I relate to this so much. I love being alone but i feel very awkward and weird when i actually go out to do things by myself. Your videos really motivate me to do things alone more often and feeling more confident when doing so. I love you and your videos so much, please don't stop making them 💜
I couldn't help but think of this quote by Andrei Tarkovsky “Every person needs to learn from childhood how to spend time with oneself. That doesn't mean he should be lonely, but that he shouldn't grow bored with himself because people who grow bored in their own company seem to me in danger, from a self-esteem point of view.” Great job once again. I am really enjoying your progress as a content creator your videos just keep getting better
You just explained how I've been feeling for the past year and a half. My best friend of 10 years told me she wants a "break" Losing a close friend messes you up really badly and everything you said resonated- I've been ultra-independant and then scared I'm going to lose other people in my life at the same time and its exhausting
You’ve officially became my favorite UA-camr. You put all the words and feelings I was afraid of saying into a reality. Being alone isn’t a bad thing, it brings you clarity and makes you self aware of things you never knew you could do without being dependent on someone. I hate admiting as well that sometimes I’m dependent on people that I disguise myself as being independent for the lack of my sanity and to make me feel good about myself so later on they don’t use that aspect of vulnerability against me to hurt me. Im in love with your videos. We are super alike that its crazy.
this is so sweet ily. i’m ngl i was having a pretty awful day and this really made me smile thank you♥️ i’m glad my videos resonate with youuuuu♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️tysm for watching love
this is the most relatable thing i’ve seen. i’ve had to spend some time alone the past few weeks and i feel like i have no one to talk to or rely on. so whenever i meet a new person, my entire mental state depends on them coz i have no one else. and if they leave or become more distant i breakdown and literally don’t know how to live without them. it’s gotten really bad and idk what to do
I feel like I'm already too comfortable being alone, to the point where I can't enjoy others' company like I used to, without all the self consciousness and overthinking, blah blah blah. THIS VIDEO, however, is so so beautiful and very reassuring. Thank you for this. And good luck to you and your new journey to rediscovery
It’s scary yet comforting at the same time, to realise I’m not the only one feeling this way. I’ve been viewing myself as complicated because I never understood what I am and how I feel. But I relate to literally every word you just said, literally.
I truly relate to this like people call me their best friend but i don’t really feel it deep down like i feel im just their secondary person when their people are not around. I tend to be dependent on people to make me happy and get me out of my negative mind. And yes i get attached to people easily and when I give too much time and energy and don’t get the same i immediately feel something is off, that’s why im trying to fill that void of feeling valuable by myself. This video is so comforting thank you! I still appreciate my friends that i have now but I always feel this off and on again where i want friends but also want time for me without ending up losing my friends along the way .
wow. just wow. you have a gift, via. this video and your eloquence brought me to tears. you verbalized exactly what i’m going through. i hope you realize how many lonely people you are helping with this video, and how talented and special you and your gifts are. love you
At 6:34 what you said gave me chills. Enjoying something and wishing there was someone there to enjoy it with. I’m 32 and finally have begun being ok with the idea that although sharing experiences does increase the joy of the experience, it’s a world that mostly exists inside my mind. And it may exist in reality but getting out of my head was the most important step. Escape the fantasy and live in the moment. Fantasy robs us of truth.
I definitely relate to this recently I told my friends I will be going on a trip alone for my birthday next year and the reaction did make feel like something is wrong & that they were looking for a really deep philosophical answer for why I am doing it. When the answer is because I want to and I like being by myself at times.
i totally agree! it makes u feel so out of place when they respond like that 😭and yeah sometimes there’s just no deeper meaning besides just wanting to be by yourself
I understand this to my core. I'm learning this lesson right now after a very toxic situation. Learning to be alone again is so scary but I am determined because I want healthy relationships for my future.
Bestie, I suck at words but I appreciate u as a person so much 😭 I pretty much relate to everything u say and do (it’s a bit uncanny lmao 😂) and while it brings me a sense of safety knowing theres more people going through the same thing, it also makes me sad because I know it sucks and would not want anyone feeling like this. I hope we both find what we’re eager for this upcoming year, and if not.. lmao been there done that 😂 Also the vid editing style is so on point 🫰🔥 Keep being u ur awesome and inspiring 🏋️
The way you described me is insane. I'm in college now and it's a whole different ballpark. So meeting people is going to be a common thing whether you like it or not. And I'm having trouble doing that and being with my friends at the same time. I'm trying to be dependent but be independent, that sounds terrifying and hard at the same time. So with that being said I'm going to have a interesting time fixing myself. ❤️
I was lonely af as a teen and as a young adult. The worst part of being lonely is when you live in one place for a long time and people are starting to grow accustomed to seeing you lonely. It's almost as if you feel their judgment, them thinking that there's maybe something wrong with you. After entering my late twenties I took better care of myself, I realized that I am not that ugly and entered hookup culture abroad. Almost got two girls pregnant, I realized that the price I pay for making up for the "lost years" isn't worth the fun I have so I sat down and decided to be at peace with my loneliness. Paradoxically many people from my past chase me now and it's so funny because it was me the whole time who felt worthless and now someone's trying to reach out to me and I don't care that much. I've entered a sentimental, soul-searching period of my life and I like it. I'm a lonely beast but I am happy because I've learned to love myself. I just don't overthink life too much, I'll beat loneliness, someone who suits me will come across my life's path one day. Have a nice day friends. P.S. You've got a cool UA-cam channel, make content as often as you can. It's interesting.
