my daughter is 3 year old i always try to make her understand things by talking, whatever u have is best p, never make her fool n say lies etc it really works
Absolutely true. I realised after a year that I’m forcing my son to study and learn for exams. Later I realised he has his own time to study and I felt I shouldn’t make him study study study. I left him explore life first and then I won’t force unless he says let’s do study or reading… Younger age is more of tender age.
My dearest friends. Being in control of your parents is the most beautiful thing in life . I am 42 yrs old. I proudly say I am in complete control of my mumma. I am in her control because I respect her and the values she have given to me. I have a good job and decent salary and 42 yrs but this does not mean that you overlook your parents. Avoid negativity feel proud by saying that your parents never permit you drink, or to do this. I am sure that taking permission from your parents makes them proud
Somethings are not in our control, continue doing what's best for your child from your side and support them in everyway which will balance their confidence.
Aapko lgta h control me rhna thik h ,,, meri mumma bat nhi krti mujhe jyada bs hmesa chup krati 🙂,,, aur meri aage ki study me koi interested nhi h aap btao ky shi h
Model right behaviour.. I think there should be parenting course for every parent on how to discipline child with positive motivation or ignoring bad behavior.. Children does not comes with manual.So parenting classes are very important.Society has changed earlier there was a whole "village to raise a child" now its a nuclear family mostly.
I had such narcissistic parents, my mom always said that I left job because of you. As I was not good in maths, my parents discontinued my hobbies since class VI. My father used abusive language and there was a perpetual disconnect between me and my parents. My father expired three years back but I was not in grief. I did my motal duty of last rites. I did my duty. My parents always said that we did our duty to our daughter. Even at the age of 40,my mom still tries to control me.
I could feel your pain. We cant live in the pain of past and create a Happy present or future. Whats not of no use we throw in the dust bin. What is valuable we preserve. Liberate yourself and your father by forgiving and forgettig. Passing on fatherly love to wounded daughter
Koi bhi parents ke intentions galat nahi hote. Aap unke side se socho. aur aap aaj ke generation ke hisab se soch rakhte ho par unke generation me sab aise hi chalta hoga jaise ki vo vaise pale badhe he to uska Asar bhi rahega Aap bhi apne baccho ke liye kuch chije sacrificed karoge aur fir Aap ke soch jaisa socha vaisa nahi hua to Aap ke muh se bhi Aap ke sacrificed ki baate niklegi baccho ke samne na nikali to man me par Aap bhi vaisa hi sochoge so pls parents ko hate mat Karo Aap jo apne liye aapke baccho se expect karte ho Aap khud bhi Aap ke parents sath vaise rahe kyoki aakhir Aap ke bacche bad me Aap ka hi follow karenge aur sau baat ki ek baat Aap ke soch ka Asar Aap ke health par bhi hota he to pls sab ignore maro life jio huske pyaar baatke na ki nafrat Aap ko behtar mehsoos hoga Aur fir jaiske ko vaisa dushman ke sath karte he ma bap ke sath nahi Bade budho ne kaha ma bap ke charno me swarg hota he to sach he bhai unke karm agar galat ho to bhagwan dekh lega tum apne karma par focus Karo Kyonki acchai ka fal bhagwan deta koi ma bap nahi unke hat me hota to duniya ka koi baccha kamnasib nahi hota . Last me bhai meri baat ka bura laga ho to maaf kar dena maine Aap ki khushi hi chahi Hai... Vaise Maine video dekha nahi sidhi aapki coment padhi he
True but in today’s scenario kids are completely forgetting basic ethic culture of minimum listening and agreeing to the parents and this will impact their future only!!
I am a single working mom.mere bacche k sath mera bonding bahut accha hai.but abhi to bas 5 yrs ki hai.mujhe ye soch k darr lagta hai k main sara kuch akele kaise manage karungi.its a long way to go 😢
I can vouch whatever she has said is 💯 percent correct. But at times it’s very hard to follow the basic rules . Coz we have grown up like that where parents n grandparents had no clue about correct parenting. Scolding n comparisons ke bina din shoru nahi hota hai 😊. It’s still going in every household. Most of Asian parents are like that . Chinese n Korean upbringing is worse intact . I work with them so I can tell they are much more harsh than Indian parents with there kids. . So it’s in human DNa . We can change gradually by this kind of awareness n rolemodeling I guess . Also as u said balancing is the key .
