Richard, you have singularly helped many people including myself. Do not blame yourself for contributing to the psychological hysteria of the masses. Anyone who took your information and used it to their own dysfunctional psychological advantage that is on them.
I remember in high school when it was cool to have a personality disorder or a mental health issue. It feels like the entire world is still just like Middle School and High School.
Compulsory schools are consumer/worker behavioral conditioning factories where mental illnesses and social hysteria is manufactured. Big shots get rich when people are slowly driven mad, made perfectly obedient and made dependent in passive chairs for twelve years. Schools are psychopathic and narcissistic institutions just like our corporate society is. They prep the next generation of back stabber$ and grown infants fighting each other like monkeys for status and cheap attention. None of us are prepared to add value to society, modern schools create parasites, not geniuses or entrepreneurs. The OP is very keen for noticing this fact. Very intelligent remark.
I've been in a grief group for two years and I've noticed that many people grow resentful towards those members who show signs of improvement and who attempt to encourage others to heal.
I've joined a few Facebook groups. People who give advice more than sympathy are scolded for "lacking empathy". As though everyone in the groups are children who need to be coddled. I assumed adults could simply choose which comments they found helpful and just ignore the rest. Guess not.
I quit a few support groups for the survivours of narcissistc abuse when I realized same thing what you and Joe Doe. I really needed help, not merely comforting. At some point I realised that those groups are not really about healing, but about celebrating victimhood. They spread absolutely ridiculous beliefs, which do more harm than good, starting from old good "You are a victim, you did nothing wrong!", or a belief, that if you were hurt by someone it means you're a good person. Or that you got victimized, because you're a special empath.They encourage each other to hate and resentment. Rubbish like that. After some time, top admins of those groups started to censor or get rid of all the people who used to question their "authority", so those groups became "cultish" in a way. The admins of those groups are usually - indeed- victims of Cluster B personalities, which unfortunate already have Cluster B personalities themselves or at least one specific feature - a need of control. Those people will never want others to heal. Once people get healed, they don't need the group anymore. They're free. And it's a bad news for the admins / self-proclaimed experts. Actually such groups are usually harmful, because they have no "core" of progress, like 12 steps in AA. There's no plan, no steps to move forward. I remember I had an idea to start a group to motivate each other, share good ideas for life, things like that. Guess how many people were interested in? Yeah, you 're right. None. So I left them. No regrets.
@@JohnDoe-gq3tm it depends on how the advice is being delivered and what the advice is. Advice can definitely come from a genuine place. It can also come from a patronizing dismissive place.
That’s such a good point. I think that’s why there are scapegoats in families because toxics don’t want to heal and it’s easier to blame the scapegoat so when the scapegoat separates and realizes it isn’t them but instead their toxic family maybe that’s why they get shunned. Toxic people don’t really want to heal they just want to wallow in many cases.
Richie, Had people not been wrongly diagnosed all the time for the last 2 decades, both for normal and mental illnesses, they wouldn t have the need to self diagnose. The system is failing people. I've noticed you re not critical enough of the failings of modern medicine, despite all the data from studies being dependant on pharmaceutical companies, which is a huge problem of objectivity.
So True. I think the article was written to help the medical guys not lose clients. We know ourselves best. I was wrongly diagnosed as Bi-polar. Most dealers/practitioners in mental health in our medical system r idiots.
Ok I'm going to be that contrarian bastard and say that I hear everything you are saying AND yet, labels do help us. To solve a problem we must first know what the problem is. I have learned from so much from you and Sam and am forever grateful that you still address these topics because actually so few do, leaving people with serious trauma to flounder in CBT hell without ever understanding themselves. I was very late to the party and, at your age, am finally healing and rebuilding. Thank you for the nuanced insight always ❤🇨🇦🙏
from my understanding, his standpoint was; not to wholly abandon mental health labels & the professional study\diagnosis of, rather, the popularizing & familiarizing of these labels has profound negative effects (to which we are only beginning to see) when used freely among the public--whose understanding of these disorders comes from a stew of opinion web-articles & their favorite celebrity’s Twitter posts. Modern society and health care in general has a severe problem with ‘complicating just to compensate’
I agree, though with all things that are “belief systems” it may be best to internalize the good (to the point that it’s a habit and requires no conscious thought) - *but* recognize when that belief system is no longer helping you grow, and let it go. I think that’s an important step in so many facets of life. For me this has been true with religion, therapy, and virtually every man-made belief structure.
while I agree a little bit of knowledge and self diagnosis is dangerous and is an easy crutch to hide behind especially with a lack of meaning in life there can be exceptions. I was continually told I was depressed by doctors and took the antidepressants as prescribed but it made things worse, after a long journey of self diagnosis elimination I realised I was autistic and sought help from professionals without disclosing the suspected self diagnoses. they had suspected bpd or bipolar disorder, which I had already eliminated. I asked for am autism spectrum assessment and found some resistance but eventually received, the attitude of the psychologist changed when the results came back, with 65 being a threshold score and my results being 171. if I had not put in the work hate to think what i would be labeled with and treated for with detrimental results.
The scene in Miyazaki's "Spirited Away" where Chihiro helps a soot sprite who falls down with its load of coal and all the other soot sprites see she helped so they all fall down with their coal they were carrying in hopes she will do work for them as well is a perfect illustration of what you were saying earlier.
Good stuff Richard, I never wanted a diagnosis, I wanted an action plan to feel better and never wanted to use the words 'disorder' or 'syndrome' which always meant a life-long incurable thing to me. Like when you started using the term 'PTS-R' I liked that!!
The 'looping' stuff is interesting indeed! I was making my way out of hospital after my cast had been set on my broken wrist, and I was saying to one of the nurses "How am I going to get my 3 kids from A to B and back again with one hand?" and she responded with "You are a strong, resourceful mother - you've got this. Easy." That was honestly all I needed to hear.
That's good, sometimes it is all you need to hear. My example is far more trite. I was dithering getting into a marine lake for a bit of outside swimming. Wanted to do it for ages but never taken the plunge so to speak. The water was freezing, not really freezing, prob about 18 degrees, however I was internally going through this mad dialogue that my heart might stop if I let the water go above my chest. I probably looked pathetic, dipping a foot in here, then a shin, nearly a thigh. Anyway there was this man watching me, he'd just been in and was towelling himself dry. By the way, this was in the UK, not on the continent so we're not talking balmy waters here. I'm not that much of a woos! But to be fair if I had been on the continent I'd probably be panicking about jelly fish so same difference. He was smiling at me, probably perving at my body in a bikini but I didn't care and I reached out to him in dialogue and said, "I'm shitting myself, it's fcking freezing!" He just smiled and said, "Just do it. You'll be ok." And that was all I needed to hear. I took his words, internalised them and got in and enjoyed a fantastic wild water swim which left me feeling accomplished, brave, invigorated, close to nature and totally alive. It took a stranger to give me the courage to face my challenge. And I like to think that was a good example of looping. Either that or I have a very poor internal locus of control and need a big external shove! Lol! But I did it!!! The looping served a purpose and was totally functional for me to achieve my goal.
I’m obsessed with researching Covid19 & the vaccine - with no critical journalism in mainstream we are left to do it ourselves - I lost my job recently because I said no to the vaccine - apart from my own genuine interest as to want to know what the bloody hell is going on, I want to be ready before I’m questioned by others for my stance.
