HOW TO DEAL WITH A BREAKUP - Jocko Willink
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It's a mistake to any of them exes to take them back after their caves were ravaged and now they want something stable without them putting any effort into your evolution but rather causing hear hurts. That's why pair-bonding is done by stable mature men with other working decent women who aren't inconsiderate and indecisive because they want to exploit the market. Low misery people don't belong with consciouss people. They know what they choose and why they choose it, their intent is to profit to maximum and work the minimum. Say no to leeches narcissists exploiters! They come back usually with problems and dramas because their character didn't give them good results.
He doesn’t know that women cause problems to get you to leave them so they can sleep around during that breakup. Then they get your dumbass back.
@@1stdefenseinc looks like sexual infested with promiscuity covert borderline narcs. With each of these transgressions acts they got lower and lower into their deserved holes of misery and degeneration. Sad.
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@virtuousmen can you share the link for the full interview please?
I'm wishing all my Bros on here all the best on their journey.
You too brotha
Wish you the best to brother. Stay strong, I’m trying.
Same to you bruh.
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Wish you the same Brother.
My ex broke up 3 months ago, she was my first love, and it lasted 2 years long. I was a mess for like 1 month. Its inevitable to feel like that. Time will heal. Keep your heads up boys.
Same situation bro🙌
How are you now?
Same homie, was devastated the first month and things have gotten better and ofc I still think about her but eventually you realize hey its its okay I'll be fine. Just stay strong bro.
@@CpTn_QwRk im fine dude, sometimes i still think about her, but not the way i used to. I think i let her go. I made progress in gym and social life, also i feel more confident and calm. No more worrying. How about u
@@succeedingtime that's amazing man. im going through a breakup as well. reading your comment made me feel relatable
Been there done that. And I ended up marrying the woman I walked away from, we broke up for two years and then we both came back together started dating again we were both a little more grown mentally and emotionally and started from scratch again. Now we are happily married going on three years with a daughter of our own
Wow,inspiring! In these two years,did you have a new Girl or were you single for two years straight?
That’s amazing man. Glad to hear it.
Thats amazing.
My Girlfriend broke up with me.
I have the hope that she will be come back.
But if it will be in 2 years i dont really know how i can Deal With my mind that she eventually had Sex with other guys.
Im sixteen years Old, we've been togehter since 2,8 years, nearly 3.
That was my first love.
I’m in a similar situation. First girlfriend at 17 and we were together for over a year. We got into a disagreement and whilst both parties apologized for what happened, she said she wants to be on her own for the time being. I told her her that I respected the decision and walked away. If things are meant to be she will come back, if not there’s a better Queen out there. Keep your heads up brothers.
This case is an a exception
I try and tell my 22 year old son this. He has a heart made of gold. And was just hurt recently.
He needs a man to tell him
my biggest fear is dying alone with no family, and every birthday it comes closer i fear. really messes with my head. never had a real relationship at 27. fcks me up
@@lolollolol5654 What is worse than ending up alone? Being with someone that makes you want to be alone. I went through my divorce at 37. It was the gift that keeps on giving. I was married to a woman for 10 years that did not me touching her and I got no help with the kids and chores from her. Work on yourself and do things you enjoy.
reasons why he needs a father in his life
@@lolollolol5654meditation will lead you to where you wish to go. Actual commitment to it. I recommend The Mind Illuminated + Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself + autobiography of a yogi
I was in your position and then this path changed my life in every way for the better. I went from not compatible with anyone to being compatible with everyone. This shift from awkward discomfort in myself to confidence and freedom from negative thoughts gave me many options in terms of relationships. Exercise plus meditation friend. Conquer your mind and become a happier person more comfortable in your skin so people enjoy your company more
Gold advice!
He's talking about real men with emotions who want real relationships, not those who are content with one-sided relationships (where you might as well be alone).
