Ladies, and men too, never think you can change or fix someone. Leave them before they end up ruining or taking your life. I feel so sorry for the kids and the pain and horror they experienced.
Agreed. A 35 year old woman should know that you can’t fix another person with your own external influence. When people are really broken they are broken on the inside so only they can really fix themselves. They could be supported in doing this but influence alone or sheer force of will cannot fix another person. And this guy is a lost cause for sure…
In my experience, more women than men think they can change a partner. It is not your responsibility to raise up a neglected or damaged human being. Think of yourself and your children if you have them and move on. You will always deserve better than a damaged person that needs fixing. It could save you a ton of grief, even your life.
Adrian, I went to school with a kid named Kit Darrant. At 16 he killed his mom and lived with her decomposing body for about a week and even hosted parties in their home after her murder. It’s possible he’s going to be released when he’s in his 40s which is sick to me. I have never seen a thorough account of this case and think you could bring the story more attention.
Seriously. He sounded like he should have been saying, "Sorry, Mate, I lost control of my truck and crashed it into your car. It's a bit of a mess, I'm afraid."
The fact that she said “she could change him” she knew there was issues with him and she put him first instead of her kids… sad, people need to do better
She put what she wanted before her childrens safety amd they paid the ultimate price for their mother's selfishness. He was a walking red flag and she ignored it all because she wanted a relationship, also falling pregnant within weeks of meeting someone is never a good sign someone makes sensible decisions
@@qp4fg855 its not "victim blaming". Its very obvious that his a monster and noone is trying to absolve him of the ultimate blame..... that being said... any woman that brings a man with that many red flags into her home with kids is damn right selfish and stupid at best. Im sorry but its true. If i decide to walk through the ghetto at 3am with a Rolex and an Ipad and cash on display.... then i cant expect sympathy when i get robbed. Doest mean all the blame is on me (the victim), it just means i as a grown adult had accountability to not make such a stupid decision.
thats horrific...what a sadist. i dont even wanna imagine what that woman's daughter went through before dying. positioning a mirror to see the torture you're inflicting is really....up there. he at least cannot claim he didnt do it for enjoyment. because i truly think that shows exactly what he thought of what he did to that family.
The main problem is he will get put either in solitary if he asks or on a wing with a load of other nonces and muppets like him. No doubt if he wasn't protected someone would happily get revenge on him but in the UK we treat these freaks like vulnerable kids...the irony. Fingers crossed though someone gets their chance.
This man was ultimately first a child predator. He waited until he murdered the child's mother and sibling and friend to act on his predation. Disgusting monster of the worst kind. Tragic loss of an innocent, beautiful family and friend. These psychopathic people have to be monitored before they do the unthinkable. Law enforcement has to be on top of parolees. Hope he never ever gets out. 😢
Single mothers should not let their new boyfriends anywhere near their children for at least a year after beginning a new relationship. Unfortunately, many pervs target single mothers to go after their children. Poor little children. That mother did them wrong
We don't know his _true_ motive - none was presented during his sentencing hearing (after he pleaded guilty) and the police never really established one. You don't need to prove motive for a conviction, however. There is a theory - and it's only a theory - that he had been "doing stuff" with Lacey. Terri found out and confronted him. I have absolutely no idea if that's true. Or alternatively it could just have been a coke binge, as this video describes. The only one who knows the whole truth is Bendall and that's not forthcoming from him.
100% and if the mother had bothered to look into him before moving her children in with that creep, she might have had a clue that he wasn’t interested in her, he was interested in her daughter.
I listen to true crime daily - when I'm getting ready for work, when I'm in the bath, when I'm doing housework...this one really got to me. So much failure from the legal system, so many lives destroyed by nothing short of a monster. Thank you for sharing Terry's story, her and those children should never be forgotten.
You know I've seen and heard a lot of wicked terrible things in this life but when you said that he took advantage of one of the little one when she was passing way I wasn't ready for that I am genuinely disgusted.
It made my soul hurt when I heard that. Like what the fuck. Almost like that little girl is in a better place ( I hope one exists ) as this world or rather these humans are soooo fucked up and twisted it’s scary to even share a planet with them. I find all human behaviour interesting but .... Kind of wished I’ve never watched this one.
I have to give kudos to the courts for giving him a whole life sentence. I live in the US where life without parole is often given after killing one person. It usually shocks me when I hear of someone in the UK receive 15 years for murders that would get someone the death penalty here.
Look it up, most places in US life without parole is a 25 year sentence and they can actually apply for parole after because they served their “life” sentence
I work in a prison,,,,,they live a good life in prison. 3 hots and a cot,,,,cable tv, tablets , drugs (smuggled in) and all the free time and games,,,,,,Its not punishment
I have no words! That poor family and the wee girl there for a sleepover!!!!! I’m in so much shock and so angry! The wee girl must have suffered so much as well which is just so heartbreaking! I loved the respect you showed this family and the disdain you have shown to this monster! I’m actually so heartbroken 💔 😢 xxxx
@@hazelbasil6451 She was with him for a substantial amount of time to see behaviors and patterns to understand what kind of a man this animal was. So, with that understanding she 1. Knew he was a violent lowlife druggy 2. She let that lowlife druggy impregnate her 3. Move in with her 4. Let that animal around innocent children who are entirely dependent on her for their safety. If you want to live a risky life with a lowlife then go ahead it's your choice, but the moment you force innocent children who have NO choice into your dangerous lifestyle then yeah you're taking some responsibility. Yes she was a victim, but also an enabler at worst or a fool at best. This isn't to take blame away from the killer, he's 110% responsible for the disgusting things he did but she CHOSE to share a life with such a lowlife, those kids didn't get a choice. They are the only ones without blame.
I see ur points and they are all valid to be fair especially the bit about exposing the innocent kids to this demon. If she had feelings for him too strong to see past the danger she was in and was willing to take the risk or she thought she could change him, she should have at least kept the kids away and risked her own safety only. That being said, she could have been and most likely was manipulated and controlled to another level although you'd think even then, could she have done more to alert authorities and/or family & friends?
Terri didn’t deserve to lose her life but it was her responsibility too to protect the children,never allowing them to live in the house with a such scumbag .
@@kinsan89it’s not victim blaming. Women like Terri need to start taking responsibility for their poor decisions. Her # 1 job was to protect her children and all children in her care. This exact horrific story keeps repeating itself. A conversation must be had about the role mothers play in perpetuating these tragedies.
@@kinsan89 oh give it a rest her job was to keep her kids safe protect and guide them and she failed miserably in protecting them, my mom was a single mom and she never brought a man home she dated when we was all grown and left the house, i am not saying every SM should wait till when the kids are grown, but a lot of kids that are murdered by her bf the mom has only known him for a short period one SM knew her bf for 6 months before he molested her daughters
@@kinsan89 its not "victim blaming", its accountability which apparently people like you belive grown women are incapable of having. Its very obvious that his a monster and noone is trying to absolve him of the ultimate blame..... that being said... any woman that brings a man with that many red flags into her home with kids is damn right selfish and stupid at best. Im sorry but its true. If i decide to walk through the ghetto at 3am with a Rolex and an Ipad and cash on display.... then i cant expect sympathy when i get robbed. Doest mean all the blame is on me (the victim), it just means i as a grown adult had accountability to not make such a stupid decision.
The Mom of these Children had a responsibility to keep her Children safe, yet she does not even know this monster and moves him in with her Children. Please stop putting Children in these situations.
Yep. I like Adrian’s channel, but surely all the victims cannot be all sparkly, shiny, and shooting glitter from their arse. All the young mothers are painted as angels. Sorry, but there are very few mothers like that out there as plenty have flaws such as their need for companionship superseding the need to keep their children safe from predators/abusers. Sure, they may love their children, but their responsibility to their children should come first; their maternal instinct should have kicked in to override their need to be in a relationship over the welfare of their children. And yes, the police have a responsibility, but based upon his past crimes he didn’t come across as violent person towards women and children. In situations like this, the responsibility still rests with the mother most as it’s her job to ensure her children’s safety, not to assuage her desperate need for companionship. And many of these women likely suspect or outright know the men are trouble but they think they can fix them. Or they overlook the flaws just so they can be in a relationship to the detriment of their children. Those children deserved better from their mother!
