor until I calmed down. Now as an adult I have a personality disorder on top of asd, depression and severe anxiety. I unfortunately was not diagnosed until this year, I am 36.
I'm always curious as to how medical professionals define a personality disorder with a person who is also on 'the spectrum'. I mean being autistic presents as a personality disorder itself.
Thank you! My son’s friend just had a meltdown 45 mins ago and my son had one the other night. They were both listening to this video. I’m so thankful that my aspie has another aspie friend.
I have Asperger's and have had meltdowns my whole life. When I was a kid and teen I just had no control over it, it would suddenly start bubbling up and before I knew it I was beyond the point of no return. Now as an adult I'm usually self-aware enough that I can de-stress before it happens or at least get in a private space first, but sometimes it still happens in public. I'm 25 and I thought it was finally over because it had been over a year meltdown-free, but then I had one a couple months ago, full out screaming and rolling on the floor in front my friends, it was a humiliating and humbling experience. I tried to play it off as a joke but I don't think they were buying it.
I am in a new relationship with someone that has been diagnosed with aspergers. I love him very much and I will be there for him. no matter what. we are so in tune with each other and although i have not been diagnosed with aspergers, i have similar symptoms because of PTSD. He is amazing. .
I have Asperger's syndrome and the biggest meltdown I had was a few weeks ago and it was bad I was throwing stuff and crying while also banging my head a punching myself in the face and I'm 17 now that I think about it I am emberresed because of my meltdown.
I still do that now as an adult but it feels like an energy release now and feels good rather than like I'm actually sad or upset. Like energy builds up, I go have a crying fit and feel better
Great video Dan! I have asperger's and I tend to get meltdowns when situations don't go as planned, or when I have to socialize in loud and chaotic environments. I usually get headaches, or an urge to start scratching myself during these meltdowns . Thank you for helping me deal with them! Greetings from Brazil!!!
My 9 year old son has Aspergers, I have noticed his meltdowns increase in severity & quantity with age. I am desperate to help him so I greatly appreciate your videos. He tends to self harm so tips on reducing or preempting any meltdowns are invaluable! Thank you so much! I am so grateful I found your channel!
Crying with frustration at all the scientifically illiterate woo peddling at the start. I understood all the individual terms you are using, but when you put them together like that, none of what you said there means anything. But other than that it seemed like a great video, I could relate to a lot of the triggers. I've not hit things/myself since I was a little kid, but when I get overly stressed or stuff gets too much my arms lock up like I am forcing myself not to move them, they are shaking, it feels like a lot, but no one ever noticed, so maybe not. And it's like I'm not really me, I'm there, but my body is like a foreign machine thing that I am trying to control and whatever I was seeing was more like I was watching on tv screens very close to my eyes. My vision gets really bright, like when you reset the brightness on a game to see better in a cave, then come out into a brightly lit scene and everything seems to fade together and everything gets really grainy, like tv static is imposed on everything.
I don’t really have meltdowns I can control my aspergers thx to my mom. And my brain can control my emotions sometimes. If ai have meltdowns I get super angry and start clenching my fists.
courtney ballard I can tell you what do not work, my mother tried to force me to do stuff like looking in the eyes and walking with my head straight and it didn't work :)
Hi Dan.... so my 13 year old is the person with aspergers. This video is really good. One of the best ways to be able to deal with the anxiety is to know the triggers. As with my son we always stick to routine as much as possible and tell him what to expect. But as you said melt downs happen. With my son I always felt acknowledging I understand he is upset seemed to help. But after a certain point of no return, on the meltdown, I would wait until he was ready to talk about what happened, as you said sometimes days later, but it did help!
I recently had a meltdown that was one of the worst I have ever experienced. Long story short, police showed up who in turn forced me to leave in an ambulance and I was taken to the local hospital. They forced me into a room and put me on suicide watch and took all of my clothes from me. I tried talking to them after I calmed and explain that I have Aspergers and asked them to call my therapist. They threatened me and told me "I am the charge nurse, and if you don't shut your mouth I will restrain you and forcibly sedate you." It took nearly 24 hours before I was finally allowed to see the hospital "therapist" who instantly knew what was going on and I was allowed to leave. In all of those hours I was not feed, was barely able to get water from them. I have never been treated more poorly in my life. It sent me into a very depressed state and I haven't wanted to leave my house much since. I just recently received an over $2000 bill from the hospital for this.
My friends and I are autistic. I only make autistic friends, it's easier you know. One of them is out of school now doing vocational training and the other is with me at school
Oh that is super interesting I have a lot of artistic friends and I think now my closest friends and wife are the autistic friends I have. Have you downloaded my free e-book yet on how to turn traits into superpowers? Https://www.theaspieworld.com/ebook Thank you so much for the comment! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).
I never had such a meltdown,i had something similar to panic attacks,i was not trying to hurt myself,i was just isolating myself in a corner or sobbing uncontrollably,hiding under tables,etc. Sometimes when it was too loud or something i just isolated myself in a corner and started crying. My classmates called that corner "the depressive corner" lmao. I am not sure if i have asperger's,i have most of the symptoms.
I had no idea this was what I was doing. I developed all these elaborate plans to prevent these types of meltdowns, but I never told anybody. Just, wow! This is an eye opening video for me.
After my meltdown or anytime I feel down, Snacks do help me. I also like to wrap myself in my heavy blanket and watch my mental health playlist. Its an amalgamation of funny videos, words of encouragement and cute animals
What if you Were about to have an aspergers meltdown But your mom said *STOP YOUR OVERREACTING THIS IS JUST YOU WANTING ATTENTION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!*
Typically I bite my hand and throw myself into the nearest soft surface and thrash myself around. I actually have a few scars from where I bit through the skin.
I also have Asperger's. For me when I reach my overload, I tend to get overly violent. For me, just a bit of shadow boxing or some form of solo athletic activity helps calm me down.
Most of the time my meltdowns just consist of me freezing in place while tears start to rapidly fall from my eyes and I can't figure out why. I just suddenly can't move much and start crying.
I have Aspergers myself and I've definitely been calmer since I moved to a more quieter area back in April but when I lived in a quite popular student city I had a few big meltdowns. The worst would have to be when I had a huge meltdown because of an inconsiderate flatmate having a really loud boisterous party with super loud music and everyone was drunk and loud :/ Just started crying, hyperventilating and thrashing :/
Yeah..... So I know a guy that's super weird with this syndrome I see him a couple times a day. But the real weird thing is that I see him every time I look in the mirror.
I'm 31 and just learning about my condition and my wife came home and seen that I closed my eyes with my fist. After I lost my phone in the Uber I took. Tried making a long story short.
This was a really good video. I like having my Bluetooth headphones on and walking around listening to it. It calms me down. White noise type of thing. I really enjoy your videos. Great job!
