The 6 things YOU should NOT expect from therapy…
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- Let's talk about therapy and what to and what not to expect. Many people are new to therapy or it may be their first time seeing a therapist, and they're like what should I expect? Is my entire life going to change right away? They want an introduction to therapy or a therapy 101 course that teaches them the DOs and DONTs of therapy. The problem is, therapy is not that black or white nor is it that simple - and it requires patience. So if you're a therapy beginner, or if you've been going to therapy for a while and not sure what to expect out of therapy, I'll try to answer some of those questions in this video, as well. This is a good therapy for beginners video, but also a good therapy for experienced clients video! If you find yourself asking what is therapy like or what should I expect out of counseling or is therapy effective or how to find a therapist or counselor - all of these questions likely make you a good candidate for this video. Let's dive deep into the things not to expect out of therapy or counseling...
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I definitely had a therapist have to excuse themselves for a phone call. It was strange, but they are human and have families. In this case, her older special needs son was having an issue. I didn't hold it against her.
Yes, it is true they have family and all. But when in a session I turn off all phones, I am paid a large amount of money to be there for them. Nothing could be so much more important in a 45 minute time frame than the person paying for my services ($80 to $150+) an hour. That person is my focus to help, that is why they see me. If I have a child like what your therapist has, I can get a message in less than an hour to take care of that. I would have my child with someone professional. I would hope they can handle what is happening for 30min until I can call back. Just my opinion
@@leecat61 What if someone is in an emergency situation. I agree thats very important to get the time you paid for, but life is too unpredictable for strict rules of any kind
One time I had a therapist weirdly look me up and down. They told me I was “pretty, but not gorgeous”. I didn’t know what to say, so I bursted into tears lol.
@@DonnaChambersonThat is inappropriate and unprofessional! In all settings.
@@tabitas.2719THIS. Jesus christ, that is not a therapist, that is a… well… okay they might be a therapist but that is a BAD ONE.
The awful therapists that I’ve had to deal with has discouraged me from continuing therapy. Sadly the bad ones can do more harm than good and really mess you up.
"but you have to keep trying on therapists till you find the right one!!!"
They also are bad for your bank account too
@@drx5661Fr
Agreed but learning red flags of narcissists will help defend against this a lot
This has motivated me to not try this at all now and like someone else said it takes away money that I simply don’t have.
I think a therapist is definitely there to listen, but giving advice when asked should be a normal thing. I’ve had to go through a couple therapists to find a good one. One of these that didn’t work, would just want me to talk for an hour and not give any advice. It was terrible. I just felt like I was talking to a wall. The one I have now is amazing. He is always trying new ways to help with problems, and he writes down everything I tell him. It’s great that he makes sure to ask me about stuff I told him months ago, and still follows up with it. He is also very welcoming, and makes me feel so much better after talking to him. Also as a side note, I have major depression and anxiety. I took a dna test to find out which meds would work best for me and I’m so glad I did. Out of over 20 something depression meds, only 2 worked with my dna. It really did help and my crappy insurance covered it all! It is called Gene Sight Testing if anyone wants to check it out!
Good to hear that ……how much does a therapist charge?
How did you find your therapist?
@@ViratMalhotra. It really does vary. But you will definitely need heath insurance. They are outrageously expensive without insurance.
@@tita8202 I had to go to many different therapists to find the right one. Which sucks, but is totally worth it. Online reviews can help, but I have found a lot to be un-true or just blow out of proportion for some therapists.
My counsellor used to fall asleep in sessions, it was awful because what do you say when they've clearly nodded off? Then she'd wake up and I just didn't know what to say. I ended up blaming myself for their behaviour.
WHAT!!! 😮😂
That's beyond unprofessional! You shouldn't blame yourself. I am sorry you had such a horrible experience!
That is terrible and not your fault at all!
Probably overworked.
Same to this day I’m scarred from the first time sought therapy and the person fell asleep and then woke up and was like just sign off on oppositional defiant disorder diagnosis. That was not okay.
If a therapist isn’t giving me advice then what are they offering? 😂
I don’t want someone to just listen
They’re supposed to be guiding you not just sitting there giving you advice. You don’t have to get advice from a therapist you can ask your friends or parents for that…
There's a difference between unsolicited advice and direction. As a therapist, I am careful not to tell clients what to do or to make decisions for them. I may suggest or brainstorm with them how to handle things though.
