He abandoned her when she needed him the most. I could never trust or forgive my parents if they had done the same to me, no matter the excuses. I hope OP doesn't regret her decision.
I mean it does happen my father believed my stepmom from when i was 4 till i was 11 when she moved on and told him how much hated me and him for wasting her life
These stories are all clearly written by the same bot or person they follow the exact same template every time. I'm surprised that 30 people didn't reach out from the family to chastise her after the FB post that's the one missing element
I gotta say potentially jeopardizing the short term future of all the workers in her dad's company is definitely worth taking it down over. Tagging friends and family is one but deliberately tagging business associates is definitely malicious, her justified anger not withstanding
Honestly it's up to Op at the end of the day if she forgives her father, but all the heavy lifting needs to be on him to fix the relationship. He destroyed it, so it's up to him to rebuild it and not cop out to evil stepmother made me do it excuse. Even if the stepmother was telling the truth, he kicked out his child who at the time was effectively paralysed, to keep his bed warmer happy. If you can't count on someone in a time of need, then how can you ever trust them again?
I like this and honestly it is a lot better than ‘just dump him’. I get tired of people who are so ready to advise ditching a relationship when A) they have no personal experience and B) no personal investment. Caution is always advisable, and I would recommend Father seek counseling and work on building back the trust his actions destroyed. It’s not an impossible task, and if OP is willing to give him the chance, then it’s an investment she can make work for her if she chooses.
I think she should wait until the divorce finalized, and pretty much ONLY will try the relationship again if it's FINAL that stepmom would bE GONE and have RO on her.
I'm starting to think that as a stepchild, you should record interactions cause this is getting sad. Biological children getting tossed aside cause of spinless whipped men.
He was not expecting his wife to lie to him! If he was not a manipulative person, he will not be thinking that his wife will be trying to cause problems between his child and him.
@@lynettephillip2412 I got you but when you trust a woman you've known for a few years over your own flesh and blood who you raised. Says a lot about your own character.
@@SvensktTroll I never said that I will not trust my child! I said that I will hear both sides. I didn't say certain other things but I am not you, I will know.
Nah, I'm just one minute into this shit. Even if he did steal it, ur gonna go to him in the hospital and tell him ur kicking him out? Bro was looking for the first chance he got 💀
Wow, your story is both heartbreaking and inspiring. I can’t imagine the pain of being betrayed by someone you should have been able to trust. How did you manage to cope during those tough months and the betrayal that followed? It’s impressive how you’ve handled everything and leaned on your grandparents for support.
The grandparents are great people for taking care of OP but they are wrong in saying that the Dad shouldn't have been mentioned or did they forget his fight with them on how he completely sided with the stepmom. If the father wants to make wrong decisions and just reach out needing something without apologizing he should be feeling part of the consequences because he never believed OP. So the grandparents and father have a secret conversation but decided not to tell OP about it until everything came to a boiling point. They didn't think that through. There's only one way the stepmom could be convincing in what she's saying about OP. Just because someone is older doesn't automatically make them an honest person all the time.
well lets be honest here, if someone wanted to make sure you could never form a relationship with a family member, they would do everything in their power to make sure reconciliation never happens as well. So it makes sense that a snake would strike in the shadows. quick and fast, since the evil ex literally took the chance to sabotage the chances of that happening as soon as she could.
We all knew that OP was pretending to be tough but deep down she was ready to re-establish the relationship with her dad at the drop of hat. He treated her like c…rap and threw her out, but she’s weak and dhumm… Oh well…
How convenient he’s only sorry now that the ex wife is no longer interested with him and admitted the truth. Your kid is crumpled in an accident and you kick them out before they even get to heal. His apology is so fake and op is too desperate to be close with their father to see through the cracks in his lies.
hmm... well we don't know if those are lies or not, so your really just make baseless claims. Also, before the divorce even happened he planned to make up with her out the vowl renewal. He was discussing this with his parents, and his parents even said that there were no business related things going on at the renewal. not to mention he didn't get angry with his kid either in the messages, which is impressive, it is much easier to be cruel and wicked to a person if you're not seeing them face to face. The actual actions that he takes and all the info that is revealed about him through op grandparents seem to actually disprove this by a lot. not to mention he is the one who initiated the divorce and kicked out his ex-wife. that doesnt seem like his ex-wife lost interest in him but more so the other way around. I think your just picking and choosing and being disingenuous.
I wouldn't say it's fake but he is apparently so oblivious that it really would have taken the end of his world for him to realize he's wrong... I can kinda understand cuz figuring out who's lying is hard for me but I think I would have noticed by then when her description didn't match with the cops. Edit: grammar
You are NEVER in the wrong for spreading TRUTH. They came after her after treating her horribly, they threatened her, and they pushed her too far. I would have done worse.
Wow, they actually abandoned her and because of the stepmother’s accusations, and then the stepmother reaches out to renew their wedding vows, but it’s only for the dad‘s work how greedy
It's not your fault it's your step mom's fault because she lied to his dad and decided to kick his own son out of the house and that's not right and she should pay for her actions and go to hell for what she has done to him and if you guys can't see that then you guys are delusional and she doesn't deserve anything for lying.
OP reacted with what they thought was the right thing to do and had no reason to feel guilty because OP's father proved in his actions for 16 years that he would all was put stepmother first even if he wanted to make amends for real stepmom was all was going to get in the way.