Does a anyone else get told they just like to complain or are just lazy no matter how many times you explain ...that isnt it and they said just stop letting everything get to you
Thank you for this video. I think my son had a meltdown after leaving his job. Boy that's hard. He's feeling better now but it took him over a month. Is that common?
Yes!!! For my family (myself and my three teenagers), we have to have plan A, B,C and D. We bring earbuds/headphones, sunglasses, zippered hoodies, game systems, chewing gum and fidgets. We can recognize each other getting escalated and try to help each other defuse before things get ugly. However that being said, we have left many places, gone to the dressing rooms, went back to the car and even just went back home many, many times over the years, just to try again later. In our family, we have panic attacks, raised voice levels, toe walking, self-hitting ( thankfully, as we have learned triggers, this does not occur often now), crying, pacing floors, stimming and rocking. Thank you for all of the videos and for giving everyone a "real" look into our lives.
I get really worried about my meltdowns. People tend to ignore me or “hide” me so I don’t disrupt anyone which only makes it worse on myself. I tend to scratch my face and put pressure on my eyes till everything hurts. I also do the other symptoms you listed. Now, I’ve never been diagnosed (but I’m going to talk to my school’s counselor this week) so most people think I’m childish and criticize me. Is there anything I can do? I’ve also found that Asperger’s describes my condition and the quirks that people tend to call out on me. It feels like I’m finally understanding myself but I feel like people aren’t taking me seriously. I don’t know . . .
For many years I went hiking with friens every summer, for a period of two weeks. And it was catastrophic because every time I suffer meltdowns and anger issues, the unusual circumstances just pile up until I break out. I thought I was some kind of psycho and a terrible person, but now that I've learned that I am an Aspie, I can see a way I can fix this with my friends, if they would make accomodations for me to have enough time alone and activities of my choice.
I recently went camping with a friend and our children. It was worth it for the nature and experience and I am grateful but I definitely had meltdowns and skipped meals to just be alone in a tiny tent ☹️
I broke my old phone because my mom got a new couch and she didn't tell me... And that was one of the signs that I needed to see a psychologist. However, I thought it was a panic attack, and it wasn't until watching some of these videos, but neurodivergent creators, as well as psychology channels. I get this experience a lot, and it scares me, because I already have issues with hypersensitivity causing pain, so it's not a fun thing. No one has been able to calm me down, I just have to go up to my room, crawl under my weighted blanket, and listen to music. I've always gotten scared really easily, and talking really doesn't help, unless it is explaining a plan. I like having options in plans, but when things happen very sudden, it's really hard. I need time to process it. I have a lot of friends like this, but none of us have a diagnosis. Apparently kids can get diagnosed for free, but as an adult it's such a long wait. But in the meantime, I found replacing lightbulbs with LED lights helps (no buzzing sound) and salt lamps are nice too. They do something similar to the bands you mentioned, but it changes the ions in the air. Also, when I'm really tired, I can't try new foods. Being sensitive to certain things, my mom likes to experiment with trying new things, but sometimes I have to say no, because I'm too overwhelmed.
Usually my Aspergers makes me go through a major meltdown after being turned down by a hot girl for a lay. It is an unbearable feeling that cannot be described. So ladies please be more sympathetic to us Aspie guys out there experiencing blue balls.
I get what you mean, but it shouldn't be a reason for girls to force theirselves to do something they don't want to do. It should just make them want to be more kind on how they turn you down.
This video is reminding me a lot of my friends she has these kind of panic attacks a lot especially when theres a change in her routine. (Example: exams and missing her bus) she also struggles with special triggers and sensory overload. I'm starting to wonder if this is anxiety or something more. I'm also curious if she knows herself. Alas I'll do more research
Thank you very much for your videos, I have just found you. My almost 5 year old son was diagnosed last year, (runs in my family) probably undiagnosed myself. My wee boy lately has become much more aggressive, he has recently started very hard punching himself in the head, (had problems with my landlords daughter, and she called him stupid and picked on him, she is older, since he keeps calling everyone stupid and calling himself stupid then asking why he is stupid) I’m trying my best to convince him this is not true, i feel I have failed him. He is starting school next year and I feel like I have not prepared him. He at this point didn’t know he has high functioning autism/Aspergers(this is his diagnosis due to his age when diagnosed but they feel more he has Aspergers) do you know what I can say and do to convince him, and how to set him up to cope better with negative people better? Sorry epic 🧐
I have autism and am really bad at maths but good at English and also if someone annoys me I will immediately hit or punch or kick just anything and I hate loud noises that is one of the reasons why I hate school because there is so much loud noises and it just makes me angry
Something I've noticed I do when I get very overwhelmed or stressed is that I squeeze things really hard, rub my hands really vigorously, or pull my own hair (not pull it out, but tugging it pretty hard). I didn't realize the hair pulling thing was a more common reaction. Thank you so much again, Dan for helping to educate the community!
How do you deal with this in relation to fulltime employment and all of your life and training on the side?? I really need to know friend!! I work close to 60 hours pr week right now with extremely difficult and stressfull things and some of it is also completely new and different to me! I'm really melting down as we speak and my boss doesn't even know I have the condition!
62 year old female - Self diagnosed multiple tests to confirm self diagnosis Aspbergers and ADHD... Complete with multiple meltdowns over the years ...yak...!! Help...yikes I've retreated to a hiding place to prevent another meltdown cause of overstimulation... Selective Mutism is currently happening ...im utterly exhausted
Thanks for this video. My son has just been diagnosed with ASD. We don't have the classification of aspergers due to changes in diagnosis protocol but we were told this is what best fits him. He is 14 and having difficulty with controlling his emotions. He has been having more frequent meltdowns. I hope I can use this video to help him. X
I know quite a bit of people with aspergers/autism I could name 3 of the top of my head also 2 who probably have it (I might also have it but idk) (all of them are my friends )
Maybe I'm lucky, in that because my whole family - especially my dad were excessive worriers and pre-planners, there were always several back-up plans to most eventualities that might trigger anxiety or panic. I carried a lot of this into my adult life so I've had very few meltdowns, just some panic attacks and a broken hoover ... ._.
Hey, I have Asperger‘s. I’ve been watching your videos for a a while I use your videos to share awareness or whatever you wanna call it I don’t know 222 break the naivety of autism and Asperger’s. I am high functioning, but I still feel things all the time and this video showed me what a real meltdown feels like. I don’t know I feel justified when I listen to you.
When I was younger, I started to cry a lot, because I didn’t have much friends at that time. After I got myself a boyfriend (which was about 6 months ago), things started to be a bit better for me. Whenever I’m having a meltdown or an anxiety attack, he always try to comfort me and just be there for me. And it helps a lot, actually
Another fantastic Dan, thank you for sharing my content i appreciate it. Your an inspiration to me in the Autistic community, your videos are such a unique vision to them, I obviously can relate as being autistic Have private messaged you my latest video on twitter.
