To me, partner sounds like your being really secretive about the gender of your spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend. I actually thought it was a dogwhistle for being gay.
THANK YOU for calling this out! Recently, many people who are married will call their spouse their “partner” and it’s like saying that people committed in marriage have the same casual, noncommittal, temporary setup as people who “shack up” without a commitment! But a marriage (which is a promise to love, respect, etc) is actually the OPPOSITE of just living together. Marriage means: I choose you, for LIFE.
Partner is a word people use when they don't want to say they believe marriage is a covenant, sex doesn't belong outside of marriage, and gender is binary and absolute.
About 18 years ago we lived in England. Somebody asked me one time if I had a partner. I had never heard that before outside of same-sex relationships. I went "well, umm...I have a husband." Not sure what he was asking.
I read "1984" years ago. Then I read it not once, but twice during the Covid years. The parallels were astonishing. I feel like reality is being ripped away from me. If I feel this way as a GenXer who's been a Christian for decades, can you imagine how non-Christians must feel? No wonder there's such high rates of "mental illness" these days. The whole world is going insane around us! This is also the reason I went to a used bookstore a while back and came home with a huge, hardcover, older dictionary. I need to know that the words I KNOW exist and mean certain things still do mean that, no matter what the insane culture tells me. Again, I really do feel like I am struggling to hang on to reality, itself. I can't emphasize that enough. I'm not one of those Christians who sees a specific demon behind EVERYTHING. But I do think this is a spiritual battle.
Thank you, Pastor Matthew! Almost as bad as the modern use of ‘partner’ is ‘the wife,’ which is spoken more often by men not too many decades ago. When I do hear someone say, “the wife,” my first thought is “whose wife would that be?”😂 The best, most transparent, and most ridiculous explanation for ‘partner’ that I’ve ever heard came from an uppity law student who didn’t want to make a commitment. His ‘partner’ proudly talked about how it was a difference between “property and contract”-that she was not property of her ‘partner’ (the law student), but rather, they had a contractual relationship-not to be confused with a marriage license, and I don’t know whether this cagey law student had drawn up a contract for the two of them to sign. I doubt it, because I think that more than anything else he preferred what so many unmarried men have preferred for millennia: he didn’t want to make a commitment, but he wanted the benefits of the marriage bed, in a bed of his own that was defiled.
I first saw that in Australia how the secular culture invades the church. In a very very conservative reformed church that, in an announcement, they talked of husbands and wives as partner. I found it very unusual to speak like that.
I don't get out much, so I didn't know this term was being used for married people. It used to be for same sex couples. Then it seemed to include opposite sex / living together couples. I guess it's better than "significant other"! Ugh, I always hated that one.
Thanks, Mattew. Partner, to me, signifies two people of equal standing. Yet as man and wife we are not two of equal standing, we are ONE flesh, as you mentioned about Genesis 2:24. That is another thing that makes divorce so bad. It is the tearing apart, usually at least for one, not the separating of two.
I always hated it because it's non-descriptive. When I mention my wife, you know that I am married to a Woman, making me a man. When you say "partner", there's no understanding of commitment or gender.
Hey Matthew, I agree. It is something that I have intentionally resisted, and attempt to help younger people with as I encounter them. Before I retired, I would try to help the younger Officers use truth in communication. The idea of using the most true word for your thought, as well as not using the definition, or partial definition of a word instead of the word itself. The left has a way of using the definition of a word, as a replacement for that word. For instance, a younger Officer would say, "Snyder, I told the adult in custody to come to the Officer's station, but he refused." I'd tell them, "an adult in custody is an inmate, prisoner, a felon, why are you calling him an adult in custody?" They would say, "Because the Governor doesn't like labeling people." I worked in a very liberal state. They were training the new staff to use terms that were less true, or to use definitions instead of the actual words. A partner could be many things. The more true word is spouse. We are people of truth.
I find it interesting that the terms husband or wife have been discouraged for many years in order for other relationships to not feel strange. Yet now in same sex marriages these people proudly talk about their husband or wife!! A complete about face.
Thank you for doing this video. Language itself is under attack today. This is a prime example. I hear people today talk about their "partner" and I have no idea what they mean. Is it a buisiness partner? Are they talking about their spouse? Are they homosexual? Do they play tennis with this person? I think the lack of clarity is the point.
I despise hearing the word, "partner" being used... especially in the church. Like, "what the heck, why are you sounding like the world right now?" It's another thing the enemy has distorted. As I understand it, please correct me; help-mate and partner were used to mean one of the reasons the Lord created Eve. The world has distorted that word to be related to same-sex, and now it's commonly used to refer to any type of romantic relationship.