Felt dat…man I have faith that the one for me is out there rn somewhere…
@@genytal2191 definitely is! There's someone out there for everyone.. That's for sure.. Just gotta put the effort it and keep searching
Lmao common tate w
Yeahhh. That first sentence is paramount!
rEaL mEn 🤤
This is true . .... You can't just force a person to love you by putting in efforts
This comment section is full of positive people and im glad, its something that is missing with youtube comment sections these days. Stay hard kings, yall got this!
hard as a rock rn
@@macyanderson7166 tremendous
Tate breakup advice . 🐍 ♟️
Things fell apart five months ago. I decided to walk away and grow from the situation. In just a few months I turned all my frustration and confusion into motivation, hunger, and drive. She is back now and we are both different people - better, stronger, mature, and ready for the future.
Stay strong brothers.
This is what I tell my homies all the time.
“Either way, you are still going to hurt, So you might as well be the one walking away. Anything else you do is just an attempt at delaying the pain.”
True, a lot of pain or a little pain
Gold
No...Tell her you want a deep connection and find out what she needs from a man. Be that guy.
@@kaboom4986 see you already fucked up, you shouldn’t have to ask. You are either the guy or not the guy.
king
When you walk, keep walking, there was a reason you walked.
But what if you just walked for a pack of cigarettes? Is that what happened to all those dad's?!
@@mathewkeen2356 it's okay, if you need someone to talk to, you can chat with people in the comments or in real life.
When you sleep, keep sleeping, there was a reason you slept.
@@AB-sk4jlwhat does this mean
Currently dealing with a brokenheart. The video's message was great, but so is this comment section.
Wishing all my brothers the best and to keep strong on your paths 👊
Did you get over the broken heart, its just happened to me and its devastating. I feel lost and so much anxiety !
@@marcprobert1444 Slowly, my brother. I "kept looking back" at first, the complete opposite of what Jocko talks about. Don't be in self sabotage mode. Move forward, day by day. But it has to be without contact, pictures or social media. Don't prolong it, like I did.
We'll all get through this. We're all in this together
Being alone kind of feels good sometimes
It's TRUE, it does feel good to be alone. But once you get love and lose it, you realize hey I want that again, doesn't necessarily have to be with the same person but it can happen.
After living with a constant yelling and lying narcissist, I enjoy living alone.
The person who usually wins a negotiation is the one who cares least about the outcome. Don’t ever force anyone to love you, express yourself like you’ve got nothing to lose and if its not reciprocated, wish them the best and ADIOS
If only this was always possible. Some people are stuck in abuse and due to no fault of your own are now dependent on that person
I don’t think you can force someone to love you to begin with
@@rickurias8300Stockholm syndrome
It’s my time. Not a for a girl in my life but for me to achieve the best version of myself. Slowly but surely.
You got this brother I believe in you
Funny thing, i did this with a girl i really loved. She was having 2nd thoughts in our relationship. I walked away and didn't look back. She made contact with me a few weeks after. Shes now my wife and we have a daughter. This is a solid advise.
I've watched a number of videos today to relieve my pain, but this short video has made me stronger, thanks
Jocko is the only person on earth who uses the word procol when speaking on relationships.
Never root through the garbage once you’ve taken it to the curb… It doesn’t change, and it will only get you dirty.
All your neighbors see you doing it and when you find what you discarded you realize it had little to no value
- Rollo Tomassi
@@donquixote3292 Yes sir!
I just wrote her a long note about wishing her luck and maybe we could get back together down the road. Relationship lasted 2 years. Now I think I’ll throw away that note and walk away and won’t look back
Anything happen later on? Happier now than before?
Good job man! I did the same but sent it and it just ended up drawing it out and making me feel worse. Keep your head up king!
Throw it away brother I expressed myself to her not again not gone play myself just move on I am
@@bfdmod yeah, actually. Way happier, and I’m very glad I didn’t ever look back. I’m doing pretty well for myself now, and feel much better about not only myself, but the whole situation
@@aidens.3192did u get a better girl
Just got divorced after 26 years together.
I am still in love with her, and she doesn't want to hear from me ever again.