There is good peer reviewed data that made me very confident in getting vaccinated. The issue is that most people outside of the scientific community have no access to it and it can be difficult to read. Science communication is a field that should be taken over by independent scientists not by biased journalists.
Executive function problems have been ( on their own) one of the only things that could have made me end my life many time . They are so very hard to prove , and they can be brutal . Straight up brutal. You know you are smart , can present as normal, but there's places where the brain just won't switch that gear . Like the grey cells just stone wall ya.
I think a great deal of this has to do with the cult of victim hood and doesn’t help with often complex issues, better formulated as adapting to reality and breaking a persons problems / issues down by introducing spiritual, psychological and philosophical awareness ..
A great redirect when people start using their labels as excuses is, instead of asking them what’s keeping them back, ask them what their strengths are and then use their own words to (possibly) help redirect them.
I keep searching for the one " real " mental problem so I can fix it and get better 😐 And when I'm think I have it I see a clip on yt that says it's something else or flashbacks don't exist or half way it makes me the narcissist and/or also a bit borderliner. At the end it's somehow still the same; emotional literacy, boundaries and yourself instead of the endless fawning and thinking and on and on 😔
@ My_house We posted at about the same time -- have a look at my comment where I gave some of the information that has helped me (including Richard's free UA-cam videos) and maybe if I was starting now I'd go straight to Jill Bolte Taylor's TED talk & her just published book, & UA-cam video, Whole Brain Living. Good luck .
I see this in my own family and it's basically 'spoilt child' we should bring back parenting and how to be an adult lessons into schools and stop pandering to childish tantrums in adults. I think we should all watch Steve Hughes' comedic opinion on being offended! Thank you for continuing to grow your courses and content Richard 💜🙏
Self-diagnosis is not the problem, the problem is when one uses it as an excuse for his/her dysfunctional life and continues being dysfunctional. We all have problems, yet we strive to live normal life. It's the same with damaged mental health, you know you have it yet you try to live fully functional life.
One of the possible reasons people self diagnose is that they can't find competent professional help. I have been diagnosed at least four times over 18 years by professionals. The diagnoses are very different and the advice that I have been given is often naïve and contradictory. My own loose diagnosis has done me no good in terms of finding solutions to my problems. It's merely for explaining my behaviour to others. Behaviour that could otherwise upset them.
Your points of competitive victimhood made me think of an article I read somewhere that said we find sadness and feelings of depression attractive because depressed people historically were less likely to take risks so they survived longer, kind of like hibernating through a crisis or something. Loosely related
This is so true I have to say I went through that behaviour its not helpful and its not a good way to live, lose the label get a life ,live a good structured daily life and do wrk on why I was like that and bam !started getting on in healthy way .grt post .
There is also danger of Dr actually wrongfully diagnosing..I was diagnosed with bpd and I think the mental health services need to rethink this particular diagnosis. It's never helped explain or contain my pain. All it's done is make me feel wrong. I think we need to say this person is traumatized and treat them as such with compassion
I wonder if the reason we feel unwell is that many of us are simply not getting our animal needs met. Community, love, nature.. our neurosis are in part because we lack the conditions in which to thrive.
Do you also frown upon laymen‘s diagnosis of narcissistic personality disorder of a former partner? I have a three year history of reading this up in scientific articles. And one of the things specific to NPD is that the behaviour is only visible in a relationship (not so much in a psych. office - at least with >40yo patients that are very acustomed to lying beliveably)
Frown upon? No that’s not my position. I’d say Im concerned for the partners of NPD that they are buying into a narrative that gives more power away. I’ll do a video on this next in 2 weeks time.
The victim dominance hierarchy reminds me of how people respond to an "I love you" with an "I love you more" where I live. I have no idea if people do this outside of my little neck of the Pacific but have always found it to be off-putting, like a little "I love you" war.
I've begun looking into Nootropics for help with the neurological issues resulting from years of nearly continuous doodoo storms, and the mega doodoo storm we're in right now. But, I am certain that a course would help, too.
God thanks for saying this. On point and keepin it real. I’ve gotten into arguments with friends in a similar vein who can’t believe I’m a psychology student and would say such things
Im one of those who love diagnosing people because it makes me know how to handle them. If I know whats wrong I know better what they need and how to respond and can understad them better. Im of christian belief who started with psychology after dating narcissists.
Those with low self-esteem often are concerned with what others think about them, because they lack enough confidence in themselves. So if they read or hear about mental illness, most likely they will internalize it like a small child.
Oh bloody hell.. glad at least someone is talking about this! I don't know that I have much faith in professional diagnoses either as it's questions you just know how to answer if you intend to, perhaps if diagnosis isn't so freely given it's a good thing to have it somewhat regulated. The mennal health and idennady issues as I call them (in croaky American accent) are all about dramatization and self pity. I joined an OCD group (just for the crack, not really sure why) and someone posted a pic of a coffee shop with Obsessive Coffee Disorder on a sign asking "thoughts?" ... There were about 300 angry and sad reactions on it! 😆 imagine being allowed to be that offended without the label....
So, would it be correct to say that it is Projective Identification that you are talking about saying of our inclination to behave according to a judgement/label that we are given? Like fitting into a mould of sorts, offered from outside? Thank you for your videos, Richard.
I wish you didn't feel at all responsible for this, Richard. I don't think you realize how many people you've helped to heal. I didn't even realize I *could* heal until I found you. I thought for sure my problems were so far gone (ie: I had medicalized my issue) that I would be inevitably broken. You assured me I wasn't. I proved, through using your methods (and others that I've found along the way), that I was able to be whole again; to reintegrate. I know there are many like me. I see them all the time in your comments. :) As for this video: your analysis is true on many different levels (not just mental health), but I'm sure you realize this. While I worry, I also have a lot of hope. We will get through this. Thanks, as always, for your work. Blessings!
Absolutely stupendous, Thank you Richard for sharing your views, You're absolutely beautiful, Peace, love to you and everyone, Thank you universe 👽😁🧝♀️🌌🛸♾️💞🧿🐉🦄🥰👁✨️😃
Great discussion Richard! Thank you! I have ADHD and struggle to retain information. I listen alot to your videos and dont read much anymore because of my attention span. I truly hope I am learning enough to heal. I appreciate your work very much. I realize you dont possibly see our comments but thank you so much for your work.
I dont know why youre so angry. I have two daughters with autism, thank god for their label and diagnosis. embrace the knowledge and new understanding. I'd like to see anyone here deal with what I've had to. Utopia my arse. Call me Fckin pitiful. I think youre wrong here on SO MANY LEVELS. I really have to block.
The individual is a beautiful thing, but individuality is a DISEASE, that has grown in the world. People are promoting exclusiveness everywhere. Then they wonder why there is conflict. There can only be conflict.
My generation didnt want labels for people, we just wanted to be free & judged on how we treated others. We wanted to let our daughters play sports if she wanted to, as well as letting our sons play with barbies if they wanted to... nowadays it has turned on its head, everyone wants to label in order to explain themselves & at times avoid responsibility for their own actions as well as get special treatment. And now if a child wants to play with dolls they MUST BE a girl and any child who plays sports MUST BE a boy. We've gone thru the looking glass into topsyTurvy world. Such a shame bc now we've locked people into toxic identities.
