How I Feel About Men as Mermaids // we need to talk...
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- Опубліковано 21 тра 2020
- I finally hit my breaking point and had to make a video response to all of the ridiculous comments I've been getting on my popular video "Things You Shouldn't Say to a Mermaid".
I have a few things to get off my chest.
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“Mermaids” is an umbrella term. It includes mermen, sirens, merfolk, and much more! It’s 2020, it’s their life, and if you don’t like them, just look the other way. It’s as easy as that! Let them be happy!
I thought the word mermaid comes from maiden meaning female, but if you can be what gender makes you happy then anyone can be a mermaid
I agree! But I do have to mension. If Someone were to come up to me for example and ask If I'm a mermaid, I'd correct them and say that I'm a merman. It's kinda like walking upto a girl and calling them a boy (unless their gender is different to their sex. That's a whole other topic).
@@fuzzyx2face it does originate from that word, but drag queens and cross dressers are also a thing, so you could identify as a man, but preform as a mermaid or even just have fun as one
“Delete delete block done” love it
She's so blunt and straight forward with this kinda thing. It's awesome! It means that we can trust that her chat is child friendly.
I also believe that Mermaid is an umbrella term- literally anyone can be a mermaid. For me as an FTM wanting to get into mermaiding, I just personally prefer being called a merman bc I'm insecURE lmAO.
Same here!! I'm an FTM merman, too, but sometimes I call myself a mermaid because it's easier
Im also an ftm merman and honestly agree with it
Same!! I’m also ftm, and I totally agree!!
@@goob27 yes I agree with you totally I feel the same way
im ftm and i prefer mermaid lol
EXACTLY!!! I grew up in the late 50s/60s... girls were supposed to grow up, get their Mrs and live happily ever after.
All the movies and TV shows had boys doing all the fun things. Girls just sort of stood around and watched.
I like boys, but I also wanted to BE them, or rather to do what they were doing. Like that guy from Sea Hunt... I did finally learn to scuba dive like 40 years later, and my dive instructor oddly resembled Mike Nelson!
Mom tried to stuff me into pink girly dresses... to this day I hate pink. Well, except fuschia, or magenta...
And I will just add that none of this has to to with gender ID or where you are on the who-you-are-attracted-to spectrum.
Straight cis female... still wanted to be Indiana Jones, Luke Skywalker, Legolas and Han Solo...
I wouldn't have a problem with it. My new girlfriend likes Ariel from the Little Mermaid. When I ever see my buddies said that I'm Prince Eric, well I would say that I am just Ben trying to protect Ryn
Naaaw! I totally agree! That's an awesome title by the way! Ben trying to protect ryn is amazing! I love it!
I like how you’re being really honest and I respect that. Hope you’re doing well💕
I don’t care if you call yourself Mermaid, Merman, Merperson, just ‘mer’... just be nice and don’t drown.
When I was still cosplaying (I’m hope I can visit some events again in a while), I dressed up as both male and female characters. I think it shouldn’t be that much of an issue.
I call myself a merman, but one of my other guy friends calls himself a mermaid. I'm so glad to see that no one here would try to invalidate him or his gender for how he mermaids
I'm so proud of your friend! 😁 He's not afraid to be himself. However I am. 🙁 - Topaz the Merman
I’m a guy and you are my inspiration to becoming a merman
Snap 🧜🏻♂️🧜🏻♂️
Becoming a merman is amazing! Do it! You won't regret it!
Same ÒwÓ
Don't give up buddy! 👍 -Merman Topaz
This is a great way to address it and it couldn't have been said better! Love you and all that you do for the mer community!
As long as you are happy in what you do, you express yourself in your own unique way , and you respect/ give kindness to other people.. that’s okey.... mermaid/ merman/ merfolks-- theyre family❤️
I am getting into mermaiding and as a merman I get worried sometimes of what other people think
When i started, i felt it. But when time goes by, im becoming comfortable on it. And yes, Merman/ Mermaids/ Merfolks are okey ... as long as you are happy.