Moving on has been so painful.
I am trying my best.
Sorry to hear that man. 8 months later now, how are you holding up?
Did something like this with my ex fiance. I walked away from the whole thing after I found out that she was going on dates with other guys after I got out of the hospital. I dumped her and she ended up losing everyone else who had her back not long after. I saw her aunt the other week and even she wants nothing to do with her. Our mutual friends are still in my corner and I'm happy to have met the snake for the simple fact that I found the most solid people I know thanks to her.
And of course we don’t WANT that to happen to anyone. Not even a cheating ex. But that is Karma, and what goes around comes around. Good on you for moving on brotha
Good shit brother.
Fuck that bitch
Karma is great
Good move man. Living well is the best revenge.
Gotta respect yourself brother. Good move
This is the type of teaching we need for young men out here 👍🏽
Absolutely. And don't ever take a woman's opinion on what to do as a man.
If you love someone, you will always love them. Sometimes, as an adult, you realize that a romantic relationship just isn't working.
Walked away from my Melissa for 9 years. She is and always was the love of my life.
Wisewords. Wish i had men like this around me when i was younger
How old are you.
@@stupidfool7528 those waves he was talking about, had a hardtime dealing with them when i was a kid. Should have just have walked and not looked back , would have saved me a bunch of heartache. But then again it was a learning curve that gave me insight to how shallow and twofaced people are. Made my circle smaller also , better to have two solid friends than 100 halfass friends that really dont care about you.
Yep.
Walking away after having no choice is hard and it hurts
To all my brothers that are here with me,thank you for all your advice.
This is gold. It ain't easy to walk away but sometimes that's all it takes to make it work. Yes you'll definitely get those waves, cry if you have to. If there's something there for you two, she'll come back
I woke up in the middle of the night having one of these waves. So, I started watching yt to stop myself from looking back... And then I came across this. 😅
Shiiit me tooo 😂😂
I actually did this with a girl who i thought was my future wife, it was the very last thing i wanted to do at the time and it was awful, ( this is like 15 years ago ) and no we didnt get back , but to this day i am delighted i did that - but it was really hard at the time, we never spoke again
Same just happened to me. Been depressed in despair for 5 days but I think time will heal.
@@MbispingFan how ya doin buddy?
@@tobiasdontmatter1868 Made the mistake of cussing her out Instead of moving on. Didn't feel any better just made myself feel like an asshole.
@@MbispingFan nah man don’t feel bad about it. From a strictly spiritual outlook the whole experience is a huge catalyst for you to learn from. The lesson here is that there is no judgement in someone making a mistake and there is no judgement when someone you had expectations of doesn’t align with your path. Going into it you judged her for being a piece of shit. And on the level of the mind that could very well be true. But that’s not the level where spiritual growth is inhabited, and it ultimately brought you down to her level. Look deeper within yourself and see where you felt you were lacking because something external from you was seemingly lost. That is ultimately the root of all negative experiences you’ll ever have, is the inherent belief in the mind that I am lacking. I am lacking love, I am lacking character, I am lacking humility, I am lacking stature that will impress and keep a woman and keep her loyal. It is BECAUSE I am lacking that she didn’t love me. It goes on and on and none of it is true ultimately. Your conceptual sense of self may have felt damaged but your essence, your being, who you truly are deeper than the level of the mind is wholly complete and perfect and wants nothing from another except THEIR highest good. All of these negative experiences that are strongly emotionally charged are catalysts that can be used for you to retreat from the nonsense of the mind and move deeper into your being where you want nothing and need nothing from other people. This is true love and it feels good. Recognize it is not a reflection on YOU if she didn’t treat you right or love you properly. It is a reflection on her. And the mind will have you think it is a reflection of you, in doing so your mind made sense of self feels diminished and has NO CHOICE but to defend itself and attack back. There is no humility in feeling guilty for something ultimately YOU did not do. It’s simple programming in the mind meeting stimulus like the toppling of a domino falling down and taking credit for knocking over the next one even though it was a simple chain reaction of the last 50 dominos. It was an unconscious reaction not rooted in love, which FEELS bad, FEELS like guilt and depression and manifests as anxiety and anger and it feels this way because it is not true to who you are on the deepest level. That’s why Love feels so good because something inside of you resonates with it like the two prongs of a tuning fork. This may not be what you needed to hear but it’s what naturally flowed from me when I saw your pain. This world is so full of hatred and condemnation but it doesn’t have to be. Love her not by accepting her actions as justifiable. But by understanding “she knows not what she’s doing” as Jesus said. She’s acting from a spiritually defined unconscious mind rooted basis of being. And there is no judgement in that. Love her by letting her go in the least judgmental way you know possible. She just wasn’t the one for you, and wish her the best and move on ❤️
@@tobiasdontmatter1868 wow what a rant, I read 2 sentences.
