I was a private investigator in LA for forty years and had a case involving Jerry Lewis. I had to go to his Beverly Hills office and it was plastered with larger than life pictures of him. I wondered who was so insecure he needed to walk into his own office and see nothing but pictures of themselve. His narcissism was not hard to see.
Makes me wonder if he worked for charity because he truely cared for the cause or because he loved the image and attention he created for himsel this way.
@@christinebuckingham8369 not true at all. He had a mild form of that disease and wanted to adopt a girl in the 50s with MD, but the girl died before the processs of adoption was over. He wanted to find the cure. And his kids worked with him all their lives on his telethons. He was not evil to them when they worked with him and earned alongside with him.🙄 Yet they did not want to pay mom's nursing home. Jerry did that until his death. You people just know to hate instead of informing yourself.🤮
That's interesting because my mother hated me my entire life and was so emotionally abusive to me and yet she would adore my cousin's child and talk to her often and be emotionally supportive of her. Seems like she wasn't able to love her own child.
@@crystalheart9 I can understand why you may need therapy n I wouldn't fault you but a lot of people just strike me as as pathetic especially when they have nothing to be depressed about
My grandfather was like JL . My father was the opposite . My dad's will included , ALL his children . He didn't want his father's money or belongings . He was an only child . His father left everything to his 3rd wife and his mom left everything to his adopted , orphaned , cousin . Imagine being an only child and getting nothing ??? Good thing my dad was self made . He loved and cared for his family because his parents were so awful. He loved my mom and his daughters . On his deathbed he smiled at all of us and said , " I created this ! " Living and dying , surround by love was my dad's goal . A job well done . 😘😍😇
Sounds like my father, giving everything to a woman much younger than him, and nothing for his kids. He was a serial cheater and whipped me a lot and could be very cold/mean. I am a pushover with my kids - what's mine is theirs. I played guitar in a band, and had many opportunities, but have been faithful for 30 years to my awesome wife.
@@Jamestele1 Years ago, I remember seeing a basketball player (maybe Charles Barkley) saying “When you cheat on your wife, you cheat on your children.”. So true. I was daddy’s little girl until he left us for another woman and even moved out of town in the middle of the night (waking me up) right before Christmas and traumatized me forever. I’m happy you realized, you never wanted to follow in your father’s lifestyle. 🙏
It's always so sad to see children that were so badly treated by a parent then beat themselves up about not having a chance to make things right, when they did nothing wrong, totally heartbreaking
I’ve been there. A long story, but I once thought I was daddy’s little girl until he woke me up from sleep when I was 10 and said he’s leaving. I thought he was leaving on a railroad run, but he was literally leaving. His mistress was waiting across town and he moved out of town with her and never lived in the house again. Also, right before Christmas. He never apologized. I tried all of my life to try to be close and ‘fix’ things even until he died. We never once discussed it and even when he died at 88, he never cared that that was the most life changing and traumatic moment of my life. Once he died, I did find some peace though in knowing there is no more effort needed to do so. Ours was exactly like the Lewis family. You never knew what mood he’d be in when he drove up. Most of the time, never a good one. I feel for them.
Rubbish! His sons sponged off their mother’s $450,000 per year alimony to such a degree that she wound up broke. His children grew up enjoying every luxury. They attended the best schools. Not one of them has ever accomplished anything or worked a steady job - choosing instead to sponge off their elderly mother.
You cannot make it right with a parent like this!! Say “I love you” as much as you like-it changes nothing-they will still leave you nothing because to them you were always nothing-accept it! Move on, enjoy your life and be thankful they can now do nothing else to hurt you! You’re free!
@@dimensionzone8048 You’re so sweet, thank you. The blessing was, my grandfather (my mother’s father) was not only a father to my mother, but also, to my older brother and me. He and my grandmother were amazing people. I had to stay with them a LOT since my mother had to go from a housewife for 20 years, to working at Sears to support us. My grandfather took me to father/daughter banquets for Camp Fire Girls and many things like that. He made me a rope swing with a wooden seat on their tree and there was never a time, even as I got older, he wanted to make sure I was home safe at night. Aways reminded me to check the oil in my car and everything my dad should have been. I thank God for him so very much. 🙏
Most freeing thing is to not be beholden to some ahole who thinks they can control you with money. It was my mom for me. The irony (and the karma) is that she lost everything after a nervous breakdown and now she lives on the minimum (although a decent existence-she's lucky). I help her when I can and when I want-my choice. She's lucky I even talk to her.
Some people just don't make good parents or just too effing selfish to care their own offspring. I'm glad that you made your decision whether to have a relationship your old man or not.
My mother called me on the phone drunk on my birthday at about 10 o’clock at night some years ago to let me know that she had taken me out of her will. I am the only child. I calmly replied that I had a good job and was paying my own bills and then some and that I didn’t need any outside help and was there anything else I could help her with while she was on the phone. I’ve never heard my mother’s voice so evil sounding. Thankfully I had done work around her for years in the way that she treated me growing up but I have to admit I was numb for the rest of the evening. When I was younger I spent countless nights trying to figure out why she was the way that she is but having me when she was 18 years old I would say she really wasn’t mature enough to be a mom and at the end of the day some people just aren’t supposed to be parents and today I’m OK with that.
So sorry. It was her personality defect. Having you older probably wouldn't have made a difference. My mom was always mean and jealous of me so I know how it feels.
my father was an administrator of a nursing home in MA. Jerry Lewis was headlining in CT, not far from us. My father took myself and some of the nursing home residents to his show. After the show, my father and some of the residents went up to Jerry to say hello, Jerry said - Get these People Away from Me. He was Rude, not friendly - I can see his son's point.
I had heard interviews when I was a kid, & I thought he was attempting to be funny, but as I got older I realized he was either under the influence or had a serious personality disorder.
Never meet your hero’s! I know he was a world famous comedian but he always seemed angry or upset to me, maybe I’m just sensitive to that kind of personality.
the new wife should feel ashamed!...and disgusted at jerry!..to see what he did to his kids should have been an eye opener..however,,Hollywood,,im not surprised!
@@blueblueblue864 I remember in the 60s or early 70s when he took up with this woman, SanDee Pitnick. Cha-ching, she + their adopted girl suddenly became his be-all and end-all. I'm sure she cares nothing for the first family. A lot of men do this.
I never thought Jerry Lewis would do such a thing how horribly wrong that is for his family I hope they can find peace in their hearts he must’ve been a monster😢
If it were one son, I'd be more inclined to think "oh, he's just disgruntled, maybe was ungrateful, resentful of Dad's fame, etc." But ALL kids from first marriage disinherited???? Sounds like Jerry was the problem. Sad.
@@aaronhumphrey2009he was not bitter towards Patti, he paid his first wife's nursing home until the day he died and gave her rich alimony of 450 000$ yearly. He left her a mansion and his movie rights. Some of his kids were drug addicts and thieves (the one in the video stole money from him). So bitterness tovards Patti had nothing to do with Jerry's decision to disinherit his sons.
@@tondaniraluswinga2590 it's not hard to believe at all-real victims exist. But his kids praised him while he was alive, and changed the tune the minute he died. They also worked with him. My dad was mentally abusive, but I did not spend a lifetime working with him.
@@Ajaxxgopwand what is your deal? I write FACTS from books. The only one who has to take a break and who's hyterical is you. His son Gary WAS a drug addict and his son Anthony, the one from the video, STOLE money Jerry gave him for his mom's nursing home. So what's wrong with me calling him a thief? Is there some other term for someone who steals something? As if you would not disinherit sons who act like that. You'd reward them for their behaviour, no?😂 So, again; what's your problem with me? Answer if you have something smart to add.😂 Last thing, his daughter is adopted- so she's his DAUGHTER. That is not the same as being a stepdaughter. Learn the difference .🙄
Jerry Lewis was clearly a man of little integrity, with a closed mind and cold heart. His true legacy is the pain he left for his family, not the laughter he thought he left for the world.
I can say with no exaggeration that I have NEVER laughed at a single Jerry Lewis "bit" in my life, having endured countless hundreds of them. Patently unfunny man. Great humor comes from deep suffering and compassion -- if you leave out the compassion part, it's not funny. It's just mean.
@@rugbyslug he said the comedy comes from personal tragedy. He said he was suffering as a kid because his parents only worked as they were poor. He said, they had to work but I am emotional so that broke me. So there you go. How about reading something about the man before judging him?
The son that died of a drug overdose was Joe Lewis. He was born in 1964, and was the youngest child of Jerry Lewis. I went to elementary school with Joe, and attended several birthday parties at their house in Bel Air. Everyone adored Patti Lewis for being so devoted to all of her children. Jerry only came to a few of his sons birthday parties. And he never stayed very long! My prayers go out to the entire Lewis family!
Thank you for posting this. For years I had heard that Gary had served in Vietnam and it was he who came back hooked on heroin. I was never sure that was true or not.
@@arianbyw3819 The parents cannot be held responsible for their children being on drugs. My cousin had the best parents in the world, he was an only child. Yet he could not keep a job, got his girl friend pregnant (my aunt and uncle took care of the baby and her mother for a while), stole, went to jail. There was nothing his parents could do, he was a liar. Once I saw him somwewhere and he told me he was working for the government as a spy. I hardly could remain serious. I don't know where he is today, his parents died young, too much pain caused by their son. May they rest in peace.
My father was just like this! He just died last year and I was forbidden to see him when he passed. I also was left nothing and it was all left to his wife of only 2 years! I am his only child! He was a textbook narcissist father! The mental abuse narcissists throw on their children is something most cannot understand unless you’ve experienced it. I realized many years ago that I would never have the father I deserved. I feel for the sons. They deserved so much better!
No one deserves that kind of father or parent. This is a curse, literally. You get to undo that curse by being the best mother or whatever role you have in someone's life. You watched, you experienced, and now you get to destroy it so hopefully no other person in your lineage will be subjected to this behavior. Bless you!
I hear you except it was my mom. Takes a lifetime of work overcoming .At least, the abuse wasn't passed on to my own kids and my mom passed on before she could destroy my family.
I'm just like You. My siblings don't know the abuse I suffered at my dads hands. growing up he would tell me only one job for a woman outside the home that being a secretary. little did I know in 1980 I would need my fathers signed permission to accept a 4yr basketball Scholarship to a major Chicago University. So you know he didn't sign it. I would later go into Medicine becoming a Dr in Radiology & Gastro-Enterology. My Sister was a secretary in a small town hospital. I would give her the info to tell my-our father the best action to treat his prostate cancer. He only learned recently I'm the one who saved his life, but I still never ever hear from him. I will more than likely be left out of his fortune will too
@@harperstacey9604 yep, that's why he let them work with him their entire lives. Wish my dad was that 'monstrous'. That's why they said years ago he was 'strict but fair'. Bet you haven't read a single biography on the subject before spilling your hate here.🙄
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@@Sunflower-cb1sk yeah youre an expert because you read a few biographies lol
@lol but to YOURSELF. I certainly know more from autobiographies than you and people here speculating and spilling hate without even reading about the subject and hating based on one video. You're just jealous that I know about the subject way more than you do.
Jerry Lewis was the same kind of father as Bing Crosby was to his “first” family. Neither one wanted anything to do with their children with their first wives. My heart goes out to them and may their mothers Rest In Peace.
Same thing will Peter Sellers who left his 3 children (both from his first and second marriage) nothing when he died (they received £800 each in 1980 currency). He left his money to his last wife (but was in the process of cutting her out of his will weeks before he died), they had no children together. She remarried twice after his death, had a daughter during her second marriage and died in 1994. Her daughter who was born years after Peter Sellers died, and has no connection to Peter Sellers, inherited his Estate from her mother. How horrible and unfair that is to Peter Sellers three children and family.
Michael Landon did the same thing, He cheated on every wife, and ignored his older children. Charles was a nice guy, but Michael Landon was a pig and a drunk.
I find it incredible in retrospect to how Dean Martina’s family adored him, and Jerry’s was the polar opposite. And as far as I know, Dean and his wife remained together. Which just proves Dean had values that he wouldn’t dispose of.
Dean Martin was also generous. In one story, a man and his wife wanted to see Dean at a nightclub, but he couldn't get in because he didn't have a tie, which was required. Dean heard about it and gave the man his tie, and the man and his wife were able to see Dean.