She knew he was trouble. Her mother warned her about him before he moved in. She must have seen his drug use especially when he was living under her roof.
@@doodahgurlie thank you! It hurts to hear, but it's so true. Respect towards this channel, as you said, and I would never expect Adrian to tell his stories any other way. But with all the videos he has on his channel, some are just bound to be semi-lousy parents. The only reason we get flak for having viewpoints such as this is because people think we are victim blaming. Not at all! Nobody should go through this. There's just a big difference between reasoning on what you can and cannot work out (cause nobody on this earth is perfect, and that's a part of what love is.) and someone who has one too many red flags, yet you decide it'll work out... Somehow. Hell, this channel is just a tiny piece of the iceberg. Go look at TV documentaries and whatnot. Same deal. All these murders, and not a single victim that's less than "angel" status. No wonder some love playing victims for life.
Good Morning, Adrian! I don't know if you've been told this before, but I enjoy how you give homage to the area by providing a historical recap. Your story telling methods are informative as well as entertaining. Keep up the good work!
@@jdartistry90 You don't know my actual name, so it would make no sense for you to call me anything but my screen name. Our host's name is Adrian, and we all know that because he says it in _every_ video. Therefore, it's weird that you're calling him something else entirely, a name derived from that of his channel. I guess you need everything spelled out for you. 🤦♀
Am a single parent,after being a fan of true crime documentaries my cautiousness has been increased to a new level I don't trust people near my kids or myself we no longer know whom to trust
@@hughjackson8866 I'm saying that if watching so much UA-cam is making you so distrustful that you can't engage normally in society, you need to touch grass, which is true. Of course it is.
@@tcritt While I agree that it shouldn't impair your relationships in society, what these videos should teach you is to be more aware and for what signs to look out for. Though to comment "Touch grass, dude" after just watching a murder case shows lack of empathy in the individual. If you wanted to be helpful actually try explaining to them rather than being blunt.
@@hughjackson8866 oh, but telling someone to rot is the height of internet etiquette. lol. Get down from that high horse, buddy. You can't reach the grass from all the way up there.
RIP to the victims my heart goes out to their families and friends. I hope he gets true prison justice. Thanks Adrian, I always like how you respect the victims
This is a case that I have never actually heard of before. Adrian, you always do such an amazing job telling these stories & always making sure that the victims are talked about respectfully & remembered for things other than being murder victims. You never give the criminals anything other than what they deserve. I swear some news outlets seem to glorify the killers & barely even mention the victims which is wrong! Thank you for being you & all the hard work you put into these cases so we can enjoy them🥰🥰🥰!!! Also congratulations on the coffee brand, you are killing it 😉!
I'm glad to hear the land where the home stood is now a park. The crime is heinous, but he shouldn't be remembered. A park where children can laugh and play is the memorial that the victims deserve.
This has been my favorite "True Crime" channel for a while now. I work as a barber but i did go to college where i graduated with a double major in Political Science (Pre-law) and Psychology in 2008. I couldn't afford to go to law school to become a lawyer (fortunately AND unfortunately). Thanks for doing the research and putting the work in on making this content, Adrian. As dark as it is, it's very captivating. Thanks for your channel, is what i'm getting at here. I'll be watching for as long as you upload! 😎
In November I was assaulted by a man who also has a wrap sheet of multiple assaults, check fraud and drug use. For the most recent of which, he spent mere weeks in prison and had gotten out only 3 days before attacking me. Im very much in this camp of "He never should be on the street again." I know he didnt kill me, but I think there is a point where we shouldn't ignore the pattern of behavior... people like this shouldn't have to kill someone before something is actually done. I whole heartedly believe my case would have been WAY worse if I didn't fight and *sprint* away. My attacker followed me for blocks and immediately got into a fight with others in front of a bar I ran by. People like Damien Bendall prove the point, unfortunately. Some folks will continue escalating until stopped. And its a huge failure on the systems part when they dont notice the patterns and escalating crimes and behavior. I thought the whole point was to keep monsters from doing more horrible shit..
I honestly feel for the kids and the family. Unpopular opinion, but she chose her wants over the needs of her kids. Once she found out what type of guy he was keeping him around, her kids is disturbing.
100% agree. This man literally wore an electronic tagging device around her. You would think that would make anyone curious enough to at least conduct a little bit of screening on his past charges and criminal background
I just wrote a long process of thought on this matter, then saw your sage comment. Mine was similar, but way longer...lol. What I find disturbing is how Adrian kept on & on about what a wonderful, loving mother Terri was. I'm certain Terri was a generally nice person, but it is nothing short of a TRAVESTY Adrian just keeps yammering on about Terri being a good mother. Farthest from the truth.
I bloody cried when you revealed who had been murdered, I wasn't expecting kids. This is honestly horrendous and brutal. Rest in peace to the victims and sending love to any remaining family effected by this horrendous case
She was a child. Just a child. There are instances where I can find compassion for the perpetrator, usually due to an abusive childhood, but in this case - there is none. May he pay for what he's done in kind, in prison. May those three beautiful children, their mother, and their grieving families find some semblance of peace.
Good morning from TN Adrian, I love your videos and wait every week for the next ones. You are my favorite true crime channel i love your research and the sympathy you show to the victims to remind us that they had families who all loved them and they had lives and who they all were before they were taken to soon because of evil and someones selfishness. Keep up the great work we are all here supporting you. Hope your day is full of happiness and coffee.
Terry, by choosing this psychopath and letting him move in , put all the children at risk, as well as herself and her unborn baby. If she was a foster parent, she would have been shut down unless she kicked him out with the police to aid her. She ignored her family's warnings and paid the price with her own brutal, horrendous murder. No neighbourhood kids should have been allowed to stay overnight; the poor little friend , also killed. I don't think the psycho wanted a child. He chose to go to prison to be around his own likeness and Terry, his meal ticket was gone. Thoughts to the families, hurt forever.
I agree, she didn’t deserve to die but she was a poor mother for moving her kids in with a guy she’d known for five months who rocked up wearing an ankle tag. What the actual hell.
My husband is a coffee roaster so I love the coffee factor with my crime fix! I can’t wait to try your coffee! As always even though this content is hard I appreciate the depth you take in investigating and understanding the case before presenting. This channel is on my play list every day!
Never been so early to a Coffeehouse Crime upload! One of my favourite true crime UA-camrs. Thank you for always being so respectful + creating a safe, welcoming space🤍
Adrian! Haven’t commented before but we are big fans, my hubby and I are members of the CC family!! Great job covering these incredibly tragic stories. You always cover them with sensitivity, unbiased journalism and a true desire to bring awareness and support to the victims. Coffeehouse Crime is one of our favorite channels since the beginning. Great work! ❤ This story was horrifying really. No words. Enough has been said. Godspeed to all.
What a tragic waste of life. Thank you for your videos Adrian and the sensitivity you display to the victims of all your stories. Hello from Australia, stay safe everyone.
Jag måste bara tala om, att det jag älskar med Din kanal, är hur duktig du är på att få in både fakta om VAR vi är i t.ex England. Historian bakom personer, och sedan dessutom fakta om själva brottet, och det som kommer efteråt. Så proffsigt gjort. Jag har lite svårt för videos som är 1 timme- 2 timmar långa, där det mesta som säjs är totalt ointressant!! Man tröttnar efter 30 minuter...😮 Att få med så mycket relevant fakta som här , är respekt och så perfekt!! Allt som vi behöver veta, utan annat som vissa bara fyller ut programtid med. Tack Så mycket!!🎉❤🇬🇧🇫🇴🇸🇪👍
Cocaine makes people go completely crazy, I've seen some friends search for cops inside cupboards and walk with no shirt during winter armed with shower cords
What a tragedy. Being a good mother is much more than taking care of the daily needs of your children. It involves sacrificing your wants to what is best for them. A good mother will never bring a strange man into their home after such a short courtship. She knew he had problems and she never considered how those problems would impact her children.