I was once advised to not react from the heart when something crappy happens in a relationship
If you are in a cafe or a bar situation and your girlfriend turns to you and says she thinks that things aren't working out and says she wants to end things..... don't get all teary eyed and start to plead your case...... just say " oh ok" and don't let her see what you really feel...... she is counting on being in control and fully expects you to be heartbroken........
He was totally right because if it is over you have denied her the dominant position and she will start to doubt herself and find you to be stronger than she thought...
If it's over its over but if she has doubts later your position is much better if she comes back......
But if you call her or text her at all she has won.......
But it is hard specially when you love her that much and afraid of being alone
@@subswithoutavideo-ee5mq Same but that is what builds character. It was very hard for me but I wont text her ever again if she doesnt come back
I Sent the heartfelt message after a month of no contact had to get it off my chest. deleted all photos and messages and binned it. Respond back if you want to talk if not adios
I hardly ever give videos a like but this guy is talking directly to me right now. It’s hard wanting somebody who doesn’t want you.
As a woman, a real one that us, I want to tell you that You're Enough! Grow from it but don't internalize it b/c her lack of wisdom. I gave mine up, 2wks ago, cause I was putting in more and explaining this fell on Def ears. Yes, I love him but love me more❤❤❤
As a woman, a real one that is, I want to tell you that You're Enough! Grow from it but don't internalize it b/c her lack of wisdom. I gave mine up, 2wks ago, cause I was putting in more and explaining this fell on Def ears. Yes, I love him but love me more❤❤❤
True. Had to cut ties with a girl after 6yrs together. 1year later and I'm still going through the emotions. Still wish it wasn't like this and I didn't have to feel like this. But it was necessary and all I can do is hold my head high and keep on marching on.
It gets better every year. By 3 your pretty much over it. By 7 you are Scott free
3 years later i still miss her.
had other girlfriends but they never feel the same
They are all cunning conniving horses and cows. Don't be a simp. Stick to the mission soldier. They are only an accessory to a fully formed , self-sufficient man. Shes a luxury item.
@@johnpittscom thanks bro this really helps
I was with my ex for nearly 5 years longest relationship for me and it’s been over a year now and am still struggling to just move on and be happy bro she never leaves my head no matter what I do and I reckon it’s made worse and more heightened because of my adhd so like constantly in my own head and overthinking but the sad fact is that it’s all part of life bro if anything’s ever meant to be then it will certainly be!, keep ye head up broski🤛🙏✌️
Wish I heard this at 21
Just hearing this at 21 after walking away. Guess I got lucky figuring it out early enough. It hurts though
You're only 22... Chill
@@billyyager im 27
Right
Same but it wouldnt have resonated then...
42 years married to the same woman, and I had to do the same. Just walk away and don’t look back, even though the road ahead is shorter.
This is really facts. I got the best outcomes out of women when I just focused on me vs worrying so much about making them happy
Yeah... That's a lesson I'm learning now
Same and boy does it hurt
@@lashodsavage8312 it does man, I know it does. It sucks. But you're going to be okay man. It'll take some time but you're going to be okay.
