Why Narcissists Will Inevitably Push You Away!
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This guy gets it. If you have ever been in a serious relationship with a covert narcissist… you know he gets it.
100% , brother/sister. He described the experience perfectly.
They must smear you
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He gets it to the core, there is a possibility that we can hurt narcissist in their world
They smear so that no one will contact you to find out who that person REALLY is IS!
I’ve been through the “discard” phase. Very dark and purely evil. It guts you like a fish and leaves you dead for the vultures to pick your flesh.
I have not been thru the discard phase. It sounds horrific to the soul. I left BEFORE being discarded by him. So glad I walked away. My gosh....
This is exactly how i feel. Its a wonder im still alive.
@@gandawesley5870 It's a horrible experience, and what's worse is the fact that they know they're hurting you and they thoroughly enjoy it
I turned to Jesus. So happy. He's in a cult...and does not believe it. So sad. Another religion...
It’s so crazy true !! I swear, this is exactly what they do and how you are left feeling . Complete abuse !!
It's a very dangerous relationship and if the narcissist does a good job on you, you'll never be the same again.
Yes if they break your spirit then it's almost impossible to ever be who you once were.
This! I think my spirit is close to broken and I don't think I will ever trust another human again 😔
Or, if you learn and grow from it, you can be better and stronger and wiser than you ever were before.
The process was painful and devastating, but I did come out stronger.
They can push you to suicide
Jeez, I’m toast then. It was only a six month relationship, I just can’t believe how it has changed me wtf
OMG, that sounds like a horror movie.
Oh wait.... I was in it.
So weird. I would watch that on TV and find it ridiculous and slightly unbelievable till it happened to me. I could not believe it. Sending all strength and good wishes to you. So sorry you also had this experience
@@kathleendubois7128 thank you, that is very kind of you. It was a good horror movie though 😅😂 And sorry to hear that you experienced the same torture. Unlike the theatre, this is the real thing. What hurts me most probably is the loss of time. When you grow older you lose possibilities and strength, etc. Okay, let's see if we can turn this scary movie into a more fun one, hihi.
@chocolatecookie8571 absolutely! Time to rewrite the script!
Me TOO!!!
@@janetkendle2073 commiserations to you, hope the days start getting better as you put this behind you
💯 they only frame you as ‘good’ again when they need something from you. Otherwise they paint you as the worst person ever and themselves as an altruistic person who was wronged. Aka professional victims.
You are describing “splitting”
Ah! Professional victim! Couldn't be more appropriate! ❤
I was hoovered for one night
To the point 100%.
They cheer you on when they need your help, when they feel any less than great, you are wortless to them.
It is this extreme imbalance in the personality.
Especially if you CONFRONT THEIR LIES, ABUSE, BULLYING, INVALIDATION, INSULTS, ETC.
🎯🔥
And went and stole what little was left of the Trust that my father left me. She did that because she Coerced me into signing a POA.She will Answer to the Authorities for the lies and deceit.
I'm using my God voice to pathologize his loss of self-control whenever he rages when I have done something good. I'm pointing out his loss of control versus my emotional control by not reacting at all. When I don't react, that means I'm in control.
Oh yeah then they play the ' victim card '. The ' I was vulnerable " card. The " you persued me" card. Manipulative clowns
So true! I took him into my heart, home and life. Helped him to get back on his feet physically, spiritually, emotionally and financially and I am certain he is telling his next victim that I was awful and did horrible things. He is a very sick man and I’m so happy to be away from him finally. I will never allow another man in who needs so much help ever again.
They always have a sad story.
Same...
@@floravalle1625 I didn’t know that. Truly I thought that someone with NPD would be bragging… I learned the hard way. Sounds like you did too
@@Gabby0770 sorry you went through that
Same
I left my ex. Escaped actually. I just let him vilify and degrade me and didn't bother arguing. He can say whatever lies hes wants i just want him to go away. He can have his false narrative i can have my life.
Good thinking, well done getting your life back!