I say if she wants to rebuild the relationship have it involve therapy and strong boundaries. If he goes back on it and does anything of this sort again then she can cut him out knowing she gave him a chance and doesn't have to feel bad about never having done so. What it is like played out in real life is much different from what we read on a post. If anything one big boundary that must be set is that step mom is never under any circumstances allowed near her nor is he allowed to facilitate any kind of communication between them.
Lots here saying that the dad was stupid for being manipulated, but daughter was also manipulated.Her dad was going to invite her to the renewal of his vows.So stepmom called her first and made it seem like he was only doing so to save face.I hope they rebuild their relationship.
I agree. So many people on here think that she should cut him off. But it really does seem that he was regretting the horrible things he did even when he was still with the stepmom. He doesn’t deserve simple forgiveness at all, but op’s choice to mend their relationship isn’t foolish.
and i also think that she did this so the daughter will react badly when he talk to her and invate her to prove that she is steal a brat even after all that time but it backfired on her badly
People who said the father was stupid probably had never realised that they were being manipulated. All of us have been manipulated as some point in our lives, for the better or worse. People who are good at manipulation know how to make their targets unaware of their tactics. If manipulations only work on stupid people, there wouldn't be intelligent people in cults. I also hope OOP and her father can rebuild their relationship.
True and I understand the father was manipulated but if I was OP I'd find it really hard getting over him kicking her out while she was injured or not even visiting her while she was recuperating from the crash, OP was bad enough that her grandparents hired a nurse. I get being pissed off at your child but come on, not even gonna see her? one time at least to make sure she's okay. I think it's good that they're trying to patch up their relationship since the dad does seem remorseful but going forward he should do 100% of the heavy lifting.
I get the guy fucked up big and he may never be able to make up for that, however him leaving his wife, not caring how he looks in his business community, actually showing regret makes me think that it is right to at least try to see if that relationship is salvageable. I do think people can change if they try and he has taken the proper steps to start. Don’t jump in head first, still be cautious with him, but try and if it doesn’t work out you at least won’t wonder “what if”
Some people are too quick to forgive. The second he swallowed the lies his wife gave him should have been the last time he ever saw his daughter since he clearly showed who he loved more.
@@justyojimbo3471 I didn't say forgive right away, I specifically said give him a chance to earn it. It would take time, probably quite a few years and it's possible it's not possible she could get over it. Normally I would be with you, however the fact he did divorce his wife and showed actual remorse for those actions are the only reasons I'd even give the guy a chance at it
@@reeseseater12 he didn't deserve the chance is my point. How does he deserve a chance to reconcile when his arrogance allowed the relationship to be shredded to begin with?
@@justyojimbo3471 I said this is more for the OP so she doesn't ever have that "What if" feeling, it's about her, not him. His actions are the only thing opening that door a crack. All I know is years down the line I wouldn't want to wonder "Maybe my life could've been better if I gave him a chance". Giving the chance doesn't harm her in any way, it's betting with house money because she can still walk away if she realizes she doesn't need him, but can get a better father who could support her in the future if it does
@@reeseseater12 and thus my original point still stands: some people are too forgiving. He doesn't deserve anything from her and she shouldn't have to suffer his presence any longer than it would have taken to tell him he made his choice when he refused to even try to find out the full truth instead of believing the first person to make it to him. Now he gets to feel good inside because his daughter who had every right to cast him away like he did to her was basically manipulated into giving him another chance to hurt her even more than he already did.
This father must be heartless. I can't imagine throwing out a family member who had an accident and needs care. No matter what the reason, throwing someone who is seriously ill out on the street is wrong. This is simply inhumane. This father is as bad a man as the stepmother. What terrible people! I feel sorry for such a family. This father had no feelings for his daughter for years and willingly believed his stepmother's nonsense. Now that he has come to terms with her, he blames it all on her. This is a grown man who threw his sick child out onto the street under the pretext his wife gave him. He is not retarded and is responsible for his actions. It's not like the evil stepmother from the fairy tale controls him and he has to treat Cinderella badly. He was simply a bad father and now he regrets it, but not enough to do anything himself. His parents had to organize a meeting with his own daughter for him! And this guy runs his own company? You don't make a child out of him. He knew exactly what he was doing and clearly chose his stepmother over his daughter. Now he's old and doesn't want to be alone, so he kind of regrets it. I would only give him a chance if he shows that he can rebuild the relationship with his daughter on his own initiative. Not that he is a flag in the wind and sometimes he listens to his wife and other times to his parents, as if he had no mind or opinion of his own. Treating a parent by a child as a child and justifying behavior as if the parent were a child is referred to in psychology as parentization and this is psychological violence.
Forgiveness is a hard thing do to, but it is right because no one should live a life ruled by grudges, so i applaud her. However it still boils my blood to know the father chose his wife over his own flesh and blood- truly hope things keep getting better for the daughter.
I can't say I AGREE with OPs choice, but I've never had a good bond with either of my parents so I'll never know what she has when it was just her and her dad. That being said, if she and her grandparents think that his remorse is genuine then I think and hope that reconciliation is possible, especially with the stepmom out of the picture. I don't agree with people calling OP dumb or spineless either; it's almost as if humans are emotional creatures who's emotions and sentiments sometimes override what others might deem most logical. Besides, keeping it to regular contact and family therapy sessions at first IS a good way to go about it, regardless of how we might feel about her choices
If I owned a company I wouldn't trust a guy that is so easily manipulated and would abandon his own kid. If sex makes him do that to his own child who knows what he would do to the business and employees.