I love this. I LOVE being alone. People often thinks that alone means lonely. Which isn't true. You can be by yourself without feeling lonely & enjoying your own company.
Catching up with these videos and seeing this pop up at a time where I feel lost in my environment. This video truly resonates with my complicated feelings at this moment in school
I almost crying watching this because I relate to your words so much, I think there's something wrong with me and I too caught up with that. but from you I realize it's just... something normal and a lot of people feel that kind of thing too
I found your channel yesterday and have been binging your videos. Thank you for making this content for people that feel the same way you do about things it means a lot. I don't feel so alone
Thank you so much for this 💛 literally so relatable, and made me realise a lot of feelings that i couldn’t put into words before xx Likewise, i really enjoy going out alone, but don’t like telling people about it because they always look at me with pity, especially at this time of the year, it can make me feel pathetic sometimes…to the point that I’d rather fake it and give the impression that i’m with someone, which makes me feel worse 🥲 i’m definitely working on being more confident about it, so knowing that there are others feeling the same way is reassuring, thank you
thank u so much for sharing ♥️ it is also very reassuring to me knowing that ppl feel the same way on others viewing them w pity when we tell them we are going out alone. but honestly they’re prob view us w pity coz they can’t handle being out alone lmfaooo. we’re on this journey tgt babe ♥️♥️
this was such a needed video rn for me, I found this today nd I'm really thankful I watched this video and the words "I want to be able to just think how happy I am in that special moment and not having to wish someone else is with me", I'm having a hard time in dealing with 'no friends in life' phase but this video calmed me down thanks a lot and surely subscribing so that I can get more of these💖💖
This is extremely relatable for me. I have also had a realization this month. I realized that the people I thought would be my closest and trustworthy people, ended up not respecting my time and said very backhanded things. I realized that I was putting so much out and they were not. I realized they were taking advantage of me. Starting the end of last week, I decided to not invest into any relationships and completely not care about what they think of me and how much time they put for me. Hence. I decided to fully obtain just myself as my own friendship. This video, put what I wanted to say for my entire childhood and up until now so accurately, I am so happy you made this Via, thank you so much.
so glad i ve finally reached this video! i know i always loved to be alone, i never wanted anyone with me to feel happier. even as a kid i clearly remember i preferred playing on my own and i was always happy and never ashamed of this! but when you get older you start thinking about other's opinion of you too much which i dont really like about myself. i am convinced for some reason that people think i look awkward and miserable when i do things alone even tho in fact i really enjoy it. i know i need to stop perceiving myself from other's points of view but still its hard for me. so thank you for normalizing things that are absolutely normal but for some reason are not considered that way by the majority of people. i lovve your videos and how you put everything together so it looks and sounds so nice and right and just on point) love your channel and please never stop doing what you do! )
I am lucky enough to have a few of those lifelong friends. Friends I know will still be around when I turn 100. I met one of them when I was around 29 and the other when I was 46. It takes time. You're still very young. In my 20s, I made friends easily, but it never lasted. There are those few rare people who are "part of your constellation," who you will meet no matter what, and who will always be there for you. Just do your thing and they will show up ❤
Being alone is so good. Do not take on what others say about being alone. Alone is the best time to connect deeply with the soul; this is the real you.
Wow.. I really resonate with this video. You really just explained what I’ve been feeling most times. I now know I’m not alone in these kind of thoughts. ❤❤
I've just stumbled upon one of your shorts and i decided to take a look at your videos and found this !! .. all i want to say is thank you for sharing your thoughts, worries and ambitions here with the world . Everything you said is super relatable to me and i love how you filmed and edited this video . We got this ! ♡
i felt alone in middle school. ever since my best friend moved, i've had no real friends. i mean, i had friends, but those friends didn't choose to hang out with me. didn't choose to talk with me. it was like i had people, but not friends. on the first day of middle school, something changed, honestly. i thought i would feel embarrassed and sad seeing everyone already in their cliques. but no? eating lunch all by myself, i enjoyed being alone. i enjoyed marveling at my beautiful new school. i became more focused on the positive things of life that the negatives didn't seem to occur to me lol
Thank you so much for sharing this 💕 Now I feel less alone with my struggle of moving very fast in friendships and well relationships as well... It's really hard for me to find balance. I dont think there's anything wrong with wanting to share a special moment with someone else; but its really beautiful if you can share it with yourself and feel seen by yourself! I am very lucky in the sense that I do have friends who are compatible with me, some more and some less and some closer and some farther away. Its beautiful to hear form different people but Its so beautiful to be alone and be able to be there for just yourself. When its just me I know what to expect, I wont be disapointed. Being alone you are able to just do whatever you want and what feels good for you and that is so beautiful as well! sending love to all of you!!! 💖
This video touched me in a very real way. Sometimes I think a lot about this stuff, I passed alone a lot of time and still nowadays I'm alone. But I'm also scared to be alone, but at the same time I don't know but I enjoy it. When I stay with my close friends I'm feeling happy and sometimes I discharge and want to be on myself. This is strange. I transferred now and I was alone, I found someone that invited me, I've to be grateful to that person. The thing that also I'm scared to to thing on my own because I could do these with someone. You had a very good point about if you're scared about that, that is what ruins your sensation to be alone. Thank you for this food for though, I truly needed that in this moment.