I grew up in an emotionally abusive household and I know the feeling of scrambling when that person comes home not knowing how they'll react and if they'll take it out on you :/ it's hard
@@jjk2one The law can easily be sidetracked with an underhanded lawyer, and there is no shortage of such lawyers. A creative use of Epstein credits, spousal support during a separation is one means to leave a spouse in a divorce penniless.
It takes two to tango and when one of the dancers doesn't want to dance, there's nothing you can do about it. I waited on Jerry Lewis way back in the 70's in San Diego when I worked in a restaurant there. He was totally obnoxious. He wasn't made the center of attention, so he started acting up like hurling butter patties at the ceiling, dancing and calling out for a waiter or cocktail waitress in the middle of the busiest time for the restaurant. I have waited on or been on duty when other celebrities came in and all of them behaved very graciously. I feel so sorry for his children he treated them so horribly. You can tell how hurt the son is. Emotional abuse can occur at any income level. Bet the woman who got all the money isn't a bit ashamed either. If she had been a nice person, she would have split it with his children.
I never liked Jerry Lewis - I never thought he was funny, just goofy. Good for his son in standing up for his mother. Sad that Jerry Lewis was such a jerk!
His goofy, slapstick shtick was funny for about two years early into his career. The next 50 years was spent as an old circus clown begging for laughs.
So sad for his son, but he handled it like a man. Good for him, the son, not Jerry. Goes to show, someone can be a fine Entertainer and a rotten person. Probably more than we'd like to know.
I grew up w a stepfather who hated my guts because I looked like my bio dad. And he reminded me of that every day. I got cancer as a kid and he took all his hate out on my poor mother. Can’t hit the cancer kid.
How do you know he lost his soul? We know nothing of the family dynamics. People on all sides were likely selfish. It wasn't just Jerry, I would bet on it. It is very sad though & my heart breaks for all concerned.
I remember reading that she sacrificed so much for him. She had to dress a certain way and comb her hair the way he wanted. She did everything for him; gave him all of her self. After he divorced her she was on the I think the Sally Raphael show with several other women whose husbands divorced them. She was very hurt and very bitter. Sad to see.
Don't ever confuse a celebrity's public image with their true character. Some of the most talented and successful people have absolutely no conscience. What it takes to be successful has nothing to do with what it takes to be a descent person.
Me and my siblings(4 of us) were all born in the latter '50s. We were a farm family and dad had a binge drinking problem. Good man while sober but a miserable man when drunk. All his hurts and disappointments would surface when drinking. When he'd come home from the bar we'd see the headlights coming down the dirt road and we'd scramble to our bedrooms regardless if it was bed time or not to avoid him at all costs. His alcoholism and self hatred had a negative affect on all us kids well into adulthood and beyond. Hearing how Jerry's own kids would purposely avoid him after coming home reminded me so much of my own childhood.
The kids lived in a gilded cage but not worth it when your father is a mean evil person. So glad my parents were loving even after a long day. I miss my father and he smothered us with much love. Although at times it can appear to be intrusive but looking back I would take my dad’s love over having to live in fear and scatter upon his return home.
@@mattbickett5368 That's a horrible way to grow up. Hopefully you were able to work through all of that trauma because that kind of parenting leaves scars. 💔
@@mattbickett5368 You just described my childhood as well, Matt. I had two younger sisters and we lived in fear of his coming home when he'd been drinking. He and Mom would eventually end up in a brawl and he got physical with her. It was a nightmare that you cannot erase from your memory. After watching Jerry Lewis being interviewed a lot lately, it is not surprising he would do something so unkind to his kids. His son is a mirror image of Jerry. He had to face his maker on that one, as my parents did.
@@likesanddislikesetc no he was not. They worked with him on telethons and earned their entire lives alongside with him. When your dad is horrible,you do not spend a lifetime working with him. Speaking from my own experience, I can assure you that.
@@JenniferDaniels909 he left a mansion to his wife and gave her rich alimony. His kids worked with him their entire lives. He treated them better than most divorced men treat their first family.
@Exposing Liarsyou people just love to hate without a reason. Yep, a very bad parent, with whom his kids worked their entire lives. Wish that my dad was as 'bad'.
Makes me wonder how they got approval to be foster parents. People that abuse others (I am not talking about proper discipline--discipline is a necessary thing) just aren't worthy of having children.
Jerry Lewis was a plain enigma. Generous to a fault with his causes such as muscular dystrophy but over the years couldn't muster even an ounce of generosity to his own kids. A very sad man.
His kids worked with him their whole lives. His oldest son performed on his every telethon until the last one in 2010.Just changed the tune when he died.
@@joselassalle5906 not true. He admitted being a difficult person and egomaniac. A hypocrite would never say that about himself. He even said that he praises other people for putting up with him. A hypocrite never speaks negatively about himself.
@@Sunflower-cb1sk well said, He had feelings of abandonment with his parents and a tough relationship with his father but still made a success of himself. He gave his kids the same opportunities participating on stage he had with his dad. They lived a very privileged life full of opportunities and did whatever they wanted. He didn't owe them a penny especially after they started trashing him. Their disrespect is evident in their wanting to contest his WILL. All this hate & judgement over HIS money.
There may have been a codicil that she couldn`t. In my girlfriends case, any money she leaves me is still hers, even after death. Done usually to protect the largesse from the IRS etc. but I bet they could do it also for the reasons you mentioned. Do you think Jerry would leave her all that money WITH OUT conditions?!? He sounds like the kind of guy who would be controlling even after death...
I just saw a vieo of a homeless woman..DNA proved he is here dad. She is homelss...How could he have been so cruel to his children??? Sandee Picnic his last wife should share with the kids!
No, not everyone thought he was wonderful. Talented, yes. But many knew he was a real bastard. There have been stories in the news for DECADES of him not paying vendors and screwing people over. And let's not forget he exited two other major life relationships on horrible terms: Muscular Dystrophy Association, and Dean Martin.
@@lanceevans1689 He was a complicated, sick person. I'm sure something in his upbringing contributed to his possible sociopathy. Maybe mistreatment by his father or neglect by his mother. SOMETHING in his formative years messed him up.
@@The22on Or maybe he was simply rotten from birth. Nurture can affect a persons software for good or bad. Some(thankfully few) simply come into this world wired(defective hardware) wrong.
Good point and very ironic. Both of those guys were inverse opposites. Martin played a philandering booze hound on screen when in real life it was apple juice in his hand and one woman in his heart.
Yeah. Dean never got over the death if his son. I heard nothing but good things about him. And I believe everything. God bless people like him. Then theirs those like jerry. He never saw all that he had. Fame money family. Such a waste. so very sad.
You have to be a Narcissists to disinherit your own biological children from a will. So sad what he put his first wife of 38 years & his children through.
My mother abandoned me in the hospital she is still living very well off 89 years old only living sibling and disinherited me. As she always says I’m the boss and it’s my money. Not really she took it from my brother. I am 62 and will never see her again.
Well i remembered reading that Bill Gates said he will donate all his money to charity when he dies and give none to his family except give $1 million each to his grandchildren. I am guessing he just wants his children to work for their money and not rely on his wealth when he is gone.
I met him as a worker at a hotel and he was just a very mean guy. Saying he wanted everyone fired for basically nothing - he just acted hateful -so I believe it about his kids. Such a shame he had problems and took it out on them. He probably left his last wife everything to placate her for taking care of him - without a thought about his boys. Selfish and sad
As a kid growing up watching Jerry (and Dean) on the big screen with his goofy antics, his crazy laughs and his slapstick comedy, you would have never imagined he would be the kind of man to treat his own kids that way. Especially after seeing how close him and own father were.
People can be so complex. I lived in a neighborhood years ago where this guy treated everyone so great. We all thought he was wonderful. Later after he died his family told the truth. How awful he treated them. Some sickos treat others like gold but treat their own families like dirt. It's insane.
Agree. I grew up watching my dad hit my mom, knock holes in our walls, get drunk & cheat, and finally leave us when I was 7 & my brother was a newborn. My mom worked my entire childhood to support us & buy a home for us.
@@s.u.2320 Thank you but I wish that was the worst of it. But you know what life keeps moving forward, life goes on. He died I wonder what explanation he’s going to give to God.
I stood up for all my sisters who my dad abused. He left me out of his will and somehow stayed out of prison. I warned my sisters not to let him near their children and knowing dad's past made him even more angry with me.
When my grandpa died. My dad and his siblings were disputing about the inheritance. My aunt wanted ALL of the inheritance because she feels like she deserved since she's the one who stayed with my grandparents until they died. She never worked in her life. They started fighting over inheritance right before my eyes. It was one of the saddest thing i've ever seen. Family fighting over money.
It would be feasible if he never knew those sons but he was there when they grew up how could he allow his second wife to alienate them so she would 8nheret all his money. I can only surmise sheachieved that aim after he was old and feeble thru manipulation of a man who could no longer stand up for himself.
He is BURNING IN HELL. There is absolutely no doubt whatsoever about that. I don't believe in gambling, but if I did, I would bet $1 Billion that he is there!
I remember when Jerry filled in for Regis in the Regis and Kathie Lee show, and how disappointed I was with Jerry. He was all over the place, making no sense, all show and no substance. How sad to find out he turned out to be that way in real life.
@myfamilynme: I think the son doesn't love Jerry but wishes he could. How can you love someone unlovable? I remember a woman whose adopted son killed her husband and tried to kill her. She testified against him in court and sent him to death row. (Adopting an older child can be dangerous.) The same with a woman whose pet monkey tore her to pieces. "I can't love him anymore."
He came to my town Lima Ohio, to be in a Golf tournament and he was so very mean and short tempered to everyone at the golf course that so local members started telling he could leave if he was that unhappy. He kept his mouth shut the rest of the game. When he was ready to leave he threw the whole set his golf clubs and told the crowd they were up for grabs. One of the boys carried them to his car and said No takers.hahahahahahahaha
The man works for his own money, so he does what he wanted with it, sons and daughters must learn to work for their own and not want what mother and father has, that's the deal.
@Mohammed Sood I know what the bible says, but still that does not give no one the right to want what their parents have, if my parents had money, and they did not share it with me, I would of never be mad nor up set nor offended, why? Because I didn't work for it, they did, and they have the right to give it to whom ever they well please, work for what so ever u want in life is the best thing ever, not wanted what others have, that is pure stupidest.
Read my reply above. Legally, the deceased can still control what happens to the money after death, in any number of ways. I`m betting it was Jerry`s decision, more than the 2nd wive`s.
My father was a lovely man and died a horrible death in hospital. It never occurred to me if he left me anything. Someone asked one day and I said I didn't care. If it's helping my Mum in her later years then that's all that matters
If your dad was a multi-millionaire, it would occur to you; people do not just leave that kind of money unclaimed if they feel they may be entitled to it. If your family is of modest means, then it wouldn't be something you think about. Also, it sounds like your dad died without a will. In that case, everything goes to your mother (if they were married) anyway.
Patty Lewis was a truly great person and mother stuck in an impossible situation. I had a couple of baby sitting gigs for Jay and his friends, up in Bel Air, and got just a glimpse. What I saw, as a callow, college freshman guy, alarmed me. Without knowing specifics, I knew enough to worry about Pat’s safety. Real people, in my limited experience, didn’t act like that. His son has real courage. His mother would be proud
Wow! @MikeKenney That’s so interesting. Thanks for sharing. Wish JL’s 2nd wife had enough class and grace to split that inheritance with his flesh and blood. He left plenty to share. People exhaust me 😞
@@Butchandbellesvilla That's the key to it. No matter what he did, said, wrote, or signed, he's gone. She can do whatever she pleases, including what is morally right.
I feel sorry for Poor Mrs.Patty Lewis and her sons from that first marriage..Mr.Jerry Lewis was a miserable bully and a creepazoid....I don't give a damn how talented and successful he was with his films..that didn't give him the right to hurt his first wife and his sons.
I always thought Jerry Lewis was a narcissist just by watching him on TV.He didn't really care about helping people; he just wanted to act like a hero and hear people say how wonderful he was.
Jerry Lewis "didn't take a salary" from the Telethon, but he billed MDA millions of dollars for his so-called "expenses." I HATED that he called children & adults with muscular dystrophy "Jerry's kids." He didn't love or care about them! Look how he treated his own children! And Patty!
I was raised like this to some degree. Unwedded unwanted pregnancy only child. Ill never forget my father telling me at 11 yrs old, that me and your mother were fine till you came along. Im 54 now, hes older age now and we get along ok but I never had that father son relationship so many men need or desire in their lives. Im still single because of it I believe.
