Gape at the age of 30 you still have a lot to learn man, doesn’t matter how much you think you’ve achieved…thats why memoirs are usually written later on in life.
So glad i found someone that can be objective and honest. because the other reviews all start with "i love mpoomy and she can do no wrong in my eyes" so then i already knw the review will be biased. i just needed someone who will give an honest review so i can decide to buy the book or not. so Thank You sisi
Thank you. I do think Ofentse did a solid job at reviewing the book. Do check her out. Everyone else was just singing her praises without equally critiquing the book. ❤🎉
Thank you for the objective review, I think it's very reductive of the girl pals in this comment section to believe that expecting more forthright vulnerability is equivalent to looking for mgosi. The author really does well when it comes to self-actualization, but I agree with you that they shy away from the negative aspects of the their personality, which I expected to see them delving to. By the way, it wouldn't be a matter of us contributing that to the breakdown of her relationships, but a way to understand her more and the way she does things. With that said, Mpoomy's candid endeavours were really shown during the book tours, I mean talking about engaging in sex before marriage and the realization that she loved it, after attempting to repent many a times. I also couldn't reconcile the feminist ideal with the traditional role she assumed after becoming a wife, there's a huge disconnect which I also totally get taking into account how feminism from an African lens, has evolved. I mean choice is at the core of feminism, but it doesn't seem it was her choice to do all that, but what she felt was expected of her as a 'virtuous' wife. I will also say that practising vulnerability isn't so easy, Brene Brown may theorize it, but putting it into practice is really difficult. We need to give the author grace and commend her for taking this leap of faith. She's only 30, so hopefully she does become honest with herself in the future and doesn't see doing that as an attack on the idealistic/ utopian view she has of herself.
It's not mgosi it's you writing about your life.. address it all. You also know what the audience wants to know, what lessons did you learn. How did you feel about ending a friendship? These are universal topics that every girl can relate to.
I think she shared the story about her fallout with Bonolo to avoid addressing the fallout with Yolz and The Wifes. LOL I also wasn’t impressed about the feminist chapter, we all know that Chimamanda is a feminist but I don’t think Mpoomy is. As an avid reader and someone who has been following her work, I do think it wouldn’t make sense for someone who is just a reader
When you said "She lost me when she became a Smeg influencer" I felt it coz thats around the same time I also started watching her content less.. I really loved your take, it was so honest yaz! You actually made me wanna buy it now. Nice work momma
Thank you for the balanced review. I do think the book was written for her audience and not avid readers so the language and style will resonate and the message will land with them*
Thank you for this review. I suspected that the book is not really up to par, as I am also an avid reader. I bought it the first week of release, and I have not read it yet. Now I know what to expect and I will see how far I will go. I absolutely do not mind spoiler alerts. Also, regarding the "fam" , "gal pal" phrases could have been used in the abstract or acknowledgements, not throughout the entire book. With regards to vulnerability, I figured she wouldn't spill fully. Granted, she doesn't owe anyone any explanations. However, it would've been better to read about it in her book than hear things from blogs, etc.
You are so beautiful and articulate. I love how you put your opinion in an organised form. You just gained a new subscriber. I love your tattoo on your arm. 🤎
As an avid reader I understand your frustrations. I’m quite impressed by your patience, I wouldn’t have made it to the third chapter if the first two weren’t captivating enough for me. 😂ke borega fast!
I'm stuck on the first 5 chapters, struggling to get through it. Sounds like waffle. Agreed that it's not for avid readers. The grammar and style is strange for a book. It feels sometimes like you are reading a vlog
I don't know ...I feel Bonolo is more important than Yolz but i get it..they are back together infact we didn't even know they had a fall out,or maybe that was the point?
@@_ndazy 40 whole minutes of airtime and this is the only thing you got from the video is….INTERESTING. Thanks for watching and appreciate the interaction! ❤️🎉
Thank you for the review. I just started reading the book and I cant make heads or tail about it. It’s all jumbled up it’s not making sense to me. Will keep going and find out.
Thank you for the review, Ive learnt from experience that “celebrity” books arent usually the best, usually lack depth, I have a couple in my book shelf I havent finished,
I am dying to get the book. I checked it on AmazonKSA and couldn't find it. Your avid reading really showed in the way you authentically reviewed the book. I have not read it yet, but in love with your criticism together with your praise. I feel they are balanced.
Yes our reading culture is diplorable. And the reflection is in the books that are also published. Seems as if her book could have been a blog post or vlog, she would have made way more money. But the ego also wanted to have "book" under the belt of "accolades".