You'd be amazed at what listening to your own words aloud could do for you. I'd say that at a times, the therapist is trying to get you to express your thoughts in spoken words. Then you'll listen to yourself speaking. And more often than not you'll feel pretty stupid. If that happens, you're on the road to starting to make the changes you need in your life.
I was gonna write the exact same thing.
Ditto.
I had a bad therapist- She always invalidated my feelings and diminished it to make the issue seem smaller than it actually was. She wasn’t understanding me at all and she was absolutely zero help.
to be honest I was considering starting therapy.. Now I'm not so sure. The last thing I would want is for someone to just sit and nod next to me while I'm being vulnerable.
From my experience, I've learned that my therapist will ask me with a follow up question like what the emotion i was feeling was blah blah blah and will try to empathize with me. The most important part that matters is she gather all the repetitive behaviors, patterns of behaviors of showing and what types of things would HELP with problems/ coping skills. She writes down important stuff too to help her remember and organize important details.
She also makes me realize it's the little things that matters that adds up to the big things in relationships. Idk if that's all what a good therapist does but I believe she's good for me and I like her.
They don't just do that. They allow you to speak and say what you need, then ask follow up question or make suggestion for treatment. They guide you through your issues and help you find your path to healing through various means.
So, the therapist won't give me any advice, won't pick up my calls if I'm having a mental breakdown and won't show friendly behaviour. I'm not a fan of paying people thousands just for them to sit in one place and listen without saying anything useful. That's totally ridiculous.
She sounds like a bad therapist if she believes this. A good therapist will go out of their way for you if you’re actually trying to get better.
My therapist became ill and was out for 4 months. During that time I was looking for a temporary therapist to hold me over. When I met this one therapist for the first time to fill out an intake form he hinted to me that he takes tips. I didn’t even have a first session with this guy. I left so angry. I guess he got the hint. He never called me to schedule a session.
The 2nd one kept forgetting my name and kept saying someone else’s name. I had to keep correcting her. So i stopped with her. After that I just decided to wait it out until my real therapist came back. That was a really rough time for me, but I got through it. 😅
6 things not to expect from therapy
1. For it to work
2. For the therapist to care
3 (same as her #5 and 6). For the therapist to have solutions.
4. For the therapist to understand.
5. For the therapist to be honest about your flaws.
6. For the office to care about anything but your money.
Yh honestly therapy doesn't really do anything but help you understand your problems more. If you feel you already know what your problems are then they can't really do anything beyond that.
Read the book, the body keeps the score. It’s on audiobook in UA-cam. It’s two part. Then ask your therapist if they’ve read the book. Or ask your doctor. Most of them have. And will treat you totally different after you ask them that question. Don’t treat symptoms look for the cause!
I also love”Garber Matate “
You can’t take away somebody’s vices, and then start bringing up trauma. The root cause is usually behind the vices.
I’m neurodivergent & dyslexic. But didn’t have psychological testing until 50. Why ? Because nobody cared!! I’ve done 10 years of therapy straight, but I’ve had much therapy throughout the years.
I’ve had a life full of failure.
They were treating my symptoms without looking for a cause. A lifetime of failure. For something I had no ability to change my brain. Would make anybody severely depressed. Had years of EMDR it’s not that hard or complicated. I do it every night.
@@LegalizeTheNuclearBombyep 💯
Aspects of therapy can help, it's more about growth than solutions. But too many therapists are seriously uncaring or mean
The best therapist i've ever had or therapist that told me hard truths and gave me homework.
Told me what to do!
Talk therapy doesn't work with every situation. You don't always need somebody to agree with you and believe you.
I agree. I'm there to consult with a professional that will keep it real with me. I understand that it takes time to assess.
That’s a life coach
there’s different types of therapy for different people. There’s CBT and more that i haven’t named. a youtube short isn’t gonna give u all the information that u need to know, and a lot of this advice was very black and white, not descriptive
Hey, how did you find a therapist like that?
My therapist gave me the last two years of his practice for free EMDR. I went and skeptical, and was amazed how it changed my life . People are placed in your path for a reason . If they can’t help you, they may know somebody else who can . You find what you’re searching for . Search for healing . Speak it into being before you walk out the door. If you don’t find a healer, you’ll find a path to one.
And read the book or listen to the audiobook “ the body keeps the score” UA-cam has it.
So many times people are just treating the symptoms without looking at the root cause.