I myself have undiagnosed Asperger's Syndrome, we know I've got it but it's taken years for the paperwork to go through, and one of my best friends also has it but diagnosed, hopefully we will get a reply from the test I did back in January soon though
I have x3 children. 18 year old son with ADD, 24 year old son with Asperger’s and 26 year old daughter waiting v long time for ADHD diagnosis but this video makes me wonder if she has some Asperger syndrome. X
Does anyone else feel super emotional and depressed and/or empty. No mental energy, days before you build up for a meltdown? Does anyone also feel A LOT better after said meltdown? I just had a little one and it involved me whining and some self harm. I hit my head a few times. Not proud of ut, but it happened. I feel like a weight was lifted off my shoulders honestly.
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Hey, Dan, I've never seen Joel have an actual meltdown when we video chat, but I've seen him become get very agitated because of a Political company calling him constantly. When he's agitated, he signs hard and fast and slams his hand on his bed. Dan, I try my best to calm him down and say, ' Baby, calm down, it'll be okay. Talk to your Mom and get her to take care of it. With him being deaf, these Political companies calls him on video phone and he gets agitated easy. I do what I can to help him. Most importantly, be here for him. I love him. Thank you do much for making these videos. God bless you.
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The Aspie World i start my formal autism evaluation on saturday. I moved last week so im having to reinvent my systems and recreate my ruteins but everyting feels upside down and out of place.
The Aspie World iv got an idea do you think that nurses in the NHS should be trained to deal with autistic melt downs ???
Also, comfort them verbally. Touching them will escalate their anger/anxiety. And never ever ever ever ever say "calm down".
My girlfriend is calming down when I pet her and tell her to calm down
Yes, I also need to be held. Some of us need to be held, and some of us can’t stand the touch. When I’m having a meltdown I just crave for arms to hold me tight
I need to be talked to for a while, then hugs off and on until I'm calm enough to be somewhat affectionate again.
What words should be used?
Cosmic Weirdo absolutely! The worst way to calm someone during meltdown: 1. Being yelled and screamed at by your partner 2. Being told to calm down (in a angry abusive way). Verbal abuse never helps calm a person who is having a crying meltdown or anxiety attack.
As a 33 year old woman I am beyond humiliated I have these and nobody knows. My dad made fun of me today for it. He's a lot older than I am ..He's 83...so I get it..but I feel alone . I've always been alone. 33 and fighting this by myself for this long...I'm tired -_-...
Hey don’t be humiliated be empowered.
@@TheAspieWorld thank you! Really! I had my mom sit down and watch a lot of you're videos just now . I also regularly share you're stuff on Facebook hoping someone will get it without telling them this is me because like I said I'm to embarrassed
I know how you feel. Same here. Stay strong 💪 there's alot of bad days, but the good ones make up for them xx
@@sysye thank you 💗
Hey, you're not alone, im 32 and been having them all my life. Please stay positive.
I took me SO LONG to realize when someone asked me for a ride randomly that it caused me to have a meltdown. Like if I know the night before I'm okay, but if it's last minute it makes me so irrationally angry.
Ah yes, anxiety build up.
Me too!! Omg I thought I was just a bitch 😂
@@Realestatepenny the struggle is real.
I never liked rides, rollercoasters and when I was expecting, I felt the speed of one of those fast trains more, I now feel nervous when going into them ..
But yes, I do get uneasy when there is an acceleration...
I know a meltdown is coming when I can’t stop rambling about something that’s on my mind and I keep on going until I just go nuts and cry and scream
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I find that happens when I am over-tired (rambling - I rarely have meltdowns because I walk away, pet the horses, do gardening or chores, or watch a video = anything to derail the overwhelm.)
I get this itchy irritated feeling
I literally just stop myself from breathing and let my face turn red, then I quickly exhale all the air out of my lungs, then inhale. Not healthy or safe at all imo, but it's the best, most effective method for calming myself down I've ever known.
Me too!
Actually sensory overloads have rarely lead to meltdowns for me. Occasionally they may contribute to shutdowns. The overloads for me are always about emotions, other people, myself and relationships. I might feel hurt or upset and everything that all people have said to me in life eventually gets too much.
YES! Exactly this
Yes, I'm an introvert and meltdowns happen from internal overload.
@@JaelH7 THIS.
This
Please explain in detail. I need to understand for my job. Thanks.
I’m crying because this video finally gave me clarity as to why I have intense moments where I hit myself, pull my hair, or punch things when I just feel overloaded.
Yep, same here. And everyone has just told me I'm an asshole/brat, etc my whole life who know one is ever going to love. What a bunch of fucking idiots
Whenever I have a meltdown I always try to hold it in because i always think people don't understand, even if my dad has Asperger's. It hurts alot and I have to go to my room most of the time to let it all out.
Yeah it’s not a nice thing so I can totally understand that!! Heyy I have a free autism coping secrets master class you can watch it here: www.copingsecrets.com/masterclass Thank you so much for the comment! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).
I also used to hold a lot,but then I felt safe enough to let people know Im not okay. Closest ones judged. But they just don't understand.
Uncomfortable crying o.m.g. Both my brothers are on the spectrum, because I’m a girl people just called me “emotional”
Exactly
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That's because statistically speaking, women are much less likely to get diagnosed with autism
Ooof. Yes.
It’s better than a dude being emotional
I have autism, and I become very irate when people argue, often times to the point where I will scream and hit my head, and will also punch doors, walls, or myself and break things.
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Oh, my God! I hate it wen people argue. The anger I feel from them is too overwhelming and I have no choice but to leave the room. My body physically cannot take it.
Lol I usually argue first and then when they argue back I get mad
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My son is breaking down things around him since childhood, he is now adult, still the same. He is supper intelligent. He still lives with me at 43. It is hurting me, so much to see his anger. I do not know what to do. I may say something and see him so much upset.
I used to end up breaking things (oof bad I know) but now I usually end up pulling my hair and punching my leg lmao. I enjoy watching your videos and realizing I'm not alone. Didn't realize I was autistic until I was 19 (this year) but I've always suspected it. Everything makes so much more sense now.
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I have a tendency of it gets really bad of punching myself in the head. Legs too, but my skull is whe it gets really severe... Happens maybe once every two years.
I have Asperger's syndrome myself. I have had meltdowns at work and home. I also have insomnia and don't get enough sleep.
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I would say its bills for me that cause a most of my meltdown... I hate Adulting
Yeah it sucks 😢
I had to quit my last job cause I was severely sleep deprived for extended periods of time. I don't think I'll ever be able to sleep on a reliable schedule but I hope we get there one day!
@@patricioansaldi8021 You will, we all face some sort of adversity
Many of my friends are autistic. I have many similar signs, but have been diagnosed with ADHD and not Autism.
I get sensory overload a lot when I go out, but it usually causes intense dissociation, so I don't outwardly react much.
And My parents won't let me wear headphones in public to cancel noise. They say people will make fun of me.
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Earbuds may be a good option.