@@lashodsavage8312 Look up for strength.
Me too man dealing with it right now..
Me too
"If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours. If they don't, they never were."
Kahlil Gibran
Why would you take her when she returned? She's back with more bodies! It's done! Move forward
If she loves you she won't leave. She leaves because she thinks she can get something better and when she figures out she can't she goes back and settles for you.
Take her back after she got ran through and couldn’t secure a better deal no thanks
'If you love someone, let them go. If they don't come back, hunt them down and kill them' T-shirt shop, Toronto, 1986.
@@terencejay8845 this the one
I know he’s giving advice for guys but I’m gonna take his advice for me too. Cause I needed to hear that. Good luck to you all! 💕
Hi Lindsay
It will work dear..I dido it...it will hirt but give sweet results...be strong...🙏
Uh what if he’s following the same advice? This only works if one party does it not both. Since he’s speaking to guys, maybe you sit this one out sweet heart
@@itzdan0s477 boy you don’t know me well enough to call me sweetheart and for the record it’s one word not two. Maybe you should have paid more attention in English class, sweetheart.
1 week no contact with her, she messaged saying I'm in her thoughts everyday 😅... I replied mirroring simply saying youre in mine too, but I didn't chase, DO NOT CHASE THEM... they broke up with you, the ball is always in their court. Don't ignore when they reach out, but don't chase. If they don't reply to your reply it's likely they were testing to see where you were in your head... if that's the case, apply no contact again, DO NOT CHASE
Still getting those waves but I know it’s cuz I really loved her, and maybe one day that love is gonna be there for the girl that gives it back, or even better it’ll be there for me… thanks jocko, u remind me that I’m doing the right thing when I doubt myself
I walked away a week ago, thank you for this because I was starting to struggle with those waves, but now I know that they will be less frequent
Same here bro
Same here brotha
How are you doing?
@@jmills9219 thank you, much better. I walked away, she’s still chasing me. But we live in different states and I’m concentrating on work so I doubt it will go anywhere, but since I’m not talking to anyone else right now, I don’t mind the calls.
How are you now?
He’s right, I’ve learned this over time. Brothers stand and unite
Took me a bit to realize that, but it worked. She was having second thoughts, wanting to just be friends. She had commitment issue but didn’t wanna let go fully. Finally I said enough is enough I’m done. Week later, after begging me, I gave in and took her out to a chick fil a lol. We talked, here we are 3 years later living together. She’s been asking where the ring is. And I think she’s got me convinced that I’m the only man she wants. Some times they just need to be reminded what it’s like to not be with you to better appreciate why they loved being with you in the first place.
Almost like me now. Broke up after 5 years with my Fiancée. But it was a good breakup. Need to work on ourselves! Hope we get back together.
@@victor-arnovisagie9356 same rn
@@masyvalorant a lot of things happened. we are still not together but i feel great. Last week Wednesday i was fully over the break-up. I am better of without her. Stay Strong Masy. Trust me, it gets better! There will be a day where you don't give a shit anymore. But feel your emotions and heal. You got this!
In the beginning God created Heaven and Earth. He created humans too to have a relationship with Him. That's our purpose as humans that have a relationship with God. Sin, however, messed that up because it made us imperfect and imperfect creatures cannot have a relationship with a perfect and holy God. That's why we so oftentimes feel empty, unsatisfied and unaccomplished because we're not in relationship with the God we were created to be in a relationship with. But that's where Jesus comes in. Jesus is God's son and He came down to earth in human form to live the same life we do yet unlike us He never sinned. Jesus is perfect. Yet despite the fact He is perfect He died on the cross for our sins and sacrifice Himself for us. The punishment for our sins is death but because Jesus took that punishment for us if we put our faith in Him and receive Him as Lord and savior we can be reconciled to God and be restored to that relationship we were created to have. And we can be sure that Jesus is the Son of God because on the 3rd day God raised Him from the dead and in that He defeated death and the grave, proving that He can do the same for us if we put our faith in trust in Him. That's how you get to Heaven. That's how you become full in your heart. That's how you become reconciled to the God who created you.