I get that father was manipulated but how in the heck would the situation he thought he was in justify what he did? I love a good rconcilliation but this feels.... well, off.
Op’s stepmom said what she said about the reason for her dad wanting to invite her to the wedding was so OP would become angry and outright say no to his dad’s invite.
I don't understand why reddit is so quick to jump on the no contact thing. It's as if they don't understand emotions. This is a relationship that can be repaired with effort and boundaries. Family councilling without stepmum included to give op an opportunity to vent would be extremely helpful. You shouldn't be so quick to cut off family, it's a good way to be put in a situation with no support network.
This. Dad fucked up. He's eating his crow and coming back apologetic and broken. He's not back because of the looming divorce, he's back because he wanted to reach out and the divorce is because STBX sabotaged it, but failed to keep herself clean and got caught trying to manipulate the situation.
Agreed, Dad messed up. Stepmom basically gave Dad a "her or me" ultimatum with his daughter and he failed because of stepmom's lies. Sounds like stepmom was trying to sabotage reconciliation by lying again and saying it was about a business deal. This time, dad figured it out and the truth came out. She hurt them both, best thing to do would be to kick stepmom completely out of their lives and make amends with each other.
I agree with you. If OP wants to reconcile with him it's not bad idea since she feels like OP wants to do it. And OP really need to have clear boundaries and rules with him+ father need to put much more effort since he fucked up
After finding out that OP is the daughter, the events make more sense. There are a number of women who, upon becoming stepmothers (especially to kids that are used to it just being them and their dad) get jealous of how close their husbands are to their new step-daughter. They see it as a sensual intimacy, when it is just a normal father-daughter relationship. They see the step-daughter as competition. It’s more obvious when the stepmother joins when the daughter is a teen and has been helping care for the father for years.
Step mom is just a HUGE POS it seems, wanting to cause drama. Having a relationship with her father is important at a young age, dad picked the wrong side & will love with that. Guarantee he wants to be with his kid in life instead of not.
Go to counseling work on what you both have lost because of her, rebuild your father daughter relationship if that's what you want, there are certain dad's/moms out there that don't deserve any chances, but your dad isn't one of them in my opinion I wish you both well and good luck
If he has been a real father and stood up for his kid, none of this would have happened. It’s good that he at least feels remorse, but he’s TA and so is his wife. Not OP.
I find people online so funny, always straight to scorched earth and never a chance of forgiveness😂 they always remind me of the divorced work colleagues that convince a woman to cheat and they wouldn’t even see the similarities between them. You’d think they are perfect and have never made mistakes before. The father made a bad mistake but he knows it and through his guilt and acknowledgment of him receiving a just punishment shows his character, it’s a hill to climb to regain trust but I think if they do OP and her father will have an incredibly strong bond but it comes down to if OP wants that
Seen this multiple times over the years - parent kicks out the first biological kid(s) because of the new partner/step kids/kids with second spouse, then when they break up, the parent comes back to the first kid moaning, “I was deceived…by the way, can you pay the insurance, cough up some house payments, help me with my health issues….” Got friends now dealing with boomer parents who’ve blown thru their money and are wanting the kids to cough up their house payment/second mortgage.
The people calling her weak for wanting to work on her relationship with her father are idiots. It's much easier to walk away, than to repair a hurt. Some hurts do go too deep, but this one the dad believed the wrong person. He wasn't the one who lied.
I can always get behind wanting to have a connection with your parents. She’ll have to lay down some ground rules/boundaries, but I feel reconnecting is a good idea.
He made her life difficult by marrying stepmonster, abandoned her when she was bed bound, didn't speak to her for 2 years and she is forgiving him??? Yeah, he's DEFINITELY NOT gonna left her again for another bed warmer, uh huh. Just because he was "manipulated", "confused" and "didn't have courage to confront OP" doesn't mean OP should forgive him. He choose that b*tch instead of his own flash and blood, so he by himself choose to shit his relationship with his daughter. I'm sure OP regrets her decision with reconcile in the future
It's a middle ground between NTA and YTA the post while kinda over the top, was very deserved. He was acting like a terrible parent. As if kicking anyone out of the house after they have a terrible ingury wasn't bad enough, he sided with someone who was screaming at a bedridden person.
You did the right thing. You needed to keep the post up & you needed to add to it. Your dad disowned you. You needed to stand up for your self. You as bad as them.
OP should have documented the stepmom's lies by having her fights be in text form. (Hind sight is 20/20 though.) If I were OP, I would reconcile with her dad on the condition of weekly combined therapy along with individual therapy. The step family manipulation/isolation/lack of genuine cohesion is a common enough occurrence to be a trope. Man should have done therapy when the stepmom came into their lives. Therapy allows people to process their crap, and maybe the stepmom would have gotten to the root of why she hated/resented OP so much and not wasted her time married to a father or resolved the issue and had a genuine relationship with OP. I dunno. All I know is that therapy works to uncover shit we are masking or burying.
Her dad just seems all around weak. You kick your only child out because of someone else's influence, you go no contact because you're too "ashamed" to admit you're wrong, you allowed a woman to move into your home and cause discord between you and your child who had never given you any problems, and I also noticed how it wasn't him that invited her to the vowel renewal it was the step-mom that reached out. Weak, weak, weak.