Understand you're trying to be respectful of the victims, but ultimately after hearing the details it's clear that she's not the extraordinary mother you describer her as. A caring mother wouldn't put her children in such a situation knowing what she did, even if she loved him. Either it was her selfish love or her selfish desire to try to be a hero and "save" someone which allowed her to put her children in danger. She put these desires before her children.
she lived in a low crime rated place and wanted to make changes in her life of course she should've been more careful but you cant blame her he manipulated her as well its so easy to talk when its not happening to you blaming the dead mother is not gonna solve anything yall are focusing the wrong part here
As a mother of a beautiful son that is the most precious person in the world to me, I don't understand how any mother can bring a troubled man around their children. Actually, any man. I'm fortunate to be with my sons father, but if we ever separated, I will bring no other man in my house. I only want my son to live with his father. No matter how alone you feel, children's safety is more important than your feelings. It's so sad that this had to happen to this family and that we have to share this world with monsters like this. Just unfair
The problem is it comes across as victim blaming but when is some accountability going to fall on the shoulders of the women who bring these degenerates around their children. My heart goes out to them all but ultimately saying she has no accountability is just simply false. Someone maybe a victim, a good person, but if you make poor life decisions, you hold some accountability.
@ maritzagonzalez5348 I completely agree with you! Our children are the most treasured beings that God has given to us, and there is no way I would bring in a man into my house with my children in it, especially meeting him for just 5 freakin' months! That's insane!!! R.I.P ALL 5 VICTIMS!🙏
@@JuuzouSuzuya142 People have to decide if it's more important to not "victim blame" or to talk facts about real risks in this world so men, women and children can stay alive. It's frustrating that so many people are more focused on the former than the latter.
Yeah, she had to have known he was smoking weed and drinking at the least. That alone doesn't belong in the house where children live (or any house, preferably), let alone being consumed by someone who the mother knew had a criminal past. I'm not shy to victim blame since I don't feel empathy (part of my autism) so when Adrian or anyone else frames her (or any other similar "victims") as an innocent victim it grinds my nerves. She's almost as responsible as he is for what happened.
There's plenty of men that are good and children can benefit from having another "parent" around. It is a matter of doing your research and taking time to get to know the person before you let them move it.
I'm a recent subscriber and love your stories! The depth of your research is astounding. Your personality works well reporting on violent crimes. These videos are great, thank you for making them.
I love how respectful you are homie. I think one of the reasons i like true crime is I want to meet the victims and get to know them, keep there memory around a little longer, know the good they brought. You really tell their story with a heart.
I think this idea of ‘seeing the best in people’ as being a good trait is ridiculous. If you see the worst in people you can be prepared for their bad behaviour and not walk into their traps.
The phrase I prefer is “expecting the worst, hoping for the best”. Idealism without grounding in realism is naivety, which is only acceptable in children. You can be optimistic and see the best in people, but ignoring red flags, putting yourself or others at risk, is not okay. Not taking the proper safety precautions is enabling the worst in someone who is struggling. (I say this as someone who is optimistic, idealistic, and sees the best in people naturally- I’ve learned the realism and practicality to be able to help others and protect myself.) The problem with seeing the worst is that it can lead to trust issues, anxiety, and paranoia. It’s all about balance.
Once again you did an excellent job with this one Adrian. Thankyou. Had a hard time listening to what he did to that poor child. Hope he finds rewards for these despicable acts in jail. Poor sweet babies
When I watch your content man it hurts me so much what people go through and I see what kind of monsters are among us, but at the same time i also learn and realise how much I love people around me and it makes me care about my loved ones even more. Thank you ❤
My neighbour got over a gambling addiction, which is very rare. He was offered a job helping others at the rehabilitation unit that helped him. They dealt with all addictions including drugs. He told me the success rate was 3 to 5%, very very few are able to get over their addiction it’s ingrained in their DNA. If professionals can’t fix them none of us has any hope.
I used to work the the Probation service in England for many years and saw the decline. Final straw for me was when the decision was made to recruit group 4 to take on some of our caseloads with literally only a few weeks training and then wonder why things go wrong!!!
A one hour video?? Can't wait! Thank you Adrian for all the time and effort you put into these videos. The quality speaks volymes 👌 Your videos keeps me company whenever I feel lonely and your vioce is very comforting to listen to. Again, thank you!
Whenever kids are murdered, it hits particularly hard. And I believe, those who murder kids should themselves be put to a similar fate. I make no apology for saying that. The circumstances of Connie's death - merely a sleepover visit - is especially tragic, and it remind me of a rule I had in my home when my kids were young. They were never allowed to sleepover at anyone's house. The reality is, many times, the picture seen on the outside is entirely different on the inside of people's homes, and for that reason, I did not trust having my kids do sleepover. My kids are now grown adults with children of their own, and they adhere to the same principle in raising my grandchildren.
Wow for the first time since subscribing I’m actually here watching an episode before the one hour mark of it being up! Love your videos and how well made they are! Thanks for sharing them! ❤😊
@danieljacot3083 No, but.. killing someone, let alone four you'd think they would bave difficulty expressing that. Maybe show some remorse? He said that with the same intonation, I would if I forgot to buy eggs. The lack of emotion is what's terrifying
@@Rue1993 As someone admittedly amateur, I think that suggests a psychopath. No empathy. No remorse. No feelings for anyone else but himself, and even that is impoverished. He reports his own physical injuries to the officer very matter of fact, but no reference to genuine feeling, emotion, distress. No concern for the officer and what the poor man is going to face inside that house. He has an arid desert in his brain and mind. A very dangerous man.
@user-nx5ws7rf2f Categorically, are all psychopaths capable of this level of violence? I know this is a rabbit hole question, but if you come across anyone diagnosed with psycopathy, I'm guessing you'd never know right?
Thank you for being so kind and empathetic while telling these stories. There is a noticeable shift when talking about that POS monster and then talking about the victims. I appreciate you.
Would love to see you cover the case of Ricardo Medina Jr., the actor from the Power Rangers franchise who ended up murdering his roommate with a Conan the Barbarian replica sword. It was an interesting case since at first it seemed like he'd get away with it being 'self-defense', but then they decided to turn around and charge him for manslaughter (there was confusion on what happened the night Medina's roommate broke into his bedroom during an argument). I've only seen small bits from the case, mostly while it was happening, and would love seeing it get a proper deep dive especially as Medina is out of prison now.
You said it was an oversight by his probation officer that he was allowed to live with Terry and her kids. However, I'm not sure what he says about where he lived. More importantly, it was negligent on Terry's part to allow him into her home around her children. It's critical that parents be warned and held accountable for such things. The children don't get a say in the matter. In this case, they paid the ultimate price for their mother's decision. Absolutely gut wrenching for Terry, her children, and her daughter's friend. 💔💔😥💔💔
@@horseisjustcats.tapedtogether Fact of the matter is all of those children would still be alive if she hadn't let some worthless loser move in after five minutes.
people like him pray and manipulate women like terry because she was wanted championship he used that to his advantage could happen to anyone so dont victim blame we all say we wouldn't do that blah blah but you don't no till it happens where someone with charm, charisma and able too manipulate you too do the same things.
terry can go to hell it is them poor kids i feel for they never got to live there best lives because of the idiot poor mums choice in men she was warned he had a bad rep in his neighbourhood, any mother would have steered clear of an animal like that
As someone who’s from Sheffield and lives close to where this happened. It was such a shock because nothing like this had ever happened before. It was the biggest thing going around for quite a long time. It really did shock everyone. People were scared to go out as they didn’t know what happened. Still sad to this day
I'm sorry, but I will not ever understand why these mothers bring someone into their children's lives without knowing them well. My heart breaks for the children who have no mother that truly protects them, and they have no escape as minors. This mother was selfish and only thought of herself and her need to have companionship with a man.