Your videos and creations has helped me realise the problems I need to fix within my self and I am sure many many others . I just wanted to say Thankyou for being so brave showing your vulnerability to the world to help others . You are helping me realise before it was too late . Thankyou ♥️ 🌷
I relate a lot to this. Knowing that you might get exploited or judged by people around you just makes you not want to make connections with people anymore. But for people who have Auto-phobia (fear of being alone) may have a hard time in not making bonds with people anymore because having a fear of being judged but also wanting to make friends furthermore in your life just makes it difficult. For me, I have an intense fear of getting judged by my friends, family, and everyone around me. I just hope whoever relates to this grows out of it and has a wonderful life. At these times, you can develop anxiety, depression, a lot of hormones kicking in.
i'm telling myself that its a sign i clicked this video specifically when I noticed we both go to BU. thanks for making this, u rlly put the feeling into words for me
Wow, I realized that I needed to hear this. I can relate to everything you said and it sincerly made me tear up. Ever since the break up with my ex-boyfriend (which I was quite dependant on for years) I feel very lost and not in touch with myself. Not only did I lose a great relationship, I also lost my best friend and common friends (friends I made through my ex). I don't know who I am and I have been actively searching for myself the last few months. My friends that I speak to on socials are always busy at work or with school, so speaking to them in person is rare. Doing things alone is very scary to me since I have a diagnosed anxiety disorder. But since I started looking at youtubers like you Via, doing all these things by yourself and also having fun while doing it even when you're anxious or scared. I think you're so brave and I want to be the same. So I'll keep fighting and working on becoming more independant and get over my anxiety for doing things on my own. You're my rolemodel and keep up with what you're doing, you're doing amazing
I relate to this so much, but I’ve never seen anyone describe these feelings in such detailed and definitive ways. Thank you for sharing your journey with us ♥️
This vid made me emotional… and I found that too when you tell ppl you did smth alone they either pity on you or admire your independence but somehow you know for sure they don’t want that independence😢 bos feels like an uni city where ppl you get related to come and leave all the time. Hope you all the best bestie and happy holiday!!♥️🎄🫂
oh wow i never even thought of the fact the “they don’t want that independence.” and yes i am thinking of leaving bos idk when tho tbh. thank u love! merry christmas ♥️
the realization I have no one to lean on anymore is to true to me as well : ( I guess I've gotten too comfortable doing things alone but it is just as enjoyable tbh.
@@via.ilyouu 😭 thank you for sharing!!! I spent my senior year of college with no friends by choice, I could've went out a lot of times with friends to parties, bars, clubs but I really needed to be alone to work on myself. I wuz pretty fked up mentally lol
I just gotta say that this video speaks to me very much. I think you explain it in a way that let me feel a little less alone and I just want to hug you🫶🏻 Actually, hug anyone who feels alone because we’re probably all feeling the same. Those videos, the vlogs you’re doing alone and the helpful messages are calming me with how artsy they are. Thank you a lot for being vulnerable💗
this is such a breath taking video and im glad i stumbled upon your channel. i saw your videos pop up on my feed here and there, and always put your videos in my "watch later" list since they looked entertaining, but i would always forget to actually watch them. now im spending my early mornings watching your videos before i start my work and i feel like i was MEANT to watch this video, i felt a connection pulling me to it and i related to every word you said that i couldn't describe myself or couldn't bring myself to say, thank you via
Hello. I’m kinda new to your channel and been watching some of your videos recently. You’re definitely not alone in what you’re going through. You’ve actually pretty much summarized a great deal of my life’s struggles in your videos, but I tend to repress my true feelings and emotions most of the time (which is unhealthy, lol). However, I can definitely say that I’m getting better now! I don’t know you well, but I’m glad you have the courage to be this vulnerable and to share your life with us. Thanks for reminding us that we’re all human. You’re very brave, and I appreciate it! Keep growing strong and being the best you. It’ll be needed someday! ❤🙏🏿 (also Boston can sometimes be a tough place for making new friends lol, so I understand where you’re coming from. But good people are out there. I can tell you that first-hand 😁!*)
Here I'm suffering from lonely . I feel related from your different² videos. This whole time I was wondering how brave of you to make a decision to create a channel showing your emotions and fear. Girl I'm truly proud of you . 🤍🤍
this video really resonated with me! i feel like you read my mind lol. it's reassuring to know that a lot of us are still on this path of trying to find the proper balance and beauty in being alone. love you, thanks for sharing!!
Via this video its so amazing and relatable what splash of yourself i can really see and feel it within the video. You just hit me on poin i would be crying so bad of how indentified i feel with you if you were not that nice and calm to hear. Thanks so much maybe at the end we have to be all alone together:)
You touched the thing I fear but also treasure the most. Solitary. Thank you for this beautiful piece of writing, even tho we’re stranger, I wanna say I love you and you have so much to offer. Muah~
Hi Via ❤️ I rarely comment on videos but this particular one spoke to my soul, you were able to articulate my thoughts and feelings into poetic words and imagery and I find that incredible. It makes me feel less alone that there are others like me who feel the same way. Thank you for being you. 💖✨ - another 20 something year old wanderer searching for connection
Thank for making such a vulnerable video. 💕 I’m sure it wasn’t easy! You phrased everything so perfectly and I feel like you read my mind lol it’s spooky. I’ve come to realize that my friendships are situational and in some cases, conditional. I think I’m starting to be okay with that, but that meant that I really had to become comfortable with being alone. I’m wishing you an abundance of love and light in 2023 and beyond. ❤❤
Girl i even reached a point where i no longer know how to share the things i love or interested in with others, im just way too comfortable being alone and independent however i know for sure if anyone entered my life i’ll be so dependent on them!! and that is the scariest part like what if lost them its hard to detach from them and getting back to what i was before them!!! Lol what a crisis.. Anyway u don’t know how much i love ur videos via🫶🫶
I'm going to save and send this to potential friends/love interests so that they understand me better 😂😂. You've literally described everything I've been feeling for a long time. Loved it!!