He came to my town when I was 8 years old. Barely 8. My brother was seven. Jerry Lewis was doing the telethon and comedian stuff. We loved him so much. We watched every thing he did. It was the only happy thing in our lives. We went to see him. My brother sweetly asked him for his autograph. Jerry Lewis screamed and swore at my brother. Made him cry. Telling him to go away. It hit the local papers and further. My opinion of him is not a good one. The only exciting thing to ever happen for my brother. Who had just been burnt from catching on fire and still healing. Our mom left us and so on the traumas. My brother had this one dream come true and it terrified and disappointed my brother. Every time I hear his name I still cringe and remember that moment. Having to hold my brother and calm him down. He was terrified. Afraid of Lewis. Yes.....I feel sorry for his children. They may have needed a father. But, they sure didn't need him.
I was left out of my mother's will too. There was not millions of dollars but to be left out was hurtful. I have 3 sisters who convinced my mother that I was bad. They got everything. I don't care that one of my sisters took Mother's house and the other two took possession of all of her possessions. What bothers me is that they hate me for no reason and they convinced my mother that I didn't deserve her love. My only brother died 3 months after our mother did and my sisters didn't tell me. Greed is a horrible thing.
Just live a happy, prosperous and caring life. Never count on inheriting anything and make your own way. My folks had a great deal of money and left it to colleges and hospitals. Fine with me; I can take care of myself. Inherited money has ruined many a life and broken up families. We don't play that game.
Gail please forgive your sisters. This will allow you to go on with life and to be happy. Please know that Jesus Christ will never leave you nor forsake you. The Lord God loves you / infinitely! Read the Psalms and get close to the One who loves you for eternity!
“For I know the plans I have for you,' declares the Lord, 'plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future”- Jeremiah 29:11 KJV
Never liked him. Never trusted him. Everything he did for charity was about his ego. Nothing else. He wanted adoration. A complete narcissist like Joan Crawford.
Joan and Jerry did a telethon on 1967. Both were a bit inebriated and very much a like. You can see Joan hurriedly grabbing Christina by the hand making her do what Mommie wanted her to do. No time for small talk get on the phone Christina.
He did adopt 2 kids (each in each marriage)and treated them as his own. And he wanted to adopt a girl with muscular dystrophy back in the 50s but the girl died before the process of adoption was over. So he did this with honesty.
@JusticeAA Get the heck out of here, you'd have to be one sick cookie to try and prevent his own sons from attending his funeral. My God, she is as sick as Lewis.
My brothers never told me when my Mother died. I found out from a friend calling me telling me it was in newspaper. It took me a week to find out. How thoughtful. Still owe me money too.
@@gorgeousg8704 My ex didn't want me at his funeral! Our son was only 17! I went with my son despite the ban. All hell broke lose because I was there! I wouldn't leave my son by himself at a funeral! What good parent would not do the same?!
So thankful for my daddy. He was an amazing dad and taught my brothers and I so much. I am very mich a daddys girl. I kust lost him in Feb. No amount of money or material things could ever replace him. I am lost without him. I wish all kids could have a daddy and childhood like mine.
fame was hollow and his soul was icy cold. I pray for his poor spirit who went down with his evil personality. Look at the difference between Mr. Rogers and children and Jerry Lewis and handicapped children. Lord have mercy.
And now we have a generation enslaved by their ego because they grew up seeking validation online (I know someone will ok boomer me but it's the sad truth )
If his second wife and daughter had an ounce of integrity, they would have split the inheritance evenly between all the siblings. Then, the first wives' children could then help their mother.
Jerry Lee Lewis was a total a******. Nobody could hardly work with him. He was selfish as you can see. His daughters on the Street Homeless. Because he don't leave them nothing.
He was FINALLY a good father to his children, but treated his first wife and children abysmally. He left Betty Martin for Jeannie who was very young and she descended into alcoholism, eventually losing her house and being incapable of looking after her kids. Ironically, it was only Jeannie taking them in a providing them with a home that kept things together. Betty finally died alone and heartbroken, of alcoholism. Jeannie was a very good young woman, in the end, and kept the family together remarkably, but Martin was unfaithful to her as he was to all four of his wives. I LOVE Martin and Lewis together, they brought joy to the world and still do, but neither were perfect. Indeed, Martin taught the much younger Lewis all about gambling and womanising in a way he never forgot!! I know full well that Lewis was incredibly difficult, but I feel he was terribly emotionally damaged from being left alone whilst his parents worked as vaudevillians and was very probably bi-polar. I feel sorrowful that his sons were so badly treated. I do distinctly feel, however, that Lewis estate was in financial trouble and this was why so much of it and the house was sold so quickly after his death. He was 91, after all, and maybe his sons should have learnt how to support themselves! Nonetheless, I feel that his son DID love him and was denied that final chance to make reparation. What sadness and what a tragic waste.
@Les Brown Yes, Les, and a typical Italian away from home - womanising relentlessly! Look, I LOVE Dean Martin - he was irresistible when on stage and screen , but he was not perfect and neither was Lewis. But it is Lewis who catches all the vitriol. Unfair in so many ways.
Dean Martin,had a love for people,,can understand him being a good father,,he oozed love and charisma .R.I.P Dean..,Jerry Lewis paid the price for Stardom, for sure,, nothing is perfect in the real world.
Such is at least in part why Dino split with Jerry after 10 yrs of putting up with Much... Though Jerry was a comic genius in his own right 'I suspect He was nasty to work with... As a young boy growing up in Los Angeles in the '50s I did relish all the Martin & Lewis Movies & other films Dean & Jerry did independent of one another
He did not walk away from them as if they never happened. All 6 of them were grown up when divorce happened. And they worked with him until the end, Gary even performed at his dad's telethon in 2010
Not true at all- his kids said in their mom's memoir 'I laffed till I cried' he was strict but fair. Then changed their tune only when he died. And if he was that bad, why did they work with him ALL their lives? Who does that if their parent is that bad? I certainly do not-speaking from experience. And his kids never mention that they refused to pay their mom's nursing home, Jerry paid it until the day he died. The poor lady was almost evicted when he died- go fund me, saved her. How would you qualify the kids who do that to their mom? Maybe Jerry left them out of his will because of that. All those kids and grandkids- she was almost evicted. As for Jerry, he admitted his faults and being an egomaniac. But he was not as heartless as all of you want to paint him.
My wife did she left our kids still hasn't talked to our son in over 3years my mother took care of us kids my father died when I was 7 my mom did everything for us sacerficed so much made sure we ate first we were poor but she was rich in heart
I live in Scotland. Our probate laws will not allow spouse and children to be ignored or left out in a Will. They get one third, between them, of all the 'moveable' estate - (money and goods, not property or real estate) It may be unfair in a few cases, but it saves some of the heartache and practical problems such as described here.
Almost everyone I know despised Mr. J. Lewis for doing that to his children. My mom was a hardworking, successful, no nonsense woman born during The Great Depression and as long as I knew her she hated his movies. She would ask us to change the channel when he came on. And there were others like Mr. Lewis. Look at what happened to John Lennon’s son by his first wife. There ought to be a law. Children should not be victims here. Best revenge is for these kids to forget him and go on to live a productive and happy life of their own.
Kelly York Lennon and Lewis can not be compared as parents. Lennon literally abandoned his son, never took care of him nor raised him. Lewis' kids worked with him even as an adults, their entire lives, on telethons. Said he was 'strict but fair'. They only changed the tune when he left them no money in the will. But they had no problem to literally earn by his side their entire lives. Julian never had that contact with Lennon.
Fascinating post. My Mom also was about your Mom's age & never was a fan, tho she laughed at some of his shtick. Mothers just know about those things, talent or lack of & character
Sounds to me like Jerry tried to keep everything in the divorce that was acquired during his first marriage & leave his ex destitute which isn't cool either, that's why the kids sued him on her behalf. Sadly they never should've had to get involved but they did the right thing in helping their mother. Jerry would've been fine financially even had he split things with his ex as in most divorces especially those ending from long term marriages. The kids helped their mother sue him for what was truthfully right but that didn't mean they didn't love their father & Jerry didn't see it that way. Sad
Sounds like my dad. When he'd come home my brother, sister and I would scatter and make sure we were either doing homework or chores when he walked in. Depending on his mood, sometimes we'd still get beat even though we were doing work. Years later we recognized it was just his mood at the time. The worst beating I ever got was because he brought home a candy bar (Caramello) for me but I didn't like that gooey caramel so I said "No thanks, I don't like that kind." I thought he was going to kill me. Certain things still trigger PTSD from it over 30 years later.
My goodness! How awful! I'm so sorry, my dad was a very kind man so it is hard for me to fathom how a father can be like that to their children or to anyone
I used to love Jerry Lewis in movies when I was a kid. 'Visit to a Small Planet', was my favourite. I am shocked to hear how he treated his family. I recently saw a yt video of how he raped 2 women who were actresses in his films. Reading the comments, I am sorry to hear how so many viewers went thru bad times with a parent. My childhood was a mess too. I have 2 boys who I live for and I am determined that they will have a better childhood than mine.
I agree....first thing you do....be grateful your blessed....and give back...or pay it forward...smh ....50 million a surprise for a has been...MD telethon was a profitable charity
@@lilybond6485 Actually we do have a pretty good idea. $50 to $70 million based on published media stories that nobody is really disputing. $50 to $70 million actually is an "idea".
@@usfanlovesjiwoo1978 Dean couldn't stand the mob. He would often turn down their requests because he didn't want to be associated with them. Unfortunately his friendship with Frank sinatra didn't help him in that regard.
Wasn't Dean horrible to the kids of his first wife? I think it's him that said he'd disown his kids if they ever smoked marijuana.... And mentally abused them growing up?
Tim mcCaffrey yeah it was rumored back when he was doing movies with comedy he might have been dangling on the end of Dean Martin's extended member if you get what I mean
Being one miserable old bastard is a sin. I'm getting old and realize, especially in this day of hyper media, one must make a real conscious effort NOT to be like the Jerry Lewis' of the world.
tlg tlg I’m sorry, but I really can’t believe that. Although it’s easy to see where those stories came from when you watch how Jerry always behaved around Dean, Dean himself was not that way not that way inclined at all as he was always well-known to be much more of a ladies man.
Wow, so glad I had a wonderful father , he would have given us the clothes off his back , so glad I had the childhood I did , no amount of money can beat that , rip Dad I love you always ❤️
Same here, all the money in the world can't replace that. BTW, my dad's name really was Robin Hood Try and cash a check with that name, saw him do it once. He had to show his driver's license, in the 60's! May God bless.
I worked for his telethon. I'm not sad because the money was raised for the kids but I'm sad I was under the impression he was a good and decent man. He obviously wasn't.
@@buzzbuzz132 sounds about right, when I was very young, my dad was a part of MDA, my dad asked Jerry to do his show locally, he said no, and if he were to do it, he required 20% of the take..this was way back in the late 50s
Y'all may not know but Dean Martin and Jerry Lewis had a falling out. Dean was the type he loved what he did he had a wonderful personality. But Jerry was rude personality. He thought the world revolve around him. Jerry didn't care about nothing but money. And that is what happen between them.
Around the same time as Jerry but across the Atlantic in Britain they had a comic genius by the name of Norman Wisdom. Very successful in the U.K. and across all of Europe, he broke America and was about to get more work over there when his wife left him and their two small children for another guy, what did Norman do ?.... cancelled his plans and raised his children single handed.. more of a man than Jerry Lewis ever was.
From what I read, Flip Wilson ended his variety show to focus on raising his kids, which he won in a custody battle. David Brenner also scaled back his standup performances to raise his son, whom he also won custody of.
@@TheSpiritOfTheTimeshow about informing yourself instead of hating and judging? His kids refused to pay their mom's nursing home after Jerry died. He was paying it until he died. He gave the money to his son and he stole it and did not pay the home. They were on good terms with him and praised him for being strict but fair, yet they changed the tune when he died. So what does that say about them? Not to mention that one of his sons molested the youngest.
My brother worked for a guy Jerry Cutler who owned a marine supply shop in Bayside, Queens NY in the mid 70s. My brother was about 15. His boss always talked about Jerry Lewis and said he was his childhood friend growing up. He only had nice things to say about him.
I'd rather grow up in poverty than in such a dysfunctional abusive home like this guy did. Jerry Lewis may have been famous, funny and good at raising money for charity, but his legacy is tarnished by the way he treated his own family.