Just be yourself and don’t care what other people think people stare at me all the time but it’s important to remember that more people will support you then ya know
@@alyssamermaid5677 yea!
They are thinking and perception if you are wearing a tail you are gay I think this video makes other people in the world is have an idea not only women can wear a tail 🤠😉
I found that having a bunch of reasons as for why you're a merman helps a lot, you shouldn't have to explain your self and can simply say that it's what you love, but sometimes people od push you to that point, so keeping a hold of reasons not only helps to get other people to understand, but also helps you to remember why you love doing what you're doing! I have been doing it and it seriously helps. Another tip would be to make it apart of your identity (only if your confrotable doing it) what I mean by this is, when you meet someone, bring up the fact that you are a merman, and it will be difficult at first, as stepping out of your comfort zone is a scary thing, (trust me I know) but it's how we grow. Plus I personally have found that by expressing my love for merfolk, I have become more confident in every aspect of my life, now this may not be the same for you or for anyone else, but it could be. Getting Confortable with the idea means moving out of your confort zone, but the thing is that the confort zone acts like a homing bubble, if you step out of it, the bubble will automatically grow around you without you stepping back into it, thus, the thing you were once uncomfortable with, you are now Confortable in. I hope this helps. Have a great day!
Yeeeeep!!! I love your channel!!! You are one of my biggest inspirations!!! And, you make a great points.
THANK YOU. You explained this extremely well.
Love your videos, amazing
“Go and do the things, go and do whatever you want” is my new motto
You are such a great role model to so many, Courtney! Thank you for speaking out on this subject and spreading so much posivity❤️
You tell them girl! I can't stand the hate! If people want to do something that brings them joy, they shouldn't be judged for it! You keep doing you Hon! ❤️😘
Shello Courtney Mermaid! I am super inspired by you and I am super excited to get my tail! (it's coming in like 3 days or so) I can't wait and I just want to say that I am a huge fan of you! I totally agree that fabric tails are honestly better than silicone, and I totally agree with legit anything you've said like ever xD. Anyways, just wanted to tell you to keep doing what you're doing and don't let the hate bring you down! I've always loved your mermaid tails and most of all, your personality. I hope you have a magical and wonderful day/night! (Also I think you are SUPER underrated)
I was pretty scared about the title but was very relieved very quickly. Just came across the channel, and I love it. I'm an actor/ performer and I was introduced to "mermaiding" about 5 or 6 years ago by a few fellow guards while I was working as a summer lifeguard in college; one very sweet woman in particular, (I miss her) worked as a lifeguard, a swim coach, swam with fin funtail tail for fun, and also made appearances at kids parties to help supplement her college fund as she studied marine biology..amazing right? So, one day when I was working I was able to come in early before my shift and try out her monofin, and I took to swimming in it so so fast. That was really surprising because I am a completely self-taught swimmer, but I remembered swimming at that same local waterpark and trying to "swim like a mermaid" in my childhood, because I'm a 90's baby and loved "The Little Mermaid" so much. I regret not getting into the hobby/ lifestyle back then, but I was still very insecure with myself, my sexuality, my self-expression, etc. and it was much easier to play characters, then be myself and enjoy things for myself, without fear of judgement. The anxiety of the attention mermaiding tends to draw (especially back then) was too much for me to overcome to purchase my own finfun tail. However, another friend group of mine recently started a FB group/ local merpod and I've been trying to figure out what monofin I would like to buy for myself when I can get back to work and afford one ,as well as feel safe swimming in public again. You channel has been very helpful, informative, and just gave me a mood boost watching your lovely videos, thank you, and keep on swimmin'!
Exactly! Thank you, your videos are so supportive and it is helping me so much. Thank you again :)
I love how good you are at sharing your opinion. Men should soooo be mers gay, strait whatever.
I 100% agree! I'm a straight merman, and it's really cool!
@@mermanvine451 Same, I'm straight too 👌👍
I was told by strangers and neighbours that I should be playing with dolls, not matchbox cars and dinosaurs when I was younger, and even now when I reflect on my childhood people still make comments about it!! Like dude??
