It’s always other black women that i ever feel threatened by, they call me stuck up or say “you’re acting funny” when in fact i’m just a quiet person with social anxiety. Even had a black girl talk trash about me wearing my natural hair out when hers had a relaxer in it. Yet i’ve had white girls compliment me on my natural hair. Crazy right
I really hate myself because I can’t do the “usual black girl things” that are almost expected like being able to dance and it makes me feel so bad. There has always been something about me that has hindered me from joining in. I’ve also been shamed for the health of my hair and it makes me feel horrible. And the worst thing is that it’s other black girls doing the bullying. We should be sticking together not shaming each other.
I’m sorry you went through those things dear. but you have to be yourself. be you and go where you are appreciated. forget about the people who have negative things to say. ❤️
1. Don't subscribe to the narrative 2. Believe that you're the main character 3. Conforming is not the answer 4. The awkward black girl is still bad ass 5. To be the quirky, awkward black girl is to be a multifaceted being
I have to say, this was such a insightful and touching video and I relate so much. I just turned 36 and see so much of myself in what this young lady spoke of. I have always been that "awkward black girl" and have always known that I was not like how most black girls are socialized into being. It took me a long time to really learn to love myself as I am. I was born and raised in an inner city neighborhood where my whole community was black. Then when I was 12 I moved to another state and attended private schools until I graduated college. The private schools were primarily white, but it was the quality of the education that my mother encouraged. Yet in both realms i've always felt not black enough for black people or too black for some white people. I always felt like I wanted to belong when I was younger but always felt like a misfit. I remember my first year in my primarily white college , as soon as I heard there was an Afro/Latino Heritage club I swiftly joined. I wanted to feel more black. Most of the meetings i sat in a corner by myself, lol. To shy and awkward to introduce myself as a freshman on campus. And not really feeling a connection with anyone besides the color of my skin. Then in my doom i made friends with the white girls but felt like i couldnt really relate to them about much. One of the best things thats ever happened is that the Good Lord sent me my tribe; a diverse group of young people. We were black, spanish, white, indian, asian, but our common thread was that we were all misfits within the typical confines of our respective ethnic groups. We liked Anime, and rock music, and we enjoyed reading, and Jnco pants, and hot topic, and i felt at home with them. After college I was thrust into the world now without the comfort of my tribe and through the years i have come to terms with who i am. I don't think i really accepted myself until i was 26 years old. Im tall, and i love wearing my hair in twists, i "talk white" , i like to read , i play guitar, i love bluegrass and indie music, i cry at touching commercials, i love old Jane Austen time period movies, i love museums and am a history nerd, when i see people i haven't seen in a while i get really excited and do the puppy hands thing ( i dont know why, lol) . I have grown to love myself and all of my quirks because I am me, and different and thats ok .
Black male that sent this to my daughter. My kid is gorgeous and bright. I am trying to find a way to allow her to come into herself. I was never a bright as she is now.
I feel so weird sometimes when people approach me they expect one thing and they kind of discard me when I'm not that person. When I fully try to be myself I get judged so I feel stuck and alone.Im happy alone and that's it I'm trying to accept that I may always he rejected and that's fine.
This is soooo me! I was told that I'm not a typical "black" person and I speak "white" . I love me some me now lol Apologizing for being me is not in the cards!
Thank you so much for making this video! I went to a predominantly white high school and was an outsider to my white counterparts. It was very traumatizing. I ended up going to an HBCU for undergrad and I felt like an outsider there too. I was always too black for the white kids and too white for the black kids. I’m now 24 years old living in a predominantly black city and still get isolated by people who I thought I was cool with because i’m seen as “quirky” and “weird”. Ive been learning that i’m not meant to be like everyone else and that it’s better that I spend time in solitude and work on embracing who I really am. Ive noticed that ive tried watering myself down and conforming in order to have friends and that’s just not how I want to live anymore. My uniqueness is my superpower and I refuse to give it up in order to please judgmental people.
I feel you 100%. I had to do a lot of deep digging myself and still am learning that conforming is not the answer. Us as a community are diverse in thought and experience and that MUST be acknowledged.
I love how you eloquently gave us quirky/awkward black girls our flowers at 6:05 to 6:17...almost shed a tear😅...we are not a monolith and we get to embrace our uniqueness. We are worthy of accepting ourselves, it takes courage. 👑
I was always wierd and still is and I feel like during my teenage years I did a lot of dumb things just to fit in and be normal but it still wasn’t authentic because I felt like I was playin a role all the time. Even now as an adult I’m stilling finding my tribe dating is kind of difficult because I’m not fitting any mold so I either come off lame or not black enough or too wierd and so I just keep to myself and do what’s best for me.