We often forget that humans are part of the animal kingdom. When seeking a mate, most animals don’t want to be bothered with the children of a potential suitor and will bully and even kill them. This applies to humans as well.
More or less. There are cases of stepparents doing everything in their power to get rid of their stepkids for [insert vile reason here]. Stepmother was only after dad's money and saw OP as an obstacle.
NTA. The fallout was inevitable and just so happened to go about that way given that, again, STEP MOMSTER wouldn't mind her place and kept poking the hornet's nest. She didn't have to reach out to OP or tell her anything, if her father was gonna reach out, he would've, instead she had to put herself in the middle and burned more bridges than just that of father and daughter with her lies. None of what the father does will ever make up for the time lost with OP or his blatant favoritism of his wife over his DAUGHTER.
You know, Op says she was rear-ended by a drunk truck driver, so that is not her fault in the eyes of the law. I don't see where all this hate and punishment from the father is coming from, and Op should have gotten a large settlement from the driver's insurance if they had any, or from the company if it was a commercial truck and driver. Just another fairy tale story from a high school comp class.
H...how do all of these people have other people's emails...? I only have emails for maybe 5 people I know. With social media, it has become somewhat unnecessary to have someone's email.
If the father was genuinely wanting to make things right with Op, the stepmother wouldn't still be in the picture. And it's pathetic that she can't seem to understand that she would be collateral damage in that scenario
What if : the step mother paid a driver to crash into you to get you into an accident so she will be able to mulnipulate your father more and to ruin your relationship completely but it ended up back fire-ing on her
Op gotta do what works for her. But for me, the ONLY possible hope for abandoning NC stance with the father would be a finalized divorce from that harpy! That would be step 1. Step 2 would've been an unequivocal apology via response to my (never deleted) social media post. He'd have to admit to EVERY element of it, especially that the harpy LIED about my actions. At the point, my head would allow my heart to be open to POSSIBLE reconciliation, but ZERO guarantees. At that point, trust levels would be less than zero, and he'd have to earn it the hard way. ANY signs of deception whatsoever at any point, *poof*, NC! Don't even try to do a surprise birthday or anything; what I say ZERO TOLERANCE for deception, I mean it.
NTA. Don't feel bad either!! Your "dad" allowed his wife to treat you like crap. Stand up for yourself and how you feel!! Please stay NC with your donor and his wife. OH, he wanted to reach out, BUT HE DIDN'T!! Dude believed his "wife" over his own child!! Dude is 🚮!!!!
![[Full Story] Stepmom Wanted Me Out of Wedding Photos Due to My Scars. I Told Dad Everything &...](/img/n.gif)
He abandoned her when she needed him the most. I could never trust or forgive my parents if they had done the same to me, no matter the excuses. I hope OP doesn't regret her decision.
abandoned her? he just made her live with her grandparents for a while
She will.
Believe me, she will
Idk, OP is an idiot. It's like: I'm gonna make a post questioning my action, asking advice, and do the opposite of the answers
@@justawarlord2 almost 3 years with no contact is just a “while”? That’s abandonment.
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Another story where people just believe anything people say without proof and end up ruining everything.
I mean it does happen my father believed my stepmom from when i was 4 till i was 11 when she moved on and told him how much hated me and him for wasting her life
Like how you believe these reddit stories are real?😂
@@conscience9915May I ask how does relationship with your father looks like now?If you don't want to answer you don't have to
It doesn't even matter if it were true. You don't kick out a kid that is temporarily disabled. That is mental.
These stories are all clearly written by the same bot or person they follow the exact same template every time. I'm surprised that 30 people didn't reach out from the family to chastise her after the FB post that's the one missing element
Dad kicked out his own kid. Of course he deserves this.
I read "Dan" and I immediately whent "DO IT FOR DAN!" And had some PTSD flashbacks
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@@erlynnicma4663 "😂 Oh no, the 'DO IT FOR DAN' war cry strikes again! I feel you, I’ve been through that same emotional rollercoaster."
That is so wild choosing your second wife over you child that you raised by yourself before even meeting her
First wife
He keeps picking up bad women and ignoring it.
Nah, shouldn't have delete the post. Stepmonster may be an evil witch, but sperm donor is not a child. He should be able think for himself.
Especially seeing his kid bed bound and in horrible condition after an accident. He’s not sorry at all
I gotta say potentially jeopardizing the short term future of all the workers in her dad's company is definitely worth taking it down over.
Tagging friends and family is one but deliberately tagging business associates is definitely malicious, her justified anger not withstanding
Even if he believed his wife, kicking OP out while bedridden from an accident was next-level horrible.
Honestly it's up to Op at the end of the day if she forgives her father, but all the heavy lifting needs to be on him to fix the relationship. He destroyed it, so it's up to him to rebuild it and not cop out to evil stepmother made me do it excuse. Even if the stepmother was telling the truth, he kicked out his child who at the time was effectively paralysed, to keep his bed warmer happy. If you can't count on someone in a time of need, then how can you ever trust them again?
I like this and honestly it is a lot better than ‘just dump him’. I get tired of people who are so ready to advise ditching a relationship when A) they have no personal experience and B) no personal investment. Caution is always advisable, and I would recommend Father seek counseling and work on building back the trust his actions destroyed. It’s not an impossible task, and if OP is willing to give him the chance, then it’s an investment she can make work for her if she chooses.