Mermaids/mermen/merfolk... it's all the same and those who are wanting to spoil people's fun are just jealous they can't see how amazing being a mermaid is.
This comment is for any merfolk who is struggling with susiety acceptance with being a mermaid/merman.
I found that having a bunch of reasons as for why you're a merman helps a lot, you shouldn't have to explain your self and can simply say that it's what you love, but sometimes people do push you to that point, so keeping a hold of reasons not only helps to get other people to understand, but also helps you to remember why you love doing what you're doing! I have been doing it and it seriously helps. Another tip would be to make it apart of your identity (only if your confrotable doing it) what I mean by this is, when you meet someone, bring up the fact that you are a merman, and it will be difficult at first, as stepping out of your comfort zone is a scary thing, (trust me I know) but it's how we grow. Plus I personally have found that by expressing my love for merfolk, I have become more confident in every aspect of my life, now this may not be the same for anyone else, but it could be. Getting Confortable with the idea means moving out of your confort zone, but the thing is that the confort zone acts like a homing bubble, if you step out of it, the bubble will automatically grow around you without you stepping back into it, thus, the thing you were once uncomfortable with, you are now Confortable in. I hope this helps. Have a great day!
This was so inspiring. I love this!
Mermagic Con had their first merman group picture this year. Well, I would have been in that pic the year before but now I'm happy to have to sit out. 🙃🧜♀️🧜♀️
I just try to use merfolk a lot when im writing. I feel like its a good umbrellla term
My late brother, when he was very very young, watched the latest supergirl movie at time. He would put on his super man outfit, but declare he was super girl. It was never challenged or corrected. He just loved the character and wanted to express himself. He had no identity issues, it just was what it was. If adult men also want to be a mermaid instead of a merman, what's the problem? It is what it is and there is no need for any assumptions about anyone. So thank you for speaking out.
I've labeled myself a mermaid ever since I was a little boy lol, but It's been a few years since I dropped out of the Merfolk following. Some of the comments when it came to mermen or boys as mermaids were so harsh and then there are beauty standards that make people judge others so harshly... just kinda gave up on it after a while. I really love that there are Mers like you out there that support everyone enjoying themselves no matter what gender! Keep on being a shining pearl of hope for the community :D
Courtney I have been a subscriber of yours sense 2016 and I started mermaiding in 2015. And I would ALWAYS get so much hate at pools or in public because I was wanting to be a merman. And it honestly was so sad to see people put others down just because they’re enjoying a fun hobby of theirs. And to see a mermaid creator like you make a video addressing something like this is soo cool, and from the bottom of my heart I wanted to thank you! - 𝑀𝑒𝑟𝑚𝑎𝑛 𝑆𝑝𝑙𝑎𝑠ℎ🖤
I agree 1000000%. I feel mermaid is an umbrella term and I feel like it's like the whole pronoun thing. if a dude wants to be called a mermaid or a girl wants to be called a merman JUST CALL THEM WHAT THEY WANNA BE CALLED it isn't that hard.
Your awesome 🧜🏻♀️🧜🏻♀️🧜🏻♀️ and your little corner of UA-cam is kind that’s why It’s awesome 🧜🏻♂️
💖💖💖thanks for existing
Watching this in 2021 as a new Mermaid. Thank you so much. 💙💚💙
Watching this in 2023 is super refreshing!! Great vid! Love you Courtney! ❤️🔥🐉❤️🔥
I LOVE THIS personally I prefer being called a merman but i totally agree my respect for you has completely sky rocketed 💕🧜🏻♀️🧜🏻♂️
YES HUNNY!! thank you i love you you are great and hope you create more content
:)
Straight to the point. Love when you give your opinion 👍👍👍👍😍
I'm guy and you are so amazing and I believe in mermaids I agree with your opinion totally because I love watching your videos beacause they help me out alot because you are my inspiration to become a mermaid
Thank you Courtney ♡
It's tough to make mer friends as a merman because I fear judgement and rejection by other mers and by people on the outside... Thank you for this video, I really needed to see this today ❤️
I like wearing the dresses and being a mermaid, but sometimes I wish people would treat me as one of the guys. I know I can be whatever I want to be, but I feel like people just don't see the roudy little dude in me. I am happy to be a girl, but I want to play rough sometimes and do guy stuff. And at the same time still be girly. I'm sad because no matter how hard I try, I can never earn that "one of the guys" title!