Thank you so much for this video. I have been struggling with my self worth and feeling comfortable in my own sch as a black girl. I have been stuggling since i was 8-9yrs, im going to highschool now.❤ I really needed this. Yall i was crying 😂😭
I'm not familiar with black culture or white culture, but black people see me as being closer to white people, and white people see me as the ghetto girl. It's so weird at 22 like I want to be myself. It seems like college just amplifies this grouping even more.
I have and still have this amongst our community apparently I am different I have always embraced this but still I get challenged. Never seen this type of video before thank you. I wouldn't label it as the awkward black girl I would say different type of black girl again thank you for this video there are so many of us out there and some experience depression because they haven't found their tribe and are made to feel soooo different bordeline weird
My wife was a Awkward Black Girl She was a freshman in high school I was a junior in high school she had braces and she had asthma and loads of peanuts 🥜 Well I was on the varsity football team I could have got any woman when I was in high school but I see no Beauty in there and the kind of Henderson Center I went to the Army she went to college and then we reunited they got married and now we have five children.
Seeing this video is definitely perfect timing. ❤️ Thank you. I feel like we always associated being black with certain behaviors/aesthetics. I grew up around more affluent black individuals. So when I went outside of that space and interacted with other black people from other dynamics, they saw me as less black. I feel like this is because like you said … most black people they were around didnt appear to be most similar to me. It wasn’t until I went to college and realized we flourish and thrive in many, many, many ways ❤️
This video needs to blow up! ❤️🔥 I can relate so much I had so many different things about me and wasn’t exactly on one side or acted as one way and it was sooooo hard for me to fit in middle school and high school. I just had manners and a different mentality, different in many ways and I still feel this way at 21. This video really made me feel so much better about myself. ♥️
I just don't give a🤬. I just be me and if people got that twisted then that isn't going to change me anyways. SO whatever! Confidence is key! Don't have to prove nothing to a color when I'm so colorful. I'm not going to compliment someone else's insecurities because they can't see me.
I don’t typically have that much on common with most of the black women around me I’m not surrounded by white people ive grown up around black women my whole life but a lot of times I’m more like the outsiders
I've had moments where I felt like this as well. I think it's important to find your tribe. As we explore different groups of people than the ones we're used to it becomes easier to see who's really for you and who isnt.
I love how you edited your video. Plus, your tone is so smooth. I tuned in because I’m not interested in code switching at work in the corporate space. Yet, when I taught at an urban school, I had a hard time connecting with the students.
Ah thank you so much for this video!! This month, I've been working on dedicating myself and my time to building my own confidence. It's so crazy and also validating to me how much I can relate to practically everything that you were talking about! I'm currently in college (PWI) right now and going through the same experience of trying to not conform to stereotypes that my peers expect me to be. It can be a lot of pressure for others to expect us to know exactly who we are right out the gate, but this video allowed me to see and realize that I'm not alone 💗💗
It’s always other black women that i ever feel threatened by, they call me stuck up or say “you’re acting funny” when in fact i’m just a quiet person with social anxiety. Even had a black girl talk trash about me wearing my natural hair out when hers had a relaxer in it. Yet i’ve had white girls compliment me on my natural hair. Crazy right
This is SO TRUE!!
I really hate myself because I can’t do the “usual black girl things” that are almost expected like being able to dance and it makes me feel so bad. There has always been something about me that has hindered me from joining in. I’ve also been shamed for the health of my hair and it makes me feel horrible. And the worst thing is that it’s other black girls doing the bullying. We should be sticking together not shaming each other.
I totally understand you
I’m sorry you went through those things dear. but you have to be yourself. be you and go where you are appreciated. forget about the people who have negative things to say. ❤️
black girls can be really mean and competitive to each other
@favour Oji be yourself trust me, I know how you feel, at the end of the day you have to live your life the way you want to.
Samez
1. Don't subscribe to the narrative
2. Believe that you're the main character
3. Conforming is not the answer
4. The awkward black girl is still bad ass
5. To be the quirky, awkward black girl is to be a multifaceted being
This was great. Often times being the quirky black girl is lonely, most times we are not the chosen ones.
Yea :/
I have to say, this was such a insightful and touching video and I relate so much. I just turned 36 and see so much of myself in what this young lady spoke of. I have always been that "awkward black girl" and have always known that I was not like how most black girls are socialized into being. It took me a long time to really learn to love myself as I am. I was born and raised in an inner city neighborhood where my whole community was black. Then when I was 12 I moved to another state and attended private schools until I graduated college. The private schools were primarily white, but it was the quality of the education that my mother encouraged. Yet in both realms i've always felt not black enough for black people or too black for some white people. I always felt like I wanted to belong when I was younger but always felt like a misfit.