For the longest time i couldnt figure out why i LOVE to watch true crime content. I started by watching FBI Files, Forensic Files, and Unsolved Mysteries in the 90s and early 00's. Now close to 40, Ive realized my morbid fascination with this topic isnt so morbid after all. I watch these because it keeps the victims of the stories alive, in a way, but mainly it reminds me of how evil this world can truly be. Becareful of who you let in your life. Its, most of the time, the closest ones to you that hurt you the most. Stay Safe and dont forget to be judgemental of new people coming into your life. It may infact save your life one day.
If I ever do visit the British Isles, I would really love to have Adrian as a guide/traveling partner/friend. Edit: I'll need to buy some plaid shirts before I get there.
If there was ever a case that warranted a death penalty it would be this one. This was awful beyond words and it is heartwrenching to think about the last moments for those children. It is nothing short of disgusting that this monster gets to live out the rest of his life with 3 meals a day and a roof over his head while the 4 people he murdered lay cold in the ground.
It's strange how killers are always good at killing people until it comes to killing themselves 🙄 Giving probation to someone with children in the house shouldn't be ignored or go unpunished either. A tragic, terrible story 😔💔
I always cringe when I hear, or have been told "Oh, he/She can change. All he/She needs is a chance." I have known fear for those who have said it to me, but fortunately have not lost anyone to such horrible circumstances. I have repeatedly reminded myself that they never seem to hear or see the truth. Unfortunately, there is no way to save someone from this kind of situation. I am grieved for the family and friends of these victims.
❤ probation officers and child protection officers are so overwhelmed with cases it is easy to make a mistake. It happens all over the world because government officials don’t think it’s important enough for funding. God bless these angels
I really do feel as though these dating apps need to start requiring criminal background checks to use because it seems like that could help prevent a lot of things like this or for women signing up on these apps maybe have a warning that states"be careful and do your diligence and do a background check on potential partners".
She knew he was bad news, the dating app is not responsable. The mother wanted a man in her bed and didn't think about her children safety. Stop with excuses. She knew he was violent.
at first, the beginning of the video sounded more like a holiday advertisement than a true crime documentary. The peaceful music , the beautiful description of the scenic routes and areas of interest; then out of nowhere " oh yeah and someone killed 4 people here".
What are your thoughts on Damien Bendall? Let me know below...
Just goes to show no matter how chill or cooperative someone is.. they can still be psychotic
Please cover the Timothy Crook in Lincoln case Adrian x
Absolutely awful person.
@@wolfrahmphosphoros5808 Was there an evaluation done?
Should have been condemned to Scaphism or Brazen Bull
Ladies, and men too, never think you can change or fix someone. Leave them before they end up ruining or taking your life. I feel so sorry for the kids and the pain and horror they experienced.
Agreed. A 35 year old woman should know that you can’t fix another person with your own external influence. When people are really broken they are broken on the inside so only they can really fix themselves. They could be supported in doing this but influence alone or sheer force of will cannot fix another person. And this guy is a lost cause for sure…
In my experience, more women than men think they can change a partner. It is not your responsibility to raise up a neglected or damaged human being. Think of yourself and your children if you have them and move on. You will always deserve better than a damaged person that needs fixing. It could save you a ton of grief, even your life.
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My thoughts exactly. You can't change people.
Fr. I once dated a woman with narcissistic personality traits. You absolutely cannot change nuttybar people.
Adrian, I went to school with a kid named Kit Darrant. At 16 he killed his mom and lived with her decomposing body for about a week and even hosted parties in their home after her murder. It’s possible he’s going to be released when he’s in his 40s which is sick to me. I have never seen a thorough account of this case and think you could bring the story more attention.
liking this so he sees it
How does him staying in jail will make your shitty disposable life any better?
@@gijane2cantwaittoseeyou203elsewhere your opinions are decent. What happened here? Is it because the first comment got 45 likes ? Jealous...
He got 28 years, not life so he is definitely getting out.
@@gijane2cantwaittoseeyou203I think you should let him come and live with ya..
He confessed in the same tone as a neighbor making small talk about the weather. Utterly chilling
Seriously. He sounded like he should have been saying, "Sorry, Mate, I lost control of my truck and crashed it into your car. It's a bit of a mess, I'm afraid."
Probably still high after the acts he committed..
Well he’s not well is he
Because he has no conscience.
@@garykelly6669 ofc he does, he knows what he's doing lol
The fact that she said “she could change him” she knew there was issues with him and she put him first instead of her kids… sad, people need to do better
She put what she wanted before her childrens safety amd they paid the ultimate price for their mother's selfishness. He was a walking red flag and she ignored it all because she wanted a relationship, also falling pregnant within weeks of meeting someone is never a good sign someone makes sensible decisions
A predator always looks for young naive, single woman with kids.
@@rossicourvosi218they paid the price for her selfishness? Look at you, blaming the victim on the internet... Good for you.
@@qp4fg855 she put the kids in danger by bringing him around them. Did I miss something?
@@qp4fg855 its not "victim blaming". Its very obvious that his a monster and noone is trying to absolve him of the ultimate blame..... that being said... any woman that brings a man with that many red flags into her home with kids is damn right selfish and stupid at best. Im sorry but its true. If i decide to walk through the ghetto at 3am with a Rolex and an Ipad and cash on display.... then i cant expect sympathy when i get robbed. Doest mean all the blame is on me (the victim), it just means i as a grown adult had accountability to not make such a stupid decision.
I would never take the chance to "change" someone if I had kids. Change is possible but not for everyone.
Dude. What's crazy is how calm and cooperative he is with the police.
It’s truly terrifying!
Its off putting almost how calm he is especially for such a vile, callous man. While injured too...
bro killed for no reason and gave himself up in the most nonchalant manner lmao
the banality of evil.
Pure socio
thats horrific...what a sadist. i dont even wanna imagine what that woman's daughter went through before dying. positioning a mirror to see the torture you're inflicting is really....up there. he at least cannot claim he didnt do it for enjoyment. because i truly think that shows exactly what he thought of what he did to that family.
Yea hearing that part about the mirror broke my heart it’s disgusting and that little girl didn’t deserve that 💔
Yh you know a lot don’t you 🫵😂
Three kids a woman and an unborn baby . What a tough guy. He's going to absolutely love prison .
I bet his tough facade will drop pretty fast in prison.
@@SipherX05he might drop the soap faster than the facade.. what a turd of a human
The main problem is he will get put either in solitary if he asks or on a wing with a load of other nonces and muppets like him. No doubt if he wasn't protected someone would happily get revenge on him but in the UK we treat these freaks like vulnerable kids...the irony. Fingers crossed though someone gets their chance.
@@SipherX05along with his drawers.😊
That part. Last sentence. 💯
This man was ultimately first a child predator. He waited until he murdered the child's mother and sibling and friend to act on his predation. Disgusting monster of the worst kind. Tragic loss of an innocent, beautiful family and friend. These psychopathic people have to be monitored before they do the unthinkable. Law enforcement has to be on top of parolees. Hope he never ever gets out. 😢
I agree
Which man?
@@ilonagasiorska7112Damien Bendall
Courts act retrospectively rather than using preventative measures
He's got a whole life sentence and has put someone in a coma with a claw hammer while serving his sentence. Not sure how he can be punished any more.
This happened in the village next to mine. I work as a child domestic abuse worker and this case really shook our whole charity
Because he wasn't black? Yeah shocking!
@@PatrickArcato and what exactly does it have to do with black?
@@anastasiabolshakova7584 You know it 😉
@@PatrickArcatoutterly ridiculous comment
I can't even imagine the heartache of the father and parents of those children. Tragic.