I loved this video it felt honest and vulnerable but I could also relate to every word. I feel like a lot of us want connection but we also want to be alone without being completely lonely. 🦋
@@via.ilyouu I’m happy that I wasn’t the only one who felt this way about being alone with myself and that it IS needed if you want to show up genuinely for others. I know you’re on your solitude journey and I’m rooting for you but if you ever need an internet friend girl I got you! 💖
My mum is always surprised and a little disturbed when I say that I went out completely by myself, and after her comments I start to think that I'm not supposed to do that, even tho deep down I absolutely enjoy it :/
It's like hearing my own thoughts with less toxicity. I'm 24, I've never been in love nor wanted to engage in a relationship but as I got older it started to feel like there was something wrong with me, that I'm running out of time, that everyone is expecting for me to settle down. And I'm also scared, I don't want to live a lonely life
I relate this so much, I have been in school literally 1 year all alone, and now again I’m alone. and I like to be alone, but I really want to change and have one friend who could hold me. it’s so tiring, and I hate that, but it’s okay to feel like that, but it’s scary to be alone and don’t know when it’s going to stop.
Here at 11:02pm in LA, after watching your "pretty privilege is real" video. I could not have related to anything more than watching your video, it felt as if I was listening to myself. It's strange, but also comforting knowing that there are other people going through the EXACT same experiences as me. If you're anything like me, I would tell you to believe the comments on this video, although their only words from strangers, know that your efforts do not go unnoticed. You are resiliant, brave, loved, and in this rollercoaster we call life, you are NOT alone.
I LOVE ur videos- it's so interesting how you put all these feelings into words, I aswell dream about being able to afford real therapy, and i very mush enjoy how you share your process
Também me sinto confortável estando sozinha, apenas com minha presença. Anos atrás eu considerava isso um problema, mas não é errado gostar da sua própria companhia.
I relate to all these videos so much 😭. I depended on one person so much and then when we stopped being friends, I felt like I lost myself, my world was ending, and I felt so lonely. I’m now recovering from this phase of my life and knowing I’m not alone is very comforting 🥹
I understand the part about being alone and having maximum happiness but when you’re with others you forget how to be alone! The two extremes.
I relate to this so much. I love being alone but i feel very awkward and weird when i actually go out to do things by myself. Your videos really motivate me to do things alone more often and feeling more confident when doing so. I love you and your videos so much, please don't stop making them 💜
i’m so glad you relate to this love 💞💞yes, def go do things alone more often! it’s honestly lots of fun💞💞and thank u for being so supportive 🥹🥹💞💞ilysm
Same here, that's why I don't go out by myself anymore and it's also not for everyone
I couldn't help but think of this quote by Andrei Tarkovsky
“Every person needs to learn from childhood how to spend time with oneself. That doesn't mean he should be lonely, but that he shouldn't grow bored with himself because people who grow bored in their own company seem to me in danger, from a self-esteem point of view.”
Great job once again. I am really enjoying your progress as a content creator your videos just keep getting better
thank you so much for this♥️🫶
You just explained how I've been feeling for the past year and a half. My best friend of 10 years told me she wants a "break"
Losing a close friend messes you up really badly and everything you said resonated- I've been ultra-independant and then scared I'm going to lose other people in my life at the same time and its exhausting
you worded it perfectly. same, i think i’m scared of losing ppl again but hopefully we’ll figure it out in 2023
I recently lost a best friend of mine that i've known for 8 years. It hurts so much
You’ve officially became my favorite UA-camr. You put all the words and feelings I was afraid of saying into a reality. Being alone isn’t a bad thing, it brings you clarity and makes you self aware of things you never knew you could do without being dependent on someone. I hate admiting as well that sometimes I’m dependent on people that I disguise myself as being independent for the lack of my sanity and to make me feel good about myself so later on they don’t use that aspect of vulnerability against me to hurt me. Im in love with your videos. We are super alike that its crazy.
this is so sweet ily. i’m ngl i was having a pretty awful day and this really made me smile thank you♥️ i’m glad my videos resonate with youuuuu♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️tysm for watching love
Same girl, I legit got emotional watching this because of the similar fall outs throughout the life she mentioned in the video.
this is the most relatable thing i’ve seen. i’ve had to spend some time alone the past few weeks and i feel like i have no one to talk to or rely on. so whenever i meet a new person, my entire mental state depends on them coz i have no one else. and if they leave or become more distant i breakdown and literally don’t know how to live without them. it’s gotten really bad and idk what to do
same love. this is exactly why i want to figure out myself by being alone. i hope we can both figure this out
I feel like I'm already too comfortable being alone, to the point where I can't enjoy others' company like I used to, without all the self consciousness and overthinking, blah blah blah. THIS VIDEO, however, is so so beautiful and very reassuring. Thank you for this. And good luck to you and your new journey to rediscovery
i relate to you so much! and i’m so happy that you found this video reassuring! and tysm♥️♥️♥️♥️ily
This is literally so artful, poetic, and relatable. Love ❤️
this made me so happy ugh ily
@@via.ilyouu ♥️
It’s scary yet comforting at the same time, to realise I’m not the only one feeling this way. I’ve been viewing myself as complicated because I never understood what I am and how I feel. But I relate to literally every word you just said, literally.