You always have the ability to interview your therapist.You always have the right to a second third or fourth opinion. Just like a relationship you gotta come back tell him you didn’t like what they said or you didn’t do what they said and work it out.
What is the purpose of a therapist, if not to help you with your problems?
We help with your issues but we don't do the work, you do. I brainstorm, and even provide direction but I can't cure you or fix your issues.
@@terseandtiny1746 A good friend can do that, and they don't cost $50+/h.
@@Vladimyrful the sad thing is, most people go to a therapist bc they don’t have friends. someone wouldn’t need a therapist if they had just one real friend.
@@saifxali1 i tried to talk about my problems with friends they all laughed at me so eventually i just learned its best to hold everything in
@@Ottophil Alternatively, you could go see a therapist.
KEY WORD: UNSOLICITED. I ask my therapist all the time what she thinks would be the best for me to do. She usually helps me weigh options and figure out which route I want to take
Yes! That’s the thing. She is not telling you what to do, she is giving you options and helping you in the decision making process. This is key for self determination and not relying on someone outside of yourself
I was only attracted to one of my many therapists and she was many years older than me. Nothing happened though because I was too afraid to try anything 😆 but at that point I had also seen she had a professional wall up. Most therapists are good about that, keeping that professional wall up where they send you no signals whatsoever. Most are passionate about their position and take it seriously.
It’s common honestly. They are someone who genuinely cares about you, who doesn’t love that? it can be hard to distinguish love for another from “love love” ya know? But even that can be communicated and worked out in therapy. No shame there, just be honest
All my therapist wanted was $190 an hour. I expected support and got none.
Why do people go too therapy in the first place?
Many said it actually helps people but for me it just made my life worse.
I'll give you my experience.
So, i had a complete month full of costant stress. I was 16 yrs old and basically had no safe room. In school there was complete chaos, and in family too. The problem was when all this settled. I still had rushes of panic and stress.
It got so bad to the point where i and my mom decided to take me to the therapy since we can sort something out if we know what's the cause of my discomfort.
And almost IMEDALTEY, i was sent to a neuropsycologist (all i talked was how i had problems in school, which i still had after i finished 2nd grade highschool)
From that point on as my brother was driving me to the next town where the nearest neuropsycological center was (i think this is how its called in English). We were having fights in the car about what i said to the therapist.
I could feel as our family started to tear appart while we were arguing, we were so done that we all sit in the car, silent. Nobody had words to say.
It got to the point where i just had no will to continue anymore, my brother noticed something was wrong with me and decided to try and cheer me up with jokes, which ive told him to just leave me alone.
I've felt so terrible that whole day i felt worse than wanting to end my life. It felt like everything i was told about kindness and happiness was a utter lie. Never, in my life. Have i felt so done with everything.
Before i arrived, i thought about what I was gonna say there since i dont want them to analyze me as some mentally ill person, and as we arrived. I calmed myself down, and completley lied about how it was just a stressful day and nothing else.
And after that. I wasn't diagnosed with anything. And i didnt need any psychological treatment luckily.
As we returned home, again. Everyone in the car was silent.
As soon as we arrived, I've gone to my room and locked the door.
It was 20 days of me just constantly being in there and only coming out to eat and going back in.
It took whole 4 months for all this to settle down. I still can't understand why people reccomend therapy at all. It's just terrible experience. You think you're safe when you talk to your therapist. Meanwhile its completley flipped.
Right if someone is spending all that money that therapy cost it should work.
@@Average_Crack_Addict it was not your therapist fault though
@@GalaticHunter he could've done a way better job than just send me to neurologist, the session didn't even last 3/4 minutes when I told him I was shaking during the day for a reason I won't specify. Very unprofessional of him to just say "You're going to need a neurologist for this"
It took awhile for me to find the right one, but I did and I’ve been with her for 6 years, and have healed from so much and made such good progress with her. My other therapists were either good buck ended up having to stop being my therapist for their own reasons, or weren’t good fits for me and would be very critical and judgemental of how I responded to things like stress, for example.
#2 is the only one for me..I'm friends with him..he's a really nice guy.
So let me sum that up : we're paying money for someone to listen and let something come out of us which we can already do with our journal and friends right? So if I'm going to the doctor, and say I have cough and headache should I
just expect "good luck with that! See you later :)"?
Conclusion I got: don't go to a therapist, coz I ain't gonna pay them if they're insensitive, unresponsive, couldn't give me solutions that actually work. Can't I even expect something? 😂 I'll just call my friends to have a deep talk or pray instead.