Wise and prudent choice, you know better, God knows and may bless you!!! 🙏🙏🙏
@@user-us3st8qu2h it took 15 years to get there and a lot of trauma. Unfortunately. But I'm grateful I'm out as much as I can be.
'He can have his false narrative and I can have my life '
That right there is a profound statement 👏
Finally, left him too. I have my power back.
They want to make you trash and then they are frustrated you are not allowing yourself to become trash, and by doing that they end up being trash
YEP!!
Wow 🤯
It's beyond repulsive , I'd never believe it if I hadn't experienced it, rejecting my ex narcs hoover was the best revenge lol her outrage was surreal
Can I ask you in what way you rejected it? I guess I will have to face that sooner or later and I want it to be as effective as possible.
Narcissists are demons, only a demon would be that evil.😱
They are demons. The indigenous people call them skinwalkers. Some can become portals for others.
They are what controls this world, or more accurately, matrix. Call in your archangels to surround them with Light. Visualization is very powerful. Jesus said, "Be it according to your belief." It is God's Light that neutralize their evil❤
Narcissism doesn't mean evil, but pop psychology has convinced everyone it is. I just want to point out that this kind of thing is magical thinking and isn't that very narcissistic.
Apage Satanas 😂
It’s a deeply-seated trauma response, done by adult humans. I would advise against vilifying other people, it makes it easier to de-humanize them.
It's Satan
YES, YES, YES! This is the BEST explanation of the relationship and discard that I've heard. He tried SO HARD to make me trash... accusing me of things that he KNEW I'd never done, but it made him feel better, although he KNEW it wasn't true. So, as he was raging about his narcissistic mother, I finally asked, "So, what have I done to you?" And all he could say was, "Nothing... I'm just sick of you!" He just couldn't stand my goodness... and that he couldn't break me. It infuriated him! What a demon!
Why do they hang around then?
It's so true, they have nothing but contempt for our goodness.
@@rubydeep1191because there's something that they need from you.
Because your still a source of 'supply'. They put you on a pedestal for as and when required. Plus they can't be on their own. Its a complete mess.
@@not2longnow why cant they be on their own?
And if you are silly enough to give them complete blind submission, they'll lose respect for you and dump you anyway.
Did to me twice
First my mom, second my ex
Came here to say this. Even when you give them complete blind submission, they start to hate you anyway.
They go into such a rage if they are the ones that get shut down, put in check and pushed out.
I walked away and blocked him when he wasn’t expecting it. I really enjoyed that
I remember when I was being intimate with my ex one night back when we were together. she was leaving love bites on my neck and I didn't think too much of it at the time, "im a vampire" she said with a smile... what followed in those two months after was the most unimaginable emotional/mental anguish of my life. Confusion, desperation for the truth, betrayal and feeling like a dog left on the street. Let us never forget what these people do to us...
Mine used to call herself a vampire too. They ARE vampires... empty and soulless.
She wasnt lying
They always call themselves vampire or werewolf
That is why you have to go complete
NO CONTACT
Definitely, don't give them an inch because they will find a way of hurting you again.
Sometimes it can be essential to them, to maintain their idealized victim status while to pushing you away, they can be experts at contorting reality and making it seem to others as if you had pushed them away. It can get pretty messy, but one has to disregard the opinions of friends and family who can't see through the deception and demonize the rejected "play toy", moving on to new ones. The hardest part for me was fear for whoever would be next. No use agonizing, I decided, my own recovery was paramount. Love your content!
So important to stay high value, hold onto that self worth, run the second you have an opportunity, go no contact. Contact is their oxygen.
Spot on. You leave the relationship questioning why you allowed it and feeling dirty. You go through years of analysing and trying to understand why and punishing yourself for allowing it to happen and either a huge barrier goes up or because you are vulnerable another vampire zones in. Thank you xxx
They make you their receptacle if you let them, empty their garbage into you, then when you're used up, push you away & call you "trash". Thanks Mr. Grannon.