I wish God would speak to me the same way.
Went through this last October, girl straight up ghosted me and I was actually fucking tearing up at work... this was a short lived relationship but one that happened after being in a previous relationship for 4 years, so having someone again felt so good.
Sorry man..let your heart be strong.
Just "having someone" shouldn't ever be the goal. That void must be filled with something else, or else we end up dependant on the other person for our happiness.
@@dimitrijekrstic7567 that's the trick. To become self reliant on your own on all levels, in this case emotionally. But damn it's hard.
There's many things about the modern world that I hate. But there's probably not a thing that disgusts me more than ghosting.
It's worse then telling someone all their flaws. It's telling them their nothing, insignificant, not deserving of the slightest human respect.
The inhumane nature of it blows my mind. I actually feel like theirs a shade of evilness to it. Like theirs a perverse joy they get out of the person not knowing. That texting "this isn't working out. Im going to stop contact. Bye" is to fast. That being abrupt or dismissive is not enough. That the real pleasure comes 2-3 weeks later when they are sitting in bed smiling at the fact that the person may still be wondering if it's really over. Convincing themselves that they are worthy of all this "pining" and "attention" whether if it's happening or not.
Hoping, praying that they get a text from them a month later attempting some kind of closure "Ok, I guess that's it. Good Luck" confirming that it really was happening. The torment of another. Proving that they really are a gift from god. Or someone else.
@@mathewkeen2356 it’s a blessing to be ghosted, she saved you time to move on….I believe giving a women non-sexual attention cause deep emotional attachment. Just focus on faith,health and money while dating this helps me since I know women can leave anytime. Another question you should ask yourself is what do you really miss about her? It’s usually just sex, build your roster for a peace of mind. 💯
Just went through something like this and I'm really hoping I can move on.
Trust me, you can. Doesn't mean that it's not going to be painful but keep walking if they don't want you back. What Jocko is saying here is absolutely true.
You can brother
Same :(
@Mrwompwomp Iam how long does it take?
@Mrwompwomp Iam thanks man, huge respect to you!
I appreciate it!
Its ok brothers. Stay strong and keep pushing. We got this far bro. No sense giving up now 💪🏻🏃🏻
Im into this situation rn. The 1st month is the hardest but I am now eventually moving on slowly but surely.
Yeah that 1st month or 2 fucking sucks. The brain wants to do that Disney shit were you keep running after her.
This hits hard. Needed to hear this. God has it's mysterious ways
You'll find the strength within yourself to do what's best for your own life, no God included.. you're God my bro, so am I so is everybody.. you got this
Go away and give them a chance to miss you. By walking away, you force them to realise what they have just done and know you won’t be there when they need you.
@@eireann2894,
The point about the Nick's comment is, people needed to hear this message and GOD provided it to, help them heal and move forward on a positive healthy direction.
What you posted shows we are not gods, just prideful and arrogant :-(
"If you love them let them go"
age old and still golden
😢
“Absence makes the heart grow fonder.” Any friendships, relationships I have ever had in my life have both affected me in severe ways. If people want to leave you, let them go, eventually they will see what that let go and it was to late. If someone values you and the relationship they will keep you, no excuses. Walking away is better because you need the time to process things and the person that broke you and left you doesn’t deserve to know what your feeling. Period.
If you want something or someone, declare it. Make it known and ask. If it tells you that you're not the one, then walk away. But if you teach yourself to abandon a woman without direct communication, know that you abandoning her is the picture you paint for her when she thinks of her potential future & children with you when things gets tough.
It’s extremely hard for dudes with few options NOT to have “oneitis”
Wow, this comment breaks my heart. There's never just one option.
what does this comment mean?
@@donshifty it means that it easy for guys who aren’t the best at finding girls who like them and they like back to latch on too hard when they finally do find one. They assume that this new girl has to be “the one” since the chances they have had so far are few and far between.