New subscriber🎉I find you relatable, the depletion of English bundles😅loved how you articulate yourself and giving us context in the beginning, more of these please.
Thanks for the review I am deeply disappointed I have been meaning to purchase this book with the assumption that it has a lot of depth into her journey and life experiences holistically. It comes across as very shallow and lacks authenticity of who she is at the very core.
@@nelisiwekhumalo9449 I do still think it’s worth buying. Maybe you’ll experience it differently. You will also be supporting another powerful black woman. That, never goes to waste! 🎉❤️
As a country we need to define what privilege means. Because someone doesn't have what you have or has more than you we see them as privileged which in the larger scale isn't always true. It's such a tricky topic in SA and I hope we get to speak about it one day. What is poverty and what is privalge. One would think you were privileged then we play in performing poverty to fit in. It's so tricky lol Jus subbed
Oh my heart is ticketed. Izolo I wanted to buy black female authors' books but didn't know where to start. I am gonna pretend you and I are in a book club and just buy all those you recommend.
I think your perspective on wealth classes is a bit flawed. To question other peoples pockets and financial struggles based on frivolous things like a sleepover and lasagne is a stretch especially when lasagne is a pasta recipe that families alternate to avoid the mundane meal of the macaroni and mince meat, and sleep overs are just... sleepovers. I think accessibility and open mindedness may seem like wealth when its just creative ways to make means to an end.
The double standard is killing me! If I grew up eating pap and inkomazi, and my grandmother didn’t allow friends to sleep over and therefore, I regard people who grew up eating lasagne and could indulge in sleepovers as privilege, you don’t get to dictate my lived experience. Lastly, wealth is relative. What you regard as a mundane meal is actually a luxury to someone else. That said, thank you for watching and appreciate the feedback.
@bbshuping6985 I couldn't finish it, kept feeling she shouldn't have bothered if she was not gonna touch on the depth of who she is, please do read it, I'd like your review/verdict
@bbshuping6985 I couldn't finish it, kept feeling she shouldn't have bothered if she was not gonna touch on the depth of who she is, please do read it, I'd like your review/verdict
@@bbshuping6985 were u filming wth a fone or 📷 if it a camera it has a screen on the side so most pple end up looking at the screen and not in the lenses .I
First of all you look gorgeous and thank you for the review, 2024 I hardly read even though I had about 3 new books I struggled to carry on reading maybe the books where not captivating but yah will give it a chance the next year.
Oh thank God it gets better because i stopped reading after chapter 5 or 6 about 4-5 werks ago it got weird and boring a bit short chapters with unfinished stuff and the "reflect part" is not my fav😢
I don’t think you have had enough lived experiences to write a memoir.. maybe a book on a different topic. Also she could have just done a podcast with her husband asking her deep soul probing questions rather not an entire book. Plus she is not good with vulnerability and it shows
@@bbshuping6985 Oh I'm coming from a grooming and etiquette angle love. When speaking, it's improper. However, you do you sweetie. Whatever you like, it's your channel and your content after all.
I have no idea who these people are and also just found this channel. I will say yes she wrote for her audience, anyone who isn't her follower or supporter or has no clue she exists won't buy it so that was a weird obvious take from you. I mean yeah... People have a target market.
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She is a number one seller ❤❤❤❤. A 30 year old girl, congratulations 🥂 to her
@@desmathobejane6475 Definitely! You should also consider posting this on her platform! She’s doing fairly well! 🎉🎉🎉
Gape at the age of 30 you still have a lot to learn man, doesn’t matter how much you think you’ve achieved…thats why memoirs are usually written later on in life.
Agreed! 🎉
So glad i found someone that can be objective and honest. because the other reviews all start with "i love mpoomy and she can do no wrong in my eyes" so then i already knw the review will be biased. i just needed someone who will give an honest review so i can decide to buy the book or not. so Thank You sisi
Thank you. I do think Ofentse did a solid job at reviewing the book. Do check her out. Everyone else was just singing her praises without equally critiquing the book. ❤🎉
Yohh ya'll are just haters shem,it's really annoying and sad at the same time
@ Thank you for watching and engaging. Happy Holidays! 🙂↔️🎉
Thank you for the objective review, I think it's very reductive of the girl pals in this comment section to believe that expecting more forthright vulnerability is equivalent to looking for mgosi. The author really does well when it comes to self-actualization, but I agree with you that they shy away from the negative aspects of the their personality, which I expected to see them delving to. By the way, it wouldn't be a matter of us contributing that to the breakdown of her relationships, but a way to understand her more and the way she does things.