His sons said in their mom's memoir years ago that he was strict but fair to them. Now they changed the story. So what's the truth when it comes to this subject?
@@Sunflower-cb1sk The bottom line is that Jerry Lewis did not leave any of his boys anything. That's the truth. So, whether Jerry Lewis was strict but fair when he was home with them was one thing, but in the end Jerry Lewis showed how much he really cared by giving them nothing. The boys must have sided with their mom, and Jerry Lewis resented it, so he paid them back by leaving them out of his will. He put his kids in the middle of his relationship with his wife and when he died he took out his anger on his kids by cutting them out of his estate. Jerry Lewis might have been talented and very funny but he did not have a loving heart towards his own children.
@@kimkerchner2032 not true at all, his sons Scott and Anthony sided with him post divorce, not their mom. Patti said herself she gave him permission for cheating, so what does that say about her? That being said, Jerry never spoke ill of Patti, always praised her for putting up with him for 36 years. He always claimed being egomaniac. He also gave her alimony 450000$ a year and paid her nursing home until he died.(he even declared bankrupcy in 80s because of it. His sons even refused paying that home when he died, so what does that say about them? Some people say Jerry hated Dean, while the truth is he adored him and always said so. Jerry was far from being a saint, but he was not the devil some people claim him to be. Dean Martin also was a cheating womanizer, yet nobody insults him for that. Not to mention that most shocking thing was to me the fact that one of his older sons sexually abused the youngest. That was not Jerry's fault, if it's true.
They worked with him until the day he died. His son Gary even performed on his last telethon in 2010. He gave them excellent education and they previously said in their mom's memoir he was strict but fair. Now they changed the tune, of course.
For some reason, I never thought Jerry Lewis was funny or talented. All I saw during the very few times I looked at his work on television and very short scenes from some of his films was EGO and CRUELTY. so I am not surprised to hear about this from his own child.
I once heard a story about a man who volunteered at one of the MD telethons. A few months after the telethon he saw Jerry Lewis on a street. The man politely approached Jerry and said, "I worked answering the phones on your last telethon." Lewis coldly replied, "What do you want? A medal?" This gives you some idea of what type of person Jerry Lewis was.
Wow and I always loved Jerry Lewis. His wife if 38yrs after raising 5 if their kids being left out if his will?? If his wife who got the 50 million had any sense she should have shared it with her and his 5 kids.
Met him once when I was a very young man. Couple of days job. He was surrounded by people that he clearly insulted and mistreated constantly and who obviously disliked him even as they catered to him. He reminded me of trump, honestly: utterly oblivious of how awful and disliked he was and on the few occasions he did notice, unconcerned about it in any way. Very uncomfortable atmosphere at all times. I could see him throwing bones to peasants while he used one as a footstool. Never watched him since.
I was a private investigator in LA for forty years and had a case involving Jerry Lewis. I had to go to his Beverly Hills office and it was plastered with larger than life pictures of him. I wondered who was so insecure he needed to walk into his own office and see nothing but pictures of themselve. His narcissism was not hard to see.
Sounds like Trump's office filled with magazine covers of himself.
@@ImaCaMan You mean obama's office
@@ImaCaMan Trump lives in your head for rent free. Let it go!
@@ImaCaMan How's the narcissistic Joey doing? Poll #'s low enough for you?
@@ImaCaMan Trump $2 gas
Biden $6 gas
He raised money to help children and young people with disabilities and yet treated his own very poorly. Sounds like a malignant narcissist.
Makes me wonder if he worked for charity because he truely cared for the cause or because he loved the image and attention he created for himsel this way.
@@sabinesteil4690 probably the image
it was just to maintain image
A malignant, communal narcissist
@@christinebuckingham8369 not true at all. He had a mild form of that disease and wanted to adopt a girl in the 50s with MD, but the girl died before the processs of adoption was over. He wanted to find the cure. And his kids worked with him all their lives on his telethons. He was not evil to them when they worked with him and earned alongside with him.🙄 Yet they did not want to pay mom's nursing home. Jerry did that until his death. You people just know to hate instead of informing yourself.🤮
Hating your own children is a trait of a narcissist
That's interesting because my mother hated me my entire life and was so emotionally abusive to me and yet she would adore my cousin's child and talk to her often and be emotionally supportive of her. Seems like she wasn't able to love her own child.
In the past reading about Jerry’s life history before he remarried. It was not good. He had major emotional problems
Why can people not call evil -evil?
@@crystalheart9 I can understand why you may need therapy n I wouldn't fault you but a lot of people just strike me as as pathetic especially when they have nothing to be depressed about
@@crystalheart9 You must feel very hurt by your Mother being like that towards you
My grandfather was like JL . My father was the opposite . My dad's will included , ALL his children . He didn't want his father's money or belongings . He was an only child . His father left everything to his 3rd wife and his mom left everything to his adopted , orphaned , cousin . Imagine being an only child and getting nothing ??? Good thing my dad was self made . He loved and cared for his family because his parents were so awful. He loved my mom and his daughters . On his deathbed he smiled at all of us and said , " I created this ! " Living and dying , surround by love was my dad's goal . A job well done . 😘😍😇
How lucky you were to have such a dad I envy you.
Sounds like my father, giving everything to a woman much younger than him, and nothing for his kids. He was a serial cheater and whipped me a lot and could be very cold/mean. I am a pushover with my kids - what's mine is theirs. I played guitar in a band, and had many opportunities, but have been faithful for 30 years to my awesome wife.
@@Jamestele1 Years ago, I remember seeing a basketball player (maybe Charles Barkley) saying “When you cheat on your wife, you cheat on your children.”. So true. I was daddy’s little girl until he left us for another woman and even moved out of town in the middle of the night (waking me up) right before Christmas and traumatized me forever. I’m happy you realized, you never wanted to follow in your father’s lifestyle. 🙏
I almost cried reading this. Bless you honeslty.
@@Jamestele1You sound like an awesome guy too. Mad respect
It's always so sad to see children that were so badly treated by a parent then beat themselves up about not having a chance to make things right, when they did nothing wrong, totally heartbreaking
I’ve been there. A long story, but I once thought I was daddy’s little girl until he woke me up from sleep when I was 10 and said he’s leaving. I thought he was leaving on a railroad run, but he was literally leaving. His mistress was waiting across town and he moved out of town with her and never lived in the house again. Also, right before Christmas. He never apologized. I tried all of my life to try to be close and ‘fix’ things even until he died. We never once discussed it and even when he died at 88, he never cared that that was the most life changing and traumatic moment of my life. Once he died, I did find some peace though in knowing there is no more effort needed to do so. Ours was exactly like the Lewis family. You never knew what mood he’d be in when he drove up. Most of the time, never a good one. I feel for them.
Rubbish! His sons sponged off their mother’s $450,000 per year alimony to such a degree that she wound up broke. His children grew up enjoying every luxury. They attended the best schools. Not one of them has ever accomplished anything or worked a steady job - choosing instead to sponge off their elderly mother.
You cannot make it right with a parent like this!! Say “I love you” as much as you like-it changes nothing-they will still leave you nothing because to them you were always nothing-accept it! Move on, enjoy your life and be thankful they can now do nothing else to hurt you! You’re free!
@@holylandfan3275Damn. I'm so sorry on that truly
@@dimensionzone8048 You’re so sweet, thank you. The blessing was, my grandfather (my mother’s father) was not only a father to my mother, but also, to my older brother and me. He and my grandmother were amazing people. I had to stay with them a LOT since my mother had to go from a housewife for 20 years, to working at Sears to support us. My grandfather took me to father/daughter banquets for Camp Fire Girls and many things like that. He made me a rope swing with a wooden seat on their tree and there was never a time, even as I got older, he wanted to make sure I was home safe at night. Aways reminded me to check the oil in my car and everything my dad should have been. I thank God for him so very much. 🙏
I was disinherited. No surprises: I hadn't seen my dad for 40 years--my choice. Best decision I ever made. Abusers never change
Most freeing thing is to not be beholden to some ahole who thinks they can control you with money. It was my mom for me. The irony (and the karma) is that she lost everything after a nervous breakdown and now she lives on the minimum (although a decent existence-she's lucky). I help her when I can and when I want-my choice. She's lucky I even talk to her.
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It's sad they feel righteous in their ways too.
Some people just don't make good parents or just too effing selfish to care their own offspring. I'm glad that you made your decision whether to have a relationship your old man or not.
@Vhonda C. I told my dad ,not to try to buy forgiveness on the way out.
My mother called me on the phone drunk on my birthday at about 10 o’clock at night some years ago to let me know that she had taken me out of her will. I am the only child. I calmly replied that I had a good job and was paying my own bills and then some and that I didn’t need any outside help and was there anything else I could help her with while she was on the phone. I’ve never heard my mother’s voice so evil sounding. Thankfully I had done work around her for years in the way that she treated me growing up but I have to admit I was numb for the rest of the evening. When I was younger I spent countless nights trying to figure out why she was the way that she is but having me when she was 18 years old I would say she really wasn’t mature enough to be a mom and at the end of the day some people just aren’t supposed to be parents and today I’m OK with that.
riceflatpicking, I am so very sorry that you went through all this. My hope for you is that the time ahead will be kind to you. May God bless.
Mental illness.
So sorry. It was her personality defect. Having you older probably wouldn't have made a difference. My mom was always mean and jealous of me so I know how it feels.
Great answer you gave!
And I hope you stay away when she gets old and sick and needs help. She didn't deserve you. Xxxooo
my father was an administrator of a nursing home in MA. Jerry Lewis was headlining in CT, not far from us. My father took myself and some of the nursing home residents to his show. After the show, my father and some of the residents went up to Jerry to say hello, Jerry said - Get these People Away from Me. He was Rude, not friendly - I can see his son's point.
Wow 😔😔
I saw a show with Jerry in it. It was dope
I had heard interviews when I was a kid, & I thought he was attempting to be funny, but as I got older I realized he was either under the influence or had a serious personality disorder.
Wow, if JL was still alive he could run for president and win.
Never meet your hero’s! I know he was a world famous comedian but he always seemed angry or upset to me, maybe I’m just sensitive to that kind of personality.
Emotional abuse is worse than physical abuse. I'm a witness at the age of 57. Still suffer to this day of being abused in my teens from a parent.
Yes indeed. For me it was mainly an older sister. Horrible person.
me too
Me, too.
Sorry for your pain 🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽
@@zap4980 Thank you so much
Abusers never change. Those boys were right to stand up for their mom.
the new wife should feel ashamed!...and disgusted at jerry!..to see what he did to his kids should have been an eye opener..however,,Hollywood,,im not surprised!
Yeah... he cheated on Patty Palmer numerous times. Even has a love child that is homeless on the streets in Philly...
@@rocketman5648 So this now-homeless one is not counted smong his children? That's bizarre.
@@blueblueblue864 I remember in the 60s or early 70s when he took up with this woman, SanDee Pitnick. Cha-ching, she + their adopted girl suddenly became his be-all and end-all. I'm sure she cares nothing for the first family. A lot of men do this.
@@threexladi jerry never admitted to nor did he ever deny his love child
How ironic that someone who raised so much money to help children would neglect his own
A cobbler's children always go barefoot.
certainly wasn't the march of dimes was it.
Very true it sounds like. All of those years of raising money for a disease and he didn' t care about his own family, it is a shame.
THIS is a spot on comment.
Ryan Cartwright
The shoemakers children have no shoes.
I never thought Jerry Lewis would do such a thing how horribly wrong that is for his family I hope they can find peace in their hearts he must’ve been a monster😢
If it were one son, I'd be more inclined to think "oh, he's just disgruntled, maybe was ungrateful, resentful of Dad's fame, etc." But ALL kids from first marriage disinherited???? Sounds like Jerry was the problem. Sad.
And extreme bitterness torwards his 1st wife carried over to all her children..
All of them disinherited.. Sad.
Mean- spirited.
@@aaronhumphrey2009he was not bitter towards Patti, he paid his first wife's nursing home until the day he died and gave her rich alimony of 450 000$ yearly. He left her a mansion and his movie rights. Some of his kids were drug addicts and thieves (the one in the video stole money from him). So bitterness tovards Patti had nothing to do with Jerry's decision to disinherit his sons.
Why is it hard to believe victims? Hence its better to shut up about your abuse.