Good stuff! I love your no nonsense approach in addressing these social and cultural issues. And, where can I get that shirt? I’m a huge George MacDonald fan.
You are 100% correct on this. And you are correct that St. Paul wasn't simply making a metaphor in his letter to the Ephesians. It goes deeper than that. Marriage is an icon of Christ's relationship with the Church.
Ok, but there should still be a better word than "boyfriend" or "girlfriend" for young people courting as the contemporary culture has made those terms toxic.
I actually enjoyed this and had a bit of a flashback to a recent conversation I had at a church. One of the members asked how I was related to a member of the congregation. I was a bit surprised by the question because I've never really claimed to be related, apparently the "mom" of the family was overheard telling their son to go take something, using the title "uncle Chris" so this member thought that I must obviously been related to her. I admittedly was a little amused by the misunderstanding, and bring the smart alec nature that I have, told them (with a smirk) she's my sister through the blood of Christ. Then proceeded to tell them that the Uncle title is simply a title of respect that they want him to understand that just because I'm not family that I do have authority over him when I'm around, nothing more
Thank you. My neighbor introduced herself and talked about her "partner" the other day. I wasn't sure if she was referring to a male or female and assumed the latter. Turns out it is a male partner. I didn't think it was polite.
Husband seems once to have been a word that indicated the master of a house, a good manager. Wife seems to have originated as a word indicating a women. So far in my reading of the New Testament, I've found that the words translated husband and wife are the Greek words for man and woman. The context indicates the covenantal relationship. As an English speaker (or as much as an Australian can be), I refer to myself as my wife's husband.
Hello Pastor, love your content: Could you please, at some point, address the issue that is young & middle-aged (often very online) men leaving the Reformed tradition for the likes of Orthodoxy or Catholicism? Discovered that 2 men who move in the same circles as me have jumped over to Eastern Orthodoxy within the last year, and it is something I've routinely encountered over the last decade. May God bless your family, your congregation, and your vocation.
I've been confused on this as well. I have not yet seen it in real life, but I see it mentioned online fairly often. So far it hasn't been any public Christian that I'm aware of, so I've not sat down to watch a full video about it. But it does leave me baffled!
Pastor Everhard, on a similar note, would you consider talking about the trend of women officiating weddings? I’m seeing this more and more often, even among professing believers, and would love to hear a Biblical perspective.
I also have difficulty with the use of terms "husband" and "wife" in gay unions. In such unions, men will say they have husbands and women will say they have wives. In God's scheme for life, a man has a wife and a woman has a husband. Why don't gay unions use the gender-neutral term "spouse"?
What is the word he uses in 7:42 ? Sounds like “obertiafell”. I know that’s not right, but I can’t really make it out. Not that it’s crucial to what he’s talking about, but I’m mostly curious.
(I had to look it up because I never get the spelling right.) Obergefell v. Hodges 2015 U.S. Supreme Court case that legalized same-sex marriage nationwide
@@IWASRANSOMED You're welcome. Like I said, I can never remember how to spell it. Or the year. Wow, it's going on 10 years?! It would be fascinating to see a study of how many same sex couples utilized this "right" they demanded, and how many are still together. I want to say that the first couple that got their license under this decision divorced ("divorced") shortly after. But I cannot remember the two people's names to look it up and verify.
To whom thus Adam sore beset repli'd. O Heav'n! in evil strait this day I stand Before my Judge, either to undergoe My self the total Crime, or to accuse My other self, the *partner* of my life; Whose failing, while her Faith to me remaines, I should conceal, and not expose to blame By my complaint; but strict necessitie Subdues me, and calamitous constraint Least on my head both sin and punishment, However insupportable, be all Devolv'd; though should I hold my peace, yet thou Wouldst easily detect what I conceale. This Woman whom thou mad'st to be my help, And gav'st me as thy perfet gift, so good, So fit, so acceptable, so Divine, That from her hand I could suspect no ill, And what she did, whatever in it self, Her doing seem'd to justifie the deed; Shee gave me of the Tree, and I did eate. (John Milton, Paradise Lost, Book X, lines 124-143)
If a husband and wife are working full-time, the children are being raised by the school system and in sports that is no longer a marriage or a family but it is nothing but a business partnership.
Just a heads up, I think someone is posing as you and responding to comments. Giving a charasmatic type “word from the Lord”, and asking for donations to a place in Africa. Thought I would give you a heads up.