Now and then After getting the issues discussed I find myself Wishing That Richard C. Would Sit back and watch Would I lie to you? Fawlty towers Or ……… Just to have a laugh
So I go through periods where I am super strong, motivated, in the flow (regulated). I don’t relate to my CPTSD, it does not even cross my mind. And then something stressful occurs, and I get triggered and then stuck in trauma responses for days, weeks, even months until I spend days, weeks, months getting myself strong, motivated, in the flow again. Cycle repeats. I get very confused with the type of understanding of CPTSD as is explained in this video. In my eyes it is a disability and no matter how much I try to pretend it does not exist, it rears its ugly head again. Yes, I think people with CPTSD should be offered much more help than society is offering them. It would save more government money in the long run to actually heal people (help them learn how to cope and set up their life, career, home around managing their disability when inevitable flashbacks and cycling occurs ) than people getting put on disability and benefits for life. And the loss of human potential is devastating in my opinion. Everyone cares so much about traumatized children, and then they grow up to be adults and suddenly they are expected to function as normal and are shamed if they do not. I saw a huge societal emphasis being put on identity politics which I don’t agree with, however, I would like to see more emphasis on CPTSD, not as an identity but as a legit problem that some humans face which makes life especially difficult. You can’t even get trauma therapy with Medicaid in the States. There is very little awareness and help for CPTSD. This is why Grannon’s perspective confused me somewhat. I get that we need a balanced outlook here, and I am for moderation, feminine and masculine and all that polarity stuff, but I just don’t see the excessive helping and catering to people with CPTSD from where I am standing… or more so curled up in a fetal position trying to get my son and I’s basic needs met… Are people now labeling them self as having CPTSD without actually having it? Is it cool now, really? Am I cool now LOL? I am definitely not paying attention to dominant culture these days so this may be why I don’t get it. I do get his point on being strong and brave, on facing life head on no matter what, and not making excuses and so forth. I do think it is okay to make excuses when one is hyper aroused or dissociated as you really can’t participate in life when you are stuck like that, in fact, it can be dangerous to yourself and others. It is okay to simplify your life and make excuses when stuck in my book. And I also over share when stuck as is occurring right now.
Are you talking about people who dont have an actual diagnosis? I have found that denying my illness has made things worse. I went on with my life feeling guilty and believing "should" be able to do XYZ. Falling short over and over has not been good for my mental health. I've had to accept my illness and label in order to give myself grace and work on improving my health. But yes, self diagnosis can be like a wish for a good excuse to not take responsibility for our life. This is an important discussion. Our health system, especially for mental health, needs revamping. People wander around looking for help and hoping to find the right expert/Dr. I've seen alot of "take this pill" and be well! Thank you for this discussion.
Am I crazy? It seems the world is filled with people who want to put others into simple categories that have labels. Most people want to simplify their world by classifying others and themselves. Those people seem to be determined to put others into categories and insist that those others act as if they are members of those categories. Somehow, growing up in an abusive, alcoholic household seems to have made me aware of this dynamic. I try to avoid most labels but most people seem to insist that I label myself as this or that or the other. I must be gay or straight. I must be black or white. I must be Christian, Jewish, Muslim, or atheist. And they seem to get quite upset with me when I try to not to accept any of their labels. And I try not to put labels on others, either living or dead. Why? Because I am not qualified and labels are necessarily limiting. No label can convey the totality of another being, especially a higher order one. And beings grow and change. So any label, even if accurate, becomes inaccurate over time. So back to my original question: Am I crazy? Oh, wait, that's a label. I like my doctor's answer: "You're only a little bit crazy." Crazy is not a good label. But I do think I'm out on the end of the bell curve somewhere. And it's lonely out here. Can you relate to this question and if so, how?
Kids are susceptible to it because it's all their hearing from "qualified" adults. They're using what's forced on them just like their told. Something's wrong > everyone's in denial > get a "something wrong with *you* " diagnosis > grip for dear life for the sake of dissociating from gaslighting
Not only our religious practice, but our role in the family gave us belonging, value, and meaning that btw, I still enjoy. But of course Westerners are too smart for that now. And poor Gen Z doesn’t even know how…
Not trying to bust your balls or anything but when you talk about executive function being too low to do things like become a content creator you're referring to the ability to stick to a schedule and finish what you set out for right? Are you sure EVERYONE can't do that? because from my understanding people from prison call getting a routine and sticking to it "the program" and often talk about how their lives improved from it. If someone's executive functioning is that screwed up then couldn't the case be made that they might need medicine?
around the 22:00 mark ngl you committed slippery slope fallacy. concerning racial abuse and perception and using perspective to validate experience "if we open the door to this behavior then we don't know" except those of us who hang out in mixed company DO. Those who over exaggerate tend to get called out by their own ethnic groups due to differing beliefs within that ethnic group.out You think I'm not out there calling out other Black people who call anti theft procedures racist for being silly?
Wow, I was really sick, for 5 years, and I was treated like shit and lost all faith in humanity. In my world nobody cares about sick people. Really could have used some compassion from my boss at work.
In a way labeling ourselves mentally sick is the same as being religious because they would be identifying with being spiritually sick. Maybe there’s something adaptive about identifying with your issues. Same as having original sin and being in maya.
Okay so I'm on meds but this got me questioning how depressed I actually am. I've been gaslit and neglected as a kid, also been in a narcissistic relationship. I don't want to grow up it seems at time, at the same time I do want to be self sufficient. Am I more lazy than depressed?
The health care professionals out there are not educated about cluster B personality disorders and are not willing to stand up for you when they clearly identify you are dealing with someone with these mental health issues. They will not stand behind a diagnosis and less likely to diagnose you or others with issues. they just want to keep themselves in business so won’t diagnose anything so they never have to be responsible for diagnosing anything. I’ve gone thru 3 counsellors and while they describe all aspect of the cluster b PD are there and do exist they won’t put that in writing when I want to prove it in court. Are they lying or just humouring me during a session and explaining what is happening related to MHIssues but won’t put it in writing and stand behind their words.
Whenever one might say ‘I don’t feel to good today’ or something, there always have to be a ‘why’ in the response when compared to if ‘I’m good’ then there doesn’t have to be a reason. Just saying this in response to life just is crap sometimes there doesn’t have to be a reason. It always seems to be the narrative if things are not so good, it is seen as being *wrong* and you have to name it which then translates to diagnosis etc such as depression, anxiety. Cannot people just say they are unhappy ? No because It seems that unhappy is unacceptable in this world today.
I struggled for years not understanding myself and my needs until I started to search for and find labels that fit what I was experiencing. Now that I have reached a point where I actually know and understand myself better, I am reaching the point where I feel like I can stop and can happily just be myself. I do find it helps though if I use labels to people since this is context they understand. I would rather people go out and try and find help for whatever they are experiencing then stay silent, aviod treatment or deny their needs. That is a one way street toward some sort of life crisis.
I’d be interested in more about competition. I teach collaboration and competition with self. I’d like more education on this do I can improve my outlook. Any recommendations?
The collective seems to be re-living the Victorian era when being mentally ill was fashionable. That era, and this one today seem to be moments in time in which people were repressed into shells of themselves, instead of being allowed to live as our genuine, authentic selves, lest we be called out, canceled, judged, threatened, assaulted, etc...