This ‘thing’ had his eye on Lacy the whole time. His binging was him building up the courage to do what he did.
I was thinking that... Because there's no way this kind of thing just happens out of the blue
Single mothers should not let their new boyfriends anywhere near their children for at least a year after beginning a new relationship. Unfortunately, many pervs target single mothers to go after their children. Poor little children. That mother did them wrong
Plus his record with the girl in the foster House.
We don't know his _true_ motive - none was presented during his sentencing hearing (after he pleaded guilty) and the police never really established one. You don't need to prove motive for a conviction, however.
There is a theory - and it's only a theory - that he had been "doing stuff" with Lacey. Terri found out and confronted him. I have absolutely no idea if that's true.
Or alternatively it could just have been a coke binge, as this video describes. The only one who knows the whole truth is Bendall and that's not forthcoming from him.
100% and if the mother had bothered to look into him before moving her children in with that creep, she might have had a clue that he wasn’t interested in her, he was interested in her daughter.
I listen to true crime daily - when I'm getting ready for work, when I'm in the bath, when I'm doing housework...this one really got to me. So much failure from the legal system, so many lives destroyed by nothing short of a monster. Thank you for sharing Terry's story, her and those children should never be forgotten.
Its interesting how he claimed to have did what he did, on the phone to police, yet they didn't come heavy handed… with weapons drawn. H,mmmm
the uk in a nutshell, made worse by the tories
You know I've seen and heard a lot of wicked terrible things in this life but when you said that he took advantage of one of the little one when she was passing way I wasn't ready for that I am genuinely disgusted.
Agreed. Had to take a break from the video after I heard that.
It made my soul hurt when I heard that. Like what the fuck. Almost like that little girl is in a better place ( I hope one exists ) as this world or rather these humans are soooo fucked up and twisted it’s scary to even share a planet with them. I find all human behaviour interesting but .... Kind of wished I’ve never watched this one.
You haven’t seen or heard shit if that’s tough for you. Yea it’s nasty, but it’s nothing new
@@wm1573whats the point of this comment? To brag?
did you read the original comment? whats his point then lol@@k.m512
As a father of three young girls... This was a particularly hard video to get through. It's depressing and infuriating at the same time.
Ah, beta!
Happens alot to single mothers. They're desperate for any type of attention that they neglect that a predator is really after their kids.
I have to give kudos to the courts for giving him a whole life sentence. I live in the US where life without parole is often given after killing one person. It usually shocks me when I hear of someone in the UK receive 15 years for murders that would get someone the death penalty here.
Look it up, most places in US life without parole is a 25 year sentence and they can actually apply for parole after because they served their “life” sentence
Rarely. They usually get parole.
Then do it again!
The US is barbaric
@life_in_pieces8720 Not someone who is consider high risk to reoffend. And Life without Parole is just that, no chance of parole
I work in a prison,,,,,they live a good life in prison. 3 hots and a cot,,,,cable tv, tablets , drugs (smuggled in) and all the free time and games,,,,,,Its not punishment
I have no words! That poor family and the wee girl there for a sleepover!!!!! I’m in so much shock and so angry! The wee girl must have suffered so much as well which is just so heartbreaking! I loved the respect you showed this family and the disdain you have shown to this monster! I’m actually so heartbroken 💔 😢 xxxx
Of course Terry didn’t deserve this but my god, taking risks like that for a stranger with Nazi tattoos? DO BETTER as a parent. That’s your job!
He probably convinced her that he had changed his ways and deserved a chance to better in life. People like him can't be rehabilitated.
@@CaraHTheRealCieher stupidity has cost 4 people's futures
@@rossicourvosi218Nope, stop victim blaming! She was short sighted, but the blame belonged to the killer.
@@hazelbasil6451 She was with him for a substantial amount of time to see behaviors and patterns to understand what kind of a man this animal was. So, with that understanding she 1. Knew he was a violent lowlife druggy 2. She let that lowlife druggy impregnate her 3. Move in with her 4. Let that animal around innocent children who are entirely dependent on her for their safety.
If you want to live a risky life with a lowlife then go ahead it's your choice, but the moment you force innocent children who have NO choice into your dangerous lifestyle then yeah you're taking some responsibility.
Yes she was a victim, but also an enabler at worst or a fool at best. This isn't to take blame away from the killer, he's 110% responsible for the disgusting things he did but she CHOSE to share a life with such a lowlife, those kids didn't get a choice. They are the only ones without blame.
I see ur points and they are all valid to be fair especially the bit about exposing the innocent kids to this demon. If she had feelings for him too strong to see past the danger she was in and was willing to take the risk or she thought she could change him, she should have at least kept the kids away and risked her own safety only. That being said, she could have been and most likely was manipulated and controlled to another level although you'd think even then, could she have done more to alert authorities and/or family & friends?
Terri didn’t deserve to lose her life but it was her responsibility too to protect the children,never allowing them to live in the house with a such scumbag .
Ah, yes, victim blaming.
@@kinsan89it’s not victim blaming. Women like Terri need to start taking responsibility for their poor decisions. Her # 1 job was to protect her children and all children in her care. This exact horrific story keeps repeating itself. A conversation must be had about the role mothers play in perpetuating these tragedies.
@@kinsan89 oh give it a rest her job was to keep her kids safe protect and guide them and she failed miserably in protecting them, my mom was a single mom and she never brought a man home she dated when we was all grown and left the house, i am not saying every SM should wait till when the kids are grown, but a lot of kids that are murdered by her bf the mom has only known him for a short period one SM knew her bf for 6 months before he molested her daughters
Totally victim blaming she was in the house with them. She didn't leave them alone with him. If she had she'd be alive.
@@kinsan89 its not "victim blaming", its accountability which apparently people like you belive grown women are incapable of having. Its very obvious that his a monster and noone is trying to absolve him of the ultimate blame..... that being said... any woman that brings a man with that many red flags into her home with kids is damn right selfish and stupid at best. Im sorry but its true. If i decide to walk through the ghetto at 3am with a Rolex and an Ipad and cash on display.... then i cant expect sympathy when i get robbed. Doest mean all the blame is on me (the victim), it just means i as a grown adult had accountability to not make such a stupid decision.
The Mom of these Children had a responsibility to keep her Children safe, yet she does not even know this monster and moves him in with her Children.
Please stop putting Children in these situations.
Yep. I like Adrian’s channel, but surely all the victims cannot be all sparkly, shiny, and shooting glitter from their arse. All the young mothers are painted as angels. Sorry, but there are very few mothers like that out there as plenty have flaws such as their need for companionship superseding the need to keep their children safe from predators/abusers. Sure, they may love their children, but their responsibility to their children should come first; their maternal instinct should have kicked in to override their need to be in a relationship over the welfare of their children. And yes, the police have a responsibility, but based upon his past crimes he didn’t come across as violent person towards women and children. In situations like this, the responsibility still rests with the mother most as it’s her job to ensure her children’s safety, not to assuage her desperate need for companionship. And many of these women likely suspect or outright know the men are trouble but they think they can fix them. Or they overlook the flaws just so they can be in a relationship to the detriment of their children. Those children deserved better from their mother!
Bet she wished she stuck around her kid's old man in her final moments.
She knew he was trouble. Her mother warned her about him before he moved in. She must have seen his drug use especially when he was living under her roof.
@@doodahgurlie thank you! It hurts to hear, but it's so true. Respect towards this channel, as you said, and I would never expect Adrian to tell his stories any other way. But with all the videos he has on his channel, some are just bound to be semi-lousy parents. The only reason we get flak for having viewpoints such as this is because people think we are victim blaming. Not at all! Nobody should go through this. There's just a big difference between reasoning on what you can and cannot work out (cause nobody on this earth is perfect, and that's a part of what love is.) and someone who has one too many red flags, yet you decide it'll work out... Somehow.
