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  • @meeshelml4138
    @meeshelml4138 2 роки тому +153

    Yhooo moes at the rate that it's going, some of us will enter marriage as experts because wow we are led!🤭🥰 You two are honestly doing the Lord's work! Thank you

    • @angelinemoreroa1429
      @angelinemoreroa1429 2 роки тому +3

      Exactly hey. It's the info we need especially us singles. ❤

    • @mello4392
      @mello4392 2 роки тому +1

      Couldn't agree more

    • @noziphon1
      @noziphon1 2 роки тому

      Lalela! 👌🏿👌🏿

    • @noziphon1
      @noziphon1 2 роки тому

      Lalela! 👌🏿👌🏿

    • @ThandazaMK
      @ThandazaMK 2 роки тому +2

      🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣yeyiiiiiii, we will have PHD's

  • @keneuoe100
    @keneuoe100 2 роки тому +19

    I am here for the sign language interpretation guys... As a disability activist who focuses mainly on equal access to information I AM SOOOOOO HAPPY FOR THIS.

  • @portiamothibi5401
    @portiamothibi5401 2 роки тому +69

    God has saved my marriage through you guys....I personally want to thank you so much for allowing God to use you...I can't thank you enough🙏

    • @TheMakhs
      @TheMakhs  2 роки тому +4

      Praise God🥺🥺🥺. We literally have no words! We thank God for using us to make an impact your marriage. We are truly humbled. May He continue to bless your union. ♥️♥️♥️♥️

    • @sebentilezanini1085
      @sebentilezanini1085 2 роки тому

      Wwow!!! Marriage is beautiful...if more people could share especially in line with Gods word on how to run our marriages....so much heartache would be avoided. Siyabonga bo Makhetha!!!! I always say be kind to one another, respect each other and always seek to understand the other persons point of view ....

  • @sharonjohns1686
    @sharonjohns1686 2 роки тому +13

    This man is flipping MATURE!! Wow very admireable couple. My goodness 💞💞💞

    • @TheMakhs
      @TheMakhs  2 роки тому +3

      A King! We thank God for the gift of Wisdom♥️♥️🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

  • @sandyleputu8258
    @sandyleputu8258 2 роки тому +49

    I am learning so much from you guys as a married woman , may God continue to use you. You guys make marriage a blessing to everyone and doable

    • @TheMakhs
      @TheMakhs  2 роки тому +1

      Thank you for choosing to journey with us Sandy. We are so humbled by your beautiful words of love and encouragement ♥️♥️

  • @NduwaMukaba
    @NduwaMukaba 2 роки тому +42

    This is sublime over here!❤️❤️ My partner thinks I'm turning into this groomed, wise mature lady😅. Not knowing I'm being groomed out there with content from you two❤️❤️✨You guys are impactful Keep up with the good works🙌 Much love from Zambia 🇿🇲

    • @karabobatshwenyi4783
      @karabobatshwenyi4783 2 роки тому +2

      Wow🥰this is nice to hear

    • @TheMakhs
      @TheMakhs  2 роки тому +5

      This is so beautiful to hear. Thank you so much for journeying with us. We are also being groomed by being on this platform♥️♥️♥️

  • @ms.buhlee
    @ms.buhlee 2 роки тому +25

    What a lovely sign name Pheto😍😍 Thank you guys for being so considerate for the Deaf community. Shout out to the interpreter!🙌 blessings to you all

    • @TheMakhs
      @TheMakhs  2 роки тому

      Thank you so much! I absolutely love my sign name!♥️♥️♥️. Calvin is incredible. He is literally holding our hands throughout this journey of inclusivity. We are grateful to him and the deaf community for embracing us with love.

  • @sinazositshange96
    @sinazositshange96 2 роки тому +9

    I honestly haven't seen any other channel with sign language interpreter, big up to The Makhs 👏👏🤗🤗

  • @mgeijho
    @mgeijho 2 роки тому +9

    60 000 subscribers here we come!!!!💃💃💃💃

  • @racheallamptey4374
    @racheallamptey4374 2 роки тому +8

    Mr. Makh is full of wisdom mahhnnn!!😭❤️ God bless you guys🙏 Amazing content 🇬🇭♥️

  • @lulumops
    @lulumops 2 роки тому +9

    So true Lerato, I also block out certain events and conditions depending on how they make me feel. It drives my partner crazy! To him I am forgetting important issues. To me, I simply block out traumatic and painful experiences.