I have Asperger's but I've only had a few real meltdowns in my adult life, though I'm familiar with the feeling of being overloaded - I'm usually ok once I've had some quiet time to process. I also try to plan well enough to avoid being caught off guard, as you say.
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Richard Southworth I don't so the head hitting and all does this mean I'm not actually aspie :o?
My son retreats to his own space and prefers being alone.
I’m glad you haven’t had many breakdowns. They suck. I speak from experience.
Chloe Mcholoe you most likely are. All of us are different. I do the head hitting. I don’t understand why I do it. It hurts but I keep doing it!
my daughter hits her self, or plugs her ears. I Stimm, a LOT when I'm getting to that meltdown point. I use to cry, or go inside myself, now I fidget with my clothes, or say "Oh my" my college professor taught me how to use the two Stimms instead of not speaking or interacting, crying or getting real mad. Problem is, its kinda hard to explain to everyone on Earth why I say "Oh my" when I get triggered. Good part is, less people notice, so I don't feel as weird in public.
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I was recently diagnosed with high functioning autism and these videos are helping me to understand more about myself. (In short, thanks.)🙂
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My ex wife would make fun of me. Tell me I’m
Disgusting. All
She would have to do is ask me why I’m
Mad. Even if I wasn’t mad she would argue and push until I blew up then is usually say “woooow”. What the duck is wrong with you. I was usually having a good day up to that point but, I hope she isn’t, but she has several traits of narcissistic personality disorder. I would open up to her, I eventually stopped, but any trauma I went through she would torture me with until I would scream and punch the wall. A few times she was physically abusing me once I was smelting down. For me there is no pain at that point, so I would
I would laugh at her at. I still don’t know why, but it enraged her and I would
Feel like I was regaining control. I wasn’t.
I have aspergers and I manage my meltdown risk by using the things that calm me consciously each day.
For me that's allowing time for myself to flap or stretch each day...I just think of that as being time to work the autism out of my bones and it's a relief like yawning. I find if I do it whenever I feel like it, it comforts me to know that I can always work out some of anxiety that way if I need to in an emergency. That's important for me because my worries have often taken the form of what will I do if there's an emergency and I can't be on my own or get home???!!! And sometimes I find new comforting movements by consciously indulging them!
Other things I do...lots of bouncing on my rebounder. Listen to Chopin or Radiohead. Have a bath with epsom salts and essential oils. Holding fabric over my mouth. Wearing corsets (not such a good technique in summer as you get too hot!). Sticking to eating safe foods and bottled water throughout the day. CBD oil has really helped me too. It definitely takes the edge off my fried senses. ♡
I'm 45 this year and I would like to say to younger autistic people, you do learn to manage your life better over time and I have MASSIVELY less meltdowns now than I used to. It was something that would happen every 2 or 3 weeks. It's a good job I manage them better and avoid them more because these days they take me longer to recover from physically - I just feel the exhaustion so much more than when I was a kid!!!
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I get the thing of getting into safe place if I get some kind of panic attack or something. And something I had especially when younger but still sometimes till this day I'd begin to worry if there is wc close to me do I can go somewhere to be behind closed doors without other people. On the worst cases it also turns my stomach upside down and I start to panic even more about wcs because last thing I want is to soil myself. This has caused very uncomfortable situations when I was in school and later in higher studies. Now I'm working in a place where I feel very comfortable so I don't get these attacks there and people there are aware of my condition and give me space to be weird as I do my job well anyway.
That's an important point. Sometimes you can be honest about autistic traits and people will be accomodating - which removes a massive amount of the anxiety! ♡ For me, one thing is carrying a bottle of evian around and everyone who knows me knows I drink water so it doesn't seem rude to them if I don't accept a drink they offer. That sort of acceptance is important because even if drinking a strange drink from a strange cup doesn't trigger a meltdown, it can be unnecessary stress for me. When I worked in a large office I was really lucky the person I sat with could tell if I can into work non verbal and he would talk to people who came over to me instead of me talking. Him doing that probably stopped me having a few meltdowns at work! ♡♡♡
Yes! It does get better. While I've only just recently started to learn language to describe what I was experiencing, over the years I have learned my own personal limits and I understand better now how to both prevent and deal with the occasional overload breakdown. Getting enough sleep and eating small meals more often instead of two large ones helps keep my system level. As does getting regular exercise.
Chopin and Radiohead are my go-to's as well!!!! Also essential oils, comfort foods. Maybe will try CBD oil :)
I used to think i was going crazy when i had these outbursts; until my recent diagnosis. Everything now becomes clear
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I get overwhelmed a lot were it triggers my anxiety. And when my anxiety kicks in i get panic-attacks, sucks !!!!!!!
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What does that mean. I don't understand your comment.
It means peace.
Thanks for telling me.
Jerry Johnson II just remember it sucks more of for the rest of us non spazzes who have to tolerate it
I have meltdowns constantly. I was diagnosed last year and Im 27. Always thought I was crazy or broken... Cannabis seems to help/prevent meltdowns and help control how strong they are... I just get embarassed because I wish I could control them more. I really appreciate your videos. They help me feel like Im not some broken person. I know Im not but the feeling can be sometimes overwhelming... Your amazing. Thank you for helping people understand the spectrum ♡
I feel less broken too reading your words and watching this video.
This is the same with me,i was diagnosed a month ago with autisim andI have meltdowns all the time, especially in school and I have to focus all of my power onto not having a panic attack in front of everyone and them thinking that there is something wrong with me. It’s really hard to keep up this façade all the time...
U don't have to pretend it's ok it don't really matter what other ppl think . U do u . 🤗
@@mz2535 not weed helped me loads
Delta 8 gummies help a lot and has helped free my of a 6 month obsession. Also it helped my mood.
I would say its bills for me that cause a most of my meltdown... I hate Adulting
Yes it is very difficult.
Also If I have a meltdown, I start crying and breathe really hard.
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Same, except mine starts with anger, screaming, and hitting things (objects) that hurt my ears. One of my triggers are loud roaring trucks. I have trouble sleeping because I have to hold my ears and put on an ASMR video. I definitely can't handle change. Yesterday, I had to quit two games I loved and played for years because of the stupid connection in the game doesn't work. If I get lost, driving, I end up in a meltdown. It happened when I with my friend in the car and got lost, and she had to calm me down and help us get back home. Props to her! Other than that, I'm suffering from noises. In public, I'm trying to hold it in and not meltdown in public like I did in 8th grade (crying, banging head). As an adult, in public, it's a "fight or flight" response. At home, it's meltdowns.. After so many meltdowns, I end up depressed and crying.. ;( Right now, I'm having a meltdown towards these roaring vehicles outside! I just can't take it! It's just every five seconds, "RRRRRRRRrrrrr.. " It's driving me crazy! >.
Ditto. 🙏❤️
Let it all out
Hey man the product is bogus.
Dang! I have been using it and felt petty good :(.