@@nick_steele9790 thanks
Yes love is just another addiction like all of the others
No
@@chucknorris9667 father, is that you?
Literally went through this, it worked. She needs to know you are strong enough to stand on your own. Never been happier, best relationship I've ever had. The key is to handle it with maturity, not attacking her because you are hurt.
My long-term partner decided he didn't want to try to make things work anymore. I wasn't the best at the time, and I realized that later. I begged him to talk to me so we could work things out, but he didn't want to. After 2 months of this, I started to focus on improving myself and nothing else. I stopped replying to him - it drove him crazy and he started trying harder to get my attention again. About 2 months later, he broke down and said he would do anything to be with me again.
Those 4 months changed everything about our relationship. Our communication improved drastically, because we decided we never wanted to fight over stupid things again.
So how’s it going now?
@@eikmeer123 I'm cringing reading my old comment now... but we got married :)
You also become stronger against that emotion. Love can't hurt you anymore, and you can now enjoy it to its fullest when shows up again.
If the love can't hurt you was it for real?
If you’re unable to get hurt then you never truly loved.
Sometimes it’s hard to tell when she comes back, if she’s the one or she is completely insane.
He’s not lying about those waves cuz I’m going through it! 😮💨😩
Now I feel his words.
I've never heard from the girl by herself for 2 years, I was foolishly thinking about her and sad but now I know it was for something better that is cooking slowly and steadily for my future.
Thanks for real
Words of wisdom there
I wish I had seen this when my ex partner left me, I made it worse and worse the more I fought for her love. Now she hates me 💔
The balme is solely on the Western degenerate culture
As a woman I did that, wished him well today and now letting go but he is in my heart.
He said he is emotionally unavailable, to busy. It hurts but I also realise I can't be selfish. He said it would be selfish to keep seeing me and he has romantic feelings for me but 'sometimes it doesn't work'.
Wish I was not so open hearted it hurts but I did my best.
This was awesome advice. Hang in there fellas. God has someone for everyone, Don’t give up , stay in prayer and when that right one comes you will know. 😊
Sage advice. I did exactly this and after a short time she came back. Married 20 years now.
This gives me hope
Tell us a bit about your story :)
Yup, I did this and the next one was my wife. We started dating right after my Ex and we've been together ever since and that was in 2011.
This is accurate. Walk away from what’s not serving you. If she returns she’s truly yours.
Walk away, don’t look back, learn, and improve on yourself; this helped me deal with a breakup from a mutually toxic relationship and all I can say is I’m doing better, if she’s doing better then good for her, but if not then I have the strength to go back to that toxicity.
All that’s left is too progress and be good to the next person in my life
Things in life that hurt the most like this makes you a stronger better person, in a strange way pain is good for you.
Damn, this hit hard. Happened to me not too long ago, but like he said, the waves are becoming less frequent and not hitting as hard as time progresses and as I move forward.
Did this about a year ago and it’s one of the best decisions I’ve ever made it’s gonna hurt but I promise you it’ll make you stronger as a man
This is good advice for the ladies as well. Walk away & don’t look back
Exactly right!! It took me years to learn that. Absolutely true words
This is very hard to do but when you do it you'll feel better. Look forward and be productive.
Mom and dad taught me this true love will always find itself back if it's not meant to be its not meant to be
Absolutely 100%
This happened between myself and my wife, 20 years ago. It took about two months.
This is legendary! Thanks for sharing king!
I needed to hear this right now man. What I been dealing with bro smh, draining bro. Glad I came across this when I did definitely needed to hear this.
I have recently been in a breakup of 3.5 years. This just happened about 2 weeks. The reason for this was bc I moved up to her state and been living with her for almost 11 months and didn’t have a job, didn’t want to go out, just didn’t want to do anything. And I brought her down with me so she broke up with me and now I wished I could do everything in my power to get back. I can’t sleep at night, can’t eat, constantly thinking about her. I keep telling myself to keep my head up but it’s really hard as I thought I was gonna be with her for the rest of my life😭
I thought i would never be able to heal from it. Really thought and believed she was the one. Nothing harder in life than the feeling of betrayal. Gut wrenching.. but things do get better. You will have to get better. Do something new
My uncle Kevin says that when a woman talks about leaving, just tell her, “You have my blessing.”