With that said, Mpoomy's candid endeavours were really shown during the book tours, I mean talking about engaging in sex before marriage and the realization that she loved it, after attempting to repent many a times.
I also couldn't reconcile the feminist ideal with the traditional role she assumed after becoming a wife, there's a huge disconnect which I also totally get taking into account how feminism from an African lens, has evolved. I mean choice is at the core of feminism, but it doesn't seem it was her choice to do all that, but what she felt was expected of her as a 'virtuous' wife.
I will also say that practising vulnerability isn't so easy, Brene Brown may theorize it, but putting it into practice is really difficult. We need to give the author grace and commend her for taking this leap of faith. She's only 30, so hopefully she does become honest with herself in the future and doesn't see doing that as an attack on the idealistic/ utopian view she has of herself.
@@SebeiMore This is so well written. You couldn’t have said it any better. Thank you for watching and engaging. ❤️
I don’t like reading. This is a nice way of knowing what people’s books are about 😅 Also, you’re so pretty 😍
Thank you so much Atli! Love you loads! 🎉❤
Sesi Atli G pls kindly upload something 😭✅❤️💯
Atli! 😂😂 you can't not like reading, you're a lawyer! That's more than 70% of your job hle 😂😂😂😂 yoh you just made me laugh! O stout!
@@MissCombs1511😂😂😂
I think if you read a book from a point of healing and growth its a great book but if you are looking for mogozi might not be for you
@@maloase12 I disagree! But I guess we are both entitled to our opinions! Thank you watching and engaging. 🎉🤓
Agreed 😊
Disagree. I barely follow social media squabbles and mogosi and I also struggled with the first few chapters
It's not mgosi it's you writing about your life.. address it all. You also know what the audience wants to know, what lessons did you learn. How did you feel about ending a friendship? These are universal topics that every girl can relate to.
Shaya la👊🏾
Yes! To the performative vulnerability
Thanks for watching and engaging Ofentse! 🎉
I think she shared the story about her fallout with Bonolo to avoid addressing the fallout with Yolz and The Wifes. LOL I also wasn’t impressed about the feminist chapter, we all know that Chimamanda is a feminist but I don’t think Mpoomy is. As an avid reader and someone who has been following her work, I do think it wouldn’t make sense for someone who is just a reader
@@anastasimankesemokgobu1724 Yah norr, the feminist chat was shaky to say the least. Thank you so much. ❤️🤓
When you said "She lost me when she became a Smeg influencer" I felt it coz thats around the same time I also started watching her content less.. I really loved your take, it was so honest yaz! You actually made me wanna buy it now. Nice work momma
Thanks for watching. I appreciate it! 🎉
Thank you for the balanced review. I do think the book was written for her audience and not avid readers so the language and style will resonate and the message will land with them*
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I think you found your niche 🎉. Your Book Reviews are great. And now im more keen on reading. Thank you for a great video.
Thanks for watching and engaging! Glad you enjoyed it. 😊❤
A good installment. Gained urself a subscriber. Looking forward to many many more🎉I'm staying here❤
@@dithabisolekota3492 Thank you so much. ❤️
Thank you for this review. I suspected that the book is not really up to par, as I am also an avid reader. I bought it the first week of release, and I have not read it yet. Now I know what to expect and I will see how far I will go. I absolutely do not mind spoiler alerts.
Also, regarding the "fam" , "gal pal" phrases could have been used in the abstract or acknowledgements, not throughout the entire book.
With regards to vulnerability, I figured she wouldn't spill fully. Granted, she doesn't owe anyone any explanations. However, it would've been better to read about it in her book than hear things from blogs, etc.
@@SibsM93 Omygootness! This has to be my favourite comment thus far! Thank you so much for engaging. ❤️
You are so beautiful and articulate. I love how you put your opinion in an organised form. You just gained a new subscriber. I love your tattoo on your arm. 🤎
Thank you so much. And thanks for engaging and subscribing! 🎉❤
As an avid reader I understand your frustrations. I’m quite impressed by your patience, I wouldn’t have made it to the third chapter if the first two weren’t captivating enough for me. 😂ke borega fast!