He states truth absolutely. "Unless you are offering complete blind submission" like in the begining, happy, wanting to love and be loved into a train wrecking mess completely defeated. They never wanted to "love and be loved" only someone to "use up" devalue and control, they wanted combat, I was only his opponent. No you cant love them enough, you can never be enough for them at anytime. Run save yourselves! Learn from people like this beautiful soul who already was crucified for us, it doesn't need to be painful but, they'll make it beyond agonizing. I'm spent from it and wouldn't dream of going into another relationship. I may be alone and lonely but, not being abused emotionally, verbally, nor threatened and stabbed yet again in the back. I found I don't hate myself. Tx for these gems, you're a jewel thx for your help.
I remember asking him, "why do you treat me like I'm your enemy?"
Yes. Yes. Yes. Truth, indeed. Unfortunately, as a victim you don't realize that you're the victim until they start the process of evisceration you while leading other to belive that they are the victim.
A user by any other name is still a user.
True. And it is so hard to be involved with such a person. My mother did this to me in many ways. It hurts. It really hurts. Thank you for your videos.
It causes a "mother" wound 😢 but you must be so strong to have made it this far 💪
Did anyone else experience this?
It seems like my covert narc sister sort of absorbed my positive qualities (sense of humour, strength, etc) and instilled her negative qualities into me (extreme anxiety, low self-esteem, co-dependence, lack of common sense). Like, it’s just bizarre to me how we’ve switched places. I’m now weak and she’s strong, but the difference is that when I was strong I supported her but now that I’m weak she’s discarded me.
How do they do it? I can’t be the only one.
Also, she basically copied the way I dress, do my hair, and all my hobbies.
Experienced this. Bizarre and horrible- I was a great wife (ie functional appliance) to him for nearly 3 decades. It would’ve been ok to be treated like trash, but he treated me like a bug to be destroyed. Evil is what they are.
It’s cruel and evil. I’ve been extremely used up and am very trapped in my situation. I have severe chronic illness and a high special needs young son and can’t look after him on my own. its excruciatingly hard and I’m a huge empath loving and caring person. Unimaginable pain 💔😭
wishing you all the best in life ❤
then when you move on to a new life with new hobbies they're in the bushes
they can't trash a good person because the goodness of that person keeps haunting and regretting throughout their life.😳
Now the funny magic trick is that if you dont react as they want you to, if you ghost and ignore... you will watch them grow anxious and come chasing you like crazy, im dead serious and its happening as we speak lool
You are sooooooo correct.. happening right now in my life. I overcame it.
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Mine too, I'm trying.🙏
Do what they say when they say it. No questions asked. If they want to sleep w someone else. Say ok no problem and if they infect you, it's also your fault. Ur just a doormat to them. 🙄🔥
Get some dignity and self worth people geez 😬🔥
I felt this with every fibre of my being. Thank you. It was painful to hear your words, delivered with stark truth telling. That only made the real message completely soak in.
My experience exactly. I was married for 24 years and raised six children in which 3 were from another woman. I also worked a 6 figure job only to come home to serve this man. He had a spending problem and when money got impossibly tight he eventually pushed me away so hard that it turned to physical abuse. I eventually fled with my daughter who is his ex girlfriend’s child who I am currently raising on my own. I later found out he had a whole other family and it all made sense why he didn’t want or need us anymore. It was heart wrenching.
When you see em coming treat em accordingly 😊 run 🏃🏾♂️
He nailed it in one of his videos where he said one of the reasons it is so hard to get over the hurt is called "bewilderment". It's hard to believe that someone you loved (and thought they loved you) could hurt you so much. This was eye opening to me! However, once you see their mask slip, the relationship is over. It will never be the same again. LEAVE!!!
IT HAPPENED TO ME. I worked for a friend for a year and he did exactly that with me.
I think the "matrix simulation space" is a good description for where the narcissistic person agrees to see you.... it also tells that he's detached from whatever can be meaningful for something exterior to his scenario. He wants you to be in demise so that it doesn't fit with his vision, he is also unable to make the detachment in a coherent way so he provoques it in a way that won't disturb his world, he will justify it by making the other unworthy of being around. I'm just trying to complete the idea with my understanding, I'm not the expert. Your explaination helps me to say what I say.