  • @masabathamhlongo6378
    @masabathamhlongo6378 2 роки тому +3

    Phetola you’re not the only one, perhaps that’s how we are as women,because what you say is familiar , and surprisingly enough how Lerato reacts is similar to how my husband does, you know wow thanks guys this is absolutely imperative, and wisdom filled
    May the good Lord help us to be better communicators in marriage , to exercise grace wow that was a great point Lerato🙌🏽 cos wow a lot bad fights are due to bad manner of approach in communication.

  • @meesheeli9107
    @meesheeli9107 2 роки тому +7

    At this rate,with this knowledge by the time I'll be 21 I'll be offering relationship advice chile.Thank you so much for the vulnerability❤

  • @kundaikoti9701
    @kundaikoti9701 2 роки тому +9

    There are always lessons to learn over here, that's why I love it here.

    • @TheMakhs
      @TheMakhs  2 роки тому +1

      We love you being here! Thank you for tuning in every week! We see you♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

  • @wandilekwanda541
    @wandilekwanda541 2 роки тому +12

    The gang's in the house. You guys are such a blessing to all of us.❤❤

    • @TheMakhs
      @TheMakhs  2 роки тому +1

      Heeey Wandile!!! The O.G! So blessed to still have you in our corner♥️♥️

  • @karabonkadimeng9576
    @karabonkadimeng9576 2 роки тому +10

    I'm a new member here and I'm Soo mad myself for not joining the family sooner...very fruitful conversation you have here❤️

    • @TheMakhs
      @TheMakhs  2 роки тому +1

      A warm welcome to the #DreamTeam! We hope that you love it here♥️♥️♥️♥️

    • @believebecomedc3825
      @believebecomedc3825 2 роки тому

      Lucky for you, you can spend hours watching all their previous videos

  • @xsikwana
    @xsikwana 2 роки тому +4

    Im glad you are having these discussions coz guys had i gotten married in my 20's or early 30's, yeeeey i wud hev been a problem... Well not married yet but one day, when the Lord wills.

  • @pontsotsoeunyane9395
    @pontsotsoeunyane9395 2 роки тому +12

    This is so profound and yes Phetola, I can relate to that behaviour of pulling fights in the quest for attention. I like how you guys unpacked this episode and thanks for being exposing your vulnerability with is

    • @TheMakhs
      @TheMakhs  2 роки тому +1

      Thank you so much Pontsho. Thank you for creating a safe space for us to be honest and vulnerable 🤗🤗♥️

  • @A_Fruitful_Woman
    @A_Fruitful_Woman 2 роки тому +13

    The manner in which we speak, the tone, the attitude…. Wise advice. The way we approach others says a lot about our heart ♥️. We need to still learn to speak in love though our feelings are hurt, yet remaining truthful. I used to be a straight talker too, in all my relationships, and Lord did that get me in trouble.. Thank God for maturity. We need to learn to get our defences down and communicate and not just talk. #Dreamteam You Are The Bestest. 🏆

    • @TheMakhs
      @TheMakhs  2 роки тому +1

      💯💯💯❤️❤️❤️

  • @KhanyisileDlamini23
    @KhanyisileDlamini23 2 роки тому +1

    "When you want your man to do something,make it seem like it's his idea coz men don't like to be told what to do"😭wow I really learnt alot from this❤thank you so much Mrs Makhs

  • @aminutewithgod7812
    @aminutewithgod7812 2 роки тому +1

    It’s Phetola’s “ mmmh mmmh yaaah” responses😍 they get me all the time ❤️

  • @likopotsephe8979
    @likopotsephe8979 2 роки тому +6

    I'm like Lerato when it comes to communicating with grace and love. Fighting with words is truly hurtful, and then my husband will apologize later like, it's harder to forget what was said...let's just not engage until we're calm.