I think she should wait until the divorce finalized, and pretty much ONLY will try the relationship again if it's FINAL that stepmom would bE GONE and have RO on her.
don't feel shit about that guy, he didn't need your help to make all the wrong decisions, he won't need your help to regret the consequences.
I'm starting to think that as a stepchild, you should record interactions cause this is getting sad. Biological children getting tossed aside cause of spinless whipped men.
He was not expecting his wife to lie to him! If he was not a manipulative person, he will not be thinking that his wife will be trying to cause problems between his child and him.
@@lynettephillip2412 I got you but when you trust a woman you've known for a few years over your own flesh and blood who you raised. Says a lot about your own character.
@@lynettephillip2412Why would you not trust your child when she tells you the truth?
@@SvensktTroll I never said that I will not trust my child! I said that I will hear both sides. I didn't say certain other things but I am not you, I will know.
@@lynettephillip2412 But if you choose to believe the wife you automatically disbelief the daughter?
family is a big word that comes with a lot of responsibilities
Very well said.
Nah, I'm just one minute into this shit. Even if he did steal it, ur gonna go to him in the hospital and tell him ur kicking him out? Bro was looking for the first chance he got 💀
Ikr!!! Not even out of the hospital, didn't even wait til the kid could move by themself!!!
He got with two horrible women and kicked his kid to the curb. He deserved to lose everything after that.
Wow, your story is both heartbreaking and inspiring. I can’t imagine the pain of being betrayed by someone you should have been able to trust.
How did you manage to cope during those tough months and the betrayal that followed? It’s impressive how you’ve handled everything and leaned on your grandparents for support.
What a coward of a father.
Sometimes you have to make that decision for yourself. Hopefully everything works out for them.
The grandparents are great people for taking care of OP but they are wrong in saying that the Dad shouldn't have been mentioned or did they forget his fight with them on how he completely sided with the stepmom. If the father wants to make wrong decisions and just reach out needing something without apologizing he should be feeling part of the consequences because he never believed OP. So the grandparents and father have a secret conversation but decided not to tell OP about it until everything came to a boiling point. They didn't think that through. There's only one way the stepmom could be convincing in what she's saying about OP. Just because someone is older doesn't automatically make them an honest person all the time.
well lets be honest here, if someone wanted to make sure you could never form a relationship with a family member, they would do everything in their power to make sure reconciliation never happens as well. So it makes sense that a snake would strike in the shadows. quick and fast, since the evil ex literally took the chance to sabotage the chances of that happening as soon as she could.
We all knew that OP was pretending to be tough but deep down she was ready to re-establish the relationship with her dad at the drop of hat.
He treated her like c…rap and threw her out, but she’s weak and dhumm…
Oh well…
How convenient he’s only sorry now that the ex wife is no longer interested with him and admitted the truth. Your kid is crumpled in an accident and you kick them out before they even get to heal. His apology is so fake and op is too desperate to be close with their father to see through the cracks in his lies.
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hmm... well we don't know if those are lies or not, so your really just make baseless claims. Also, before the divorce even happened he planned to make up with her out the vowl renewal. He was discussing this with his parents, and his parents even said that there were no business related things going on at the renewal. not to mention he didn't get angry with his kid either in the messages, which is impressive, it is much easier to be cruel and wicked to a person if you're not seeing them face to face. The actual actions that he takes and all the info that is revealed about him through op grandparents seem to actually disprove this by a lot. not to mention he is the one who initiated the divorce and kicked out his ex-wife. that doesnt seem like his ex-wife lost interest in him but more so the other way around. I think your just picking and choosing and being disingenuous.
@@ix7958how is it “impressive” that he didn’t get angry in a text?? 😂😂
I wouldn't say it's fake but he is apparently so oblivious that it really would have taken the end of his world for him to realize he's wrong... I can kinda understand cuz figuring out who's lying is hard for me but I think I would have noticed by then when her description didn't match with the cops.
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@Owl_bee Well it's impressive that I can get out of bed so I guess texting might be harder than that..
8:15 for shorts people!! I know it seems long but there was extra yapping that made it 8 minutes long.
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You are NEVER in the wrong for spreading TRUTH. They came after her after treating her horribly, they threatened her, and they pushed her too far. I would have done worse.
True he messed up, toxic people finally telling the truth about what they did. Rock on grandparents.👍🏾🤘🏾
Wow, they actually abandoned her and because of the stepmother’s accusations, and then the stepmother reaches out to renew their wedding vows, but it’s only for the dad‘s work how greedy
If telling the truth fucks someone over, that's on them.
At least he dont blame her, take full accuntability and divorce the step witch ...
HA! Stepmom was left with NOTHING.
It's not your fault it's your step mom's fault because she lied to his dad and decided to kick his own son out of the house and that's not right and she should pay for her actions and go to hell for what she has done to him and if you guys can't see that then you guys are delusional and she doesn't deserve anything for lying.
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OP reacted with what they thought was the right thing to do and had no reason to feel guilty because OP's father proved in his actions for 16 years that he would all was put stepmother first even if he wanted to make amends for real stepmom was all was going to get in the way.
this op is so mature, she's optimistic, not dwelling in demons behind her.... she's choose peace than hatred
I would give him a chance as long as step mom isn’t in your life
If op's dad is genuine in realising his faults, I think reconciliation is a feasible path.