The Aspie World when you talked about it it seemed sketchy, also you could just be feeling good because of the placebo effect (I don't remember what it is called when it is not about placebos). There is also a possibility that it does just work (Though I think that is unlikely.
The Aspie World If you like it, keep it. Maybe it's more a spiritual thing then but humans do have a need for that and I think this need itself is somewhat scientifically proven at this point, as well as placebo and imagination excercises being able to have actual positive effects. If it worked for you, keep imagining it filters toxins from your blood and enjoy the power of the human mind aiding the body in whatever it actually does do.
The replies are true. The placebo effect is a scientifically proven phenomenon. I believe it's McGill university that was doing work with a simulated MRI machine to treat children with symptoms of anxiety, ADHD, and other behaviors. The children were actually told that the process was going to help them heal themselves--essentially told about the placebo effect. Even being told that it really wasn't the machine, the children all made remarkable improvement. So, basically, if something works, great! Go with it! 😊
There are numerous studies that show the placebo effect still works even when people are directly told it's only a placebo.
...so if I choose to believe that Oreos are medicinal no one can tell me otherwise!
About two months ago, my boyfriend had his first meltdown in front of me. He and I planned on spending an afternoon doing some bowling, but his little nephew came home early and started needing my boyfriend's attention. My boyfriend and I didn't get to leave his residence until late in the afternoon. Once we got to the bowling alley, it would have been a three hour wait for a lane. Instead, we headed back to his place to have dinner. Once we got back to his house he mumbled something under his breath and started to hit his head. The day didn't go as he would have liked for us. I reassured him that I was game to try again on our next date. But I reassured him his nephew should always have top priority and I can wait.
Having backup plans and allowing room for predictable improvisation has earned me brownie points with my boyfriend. 😁
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ILoveAstronomy nnb
Think long and hard before you marry him. It is a frustrating life.
@@glendabliss2270**holds up help sign××
ILoveAstronomy your boyfriend sounds exactly like me, someone who has active meltdowns rather that passive. A bit like a child in a mans body who has temper tantrums. That is what I do when I meltdown so shame on me!!! Because I’m autistic is that no excuse? The cynical part of me is saying I hope you’ve left him since this comment because of his behaviour. I’ve never had a relationship and because I respect girls I wish to never get into a relationship with one because no one deserves to put up with my bad behaviour, so out of kindness and respect for them, I will accept I will always be alone, because I am 25 and too far gone down the line to change my meltdown behaviour! And yes I get jealous of other autistic people who act mature and are younger than me, because I know I will never be like them. Unfortunately I am the autistic person people will get to hate!! I have failed myself! That’s just life I’m afraid! 😡😡😡😢😢😢😢 am actually in meltdown writing this
My brother is an Aspie diagnosed in his mid 50s, I am his caregiver. He was totally misunderstood from birth, didn't walk or speak until age 3. I'm the younger sister, our much older sister is my source of information. Our parents took him everywhere and got no diagnosis. My mom did not know how to get him to do every day tasks, so he was always waited on constantly. He married a very controlling woman who told him when to breathe! When she passed away my mom got him back. He still feels entitled to be taken care of and tends to meltdown when I won't do certain things for him, or I'm late doing a task for him...like making up his pill cases. This is difficult because i just finished caring for our dad for 8 years. He had Alzheimer's disease. I'm tired and exhausted myself. I'm on full disability. I know this isn't true but sometimes I feel like he has a list of things that piss me off and try to accomplish at least 5 per day. Oddly enough i taught inclusion classes for 7 years with students on the autism spectrum. They didn't annoy me, my brother frequently does. Sigh, just keep going.
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@@sarahelogbani1578 so were you diagnosed early?
Even though it is hard to be a caregiver and not to mention challenging and exhausting... He is very lucky to have you. And he most likely has a hard time showing/expressing it. We are who we love and love is all. Stay strong, you're a blessing! Happy new year ;)
Lisa Mieth my situation is nearly similar to your I know it is not easy stay courageous ❤️
I haven’t been diagnosed. And i’m not self diagnosing... but i feel like i might have aspergers. I’ve been looking into it and realized how much of the “symptoms” apply to me. ... also had a meltdown today. ..
Same here! I'm having daily meltdowns and have every symptom, just haven't been diagnosed. Every doctor is convinced it's OCD, anxiety, PTSD and depression, but I feel at the bottom of my heart that I'm on the autism spectrum.
A video addressing meltdowns, thank you for making this. Folks have a lot of misunderstandings around meltdowns so thank you as always for your perspective!
Thank you for the kind words and thank you for the comment!!!
I’m the mother of a 16 yr old Aspie. I’m trying to learn how to understand him and help him into adulthood. Your videos are awesome for me.
My son is also 16. I’m on here to learn also. Does your so go to mainstream high school
Yes he does as we live in rural Queensland and there are no other options. It is difficult for him as his mind is about 10 but he is in classes with 15 or 16 year olds.
How about your son?
Thanks for your amazing videos. My son is on the spectrum and and I use your videos to help explain things for my family who struggle to understand my son. It’s taught me a lot too so thank you. Not sure you realise how much affect and help your videos have on lives xx
Thank you for the kind words and thank you for the comment.
Tasha Lawrence me too Same situation & Dans videos really help me understand my sons condition. Were still in the beginning stages as he was just diagnosed 2 weeks ago so it’s all still new to us but now watching these videos a lot of it is making sense.
As someone with Autism, who has attempted to hide their emotions and meltdowns their entire life (not successfully I might add), I am grateful for further education and videos like yours. I am now able to discuss my experiences with people in my life. Thank you :)
I rarely have meltdowns as an autistic person, but when I do, they are rough, they can last for days, at school, embarrassing myself. My dad's side of the family don't believe I have Aspergers and think Dr Burg is rubbish at her job, which makes it even harder when I'm at my dad's having a meltdown.
I want to spread awareness.
To be honest, having a family is my number one reason for overloads and melt-downs. I can handle up to two or three interruptions, when I (for example) learn, but when they just keep interrupting me, I get very angry. The strange thing is that my family as a whole has NEVER learned when it's better to just leave me alone. I can't understand that, because I show certain degrees of stress, and it would enable them to know when to stop bothering me. But they just keep on and on and on until I explode and then they seem to wonder what just happened LOL To me, this is just stupid. I explain that behaviour to myself with their less logical thinking (at least that's what it seems so me). If they were able to logically decide what they'd do, they surely wouldn't do that....I think...
Yeah, that is understandable.
Geez, wow, so I've been stimming, having trouble understanding social situations and cues, obsessing over certain things and being irrationally angry at so many things my entire life and I've always thought that I was crazy. I just two days ago found your videos and binge-watching them all I realize that I most likely am probably on the Autism spectrum. I had no idea because my parents apparently never saw anything off with my behaviour and often treated my weird stimming movements and meltdowns as me being a 'bad' kid. But they also had me when they were older and I have a chromosomal genetic mutation so that definitely makes me more likely to have something, I also had to go to speech therapy until I was 8 or so. I had no idea, but this made things so much clearer, I will have to see a specialist now, wow, thank you so much, you are so effective at educating, thank you.