Serious question if they don’t help us with fixing our problems, why am I going to them? Hope that didn’t sound too harsh.
Right? Tf is this lady in the video talking about
I had a therapist who would just tell me what to do. The added stress of already disappointing my family, but now walking into therapy with bad news that i stayed in bed all week when she expects me to find a job. She made my life so much more stressful. On top of that she told me to break up with my boyfriend?? My life got better once i stopped seeing her 😅
Which is why I prefer to talk to loved ones
I’m not going to pay lots of money and waste my time with some rando to vent my issues and traumas for you to just listen when my friends and family already does that
Especially when I’m still the person who has to put in 100% of the work to actually improve my well being
When your therapist is your best friend-
I had a therapist constantly check her phone during one of our sessions. She didn’t say anything about it and it started to distract me and I didn’t say anything because I had hoped that maybe it was because it was an emergency and wasn’t going to happen again, but I stopped feeling comfortable to share my vulnerability with her because of that. I ended up having to stop therapy because I just couldn’t afford it anymore. I’m starting therapy again and I’m looking for someone that fits me better now.
When I was younger, I acted like I wanted my therapist to fix everything. I placed too much focus on her being older so more experienced, but she constantly reminded me she couldn't fix everything and she didn't have all the answers. I constantly wanted advice from her.
Now I see a different therapist and things have changed. Over time, I've had to learn that therapy doesn't fix everything and i don't rely on therapists for all my answers anymore or any professional for that matter.
I've also stopped thinking someone's age means they have answers I don't. I messed up the whole "respect your elders" mindset, which is why I looked at someone far older and thought they could give me direction. They couldn't always do that and I made a lot of mistakes that taught me that the best work you can do is actually outside of therapy, not in the therapist's office.
Therapists can give you pointers. They can't run your life or make you do anything. If you want change, you have to do the work. Obviously, there's a case-by-case situation where more sensitivity and compassion is important in a therapist, but as already stated, therapists are not your friends. They're trained professionals and ideally you stop needing therapy after a point.
If you really like your therapist, keep in mind people like your therapist can be found as friends outside of a professional setting.
Respect your therapist's boundaries. If your therapist is unprofessional, see a different one if possible. It can take awhile to find the right therapist, but it's rewarding to work with the right therapist for you.
Ive had a therapist not only make my situation worse, but ruin my complete relationship with my family. And yet people still want to go to therapy?
Many people expect therapist to be people who help you about personal problems and fix your relationship witha fewer words.
All they do is just give you pointers, and if you already know what's causing your problem then why go to the therapy in the first place?
It's sad how many people know whats causing them daily problems. But they can't do anything about it. And they think therapy is going to help them, yet they get this treatment.
The only one who can help you is yourself, no therapist or professional psychologist can..
@@Average_Crack_Addict honestly, sometimes the reason therapy doesnt work is because people go into it with too many expectations and/or they dont have the right therapist for them. and sometimes, you can know whats causing your problems, but it can go deeper than that. like an onion has layers. why did ur therapist ruin ur relationship with your family? did they imply that they were bad people? /gen
What i don't understand is, why should i waste time talking about things happened without them suggesting nothing to do fix it? I mean, what's the point of just "talking"? I've tried it couple times and seriously it felt pointless
I had one who did number 4 and I’m still bothered when I think about it even though it was 4 years ago
I've got a psychology assessment coming up soon so this was helpful. Thank you
Don't expect help from therapy. Got it
😂😂
Not all therapists are created equal. I'd say the vast majority is terrible. Many are jaded or got in to the job because it's "easy"
My mother is so manipulative that she DID make friends with her therapist. They’d go to concerts, the ballet, go out to dinner together (at Olive Garden, the height of fine dining in Ohio in the 90s). Even as a child I found it so weird. As an adult, I find it straight up unethical.
So, they won't cook for me? I'm disappointed.
In AA the sponsors think they are highly qualified therapists telling their sponsee's what to do, how to do it, breaking up relationships, disagreeing with your point of view, and generally being assholes. They even tell you that everytime a problem arises it is your fault. The last time I accused myself of being a predator was NEVER! The AA book tells us that the book is only for suggestions, not dictates. I dumped a sponsor a few months ago, and now I have dumped AA. I'm staying sober, but I do have a group of people to go to.