I say if she wants to rebuild the relationship have it involve therapy and strong boundaries. If he goes back on it and does anything of this sort again then she can cut him out knowing she gave him a chance and doesn't have to feel bad about never having done so. What it is like played out in real life is much different from what we read on a post. If anything one big boundary that must be set is that step mom is never under any circumstances allowed near her nor is he allowed to facilitate any kind of communication between them.
Lots here saying that the dad was stupid for being manipulated, but daughter was also manipulated.Her dad was going to invite her to the renewal of his vows.So stepmom called her first and made it seem like he was only doing so to save face.I hope they rebuild their relationship.
I agree. So many people on here think that she should cut him off. But it really does seem that he was regretting the horrible things he did even when he was still with the stepmom. He doesn’t deserve simple forgiveness at all, but op’s choice to mend their relationship isn’t foolish.
and i also think that she did this so the daughter will react badly when he talk to her and invate her to prove that she is steal a brat even after all that time but it backfired on her badly
People who said the father was stupid probably had never realised that they were being manipulated. All of us have been manipulated as some point in our lives, for the better or worse. People who are good at manipulation know how to make their targets unaware of their tactics. If manipulations only work on stupid people, there wouldn't be intelligent people in cults.
I also hope OOP and her father can rebuild their relationship.
True and I understand the father was manipulated but if I was OP I'd find it really hard getting over him kicking her out while she was injured or not even visiting her while she was recuperating from the crash, OP was bad enough that her grandparents hired a nurse. I get being pissed off at your child but come on, not even gonna see her? one time at least to make sure she's okay. I think it's good that they're trying to patch up their relationship since the dad does seem remorseful but going forward he should do 100% of the heavy lifting.
I get the guy fucked up big and he may never be able to make up for that, however him leaving his wife, not caring how he looks in his business community, actually showing regret makes me think that it is right to at least try to see if that relationship is salvageable. I do think people can change if they try and he has taken the proper steps to start. Don’t jump in head first, still be cautious with him, but try and if it doesn’t work out you at least won’t wonder “what if”
Some people are too quick to forgive. The second he swallowed the lies his wife gave him should have been the last time he ever saw his daughter since he clearly showed who he loved more.
@@justyojimbo3471 I didn't say forgive right away, I specifically said give him a chance to earn it. It would take time, probably quite a few years and it's possible it's not possible she could get over it. Normally I would be with you, however the fact he did divorce his wife and showed actual remorse for those actions are the only reasons I'd even give the guy a chance at it
@@reeseseater12 he didn't deserve the chance is my point. How does he deserve a chance to reconcile when his arrogance allowed the relationship to be shredded to begin with?
@@justyojimbo3471 I said this is more for the OP so she doesn't ever have that "What if" feeling, it's about her, not him. His actions are the only thing opening that door a crack. All I know is years down the line I wouldn't want to wonder "Maybe my life could've been better if I gave him a chance". Giving the chance doesn't harm her in any way, it's betting with house money because she can still walk away if she realizes she doesn't need him, but can get a better father who could support her in the future if it does
@@reeseseater12 and thus my original point still stands: some people are too forgiving. He doesn't deserve anything from her and she shouldn't have to suffer his presence any longer than it would have taken to tell him he made his choice when he refused to even try to find out the full truth instead of believing the first person to make it to him. Now he gets to feel good inside because his daughter who had every right to cast him away like he did to her was basically manipulated into giving him another chance to hurt her even more than he already did.
This father must be heartless. I can't imagine throwing out a family member who had an accident and needs care. No matter what the reason, throwing someone who is seriously ill out on the street is wrong. This is simply inhumane. This father is as bad a man as the stepmother. What terrible people! I feel sorry for such a family.
This father had no feelings for his daughter for years and willingly believed his stepmother's nonsense. Now that he has come to terms with her, he blames it all on her. This is a grown man who threw his sick child out onto the street under the pretext his wife gave him. He is not retarded and is responsible for his actions. It's not like the evil stepmother from the fairy tale controls him and he has to treat Cinderella badly. He was simply a bad father and now he regrets it, but not enough to do anything himself. His parents had to organize a meeting with his own daughter for him! And this guy runs his own company? You don't make a child out of him. He knew exactly what he was doing and clearly chose his stepmother over his daughter. Now he's old and doesn't want to be alone, so he kind of regrets it. I would only give him a chance if he shows that he can rebuild the relationship with his daughter on his own initiative. Not that he is a flag in the wind and sometimes he listens to his wife and other times to his parents, as if he had no mind or opinion of his own. Treating a parent by a child as a child and justifying behavior as if the parent were a child is referred to in psychology as parentization and this is psychological violence.
Please remove the slur
Father is also good at manipulating 🙂🙂 poor child
a manipulater cannot be manipulated. this is just an utterly stupid take
Forgiveness is a hard thing do to, but it is right because no one should live a life ruled by grudges, so i applaud her. However it still boils my blood to know the father chose his wife over his own flesh and blood- truly hope things keep getting better for the daughter.
I can't say I AGREE with OPs choice, but I've never had a good bond with either of my parents so I'll never know what she has when it was just her and her dad. That being said, if she and her grandparents think that his remorse is genuine then I think and hope that reconciliation is possible, especially with the stepmom out of the picture. I don't agree with people calling OP dumb or spineless either; it's almost as if humans are emotional creatures who's emotions and sentiments sometimes override what others might deem most logical. Besides, keeping it to regular contact and family therapy sessions at first IS a good way to go about it, regardless of how we might feel about her choices
With those cringe threats 😂😂😂
If I owned a company I wouldn't trust a guy that is so easily manipulated and would abandon his own kid. If sex makes him do that to his own child who knows what he would do to the business and employees.