Wow, I’ve seen that happen to Justin Peters. He actually did a video to refute it but it was hilarious of all people to imitate as a charismatic, the guy who is a cessationist lol.
Ok, this is a video I'm going to disagree with. On behalf of my fellow dorks, we are unwilling to have the word "partner" associated with us or our mode.
Oh, for goodness' sake. That is not the same thing. "Mom/Dad" is simply shortening the words. It's like using "Matt" instead of "Matthew." Everyone knows it's the same name. "Partner" is an entirely different word that changes the actual meaning of the relationship.
The word partner makes it noncommittal. Like a business relationship, expendable.
It really does.
Partner=Lowest common denominator
I've noticed this term of reference popping up a lot over the last few years. At first I thought everyone was talking about same-sex relationships.
Me too. Had me very confused for a while
Same.
To me, partner sounds like your being really secretive about the gender of your spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend. I actually thought it was a dogwhistle for being gay.
That is ideal model for them. A sterile, childless, unlawful relationship.
THANK YOU for calling this out! Recently, many people who are married will call their spouse their “partner” and it’s like saying that people committed in marriage have the same casual, noncommittal, temporary setup as people who “shack up” without a commitment! But a marriage (which is a promise to love, respect, etc) is actually the OPPOSITE of just living together. Marriage means: I choose you, for LIFE.
plus! plus! plus!
Resist the spirit of this age. Do not submit to the prince of the power of the air.
Partner is a word people use when they don't want to say they believe marriage is a covenant, sex doesn't belong outside of marriage, and gender is binary and absolute.
Thank God. I live in the UK and I thought I was alone in thinking it's disgusting and cringe
I thought I was the only one who cringed when I heard people saying this
"Partner" is used in Europe and atheism for unmarried and cohabitating significant other.
About 18 years ago we lived in England. Somebody asked me one time if I had a partner. I had never heard that before outside of same-sex relationships. I went "well, umm...I have a husband." Not sure what he was asking.
@vanessaclark6761 yaay you 😊😊😊😊
One that makes me cringe is when I hear a father to be say, "We're pregnant."
It's always so goofy when I hear people say this. I'm always thinking in my head "well howdy pardner"! 🤠
And now we have 'situationships' 😬
I read "1984" years ago. Then I read it not once, but twice during the Covid years. The parallels were astonishing. I feel like reality is being ripped away from me. If I feel this way as a GenXer who's been a Christian for decades, can you imagine how non-Christians must feel? No wonder there's such high rates of "mental illness" these days. The whole world is going insane around us! This is also the reason I went to a used bookstore a while back and came home with a huge, hardcover, older dictionary. I need to know that the words I KNOW exist and mean certain things still do mean that, no matter what the insane culture tells me. Again, I really do feel like I am struggling to hang on to reality, itself. I can't emphasize that enough. I'm not one of those Christians who sees a specific demon behind EVERYTHING. But I do think this is a spiritual battle.
Brother listen! Be on the earth not of it.
Thank you, Pastor Matthew!
Almost as bad as the modern use of ‘partner’ is ‘the wife,’ which is spoken more often by men not too many decades ago. When I do hear someone say, “the wife,” my first thought is “whose wife would that be?”😂
The best, most transparent, and most ridiculous explanation for ‘partner’ that I’ve ever heard came from an uppity law student who didn’t want to make a commitment. His ‘partner’ proudly talked about how it was a difference between “property and contract”-that she was not property of her ‘partner’ (the law student), but rather, they had a contractual relationship-not to be confused with a marriage license, and I don’t know whether this cagey law student had drawn up a contract for the two of them to sign. I doubt it, because I think that more than anything else he preferred what so many unmarried men have preferred for millennia: he didn’t want to make a commitment, but he wanted the benefits of the marriage bed, in a bed of his own that was defiled.
I first saw that in Australia how the secular culture invades the church. In a very very conservative reformed church that, in an announcement, they talked of husbands and wives as partner. I found it very unusual to speak like that.
Nailed it, brother!
Spot on!
I don't get out much, so I didn't know this term was being used for married people. It used to be for same sex couples. Then it seemed to include opposite sex / living together couples. I guess it's better than "significant other"! Ugh, I always hated that one.
Thanks, Mattew. Partner, to me, signifies two people of equal standing. Yet as man and wife we are not two of equal standing, we are ONE flesh, as you mentioned about Genesis 2:24.
That is another thing that makes divorce so bad. It is the tearing apart, usually at least for one, not the separating of two.
My partner and I call each other comrade.