If it's any comfort, your introspection is what many also feel but can't put in words with the same self awareness.
i’ve had a really bad day but this made me feel seen and glad that i’m not the only one going through this, so thank you via for posting this video
i’m glad this video made you feel not alone. ily
I truly relate to this like people call me their best friend but i don’t really feel it deep down like i feel im just their secondary person when their people are not around. I tend to be dependent on people to make me happy and get me out of my negative mind. And yes i get attached to people easily and when I give too much time and energy and don’t get the same i immediately feel something is off, that’s why im trying to fill that void of feeling valuable by myself. This video is so comforting thank you! I still appreciate my friends that i have now but I always feel this off and on again where i want friends but also want time for me without ending up losing my friends along the way .
You made me feel like I'm not alone in this. And I'll be okay. We will be okay.
ugh. this made me cry. you’re so wise and thoughtful. i’m constantly struggling with my love / hate relationship with being alone.
I don't think I've ever related more to anyone, your videos are so comforting, thank you for sharing this
i’m glad this video was comforting to you love ♥️♥️♥️♥️tysmmmm
Very relatable, it’s like you put into words what goes on in my own head
awe thanks!! ♥️♥️♥️♥️
wow. just wow. you have a gift, via. this video and your eloquence brought me to tears. you verbalized exactly what i’m going through. i hope you realize how many lonely people you are helping with this video, and how talented and special you and your gifts are. love you
At 6:34 what you said gave me chills. Enjoying something and wishing there was someone there to enjoy it with. I’m 32 and finally have begun being ok with the idea that although sharing experiences does increase the joy of the experience, it’s a world that mostly exists inside my mind. And it may exist in reality but getting out of my head was the most important step. Escape the fantasy and live in the moment. Fantasy robs us of truth.
I definitely relate to this recently I told my friends I will be going on a trip alone for my birthday next year and the reaction did make feel like something is wrong & that they were looking for a really deep philosophical answer for why I am doing it. When the answer is because I want to and I like being by myself at times.
i totally agree! it makes u feel so out of place when they respond like that 😭and yeah sometimes there’s just no deeper meaning besides just wanting to be by yourself
I understand this to my core. I'm learning this lesson right now after a very toxic situation. Learning to be alone again is so scary but I am determined because I want healthy relationships for my future.
Bestie, I suck at words but I appreciate u as a person so much 😭 I pretty much relate to everything u say and do (it’s a bit uncanny lmao 😂) and while it brings me a sense of safety knowing theres more people going through the same thing, it also makes me sad because I know it sucks and would not want anyone feeling like this. I hope we both find what we’re eager for this upcoming year, and if not.. lmao been there done that 😂
Also the vid editing style is so on point 🫰🔥 Keep being u ur awesome and inspiring 🏋️
i’m glad i was able to put these into words for you💞💞💞💞and that is so sweet of uuuu🥹🥹💞💞💞💞
The way you described me is insane. I'm in college now and it's a whole different ballpark. So meeting people is going to be a common thing whether you like it or not. And I'm having trouble doing that and being with my friends at the same time. I'm trying to be dependent but be independent, that sounds terrifying and hard at the same time. So with that being said I'm going to have a interesting time fixing myself. ❤️
I have never related to a youtube video so much. Thank you for letting me, and other people, feel heard.
I was lonely af as a teen and as a young adult. The worst part of being lonely is when you live in one place for a long time and people are starting to grow accustomed to seeing you lonely. It's almost as if you feel their judgment, them thinking that there's maybe something wrong with you. After entering my late twenties I took better care of myself, I realized that I am not that ugly and entered hookup culture abroad. Almost got two girls pregnant, I realized that the price I pay for making up for the "lost years" isn't worth the fun I have so I sat down and decided to be at peace with my loneliness. Paradoxically many people from my past chase me now and it's so funny because it was me the whole time who felt worthless and now someone's trying to reach out to me and I don't care that much. I've entered a sentimental, soul-searching period of my life and I like it. I'm a lonely beast but I am happy because I've learned to love myself. I just don't overthink life too much, I'll beat loneliness, someone who suits me will come across my life's path one day. Have a nice day friends. P.S. You've got a cool UA-cam channel, make content as often as you can. It's interesting.
I love this. I LOVE being alone.
People often thinks that alone means lonely. Which isn't true. You can be by yourself without feeling lonely & enjoying your own company.