Can't help but feel it all makes much more sense if you open your mind to the idea that our government and rulers are causing us harm by cost of living and division and conquer tactics.
wait, does this mean that if we have a bunch of folks competing with victim status.. and then posting it on social media to increase status in our dominance hierarchy.. is this a new face of narcissism?
In my experience, it is so important to find the right therapist. I saw 2 for approx 10 sessions each and got nowhere. I did some deeper research into my 3 therapist and only needed to see her for 4 sessions. Not long after that Richard's 30 day challenge came out and then the summoning the self. I put myself through a lot over 2 years but it has been so worth it. I've never been in the world like I am now! at 50. I have also had 4 sessions with Steve Heneghan from Spartan Life Coach, I have 2 left that I don't feel I need, but Steve is good to chat to so I'll use them soon lol. Gracias Richard 🌞
A side note to my comment. Richard's courses worked for me because I was super nice and kind, forgiving and caring of myself, most of the time. And gently correcting myself when I found I was being harsh, critical or berating of myself. It took practice because it was new to me. But that, doing the courses at my own pace and putting in the reps, is what has gotten me to the happier place I am in now. I handle problems and situation like a growed up now 😉 my journey is ongoing.
Ok ...that's cool...I hear you . But do you know how much an American doctor costs? Do you know how much it costs to become an American doctor? And finally do you know how many college kids cheat there way through ?? So here I am ina waiting room for 2 hours being charged the whole time ,while the doctor walks around looking at pictures of the Secretary staffs kids and plays candy crush on his phone...then I am called into a room to sit for another 90 minuts so he can walk in and tell me to go see a specialist ....then a month later I get a 3500 dollar bill for what? That's like McDonald's charging you for the whopper you didn't get because they don't serve it. I'll take a Google diagnosis to go my dear.
Exactly, people have - successfully - performed appendix surgery on themselfes, Dr. DIY is the only one we need. Let alone mental health, you can't even lab-test for that, so why spend your life with a diagnosis you don't like instead of choosing an identity that suits you?
I self diagnosed because when I sought the professional diagnosis, I was met with indifference from the "professionals." The psychiatrist's process was to sit a potential patient/client in front of a computer and required a 3 hour "test" that consisted of redundant , but reworded questions. This was how he made his diagnosis, not having ever laid eyes on or hearing a word from the prospective patient. Not a stellar way to inspire confidence in that professional's practice.
@Mom_B_Salty Yes, I am. I also have a 25+ yr long nursing career, across multiple units to make a reasonable assessment of any therapist. Pretty sure he/she is worthless if they make a diagnosis based on a computer algorithm and not actually talking to the patient. He flat out refused to hear me out, as did any other therapist I’ve tried. Bottom line? I know what happened to me. They do not, nor are they interested in helping me to figure it out. They just want to prescribe drugs I don’t want or need. They’re not giving me the tools I need. So, I may make some mistakes in managing this but I am the only one that can. And thus far, it’s slow but it’s working. Please feel free to make suggestions or pick this apart. I’m open to hear your ideas.
I noticed this abuse of psychoanalitical terms including in the new age paradigm, like "toxic", "narcissism", "victimhood", and also I can tell that I feel for people who use them as my father was actually faking being crazy and ended up crazy(so as to skip the military school initially) and I can see the underlying issue-wanting to be seen, felt, heard. We are educated dismissing as a means of self defense, but I don't see this as the solution to lacking boundaries-cause we're freaking enmeshed and indeed we make each other Loop-via language, objects, attitudes etc.
So far Iv got PMDD, and pretty sure ADHD and cPTSD. My brain also rationally knows I just need to get my ass into gear go to the gym, eat well and keep away from alcohol. My …???? Don’t know why or what is blocking that. Then get down and get n the never ending loop . :(
Here's a suggestion.. research getting dopamine hit - the healthy ways and the not-so-healthy ways. One has us in bondage aka never-ending loop straight outa hell - the other is liberating/freeing/creative. Good place to start.. good luck 🤗 ҉ ҉💖 ҉ ҉✨
Oh my God I had PMDD too!! I'm in menopause now but your such a warrior to live with that!! I lived with it till I was 40 then was finally diagnosed!! Have you tried Prozac just on your cycle? It did wonders for me. They had s drug specifically for PMDD years ago and it was called Seraphin I believe and basically it raised serotonin in the same way Prozac does...supposedly what creates the horror of PMDD is a plummeting of serotonin around the time of our cycle. I have ADHD confirmed by a neuropsych eval..I hope your well❤️
Yes - that’s the problem in a nutshell . Lack of executive functioning. .. w/o that operation system in place, - there’s only going to be aggression bc the person feels threatened when they interact w. persons who have executive functioning. > It makes sense . And it’s true, there’s no way to bypass that .🧩
@@Cyborganna oh yeah! Thank you. At first I thought it was my laptop not sat flat enough so i tried moving it and no difference. Your explanation makes sense. Thanks
Hi Richard. I love the direction in which you are moving these days. I too am tired of labelling and as someone with a degree in Sociology, I very much welcome a much broader brush to help with this mire we find ourselves in, instead of speaking the god honest truth; to ourselves and others. I believe we have been so blindsided and befuddled by ‘ experts ‘ that some of us have lost the ability to even know how to carry out the simplest of tasks without self scrutiny. There a many people out there who are quite willing to sell their-dubious potions to the confused and quite frankly, brainwashed. My inner Socialist is coming out. Time for a revolution ! In the meantime I’m going to bed cos this has worn me out .I’m smiling though, as I feel some fire in my belly which I thought had gone out a long time ago. Many thanks for your honesty and courage in addressing this vital issue.🙏🏻
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do you blame the masses for wanting to self-diagnose in the anomic and atomized / disconnected world we live in?
Richard, you have singularly helped many people including myself. Do not blame yourself for contributing to the psychological hysteria of the masses. Anyone who took your information and used it to their own dysfunctional psychological advantage that is on them.
I remember in high school when it was cool to have a personality disorder or a mental health issue. It feels like the entire world is still just like Middle School and High School.
Primary school....this is what I am talking about in my book
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I think it’s a new thing like the last 15-30 years it’s cool to be “depressed” lol
You just now figuring that out?
Compulsory schools are consumer/worker behavioral conditioning factories where mental illnesses and social hysteria is manufactured. Big shots get rich when people are slowly driven mad, made perfectly obedient and made dependent in passive chairs for twelve years. Schools are psychopathic and narcissistic institutions just like our corporate society is. They prep the next generation of back stabber$ and grown infants fighting each other like monkeys for status and cheap attention. None of us are prepared to add value to society, modern schools create parasites, not geniuses or entrepreneurs. The OP is very keen for noticing this fact. Very intelligent remark.
i like the word perpetual adolesence
I've been in a grief group for two years and I've noticed that many people grow resentful towards those members who show signs of improvement and who attempt to encourage others to heal.
I've joined a few Facebook groups. People who give advice more than sympathy are scolded for "lacking empathy". As though everyone in the groups are children who need to be coddled. I assumed adults could simply choose which comments they found helpful and just ignore the rest. Guess not.
I quit a few support groups for the survivours of narcissistc abuse when I realized same thing what you and Joe Doe. I really needed help, not merely comforting. At some point I realised that those groups are not really about healing, but about celebrating victimhood.