Thank you. Avoid negative people. ❤
Don’t totally agree re just listening- might as well talk to the wall- empathy is critical and the therapist has the capacity to put themselves in their clients shoes while still remaining in their own-this is what shifts and motivates change in others- walking beside them in a compassionate way-
Love this!!
My therapist telling me exactly what to do and how my head was being dumb
Therapists say that they will fix all problems when they are not doing it you are just giving them money but it doesn’t work only thing that they are doing is that you tell your problems and then they say oh I’m sorry for you LIKE EVERY SINGLE PERSON IM LITERALLY WASTING MONEY ON A PERSON THAT HASN’T GO THROUGH SHIT
I wish they could fix my problems.... I'd give anything for that.
Can you answer my question? I’m 11 and I feel like an adult cause of trauma, people, and the way my “parents” treat me. I ask myself every single day “Why am I still here if all I am is invisible?” I get ignored more that half the time I even try to talk, people talk over me then tell me to shut the h*** up, how am I supposed to live like this anymore? I don’t wanna be here!!
Omg, my former therapist would answer calls in the middle of the session and would be critical of my desire of scarifications.
I had a mental health professional laugh at my phobia. Like full on laughing telling me im not a kid and its obvious my fear is irrational. Made me feel like I should never even try to bring it up in therapy since its so ridiculous
Really great info!
Therapist is not your friend. It's a one side relationship. They are here to help you.
I disagree with this. I have friends who are private. They simply love being supportive. There is no such thing as an imbalanced friendship if both part of consent.
I have had 3-6 happen with half my therapists so many times I expect it. How do I stop picking bad therapists???? And, why do I always stay with ones that make me sad, angry, or insecure? I must be the problem if I keep accepting so much of this that I think it's normal.
My last therapist was highly critical of my cannabis use. She refused to treat me 😂 I told her she could keep the pills because the green does more for me than her bs
I have been smoking heavily for almost 30 years, of course thats my problem, my parents introduced me to it at a very young age. Now I’m supposed to go listen to someone tell me to stop?
@@Ottophil I tried to stop smoking and cant believe the actual anxiety I have needless to say my therapist gives me things that I can try to do. JC Ive tried everything to get my butt moving I dont need that type of advice, I get that from my sister. Truely the reason I went to counseling is because if I dont make it to work that day Im not out partying or having a good time Im in bed cause I cant deal with the world!!! Weed gets me to work!!
Okay, but what if you are struggling with self harm and they say to call you if you feel like your going to, then they should answer calls tho right?
still trying to get to see a therapist after a year - last one told me to get a job even though i’m caring for both parents (my mother suffers with psychosis and my father was recently diagnosed with a mitochondrial disease) and dealing with my own issues, and my normal doctor told me my anxiety is cancer so i’m kinda stuck 😅
Love your short content!! ❤❤❤ keep it up!
You shouldn't expect your therapist to give you advice at all, they need to bring YOU to find the idea/concept/whatever they're trynna explain to you
Also for #1, you actually do. That's why we go to therapy. If therapy doesn't help you heal then you need to change therapist
Why do people go too therapy in the first place?
Many said it actually helps people but for me it just made my life worse.
I'll give you my experience.
So, i had a complete month full of costant stress. I was 16 yrs old and basically had no safe room. In school there was complete chaos, and in family too. The problem was when all this settled. I still had rushes of panic and stress.
It got so bad to the point where i and my mom decided to take me to the therapy since we can sort something out if we know what's the cause of my discomfort.
And almost IMEDALTEY, i was sent to a neuropsycologist (all i talked was how i had problems in school, which i still had after i finished 2nd grade highschool)
From that point on as my brother was driving me to the next town where the nearest neuropsycological center was (i think this is how its called in English). We were having fights in the car about what i said to the therapist.
I could feel as our family started to tear appart while we were arguing, we were so done that we all sit in the car, silent. Nobody had words to say.
It got to the point where i just had no will to continue anymore, my brother noticed something was wrong with me and decided to try and cheer me up with jokes, which ive told him to just leave me alone.
I've felt so terrible that whole day i felt worse than wanting to end my life. It felt like everything i was told about kindness and happiness was a utter lie. Never, in my life. Have i felt so done with everything.
Before i arrived, i thought about what I was gonna say there since i dont want them to analyze me as some mentally ill person, and as we arrived. I calmed myself down, and completley lied about how it was just a stressful day and nothing else.