It's nice to hear one of these where the characters actually show some emotional intelligence instead of behaving like spoiled entitled brats.
Reddit doesn’t like hope
And they hate second chances even more
They hate anything that very emotional
@@kheph632 There are some actions that do not deserve second chances. Abandoning your own flesh and blood for pussy? That is one of those actions.
I get that father was manipulated but how in the heck would the situation he thought he was in justify what he did? I love a good rconcilliation but this feels.... well, off.
They reep what they sow.
Op’s stepmom said what she said about the reason for her dad wanting to invite her to the wedding was so OP would become angry and outright say no to his dad’s invite.
I don't understand why reddit is so quick to jump on the no contact thing. It's as if they don't understand emotions.
This is a relationship that can be repaired with effort and boundaries. Family councilling without stepmum included to give op an opportunity to vent would be extremely helpful.
You shouldn't be so quick to cut off family, it's a good way to be put in a situation with no support network.
This. Dad fucked up. He's eating his crow and coming back apologetic and broken. He's not back because of the looming divorce, he's back because he wanted to reach out and the divorce is because STBX sabotaged it, but failed to keep herself clean and got caught trying to manipulate the situation.
Agreed, Dad messed up. Stepmom basically gave Dad a "her or me" ultimatum with his daughter and he failed because of stepmom's lies. Sounds like stepmom was trying to sabotage reconciliation by lying again and saying it was about a business deal. This time, dad figured it out and the truth came out. She hurt them both, best thing to do would be to kick stepmom completely out of their lives and make amends with each other.
I agree with you. If OP wants to reconcile with him it's not bad idea since she feels like OP wants to do it. And OP really need to have clear boundaries and rules with him+ father need to put much more effort since he fucked up
lies, blasphemy and fakery.
After finding out that OP is the daughter, the events make more sense. There are a number of women who, upon becoming stepmothers (especially to kids that are used to it just being them and their dad) get jealous of how close their husbands are to their new step-daughter. They see it as a sensual intimacy, when it is just a normal father-daughter relationship. They see the step-daughter as competition. It’s more obvious when the stepmother joins when the daughter is a teen and has been helping care for the father for years.
Another story of a weak man
Bro, pretty much all of them
This is why I voice record shit when I really need to borrow something. A little... insurance, goes a long way~
tbh i might aswell im kinda all over the place in my mind and its all thanks to some mental abuse though nothing to serious
Step mom is just a HUGE POS it seems, wanting to cause drama. Having a relationship with her father is important at a young age, dad picked the wrong side & will love with that. Guarantee he wants to be with his kid in life instead of not.
Honestly, it is all up to you. I do not think we have a say in this matter.
Therefore, the fact that the father put his wife above his DAUGHTER is in my opinion already a reason to call him out
Go to counseling work on what you both have lost because of her, rebuild your father daughter relationship if that's what you want, there are certain dad's/moms out there that don't deserve any chances, but your dad isn't one of them in my opinion I wish you both well and good luck
this the best reddit story channel.............for AI stories.
If he has been a real father and stood up for his kid, none of this would have happened. It’s good that he at least feels remorse, but he’s TA and so is his wife. Not OP.
I find people online so funny, always straight to scorched earth and never a chance of forgiveness😂 they always remind me of the divorced work colleagues that convince a woman to cheat and they wouldn’t even see the similarities between them. You’d think they are perfect and have never made mistakes before. The father made a bad mistake but he knows it and through his guilt and acknowledgment of him receiving a just punishment shows his character, it’s a hill to climb to regain trust but I think if they do OP and her father will have an incredibly strong bond but it comes down to if OP wants that
Your father now knows how evil step mom is. I wouldn’t see him until he divorced her.
Step-anything that compete with the kids are always so gross
Any text that reveals the truth should not be taken down, The damage has been done to the op already and there is consequences to your action my dear
Do you think the step-mother intentionally sabotaged the vow renewal in order to blow up the marriage, or was it an accident?
1:00 for shorts viewers i think lol
The goat
Seen this multiple times over the years - parent kicks out the first biological kid(s) because of the new partner/step kids/kids with second spouse, then when they break up, the parent comes back to the first kid moaning, “I was deceived…by the way, can you pay the insurance, cough up some house payments, help me with my health issues….” Got friends now dealing with boomer parents who’ve blown thru their money and are wanting the kids to cough up their house payment/second mortgage.
Take baby steps, with rekindling you and your dads relationship.
The people calling her weak for wanting to work on her relationship with her father are idiots. It's much easier to walk away, than to repair a hurt. Some hurts do go too deep, but this one the dad believed the wrong person. He wasn't the one who lied.
Yas
I can always get behind wanting to have a connection with your parents.
She’ll have to lay down some ground rules/boundaries, but I feel reconnecting is a good idea.
Weak
I swear some women dont like it when their is a diffrent female in her man's life like mom, sister and daughters
Why ask When you already have an answer??
If you can’t forget something after 2 years then your as spoiled as your parents say
He made her life difficult by marrying stepmonster, abandoned her when she was bed bound, didn't speak to her for 2 years and she is forgiving him??? Yeah, he's DEFINITELY NOT gonna left her again for another bed warmer, uh huh.