That hurt. That's exactly what my ex husband did. I was nothing but trash in the end, and I took myself out. Ouch ouch ouch.
Thanks, Richard.
I am attempting to detach now, before he knows I have. Took 40 years to start. Prayers up please and ty
Stay strong. You deserve better
My nervous system and body are not the same after only 2 months. Do not underestimate them please. I am grieving my old self heavily
Right there without you. Who I was before this past winter is a completely different person.
@@shr1mppoboi950 how can we heal this?
@vanessak7069 very deep introspection, acceptance for what happened, and self forgiveness for any shame, guilt, or violation you feel about the situation and the repercussions. Understand that abusers like these have many layers of their reality that they must heal before comprehending why they treat others badly. Recognize that they are suffering too but have the compassion to walk away so you can live a better life without their unhealed negative energy.
@@shr1mppoboi950 um revenge feels a lot better tbh
@@vanessak7069 go off I guess
Hearing that phrase...."to absorb you".... I felt a cold shiver. Like a parasite just eating my soul. 😮
If I haven't experienced it myself, steo after step, I would not think situations like that happen between people.
Same
When we were still dating he looked deep into my eyes one day and said something that at the time i took to be a sort of nerdy Star Trek but even kinda sexy thing.. he told me “You Will be assimilated” Smh It makes my blood run cold to think about it now He discarded me just after our 24th anniversary
Hugs ❤
Something similar happened to me. My Nex of 23 years told me once he felt like I was inside of him. What? I asked him to explain and he wouldn't. I think he saw the shock on my face.
Wow ! I barely survived 3 years. He discarded me when I started resisting. He literally said to me, "you won't let me tame you!" Wtf
Its been nine years in May since I cut them all off - and I am just now feeling genuinely free - really free - I allowed myself to feel the lose, the disappointment, the reality that they are sick and were never there for me ever. It's true they needed for me to be trash and when that hit me - I cut it off for good and I cannot say it was ot very difficilt but nine years later I am free - I can now enjoy my life fully. Amen.
It's exactly what happens. It's shocking how they switch into a new person and have no guilt. Heartbreaking!
My ex started saying things like "you hate old people" "i need someone who earns more" "you are arrogant and think you know everything" "i know smart people you are not one of them"... came after her last narcissistic rage. Still not sure how i triggered it but it lasted two weeks where she left this reality and built a new one.
They are lunatics. Period.
similar n now i question my every thought n if im really cruel n arrogant.
They said these things to me too! When I got a higher paying job, they were furious, and said " I had changed!"
@@hashh2019 i thought long about it and then i understood. At first she said all the opposite things "you are so smart" "i can learn so much from you" she also knew i cared for my old neighbour. Later she said things like "i feel dumb when you talk haha". So she felt inferior. And that is the underlying oroblem with their narcissistic rage right ? They twist everything in such a way their fake persona is kept alive. I also asked friends about it and family members. How they think about me. But yeah in my heart i knew none of it was true and she just devalued me so she felt better. Will be the same for you. Self awareness is good tho. But I think you also know.
@@user-wp8rh6lx5h yeah because they felt inferior and had to keep their grandiose fale self intact. In reality they change not their partners. They are being eaten up by their insecurities and then the fake self kicks in.
This is such a relief because it dead on answers all the questions I never go to ask the narcissist.
Hold on to yourself, the knowledge of who you are - and what they are - and go no contact as much as possible. That’s the only way! No matter what they do, you know who you are and you’re just not engaging with them anymore bc you deserve better:)
That is so true! First you must need them because of how amazing they are, then they spit you out.
This has recently happened to me. The need for revenge is so strong it’s hard to deal with. I was completely and utterly betrayed.Dont know how to deal with it.
Same I feel you... I am not the same
Turn to God completely, pray every day for him to help you, he will answer
Same here. You have to educate yourself and not waste your energy. You now need to self love, self care and self healing. They will forever be miserable. You need to get on with your own path and be happy, as hard as it might be.