Lol
This comment wins. Lol
You can unburden eachother from what has been. Turn the page of pages so we're in a different book
@@pinkroses135poppycock
I always hated it because it's non-descriptive. When I mention my wife, you know that I am married to a Woman, making me a man. When you say "partner", there's no understanding of commitment or gender.
Well said Brother. Thank you.
Hey Pastor Matthew I love your T-shirt. Especially the words on it. It's cool.
Very happily married. Going on 41 years..
My HR department at work needs to listen to this.
Amen!
Hey Matthew, I agree. It is something that I have intentionally resisted, and attempt to help younger people with as I encounter them. Before I retired, I would try to help the younger Officers use truth in communication. The idea of using the most true word for your thought, as well as not using the definition, or partial definition of a word instead of the word itself. The left has a way of using the definition of a word, as a replacement for that word. For instance, a younger Officer would say, "Snyder, I told the adult in custody to come to the Officer's station, but he refused." I'd tell them, "an adult in custody is an inmate, prisoner, a felon, why are you calling him an adult in custody?" They would say, "Because the Governor doesn't like labeling people." I worked in a very liberal state. They were training the new staff to use terms that were less true, or to use definitions instead of the actual words. A partner could be many things. The more true word is spouse. We are people of truth.
I find it interesting that the terms husband or wife have been discouraged for many years in order for other relationships to not feel strange. Yet now in same sex marriages these people proudly talk about their husband or wife!! A complete about face.
Pastor Matt hitting the nail on the head again. Thank you sir. The term “partner” is garbage
Thank you for doing this video. Language itself is under attack today. This is a prime example. I hear people today talk about their "partner" and I have no idea what they mean. Is it a buisiness partner? Are they talking about their spouse? Are they homosexual? Do they play tennis with this person? I think the lack of clarity is the point.
I despise hearing the word, "partner" being used... especially in the church. Like, "what the heck, why are you sounding like the world right now?"
It's another thing the enemy has distorted. As I understand it, please correct me; help-mate and partner were used to mean one of the reasons the Lord created Eve. The world has distorted that word to be related to same-sex, and now it's commonly used to refer to any type of romantic relationship.
Good stuff! I love your no nonsense approach in addressing these social and cultural issues.
And, where can I get that shirt? I’m a huge George MacDonald fan.
Unless you're a business mogul or John Wayne, no one should be calling someone else "partner". 😂
How about we are having a baby no she is having a baby. Those two things drive me absolutely nuts
Well, she's giving birth but both of them are having a baby.
To me, the problem is "we're pregnant". I've always thought that was weird.
@@laralewis135 yes, that's what I meant!
That's just being a little too picky 😂
You are 100% correct on this. And you are correct that St. Paul wasn't simply making a metaphor in his letter to the Ephesians. It goes deeper than that. Marriage is an icon of Christ's relationship with the Church.
Ok, but there should still be a better word than "boyfriend" or "girlfriend" for young people courting as the contemporary culture has made those terms toxic.
I actually enjoyed this and had a bit of a flashback to a recent conversation I had at a church. One of the members asked how I was related to a member of the congregation. I was a bit surprised by the question because I've never really claimed to be related, apparently the "mom" of the family was overheard telling their son to go take something, using the title "uncle Chris" so this member thought that I must obviously been related to her. I admittedly was a little amused by the misunderstanding, and bring the smart alec nature that I have, told them (with a smirk) she's my sister through the blood of Christ. Then proceeded to tell them that the Uncle title is simply a title of respect that they want him to understand that just because I'm not family that I do have authority over him when I'm around, nothing more
Thank you. My neighbor introduced herself and talked about her "partner" the other day. I wasn't sure if she was referring to a male or female and assumed the latter. Turns out it is a male partner. I didn't think it was polite.
Partner=Double plus ungood
Dorkmode. Major loser vibes here.
Do you take this bag of cells to be your partriach-imposed regulatorily-internalized partner?
Do you have any idea what you just said?
@@tynj4173 What did I just say?
@@lkae4 I have no idea that’s why I’m asking you lol
@@tynj4173 It's woke speak for: "Do you take this woman to be your lawfully wedded wife."
@@tynj4173 Laws are just internalized patriarchy 🤣🤣
Husband seems once to have been a word that indicated the master of a house, a good manager. Wife seems to have originated as a word indicating a women. So far in my reading of the New Testament, I've found that the words translated husband and wife are the Greek words for man and woman. The context indicates the covenantal relationship. As an English speaker (or as much as an Australian can be), I refer to myself as my wife's husband.