I remember my first year in my primarily white college , as soon as I heard there was an Afro/Latino Heritage club I swiftly joined. I wanted to feel more black. Most of the meetings i sat in a corner by myself, lol. To shy and awkward to introduce myself as a freshman on campus. And not really feeling a connection with anyone besides the color of my skin. Then in my doom i made friends with the white girls but felt like i couldnt really relate to them about much. One of the best things thats ever happened is that the Good Lord sent me my tribe; a diverse group of young people. We were black, spanish, white, indian, asian, but our common thread was that we were all misfits within the typical confines of our respective ethnic groups. We liked Anime, and rock music, and we enjoyed reading, and Jnco pants, and hot topic, and i felt at home with them. After college I was thrust into the world now without the comfort of my tribe and through the years i have come to terms with who i am. I don't think i really accepted myself until i was 26 years old. Im tall, and i love wearing my hair in twists, i "talk white" , i like to read , i play guitar, i love bluegrass and indie music, i cry at touching commercials, i love old Jane Austen time period movies, i love museums and am a history nerd, when i see people i haven't seen in a while i get really excited and do the puppy hands thing ( i dont know why, lol) . I have grown to love myself and all of my quirks because I am me, and different and thats ok .
Reading this felt like reading my own story. I can relate so much to you!
Thank you so much for sharing your story! Im glad my video touched you :)
Awesome girl, would like to follow you on Ig if you have one!
All of what you said dont even make you quirky, just a complex, multi-dimensional human being
Love to hear it!
Black male that sent this to my daughter. My kid is gorgeous and bright. I am trying to find a way to allow her to come into herself. I was never a bright as she is now.
Appreciate you doing this, that’s so validating and I know she will appreciate that later in life!
I love this comment so much. I hope she loved this video when you sent it to her 💕
God bless you for being so supportive of her
I feel so weird sometimes when people approach me they expect one thing and they kind of discard me when I'm not that person. When I fully try to be myself I get judged so I feel stuck and alone.Im happy alone and that's it I'm trying to accept that I may always he rejected and that's fine.
Yep, same here
There’s been so many times where I’ve met people off of apps and they say that I act and sound different than I look
I'm right there with you on this
This is soooo me! I was told that I'm not a typical "black" person and I speak "white" . I love me some me now lol Apologizing for being me is not in the cards!
Speaking white is not a thing.
@@candacedavis403 I know it isn't
Thank you so much for making this video! I went to a predominantly white high school and was an outsider to my white counterparts. It was very traumatizing. I ended up going to an HBCU for undergrad and I felt like an outsider there too. I was always too black for the white kids and too white for the black kids. I’m now 24 years old living in a predominantly black city and still get isolated by people who I thought I was cool with because i’m seen as “quirky” and “weird”. Ive been learning that i’m not meant to be like everyone else and that it’s better that I spend time in solitude and work on embracing who I really am. Ive noticed that ive tried watering myself down and conforming in order to have friends and that’s just not how I want to live anymore. My uniqueness is my superpower and I refuse to give it up in order to please judgmental people.
Can you give me tips on how to not care what others think? I’m in the same boat as you and I never fit in
I feel you 100%. I had to do a lot of deep digging myself and still am learning that conforming is not the answer. Us as a community are diverse in thought and experience and that MUST be acknowledged.
Are you me?? Sending you so much love, these sentiments are spot on 💕
I love how you eloquently gave us quirky/awkward black girls our flowers at 6:05 to 6:17...almost shed a tear😅...we are not a monolith and we get to embrace our uniqueness. We are worthy of accepting ourselves, it takes courage. 👑
Wow this made me tear up , I am so proud to be who I am. I am not the stereotype ppl want me to be.
Love this video! I have many different sides to myself, I often changed myself depending on who I was around. Now I just be myself! ❤️❤️
love that for you!
Same here! 😁
I was always wierd and still is and I feel like during my teenage years I did a lot of dumb things just to fit in and be normal but it still wasn’t authentic because I felt like I was playin a role all the time. Even now as an adult I’m stilling finding my tribe dating is kind of difficult because I’m not fitting any mold so I either come off lame or not black enough or too wierd and so I just keep to myself and do what’s best for me.
Thank you so much for this video. I have been struggling with my self worth and feeling comfortable in my own sch as a black girl. I have been stuggling since i was 8-9yrs, im going to highschool now.❤ I really needed this.
Yall i was crying 😂😭
why is this video so slept on?? thank you sis this was amazing
UA-cam be playin me. but thank you so much! 🥺❤️
I'm not familiar with black culture or white culture, but black people see me as being closer to white people, and white people see me as the ghetto girl. It's so weird at 22 like I want to be myself. It seems like college just amplifies this grouping even more.