Thank you for your content! I love watching your videos and learning from you! Thank you for always being yourself and being honest!
As a French 20 yo boy who wants to be a merman/maid sooo bad since i'm born, you are such an inspiration for me! I love your videos and when i watch your videos i always tell myself that one day i will be a mermaid! love you from France
Thanks this makes me feel so much better. Love your content ❤️ because of you I’m probably gunna be a merman some day. Not right now tho. Still lacking some confidence lol
You honestly are my favorite mermaid and my inspiration
Sending you love, just bought my first mermaid tail ✨🌙💙 hopefully we can be mermaids together in the future
Your so beautiful. Your such an inspiration to me and so many. Thank you
I love being a merman and swimming like I live underwater 😄😄😄
PREACH! 👏 👏 👏
Yes let everyone be whoever they are. If you don't like it look away or go somewhere else. Love every with kindess. Some people take things too literally. ❤
It the people who where never alowed to be their self so the take it out on others.
I just found you and I was like oh she seems cool then I got a little scared when I saw the title but thank the gods it wasn't hateful anyone can be a mermaid merman or merperson 💙
Courtney, don't stop making mermaid videos! You don't need to rethink what you're posting! I love your mermaid content! Keep being a mermaid! Don't stop because of those dumb negative comments. Plus I'm also a merman, and because of you and mermaid Faith I become fully confident in becoming a merman! You have inspired me! You are an amazing merson Courtney! We all love you very much!
Hi Courtney, you speak to me from the soul. When my husband discovered the fun of swimming with the monofin for himself, the word mermaiding felt strange. It excludes all the other "sea creatures". Daniel therefore came up with the idea of calling that whole merfolking. In Germany, it is still mainly women or girls who live out this hobby, but thank God more and more men, boys and nonbinary people are joining them. Our fins in Fulleschwarm Nordhessen Kassel are colorful. Everyone is welcome.
Zero dislikes, as it should be!
YASSS! I am only two and a half minutes into this video, and this is already why you are the queen of the mermaids! That feeling you get when you "can't even" comprehend someone's ignorance/hatred for someone ELSE'S happiness is something my brain often struggles with too. I wouldn't CARE if a man wanted to wear shells at the pool on his pecks. I'm there to swim, not judge other swimmers. 💙
This video needs more likes, more comments, more attention. Any way we can get this spread around everywhere quicker than the slow way of liking and sharing?
i'm a guy, but i'm a mermaid, always have been and always will be :)))
You are so inspiring! :) You don't care what others think about you, because you know you are great, and I know you're great! 👊😀
Merman Topaz R thanks so much 😊
I'm a trans guy (ftm) and I got top surgery a few months ago and I feel so much more comfortable with the idea of swimming in a tail now and I'm really excited. I personally will be calling myself a merman, but I completely agree with your video and it makes me really happy to see it from you and know where you stand on this
I think you’re so right PS you inspired me to become a mermaid
I stan this so hard!
I would love to see you as Indiana Jones 😎
This makes me go 👌🏻👁️👄👁️👍🏻
I'm 33, but Mermaids are one of my weaknesses !!!
Ya😁👍
I'm a nonbinary merperson and don't get why anyone would complain about men wanting to be mermaids/mermen/whichever term they like.
THANK... YOU, oh my Lanta, ABSOLUTELY NOTHING is tied to one specific gender, but people are stubborn, you can't change everyone's mind and there's always gonna be people who disagree with you, i hate to admit it but it's true, but also.. Alfie the little furmaid 😂
Weird question but where did you cute stuff animals I'm building a nursery and it's shark theme while kinda oceaned them.. but I agree with you.