And after that. I wasn't diagnosed with anything. And i didnt need any psychological treatment luckily.
As we returned home, again. Everyone in the car was silent.
As soon as we arrived, I've gone to my room and locked the door.
It was 20 days of me just constantly being in there and only coming out to eat and going back in.
It took whole 4 months for all this to settle down. I still can't understand why people reccomend therapy at all. It's just terrible experience. You think you're safe when you talk to your therapist. Meanwhile its completley flipped.
@@Average_Crack_AddictSo basically therapy is my last shot at life and every single time I do the tiniest bit of research about what it's like it just seems worse and worse I should probably just kill myself fuck it 😂
@@Average_Crack_Addictidk If this story relates to yours but it reminded me of this time. I was in 6th grade going through a lot of stuff. I was 12 and always felt depressed. The school would tell us, if we're going through something bad we can always talk to our counselor. I told my counselor that I was going through some stuff at home and I feel depressed or something. Then after few months later there was a social worker (that too they sent someone my parents knew) in my house checking everything and my family found out it was me. I felt like a bad person and stopped trusting them. Now I'm obviously older, seeing my own therapist and getting the help that I need without her making me feel like I'm a mad person or making me feel exposed to the world🙄🙄. Man ever since my experience, I ALWAYS told everyone in school, u better not trust ur consoler🤷🏼♀️
@@Average_Crack_AddictIt is completely flipped. imagine if u had a dangerous family member. And u felt helpless and told ur consoler in school. Then they send people over ur house. LIKE OKAY THANKS FOR MAKING THEM MORE REASONS TO PUNISH ME.
@@Average_Crack_Addictit seems to me like they don't take teenagers serious and just label them with a mental illness tag and take u as a joke tbh it's sad. At least that's what I saw in a mental hospital.
unsolicited is very important here. it’s better to give clients direction. not only is it to help you - but there’s definitely some people who can take the therapists words the wrong way and do the complete opposite of what was said.
I randomly choose hypnotherapist and that was what I needed. I didn't have any clue what is going to happen, hoped to survive. It helps me a lot, more then talking. It's easy to talk nonsens
The unsolicited advice thing is very controversial to some therapists, but I mostly if not completely agree with your stance because giving advice can go VERY badly
Basically.... We need good family & friends that is reducing tremendously & humans need love & trust , that's why we are needing these therapists. But we need love n support, they can't give us & so the problem is never solved. I wish we all find our true love & we all live our dream lives, including myself, ameen. To anyone out there who's holding on so much & still woking each day, I really appreciate u... Plz don't give up.... ❤ Loads of love from Syed Alveera
Good advice 👍
Yeah, I had a therapist answer her cellphone during our first session. I knew it was wrong but thought she has an emergency. It turned it to be a routine reminder for a doctor’s appointment (or something to that effect). I could hear the whole conversation. She wasn’t new at the job but had done it for years.
Therapy is a waste of time that's what I heard
The only thing worse than falling in love with your therapist is falling in therapy with your lover.
She's wrong about the calls and texts because a lot of therapists provide virtual sessions and people use such services
🗣️: you should go to therapy.
My therapy: Dark, music, books, my room.. 😫😫❤️
Why do I get old videos? I want current info and to be able to read and respond to comments.
It's like talking to a robot!
Pay for your hour to complain then get out
You had just made me realized that I had really bad therapists... And really bad therapist experiences
I had therapists answer texts and calls, I also had dreams about mine
Thank you
You're welcome
I'm paying for everyone's therapy today
If a therapist judges or criticizes someone for their words I’m pretty sure they loose their license or something
I guess when it comes to therapy some people may have to take things with a grain of salt. Sure it’s nice to get some professional help, and kind that it’s best for you.
But in the end of the day, it’s up to one’s responsibility to make things better. Or at least go on the right path to get out of their dark place.
This is why I talked to my friends
She said therapists should give thoughts and insight, not advice. Comments section needs to LISTEN
Yeah been like wanting more counseling appointments but maybe it's just I can't do what they are telling me..