    • @TheMakhs
      @TheMakhs  2 роки тому

      So true. We need to remind ourselves to always fight fair, and in love♥️

  • @phiwo8998
    @phiwo8998 2 роки тому +1

    I can’t express how incredible your approach to this is. You guys use your own lives as case studies and it helps make the message so much more tangible. Thank you for putting yourselves out there. Learnt so much from
    You guys !

  • @juniorcapital3084
    @juniorcapital3084 2 роки тому +2

    The thumbnails are always so creative.

  • @MimiMosia19
    @MimiMosia19 2 роки тому

    OMG how am I only realizing the sign language interpreter now????????!
    that's so amazing that you guys had one in this video!!! Thank you for being considerate to the deaf community.

  • @snenhlanhlamashile6398
    @snenhlanhlamashile6398 2 роки тому +2

    This so so encouraging cause right now I'm peak giving up on him but i love so much so that even typing this or the thought of leaving hurts me so much but I'll hang in there

  • @nicolestroud3009
    @nicolestroud3009 2 роки тому +3

    You guys are the best! Def agree with the wife. Validating feelings can be important. I want to hear, yes you miss me too. So powerful to interrogate your feelings too. Vulnerability is such a tricky thing. Continue inspiring the world with your relationship tips/convos.

  • @sinothandosirunu
    @sinothandosirunu 2 роки тому +5

    It's so crazy how God has wired men and women's brains so differently. And yet we have to make it work, but there's so much beauty in that. Thank you for sharing these hacks with us, also, you guys having this conversation in your platform made me understand myself more because you are so relatable.

  • @charmainemathye8662
    @charmainemathye8662 2 роки тому +2

    So refreshing. The communication even in this video is simply mind blowing. Also love how Lerato articulates his thoughts

  • @limakatsoselatile6424
    @limakatsoselatile6424 2 роки тому +7

    Your content is genius, EVERY single time... I am learning so much from you. Thank you so much for this.

    • @TheMakhs
      @TheMakhs  2 роки тому

      Thank you so much ♥️♥️♥️♥️

  • @ndeshipanda3588
    @ndeshipanda3588 2 роки тому +2

    I spent a minute just rewinding you guys saying your names in sign. so thoughtful and welcoming👏

  • @beatalabercensie545
    @beatalabercensie545 2 роки тому +3

    It's the emotional intelligence for me. ❤️ I love this. God bless ✨

  • @africankenyan6089
    @africankenyan6089 2 роки тому +4

    Watching from Kenya🇰🇪

  • @RayOfLetsatsi
    @RayOfLetsatsi 2 роки тому

    Yoh Lerato drops gems beke le beke.🔥More young men need to hear him.

  • @sinolesaoana7761
    @sinolesaoana7761 2 роки тому +1

    You are my kind of "personal development'. I learn everyday from you rents. Your podcasts are always so informative ❤I am a young person who happens to grasp a lot, trust me we will get into our own marriages with these important tools. I love you so much.

  • @tabbywaithera9112
    @tabbywaithera9112 2 роки тому +3

    Love this 2...💖 freeee therapy I tell you.Enjooying every 42nd minute of this segment.God bless y'all.

  • @salomechauke6181
    @salomechauke6181 2 роки тому +3

    Let me tell you neh,this installment was so good,I had to pause it 10 minutes before it finished because I didn't want it to...more wisdom to you both 🙏🏽

    • @TheMakhs
      @TheMakhs  2 роки тому

      Aaaah this is so amazing!♥️♥️♥️♥️

  • @mantsimanesebokolodi1762
    @mantsimanesebokolodi1762 2 роки тому +3

    Sometimes it really is "1 + 1 my baby"😂😂😂😂...