My plush sharks are from IKEA
@@CourtneyMermaid thank you so much
I figured the word mermaid as it goes in a hobby context was generally a gender neutral phrase. It's not that much different from the words pharaoh or prince (vtm-wise).
I must wonder if part of the issue is perception and...entitlement? I don't know if entitlement is the best word for it--an unhealthy protectiveness?
Even if people within (for the most part) the hobby treat it as gender neutral as well, mermaids denote women to people outside of the hobby. As time goes on, this will likely change. There's still quite a stigma around men enjoying mermaiding, and I do see the occasional comment from men not joining in for numerous reasons such as: they don't want to be seen as pedophiles, insecurities, etc.
Mermaiding's already a niche thing as it is, and looked down upon to some extent. On the other side of the matter, I wouldn't be surprised if there were some people who wouldn't want mermen around period because they believe there are already so many male-dominated activities, and men getting into mermaiding constitutes a violation of some kind of space.
It's quite frustrating all around.
I remember i wanted to be a professional mermaid and my older sister laughed at me... oop.
My brother is a "merman" and he even he is like "we all are mermaids. I know I am male, so does everyone who asks or jsut looks at me.. I don't need to change a whole word just to feed any men-egos."
And I get the point. I think you can see what someone is, and if not you can ask kindly what their Mermaid name is or what they want to be called or anything.
I also don't like when people say "no men can't be mermaids" "they only can be mermen" like . . .
Can you do a video about swimming in all your mermaid tails?
Thank you for this video! I totally agree with you that men can be mermaids! Like women can be presidents ;-))
Thank you for making this video. I'm glad that I can be a mermaid even though I'm a man.
👏👏👏🥰
I love this, my only comment on there was stating my mom told me I was too old to be a mermaid, lol 😂. I never commented about that. My son wants to be a mermaid not a merman. He dosnt like the sound of merman. He says mermaid sounds better and he merman can't have the pretty colors like mommys tails. I won't allow him too yet. I let him dress up in this mermaid blanket but he's too young for swimming in a tail. I keep telling him once he's older and can swim better. (So I don't get hate and people understand. My sons 5 and he's not a strong enough swimmer to even swim with a mono fin no less a tail.) But any tips on what ages are good? I read mix things on this. 1 thing said 10, another 13 then even another said not until 16. My #1 thing is safety.
I love you end i became a mermen bicause of you❤
What they complaining about? Boys in tails 😍 yum
I'm waiting for the day the 'vocal minority' removes the word 'man' from human.
Alien: "Hello Earthling, are you a human?"
Me: "No, I'm just Hu - I'm gender neutral. No gender specific handles are allowed."
Alien: "Why?"
Me: "You'll have to ask the folks that have a problem with men being mermaids. They started it all."
You say this like it’s a joke but I’ve absolutely seen people writing “womyn” because “women” is part of the patriarchy... or something. If that floats their boat, fine, have fun, but I start edging away from the ones insisting I follow suit
I personally really like the verbiage 'merfolk'/'mercreature' for myself because it removes the gendered language from it entirely, at the end of the day we are all just fishies 🤷♂️🐟🐠
🌊💖🧜🏼♂️🧜🏼♀️🧜🏽♀️🧜🏽♂️🧜♀️🧜🏻♂️💖
Say it louder for the people in the back sis! Let people be happy!
okay I know this is totally irrelevant to the content of this video but i hAVE TO KNOW WHERE THOSE FUZZY FLUFFY SOFt bLANKeTS ON YOUR BED CAME FROM THEY LOOK SO COMFORTABLE
All my comforters (yes there's more than one LOL) and the white fluff blanket (not the sparkly one that's sometimes on the bed) are from Bed Bath and Beyond. The sparkly white one is from Walmart. :)
Men can mermaids
Tbh I always looked at the term mermaid as a name of the species and not a gender thing.
Me too!
Like ladybugs.
Minion candy mermaids