Revenge won't help you. It will also continue to feed him, as he can see that he still has power over you and how you feel.
The very best way to handle it is to rise above it, let him see that you are NOT bothered. Repair yourself and give thanks that you survived and it is over.
Now that will REALLY annoy him x.
@@magpie1492 so they say, but after the betrayal I have nothing to loose. Once it was done THEN I could move on. Believe me, he deserves it.
So crazy, wow! I had no idea prior to this past relationship. I’ve been doing OK the past few weeks because it’s only been about five weeks, but today is my day off from work and for whatever reason I am really going through it, this rumination, and feeling sorry for myself nonsense has to stop immediately. I have not contacted her other than the first 24 hours post discard, as I was completely confused. The past five weeks I haven’t contacted her. That’s my pride saying no matter how bad I want to, “I can’t do it” I thought I was getting over it and today’s just a bad day. Thanks for listening
Takes about 3-4 months to start feeling better.
You can do it, keep it up and you will begin to feel lovely, resilient, vibrant, peaceful and happy again. 🌿🌷💚
@@sweetdreamstime2266 Thank you very much for the kind words. 🙏
@@floravalle1625 Thank you! 🙏
Yep. All to true and chaos and mayhem if one tries to prove it.
Spent 30 years with a narcissist. It’s been five years since I left and I can finally see the truth. Thank you for explaining all this. You totally get it.
Going through this now. Im grateful they push me away. Praise the Lord. Now i can move. ❤
That's why they really love having masses of people paying attention to them, telling them how fantastic and great they are. They love being the center of attention, and playing the hero. Praise and adulation. And they are really good at playing roles. as long as you put them on a pedestal and give them praise, you are okay. But as soon as you unmask them, watch them start to seethe and examine you, looking to fidn a crack, and weakness they can find to devalue you and get you to respond. If others are watching they will condescendingly and gently scold you, to appear as though they are oh so compassionate, but when no one is looking they will let you know that you are now on thier radar for a smear campaign.
I left HIM, that shattered this bastard.
Congrats! I did too. The optimal narc injury! 😂 He asked me if I was lesbian, as if THAT was the only explanation why I would leave him. Pitiful sod!
@@resolutebelle8761 Well done! Mine went to a psychiatric hospital, narcissist breakdown. Well, the devil always burns himself on Gods light!
@@utebretthauer4264 🙌🏻 Shine sweet freedom!
@@resolutebelle8761 Sweet as honey, thank you, you too! All the best to you!
Hateful people. You let them win.
Have experienced this with family and a toxic boss. When I reached the pinnacle of indifference, I pulled reverse discard and completely cut them off as I knew I had outlived my usefulness with them. I refuse to set myself on fire to keep them warm. Thanks for this valuable insight
Yes. Devalue phase. The longer it lasts, the more prideful they get. But, at some time (maybe when youre needed again became they are at odds with everyone else) they come back. This cycle is nonstop- they never take accountability. You have to be totally on their side.
Wow wow wow did you hit it exactly today again! This is just now happening to me. Its a good thing for him to go away and finally be gone... didnt understand how that was actually happening until now. And I will onky be trash in his eyes.... I know I am the put together sane one and appreciate you here daily! ☕
I was able to catch a covert off guard after being reduced to a situationship several times, and my feelings disregarded after the discards. I finally said "thank you for letting me know where you stand, hope you find what you're looking for." Haven't heard from him in 10 months. When I saw him at an event he regarded me with ice coldness. You have to walk away first. Give them back their own trash.
OMG. That’s what happened to me!! I thought I was crazy. Everyone thought he was the nicest, funniest guy
Currently healing after another round of narcissistic abuse. I’m so tired and exhausted, I lost my job because of it. I don’t know who I am anymore. Thankfully from the last time I know I will get better in time, and I know what tools to use to help myself and I know to just be patient with myself. I know I can use it as an opportunity to reinvent myself and take advantage of being a blank canvas again. I’m using it to help me purge old wounds and do more shadow work. But damn, I’m just so exhausted.