  • @ThisIzKena
    @ThisIzKena 2 роки тому +3

    I LOVE that Lerato was NOT feeling that "making it my idea" point and vetted it further...King ish! 😉
    ... it was the only point in the video that made me *side eye*. So, it was nice to have him in agreement! Great video as always! 🥰🥰

    • @TheMakhs
      @TheMakhs  2 роки тому

      Thank you so much fam! ♥️♥️

  • @Lindo.N7
    @Lindo.N7 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you for the Hacks team! ..❤ still here, and ON we go🎈🎉

  • @mgeijho
    @mgeijho 2 роки тому +6

    Pheto you are not alone my sister!Adrienne on The Real says her husband sometimes tells her "babe,just tell me you miss me".and when i heard that it really made me introspect😂😂😂😂😂because i also start unnecessary fights and even i dont even know what that was about!

    • @TheMakhs
      @TheMakhs  2 роки тому +1

      😂😂😂😂🙆🏾‍♀️🙆🏾‍♀️🙆🏾‍♀️ yuuu inde lendlela (this road is long) but we are learning everyday!

  • @LM-he7eb
    @LM-he7eb 2 роки тому

    Tjeeeer! Mr.Makhs. I like the fact that you noted that Pheto's inability to admit that she misses you, could be because she doesn't trust you with her feelings. And I like that you asked how you have contributed to that mistrust.

  • @pamellagumbo4194
    @pamellagumbo4194 2 роки тому +9

    My favorite couple watching from Zimbabwe 🇿🇼 l learn a lot from your podcasts 🤍

  • @fikileassah1026
    @fikileassah1026 2 роки тому +2

    Jooo this is profound installment. When I communicate things to my husband, most of the time I mean them. My husband confuse communication and being talkative, and everytime I try to communicate something he would say "ngikhuluma kakhulu" meaning I'm talkative.

  • @ntombikayisemthembu7711
    @ntombikayisemthembu7711 2 роки тому +3

    Cn we hv annual single and married men and women seminars with you guys coz I feel like a whole lot alot of marriages and relationships cud b saved through some of the topics you touch on.

  • @mpopisirejoicemanamela278
    @mpopisirejoicemanamela278 2 роки тому +2

    Thank you family for this instalment. Love you guys❤️🙏

  • @torixx9910
    @torixx9910 2 роки тому +3

    This episode was too short😫😫😫❤️‍🔥Needless to say I love your channel

  • @dimphomoyana4928
    @dimphomoyana4928 2 роки тому +1

    That moment at 33:57-33:58🥺🥺🥺🥺....Priceless❤❤❤

  • @katlegomolokoe4437
    @katlegomolokoe4437 2 роки тому

    Reversal of roles, very dangerous. All biblical 🙌

  • @hlengiwe1464
    @hlengiwe1464 2 роки тому

    Thankyou so much for this and for being such a blessing 🙏🏾

  • @sanelisiwesanne1586
    @sanelisiwesanne1586 2 роки тому +1

    This got so real😍😍😍😍thank you for all this .May the good Lord really protect your union.i love you guys

  • @itisallaboutus8534
    @itisallaboutus8534 2 роки тому +3

    Inspiration and motivation is what I get when I come here

  • @leraydoo1
    @leraydoo1 2 роки тому +8

    AHHHHH you guys have helped me sooo much with this installment. I am definitely going to implement these communication skills in my marriage. Thank you so much.

    • @TheMakhs
      @TheMakhs  2 роки тому +1

      We are so happy to hear this! Bless you fam♥️♥️

  • @MolobaneEstateLodgeSpa
    @MolobaneEstateLodgeSpa Місяць тому

    "That was poor communication ,wow Mrakhetha😂

  • @gofa.matembe4761
    @gofa.matembe4761 2 роки тому

    Nako e ke kopanang le lona ke tlo go lela shem🙌 I appreciate you guys so so much

  • @MangyM.
    @MangyM. 2 роки тому +3

    Talk about the relevant content at the time I am in need of it😢😭😭🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️❤️❤️

  • @mahlogonolothobane7298
    @mahlogonolothobane7298 2 роки тому +2

    Amazing installment., I learnt so much. Thank you bana ba Ramogolo :-)

  • @chumamajova5503
    @chumamajova5503 2 роки тому +1

    Nit me liking befire getting into it🤭🤭🤭. I love you guys thanks for building and empowering us in this joyrney witj Christ and relationships❤️💕

  • @ThorisoMoalusi
    @ThorisoMoalusi 2 роки тому +1

    You guys are amazing. Thank you so much for allowing God to use you!