@@tondaniraluswinga2590 it's not hard to believe at all-real victims exist. But his kids praised him while he was alive, and changed the tune the minute he died. They also worked with him. My dad was mentally abusive, but I did not spend a lifetime working with him.
@@Ajaxxgopwand what is your deal? I write FACTS from books. The only one who has to take a break and who's hyterical is you. His son Gary WAS a drug addict and his son Anthony, the one from the video, STOLE money Jerry gave him for his mom's nursing home. So what's wrong with me calling him a thief? Is there some other term for someone who steals something? As if you would not disinherit sons who act like that. You'd reward them for their behaviour, no?😂 So, again; what's your problem with me? Answer if you have something smart to add.😂 Last thing, his daughter is adopted- so she's his DAUGHTER. That is not the same as being a stepdaughter. Learn the difference .🙄
Jerry Lewis was clearly a man of little integrity, with a closed mind and cold heart.
His true legacy is the pain he left for his family, not the laughter he thought he left for the world.
I can say with no exaggeration that I have NEVER laughed at a single Jerry Lewis "bit" in my life, having endured countless hundreds of them. Patently unfunny man. Great humor comes from deep suffering and compassion -- if you leave out the compassion part, it's not funny. It's just mean.
@@rugbyslug ,
What a great point!!
That has never occurred to me, but you hit the nail on the head!!
@@rugbyslug I bet The Day the Clown Cried is the only funny movie he ever made, and that would have been unintentional!
I’ll take the joy and laughter he gave my friends and I as kids. Will love Jerry Lewis till I die.
@@rugbyslug he said the comedy comes from personal tragedy. He said he was suffering as a kid because his parents only worked as they were poor. He said, they had to work but I am emotional so that broke me. So there you go. How about reading something about the man before judging him?
The son that died of a drug overdose was Joe Lewis. He was born in 1964, and was the youngest child of Jerry Lewis. I went to elementary school with Joe, and attended several birthday parties at their house in Bel Air. Everyone adored Patti Lewis for being so devoted to all of her children. Jerry only came to a few of his sons birthday parties. And he never stayed very long! My prayers go out to the entire Lewis family!
He was on drugs and Jerry was tired of that situation. He tried to help him get off. But he refused. So..he washed his hands of him. His choice..
You need to ask why was he on drugs? Sometimes it's what people deal with as children
Thank you for posting this. For years I had heard that Gary had served in Vietnam and it was he who came back hooked on heroin. I was never sure that was true or not.
@@arianbyw3819 The parents cannot be held responsible for their children being on drugs. My cousin had the best parents in the world, he was an only child. Yet he could not keep a job, got his girl friend pregnant (my aunt and uncle took care of the baby and her mother for a while), stole, went to jail. There was nothing his parents could do, he was a liar. Once I saw him somwewhere and he told me he was working for the government as a spy. I hardly could remain serious. I don't know where he is today, his parents died young, too much pain caused by their son. May they rest in peace.
yup@@arianbyw3819
That is the nastiest thing I ever heard. He left $50 million and couldn’t benefit his own kids??? That is inexcusable.
My father was just like this! He just died last year and I was forbidden to see him when he passed. I also was left nothing and it was all left to his wife of only 2 years! I am his only child! He was a textbook narcissist father! The mental abuse narcissists throw on their children is something most cannot understand unless you’ve experienced it. I realized many years ago that I would never have the father I deserved. I feel for the sons. They deserved so much better!
No one deserves that kind of father or parent. This is a curse, literally. You get to undo that curse by being the best mother or whatever role you have in someone's life. You watched, you experienced, and now you get to destroy it so hopefully no other person in your lineage will be subjected to this behavior. Bless you!
Maybe you should support yourself.
I hear you except it was my mom. Takes a lifetime of work overcoming .At least, the abuse wasn't passed on to my own kids and my mom passed on before she could destroy my family.
@@josephpeeler5434 LOL
I'm just like You. My siblings don't know the abuse I suffered at my dads hands. growing up he would tell me only one job for a woman outside the home that being a secretary. little did I know in 1980 I would need my fathers signed permission to accept a 4yr basketball Scholarship to a major Chicago University. So you know he didn't sign it. I would later go into Medicine becoming a Dr in Radiology & Gastro-Enterology. My Sister was a secretary in a small town hospital. I would give her the info to tell my-our father the best action to treat his prostate cancer. He only learned recently I'm the one who saved his life, but I still never ever hear from him. I will more than likely be left out of his fortune will too
Our hearts go out to his kids having a Dad like that.
I could not agree more. All the money in the world doesn't make up for an abusive parent.
Jerry lewis was nothing but a monster to his sons.
@@harperstacey9604 yep, that's why he let them work with him their entire lives. Wish my dad was that 'monstrous'. That's why they said years ago he was 'strict but fair'. Bet you haven't read a single biography on the subject before spilling your hate here.🙄
@@Sunflower-cb1sk yeah youre an expert because you read a few biographies lol
@lol but to YOURSELF. I certainly know more from autobiographies than you and people here speculating and spilling hate without even reading about the subject and hating based on one video. You're just jealous that I know about the subject way more than you do.
Jerry Lewis was the same kind of father as Bing Crosby was to his “first” family. Neither one wanted anything to do with their children with their first wives. My heart goes out to them and may their mothers Rest In Peace.
Yes the starter wife/family,build him up is 98% of the time treated the worst and abandoned. Actor anthony hopkins is the same way.
Same thing will Peter Sellers who left his 3 children (both from his first and second marriage) nothing when he died (they received £800 each in 1980 currency). He left his money to his last wife (but was in the process of cutting her out of his will weeks before he died), they had no children together. She remarried twice after his death, had a daughter during her second marriage and died in 1994. Her daughter who was born years after Peter Sellers died, and has no connection to Peter Sellers, inherited his Estate from her mother. How horrible and unfair that is to Peter Sellers three children and family.
You've got Bgreat point there
Michael Landon did the same thing,
He cheated on every wife, and ignored his older children.
Charles was a nice guy, but Michael Landon was a pig and a drunk.
And Tony Curtis
I find it incredible in retrospect to how Dean Martina’s family adored him, and Jerry’s was the polar opposite. And as far as I know, Dean and his wife remained together. Which just proves Dean had values that he wouldn’t dispose of.
I never heard one bad story about Dean. Either by his family or professionally by actors, directors etc
Dean Martin was also generous. In one story, a man and his wife wanted to see Dean at a nightclub, but he couldn't get in because he didn't have a tie, which was required. Dean heard about it and gave the man his tie, and the man and his wife were able to see Dean.
I grew up in an emotionally abusive household and I know the feeling of scrambling when that person comes home not knowing how they'll react and if they'll take it out on you :/ it's hard
Same. To this day when I hear the front door open, I will sometimes jump unintentionally. It's PTSD.
Yeah same..such an ugly fear.
😞
True, I grew up with a horrible guilt complex, took me years to get rid of It, with God's help.
can definately relate to this, had to walk on egg shells most of the time never knowing who would come out at any given time...
Son Anthony has a heart of gold, caring for his mother. God bless him.
@@jjk2one The law can easily be sidetracked with an underhanded lawyer, and there is no shortage of such lawyers. A creative use of Epstein credits, spousal support during a separation is one means to leave a spouse in a divorce penniless.
@Romeo J how do you know? Please explain
agree. jerry didn't deserve him.
That's not actually the story.
It takes two to tango and when one of the dancers doesn't want to dance, there's nothing you can do about it. I waited on Jerry Lewis way back in the 70's in San Diego when I worked in a restaurant there. He was totally obnoxious. He wasn't made the center of attention, so he started acting up like hurling butter patties at the ceiling, dancing and calling out for a waiter or cocktail waitress in the middle of the busiest time for the restaurant. I have waited on or been on duty when other celebrities came in and all of them behaved very graciously. I feel so sorry for his children he treated them so horribly. You can tell how hurt the son is. Emotional abuse can occur at any income level. Bet the woman who got all the money isn't a bit ashamed either. If she had been a nice person, she would have split it with his children.
His second wife only married for the money.
Always figured he was like that behind close doors,to bad truth was not out back then.Sad know what that's like a father like that alcoholic.
Yes, agreed. Second wife should have done the right thing and split the money.
@@willchristie2650 You do not have to wait for inheritance to get the money. The inheritance is all of it.
Lll
This happens more than most people think and I speak from experience
I never liked Jerry Lewis - I never thought he was funny, just goofy. Good for his son in standing up for his mother. Sad that Jerry Lewis was such a jerk!
His goofy, slapstick shtick was funny for about two years early into his career. The next
50 years was spent as an old circus clown begging for laughs.
@@clambroth1923 wonder how much that 50 million came from Connie people from that Mastercool dystrophy Telethon.
wasn't that the name of the movie Jerry starred in (that LEWIS jerk-off) THE JERK?
So sad for his son, but he handled it like a man. Good for him, the son, not Jerry. Goes to show, someone can be a fine Entertainer and a rotten person. Probably more than we'd like to know.
I agree with you 100 per cent he was not funny.
My father was that same sort of guy. Outsiders loved him. His family knew what an ass he was
There is a German proverb that says "Gassenengel aber Hausteufel" ; which means "Angels of the street but devils in the home!"
Yeah,same kind of father l had
House devil; street angel. That's a saying my mother used.
@@sabine4759Wow. That's a damn good quote
I grew up w a stepfather who hated my guts because I looked like my bio dad. And he reminded me of that every day. I got cancer as a kid and he took all his hate out on my poor mother. Can’t hit the cancer kid.
What does it profit a man to gain the whole world but lose his own soul.
Amen.
And you raised 2 billion for MDA.? You watch too much joel osteen.
He knows them better than you do . He might actually be saving their lives by not giving them any money . Not to mention their nose cartilage .
This is what people forget.....we all will be face to face with God one day....may God have mercy on our souls!
How do you know he lost his soul? We know nothing of the family dynamics. People on all sides were likely selfish. It wasn't just Jerry, I would bet on it. It is very sad though & my heart breaks for all concerned.
I remember reading that she sacrificed so much for him. She had to dress a certain way and comb her hair the way he wanted. She did everything for him; gave him all of her self. After he divorced her she was on the I think the Sally Raphael show with several other women whose husbands divorced them. She was very hurt and very bitter. Sad to see.
That's why women should never live for someone else approval, but their own
Don't ever confuse a celebrity's public image with their true character.
Some of the most talented and successful people have absolutely no conscience.
What it takes to be successful has nothing to do with what it takes to be a descent person.
Never confuse ANYBODY'S public image with their true character!!! Each and every one of us projects the image of ourselves we want others to believe.
Your first sentence should apply to every politician.
@Iconoclast1962 Very true
All those charitable marathons a complete hype. Bet he reincarnates as someone subjugated to this abuse
@@janelahmeyer2014 I never gave to this charity, ever.
This is really sad to hear. Fame isn’t worth it. When you can make the world laugh, but make your own family “scatter” when you come home. Sad.
Me and my siblings(4 of us) were all born in the latter '50s. We were a farm family and dad had a binge drinking problem. Good man while sober but a miserable man when drunk. All his hurts and disappointments would surface when drinking. When he'd come home from the bar we'd see the headlights coming down the dirt road and we'd scramble to our bedrooms regardless if it was bed time or not to avoid him at all costs. His alcoholism and self hatred had a negative affect on all us kids well into adulthood and beyond. Hearing how Jerry's own kids would purposely avoid him after coming home reminded me so much of my own childhood.
The kids lived in a gilded cage but not worth it when your father is a mean evil person. So glad my parents were loving even after a long day. I miss my father and he smothered us with much love. Although at times it can appear to be intrusive but looking back I would take my dad’s love over having to live in fear and scatter upon his return home.
@@mattbickett5368 That's a horrible way to grow up. Hopefully you were able to work through all of that trauma because that kind of parenting leaves scars. 💔
Yep- money can be the root of ALL evil!🤷♀️💔
@@mattbickett5368 You just described my childhood as well, Matt. I had two younger sisters and we lived in fear of his coming home when he'd been drinking. He and Mom would eventually end up in a brawl and he got physical with her. It was a nightmare that you cannot erase from your memory. After watching Jerry Lewis being interviewed a lot lately, it is not surprising he would do something so unkind to his kids. His son is a mirror image of Jerry. He had to face his maker on that one, as my parents did.
Very disappointing about Jerry. I can’t imagine how a parent can do that to his own family.