Wow, that’s exactly what I have experienced from several people like this. It’s horrendous. Pure evil. I heard once long ago that evil pursues goodness so that it can destroy it. That’s it in a nutshell.
This is happening now ...big time !! He needs to destroy my character and any memory of me needs to be twisted into a bad representation of the truth .... it's despicable
Whatever you do, don't waste your energy in trying to defend yourself. Let those who choose to side with him do just that. Continue being you and move on. It's not easy, but it can be done. I've been divorced from mine for almost 4 years. He's still running a smear campaign. I'm finally at the point in my healing where I laugh at it and keep moving forward.
I had a manager who was sabotaging my work projects. At first I overlooked the first time, the second time I confronted them. They were flustered. They seemed to savor any problem I had in my life. Later, they nastily asked if I wanted a retirement party. Ouch. 20 years. No party.
I wentto the psych ward for 3 weeks cause of my ex. I was convinced i was the mentally abusive one and the one hurting everyone around me. He convinced me that i was these horrible things hed accuse me of. I got out and he said now youre fixed but i understood myself more being in there. I didnt know i was pregnant until i got out and he was so happy to build a life with me
All of these were just lies he told me. He realized that he couldn't control me like he used to. This baby inside gave me the power to walk away. I saw what a potential life with him would be. The last straw was his making an argument out of nothing and saying i was the one starting the fight.
I got very tired of this stress so i said to leave me alone and i need peace during my pregnancy. He spouted all these ugly things towards me accusing me of cheating and him not being the father. Him telling me to get rid of this baby for him so we can start over with our relationship. And him telling me i cannot do this alone and he will come back for his baby and take it from me. I said stay away and do not come back. Filed a r.o against me for harassment but is upset i finally stood my ground.
The ultimate victim is my baby and his other 2 kids he has no custody of. He posted our texts publicly and told everyone im the toxic ex gf thats taking his baby away. I dont care what he thinks or his friends. The truth always comes out and i dont need to prove myself to these people.
This is so true my ex husband removed hisself from the marriage emotionally mentally and physically as if he never liked or even loved me…. He disregarded me and my pleas to fix what was wrong with a cold silence and when he did speak it was enough to just to shame and belittle me
Exactly right, this is disastrous if children involved, they will stop you seeing them and do all they can to drag you through the courts. If female, you are likely to be told you are mad and may lose custody of the kids. No one will believe you.
It's the same thing over and over again, I always felt it's me just being hard to love and I should have tried being a much better friend,, not anymore so thank you very much ❤️
I’ve detached from these narcissistic people and I’m in a very good mood good place and I’m very grateful for everything GOD does for me. Change your life around and you could be happy and blessed just like me ✨✨✨🙏🏼💜✝️✨✨✨🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙋🏻♀️👑💫 Thank You Lord For your Protection and Your Unconditional Love and Your Strength Lord Amen ✨🙏🏼✝️💜✨🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙋🏻♀️👑💫
Fortunately, I saw that coming and left him . . . He didn't see that coming . . . Strangely enough , my blessings started flowing when I left him . Got a better job , am in better health , looking good too . . . I really don't give 2 farts what he does . . . And he knows that very well . . . He is in isolation of shame and embarrassment . He cannot explain to people why a lady like myself left him . . . What we do to others , we are doing to ourselves. Life is a game of boomerangs. . .
Ur the best Richard! Sad bcoz the light inside us irritates their demons.
You can get along fine with a narcissist - all you have to do, is agree with their lies.
Place strong boundaries and find the freedom of autonomy. 🥰
How can these people be so evil?
100% true.. Divorcing one and he is holding it up by extremely low balling me. Like he wants the rest of my life to be in poverty after I gave up everything to have a family
I had to watch this video a few times to let it sink in that, "They want to make [me] trash."
oh my god... I'm 16 and my mom is doing it to me now.. Every single day, when we'll eat at the table, when she doesn't like someone i did,,, She'll always mention that she doesn't want me to live in her house and live with my dad and somewhere else but not with her.