  • @LethoHali
    @LethoHali 2 роки тому +2

    Can’t wait to watch when I wake up!

  • @godandglam9636
    @godandglam9636 2 роки тому +1

    oh meeennnn!!!! I love you guys soooo much. I always look foward to your installments and y'all never disappoint. And its always the " Peace and blessings. One time too real oh yeah" for me💃💃💃 Thank you MAKHS

  • @MrsD_2022
    @MrsD_2022 2 роки тому +1

    True. Many things don't come naturally to men. I can relate to this.

  • @siyamtolo6733
    @siyamtolo6733 2 роки тому +2

    This was so lovely, fun and informative Pheto you represented sis!❤️❤️❤️

  • @darryldenemartin3651
    @darryldenemartin3651 2 роки тому +1

    I'm just here going ...🙆‍♀️🙆‍♀️🙆‍♀️🙆‍♀️🙆‍♀️🙆‍♀️🙆‍♀️... wisdom on wisdom on wisdom.😩❤

  • @LETSOALO_LIFEest2013
    @LETSOALO_LIFEest2013 2 роки тому +1

    Mnmmnh, mmmmm your names in sign language, I am sold, u are having so much fun 😄

  • @georginahkhesa7822
    @georginahkhesa7822 2 роки тому +1

    It's so true😂😂 I also start fights when I feel, subconsciously, that I'm not getting attention

  • @yyem_n
    @yyem_n 2 роки тому +1

    The Makhs are amazing guys, do the right thing maan!! 🥺❤️🔥🙏🏾 Thank you so much for the quality content, I appreciate yal!! 🥰🥰

  • @sanelemjoli4877
    @sanelemjoli4877 2 роки тому +1

    Wow this was proper hey. It's all about the approach and I agree 100x.
    The Great I AM loves you

  • @sibobuhlungu4404
    @sibobuhlungu4404 2 роки тому +1

    The wisdom in Mr Makhs, wow. God bless you🙌🙏

  • @lolwethungcawa8354
    @lolwethungcawa8354 2 роки тому

    Here for the content.
    Very insightful video, I'm definitely watching hacks for him. 🙏❤️

  • @gabrielmbundu1022
    @gabrielmbundu1022 2 роки тому +1

    Great inside really... Love what you guys are doing by keeping it real

  • @siyamtolo6733
    @siyamtolo6733 2 роки тому +1

    "You are his stress!"🤣🤣🤣🤣
    Bomb points Lerato there by role reversal! ❤️

    • @TheMakhs
      @TheMakhs  2 роки тому +1

      😂😂😂😂🙆🏾‍♀️🙆🏾‍♀️🙆🏾‍♀️

  • @siyahloks
    @siyahloks 2 роки тому +1

    Notes taken😊🥰🥰

  • @Tefo-Sethuba.
    @Tefo-Sethuba. 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you guys for this installment 😍🥰😘

  • @tsegomolema7659
    @tsegomolema7659 2 роки тому +1

    Wow I so needed to be reminded of this! Thank you 🙏🙏

  • @lesegomokaleng1006
    @lesegomokaleng1006 2 роки тому

    Enjoyed this ❤️ thanks for sharing.

  • @kwakha6103
    @kwakha6103 2 роки тому

    Signing in Tribe, 10 seconds in and already loving it.

  • @queenlilly_violinist
    @queenlilly_violinist 2 роки тому +1

    Wooow family thank you for this eye opening instalment!

  • @octovianKamau
    @octovianKamau 2 роки тому +1

    This was so so good... I relate to Phetola a lot... I'm really learning. Love from Kenya🇰🇪🇰🇪

  • @faithmaloma6176
    @faithmaloma6176 2 роки тому +1

    On the "make it seem like his idea"... I agree, it doesn't even have to be a serious issue. My e.g when we are at the shops and I suddenly remember that a child needs a pair of jeans for civvies and he would say "no, it's not in the budget, you like spending unplanned " and Bob's your uncle he comes home the next day with a better looking one and much more pricey and he comes home happy about the purchase.

