HOW TO DEAL WITH TODDLER TANTRUMS AT HOME: Behavioral Tips for Late Talking Toddlers- Speech Therapy
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- Опубліковано 5 сер 2024
- Kelli Meyer, M.Ed. CCC-SLP
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Hi, I'm Kelli, a licensed and certified pediatric speech language pathologist and owner of Speedy Speech, LLC. I have worked alongside pediatric behavioral specialists, RBTs, ABA therapists, behavioral early interventionist and today I'm sharing my TOP tips for helping parents deal with TODDLER TANTRUMS! (specifically for children with speech and language delays)
For Parents - WHAT TO DO ABOUT TODDLER TANTRUMS and NEGATIVE BEHAVIORS (Toddler Hitting, Kicking, Biting and Screaming!)
WHY IS THIS HAPPENING?
ALL behaviors have a FUNCTION or a REASON that they are happening, even if they seem "random" they may be triggered by communication deficits, sensory needs, input, scarcity or overload, to get something, or to get out of something!
Using a FUNCTION behavior chart (ABC chart) will help you to determine WHEN and WHY this is happening and any TRIGGERS that may be causing the tantrum, meltdown, or breakdown!
Instead of telling a child to STOP! NO! or hitting back, we want to determine WHY (the function) the behavior is happening and then provide a REPLACEMENT strategy!
Here are two different free charts!
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This therapy technique is a modified ABA approach.
HOW TO DECREASE OR ELIMINATE THE BEHAVIOR:
#1: Determine the Function of the behavior
#2: Ignore NEGATIVE Behaviors; Give attention to POSITIVE behaviors
#3: Model Replacement Behaviors
These behavioral strategies & interventions are solely based on my personal experiences & professional opinion.
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It’s very comforting to hear you sound so positive and know that these behaviours are common and can be minimised if handled well. 👍🏻
Absolutely! Thanks for watching!
Very helpful. Thank you!
My son needs this therapy lots of thanks
She’s just making so much sense!
Thanks for watching!
You are the best! May God bless you. May your channel grow.
That’s so nice, thank you!
Girl, you are a Rockstar!
This video is awesome! I needed this video, all your videos are amazing!
Hey shanika, thank you 💕 hang in there!
Please make more videos! New SLPA and these are so helpful for me!
So happy it’s helpful thank you for the comment!!
I needed this video. Thank you!
I'm so glad!
This is so informative!! Thank you so much!
Thank you for watching!
Goodness, did I need this! Thank you!
thank you for watching!
Feel like crying watching this .. soo stressed with these tantrums
Oh no! Hang in there! I promise!
Thanks this was awesome info
Thanks for watching! Hope it helps!
Thank you! Gonna try this!
thanks for watching!
Thanks for another informative video 🙏 My boy constantly spits his water out on furniture and in his blocks and then drinks it. He always likes to put everything in his mouth including mud/playdough. I don’t know how to stop him 🤦♀️ any tips would be so helpful
Will definitely try this. We’re in quarantine right now. I’m getting in insane don’t know what to to with my 22mos old toddler.
Hang in there!! There may be some communication in there!
So much in common with dog training. How mind works and devolves.
yes! exactly!
I spit on the cat! Haha. Good advice, thank you!
Hi Kelli,
This is your second video I am watching and
honestly
I give it to you.
In fact, while reading your brief video description, I saw a link to
Another big issue I face with my son which is
Picky eaters and
I know I will benefit from it.
In fact, I am reading for my exams coming up soon but I am glad I used this time watching your clips.
I call your video
High yield material because I am really impressed.
Thanks again.
I will make sure to check out your other platforms too.
Thank you
Awesome thank you!
Amazing!!
Thank you for watching!
I had a question. I have a 2 year old that about to be 3 little words and when he is mad he start to really hit me and spit at me and throw toy or anything at me and scream and I do what a few people tell me to just not pay any attention to me and my thing when he goes outside he run away from me and I just don't know how to stop that when I chase him he think he has to run more
This is so helpful! I have a child diagnosed with nonverbal asd who can get aggressive/injures himself (we use ASL, PECS, and continuing to build his verbal vocabulary). You mentioned when the child calms down, then say "Oh, thank you for being quiet. Did you want Mommy?" Is there an estimated time you recommend we say this, or how long should we wait (when they've calmed down) to approach and say this to them? Because my child would cry, scream, etc. while I ignore him, then he calms down. I usually wait about 2 minutes (he stayed calm the entire time) then I approach him. However, when I approach him, he'll dive back into the meltdown/tantrum again so I ignore and the cycle sort of repeats. I'm not sure if he dives back into the meltdown because he's frustrated once more for being unable to express/explain to me? Or if he's having a tantrum for a different function you mentioned. I would like to learn more how to know what the function is, because from past experience, my son would be repulsed by a certain color, texture, etc. of the item, toy or food he requested but unable to communicate. So a sample scenario, he requests for me to help open the door to our pantry. We go into the pantry and offer him a muffin and chip to choose (to give him opportunity to point and further request). He will successfully request for muffin. However, as he sits down, he doesn't eat the muffin and throws a tantrum trying to tell me something. Turns out, he refuses to eat the lighter shade of the muffin, and will only eat the outer part/crust that's darker brown if that makes sense (so the spoonful of lighter and darker muffin he won't eat). It took us 3 days of trying to understand and calm him down to understand he didn't like the "lighter" part of the muffin but because of the language barrier, he ended up bruising his hand from hitting the floor during his tantrum. So I would like to better understand how to find the function and what sort of scenarios we can try to understand if it's a certain fear to sound, texture, color, etc. and how to provide positive reinforcement behaviors to replace with. You have our heartfelt gratitude and know you are making such huge impact in the lives of our children and families around the world. Thank you so much!