I have quite a number of books that I have not finished reading because of this. I do think she has something worthy to say, hence the patience! 😂❤
I'm stuck on the first 5 chapters, struggling to get through it. Sounds like waffle. Agreed that it's not for avid readers. The grammar and style is strange for a book. It feels sometimes like you are reading a vlog
@@justs7605 Yup! Thank you for engaging. ❤️
First time watching you, not really following Mpoomy but I just like how you articulate… new subscriber 💯
Welcome aboard! Thank you so much. 🎉🎉🎉🎉❤
I don't know ...I feel Bonolo is more important than Yolz but i get it..they are back together infact we didn't even know they had a fall out,or maybe that was the point?
She is more important as a friend maybe, but the fall out was not interesting enough to be the opening chapter. 🎉
I feel like you were looking for gossip.
@@_ndazy 40 whole minutes of airtime and this is the only thing you got from the video is….INTERESTING. Thanks for watching and appreciate the interaction! ❤️🎉
Thank you for the review. I just started reading the book and I cant make heads or tail about it. It’s all jumbled up it’s not making sense to me. Will keep going and find out.
I am an avid reader and this has to be one of the best books I have ever read.
@@thatomatuna1147 Happy for you Thato. Just because we disagree, should not be used to discredit the other person’s “avid reader”ness. 😜
I was just saying my view as an avid reader. Nothing more or less.
@@thatomatuna1147 Ohkay noted, thank you.
Thank you for the review, Ive learnt from experience that “celebrity” books arent usually the best, usually lack depth, I have a couple in my book shelf I havent finished,
Yeebo. Thanks for watching. 🎉❤
I am dying to get the book. I checked it on AmazonKSA and couldn't find it. Your avid reading really showed in the way you authentically reviewed the book. I have not read it yet, but in love with your criticism together with your praise. I feel they are balanced.
@@judiciousmasuku Hey there. Thank you for watching. You can get the book on Takealot. ❤️
They have it at Exclusive books
Yes our reading culture is diplorable. And the reflection is in the books that are also published.
Seems as if her book could have been a blog post or vlog, she would have made way more money. But the ego also wanted to have "book" under the belt of "accolades".
Ey maaaan! 🤫
Great review, I love how you unpacked everything!❤
@@ohthenticbeauty Thank you. ❤️
Your honesty is appreciated so much.
Thanks for watching! 🎉❤
New subscriber🎉I find you relatable, the depletion of English bundles😅loved how you articulate yourself and giving us context in the beginning, more of these please.
@@HildaCarlyMbele Thank you so much. ❤️
Thanks for the review I am deeply disappointed I have been meaning to purchase this book with the assumption that it has a lot of depth into her journey and life experiences holistically. It comes across as very shallow and lacks authenticity of who she is at the very core.
@@nelisiwekhumalo9449 I do still think it’s worth buying. Maybe you’ll experience it differently. You will also be supporting another powerful black woman. That, never goes to waste! 🎉❤️
Sis, you have my attention ❤️. Love love this! Let me subscribe
Thank you! I’m glad you enjoyed the review! 🎉❤️
As a country we need to define what privilege means.
Because someone doesn't have what you have or has more than you we see them as privileged which in the larger scale isn't always true.
It's such a tricky topic in SA and I hope we get to speak about it one day. What is poverty and what is privalge. One would think you were privileged then we play in performing poverty to fit in. It's so tricky lol Jus subbed
Oh my heart is ticketed. Izolo I wanted to buy black female authors' books but didn't know where to start. I am gonna pretend you and I are in a book club and just buy all those you recommend.
Thank you so much! Glad you enjoyed the review. 😊❤
@@itumelengndaba9691 I’ll be reading Nozi’s Positively Me. So maybe give that a try.
You did good… Sorry you had to be super cautious coz of people “coming for you…” But this content is absolutely necessary ❤
Thank you so much. ❤️
Can someone please spoil it for me? What happened to the pregnancy? Lol I don't wanna buy the book
Amazing review! Love you
Buy the book bestie! Thank you so much. 😊
I think your perspective on wealth classes is a bit flawed. To question other peoples pockets and financial struggles based on frivolous things like a sleepover and lasagne is a stretch especially when lasagne is a pasta recipe that families alternate to avoid the mundane meal of the macaroni and mince meat, and sleep overs are just... sleepovers. I think accessibility and open mindedness may seem like wealth when its just creative ways to make means to an end.
The double standard is killing me! If I grew up eating pap and inkomazi, and my grandmother didn’t allow friends to sleep over and therefore, I regard people who grew up eating lasagne and could indulge in sleepovers as privilege, you don’t get to dictate my lived experience. Lastly, wealth is relative. What you regard as a mundane meal is actually a luxury to someone else. That said, thank you for watching and appreciate the feedback.