Hell, this channel is just a tiny piece of the iceberg. Go look at TV documentaries and whatnot. Same deal. All these murders, and not a single victim that's less than "angel" status. No wonder some love playing victims for life.
i said the same i was told i was toxic
Good Morning, Adrian! I don't know if you've been told this before, but I enjoy how you give homage to the area by providing a historical recap. Your story telling methods are informative as well as entertaining. Keep up the good work!
I agree, I like to know a bit of the back story etc. 😊
Agreed! I've learned a lot about different places from these videos. 😊
@@missdrool yeah I have too.
I love his summing up statements. He really lets rip and says stuff I think about ✌
I absolutely love your videos, the depth of your research and your storytelling ability is amazing!
I remember seeing the body cam footage of this man... truly horrific! Thanknyou for covering this cases coffeehouse ❤
Yes I seen it also .😊
His mother didn't name him Coffeehouse.
Same!
@WaitingtoHit clearly and your mother didn't call you waitingtohit 🤦♀️
@@jdartistry90 You don't know my actual name, so it would make no sense for you to call me anything but my screen name. Our host's name is Adrian, and we all know that because he says it in _every_ video. Therefore, it's weird that you're calling him something else entirely, a name derived from that of his channel. I guess you need everything spelled out for you. 🤦♀
This happened near me and it really did shock the community. The whole situation is insane. That poor family x thanks for covering it x
Am a single parent,after being a fan of true crime documentaries my cautiousness has been increased to a new level I don't trust people near my kids or myself we no longer know whom to trust
Touch grass, dude.
@@tcritt wow you're so edgy, commenting "touch grass" on a murder case. rot.
@@hughjackson8866 I'm saying that if watching so much UA-cam is making you so distrustful that you can't engage normally in society, you need to touch grass, which is true. Of course it is.
@@tcritt While I agree that it shouldn't impair your relationships in society, what these videos should teach you is to be more aware and for what signs to look out for.
Though to comment "Touch grass, dude" after just watching a murder case shows lack of empathy in the individual. If you wanted to be helpful actually try explaining to them rather than being blunt.
@@hughjackson8866 oh, but telling someone to rot is the height of internet etiquette. lol. Get down from that high horse, buddy. You can't reach the grass from all the way up there.
RIP to the victims my heart goes out to their families and friends.
I hope he gets true prison justice. Thanks Adrian, I always like how you respect the victims
This is a case that I have never actually heard of before. Adrian, you always do such an amazing job telling these stories & always making sure that the victims are talked about respectfully & remembered for things other than being murder victims. You never give the criminals anything other than what they deserve. I swear some news outlets seem to glorify the killers & barely even mention the victims which is wrong! Thank you for being you & all the hard work you put into these cases so we can enjoy them🥰🥰🥰!!! Also congratulations on the coffee brand, you are killing it 😉!
I'm glad to hear the land where the home stood is now a park. The crime is heinous, but he shouldn't be remembered. A park where children can laugh and play is the memorial that the victims deserve.
This has been my favorite "True Crime" channel for a while now. I work as a barber but i did go to college where i graduated with a double major in Political Science (Pre-law) and Psychology in 2008. I couldn't afford to go to law school to become a lawyer (fortunately AND unfortunately). Thanks for doing the research and putting the work in on making this content, Adrian. As dark as it is, it's very captivating. Thanks for your channel, is what i'm getting at here. I'll be watching for as long as you upload! 😎
the intuition of family and friends in these videos remains undefeated
In November I was assaulted by a man who also has a wrap sheet of multiple assaults, check fraud and drug use. For the most recent of which, he spent mere weeks in prison and had gotten out only 3 days before attacking me. Im very much in this camp of "He never should be on the street again." I know he didnt kill me, but I think there is a point where we shouldn't ignore the pattern of behavior... people like this shouldn't have to kill someone before something is actually done. I whole heartedly believe my case would have been WAY worse if I didn't fight and *sprint* away. My attacker followed me for blocks and immediately got into a fight with others in front of a bar I ran by. People like Damien Bendall prove the point, unfortunately. Some folks will continue escalating until stopped. And its a huge failure on the systems part when they dont notice the patterns and escalating crimes and behavior. I thought the whole point was to keep monsters from doing more horrible shit..
Dude, what’s crazy is how fast your channel is growing!! Kudos 😊❤
Of course stranger to stranger we are all proud of you keep it up your stories are great well edited perfect well deserved
Agree, except for the “dude” part.
@@EarthFirstGoVegan What's wrong with that?
@@paulbell3682 Chronically online twitter addicts find that offensive probably for some weird reason.
I honestly feel for the kids and the family. Unpopular opinion, but she chose her wants over the needs of her kids. Once she found out what type of guy he was keeping him around, her kids is disturbing.
Yep. She just had to "fill the void" with some good ol' dingaling, no matter the cost. A story old as time itself
I agree 100% Thought that from the very beginning 👍
100% agree. This man literally wore an electronic tagging device around her. You would think that would make anyone curious enough to at least conduct a little bit of screening on his past charges and criminal background
If she was loving and caring she wouldn't have allowed this bloke into her home,I agree with you,she was selfish and defective
I just wrote a long process of thought on this matter, then saw your sage comment. Mine was similar, but way longer...lol. What I find disturbing is how Adrian kept on & on about what a wonderful, loving mother Terri was. I'm certain Terri was a generally nice person, but it is nothing short of a TRAVESTY Adrian just keeps yammering on about Terri being a good mother. Farthest from the truth.
I bloody cried when you revealed who had been murdered, I wasn't expecting kids. This is honestly horrendous and brutal. Rest in peace to the victims and sending love to any remaining family effected by this horrendous case
Oh cry me a river
People like him and the lady who let him into her home are why I never let my kids go on sleepovers.
esp. nowadays
Lol your kids will grow up to be outcasts
@@PatrickArcato they will be alive outcasts
@@sonquatsch8585 That's quite a low standard 😂 just meet the parents first genius, these two were obvious red flag just by a quick look
@@PatrickArcato u got what i was puttin down.
She was a child. Just a child. There are instances where I can find compassion for the perpetrator, usually due to an abusive childhood, but in this case - there is none. May he pay for what he's done in kind, in prison. May those three beautiful children, their mother, and their grieving families find some semblance of peace.
She used TikTok so at least there's one less tiktoker
@@PatrickArcato you’re a psychopath, i saw your other comment trying to stirr up a racial fuss. Shame on you 👎
@@PatrickArcato All edge, no point. That's you.
My heart brakes for the poor/innocent children that lost their lives!
They didn't invite evil into their home, the mother did!
May they RIP 🤍🕊️
The mother is to blame too.
Good morning from TN Adrian, I love your videos and wait every week for the next ones. You are my favorite true crime channel i love your research and the sympathy you show to the victims to remind us that they had families who all loved them and they had lives and who they all were before they were taken to soon because of evil and someones selfishness. Keep up the great work we are all here supporting you. Hope your day is full of happiness and coffee.
Thank you so much!!
Terry, by choosing this psychopath and letting him move in , put all the children at risk, as well as herself and her unborn baby. If she was a foster parent, she would have been shut down unless she kicked him out with the police to aid her. She ignored her family's warnings and paid the price with her own brutal, horrendous murder. No neighbourhood kids should have been allowed to stay overnight; the poor little friend , also killed. I don't think the psycho wanted a child. He chose to go to prison to be around his own likeness and Terry, his meal ticket was gone. Thoughts to the families, hurt forever.
I agree, she didn’t deserve to die but she was a poor mother for moving her kids in with a guy she’d known for five months who rocked up wearing an ankle tag. What the actual hell.
@@tainkirrahe Thank you for supporting a non PC comment. I was a Child Protection SW and this happens so, so much.
I grew up 5 miles away from Killamarsh, thank you for covering this, you are always so respectful.
Thank you for all the work you do to bring us these horrific stories. That man was so evil.