They spread absolutely ridiculous beliefs, which do more harm than good, starting from old good "You are a victim, you did nothing wrong!", or a belief, that if you were hurt by someone it means you're a good person. Or that you got victimized, because you're a special empath.They encourage each other to hate and resentment. Rubbish like that.
After some time, top admins of those groups started to censor or get rid of all the people who used to question their "authority", so those groups became "cultish" in a way. The admins of those groups are usually - indeed- victims of Cluster B personalities, which unfortunate already have Cluster B personalities themselves or at least one specific feature - a need of control. Those people will never want others to heal. Once people get healed, they don't need the group anymore. They're free. And it's a bad news for the admins / self-proclaimed experts.
Actually such groups are usually harmful, because they have no "core" of progress, like 12 steps in AA. There's no plan, no steps to move forward.
I remember I had an idea to start a group to motivate each other, share good ideas for life, things like that. Guess how many people were interested in? Yeah, you 're right. None.
So I left them. No regrets.
@@JohnDoe-gq3tm it depends on how the advice is being delivered and what the advice is. Advice can definitely come from a genuine place. It can also come from a patronizing dismissive place.
glad you realized it. If you're surrounded by (insert emotion/outlook) all the time, you are only going to perpetuate it
That’s such a good point. I think that’s why there are scapegoats in families because toxics don’t want to heal and it’s easier to blame the scapegoat so when the scapegoat separates and realizes it isn’t them but instead their toxic family maybe that’s why they get shunned. Toxic people don’t really want to heal they just want to wallow in many cases.
Richie,
Had people not been wrongly diagnosed all the time for the last 2 decades, both for normal and mental illnesses, they wouldn t have the need to self diagnose. The system is failing people.
I've noticed you re not critical enough of the failings of modern medicine, despite all the data from studies being dependant on pharmaceutical companies, which is a huge problem of objectivity.
So True. I think the article was written to help the medical guys not lose clients. We know ourselves best. I was wrongly diagnosed as Bi-polar.
Most dealers/practitioners in mental health in our medical system r idiots.
Ok I'm going to be that contrarian bastard and say that I hear everything you are saying AND yet, labels do help us. To solve a problem we must first know what the problem is. I have learned from so much from you and Sam and am forever grateful that you still address these topics because actually so few do, leaving people with serious trauma to flounder in CBT hell without ever understanding themselves. I was very late to the party and, at your age, am finally healing and rebuilding. Thank you for the nuanced insight always ❤🇨🇦🙏
from my understanding, his standpoint was; not to wholly abandon mental health labels & the professional study\diagnosis of, rather, the popularizing & familiarizing of these labels has profound negative effects (to which we are only beginning to see) when used freely among the public--whose understanding of these disorders comes from a stew of opinion web-articles & their favorite celebrity’s Twitter posts. Modern society and health care in general has a severe problem with ‘complicating just to compensate’
I agree, though with all things that are “belief systems” it may be best to internalize the good (to the point that it’s a habit and requires no conscious thought) - *but* recognize when that belief system is no longer helping you grow, and let it go.
I think that’s an important step in so many facets of life. For me this has been true with religion, therapy, and virtually every man-made belief structure.
while I agree a little bit of knowledge and self diagnosis is dangerous and is an easy crutch to hide behind especially with a lack of meaning in life there can be exceptions.
I was continually told I was depressed by doctors and took the antidepressants as prescribed but it made things worse, after a long journey of self diagnosis elimination I realised I was autistic and sought help from professionals without disclosing the suspected self diagnoses. they had suspected bpd or bipolar disorder, which I had already eliminated. I asked for am autism spectrum assessment and found some resistance but eventually received, the attitude of the psychologist changed when the results came back, with 65 being a threshold score and my results being 171. if I had not put in the work hate to think what i would be labeled with and treated for with detrimental results.
The scene in Miyazaki's "Spirited Away" where Chihiro helps a soot sprite who falls down with its load of coal and all the other soot sprites see she helped so they all fall down with their coal they were carrying in hopes she will do work for them as well is a perfect illustration of what you were saying earlier.
Haha that is such a cute illustration of his point. I love that!
Love this film. Awesome story with tons of lessons
Good stuff Richard, I never wanted a diagnosis, I wanted an action plan to feel better and never wanted to use the words 'disorder' or 'syndrome' which always meant a life-long incurable thing to me. Like when you started using the term 'PTS-R' I liked that!!
The 'looping' stuff is interesting indeed! I was making my way out of hospital after my cast had been set on my broken wrist, and I was saying to one of the nurses "How am I going to get my 3 kids from A to B and back again with one hand?" and she responded with "You are a strong, resourceful mother - you've got this. Easy." That was honestly all I needed to hear.
That's good, sometimes it is all you need to hear. My example is far more trite. I was dithering getting into a marine lake for a bit of outside swimming. Wanted to do it for ages but never taken the plunge so to speak. The water was freezing, not really freezing, prob about 18 degrees, however I was internally going through this mad dialogue that my heart might stop if I let the water go above my chest. I probably looked pathetic, dipping a foot in here, then a shin, nearly a thigh. Anyway there was this man watching me, he'd just been in and was towelling himself dry. By the way, this was in the UK, not on the continent so we're not talking balmy waters here. I'm not that much of a woos! But to be fair if I had been on the continent I'd probably be panicking about jelly fish so same difference. He was smiling at me, probably perving at my body in a bikini but I didn't care and I reached out to him in dialogue and said, "I'm shitting myself, it's fcking freezing!" He just smiled and said, "Just do it. You'll be ok." And that was all I needed to hear. I took his words, internalised them and got in and enjoyed a fantastic wild water swim which left me feeling accomplished, brave, invigorated, close to nature and totally alive. It took a stranger to give me the courage to face my challenge. And I like to think that was a good example of looping. Either that or I have a very poor internal locus of control and need a big external shove! Lol! But I did it!!! The looping served a purpose and was totally functional for me to achieve my goal.
I’m obsessed with researching Covid19 & the vaccine - with no critical journalism in mainstream we are left to do it ourselves - I lost my job recently because I said no to the vaccine - apart from my own genuine interest as to want to know what the bloody hell is going on, I want to be ready before I’m questioned by others for my stance.
Same boat! Best of luck to you. 💜
You guys that lost your job are admirable for standing up. I have not yet been put to that test.
There’s are HIPAA laws. And it’s against the Constitution. Good for you standing up for yourself. There are other jobs
You certainly are not alone here.
There is good peer reviewed data that made me very confident in getting vaccinated. The issue is that most people outside of the scientific community have no access to it and it can be difficult to read. Science communication is a field that should be taken over by independent scientists not by biased journalists.
Executive function problems have been ( on their own) one of the only things that could have made me end my life many time . They are so very hard to prove , and they can be brutal . Straight up brutal. You know you are smart , can present as normal, but there's places where the brain just won't switch that gear . Like the grey cells just stone wall ya.
I think a great deal of this has to do with the cult of victim hood and doesn’t help with often complex issues, better formulated as adapting to reality and breaking a persons problems / issues down by introducing spiritual, psychological and philosophical awareness ..
"Hi. I'm bi-polar." Me: "Hi Bi-polar. I'm Dave. Pleased to meet you."
@@cryptosrusadmin8331 Ha I thought he'd actually replied there and he was trolling me for being poor. Damn phishing bots!