I have and still have this amongst our community apparently I am different I have always embraced this but still I get challenged. Never seen this type of video before thank you. I wouldn't label it as the awkward black girl I would say different type of black girl again thank you for this video there are so many of us out there and some experience depression because they haven't found their tribe and are made to feel soooo different bordeline weird
My wife was a Awkward Black Girl
She was a freshman in high school I was a junior in high school she had braces and she had asthma and loads of peanuts 🥜
Well I was on the varsity football team I could have got any woman when I was in high school but I see no Beauty in there and the kind of Henderson Center I went to the Army she went to college and then we reunited they got married and now we have five children.
Seeing this video is definitely perfect timing. ❤️ Thank you.
I feel like we always associated being black with certain behaviors/aesthetics.
I grew up around more affluent black individuals. So when I went outside of that space and interacted with other black people from other dynamics, they saw me as less black. I feel like this is because like you said … most black people they were around didnt appear to be most similar to me. It wasn’t until I went to college and realized we flourish and thrive in many, many, many ways ❤️
You’re smile makes me smile for some reason and I don’t even know you
I smiled reading this 😭❤️
This video needs to blow up! ❤️🔥 I can relate so much I had so many different things about me and wasn’t exactly on one side or acted as one way and it was sooooo hard for me to fit in middle school and high school. I just had manners and a different mentality, different in many ways and I still feel this way at 21. This video really made me feel so much better about myself. ♥️
I loved this so much!!
Yay!! Im so glad!
I felt so seen and heard in this video!! It legit made my eyes water up.
So soft spoken and sweet. Good advice here, too.
I love your voice so much. It’s so calming and smells like Shea butter😊💛
🤣 Thank you so much!! haha
This was so lovely ☺️ wish I'd had this in my early 20s
Its never too late to unlearn false narratives! Glad you enjoyed :)
I love this and you're definitely glowing and confident in this video.
Thank you!!
I get pick on at school , everyone disrespect me and it makes me angry sometimes
I just don't give a🤬. I just be me and if people got that twisted then that isn't going to change me anyways. SO whatever! Confidence is key! Don't have to prove nothing to a color when I'm so colorful. I'm not going to compliment someone else's insecurities because they can't see me.
pearl of a video
I don’t typically have that much on common with most of the black women around me I’m not surrounded by white people ive grown up around black women my whole life but a lot of times I’m more like the outsiders
I've had moments where I felt like this as well. I think it's important to find your tribe. As we explore different groups of people than the ones we're used to it becomes easier to see who's really for you and who isnt.
I love how you edited your video. Plus, your tone is so smooth.
I tuned in because I’m not interested in code switching at work in the corporate space. Yet, when I taught at an urban school, I had a hard time connecting with the students.
Awkward black girls unite!
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✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿
I really enjoyed this video. "Define yourself for yourself!" Love it!💖💖💖
Girl ure so pretty
i really felt what you said from 4:00-5:20
Thank you- so many deep lessons to take in here- had to listen to it twice ❤
This video pierced my heart. These are the messages we NEED ♥️ so happy to have come across this
I love the intro and just the sound, voice, aesthetic and just you in general. 💛
Ah thank you so much for this video!! This month, I've been working on dedicating myself and my time to building my own confidence. It's so crazy and also validating to me how much I can relate to practically everything that you were talking about! I'm currently in college (PWI) right now and going through the same experience of trying to not conform to stereotypes that my peers expect me to be. It can be a lot of pressure for others to expect us to know exactly who we are right out the gate, but this video allowed me to see and realize that I'm not alone 💗💗
This countdown is so cute
Thank you!! 💗💗
I was trying something different within UA-cam! I think I might do it more often!
@@SydTheCreative yeah i love the idea of premieres. It got me excited fr :)
Your voice is really soothing
I love this and needed this ✨
I relate to this! Learning to embrace who I am!
loved thisssss!
So interesting, i love it!!
This video was made for me, it resonated so deeply!💜Thank you💜
ah! of course! Thank you for watching 🥺❤️
Love this video! Instant sub 💯
I love everything about this video. Thank you❤
I can’t wait!!!
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Love, love, love, and love, thank you! ❤
Thank you for watching!
Woah… this resonated
I really loved this! Thank you ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you!!!!! Very well spoken 👏 I can totally relate!
Thank you. Feeling seen. 👧🏾❤❤❤
This needs more views! I love this ❤
yesssss. tell the algorithm angels I said whats good!! Thank you love!❤️
Love your voice!!!!! Thanks for this video ♥️♥️ saw this video after watching the first video u mentioned
Beautiful video
Love it! I can totally relate. Nice story!!
This was great ❤️
Thank you for this!❤️
SUBSCRIBED ! amazing
Thank you
Hey gorgeous 👯♀️
Ok but how are your pores so cute---
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Can you please link the sza interview you put in your video?
its in the description box! :)
This is great! Love the key points you discussed in the video. 🤎