My husband is a coffee roaster so I love the coffee factor with my crime fix! I can’t wait to try your coffee! As always even though this content is hard I appreciate the depth you take in investigating and understanding the case before presenting. This channel is on my play list every day!
Never been so early to a Coffeehouse Crime upload! One of my favourite true crime UA-camrs. Thank you for always being so respectful + creating a safe, welcoming space🤍
Thank you!
Same here. I've been "stalking" CC's page all morning! I was here within 11 minutes! of Adrian's upload. 😂
Great channel. Thank you
Adrian! Haven’t commented before but we are big fans, my hubby and I are members of the CC family!! Great job covering these incredibly tragic stories. You always cover them with sensitivity, unbiased journalism and a true desire to bring awareness and support to the victims. Coffeehouse Crime is one of our favorite channels since the beginning. Great work! ❤ This story was horrifying really. No words. Enough has been said. Godspeed to all.
What a tragic waste of life. Thank you for your videos Adrian and the sensitivity you display to the victims of all your stories. Hello from Australia, stay safe everyone.
Jag måste bara tala om, att det jag älskar med Din kanal, är hur duktig du är på att få in både fakta om VAR vi är i t.ex England. Historian bakom personer, och sedan dessutom fakta om själva brottet, och det som kommer efteråt. Så proffsigt gjort. Jag har lite svårt för videos som är 1 timme- 2 timmar långa, där det mesta som säjs är totalt ointressant!! Man tröttnar efter 30 minuter...😮 Att få med så mycket relevant fakta som här , är respekt och så perfekt!! Allt som vi behöver veta, utan annat som vissa bara fyller ut programtid med. Tack Så mycket!!🎉❤🇬🇧🇫🇴🇸🇪👍
The mother let a random dude she just met to move in with 2 young children like wtf
The poor children had a stupid mother. Period.
unbelivable
@@finch45lear Have some respect
@@seriousman7282 have some respect for truth.
These young party moms still think that way
This was a hard one to get through. Can’t believe he is so sick. To take lives in this manner is completely sadistic
Cocaine makes people go completely crazy, I've seen some friends search for cops inside cupboards and walk with no shirt during winter armed with shower cords
What a tragedy. Being a good mother is much more than taking care of the daily needs of your children. It involves sacrificing your wants to what is best for them. A good mother will never bring a strange man into their home after such a short courtship. She knew he had problems and she never considered how those problems would impact her children.
Well said
100 %
Understand you're trying to be respectful of the victims, but ultimately after hearing the details it's clear that she's not the extraordinary mother you describer her as. A caring mother wouldn't put her children in such a situation knowing what she did, even if she loved him. Either it was her selfish love or her selfish desire to try to be a hero and "save" someone which allowed her to put her children in danger. She put these desires before her children.
and then they all shout victim blaming. well if the shoe fits. its obvious she did not committ the crime, but c'mon…he was a total loser.
so true
How dare you blame a woman for making stupid choices? Women must be allowed to do whatever they want and only men must be blamed!
Human relationships are full of nuance.
she lived in a low crime rated place and wanted to make changes in her life of course she should've been more careful but you cant blame her he manipulated her as well its so easy to talk when its not happening to you blaming the dead mother is not gonna solve anything yall are focusing the wrong part here
As a mother of a beautiful son that is the most precious person in the world to me, I don't understand how any mother can bring a troubled man around their children. Actually, any man. I'm fortunate to be with my sons father, but if we ever separated, I will bring no other man in my house. I only want my son to live with his father. No matter how alone you feel, children's safety is more important than your feelings. It's so sad that this had to happen to this family and that we have to share this world with monsters like this. Just unfair
The problem is it comes across as victim blaming but when is some accountability going to fall on the shoulders of the women who bring these degenerates around their children. My heart goes out to them all but ultimately saying she has no accountability is just simply false. Someone maybe a victim, a good person, but if you make poor life decisions, you hold some accountability.
@ maritzagonzalez5348 I completely agree with you! Our children are the most treasured beings that God has given to us, and there is no way I would bring in a man into my house with my children in it, especially meeting him for just 5 freakin' months! That's insane!!! R.I.P ALL 5 VICTIMS!🙏
@@JuuzouSuzuya142 People have to decide if it's more important to not "victim blame" or to talk facts about real risks in this world so men, women and children can stay alive. It's frustrating that so many people are more focused on the former than the latter.
Yeah, she had to have known he was smoking weed and drinking at the least. That alone doesn't belong in the house where children live (or any house, preferably), let alone being consumed by someone who the mother knew had a criminal past. I'm not shy to victim blame since I don't feel empathy (part of my autism) so when Adrian or anyone else frames her (or any other similar "victims") as an innocent victim it grinds my nerves. She's almost as responsible as he is for what happened.
There's plenty of men that are good and children can benefit from having another "parent" around. It is a matter of doing your research and taking time to get to know the person before you let them move it.
I'm a recent subscriber and love your stories! The depth of your research is astounding. Your personality works well reporting on violent crimes. These videos are great, thank you for making them.
I love how respectful you are homie. I think one of the reasons i like true crime is I want to meet the victims and get to know them, keep there memory around a little longer, know the good they brought. You really tell their story with a heart.
I think this idea of ‘seeing the best in people’ as being a good trait is ridiculous. If you see the worst in people you can be prepared for their bad behaviour and not walk into their traps.
The phrase I prefer is “expecting the worst, hoping for the best”. Idealism without grounding in realism is naivety, which is only acceptable in children. You can be optimistic and see the best in people, but ignoring red flags, putting yourself or others at risk, is not okay. Not taking the proper safety precautions is enabling the worst in someone who is struggling. (I say this as someone who is optimistic, idealistic, and sees the best in people naturally- I’ve learned the realism and practicality to be able to help others and protect myself.) The problem with seeing the worst is that it can lead to trust issues, anxiety, and paranoia. It’s all about balance.
@kellybraun7048
You say it ❤
Absolutely adore your content. Thank you so much for the hard work, respect, and passion in your videos.
Making money, views and drinking coffee off people tragedy is disrespectful
I HAVE BEEN BING WATCHING THIS CHANNEL FOR THE PAST WEEK AND I cannot STOP! THIS CHANNEL IS A GEM AND IM SO GLAD I FOUND IT❤
Once again you did an excellent job with this one Adrian. Thankyou.
Had a hard time listening to what he did to that poor child. Hope he finds rewards for these despicable acts in jail.
Poor sweet babies
When I watch your content man it hurts me so much what people go through and I see what kind of monsters are among us, but at the same time i also learn and realise how much I love people around me and it makes me care about my loved ones even more. Thank you ❤
My neighbour got over a gambling addiction, which is very rare. He was offered a job helping others at the rehabilitation unit that helped him. They dealt with all addictions including drugs. He told me the success rate was 3 to 5%, very very few are able to get over their addiction it’s ingrained in their DNA. If professionals can’t fix them none of us has any hope.
You can see the difference in which the police officer talks to him before and after the bodies are discovered, he’s clearly shocked
I used to work the the Probation service in England for many years and saw the decline. Final straw for me was when the decision was made to recruit group 4 to take on some of our caseloads with literally only a few weeks training and then wonder why things go wrong!!!
The trick is to always deny probation, I mean they are convicted criminals, don't risk it!
A one hour video?? Can't wait! Thank you Adrian for all the time and effort you put into these videos. The quality speaks volymes 👌 Your videos keeps me company whenever I feel lonely and your vioce is very comforting to listen to. Again, thank you!
Whenever kids are murdered, it hits particularly hard. And I believe, those who murder kids should themselves be put to a similar fate. I make no apology for saying that. The circumstances of Connie's death - merely a sleepover visit - is especially tragic, and it remind me of a rule I had in my home when my kids were young. They were never allowed to sleepover at anyone's house. The reality is, many times, the picture seen on the outside is entirely different on the inside of people's homes, and for that reason, I did not trust having my kids do sleepover. My kids are now grown adults with children of their own, and they adhere to the same principle in raising my grandchildren.