Hello Pastor, love your content: Could you please, at some point, address the issue that is young & middle-aged (often very online) men leaving the Reformed tradition for the likes of Orthodoxy or Catholicism?
Discovered that 2 men who move in the same circles as me have jumped over to Eastern Orthodoxy within the last year, and it is something I've routinely encountered over the last decade.
May God bless your family, your congregation, and your vocation.
I've been confused on this as well. I have not yet seen it in real life, but I see it mentioned online fairly often. So far it hasn't been any public Christian that I'm aware of, so I've not sat down to watch a full video about it. But it does leave me baffled!
Lol, “dork mode”
Pastor Everhard, on a similar note, would you consider talking about the trend of women officiating weddings? I’m seeing this more and more often, even among professing believers, and would love to hear a Biblical perspective.
5:48 Does it apply to marriages not entered in in churches but before a public government officer?
Dude a marriage is a marriage. No more or no less.
Partner is not a bible word; husband and wife are.
I also have difficulty with the use of terms "husband" and "wife" in gay unions. In such unions, men will say they have husbands and women will say they have wives. In God's scheme for life, a man has a wife and a woman has a husband. Why don't gay unions use the gender-neutral term "spouse"?
Other words/phrases to keep using:
- Christian name
- Christendom
- Sin
Please keep the list going.
BC/AD
What is the word he uses in 7:42 ? Sounds like “obertiafell”. I know that’s not right, but I can’t really make it out. Not that it’s crucial to what he’s talking about, but I’m mostly curious.
(I had to look it up because I never get the spelling right.)
Obergefell v. Hodges
2015 U.S. Supreme Court case that legalized same-sex marriage nationwide
@@Yesica1993 perfect - thank you! I was unfamiliar with that specific case. Although I knew same sex marriage had been legalized around the time.
@@IWASRANSOMED You're welcome. Like I said, I can never remember how to spell it. Or the year. Wow, it's going on 10 years?! It would be fascinating to see a study of how many same sex couples utilized this "right" they demanded, and how many are still together. I want to say that the first couple that got their license under this decision divorced ("divorced") shortly after. But I cannot remember the two people's names to look it up and verify.
To whom thus Adam sore beset repli'd.
O Heav'n! in evil strait this day I stand
Before my Judge, either to undergoe
My self the total Crime, or to accuse
My other self, the *partner* of my life;
Whose failing, while her Faith to me remaines,
I should conceal, and not expose to blame
By my complaint; but strict necessitie
Subdues me, and calamitous constraint
Least on my head both sin and punishment,
However insupportable, be all
Devolv'd; though should I hold my peace, yet thou
Wouldst easily detect what I conceale.
This Woman whom thou mad'st to be my help,
And gav'st me as thy perfet gift, so good,
So fit, so acceptable, so Divine,
That from her hand I could suspect no ill,
And what she did, whatever in it self,
Her doing seem'd to justifie the deed;
Shee gave me of the Tree, and I did eate.
(John Milton, Paradise Lost, Book X, lines 124-143)
he will always be my HUSBAND ❤
If a husband and wife are working full-time, the children are being raised by the school system and in sports that is no longer a marriage or a family but it is nothing but a business partnership.
Just a heads up, I think someone is posing as you and responding to comments. Giving a charasmatic type “word from the Lord”, and asking for donations to a place in Africa. Thought I would give you a heads up.
Wow, I’ve seen that happen to Justin Peters. He actually did a video to refute it but it was hilarious of all people to imitate as a charismatic, the guy who is a cessationist lol.
My wife married me specifically for being in dork mode most of the time. I'm a lucky man.
How common is this in Christian circles? I think I've only heard non-Christians use this word.
What bothers me is why so many Christians enjoy having abortions. Any Christian voting for people that are for this? Are the worst.
Why not just take that opportunity to share the gospel. Unbelievers will act like unbelievers so instead of correcting them share the gospel.
Ok, this is a video I'm going to disagree with. On behalf of my fellow dorks, we are unwilling to have the word "partner" associated with us or our mode.
Other than that though, great video.
Lol
The word “cringe” is actually super-cringey, Pastor.
Equally cringeworthy is the use of "mom" and "dad" instead of "mother" and "father".
Oh, for goodness' sake. That is not the same thing. "Mom/Dad" is simply shortening the words. It's like using "Matt" instead of "Matthew." Everyone knows it's the same name. "Partner" is an entirely different word that changes the actual meaning of the relationship.
@gravellegb 🤦♀️