    • @faithmaloma6176
      @faithmaloma6176 2 роки тому

      When he said no, I didn't argue but I knew I would still get the jea s the next day

  • @winniethipa4011
    @winniethipa4011 2 роки тому +1

    Come on!!! You guys are the best absolutely love your instalments!!

  • @bontlemofokeng4815
    @bontlemofokeng4815 2 роки тому

    The more I listen to you two week in and out I see myself in Lerato and Phetola is so much like my hubby. So it's not about men or women but characters. I love you 2 so much.

  • @katlegomolokoe4437
    @katlegomolokoe4437 2 роки тому

    Sho! This is deep and very important.

  • @Afrosoil11
    @Afrosoil11 2 роки тому

    I'm realizing Lerato is very sensitive person, it makes sense since he is a creative a well. Great installment as usual. Learning a lot

  • @traceymoumakwa3974
    @traceymoumakwa3974 2 роки тому +2

    😂 😂 😂 😂 Stiff... Phetola is more like me🤣🤣🤣

  • @SineMatokazi
    @SineMatokazi 2 роки тому +1

    The lad in the corner is brilliant!

  • @ogiyonkematiwane1224
    @ogiyonkematiwane1224 2 роки тому

    Yoh ha.a I’ve never seen soo much transparency but very well articulated and not offensive to anyone. Y’all are soo profound haibo.🔥🔥😍😍😍♥️♥️♥️..
    Your wisdom doesn’t get old, truly aligned with Christ. You guys growing with each other and not against each other is the most beautiful part. ♥️♥️😍😍😍😍. Love is soo beautiful 🤩 .
    On the men not being mind readers part, I’m taking notes🤣🤣🤣.

  • @vanessakhanya1707
    @vanessakhanya1707 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you for the lovely content and good lessons. Ja as ladies you would pick a fight not aware you just missing the person......

  • @katlegomolokoe4437
    @katlegomolokoe4437 2 роки тому

    This is very good, thank you guys for this 🙏

  • @lindomashego9472
    @lindomashego9472 2 роки тому +1

    Wow that was great thank you guys 🥰

  • @missjosephs7523
    @missjosephs7523 2 роки тому +1

    This marriage definitely is a ministry 😍🙌

  • @snenhlanhlamashile6398
    @snenhlanhlamashile6398 2 роки тому

    Currently here📍

  • @nomvuselelomatsebula4822
    @nomvuselelomatsebula4822 2 роки тому

    Thank you guys for addressing important issues that often destroy marriages. Thank you for sharing your journey and growth; this is very equipping. I have learnt a lot.

  • @LebogangShazzygalMalatji
    @LebogangShazzygalMalatji 2 роки тому +2

    This is absolutely good. I love you guys.
    May the Lord continue to glue you together ❤❤

  • @RayOfLetsatsi
    @RayOfLetsatsi 2 роки тому

    Yoh this channel🔥🔥

  • @queenria-thesidegigsavage4738
    @queenria-thesidegigsavage4738 2 роки тому +1

    Love love love this!

  • @annatsilo5757
    @annatsilo5757 2 роки тому

    So happy about the truth 😚👏👏

  • @victoriasomtyato4400
    @victoriasomtyato4400 2 роки тому

    So beautiful. Thank you for this

  • @mgeijho
    @mgeijho 2 роки тому +2

    Lorato,believe me bro,its not what you do or dont do.we are just wired like that!sometimes we dont know how to express ourselves so we end up starting fights.i wouldnt say theres anything you can do to change that.Pheto did well to explain it(the missing you but not saying it).i dont know guys,we just need prayers😂😂😂😂😂its almost as if we want our men to be on the same page and same line as us ALL THE TIME!!

  • @daphneatlholang7026
    @daphneatlholang7026 2 роки тому +1

    May God continue to bls u the Makhs indeed u r an inspiration to many of us,m really blsd about this.