Just because he was "manipulated", "confused" and "didn't have courage to confront OP" doesn't mean OP should forgive him. He choose that b*tch instead of his own flash and blood, so he by himself choose to shit his relationship with his daughter. I'm sure OP regrets her decision with reconcile in the future
It took me almost 18 minutes to realise OP was a Daughter
It's a middle ground between NTA and YTA the post while kinda over the top, was very deserved. He was acting like a terrible parent. As if kicking anyone out of the house after they have a terrible ingury wasn't bad enough, he sided with someone who was screaming at a bedridden person.
Why blame her for the accident at all? The one who gets rear ended is pretty much never in the wrong.
So your dad is weakling too afraid to stand up for what’s right
You did the right thing. You needed to keep the post up & you needed to add to it. Your dad disowned you. You needed to stand up for your self. You as bad as them.
Still, he was a coward for not being strong enough to confront the stepmom for the actions she did to his daughter.
OP should have documented the stepmom's lies by having her fights be in text form. (Hind sight is 20/20 though.)
If I were OP, I would reconcile with her dad on the condition of weekly combined therapy along with individual therapy.
The step family manipulation/isolation/lack of genuine cohesion is a common enough occurrence to be a trope.
Man should have done therapy when the stepmom came into their lives. Therapy allows people to process their crap, and maybe the stepmom would have gotten to the root of why she hated/resented OP so much and not wasted her time married to a father or resolved the issue and had a genuine relationship with OP.
I dunno. All I know is that therapy works to uncover shit we are masking or burying.
Her dad just seems all around weak. You kick your only child out because of someone else's influence, you go no contact because you're too "ashamed" to admit you're wrong, you allowed a woman to move into your home and cause discord between you and your child who had never given you any problems, and I also noticed how it wasn't him that invited her to the vowel renewal it was the step-mom that reached out. Weak, weak, weak.
Never apologise, it’s their fault, you’re dad’s fault for believe someone with no evidence
We often forget that humans are part of the animal kingdom. When seeking a mate, most animals don’t want to be bothered with the children of a potential suitor and will bully and even kill them. This applies to humans as well.
No it doesn't. WE don't run on instincts like an animal. We have a higher moral responsibility. Dad made a CHOICE.
More or less. There are cases of stepparents doing everything in their power to get rid of their stepkids for [insert vile reason here]. Stepmother was only after dad's money and saw OP as an obstacle.
Yeah well some of us then don’t engage with people who have kids.
Stepmom has been FA for years. She is now FO.
He threw you out when you were injured for 2 years.
NTA.
The fallout was inevitable and just so happened to go about that way given that, again, STEP MOMSTER wouldn't mind her place and kept poking the hornet's nest.
She didn't have to reach out to OP or tell her anything, if her father was gonna reach out, he would've, instead she had to put herself in the middle and burned more bridges than just that of father and daughter with her lies.
None of what the father does will ever make up for the time lost with OP or his blatant favoritism of his wife over his DAUGHTER.
This video was effin hilarious periiiiiiiiod sisterrrrrr
I doubt the first story's authenticity. Dad throws you out, knowing you're bedridden?
You know, Op says she was rear-ended by a drunk truck driver, so that is not her fault in the eyes of the law. I don't see where all this hate and punishment from the father is coming from, and Op should have gotten a large settlement from the driver's insurance if they had any, or from the company if it was a commercial truck and driver.
Just another fairy tale story from a high school comp class.
H...how do all of these people have other people's emails...? I only have emails for maybe 5 people I know. With social media, it has become somewhat unnecessary to have someone's email.
If the father was genuinely wanting to make things right with Op, the stepmother wouldn't still be in the picture. And it's pathetic that she can't seem to understand that she would be collateral damage in that scenario
uh... they literally are getting divorce in this story
I feel bad for his father tbh
Thats his work 😮nothing to do with me i wont even inherit anything
So its you suffering not me
why would you reach out to your father ? grow a spine
Because going no contact with everyone who ever wronged you, as cool of a Reddit story it makes, simply isn’t healthy.
OP is too forgiving for her own good.
What if : the step mother paid a driver to crash into you to get you into an accident so she will be able to mulnipulate your father more and to ruin your relationship completely but it ended up back fire-ing on her
I read it as stwpmom accuaed me of stealing her car, dd kicked me out and now they want me to be there for their bowel removal
Everyone deserves forgiveness and a second chance
Op gotta do what works for her. But for me, the ONLY possible hope for abandoning NC stance with the father would be a finalized divorce from that harpy! That would be step 1.
Step 2 would've been an unequivocal apology via response to my (never deleted) social media post. He'd have to admit to EVERY element of it, especially that the harpy LIED about my actions.
At the point, my head would allow my heart to be open to POSSIBLE reconciliation, but ZERO guarantees. At that point, trust levels would be less than zero, and he'd have to earn it the hard way. ANY signs of deception whatsoever at any point, *poof*, NC! Don't even try to do a surprise birthday or anything; what I say ZERO TOLERANCE for deception, I mean it.
NTA. Don't feel bad either!! Your "dad" allowed his wife to treat you like crap. Stand up for yourself and how you feel!! Please stay NC with your donor and his wife. OH, he wanted to reach out, BUT HE DIDN'T!! Dude believed his "wife" over his own child!! Dude is 🚮!!!!
If he is you father he would believe you
Dont op
0:14 happend to me too the car got destroyed from the rear
06:42 too bad not my problem bye