A great redirect when people start using their labels as excuses is, instead of asking them what’s keeping them back, ask them what their strengths are and then use their own words to (possibly) help redirect them.
Mama always said:
“Don’t complicate things, just to compensate.”
I diagnosed myself with overactive hypothalamus or hpa axis (it's what causes CFS imho)
I keep searching for the one " real " mental problem so I can fix it and get better 😐 And when I'm think I have it I see a clip on yt that says it's something else or flashbacks don't exist or half way it makes me the narcissist and/or also a bit borderliner. At the end it's somehow still the same; emotional literacy, boundaries and yourself instead of the endless fawning and thinking and on and on 😔
@ My_house We posted at about the same time -- have a look at my comment where I gave some of the information that has helped me (including Richard's free UA-cam videos) and maybe if I was starting now I'd go straight to Jill Bolte Taylor's TED talk & her just published book, & UA-cam video, Whole Brain Living. Good luck .
I see this in my own family and it's basically 'spoilt child' we should bring back parenting and how to be an adult lessons into schools and stop pandering to childish tantrums in adults.
I think we should all watch Steve Hughes' comedic opinion on being offended!
Thank you for continuing to grow your courses and content Richard 💜🙏
The need to pathologize is the pathology.
I think people exaggerate gender role stereo types because their so desperate for something to make sense.
The DSM is treated like a Bible.
To quote Alan Watt. ' anyone who sees a psychiatrist needs to have their head examined.!!!! Yup
Self-diagnosis is not the problem, the problem is when one uses it as an excuse for his/her dysfunctional life and continues being dysfunctional.
We all have problems, yet we strive to live normal life. It's the same with damaged mental health, you know you have it yet you try to live fully functional life.
One of the possible reasons people self diagnose is that they can't find competent professional help. I have been diagnosed at least four times over 18 years by professionals. The diagnoses are very different and the advice that I have been given is often naïve and contradictory. My own loose diagnosis has done me no good in terms of finding solutions to my problems. It's merely for explaining my behaviour to others. Behaviour that could otherwise upset them.
Your points of competitive victimhood made me think of an article I read somewhere that said we find sadness and feelings of depression attractive because depressed people historically were less likely to take risks so they survived longer, kind of like hibernating through a crisis or something. Loosely related
This is so true I have to say I went through that behaviour its not helpful and its not a good way to live, lose the label get a life ,live a good structured daily life and do wrk on why I was like that and bam !started getting on in healthy way .grt post .
There is also danger of Dr actually wrongfully diagnosing..I was diagnosed with bpd and I think the mental health services need to rethink this particular diagnosis. It's never helped explain or contain my pain. All it's done is make me feel wrong. I think we need to say this person is traumatized and treat them as such with compassion
I wonder if the reason we feel unwell is that many of us are simply not getting our animal needs met. Community, love, nature.. our neurosis are in part because we lack the conditions in which to thrive.
Do you also frown upon laymen‘s diagnosis of narcissistic personality disorder of a former partner? I have a three year history of reading this up in scientific articles. And one of the things specific to NPD is that the behaviour is only visible in a relationship (not so much in a psych. office - at least with >40yo patients that are very acustomed to lying beliveably)
Frown upon? No that’s not my position. I’d say Im concerned for the partners of NPD that they are buying into a narrative that gives more power away.
I’ll do a video on this next in 2 weeks time.
The victim dominance hierarchy reminds me of how people respond to an "I love you" with an "I love you more" where I live. I have no idea if people do this outside of my little neck of the Pacific but have always found it to be off-putting, like a little "I love you" war.
In my experience CV seems to be the covert narcissists mosey used tactic…
I've begun looking into Nootropics for help with the neurological issues resulting from years of nearly continuous doodoo storms, and the mega doodoo storm we're in right now. But, I am certain that a course would help, too.
Richard, I love your channels
God thanks for saying this. On point and keepin it real. I’ve gotten into arguments with friends in a similar vein who can’t believe I’m a psychology student and would say such things
My executive function is dead ! Hence self diagnosed ADHD
And now life is easier...
Im one of those who love diagnosing people because it makes me know how to handle them. If I know whats wrong I know better what they need and how to respond and can understad them better. Im of christian belief who started with psychology after dating narcissists.
Thank you, Richard.
This man is so beautiful.
Those with low self-esteem often are concerned with what others think about them, because they lack enough confidence in themselves. So if they read or hear about mental illness, most likely they will internalize it like a small child.
Oh bloody hell.. glad at least someone is talking about this! I don't know that I have much faith in professional diagnoses either as it's questions you just know how to answer if you intend to, perhaps if diagnosis isn't so freely given it's a good thing to have it somewhat regulated. The mennal health and idennady issues as I call them (in croaky American accent) are all about dramatization and self pity. I joined an OCD group (just for the crack, not really sure why) and someone posted a pic of a coffee shop with Obsessive Coffee Disorder on a sign asking "thoughts?" ... There were about 300 angry and sad reactions on it! 😆 imagine being allowed to be that offended without the label....
Your room is awesome!!!
You collected pikachu? I doubt that 🤣👌
The kids need to belong somewhere and the world the “adults” want them to accept is not cool :-/
The Tao of "Thing".
So, would it be correct to say that it is Projective Identification that you are talking about saying of our inclination to behave according to a judgement/label that we are given? Like fitting into a mould of sorts, offered from outside?
Thank you for your videos, Richard.
Interesting!
I wish you didn't feel at all responsible for this, Richard. I don't think you realize how many people you've helped to heal. I didn't even realize I *could* heal until I found you. I thought for sure my problems were so far gone (ie: I had medicalized my issue) that I would be inevitably broken. You assured me I wasn't. I proved, through using your methods (and others that I've found along the way), that I was able to be whole again; to reintegrate. I know there are many like me. I see them all the time in your comments. :) As for this video: your analysis is true on many different levels (not just mental health), but I'm sure you realize this. While I worry, I also have a lot of hope. We will get through this. Thanks, as always, for your work. Blessings!
Absolutely stupendous, Thank you Richard for sharing your views, You're absolutely beautiful, Peace, love to you and everyone, Thank you universe 👽😁🧝♀️🌌🛸♾️💞🧿🐉🦄🥰👁✨️😃
If I diagnosed myself with borderline personality disorder and every doctor or therapist I spoke with afterwards had agreed, what can I do.
brilliant
Great discussion Richard! Thank you! I have ADHD and struggle to retain information. I listen alot to your videos and dont read much anymore because of my attention span. I truly hope I am learning enough to heal. I appreciate your work very much. I realize you dont possibly see our comments but thank you so much for your work.
I dont know why youre so angry. I have two daughters with autism, thank god for their label and diagnosis. embrace the knowledge and new understanding. I'd like to see anyone here deal with what I've had to. Utopia my arse. Call me Fckin pitiful. I think youre wrong here on SO MANY LEVELS. I really have to block.
The individual is a beautiful thing, but individuality is a DISEASE, that has grown in the world. People are promoting exclusiveness everywhere. Then they wonder why there is conflict. There can only be conflict.
My generation didnt want labels for people, we just wanted to be free & judged on how we treated others. We wanted to let our daughters play sports if she wanted to, as well as letting our sons play with barbies if they wanted to... nowadays it has turned on its head, everyone wants to label in order to explain themselves & at times avoid responsibility for their own actions as well as get special treatment. And now if a child wants to play with dolls they MUST BE a girl and any child who plays sports MUST BE a boy. We've gone thru the looking glass into topsyTurvy world. Such a shame bc now we've locked people into toxic identities.