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I was diagnosed with AS when I about 4 yrs old. I went to therapy for it as a child but didn't as a adult. I was hoping that this would phase out over time, but recently I'm learning that's not the case. My "meltdowns" are caused by a load of stress and negative forces coming down on me all at once (for example stress at work, at home, plans ideas and dreams not coming together or being achieved etc.)
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Some things we do with my son:
We won’t necessarily avoid places, but if there’s some thing visual that bothers him, we will bring sunglasses. If there is a place with bouncy houses that has noisy fans, we will bring headphones and watch for when he might need to get out of there.
Some of his triggers are quick visual changes, or taking some thing out of his hand.
For the visual changes, I try to let him be in control of it. For example if it’s time to turn off the TV, me turning it off will sit off a meltdown. However if I give him the remote and show him which buttons to press, he is much calmer with that, even if he wants to still watch TV.
For taking things out of his hands, I need to just be patient and let him struggle or try more to finish up what he is doing. Me stepping in and trying to take over or hurry him up, really stresses him out.
As a kid I hated prep assembly in school. It was so loud and I had no way to escape. My parents don't acknowledge anything is different about me, my dad says I live a lie told to me by the devil. I don't even know if I'm on the spectrum but I relate to all of the symptoms and I have had meltdowns. I have learned to look at all possibilities associated with any event to be prepared for change. It seems I came to this on my own just trying to survive. Thank you for all the knowledge you share.
I've been diagnosed Asperger last week and trying to learn myself and how I work better. I believe I have meltdowns, but I am not sure I am able to recognise them yet. All this is helpful, but how can I be sure I had a meltdown and not only a panic attack or a rage attack?
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That's the problem I always had. I told my therapists I have panic attacks for years before knowing that the "panic attack" or even "rage attack" were indeed meltdowns(that's why I was so late diagnosed with asperger). because I had no fear for death while panicking and thats what i have been told so is the main thing of "panic attacks".. my language doesn't even have a word for "meltdown". So I looked at the triggers. Is there a pattern? In my case my triggers for example were/are specific noises; when I have to be in a group with more than 2 people for in my opinion long time; when I don't have the chance to go out of a situation in discussions. And all of them because of sensory overload.
As a kid I cut myself then I bumped my head against walls etc. Wiggling for and back.
And if you can't see yourself in this- it doesn't have to mean anything. We're all different. ^^
Maybe if some therapist asks you about panic attacks, ask him what a panic attack for them is or just tell them what you are doing while panicking. For me personally that's pretty hard to talk about and if you don't want to you don't have to
I have meltdowns. It like my brain turns off and I can't do anything to calm down. 😣
I worry for my grandson, aged 5. He's isolated at school whilst he tries to integrate into his classes (but he does have a fantastic support group), he only does half days. My heart just cries out for him and I need to know how to help.
I have a 21 year old son and he’s only just been diagnosed. He’s been having meltdowns his entire life. Until we got the diagnosis it was very hard to understand but when we saw the psychiatrist he told him what helps so now I do what he said. It really shortens the meltdown. Thanks for being so relatable and informative. :0)
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I care for a five year old boy, an aspie. His mother works a lot, so I can give him some one on one time. I’m learning a lot from your videos. Thank you. I find that this little boy is still trying to identify his emotions and manage them for socially acceptable situations when he goes to school. I’ve grown close to him even though I’m not related. We have built a trust between us and he is opening up to me. At his age, I find that when he has a meltdown it’s generally when he’s very tired, or hungry, or bored. He allows me to hug him and I gently rock him and quietly talk to him with positive affirmations. I’ve learned to see the meltdown coming and quickly divert him to another activity. Sometimes he wants quiet time alone on his iPad to play a few games I downloaded for him. Other times , directing him outside to the garden(he has a vege plot ) or. water play for giggles.
I have noticed he can’t cope if his mum has overloaded his schedule, or he has just spent the weekend with his father. I did discover that favourite foods do calm him down, so when you mentioned that I felt a warm feeling of accomplishment. I’m doing something right. I will also implement your other suggestions as well.
Keep up the good work, you never know just who you’re reaching and providing a window of understanding and advice, not only to Aspies, but those who care for them.
I grew up in a emotionally abusive house and when I would have a meltdown, I would be held down on the floor until I calmed down. Now as an adult I have a personality disorder on top of asd, depression and severe anxiety. I unfortunately was not diagnosed until this year, I am 36.
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It’s like holding a wild animal down
I received a schizoaffective diagnosis since they said something like I can’t have bipolar and ASD together without this diagnosis or something
I'm always curious as to how medical professionals define a personality disorder with a person who is also on 'the spectrum'. I mean being autistic presents as a personality disorder itself.
Thank you! My son’s friend just had a meltdown 45 mins ago and my son had one the other night. They were both listening to this video. I’m so thankful that my aspie has another aspie friend.
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Lol wtf going on around you
I have Asperger's and have had meltdowns my whole life. When I was a kid and teen I just had no control over it, it would suddenly start bubbling up and before I knew it I was beyond the point of no return. Now as an adult I'm usually self-aware enough that I can de-stress before it happens or at least get in a private space first, but sometimes it still happens in public. I'm 25 and I thought it was finally over because it had been over a year meltdown-free, but then I had one a couple months ago, full out screaming and rolling on the floor in front my friends, it was a humiliating and humbling experience. I tried to play it off as a joke but I don't think they were buying it.
It can be very distressing. I would just try to embrace your difference and be awesome and proud of who you are.
I am in a new relationship with someone that has been diagnosed with aspergers. I love him very much and I will be there for him. no matter what. we are so in tune with each other and although i have not been diagnosed with aspergers, i have similar symptoms because of PTSD. He is amazing. .
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I have Asperger's syndrome and the biggest meltdown I had was a few weeks ago and it was bad I was throwing stuff and crying while also banging my head a punching myself in the face and I'm 17 now that I think about it I am emberresed because of my meltdown.
I understand how you feel.
i didn´t realise that the uncontrolable crying was a meltdown,I used to do that pretty much all the way through puberty.
I still do that now as an adult but it feels like an energy release now and feels good rather than like I'm actually sad or upset. Like energy builds up, I go have a crying fit and feel better
Great video Dan! I have asperger's and I tend to get meltdowns when situations don't go as planned, or when I have to socialize in loud and chaotic environments. I usually get headaches, or an urge to start scratching myself during these meltdowns . Thank you for helping me deal with them! Greetings from Brazil!!!
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My 9 year old son has Aspergers, I have noticed his meltdowns increase in severity & quantity with age. I am desperate to help him so I greatly appreciate your videos. He tends to self harm so tips on reducing or preempting any meltdowns are invaluable! Thank you so much! I am so grateful I found your channel!