Jerry Lewis was a total ass to do his children like that
Middle class men do it all the time. That’s why you see houses for sale when the dad leaves for someone else.
@@likesanddislikesetc no he was not. They worked with him on telethons and earned their entire lives alongside with him. When your dad is horrible,you do not spend a lifetime working with him. Speaking from my own experience, I can assure you that.
@@JenniferDaniels909 he left a mansion to his wife and gave her rich alimony. His kids worked with him their entire lives. He treated them better than most divorced men treat their first family.
@Exposing Liarsyou people just love to hate without a reason. Yep, a very bad parent, with whom his kids worked their entire lives. Wish that my dad was as 'bad'.
I was a foster child, abused and used by foster parents so I feel his pain.
Makes me wonder how they got approval to be foster parents. People that abuse others (I am not talking about proper discipline--discipline is a necessary thing) just aren't worthy of having children.
Jerry Lewis was a plain enigma. Generous to a fault with his causes such as muscular dystrophy but over the years couldn't muster even an ounce of generosity to his own kids. A very sad man.
His kids worked with him their whole lives. His oldest son performed on his every telethon until the last one in 2010.Just changed the tune when he died.
An enigma!? Just a real hypocrite.
@@joselassalle5906 not true. He admitted being a difficult person and egomaniac. A hypocrite would never say that about himself. He even said that he praises other people for putting up with him. A hypocrite never speaks negatively about himself.
@@Sunflower-cb1sk well said, He had feelings of abandonment with his parents and a tough relationship with his father but still made a success of himself. He gave his kids the same opportunities participating on stage he had with his dad. They lived a very privileged life full of opportunities and did whatever they wanted. He didn't owe them a penny especially after they started trashing him. Their disrespect is evident in their wanting to contest his WILL. All this hate & judgement over HIS money.
@@kittythekat786 thanks a lot for your reasonable comment.
The second wife could have shared . Nobody NEEDS 50 million Dollars.
Absolutely! I would have.
Nice thought. Doesn't work that way though
apparently a lot of politicians do!
MAYBE 2ND WIFE LIFE WAS HELL BEHIND CLOSED DOORS ALSO
There may have been a codicil that she couldn`t. In my girlfriends case, any money she leaves me is still hers, even after death. Done usually to protect the largesse from the IRS etc. but I bet they could do it also for the reasons you mentioned. Do you think Jerry would leave her all that money WITH OUT conditions?!? He sounds like the kind of guy who would be controlling even after death...
It’s sad that everyone thought he was so wonderful when he treating his kids like that. You only know the public side of these people.
I just saw a vieo of a homeless woman..DNA proved he is here dad. She is homelss...How could he have been so cruel to his children??? Sandee Picnic his last wife should share with the kids!
theresa bollman Yes that’s SAD
No, not everyone thought he was wonderful. Talented, yes. But many knew he was a real bastard. There have been stories in the news for DECADES of him not paying vendors and screwing people over. And let's not forget he exited two other major life relationships on horrible terms: Muscular Dystrophy Association, and Dean Martin.
@@lanceevans1689 He was a complicated, sick person. I'm sure something in his upbringing contributed to his possible sociopathy. Maybe mistreatment by his father or neglect by his mother. SOMETHING in his formative years messed him up.
@@The22on
Or maybe he was simply rotten from birth.
Nurture can affect a persons software for good or bad.
Some(thankfully few) simply come into this world wired(defective hardware) wrong.
His legacy is complete. If he could only see how despised he is in death, his pain would be our reward.
Shame on you.
Well said👍
But he enjoyed a lavish lifestyle and died while we talk about this
@@intheshell35ifyshame on YOU. The truth is the truth; sorry you don't get to make the rules.
@@stevensmith8666 EXACTLY!! Some people have no "manners"!!
Conversely, Dean Martin absolutely loved his children. Maybe that is one reason Dean and Jerry never actually liked each other that much.
Good point and very ironic. Both of those guys were inverse opposites. Martin played a philandering booze hound on screen when in real life it was apple juice in his hand and one woman in his heart.
@@KeepingTheIronThroneWarm Dean let drinking and reclusiveness take over his life after his son was killed in a military flight accident.
@@01sapphireGTS true, but at the end of his life. He was in his 70's and his career was over by then.
Dean Martin was Italian :) and a Catholic - may be that had something to do with his whole attitiude/behaviour towards his family/children :)
Yeah. Dean never got over the death if his son. I heard nothing but good things about him. And I believe everything. God bless people like him. Then theirs those like jerry. He never saw all that he had. Fame money family. Such a waste. so very sad.
You have to be a Narcissists to disinherit your own biological children from a will. So sad what he put his first wife of 38 years & his children through.
Too bad we've only heard 1 side. I've disinherited a kid and they worked very hard for it.
My mother abandoned me in the hospital she is still living very well off 89 years old only living sibling and disinherited me. As she always says I’m the boss and it’s my money. Not really she took it from my brother. I am 62 and will never see her again.
@@jeanareed1854 your situation differs greatly from Lewis, this son actually sued his father, he had to assume that would have ramifications.
Well i remembered reading that Bill Gates said he will donate all his money to charity when he dies and give none to his family except give $1 million each to his grandchildren.
I am guessing he just wants his children to work for their money and not rely on his wealth when he is gone.
@@Rodneystime Proverbs 13:22
Wow this breaks my heart. I never ever imagined that Jerry would treat his kids like this. 😥
Dean Martin , who knew him for many years refused to talk about him . Must have been a strong reason.
I met him as a worker at a hotel and he was just a very mean guy. Saying he wanted everyone fired for basically nothing - he just acted hateful -so I believe it about his kids. Such a shame he had problems and took it out on them. He probably left his last wife everything to placate her for taking care of him - without a thought about his boys. Selfish and sad
Dean didn't talk about him because he didn't have anything good to say.
You can tell in some of his interviews that JL was an ass.
Can you imagine how his kids treated him?
There is always two sides to a story.
As a kid growing up watching Jerry (and Dean) on the big screen with his goofy antics, his crazy laughs and his slapstick comedy, you would have never imagined he would be the kind of man to treat his own kids that way. Especially after seeing how close him and own father were.
People can be so complex. I lived in a neighborhood years ago where this guy treated everyone so great. We all thought he was wonderful. Later after he died his family told the truth. How awful he treated them. Some sickos treat others like gold but treat their own families like dirt. It's insane.
@@tommy7fun Yes, it is insane.
Him & Dean split for a reason.
@@sunshine3914 Yes, but their split has nothing to do with Jerry's treatment of his kids
His kids should make a movie about him called "Daddy Dearest".
Now you're talkin'!
YeS.👍
Yeah! $$$$$ 😂
Yes, they should, tell the truth and make some money from it.
First the book and then the movie.
I feel so sad about Jerry's children and his former wife having to deal with this. The pain of being rejected by your own father affects you for life.
I can attest for that. The only time I saw my bio dad, he saw me and ran in the other direction.
Agree. I grew up watching my dad hit my mom, knock holes in our walls, get drunk & cheat, and finally leave us when I was 7 & my brother was a newborn. My mom worked my entire childhood to support us & buy a home for us.
@@1978UA You can be as strong and informed as you like, but the gap is never filled. The echo reverberates for life.
@@1978UA omg, this is horrific. I’m so sorry Maria. Sending hugs to you ❤️
@@s.u.2320 Thank you but I wish that was the worst of it. But you know what life keeps moving forward, life goes on. He died I wonder what explanation he’s going to give to God.
I stood up for all my sisters who my dad abused.
He left me out of his will and somehow stayed out of prison.
I warned my sisters not to let him near their children and knowing dad's past made him even more angry with me.
God bless you ❤🇦🇺
My heart goes out to you & your siblings! THANK YOU for standing up for your siblings & for being protective of their kids, too.
When my grandpa died. My dad and his siblings were disputing about the inheritance. My aunt wanted ALL of the inheritance because she feels like she deserved since she's the one who stayed with my grandparents until they died. She never worked in her life. They started fighting over inheritance right before my eyes. It was one of the saddest thing i've ever seen. Family fighting over money.
That’s really cruel, how can you ignore your children/grandchildren in your will/ financial legacy
As the kids and grandkids of Bing Crosby.
Chris Trinder and he raised so much money for other kids. What an ass
It would be feasible if he never knew those sons but he was there when they grew up how could he allow his second wife to alienate them so she would 8nheret all his money. I can only surmise sheachieved that aim after he was old and feeble thru manipulation of a man who could no longer stand up for himself.
He also got a homeless daughter.
He is BURNING IN HELL. There is absolutely no doubt whatsoever about that. I don't believe in gambling, but if I did, I would bet $1 Billion that he is there!
I worked on the Royal Variety Show which Jerry Lewis appeared in. His behaviour was appalling. A nasty piece of work.
I remember when Jerry filled in for Regis in the Regis and Kathie Lee show, and how disappointed I was with Jerry. He was all over the place, making no sense, all show and no substance. How sad to find out he turned out to be that way in real life.
@myfamilynme: I think the son doesn't love Jerry but wishes he could. How can you love someone unlovable? I remember a woman whose adopted son killed her husband and tried to kill her. She testified against him in court and sent him to death row. (Adopting an older child can be dangerous.) The same with a woman whose pet monkey tore her to pieces. "I can't love him anymore."
I have heard he was very nasty shame on him he's paying for it now tho, wishing he could come back and make it right
@@carolhutchinson7763 He might just have a soft heart.
There you go. That's coming from someone who worked alongside him and saw it first hand.
I had a Dad like that. It's sad to think about our childhoods, so I try not to.
~Life is Good~
There is a reason in the WATCHMEN, the comedian is the most vicious.
I would of never thought he was like that...so sorry for you your brothers and your mom
I heard a Jerry Lewis had a bad reputation and a lot of celebrities didn't want anything to do with him but to do that to his own family is low
He came to my town Lima Ohio, to be in a Golf tournament and he was so very mean and short tempered to everyone at the golf course that so local members started telling he could leave if he was that unhappy. He kept his mouth shut the rest of the game. When he was ready to leave he threw the whole set his golf clubs and told the crowd they were up for grabs. One of the boys carried them to his car and said No takers.hahahahahahahaha
The man works for his own money, so he does what he wanted with it, sons and daughters must learn to work for their own and not want what mother and father has, that's the deal.
@Mohammed Sood I know what the bible says, but still that does not give no one the right to want what their parents have, if my parents had money, and they did not share it with me, I would of never be mad nor up set nor offended, why? Because I didn't work for it, they did, and they have the right to give it to whom ever they well please, work for what so ever u want in life is the best thing ever, not wanted what others have, that is pure stupidest.
@@marioriedow3234
@@marioriedow3234: That isn't the point of the story.
My stars! 50M and he doesn’t leave his grandchildren a dime?!
That last wife should share. It’s the ethical thing to do!
VALERIE--- the 2nd wife is not ethical--- she is greedy....
But you know she won't. Sad.
Second wives don't share with first wives. That should be common sense. In fact, some second wives will kill the first wife and/or her children.
Read my reply above. Legally, the deceased can still control what happens to the money after death, in any number of ways. I`m betting it was Jerry`s decision, more than the 2nd wive`s.
@@Kharkovkid i agree. It is hard to believe he treated his former wife of 38 years and children like that. He was one spiteful man.
Everyone who comes from a family like this where there is lots of emotional abuse and estrangement understands this perfectly well.
🙋
Exactly!
@@nildarodriguez3974 - My heart goes out to you.
@@Robin7-26 - My heart goes out to you.
Redwoods - My heart goes out to you & all who have been through it.
My father was a lovely man and died a horrible death in hospital. It never occurred to me if he left me anything. Someone asked one day and I said I didn't care. If it's helping my Mum in her later years then that's all that matters
If your dad was a multi-millionaire, it would occur to you; people do not just leave that kind of money unclaimed if they feel they may be entitled to it. If your family is of modest means, then it wouldn't be something you think about. Also, it sounds like your dad died without a will. In that case, everything goes to your mother (if they were married) anyway.
@anyaw340 50 million is alot of money to a average person. If all the money Lewis collected in royalties, he must of spent 90 percent of it
Patty Lewis was a truly great person and mother stuck in an impossible situation. I had a couple of baby sitting gigs for Jay and his friends, up in Bel Air, and got just a glimpse. What I saw, as a callow, college freshman guy, alarmed me. Without knowing specifics, I knew enough to worry about Pat’s safety. Real people, in my limited experience, didn’t act like that. His son has real courage. His mother would be proud
Wow! @MikeKenney That’s so interesting. Thanks for sharing. Wish JL’s 2nd wife had enough class and grace to split that inheritance with his flesh and blood. He left plenty to share. People exhaust me 😞
@@Butchandbellesvilla That's the key to it. No matter what he did, said, wrote, or signed, he's gone. She can do whatever she pleases, including what is morally right.