Catching up with these videos and seeing this pop up at a time where I feel lost in my environment. This video truly resonates with my complicated feelings at this moment in school
I almost crying watching this because I relate to your words so much, I think there's something wrong with me and I too caught up with that. but from you I realize it's just... something normal and a lot of people feel that kind of thing too
I found your channel yesterday and have been binging your videos. Thank you for making this content for people that feel the same way you do about things it means a lot. I don't feel so alone
Thank you so much for this 💛 literally so relatable, and made me realise a lot of feelings that i couldn’t put into words before xx Likewise, i really enjoy going out alone, but don’t like telling people about it because they always look at me with pity, especially at this time of the year, it can make me feel pathetic sometimes…to the point that I’d rather fake it and give the impression that i’m with someone, which makes me feel worse 🥲 i’m definitely working on being more confident about it, so knowing that there are others feeling the same way is reassuring, thank you
thank u so much for sharing ♥️ it is also very reassuring to me knowing that ppl feel the same way on others viewing them w pity when we tell them we are going out alone. but honestly they’re prob view us w pity coz they can’t handle being out alone lmfaooo. we’re on this journey tgt babe ♥️♥️
omg this literally spoke to my soul Via ilysm :((
ugh this made me smile 😭💞♥️
this was such a needed video rn for me, I found this today nd I'm really thankful I watched this video and the words "I want to be able to just think how happy I am in that special moment and not having to wish someone else is with me", I'm having a hard time in dealing with 'no friends in life' phase but this video calmed me down thanks a lot and surely subscribing so that I can get more of these💖💖
This is extremely relatable for me. I have also had a realization this month. I realized that the people I thought would be my closest and trustworthy people, ended up not respecting my time and said very backhanded things. I realized that I was putting so much out and they were not. I realized they were taking advantage of me. Starting the end of last week, I decided to not invest into any relationships and completely not care about what they think of me and how much time they put for me. Hence. I decided to fully obtain just myself as my own friendship. This video, put what I wanted to say for my entire childhood and up until now so accurately, I am so happy you made this Via, thank you so much.
so glad i ve finally reached this video! i know i always loved to be alone, i never wanted anyone with me to feel happier. even as a kid i clearly remember i preferred playing on my own and i was always happy and never ashamed of this! but when you get older you start thinking about other's opinion of you too much which i dont really like about myself. i am convinced for some reason that people think i look awkward and miserable when i do things alone even tho in fact i really enjoy it. i know i need to stop perceiving myself from other's points of view but still its hard for me. so thank you for normalizing things that are absolutely normal but for some reason are not considered that way by the majority of people. i lovve your videos and how you put everything together so it looks and sounds so nice and right and just on point) love your channel and please never stop doing what you do! )
I am lucky enough to have a few of those lifelong friends. Friends I know will still be around when I turn 100. I met one of them when I was around 29 and the other when I was 46. It takes time. You're still very young. In my 20s, I made friends easily, but it never lasted. There are those few rare people who are "part of your constellation," who you will meet no matter what, and who will always be there for you. Just do your thing and they will show up ❤
Being alone is so good. Do not take on what others say about being alone. Alone is the best time to connect deeply with the soul; this is the real you.
omg via i feel you on a spiritual and metaphysical level, friends can be so selfish and disappointing 😪
I always go back to this video when life gets a little difficult, thank u Via for giving me strenght!❤
you don't know how relatable your videos are. How RELATABLE you are via. I love youuu
girl i watched a couple of your journal entry video's and I've never related more, thankyou
Wow.. I really resonate with this video. You really just explained what I’ve been feeling most times. I now know I’m not alone in these kind of thoughts. ❤❤
I've just stumbled upon one of your shorts and i decided to take a look at your videos and found this !! .. all i want to say is thank you for sharing your thoughts, worries and ambitions here with the world . Everything you said is super relatable to me and i love how you filmed and edited this video . We got this ! ♡
i felt alone in middle school. ever since my best friend moved, i've had no real friends. i mean, i had friends, but those friends didn't choose to hang out with me. didn't choose to talk with me. it was like i had people, but not friends. on the first day of middle school, something changed, honestly. i thought i would feel embarrassed and sad seeing everyone already in their cliques. but no? eating lunch all by myself, i enjoyed being alone. i enjoyed marveling at my beautiful new school. i became more focused on the positive things of life that the negatives didn't seem to occur to me lol
These videos are so comforting ❤
i love you so much. it’s so hard to not feel alone in being alone so this video and the understanding comments help a LOT! ilysm
Thank you so much for sharing this 💕 Now I feel less alone with my struggle of moving very fast in friendships and well relationships as well... It's really hard for me to find balance. I dont think there's anything wrong with wanting to share a special moment with someone else; but its really beautiful if you can share it with yourself and feel seen by yourself! I am very lucky in the sense that I do have friends who are compatible with me, some more and some less and some closer and some farther away. Its beautiful to hear form different people but Its so beautiful to be alone and be able to be there for just yourself. When its just me I know what to expect, I wont be disapointed. Being alone you are able to just do whatever you want and what feels good for you and that is so beautiful as well! sending love to all of you!!! 💖
Wish you all the best for 2023 hopefully you reach that level of comfort being with yourself by the end of next year 💛
thanks so much!!
This is so beautiful. Solitude is where you find your heart.
This video is such a beautiful piece of art 🤌🏼💙
this is the sweetest compliment omg
This video touched me in a very real way. Sometimes I think a lot about this stuff, I passed alone a lot of time and still nowadays I'm alone. But I'm also scared to be alone, but at the same time I don't know but I enjoy it. When I stay with my close friends I'm feeling happy and sometimes I discharge and want to be on myself. This is strange.