Hey no problem!!! Thank you for the kind words and thank you for the comment!!!
Crying with frustration at all the scientifically illiterate woo peddling at the start. I understood all the individual terms you are using, but when you put them together like that, none of what you said there means anything. But other than that it seemed like a great video, I could relate to a lot of the triggers.
I've not hit things/myself since I was a little kid, but when I get overly stressed or stuff gets too much my arms lock up like I am forcing myself not to move them, they are shaking, it feels like a lot, but no one ever noticed, so maybe not. And it's like I'm not really me, I'm there, but my body is like a foreign machine thing that I am trying to control and whatever I was seeing was more like I was watching on tv screens very close to my eyes. My vision gets really bright, like when you reset the brightness on a game to see better in a cave, then come out into a brightly lit scene and everything seems to fade together and everything gets really grainy, like tv static is imposed on everything.
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Also I feel scared everyday for no reason there is just this feeling inside me that is scared for no reason
Please talk about the relations between Aspergers and depression. (It would be very helpful)
I don’t really have meltdowns I can control my aspergers thx to my mom. And my brain can control my emotions sometimes. If ai have meltdowns I get super angry and start clenching my fists.
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Can I ask how did your mum help? It would be good to know as I have a son with undiagnosed high functioning autism. They won't diagnose him 🙄
courtney ballard I can tell you what do not work, my mother tried to force me to do stuff like looking in the eyes and walking with my head straight and it didn't work :)
I clench my fists fold my arms
Hi Dan.... so my 13 year old is the person with aspergers. This video is really good. One of the best ways to be able to deal with the anxiety is to know the triggers. As with my son we always stick to routine as much as possible and tell him what to expect. But as you said melt downs happen. With my son I always felt acknowledging I understand he is upset seemed to help. But after a certain point of no return, on the meltdown, I would wait until he was ready to talk about what happened, as you said sometimes days later, but it did help!
Yeah!!! Hey thank you for the info and thank you for the kind words and thank you for the comment!
I recently had a meltdown that was one of the worst I have ever experienced. Long story short, police showed up who in turn forced me to leave in an ambulance and I was taken to the local hospital. They forced me into a room and put me on suicide watch and took all of my clothes from me. I tried talking to them after I calmed and explain that I have Aspergers and asked them to call my therapist. They threatened me and told me "I am the charge nurse, and if you don't shut your mouth I will restrain you and forcibly sedate you." It took nearly 24 hours before I was finally allowed to see the hospital "therapist" who instantly knew what was going on and I was allowed to leave. In all of those hours I was not feed, was barely able to get water from them. I have never been treated more poorly in my life. It sent me into a very depressed state and I haven't wanted to leave my house much since. I just recently received an over $2000 bill from the hospital for this.
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Omg you poor thing....i have money and if you're ok with it ill send it all...@Todd
My friends and I are autistic. I only make autistic friends, it's easier you know. One of them is out of school now doing vocational training and the other is with me at school
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Sometimes I think it’s modern society. Can’t cope with the craziness of it all.
its this. this is the answer.
I never had such a meltdown,i had something similar to panic attacks,i was not trying to hurt myself,i was just isolating myself in a corner or sobbing uncontrollably,hiding under tables,etc. Sometimes when it was too loud or something i just isolated myself in a corner and started crying. My classmates called that corner "the depressive corner" lmao. I am not sure if i have asperger's,i have most of the symptoms.
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I had no idea this was what I was doing. I developed all these elaborate plans to prevent these types of meltdowns, but I never told anybody. Just, wow! This is an eye opening video for me.
After my meltdown or anytime I feel down, Snacks do help me. I also like to wrap myself in my heavy blanket and watch my mental health playlist. Its an amalgamation of funny videos, words of encouragement and cute animals
What if you
Were about to have an aspergers meltdown
But your mom said
*STOP YOUR OVERREACTING THIS IS JUST YOU WANTING ATTENTION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!*
Typically I bite my hand and throw myself into the nearest soft surface and thrash myself around. I actually have a few scars from where I bit through the skin.
I also have Asperger's. For me when I reach my overload, I tend to get overly violent. For me, just a bit of shadow boxing or some form of solo athletic activity helps calm me down.
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Most of the time my meltdowns just consist of me freezing in place while tears start to rapidly fall from my eyes and I can't figure out why. I just suddenly can't move much and start crying.
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I have Aspergers myself and I've definitely been calmer since I moved to a more quieter area back in April but when I lived in a quite popular student city I had a few big meltdowns. The worst would have to be when I had a huge meltdown because of an inconsiderate flatmate having a really loud boisterous party with super loud music and everyone was drunk and loud :/ Just started crying, hyperventilating and thrashing :/
Yeah..... So I know a guy that's super weird with this syndrome I see him a couple times a day. But the real weird thing is that I see him every time I look in the mirror.
i almost disliked because of the advertisement...
but your videos are generelly good
I'm 31 and just learning about my condition and my wife came home and seen that I closed my eyes with my fist. After I lost my phone in the Uber I took. Tried making a long story short.
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This was a really good video. I like having my Bluetooth headphones on and walking around listening to it. It calms me down. White noise type of thing. I really enjoy your videos. Great job!
Hey thank you for the kind words and thank you for the comment!!!
I've broken at least 2-3 pairs of glasses due to meltdowns :/
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Does a anyone else get told they just like to complain or are just lazy no matter how many times you explain ...that isnt it and they said just stop letting everything get to you
Thank you for this video. I think my son had a meltdown after leaving his job. Boy that's hard. He's feeling better now but it took him over a month. Is that common?
What I do when I have a meltdown is just crawling into a corner, rocking myself and crying or yelling
It is a personal experience and a difficult one at that. Thank you so much for the comment!
Yes!!! For my family (myself and my three teenagers), we have to have plan A, B,C and D. We bring earbuds/headphones, sunglasses, zippered hoodies, game systems, chewing gum and fidgets. We can recognize each other getting escalated and try to help each other defuse before things get ugly. However that being said, we have left many places, gone to the dressing rooms, went back to the car and even just went back home many, many times over the years, just to try again later. In our family, we have panic attacks, raised voice levels, toe walking, self-hitting ( thankfully, as we have learned triggers, this does not occur often now), crying, pacing floors, stimming and rocking. Thank you for all of the videos and for giving everyone a "real" look into our lives.
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any chance for a Episode about ASPERGERS and the strong bond many have with Animal´s
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I get really worried about my meltdowns. People tend to ignore me or “hide” me so I don’t disrupt anyone which only makes it worse on myself. I tend to scratch my face and put pressure on my eyes till everything hurts. I also do the other symptoms you listed. Now, I’ve never been diagnosed (but I’m going to talk to my school’s counselor this week) so most people think I’m childish and criticize me. Is there anything I can do? I’ve also found that Asperger’s describes my condition and the quirks that people tend to call out on me. It feels like I’m finally understanding myself but I feel like people aren’t taking me seriously. I don’t know . . .