I feel sorry for Poor Mrs.Patty Lewis and her sons from that first marriage..Mr.Jerry Lewis was a miserable bully and a creepazoid....I don't give a damn how talented and successful he was with his films..that didn't give him the right to hurt his first wife and his sons.
His son..Mr.Anthony Lewis had every right to sue his father for non support of his wife and her boys.
Who is Jay???
Jerry Lewis was voted "most hated person" by Las Vegas service workers; restaurant workers/servers, hotel maids, bellhops, etc.
Wow! One of the unwritten rules of Vegas. Treat all those people like gold!
Deservedly so!!
😳WOW!
they obviously knew him then!!!
Who would you say would win that award now?
I always thought Jerry Lewis was a narcissist just by watching him on TV.He didn't really care about helping people; he just wanted to act like a hero and hear people say how wonderful he was.
This man was buddylove in real life from his own movie The Nutty Professor he was playing himself
He was generous to a fault with the public because he had an audience.
I always got the same vibe from him.
That's showbiz!
Jerry Lewis "didn't take a salary" from the Telethon, but he billed MDA millions of dollars for his so-called "expenses." I HATED that he called children & adults with muscular dystrophy "Jerry's kids." He didn't love or care about them! Look how he treated his own children! And Patty!
I was raised like this to some degree. Unwedded unwanted pregnancy only child. Ill never forget my father telling me at 11 yrs old, that me and your mother were fine till you came along. Im 54 now, hes older age now and we get along ok but I never had that father son relationship so many men need or desire in their lives. Im still single because of it I believe.
He came to my town when I was 8 years old. Barely 8. My brother was seven. Jerry Lewis was doing the telethon and comedian stuff. We loved him so much. We watched every thing he did. It was the only happy thing in our lives. We went to see him. My brother sweetly asked him for his autograph. Jerry Lewis screamed and swore at my brother. Made him cry. Telling him to go away. It hit the local papers and further. My opinion of him is not a good one. The only exciting thing to ever happen for my brother. Who had just been burnt from catching on fire and still healing. Our mom left us and so on the traumas. My brother had this one dream come true and it terrified and disappointed my brother. Every time I hear his name I still cringe and remember that moment. Having to hold my brother and calm him down. He was terrified. Afraid of Lewis. Yes.....I feel sorry for his children. They may have needed a father. But, they sure didn't need him.
Bless you. That was a heartbreaking story. 💗
I'm sure he just didn't want to be annoyed. That's understandable.
Oh my dear Lord that is so sad!!!! Never put anybody on a pedestal...especially celebrities!!!!
mr awesome really???
Prove it.
I was left out of my mother's will too. There was not millions of dollars but to be left out was hurtful. I have 3 sisters who convinced my mother that I was bad. They got everything. I don't care that one of my sisters took Mother's house and the other two took possession of all of her possessions. What bothers me is that they hate me for no reason and they convinced my mother that I didn't deserve her love. My only brother died 3 months after our mother did and my sisters didn't tell me. Greed is a horrible thing.
@Bart Simpson Too common!!
Just live a happy, prosperous and caring life. Never count on inheriting anything and make your own way. My folks had a great deal of money and left it to colleges and hospitals. Fine with me; I can take care of myself. Inherited money has ruined many a life and broken up families. We don't play that game.
Yup. Been there. this stuff happens more than people realize.
Gail please forgive your sisters. This will allow you to go on with life and to be happy. Please know that Jesus Christ will never leave you nor forsake you. The Lord God loves you / infinitely! Read the Psalms and get close to the One who loves you for eternity!
“For I know the plans I have for you,' declares the Lord, 'plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future”- Jeremiah 29:11 KJV
Never liked him. Never trusted him. Everything he did for charity was about his ego. Nothing else. He wanted adoration. A complete narcissist like Joan Crawford.
Joan and Jerry did a telethon on 1967. Both were a bit inebriated and very much a like. You can see Joan hurriedly grabbing Christina by the hand making her do what Mommie wanted her to do. No time for small talk get on the phone Christina.
He did adopt 2 kids (each in each marriage)and treated them as his own. And he wanted to adopt a girl with muscular dystrophy back in the 50s but the girl died before the process of adoption was over. So he did this with honesty.
Yep
like looking in a mirror huh
Had the misfortune of meeting Joan Crawford, i did get the last word in though, "I don't work for you" on the way out.
AND HE SPENT YEARS BEGGING THE PUBLIC TO DONATE MONEY WHILE HE HAD 50 MILLION, SOME NERVE !
He has a homeless daughter who he refused to help luckily other people helped her out
Learning about her broke my heart.
I knew he had a daughter but I didn’t know she was homeless. What is her name ?
@@sandralansing980 just saw another video about her. Google and check it out.
You have to be "invited" to your own fathers funeral ? Hollyweird.
@JusticeAA
Get the heck out of here, you'd have to be one sick cookie to try and prevent his own sons from attending his funeral. My God, she is as sick as Lewis.
What a f@cking idiot pig!!!
My brothers never told me when my Mother died. I found out from a friend calling me telling me it was in newspaper. It took me a week to find out. How thoughtful. Still owe me money too.
@@gorgeousg8704 My ex didn't want me at his funeral! Our son was only 17! I went with my son despite the ban. All hell broke lose because I was there! I wouldn't leave my
son by himself at a funeral! What good parent would not do the same?!
@@fredrika27
Yeah, I wouldn't have left my son either.
It's better to not have a Father than have a bad one.
As someone with a really bad father, I agree.
So thankful for my daddy. He was an amazing dad and taught my brothers and I so much. I am very mich a daddys girl. I kust lost him in Feb. No amount of money or material things could ever replace him. I am lost without him. I wish all kids could have a daddy and childhood like mine.
My dad was all to me....not rich and sucessfull but man with giant heart.
Then you were so blessed.
My dad was my best friend!
Like you I was lucky to have such a great Dad .
Jerry was a slave to his ego. The saddest expense of a life lived.
fame was hollow and his soul was icy cold. I pray for his poor spirit who went down with his evil personality. Look at the difference between Mr. Rogers and children and Jerry Lewis and handicapped children. Lord have mercy.
A Slave to his Ego......I like that! Nice! On point my friend. Damn Good observation!!
They turned him into that Hollywood turned him into that
And now we have a generation enslaved by their ego because they grew up seeking validation online (I know someone will ok boomer me but it's the sad truth )
The real Kerry's kids.. didn't get dime
Goes to show how the truth about someone always comes out.
If his second wife and daughter had an ounce of integrity, they would have split the inheritance evenly between all the siblings. Then, the first wives' children could then help their mother.
My own father was an abusive jerk to me and he left me nothing, too, so I can relate!
@Steven You're
Same with me. My father would help everyone but me. Treated me horribly.
poo poo ...
get a life and stop whining
Same here.
I remember once l asked my father for help and he said he was going on a cruise said the answer was no.
But Jerry had money to burn.
I met Jerry once and once was enough, not a nice man.
They say, don't meet your hero's. Well, I don't know if he was your Hero?⁉⁉
I met him briefly at a convention once. I found him arrogant and obnoxious
Wow really. I never knew anything about him but thought he was gay
@@susanstutts523 So did Bing Crosby. But Crosby was a wife-beating drunk.
@@susanstutts523 Der Bingle, also beat his sons. It’s a fact, look it up.
I was such a fan of Jerry's. No longer. Unbelievable that he would betray his family like this.
Jerry Lee Lewis was a total a******. Nobody could hardly work with him. He was selfish as you can see. His daughters on the Street Homeless. Because he don't leave them nothing.
@Eagle1 You're right, of course. I didn't see what he truly was when I was a kid. And I, too, preferred Dean's talents!
@@curtissigler1963 I couldn't believe this ! What a F&*K !
@@curtissigler1963 Jerry Lee Lewis was a different person than the comedian Jerry Lewis. . He was a singer and musician.
I bet you believe Joan Was just like she was portrayed in Mommy Dearest...… come on now, bitter broke kids. SAD!
Why wouldn't his 2nd wife share the inheritance with all of his children? She is just as heartless.
Dean Martin was a natural comic, and very charming, he was also a great father according to his children. JL and DM were total opposites.
It was rumored that they didn't like one another off camera....
He was FINALLY a good father to his children, but treated his first wife and children abysmally. He left Betty Martin for Jeannie who was very young and she descended into alcoholism, eventually losing her house and being incapable of looking after her kids. Ironically, it was only Jeannie taking them in a providing them with a home that kept things together. Betty finally died alone and heartbroken, of alcoholism. Jeannie was a very good young woman, in the end, and kept the family together remarkably, but Martin was unfaithful to her as he was to all four of his wives. I LOVE Martin and Lewis together, they brought joy to the world and still do, but neither were perfect. Indeed, Martin taught the much younger Lewis all about gambling and womanising in a way he never forgot!! I know full well that Lewis was incredibly difficult, but I feel he was terribly emotionally damaged from being left alone whilst his parents worked as vaudevillians and was very probably bi-polar. I feel sorrowful that his sons were so badly treated. I do distinctly feel, however, that Lewis estate was in financial trouble and this was why so much of it and the house was sold so quickly after his death. He was 91, after all, and maybe his sons should have learnt how to support themselves! Nonetheless, I feel that his son DID love him and was denied that final chance to make reparation. What sadness and what a tragic waste.
@Les Brown Yes, Les, and a typical Italian away from home - womanising relentlessly! Look, I LOVE Dean Martin - he was irresistible when on stage and screen , but he was not perfect and neither was Lewis. But it is Lewis who catches all the vitriol. Unfair in so many ways.
Dean Martin,had a love for people,,can understand him being a good father,,he oozed love and charisma .R.I.P Dean..,Jerry Lewis paid the price for Stardom, for sure,, nothing is perfect in the real world.
Such is at least in part why Dino split with Jerry after 10 yrs of putting up with Much... Though Jerry was a comic genius in his own right 'I suspect He was nasty to work with... As a young boy growing up in Los Angeles in the '50s I did relish all the Martin & Lewis Movies & other films Dean & Jerry did independent of one another
It always amazes me how men can just walk away like his children never happened?
He did not walk away from them as if they never happened. All 6 of them were grown up when divorce happened. And they worked with him until the end, Gary even performed at his dad's telethon in 2010
It's because he was a narcissist. He was so arrogant and so self-involved that this kids didn't matter to him. That's not a real man.
Not true at all- his kids said in their mom's memoir 'I laffed till I cried' he was strict but fair. Then changed their tune only when he died. And if he was that bad, why did they work with him ALL their lives? Who does that if their parent is that bad? I certainly do not-speaking from experience. And his kids never mention that they refused to pay their mom's nursing home, Jerry paid it until the day he died. The poor lady was almost evicted when he died- go fund me, saved her. How would you qualify the kids who do that to their mom? Maybe Jerry left them out of his will because of that. All those kids and grandkids- she was almost evicted. As for Jerry, he admitted his faults and being an egomaniac. But he was not as heartless as all of you want to paint him.
My wife did she left our kids still hasn't talked to our son in over 3years my mother took care of us kids my father died when I was 7 my mom did everything for us sacerficed so much made sure we ate first we were poor but she was rich in heart
It's not just men that walk away. It amazes me how anyone can do that.
Put's a whole new meaning on "Jerry's kids"
That was one of the best comments !
I live in Scotland. Our probate laws will not allow spouse and children to be ignored or left out in a Will. They get one third, between them, of all the 'moveable' estate - (money and goods, not property or real estate) It may be unfair in a few cases, but it saves some of the heartache and practical problems such as described here.
Yay Scotland. Nemo me impune lacessit. I'm an American with some Scottish ancestry.
Almost everyone I know despised Mr. J. Lewis for doing that to his children. My mom was a hardworking, successful, no nonsense woman born during The Great Depression and as long as I knew her she hated his movies. She would ask us to change the channel when he came on. And there were others like Mr. Lewis. Look at what happened to John Lennon’s son by his first wife. There ought to be a law. Children should not be victims here. Best revenge is for these kids to forget him and go on to live a productive and happy life of their own.