#3 should include neurodivergencies
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It connects with the characters within the viewers, individuals suppressed within our own subconscious. It stays vibrant, fresh, and revolutionizes the art of storytelling and filmmaking while making a damn of statement on what it means to be human. Entertaining, gripping, and simply exhilarating. This might be the most impactful piece of art I’ve come across in my life, and I’m definitely coming back to it in the near future to study it more deeply. this is an absolute masterpiece , I was brought to tears listening to this and seeing the bacon go whirly swirly in a circle countless times. Tt absolutely moved my soul , and i don't think I can ever be the same. this bacon has changed my entire mental state , I am now at peace with who I am and what I will be doing later in my life. i have forgiven all my enemies and now I am a man of a pacifist life. I will move on , gotta move on , as the song says. the bacon is so inspirational , it shares it vast wisdom with all of us , and we are all so lucky that it would bestow it's great words with us. we are all children on bacon. hail bacon. hail bacon. The spinning bacon, rotating in one direction with this music... This made me tear up. How could such a piece of bacon do such a thing? I'm struck by awe by this masterpiece. Especially when the bacon spins, showing its lightly salt covered tan skin. I can hear the crunch just from here, and so as the beautiful sound of the bacon scraping the dark, smooth velvet floor. The flavor, music and everything can be heard, tasted, seen and felt from a screen. You can really hear the breaths between the music artist, empathizing her love for this rotating bacon. Truly what I call modern art. This was the most legendary performance by any bacon I have ever watched. The acting was top tier and very life changing. 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This might be the most impactful piece of art I’ve come across in my life, and I’m definitely coming back to it in the near future to study it more deeply. this is an absolute masterpiece , I was brought to tears listening to this and seeing the bacon go whirly swirly in a circle countless times. it absolutely moved my soul , and I don't think I can ever be the same. this bacon has changed my entire mental state , I am now at peace with who I am and what I will be doing later in my life. So much great graphic design, so much suspense, so much greatness in this one video. i have forgiven all my enemies and now I am a man of a pacifist life. I will move on , gotta move on , as the song says. the bacon is so inspirational , it shares it vast wisdom with all of us , and we are all so lucky that it would bestow it's great words with us. we are all children on bacon. hail bacon. hail bacon. The spinning bacon, rotating in one direction with this music... This made me tear up. How could such a bacon do such a thing? I'm struck by awe by this masterpiece. Especially when the bacon spins, showing its lightly salt covered tan skin. I can hear the crunch just from here, and so as the beautiful sound of the bacon scraping the dark, smooth velvet floor. The flavor, music and everything can be heard, tasted, seen and felt from a screen. You can really hear the breaths between the music artist, empathizing her love for this rotating bacon. Truly what I call modern art. This was the most legendary performance by any bacon I have ever watched. The acting was top tier and very life changing. This is one of the greatest work from a piece of bacon I have ever seen especially on 57:42. I am crying. This has made me go through an emotional rollercoaster. I cried, beat off, and also watched a movie while watching this premiere. This has made me go through so much. I passed depression because of this. It really inspired me to become an outstanding young man. Thank you.
What the fuck are you talking about
doing entirely too much 😂
Can’t expect them to answer my call and reply to my text? I watched Sixth Sense a few times, and I loved how Bruce Willis makes a strong bond with his patients, even if they potentially could harm him
We should provide advice and insight from a objective perspective 💯🙌🏾💯💯
Honestly I'd want a therapist like Robin Williams in Goodwill Hunting.
By the way commenters..... You don't have to give advice in order to be a helpful therapist who does more than listen. Like I know it sounds like those are the only two options but they aren't. Also? The video said "unsolicited advice".
I thought for a very targeted counseling like social anxiety or phobia, they may give advice? Or is it never the case?
Proof that you don't need to waste several hundreds of dollars for some overpaid person to just sit there and listen to you.
Wow, mine did most of these things.
My therapist is like a family friend so yaur idk why but i js wanted to say that..
the 3rd one happened to me :/
The last one is unacceptable
My therapist was super judgemental so i had to stop going to her
What if you had a fear, you tried to prevent the fear from happening, and the therapist punishes you by transferring you to a male therapist? Specifically to punish you. Is that a good therapist? Or is she going overboard just cuz she couldn't handle the client?
That sounds more like talking with someone youre paying than it does therapy. I agreed with a lot of the points but the entire point of a therapist is to get advice, to be critisized so you can grow, and to view things from others perspectives. Therapy isnt a place to vent, its a place to grow; and growing takes actual effort and it WILL be uncomfortable
A therapist Should have Developmentally Appropriate Growth Goals, teachings, coaching, encouraging, follow up, etc. they are to HELP you grow! A therapist isn’t a wall you speak at.