My child throws her self on the floor kick and scream and throws stuff around. She is speech delayed
My 2 year old stepson throws toys for fun most of the time how do I teach him not to do that?
Also, if a 3 year old child throws and kicks on play materials to go back home, and starts tearing up, should the mother pick her up and comfort her? If not, what else can be done?
sorry I am just now seeing this, but no, you want to ignore negative behaviors and walk away. Give positive attention and praise for playing appropriately and cleaning up (go over the top with praise!) and model what to do!
Our 22 month has apraxia snd cry’s all the time to get his mama to pick him up. She picks him up everytime because we feel it is because he can’t express himself with words. Would you still ignore the behavior and not pick him up?
No I wouldn’t ignore the crying if the child cannot say “mama” - the crying is communication - instead maybe play peek a boo w speech sound hand cues & target mama that way!
What if the child now cries in response to praise? (ie: thank you, yay, well done, good job)
Very typical. Because they did not want to be compliant. Still important to praise but not overly & then do not give attention to the continued melt down (I. E walk away)
Let me know
@@TheSpeechScoop oh! Thank you so much!
Hi,
Could you please provide videos on two things-
1. How to teach “AY” sound like in Pay/ day/ May. My child says like pya.. dya..
2. In general, her words are like boohhhss.. meaning breaths blended with sounds in place of ‘ boo’
Please please help!!!!
Chitra Shukla If your child does not yet have the long “E” sound, they will not be able to produce “AY” because it’s a double sound, with stress and ended in “E” so I would suggest tart getting “E” first! I believe I have a Val Q for E in my apraxia video, are usually say big pretty smile to tighten the lips, then model “eeee” like in the word sqEEEze & squeeze a wash cloth or something in front of my mouth to draw attention. Maybe try that first! :)
I’m not sure I understand number two, could you elaborate a little more? Also, how old is your child? Thanks!
Speedy Speech
Thanks!!!!
For suggesting one my query #1.
To clarify #2., her words has lots of unwanted breathing sounds like says BOO as bhoooshh
How to cut off the unwanted piece? She is 11 years. Much thanks!!!
Could you make a video on why toddlers flip sounds or entire words, please?
Are they hearing it in reverse in their mind?
Examples:
Says "I want turn light ON" when it's already on and actually wants to turn it off. And vice versa. Same with open/close doors curtains and windows. Or when asking to go for a drive when we are already out for a drive. Or asking to swim when we are already swimming. Etc. I typically say "the window IS closed. Do you want to open it?" "We ARE driving."
Or sort of a dyslexia of words. Instead of "I'll be right back" saying "I'll right be back."
Or says pinano [pee-na-no] for piano throwing in an additional consonant sound.
Is almost 3 yrs old.
Cant say L sound yet.
Cant lift tongue to top teeth.
Born with minor tongue tie.
Recites entire books and episodes.
"Parroting" will repeat same thing 10-50 times. Example; while driving to beach 1 hour away will.ask to go to beach 50 times on the drive there. Seems to be starting to understand now what I mean by "we are on the way" or "be patient we are almost there". I also say "say it one time and then say something else" but please tell me there is something better I could be saying/doing. Thank you so much
Might be a gestalt language processor - check out the “meaningful speech” course & also her Instagram has great info on how to dive in & help!
@@TheSpeechScoop oh wow. Just googled that term and its already scary. Thanks for replying. Do you mean this video?: ua-cam.com/video/WygStzghnEo/v-deo.html
So if they hit, are you supposed to ignore that? Like hit the dog? Especially if they are doing it for attention
I have a hard time with this because should you not respond any time they throw a tantrum or get angry? Does that show them they're not allowed to have "negative" feelings and only positive ones?
I definitely understand and as the parent, you know your child and it's important to understand and validate feelings and emotions. This video is specifically for behavioral tantrums which are very different from meltdowns. There are lots of resources available on meltdowns and feeling supports. Sometimes its okay to feel a certain way, but hitting, kicking, biting and screaming may be inappropriate reactions to a feeling; therefore, there needs to be an appropriate response and opportunity for safe and healthy expression of feelings (and this also develops over time as the brain continues to develop)
Where to get the chart
Google! ABC behavior tracking chart
If the child's making a tantrum in the kitchen and we can't ask "what do you want, do you want this?", what do we do?
You can ask them once they are calm! Just walk away, out of the kitchen until they calm down, and then come back in as soon as they are calm and give positive reinforcement like "I like how you're quiet! What can I get for you? applesauce?" the main thing is to give no attention to the negative behaviors (tantrums) and all the attention to the positive behaviors (pointing, using words, asking for something using gesutres) let me know if you have a specific examples! speedyspeechpath@gmail.com
dono, so tried avoiding and he is just not going down ever, he is running after me and tries to hit me.. Dono, is like 40 min ok? If I do not ignore, my reaction is really bad there..
What is he trying to communicate? Can he show you what he wants using gestures or pointing?
@@TheSpeechScoop Mamma no, so I know I did something he doesn't want =)
How do you handle a child hitting a sibling?
I would find the route cause of the hitting. Then address that! If it is attention, avoidance, sharing, etc. Then practice those things and praise positive interactions and sharing, etc. Social stories about hitting may help too
Poor cat lol 😂