I transferred now and I was alone, I found someone that invited me, I've to be grateful to that person.
The thing that also I'm scared to to thing on my own because I could do these with someone.
You had a very good point about if you're scared about that, that is what ruins your sensation to be alone.
Thank you for this food for though, I truly needed that in this moment.
Your videos and creations has helped me realise the problems I need to fix within my self and I am sure many many others . I just wanted to say Thankyou for being so brave showing your vulnerability to the world to help others . You are helping me realise before it was too late .
Thankyou ♥️
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I relate a lot to this. Knowing that you might get exploited or judged by people around you just makes you not want to make connections with people anymore. But for people who have Auto-phobia (fear of being alone) may have a hard time in not making bonds with people anymore because having a fear of being judged but also wanting to make friends furthermore in your life just makes it difficult. For me, I have an intense fear of getting judged by my friends, family, and everyone around me. I just hope whoever relates to this grows out of it and has a wonderful life. At these times, you can develop anxiety, depression, a lot of hormones kicking in.
i'm telling myself that its a sign i clicked this video specifically when I noticed we both go to BU. thanks for making this, u rlly put the feeling into words for me
Wow, I realized that I needed to hear this. I can relate to everything you said and it sincerly made me tear up. Ever since the break up with my ex-boyfriend (which I was quite dependant on for years) I feel very lost and not in touch with myself. Not only did I lose a great relationship, I also lost my best friend and common friends (friends I made through my ex). I don't know who I am and I have been actively searching for myself the last few months. My friends that I speak to on socials are always busy at work or with school, so speaking to them in person is rare. Doing things alone is very scary to me since I have a diagnosed anxiety disorder. But since I started looking at youtubers like you Via, doing all these things by yourself and also having fun while doing it even when you're anxious or scared. I think you're so brave and I want to be the same. So I'll keep fighting and working on becoming more independant and get over my anxiety for doing things on my own. You're my rolemodel and keep up with what you're doing, you're doing amazing
I can honestly watch you for hours, everything you have said is so relatable to me. I am so happy I found your channel
u just expressed exactly what i feel and is going through thank you for sharing
I relate to this so much, but I’ve never seen anyone describe these feelings in such detailed and definitive ways. Thank you for sharing your journey with us ♥️
This vid made me emotional… and I found that too when you tell ppl you did smth alone they either pity on you or admire your independence but somehow you know for sure they don’t want that independence😢 bos feels like an uni city where ppl you get related to come and leave all the time. Hope you all the best bestie and happy holiday!!♥️🎄🫂
oh wow i never even thought of the fact the “they don’t want that independence.” and yes i am thinking of leaving bos idk when tho tbh. thank u love! merry christmas ♥️
I love this aesthetic sm !! Love the message you shared here 🥹🫶🏼
this is so sweet!! thank uuuu♥️♥️♥️♥️
The way I loved this video, there’s no words, just thank you
no!! thank youuu!!😭♥️♥️♥️
i cried watching this.
I decided to enjoy being alone too!!!
same!!♥️♥️
Thank you I have been going through the same feelings right now,,I have related so much with this video thank you
you've put words to my complicated but simple feelings.. thank you
thank you for this❤ This inspires me to enjoy my own company instead of depending onto someone ❤
the realization I have no one to lean on anymore is to true to me as well : ( I guess I've gotten too comfortable doing things alone but it is just as enjoyable tbh.
same 😭😭♥️♥️tysm for watching!
@@via.ilyouu 😭 thank you for sharing!!! I spent my senior year of college with no friends by choice, I could've went out a lot of times with friends to parties, bars, clubs but I really needed to be alone to work on myself. I wuz pretty fked up mentally lol
I just gotta say that this video speaks to me very much. I think you explain it in a way that let me feel a little less alone and I just want to hug you🫶🏻 Actually, hug anyone who feels alone because we’re probably all feeling the same. Those videos, the vlogs you’re doing alone and the helpful messages are calming me with how artsy they are. Thank you a lot for being vulnerable💗
this is such a breath taking video and im glad i stumbled upon your channel. i saw your videos pop up on my feed here and there, and always put your videos in my "watch later" list since they looked entertaining, but i would always forget to actually watch them. now im spending my early mornings watching your videos before i start my work and i feel like i was MEANT to watch this video, i felt a connection pulling me to it and i related to every word you said that i couldn't describe myself or couldn't bring myself to say, thank you via
Hello. I’m kinda new to your channel and been watching some of your videos recently. You’re definitely not alone in what you’re going through. You’ve actually pretty much summarized a great deal of my life’s struggles in your videos, but I tend to repress my true feelings and emotions most of the time (which is unhealthy, lol). However, I can definitely say that I’m getting better now!
I don’t know you well, but I’m glad you have the courage to be this vulnerable and to share your life with us. Thanks for reminding us that we’re all human. You’re very brave, and I appreciate it! Keep growing strong and being the best you. It’ll be needed someday! ❤🙏🏿
(also Boston can sometimes be a tough place for making new friends lol, so I understand where you’re coming from. But good people are out there. I can tell you that first-hand 😁!*)
Here I'm suffering from lonely . I feel related from your different² videos. This whole time I was wondering how brave of you to make a decision to create a channel showing your emotions and fear.