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So I go through periods where I am super strong, motivated, in the flow (regulated). I don’t relate to my CPTSD, it does not even cross my mind. And then something stressful occurs, and I get triggered and then stuck in trauma responses for days, weeks, even months until I spend days, weeks, months getting myself strong, motivated, in the flow again. Cycle repeats. I get very confused with the type of understanding of CPTSD as is explained in this video. In my eyes it is a disability and no matter how much I try to pretend it does not exist, it rears its ugly head again. Yes, I think people with CPTSD should be offered much more help than society is offering them. It would save more government money in the long run to actually heal people (help them learn how to cope and set up their life, career, home around managing their disability when inevitable flashbacks and cycling occurs ) than people getting put on disability and benefits for life. And the loss of human potential is devastating in my opinion. Everyone cares so much about traumatized children, and then they grow up to be adults and suddenly they are expected to function as normal and are shamed if they do not. I saw a huge societal emphasis being put on identity politics which I don’t agree with, however, I would like to see more emphasis on CPTSD, not as an identity but as a legit problem that some humans face which makes life especially difficult. You can’t even get trauma therapy with Medicaid in the States. There is very little awareness and help for CPTSD. This is why Grannon’s perspective confused me somewhat. I get that we need a balanced outlook here, and I am for moderation, feminine and masculine and all that polarity stuff, but I just don’t see the excessive helping and catering to people with CPTSD from where I am standing… or more so curled up in a fetal position trying to get my son and I’s basic needs met… Are people now labeling them self as having CPTSD without actually having it? Is it cool now, really? Am I cool now LOL? I am definitely not paying attention to dominant culture these days so this may be why I don’t get it. I do get his point on being strong and brave, on facing life head on no matter what, and not making excuses and so forth. I do think it is okay to make excuses when one is hyper aroused or dissociated as you really can’t participate in life when you are stuck like that, in fact, it can be dangerous to yourself and others. It is okay to simplify your life and make excuses when stuck in my book. And I also over share when stuck as is occurring right now.
Are you talking about people who dont have an actual diagnosis? I have found that denying my illness has made things worse. I went on with my life feeling guilty and believing "should" be able to do XYZ. Falling short over and over has not been good for my mental health. I've had to accept my illness and label in order to give myself grace and work on improving my health.
But yes, self diagnosis can be like a wish for a good excuse to not take responsibility for our life. This is an important discussion. Our health system, especially for mental health, needs revamping. People wander around looking for help and hoping to find the right expert/Dr. I've seen alot of "take this pill" and be well!
Thank you for this discussion.
Am I crazy? It seems the world is filled with people who want to put others into simple categories that have labels. Most people want to simplify their world by classifying others and themselves. Those people seem to be determined to put others into categories and insist that those others act as if they are members of those categories. Somehow, growing up in an abusive, alcoholic household seems to have made me aware of this dynamic. I try to avoid most labels but most people seem to insist that I label myself as this or that or the other. I must be gay or straight. I must be black or white. I must be Christian, Jewish, Muslim, or atheist. And they seem to get quite upset with me when I try to not to accept any of their labels. And I try not to put labels on others, either living or dead. Why? Because I am not qualified and labels are necessarily limiting. No label can convey the totality of another being, especially a higher order one. And beings grow and change. So any label, even if accurate, becomes inaccurate over time. So back to my original question: Am I crazy? Oh, wait, that's a label. I like my doctor's answer: "You're only a little bit crazy." Crazy is not a good label. But I do think I'm out on the end of the bell curve somewhere. And it's lonely out here. Can you relate to this question and if so, how?
Kids are susceptible to it because it's all their hearing from "qualified" adults. They're using what's forced on them just like their told. Something's wrong > everyone's in denial > get a "something wrong with *you* " diagnosis > grip for dear life for the sake of dissociating from gaslighting
Not only our religious practice, but our role in the family gave us belonging, value, and meaning that btw, I still enjoy. But of course Westerners are too smart for that now. And poor Gen Z doesn’t even know how…
Not trying to bust your balls or anything but when you talk about executive function being too low to do things like become a content creator you're referring to the ability to stick to a schedule and finish what you set out for right? Are you sure EVERYONE can't do that? because from my understanding people from prison call getting a routine and sticking to it "the program" and often talk about how their lives improved from it. If someone's executive functioning is that screwed up then couldn't the case be made that they might need medicine?
around the 22:00 mark ngl you committed slippery slope fallacy. concerning racial abuse and perception and using perspective to validate experience "if we open the door to this behavior then we don't know" except those of us who hang out in mixed company DO. Those who over exaggerate tend to get called out by their own ethnic groups due to differing beliefs within that ethnic group.out
You think I'm not out there calling out other Black people who call anti theft procedures racist for being silly?
Wow, I was really sick, for 5 years, and I was treated like shit and lost all faith in humanity. In my world nobody cares about sick people. Really could have used some compassion from my boss at work.
In a way labeling ourselves mentally sick is the same as being religious because they would be identifying with being spiritually sick. Maybe there’s something adaptive about identifying with your issues. Same as having original sin and being in maya.
Okay so I'm on meds but this got me questioning how depressed I actually am. I've been gaslit and neglected as a kid, also been in a narcissistic relationship. I don't want to grow up it seems at time, at the same time I do want to be self sufficient. Am I more lazy than depressed?
The health care professionals out there are not educated about cluster B personality disorders and are not willing to stand up for you when they clearly identify you are dealing with someone with these mental health issues. They will not stand behind a diagnosis and less likely to diagnose you or others with issues. they just want to keep themselves in business so won’t diagnose anything so they never have to be responsible for diagnosing anything. I’ve gone thru 3 counsellors and while they describe all aspect of the cluster b PD are there and do exist they won’t put that in writing when I want to prove it in court. Are they lying or just humouring me during a session and explaining what is happening related to MHIssues but won’t put it in writing and stand behind their words.
Whenever one might say ‘I don’t feel to good today’ or something, there always have to be a ‘why’ in the response when compared to if ‘I’m good’ then there doesn’t have to be a reason. Just saying this in response to life just is crap sometimes there doesn’t have to be a reason. It always seems to be the narrative if things are not so good, it is seen as being *wrong* and you have to name it which then translates to diagnosis etc such as depression, anxiety.
Cannot people just say they are unhappy ? No because It seems that unhappy is unacceptable in this world today.
I struggled for years not understanding myself and my needs until I started to search for and find labels that fit what I was experiencing. Now that I have reached a point where I actually know and understand myself better, I am reaching the point where I feel like I can stop and can happily just be myself. I do find it helps though if I use labels to people since this is context they understand. I would rather people go out and try and find help for whatever they are experiencing then stay silent, aviod treatment or deny their needs. That is a one way street toward some sort of life crisis.
Are you questioning the validity of the DID community on TikTok? I feel offended!
I’d be interested in more about competition. I teach collaboration and competition with self. I’d like more education on this do I can improve my outlook. Any recommendations?
The collective seems to be re-living the Victorian era when being mentally ill was fashionable.
That era, and this one today seem to be moments in time in which people were repressed into shells of themselves, instead of being allowed to live as our genuine, authentic selves, lest we be called out, canceled, judged, threatened, assaulted, etc...