How do therapists determine if someone is just spiritual or has delusions? I’m always afraid to talk about my paganisms bc it might come off as delusional… but I don’t not want to talk about
If they're think something is wrong with you about your health (dementia, autism, ect...) they send you to a neuropsycologist. And if they think something is wrong 5 with you mentally. Youll have to do a psychological test.
Either way, any of these can absolutely ruin your life. If you say one wrong thing, they can suspect you of many things. Now ofcourse its not like some hidden tricks inspection, its basically if they see you get upset easily. It'll be written down how you have low control over your emotions.
I did neuropscological test, and it was terrifying. I can't imagine what psychological test is
I have problem; when i hear any sound i perceive like elctricity in my chest,in my back,and my nick.can you explain that for me
Third point made me realize most of them a crazy
Omg!! I had one tell me his unsolicited advice, felt judged by him. He also didn’t have good boundaries, wanted me and my guy to join his church. Just wrong
Why do people go too therapy in the first place?
Many said it actually helps people but for me it just made my life worse.
I'll give you my experience.
So, i had a complete month full of costant stress. I was 16 yrs old and basically had no safe room. In school there was complete chaos, and in family too. The problem was when all this settled. I still had rushes of panic and stress.
It got so bad to the point where i and my mom decided to take me to the therapy since we can sort something out if we know what's the cause of my discomfort.
And almost IMEDALTEY, i was sent to a neuropsycologist (all i talked was how i had problems in school, which i still had after i finished 2nd grade highschool)
From that point on as my brother was driving me to the next town where the nearest neuropsycological center was (i think this is how its called in English). We were having fights in the car about what i said to the therapist.
I could feel as our family started to tear appart while we were arguing, we were so done that we all sit in the car, silent. Nobody had words to say.
It got to the point where i just had no will to continue anymore, my brother noticed something was wrong with me and decided to try and cheer me up with jokes, which ive told him to just leave me alone.
I've felt so terrible that whole day i felt worse than wanting to end my life. It felt like everything i was told about kindness and happiness was a utter lie. Never, in my life. Have i felt so done with everything.
Before i arrived, i thought about what I was gonna say there since i dont want them to analyze me as some mentally ill person, and as we arrived. I calmed myself down, and completley lied about how it was just a stressful day and nothing else.
And after that. I wasn't diagnosed with anything. And i didnt need any psychological treatment luckily.
As we returned home, again. Everyone in the car was silent.
As soon as we arrived, I've gone to my room and locked the door.
It was 20 days of me just constantly being in there and only coming out to eat and going back in.
It took whole 4 months for all this to settle down. I still can't understand why people reccomend therapy at all. It's just terrible experience. You think you're safe when you talk to your therapist. Meanwhile its completley flipped.
Hi I felt sorry about your experience.. glad that you are okay and fine.. for me, it really depends on the psychiatrist or therapist.. and maybe the therapist who catered you is not fit for u.. therapy can be useful for people like me.. I have experienced sexual abuse and bullying too my extended families are toxic.. and I hardly make any friends because if I will make one it is just don't say longer.. I'm on therapy for 1 year and 3 months now.. I was improving last year but unfortunately, I was diagnosed with a mental illness last year and it progressed this year... Also in my country.. mental health services are way too expensive.. I'm from an Asian country I'm going to therapy in a government hospital.. my psychiatrist is one of the government's psychiatrists.. my psychiatrist has the approach of Mark Manson type spirituality is only the exception my doctor.. he is a realist also he gaves me realistic advice and very straightforward advices... I'm just trying to apply what he said to me and I'm on meds in my lifetime as long as I am alive I should take it.. thanks for sharing your experiences here.. I also read some random comments online about their therapist or doctor mistreated them All I hope is they can find their right fit... and they will be okay
There are actually so many therapists or psychiatrists who are not really having empathy to their patients.. all they want is cash
So you’re paying a professional not to give you advice? Huh?
I didn't expect my therapyst have fursuits costing 10.000 dollars
If I’m looking for a good therapist that I can feel completely safe with what base expectations should I have then?.
Did i understand correctly: we shouldn't expect our therapist to do things in 3 and 4. These things being -noncritical, nonjudgmental of our religion,orientation,... So they can be judgemental etc? Not interested in a fight, just confused.
Which is why it'll be forever ineffective
I’ve had an overly agressive therapist 😂
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I have two the rapists and they both help me alot with my anxiety