Best advice ever.
Let it go and move on.
Life will go on.
Goddamn I need this on repeat right now.
Best advice ever for your sanity and sooner or later you'll start to realize that you can get another one.
Getting away from one-sided relationships, your sanity returns, and your bank account is in better shape.
Yep this is exactly what I did last week and feel absolutely free and amazing despite getting some of those thoughts and yet they’re feeding away quite well.
This man with his continued reading and life experience with age is a wellspring of wisdom. Explaining the onslaught of emotions with heartbreak becoming strong tsunami’s to gentle waves to the eventual Placid Lake is spot on.. “ this too shall pass.”
Thank you!!! As a girl, this is really the best way for a guy to deal with this situation.
all i needed to hear right now to feel free
It's hard to walk away from someone you loved hard and saw a future with. I can't seem to get over her even though she's gone for good, she's having fun and I'm left in the dust. Yeah I guess she didn't want it, but it hurts to know it.
Chin up mate I promise it’ll get better. Focus on yourself being the best version of yourself
I agree man. Same situation here. Just gotta let time heal the hurt
you're looking back. STOP! things will get so much better when you put your focus on bettering your future
definitely feel that going through it now. I truly feel that if it’s meant to be it would be tho. What’s not meant to be inevitably will come to and end.
Wish I heard this when I was 22. I’m 30 now and had a hard time moving on from my first relationship
im 40 and have more money than you because i am ALPHA and you are poory poor
@@blinkerz4676 *LOSER DETECTED*
Dude, Jocko is like a go to dad man.
Don’t look back has been my motto lately. There’s no chance of the guy I was dating and I to mend things - he totally betrayed my trust & we just weren’t a good match anyways. I don’t even feel sad because I see that it was all a lie, there was never anything real on his side. I personally just struggle with the resentment and replaying the last moments in my head & wishing I said this, wishing I said that, etc… wanting him to see that I’m better than him etc. I want to just “don’t look back” and forget about him completely
This is tough, to walk away from the future you've set in front of you, from the life you've imagined and worked towards. Like where do you walk to, home is gone...😔
It's hard bro. Take notes and become the antifragile person she will motivate you to be
Walk towards the gym and towards success and sooner or later she will come back around along with many other beautiful women and you can be the judge of whether or not she is worth your time anymore
Yes, it's a bit of a different story if you have kids, are engaged/married or she's lived with you for a long time. Each case is different so you have to be a bit selfish and work out what is best for you in the long run.
It's your life, and a short one at that, so try and look at the big picture and decide what's best for you and your loved ones. It's not easy, I know.
Literally made me shed a tear
@@shellshock8505 why the FK would anyone want the old used up ex back anyway???? She done got piped by at least 1 -2 dudes before coming back to you anyway, why would you touch that lmao
Thank you so much jocko it takes a REAL man to address his emotions and power thru them.
Important words. Especially for young men with no father in their life. I could have used this advice growing up.
Beautifully said. I'm actually going through a break up right now and the emotions are going through the roof. It's even worse when the person you have so much love for sees you and just completely ghosted you.😢Now that's a really tough challenge to bypass. I still wish her well and I know God has better plans heading my way. 🙏
Going through a break up as we speak and didn’t know how go about it… Man I really needed to hear this
Same brother, stay strong
@@joesillamanrs7189 you too my guy
Stay strong , got same issue here
Interesting to hear this from a strong man, discussing relationship emotions explained rationally, bravo
Totally right! I did that with a guy,( kindly preserving his pride and my dignity)... cause it was foing bad...it took 4 months of staying apart but got back together and it has been wonderful now...HARD TO DO, but WOTH IT...great advise...💕🙏