DO NOT REPLY TO THE ABOVE MESSAGE!! THIS IS A SCAMMER!!!!
Can't help but feel it all makes much more sense if you open your mind to the idea that our government and rulers are causing us harm by cost of living and division and conquer tactics.
Well I have a physical and mental condition because of long term abuse. I'm not sick?🤯
wait, does this mean that if we have a bunch of folks competing with victim status.. and then posting it on social media to increase status in our dominance hierarchy.. is this a new face of narcissism?
So what is the difference between narcissism and rigid toxic individualism?
I have found the best therapy is to eat well , ditch the junk food and go out for a couple of hours on my bike in the countryside.
Thank you for this. . . I have just been told I need to start addiction help
In my experience, it is so important to find the right therapist. I saw 2 for approx 10 sessions each and got nowhere. I did some deeper research into my 3 therapist and only needed to see her for 4 sessions. Not long after that Richard's 30 day challenge came out and then the summoning the self. I put myself through a lot over 2 years but it has been so worth it. I've never been in the world like I am now! at 50.
I have also had 4 sessions with Steve Heneghan from Spartan Life Coach, I have 2 left that I don't feel I need, but Steve is good to chat to so I'll use them soon lol. Gracias Richard 🌞
A side note to my comment.
Richard's courses worked for me because I was super nice and kind, forgiving and caring of myself, most of the time. And gently correcting myself when I found I was being harsh, critical or berating of myself. It took practice because it was new to me. But that, doing the courses at my own pace and putting in the reps, is what has gotten me to the happier place I am in now. I handle problems and situation like a growed up now 😉 my journey is ongoing.
I will be more receptive to this message if he presented with his shirt off, off let's see that bare. chest and arms
In my day we'd say: "Suck it up, Buttercup".
"be within or be without" answers are not always from the ouside be autodidactic i disagree with u on this
This video should be a requirement for the future parents .
Yay! Something fun to watch while I make chai ^__^
Ok ...that's cool...I hear you . But do you know how much an American doctor costs? Do you know how much it costs to become an American doctor? And finally do you know how many college kids cheat there way through ?? So here I am ina waiting room for 2 hours being charged the whole time ,while the doctor walks around looking at pictures of the Secretary staffs kids and plays candy crush on his phone...then I am called into a room to sit for another 90 minuts so he can walk in and tell me to go see a specialist ....then a month later I get a 3500 dollar bill for what? That's like McDonald's charging you for the whopper you didn't get because they don't serve it. I'll take a Google diagnosis to go my dear.
Exactly, people have - successfully - performed appendix surgery on themselfes, Dr. DIY is the only one we need. Let alone mental health, you can't even lab-test for that, so why spend your life with a diagnosis you don't like instead of choosing an identity that suits you?
I tend to hide as much as I can my issues
So, looping sounds like "the power of suggestion." This is what I've always suspected of astrology.
It’s what we’re living through right now in this so called pandemic
I self diagnosed because when I sought the professional diagnosis, I was met with indifference from the "professionals." The psychiatrist's process was to sit a potential patient/client in front of a computer and required a 3 hour "test" that consisted of redundant , but reworded questions. This was how he made his diagnosis, not having ever laid eyes on or hearing a word from the prospective patient. Not a stellar way to inspire confidence in that professional's practice.
@Mom_B_Salty Yes, I am. I also have a 25+ yr long nursing career, across multiple units to make a reasonable assessment of any therapist. Pretty sure he/she is worthless if they make a diagnosis based on a computer algorithm and not actually talking to the patient. He flat out refused to hear me out, as did any other therapist I’ve tried. Bottom line? I know what happened to me. They do not, nor are they interested in helping me to figure it out. They just want to prescribe drugs I don’t want or need. They’re not giving me the tools I need. So, I may make some mistakes in managing this but I am the only one that can. And thus far, it’s slow but it’s working. Please feel free to make suggestions or pick this apart. I’m open to hear your ideas.
Thank you sir. Spot on.
‘A mental health issue’ is a kind of auto suggestion
I noticed this abuse of psychoanalitical terms including in the new age paradigm, like "toxic", "narcissism", "victimhood", and also I can tell that I feel for people who use them as my father was actually faking being crazy and ended up crazy(so as to skip the military school initially) and I can see the underlying issue-wanting to be seen, felt, heard. We are educated dismissing as a means of self defense, but I don't see this as the solution to lacking boundaries-cause we're freaking enmeshed and indeed we make each other Loop-via language, objects, attitudes etc.
Wow great video very interesting concept.
So far Iv got PMDD, and pretty sure ADHD and cPTSD. My brain also rationally knows I just need to get my ass into gear go to the gym, eat well and keep away from alcohol.
My …???? Don’t know why or what is blocking that. Then get down and get n the never ending loop . :(
Here's a suggestion.. research getting dopamine hit - the healthy ways and the not-so-healthy ways.
One has us in bondage aka never-ending loop straight outa hell - the other is liberating/freeing/creative.
Good place to start.. good luck 🤗 ҉ ҉💖 ҉ ҉✨
Oh my God I had PMDD too!! I'm in menopause now but your such a warrior to live with that!! I lived with it till I was 40 then was finally diagnosed!! Have you tried Prozac just on your cycle? It did wonders for me. They had s drug specifically for PMDD years ago and it was called Seraphin I believe and basically it raised serotonin in the same way Prozac does...supposedly what creates the horror of PMDD is a plummeting of serotonin around the time of our cycle. I have ADHD confirmed by a neuropsych eval..I hope your well❤️
All labeling is a cognitive distortion?
Trying to make sense of oneself, persecution
Ooooh! What kind of clip mic is that?
Lolz 😂 stop telling me im sick then
Yes - that’s the problem in a nutshell .
Lack of executive functioning. ..
w/o that operation system in place, - there’s only going to be aggression bc the person feels threatened when they interact w. persons who have executive functioning.
> It makes sense .
And it’s true, there’s no way to bypass that .🧩
Love it. 💜
lovely, just lovely.
Its clean dont worry. All the oil is inside the bottle. The surface is clean. Its a clean surface. Its safe.
And you must sort out that mirror. I don't know who put it up but it's definitely on a slant. I'm not judging but it is definitely wonky.
@@drifterstevens4207 The camera is angled on a slant.
Self diagnosed OCD?
@@Cyborganna oh yeah! Thank you. At first I thought it was my laptop not sat flat enough so i tried moving it and no difference. Your explanation makes sense. Thanks
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Funny, I was talking about this today. Interested to hear your thoughts on it 👍 thanks for sharing
Hi Richard. I love the direction in which you are moving these days. I too am tired of labelling and as someone with a degree in Sociology, I very much welcome a much broader brush to help with this mire we find ourselves in, instead of speaking the god honest truth; to ourselves and others. I believe we have been so blindsided and befuddled by ‘ experts ‘ that some of us have lost the ability to even know how to carry out the simplest of tasks without self scrutiny.
There a many people out there who are quite willing to sell their-dubious potions to the confused and quite frankly, brainwashed. My inner Socialist is coming out. Time for a revolution ! In the meantime I’m going to bed cos this has worn me out .I’m smiling though, as I feel some fire in my belly which I thought had gone out a long time ago. Many thanks for your honesty and courage in addressing this vital issue.🙏🏻