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I hate it when these damn things happen to me...I have aspergers
For many years I went hiking with friens every summer, for a period of two weeks. And it was catastrophic because every time I suffer meltdowns and anger issues, the unusual circumstances just pile up until I break out. I thought I was some kind of psycho and a terrible person, but now that I've learned that I am an Aspie, I can see a way I can fix this with my friends, if they would make accomodations for me to have enough time alone and activities of my choice.
I recently went camping with a friend and our children. It was worth it for the nature and experience and I am grateful but I definitely had meltdowns and skipped meals to just be alone in a tiny tent ☹️
I get these meltdowns a lot.
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I broke my old phone because my mom got a new couch and she didn't tell me... And that was one of the signs that I needed to see a psychologist. However, I thought it was a panic attack, and it wasn't until watching some of these videos, but neurodivergent creators, as well as psychology channels. I get this experience a lot, and it scares me, because I already have issues with hypersensitivity causing pain, so it's not a fun thing. No one has been able to calm me down, I just have to go up to my room, crawl under my weighted blanket, and listen to music. I've always gotten scared really easily, and talking really doesn't help, unless it is explaining a plan. I like having options in plans, but when things happen very sudden, it's really hard. I need time to process it. I have a lot of friends like this, but none of us have a diagnosis. Apparently kids can get diagnosed for free, but as an adult it's such a long wait. But in the meantime, I found replacing lightbulbs with LED lights helps (no buzzing sound) and salt lamps are nice too. They do something similar to the bands you mentioned, but it changes the ions in the air. Also, when I'm really tired, I can't try new foods. Being sensitive to certain things, my mom likes to experiment with trying new things, but sometimes I have to say no, because I'm too overwhelmed.
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Usually my Aspergers makes me go through a major meltdown after being turned down by a hot girl for a lay. It is an unbearable feeling that cannot be described. So ladies please be more sympathetic to us Aspie guys out there experiencing blue balls.
I get what you mean, but it shouldn't be a reason for girls to force theirselves to do something they don't want to do. It should just make them want to be more kind on how they turn you down.
I once broke a window from an Asperger’s meltdown 😂
Ouch!!
Sometimes I get angry at other people I guess its because they dont understand
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This video is reminding me a lot of my friends she has these kind of panic attacks a lot especially when theres a change in her routine. (Example: exams and missing her bus) she also struggles with special triggers and sensory overload. I'm starting to wonder if this is anxiety or something more. I'm also curious if she knows herself. Alas I'll do more research
Thank you very much for your videos, I have just found you. My almost 5 year old son was diagnosed last year, (runs in my family) probably undiagnosed myself. My wee boy lately has become much more aggressive, he has recently started very hard punching himself in the head, (had problems with my landlords daughter, and she called him stupid and picked on him, she is older, since he keeps calling everyone stupid and calling himself stupid then asking why he is stupid) I’m trying my best to convince him this is not true, i feel I have failed him. He is starting school next year and I feel like I have not prepared him. He at this point didn’t know he has high functioning autism/Aspergers(this is his diagnosis due to his age when diagnosed but they feel more he has Aspergers) do you know what I can say and do to convince him, and how to set him up to cope better with negative people better? Sorry epic 🧐
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I have autism and am really bad at maths but good at English and also if someone annoys me I will immediately hit or punch or kick just anything and I hate loud noises that is one of the reasons why I hate school because there is so much loud noises and it just makes me angry
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Something I've noticed I do when I get very overwhelmed or stressed is that I squeeze things really hard, rub my hands really vigorously, or pull my own hair (not pull it out, but tugging it pretty hard). I didn't realize the hair pulling thing was a more common reaction. Thank you so much again, Dan for helping to educate the community!
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Autism would explain many things for the folks in my family, myself included.
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How do you deal with this in relation to fulltime employment and all of your life and training on the side?? I really need to know friend!! I work close to 60 hours pr week right now with extremely difficult and stressfull things and some of it is also completely new and different to me!
I'm really melting down as we speak and my boss doesn't even know I have the condition!
62 year old female -
Self diagnosed multiple tests to confirm self diagnosis
Aspbergers and ADHD...
Complete with multiple meltdowns over the years ...yak...!!
Help...yikes
I've retreated to a hiding place to prevent another meltdown cause of overstimulation...
Selective Mutism is currently happening ...im utterly exhausted
A different routean relly gets my started
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Thanks for this video. My son has just been diagnosed with ASD. We don't have the classification of aspergers due to changes in diagnosis protocol but we were told this is what best fits him. He is 14 and having difficulty with controlling his emotions. He has been having more frequent meltdowns. I hope I can use this video to help him. X
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I know quite a bit of people with aspergers/autism I could name 3 of the top of my head also 2 who probably have it (I might also have it but idk) (all of them are my friends )
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Maybe I'm lucky, in that because my whole family - especially my dad were excessive worriers and pre-planners, there were always several back-up plans to most eventualities that might trigger anxiety or panic. I carried a lot of this into my adult life so I've had very few meltdowns, just some panic attacks and a broken hoover ... ._.
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Hey, I have Asperger‘s. I’ve been watching your videos for a a while I use your videos to share awareness or whatever you wanna call it I don’t know 222 break the naivety of autism and Asperger’s. I am high functioning, but I still feel things all the time and this video showed me what a real meltdown feels like. I don’t know I feel justified when I listen to you.
When I was younger, I started to cry a lot, because I didn’t have much friends at that time. After I got myself a boyfriend (which was about 6 months ago), things started to be a bit better for me. Whenever I’m having a meltdown or an anxiety attack, he always try to comfort me and just be there for me. And it helps a lot, actually
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Another fantastic Dan, thank you for sharing my content i appreciate it. Your an inspiration to me in the Autistic community, your videos are such a unique vision to them, I obviously can relate as being autistic Have private messaged you my latest video on twitter.
Thank you for the kind words and thank you for the comment!!!
I myself have undiagnosed Asperger's Syndrome, we know I've got it but it's taken years for the paperwork to go through, and one of my best friends also has it but diagnosed, hopefully we will get a reply from the test I did back in January soon though
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Got diagnosed three months ago. Glad to know I'm not the only one who punches their head. Thanks for talking about it.
I have x3 children. 18 year old son with ADD, 24 year old son with Asperger’s and 26 year old daughter waiting v long time for ADHD diagnosis but this video makes me wonder if she has some Asperger syndrome. X
Does anyone else feel super emotional and depressed and/or empty. No mental energy, days before you build up for a meltdown? Does anyone also feel A LOT better after said meltdown? I just had a little one and it involved me whining and some self harm. I hit my head a few times. Not proud of ut, but it happened. I feel like a weight was lifted off my shoulders honestly.
Yes a lot of the time!!
@@TheAspieWorld glad I'm not the only one! :)