Kelly York Lennon and Lewis can not be compared as parents. Lennon literally abandoned his son, never took care of him nor raised him. Lewis' kids worked with him even as an adults, their entire lives, on telethons. Said he was 'strict but fair'. They only changed the tune when he left them no money in the will. But they had no problem to literally earn by his side their entire lives. Julian never had that contact with Lennon.
Fascinating post. My Mom also was about your Mom's age & never was a fan, tho she laughed at some of his shtick. Mothers just know about those things, talent or lack of & character
Sounds to me like Jerry tried to keep everything in the divorce that was acquired during his first marriage & leave his ex destitute which isn't cool either, that's why the kids sued him on her behalf. Sadly they never should've had to get involved but they did the right thing in helping their mother. Jerry would've been fine financially even had he split things with his ex as in most divorces especially those ending from long term marriages.
The kids helped their mother sue him for what was truthfully right but that didn't mean they didn't love their father & Jerry didn't see it that way. Sad
How is a grown man a victim because his daddy didn’t leave him a fortune? Get a grip
Yet the commie-pinko-narcissist (Imagine) is a hero to billions of sheeple. Can't stand him myself.
Sounds like my dad. When he'd come home my brother, sister and I would scatter and make sure we were either doing homework or chores when he walked in. Depending on his mood, sometimes we'd still get beat even though we were doing work. Years later we recognized it was just his mood at the time. The worst beating I ever got was because he brought home a candy bar (Caramello) for me but I didn't like that gooey caramel so I said "No thanks, I don't like that kind." I thought he was going to kill me. Certain things still trigger PTSD from it over 30 years later.
Yeah that gooey caramel just drips down the chin. I can never eat one of those without a mess. Sorry that happened to you.
Sounds like my POS dad.
My goodness! How awful! I'm so sorry, my dad was a very kind man so it is hard for me to fathom how a father can be like that to their children or to anyone
It's like working for the emperor or dictator. You do not disagree with them about ANYTHING.
You can always tell a man's true character by the way they treat their family. And judging by this, Jerry Lewis was an appalling human being.
IKR! So shocking. What a horrible life review he'll have.
Good way to put it lady
I used to love Jerry Lewis in movies when I was a kid. 'Visit to a Small Planet', was my favourite. I am shocked to hear how he treated his family. I recently saw a yt video of how he raped 2 women who were actresses in his films. Reading the comments, I am sorry to hear how so many viewers went thru bad times with a parent. My childhood was a mess too. I have 2 boys who I live for and I am determined that they will have a better childhood than mine.
if the second wife was a real woman, she would split it all amongst the kids.
I agree....first thing you do....be grateful your blessed....and give back...or pay it forward...smh ....50 million a surprise for a has been...MD telethon was a profitable charity
@@markbrown1666 I think it ended up being close to $70 million.
433cartierave:So true.
Oh stop. You have no idea how much Jerry Lewis had.
@@lilybond6485 Actually we do have a pretty good idea. $50 to $70 million based on published media stories that nobody is really disputing. $50 to $70 million actually is an "idea".
Never a Jerry Lewis fan ... loved Dean Martin though.
Yeah Dean was great.
I liked Jerry and Dean, although Dean's mob ties were a turn off.
Dean Martin....mmmmm loved him.
@@usfanlovesjiwoo1978 Dean couldn't stand the mob. He would often turn down their requests because he didn't want to be associated with them. Unfortunately his friendship with Frank sinatra didn't help him in that regard.
Wasn't Dean horrible to the kids of his first wife? I think it's him that said he'd disown his kids if they ever smoked marijuana.... And mentally abused them growing up?
Jerry was one miserable old bastard, which is not a sin, but he made sure his family was miserable as well which is unforgivable.
Tim mcCaffrey yeah it was rumored back when he was doing movies with comedy he might have been dangling on the end of Dean Martin's extended member if you get what I mean
Tim mcCaffrey yes being miserable is a sin..lol
Being one miserable old bastard is a sin. I'm getting old and realize, especially in this day of hyper media, one must make a real conscious effort NOT to be like the Jerry Lewis' of the world.
tlg tlg I’m sorry, but I really can’t believe that. Although it’s easy to see where those stories came from when you watch how Jerry always behaved around Dean, Dean himself was not that way not that way inclined at all as he was always well-known to be much more of a ladies man.
These children just need to write tell-all books and promote them to make up for missing out on an inheritance.
Wow, so glad I had a wonderful father , he would have given us the clothes off his back , so glad I had the childhood I did , no amount of money can beat that , rip Dad I love you always ❤️
Same here, all the money in the world can't replace that. BTW, my dad's name really was Robin Hood Try and cash a check with that name, saw him do it once. He had to show his driver's license, in the 60's! May God bless.
I had an❤ awesome childhood and awesome dad
I HAD A DAD LIKE THAT TOO. (LOVE HIM ALWAYS.) THANKS. ❤
I worked for his telethon. I'm not sad because the money was raised for the kids but I'm sad I was under the impression he was a good and decent man. He obviously wasn't.
I thought he was more silly than funny! It’s hard to believe that he was so mean to his family! But we never know what goes on behind closed doors!!
he was a businessman - rumor has it his take on the total raised MDA fund was 25%
@@buzzbuzz132 sounds about right, when I was very young, my dad was a part of MDA, my dad asked Jerry to do his show locally, he said no, and if he were to do it, he required 20% of the take..this was way back in the late 50s
You never really know what someone is like until you live with them. Dr Jeckle & Mr Hyde.
@David Watson And yet France call him the king of comedy.
I liked Dean Martin. Thought Jerry Lewis was idiotic.
From my limited knowledge of Dean, I did see a video on UA-cam about him being a great dad.
@@annettekoch3766 I liked his tv show. I must be getting old
Yep thats it in a nut shell they had a bunch of them like soupy sales I think the people laughed at him
Jerry was a clown that took advantage of Dean's popularity.
Y'all may not know but Dean Martin and Jerry Lewis had a falling out. Dean was the type he loved what he did he had a wonderful personality. But Jerry was rude personality. He thought the world revolve around him. Jerry didn't care about nothing but money. And that is what happen between them.
Around the same time as Jerry but across the Atlantic in Britain they had a comic genius by the name of
Norman Wisdom. Very successful in the U.K. and across all of Europe, he broke America and was about to get more work over there when his wife left him and their two small children for another guy, what did Norman do ?.... cancelled his plans and raised his children single handed.. more of a man than Jerry Lewis ever was.
From what I read, Flip Wilson ended his variety show to focus on raising his kids, which he won in a custody battle. David Brenner also scaled back his standup performances to raise his son, whom he also won custody of.
@tammylewis2408 Real men, unlike Mr Lewis
That is harsh. No matter how much he hated his ex, those kids were his responsibility.
You're not responsible for GROWN children.
I Agree
She was also his responsibility.
His covenant wife...he made vows to her and to God, yet chose not to honor those vows by becoming a serial adulterer.
He hated everyone he could not use for his own benefit , and disregarded everyone else...Lewis was a nasty , ingrate ..
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. There's way more to this story. We've heard one side.
His son sure is a good man in spite of his father.
You don’t know the history and what Jerry’s sons put him through.
@@lilybond6485 There's a reason your kids don't call you Lily.
@@TheSpiritOfTheTimeshow about informing yourself instead of hating and judging? His kids refused to pay their mom's nursing home after Jerry died. He was paying it until he died. He gave the money to his son and he stole it and did not pay the home. They were on good terms with him and praised him for being strict but fair, yet they changed the tune when he died. So what does that say about them? Not to mention that one of his sons molested the youngest.
@@lilybond6485 true! These people have not read a single biography yet judge based on one video.🙄
@@Sunflower-cb1sk It bothers me that so many accusers only bring out their accusations after the celebrity has died and can't defend themselves.
I never "got" the humor of Jerry Lewis, I never thought he was funny, just annoying. And yes, I could picture him being a tyrant behind the scenes.
I never found him funny either. He was a tyrant to his family and betrayed his children.
The French love him...
The kid that got the money should have split it...
Exactly what I was thinking.
@@parsonj39 same for bing... he was going through a lot near end. Just be fair.
My brother worked for a guy Jerry Cutler who owned a marine supply shop in Bayside, Queens NY in the mid 70s. My brother was about 15. His boss always talked about Jerry Lewis and said he was his childhood friend growing up. He only had nice things to say about him.
I'd rather grow up in poverty than in such a dysfunctional abusive home like this guy did. Jerry Lewis may have been famous, funny and good at raising money for charity, but his legacy is tarnished by the way he treated his own family.
His sons said in their mom's memoir years ago that he was strict but fair to them. Now they changed the story. So what's the truth when it comes to this subject?
@@Sunflower-cb1sk The bottom line is that Jerry Lewis did not leave any of his boys anything. That's the truth. So, whether Jerry Lewis was strict but fair when he was home with them was one thing, but in the end Jerry Lewis showed how much he really cared by giving them nothing.
The boys must have sided with their mom, and Jerry Lewis resented it, so he paid them back by leaving them out of his will. He put his kids in the middle of his relationship with his wife and when he died he took out his anger on his kids by cutting them out of his estate.
Jerry Lewis might have been talented and very funny but he did not have a loving heart towards his own children.
@@kimkerchner2032 not true at all, his sons Scott and Anthony sided with him post divorce, not their mom. Patti said herself she gave him permission for cheating, so what does that say about her? That being said, Jerry never spoke ill of Patti, always praised her for putting up with him for 36 years. He always claimed being egomaniac. He also gave her alimony 450000$ a year and paid her nursing home until he died.(he even declared bankrupcy in 80s because of it. His sons even refused paying that home when he died, so what does that say about them? Some people say Jerry hated Dean, while the truth is he adored him and always said so. Jerry was far from being a saint, but he was not the devil some people claim him to be. Dean Martin also was a cheating womanizer, yet nobody insults him for that. Not to mention that most shocking thing was to me the fact that one of his older sons sexually abused the youngest. That was not Jerry's fault, if it's true.
My Dad worked on the "Jerry Lewis Movie Theaters" project. Dad said Jerry was a hard man to be around.
@@Paul-vc8on My Dad was a franchise salesman in the late 50s, 60s, early 70s. Worked for many franchises , Best known would be Bonanza Steak Houses.
@@Paul-vc8on The franchise was a complete failure。The duped franchisee in the Boston area was unable to book new movies。
Jerry actually admitted being an egomaniac and difficult person.
Even though they were "Jerry children", they really weren't "Jerry's children."
What a disgusting human being.
Mark G
They worked with him until the day he died. His son Gary even performed on his last telethon in 2010. He gave them excellent education and they previously said in their mom's memoir he was strict but fair. Now they changed the tune, of course.
When my father died he didn't leave me anything because he didn't have much. I would give everything I have to see him again even for a few minutes
For some reason, I never thought Jerry Lewis was funny or talented. All I saw during the very few times I looked at his work on television and very short scenes from some of his films was EGO and CRUELTY. so I am not surprised to hear about this from his own child.
Gullygully 4life Good-looking? When's the last time you had your eyes checked?
I once heard a story about a man who volunteered at one of the MD telethons. A few months after the telethon he saw Jerry Lewis on a street. The man politely approached Jerry and said, "I worked answering the phones on your last telethon." Lewis coldly replied, "What do you want? A medal?" This gives you some idea of what type of person Jerry Lewis was.
did he get the medal ?
Lava1964 yea has to be True its all on UTube Encyclopedia of Da USA HERE
Buddy Love
Oh my God.. and to think he sang the song after the telethon, "You'll Never Walk Alone." What a jerk!
Wow and I always loved Jerry Lewis. His wife if 38yrs after raising 5 if their kids being left out if his will??
If his wife who got the 50 million had any sense she should have shared it with her and his 5 kids.
Never liked Jerry Lewis. There was something really weird about him😒
RIGHT
Can you say: EGOMANIAC??
AGREED! never got his "humor" and I love to laugh!
He seemed extremely false.
He was very manic and not funny. He really was creepy.
Met him once when I was a very young man. Couple of days job. He was surrounded by people that he clearly insulted and mistreated constantly and who obviously disliked him even as they catered to him. He reminded me of trump, honestly: utterly oblivious of how awful and disliked he was and on the few occasions he did notice, unconcerned about it in any way. Very uncomfortable atmosphere at all times. I could see him throwing bones to peasants while he used one as a footstool. Never watched him since.