Girl I'm truly proud of you . 🤍🤍
this was so relatable for me
this video really resonated with me! i feel like you read my mind lol. it's reassuring to know that a lot of us are still on this path of trying to find the proper balance and beauty in being alone. love you, thanks for sharing!!
i’m glad so many of you guys are on this journey with me♥️♥️♥️thank u sm for sharing as well🌟
this is such a beautiful video, i was very touched by it, thank you so much for sharing this. i wish you the best
thank you for being so kind♥️
Via this video its so amazing and relatable what splash of yourself i can really see and feel it within the video. You just hit me on poin i would be crying so bad of how indentified i feel with you if you were not that nice and calm to hear. Thanks so much maybe at the end we have to be all alone together:)
You touched the thing I fear but also treasure the most. Solitary. Thank you for this beautiful piece of writing, even tho we’re stranger, I wanna say I love you and you have so much to offer. Muah~
thank you for writing this kind kind comment♥️♥️♥️i wish you the best!!
Hi Via ❤️ I rarely comment on videos but this particular one spoke to my soul, you were able to articulate my thoughts and feelings into poetic words and imagery and I find that incredible. It makes me feel less alone that there are others like me who feel the same way. Thank you for being you. 💖✨ - another 20 something year old wanderer searching for connection
Thank for making such a vulnerable video. 💕 I’m sure it wasn’t easy! You phrased everything so perfectly and I feel like you read my mind lol it’s spooky. I’ve come to realize that my friendships are situational and in some cases, conditional. I think I’m starting to be okay with that, but that meant that I really had to become comfortable with being alone.
I’m wishing you an abundance of love and light in 2023 and beyond. ❤❤
Girl i even reached a point where i no longer know how to share the things i love or interested in with others, im just way too comfortable being alone and independent however i know for sure if anyone entered my life i’ll be so dependent on them!! and that is the scariest part like what if lost them its hard to detach from them and getting back to what i was before them!!! Lol what a crisis..
Anyway u don’t know how much i love ur videos via🫶🫶
Such a beautiful heartfelt vlog.. I admire your courage to be vulnerable and I relate with all you're sharing..
Wherever I turn, there I am
I love this, I relate with this so much and the editing is so fire 🔥
you’re are too sweet 😭♥️
I'm going to save and send this to potential friends/love interests so that they understand me better 😂😂. You've literally described everything I've been feeling for a long time. Loved it!!
how is this videography better than most Netflix series! such a mood!
oh my god this is gonna make me cry😭🤚🤚🤚🤚
I loved this video it felt honest and vulnerable but I could also relate to every word. I feel like a lot of us want connection but we also want to be alone without being completely lonely. 🦋
i’m so glad my video came off this way bc it was truly vulnerable for me to make this as well ♥️but i’m glad you guys can relate
@@via.ilyouu I’m happy that I wasn’t the only one who felt this way about being alone with myself and that it IS needed if you want to show up genuinely for others. I know you’re on your solitude journey and I’m rooting for you but if you ever need an internet friend girl I got you! 💖
My mum is always surprised and a little disturbed when I say that I went out completely by myself, and after her comments I start to think that I'm not supposed to do that, even tho deep down I absolutely enjoy it :/
i’m sorry babe 😞 there is nothing wrong with going out by yourself! it is so relaxing and fun💞💞you and me are in this tgt!
@@via.ilyouu yes I absolutely agree!!
It's like hearing my own thoughts with less toxicity. I'm 24, I've never been in love nor wanted to engage in a relationship but as I got older it started to feel like there was something wrong with me, that I'm running out of time, that everyone is expecting for me to settle down. And I'm also scared, I don't want to live a lonely life
Wowww just wow👏
I relate this so much, I have been in school literally 1 year all alone, and now again I’m alone. and I like to be alone, but I really want to change and have one friend who could hold me. it’s so tiring, and I hate that, but it’s okay to feel like that, but it’s scary to be alone and don’t know when it’s going to stop.
Here at 11:02pm in LA, after watching your "pretty privilege is real" video. I could not have related to anything more than watching your video, it felt as if I was listening to myself. It's strange, but also comforting knowing that there are other people going through the EXACT same experiences as me. If you're anything like me, I would tell you to believe the comments on this video, although their only words from strangers, know that your efforts do not go unnoticed. You are resiliant, brave, loved, and in this rollercoaster we call life, you are NOT alone.
Omg. This video feels like my mind speaking.
Hey don't sad okay u are really beautiful and I think u should live ur life with happiness ,I had also suffered from this situation 🤫
Actually whatever you feel is exactly what I'm feeling it's like I'm looking at a mirror rn
Love this sm! 🥺
tysmmm♥️
I'm learning how to do things alone. It's hard, it's scary. But I'm learning to enjoy it
I LOVE ur videos- it's so interesting how you put all these feelings into words, I aswell dream about being able to afford real therapy, and i very mush enjoy how you share your process
5:21 I can relate to this on so many levels
I Reallllly love u girl
Também me sinto confortável estando sozinha, apenas com minha presença. Anos atrás eu considerava isso um problema, mas não é errado gostar da sua própria companhia.
I relate to all these videos so much 😭. I depended on one person so much and then when we stopped being friends, I felt like I lost myself, my world was ending, and I felt so lonely. I’m now recovering from this phase of my life and knowing I’m not alone is very comforting 🥹
Omg I admiring you so much I wish I could enjoy being alone too❤ love you
Very true ❤ same here