Brilliantly defined!! 👍
Story of my life women using till a better option comes along then they jump ship.. It's sad. Because they end up contacting me like a year later like I'll just be like oh hey thanks for coming back
It is very sad when you are put through this by your ex-partner, but your son is doing exactly the same, i. e. 'like father like son'... and I thought, this was all just theoretical stuff within human psychology. I was proven wrong big time, but I hope that my children and I will be able to heal slowly, but surely due to living in the real World and not in the other person's world, build on their fakeness and lies. Health, peacefulness, positivity and strength to all the healing 'Warriors' out there 🙏😇🥰!!!!
Amen and amen
Finally a 100% description of my very experience with the Narcissist I wasted 12 years with.
You are correct. Thank you for printing the words so that i can read the words. .. hearing the audio would get me traumatized some more.
Thank you Richard. I am involved with a covert narcissist. Now I understand why my FB pics are no longer liked, and why I am always given an excuse from them not to attend activities that are important to me. My conclusion was that I'm being groomed to leave and move on. Now I understand. I am in the process of being discarded of. Eye-opening!
Yes, please do. This happened to me as well. No more Fb messages. Cancelling on me the day of going to an event because they ate too much popcorn (which they knew caused them an upset stomach) & not bothering to tell me until I was dressed and ready for him to pick me up. I called, "hey are you almost here"? I'm in a loving relationship now and can't really think back on this one too much or I'll spiral.
@@user-wp8rh6lx5h A big hug from me!
Spot on .... i was there... many years of suffering afterwards, never really came back to selfworth anymore.. 😢
Don't give up. You can get there. You are worthy and of value. They know it too, that's why they tried to break you, but you're still standing. Keep fighting for you! Peace & Blessings to you.
This is so true when my sons father left me he had been cheating for a couple of months and left me for another woman and he still blamed me for stuff so not even to this day have I gotten a sorry or he letting me be sad or angry at him- so instead I pushed all that aside and became a problem solver for my son and stuff… I continued for a decade to let that man control me due to me being the mother of our son. But he always made sure I knew I was a bad mother and a faulikure no matter what I did
I have been married to a narcissist for 20 years and trying to extract myself. He is doing everything he can to make me look and feel like I am helpless, stupid, and useless the money I have so I don’t leave. I’m terrified of what will happen when I finally file for divorce!
Oof. Spot on.
I can finally breath when I don’t have to deal with these types of people 😇🙏❤️
Everything is a competition with the Narcissist.She had to win everything.They almost want you to worship them and control everything and you.
Its horrible. I'm dealing with this exact thing.
it's so incredibly damaging when the disattacment happens
brutal
"Complete Blind Submission " that HITS you in the CHEST !
Their pathology is so exhausting.
Yes it is. Everything about them is intense.
I promise you this is the truth. They will work behind the scenes and lie to their family, your family, friends, and coworkers to defame your character. Their entire mental disorder is so unbelievable and so difficult to fathom that it is the exact reason it makes it one of the most sinister mental disorder. It will make you stay longer and ALWAYS question yourself, not them.
this is good to hear.. I’m almost through the divorce process and she’s switched up tactics knowing that she can’t seduce me. I was beginning to believe that I am trash but that’s totally her projections. She’s manipulating my little daughter against me for the first time so she’s got me off stable ground mentally
Richard, you're so exactly correct. But there are always exceptions. Whatever can't kill a person, it will make them stronger! ❤🎉
My husband asked for a divorce and couldn't tell me why he wanted one. I had planned on leaving as soon as we were moved back into the country because of the terrible things he had said and done to me and because of the number of people who pointed out his awful actions. He said he had been miserable since we moved in late 2023. I told him I was done in late 2022 and he changed his date to mine. He finally said he was tired of me always having to be right and using google (I like doing research on topics, even alone) in every conversation. The reality is: he's tired of being called out on his bs
This makes so much sense 😢....