Your style of review is so interesting, like I get your analysis..you probably read and write a lot, right? Love it!❤❤
@@MissCombs1511 Yes Yes, I do. Thank you so much. ❤️
She and Kerry Washington didn't go deep, vulnerable, but not vulnerable! But we move hey. We read what we were given😂
@@refilwesehlake Ohhh! And I have the Kerry Washington book! I just haven’t read it yet. 🤣❤️
@bbshuping6985 I couldn't finish it, kept feeling she shouldn't have bothered if she was not gonna touch on the depth of who she is, please do read it, I'd like your review/verdict
@bbshuping6985 I couldn't finish it, kept feeling she shouldn't have bothered if she was not gonna touch on the depth of who she is, please do read it, I'd like your review/verdict
@ Will do. ❤️
I will be waiting on your review.. I would like to see if I was fair to her when I read it!
Consistency what le what ❤
Thanks lover. ❤
I must say you your voice sounds like Phetola Makhetha
I will give her a listen. Thanks for watching. 🥳💝
The lense and the viewfinder can be confusing.I dnt know where is wat but the lense get a us to connect with u as the viewers
@@DarksecretsConfessions Hey, I can’t understand what you’re saying. Please clarify?
@@bbshuping6985 were u filming wth a fone or 📷 if it a camera it has a screen on the side so most pple end up looking at the screen and not in the lenses .I
@@DarksecretsConfessions I was filming with a phone.
@@bbshuping6985 ok I understand
To more book reviews please.
New Subbie here 🎉
@@boitekanelo_za Will do, thank you. ❤️
First of all you look gorgeous and thank you for the review, 2024 I hardly read even though I had about 3 new books I struggled to carry on reading maybe the books where not captivating but yah will give it a chance the next year.
It’s ohkay! It happens to the best of us. Life does get in the way of us doing the things we enjoy. Better luck next year. Thank you for watching. 🎉❤
Thank you, I appreciate that.
Oh thank God it gets better because i stopped reading after chapter 5 or 6 about 4-5 werks ago it got weird and boring a bit short chapters with unfinished stuff and the "reflect part" is not my fav😢
Hang in there! It really gets good. 🎉😂
@@luyolonkomana2321 I also didn’t “reflect” part. But I understand the vision.
Yeas yeas😊
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Beautiful and smart!❤ just gained yourself a subscribe.
@@Londonmbeki Thanks Yolanda. ❤️
Enjoyed your review, however, the gum you were chewing is a little distracting.
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Really enjoyed your review.
@@gugu_and_kearabilwe Thank you for watching. ❤️
Loved the review,however the chewing gum was distracting
@@labz_kay Thank you for watching. Noted! 🎉
I also agree the chewing gum was very distracting
not to spite you at all but the gum chewing was a bit distracting🤭
@@nyasha2432 Trust you me, enough people have told me this already. 🙂↔️
😂😂😂 am sorry I don't know she even wrote a book bathong
I just discovered you, you my type of lady! A collab maybe?
Thank you so much. Let me think about it. ❤
Good review
Appreciate it! ❤️
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Really enjoyed this.🥹♥️
Looking forward to part 2.
Coming soon!
Hi motho waka! Part 2 is up! 🎉
I don’t think you have had enough lived experiences to write a memoir.. maybe a book on a different topic. Also she could have just done a podcast with her husband asking her deep soul probing questions rather not an entire book. Plus she is not good with vulnerability and it shows
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Not your constitutional right 😂 but honestly, that’s a valid disclaimer!!
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You wanted gossip and she didn't give it yo you 😂😂😂
Bestie, this is 40 min video and this is all you got from the review? 😂❤️
Facts!
I agree😂
What's up with the chewing gum?? I was going to continue listening but yohh it annoyed the life out of me.
@@nothandonicolakavhu6529 Is it illegal to chew gum in SA? 😂
@@bbshuping6985 Oh I'm coming from a grooming and etiquette angle love. When speaking, it's improper. However, you do you sweetie. Whatever you like, it's your channel and your content after all.
I have no idea who these people are and also just found this channel. I will say yes she wrote for her audience, anyone who isn't her follower or supporter or has no clue she exists won't buy it so that was a weird obvious take from you. I mean yeah... People have a target market.
@@theoneandonly86-o5q Ohkay! 🤓
Loved this review - new subbie all the way from Kenya 🫶🏾
Mara it just cut off at the end - is there a part 2?
@@OfentseTsipa Yes there is. It’s the latest video on the channel. Thank you so much. ❤️