"She thought she could change him" - no no no! Why do these lovely people think this?! Only HE can change him. ON HIS OWN. Tragic.
Wow for the first time since subscribing I’m actually here watching an episode before the one hour mark of it being up!
Love your videos and how well made they are! Thanks for sharing them! ❤😊
It's incredibly terrifying how calmly he said that. Seriously bone chilling!!
Is he supposed to scream as he says it? This is real life. Not a Hollywood movie
@danieljacot3083 No, but.. killing someone, let alone four you'd think they would bave difficulty expressing that. Maybe show some remorse? He said that with the same intonation, I would if I forgot to buy eggs. The lack of emotion is what's terrifying
@@Rue1993 Bro is just learning about psychopaths
@@Rue1993 As someone admittedly amateur, I think that suggests a psychopath. No empathy. No remorse. No feelings for anyone else but himself, and even that is impoverished. He reports his own physical injuries to the officer very matter of fact, but no reference to genuine feeling, emotion, distress. No concern for the officer and what the poor man is going to face inside that house. He has an arid desert in his brain and mind. A very dangerous man.
@user-nx5ws7rf2f Categorically, are all psychopaths capable of this level of violence? I know this is a rabbit hole question, but if you come across anyone diagnosed with psycopathy, I'm guessing you'd never know right?
Awesome video as usual. I like your research and the manner you present your cases, goes well with a cup of coffee. Keep up the good work, sir.
Thank you for being so kind and empathetic while telling these stories. There is a noticeable shift when talking about that POS monster and then talking about the victims. I appreciate you.
I just stumbled upon this channel a few days ago and it is quickly becoming my favorite true crime “show”. Great job, Adrian.
Would love to see you cover the case of Ricardo Medina Jr., the actor from the Power Rangers franchise who ended up murdering his roommate with a Conan the Barbarian replica sword. It was an interesting case since at first it seemed like he'd get away with it being 'self-defense', but then they decided to turn around and charge him for manslaughter (there was confusion on what happened the night Medina's roommate broke into his bedroom during an argument). I've only seen small bits from the case, mostly while it was happening, and would love seeing it get a proper deep dive especially as Medina is out of prison now.
I'm a big fan of this channel! Looking forward to your videos weekly!
Can't wait for the long videos. Thank you for your hardwork, Adrian.
Thank you for covering this case - you brought out much more information than I had previously been aware of. Well done Coffeehouse Crime.
We all have a sixth sense. The mother could have put her children's needs before hers. She could have told the police if she was scared.
Great Job Adrian! YOU always bring the warmth and light to such cold sad stories., THANK you!
Hey - Thanks for sharing this story!
Thanks for listening!
You said it was an oversight by his probation officer that he was allowed to live with Terry and her kids. However, I'm not sure what he says about where he lived. More importantly, it was negligent on Terry's part to allow him into her home around her children.
It's critical that parents be warned and held accountable for such things. The children don't get a say in the matter. In this case, they paid the ultimate price for their mother's decision. Absolutely gut wrenching for Terry, her children, and her daughter's friend.
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Really? Victim-blaming a woman who was murdered? 🙄 get a life
@@horseisjustcats.tapedtogether Fact of the matter is all of those children would still be alive if she hadn't let some worthless loser move in after five minutes.
people like him pray and manipulate women like terry because she was wanted championship he used that to his advantage could happen to anyone so dont victim blame we all say we wouldn't do that blah blah but you don't no till it happens where someone with charm, charisma and able too manipulate you too do the same things.
@@horseisjustcats.tapedtogethermaybe the victim shoulda used her damn brain.
terry can go to hell it is them poor kids i feel for they never got to live there best lives because of the idiot poor mums choice in men she was warned he had a bad rep in his neighbourhood, any mother would have steered clear of an animal like that
As someone who’s from Sheffield and lives close to where this happened. It was such a shock because nothing like this had ever happened before. It was the biggest thing going around for quite a long time. It really did shock everyone. People were scared to go out as they didn’t know what happened. Still sad to this day
The system is not working at all.... This "man" if we can call it this way, should never be free.....
Number 1 fan from Rwanda!! Keep it up! I am here for it! RIP to the victims and hopefully their families are coping with losing their loved ones🙏
I'm sorry, but I will not ever understand why these mothers bring someone into their children's lives without knowing them well. My heart breaks for the children who have no mother that truly protects them, and they have no escape as minors. This mother was selfish and only thought of herself and her need to have companionship with a man.
For the longest time i couldnt figure out why i LOVE to watch true crime content. I started by watching FBI Files, Forensic Files, and Unsolved Mysteries in the 90s and early 00's. Now close to 40, Ive realized my morbid fascination with this topic isnt so morbid after all. I watch these because it keeps the victims of the stories alive, in a way, but mainly it reminds me of how evil this world can truly be. Becareful of who you let in your life. Its, most of the time, the closest ones to you that hurt you the most. Stay Safe and dont forget to be judgemental of new people coming into your life. It may infact save your life one day.
The mother might have been a “caring” person but she failed her most important duty: protecting her children. With this you don’t take risks.
I can’t wait til you have more coffee mugs on your website!!! I want one so bad! I love your videos!!!
Very soon! They are already in production!
Now back in stock!!
I had to stop at 11:05 mark because I had a breakdown. This man is so terrifyingly disgusting. Foul. Vile. I am so upset
Omg! Will you be ok?
It only gets worse from there
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@@mazystarr lmao
Me too - I had to stop early in this video because this is just too dark for me.
If I ever do visit the British Isles, I would really love to have Adrian as a guide/traveling partner/friend.
Edit: I'll need to buy some plaid shirts before I get there.
genuinely one of the most depraved cases i've heard on your channel. really appreciate the high quality coverage
If there was ever a case that warranted a death penalty it would be this one. This was awful beyond words and it is heartwrenching to think about the last moments for those children. It is nothing short of disgusting that this monster gets to live out the rest of his life with 3 meals a day and a roof over his head while the 4 people he murdered lay cold in the ground.
Love you Adrian! Thank you for more great content!
Another longer video!🎉thank you for all of your hard work 🖤❤️🤍
It's strange how killers are always good at killing people until it comes to killing themselves 🙄 Giving probation to someone with children in the house shouldn't be ignored or go unpunished either. A tragic, terrible story 😔💔
I always cringe when I hear, or have been told "Oh, he/She can change. All he/She needs is a chance." I have known fear for those who have said it to me, but fortunately have not lost anyone to such horrible circumstances. I have repeatedly reminded myself that they never seem to hear or see the truth. Unfortunately, there is no way to save someone from this kind of situation. I am grieved for the family and friends of these victims.
Thank you Adrian for educating us all.❤❤❤
❤ probation officers and child protection officers are so overwhelmed with cases it is easy to make a mistake. It happens all over the world because government officials don’t think it’s important enough for funding. God bless these angels
These cases have my blood pressure skyrocketing. The caffeine probably isn't helping.
I really do feel as though these dating apps need to start requiring criminal background checks to use because it seems like that could help prevent a lot of things like this or for women signing up on these apps maybe have a warning that states"be careful and do your diligence and do a background check on potential partners".
My ex-bff was of the criminal element. I googled him and found nothing.
People just need to stop being desperate
She knew he was bad news, the dating app is not responsable. The mother wanted a man in her bed and didn't think about her children safety. Stop with excuses. She knew he was violent.
Or just avoid dating apps. I've always been sceptical over dating apps it has a lot of weird people, not worth the risk
What a sweetheart this Damien is. 😡🤬
Thanks for your hard work Adrian. You have a better voice and charisma than 99% of the newscasters I see on TV.
at first, the beginning of the video sounded more like a holiday advertisement than a true crime documentary. The peaceful music , the beautiful description of the scenic routes and areas of interest; then out of nowhere " oh yeah and someone killed 4 people here".
Love your video's 🎉 thank you for your consistency 😊