@@riritrivediI don't know even if it's right or wrong because my husband is always shouting & telling me that I'm wasting my money on her activities. Our daughter is not academic & likes sports etc. She is a single child. So in the pretext of work, I live a little far from our main home & we go back during the weekend. Our daughter is neurodivergent so often we have dramas at home if we all are together. My husband doesn't believe in role modelling & as you said, we can't control others behavior!! Ever since I keep them far, less drama. I didn't tell him that you are always scolding us. I just said, let money go maintaining two places but it's hard for me to do up & down. My daughter' school is near my work place. It works out well for us. I take her to her dance lessons, music concert which she enjoys a lot!
My daughter is 4 year old ..through this journey most of days i have been kind loving n supportive parents hence on other days specially in her todler years someday i hit her n do not understand her..everyday i m thinking that i want to be more on understanding n loving n supportive side ..i want to do lot of work on myself ..still as a parent i do mistake ..and thats y i m here watching this video
The very fact that you are feeling guilty and looking for ways to improve yourself means you are a great parent. Accept that you made a mistake, you are not perfect and move on. Most imp thing while discipling a child is to not cut yourself off, if you got angry tell your child in simple language that “mama made a mistake and mama will try to do a better job” . This makes the child immediately learn two things - 1. We are reaponsible for our actions 2. We should always apologize for our mistakes.
Children are taking advantage of parent being easy with them spending time with video gaming , playing , chatting . If we are not making them study now , we are worried , how many become Sachin & shariah . if there is no alternative talent , then we are worried of their future.
Wish someone was their to teach our parents about parenting when we were kids and not be the victim of abuse and generational trauma. Atleast our kids wont suffer like us
Failure handle karna keise sikhaye bachcho ko ? Pls give video on that .. kyoki aaj kal parents sucessful banna sikhate hai , par failure handle karna nahi sikhate. Aur depression ke case isi karan se increase hote hai .
My parents, sisters,my husband and also full in- law family narcissist hain...i have 6 years baby boy...so iss narcissist logo ke bech mai, kaise mere bete ko acche parbarish du??? And i need to know ki mera 6 years beta bhi kya narcissist ho sakte hain?? Main kaise save karu aur acchi parenting katu mere bacche ka???? Pls give me suggestions
Agreed with the thoughts and understand that you want to convince all 😊 however the voice sounds stressful. As a parent primary thing to avoid stress in kids or any one is to talk softly and wisely 🥰
I can see the audience getting so uncomfortable hearing this.. 😅 Subtle parental abuse is such a hidden form of trauma in the south asian context 💯 Great speech!! I wish Indian parents ko ek din ye sari baatein samajh me aa jaye. 😢
Aap shi bol rhe madam , but i feel stress by getting know reality through u , about my parents. I am pregnant. And i feel to learn good parenting so that i can be a good parent to my coming kid atleast despite of i dont get good treatment from my parents .and i feel to study psychology .how to study ?? Where to get admission ?
How to deal with controlling parents? At the age of 27, i still find my mother policing me and poking nose in almost all business. I somehow feel she lacks boundaries. Apart from this whatever i try to do, i am not supported by them unless i do what they say or decide for me. I have huge trust issues with them as they being the controlling pillars have tried to put a full stop to my independence, career and the freedom i deserve as a woman of 27. At times its so difficult that i only vent out my anxiety, emotions infront of my friends. How do i deal with this? I am a post grad, B.Ed, Ex teacher and now i dont work because i am unable to find a job in my state and wishing to relocate but i am controlled and guilt tripped by my parents as they keep on saying who will look after us, despite there are 2 siblings who are well settled in different states and i am unable to settle and my scope has also become limited by them. What should i do Ma'am?
You can take consultation, after which you'll get better understanding, also your parents might also be victim of childhood abuse and it is showing in their behavior. For therapy or consultation queries please fill up this form forms.gle/EP8FsWkmhe2bDTS6A Once you submit the form our team will reach out to you in the next 48 hrs For further questions please WhatsApp us on +91 9099853844 between 10 am to 6 pm IST Meanwhile please see the video on what our consultation process is like ua-cam.com/play/PLa4jfO4aTSvtuDRNpUU5RO3xIuvQBieDx.html&feature=shared
I'm not a counselor however with personal experience, it's very important to find a job for yourself, even if it's in a different city. Find a project for your mother, may be she visits your siblings. Start saying your point of view for very simple things. This will give them a subtle message that you have your own opinion. At 27 you should be independent. You should be seeking advice & opinions only and not following them with resentment. We love our parents and respect should be there. However you are an individual with such good academic achievements. Please utilize them. Take small steps. The fear of making mistakes & guilt trap is not good. My life changed when I watched movie Beta! (Funny but so many things were true). Stay blessed!
Madam you are absolutely correct. Children r like mitti ka gola. We give them a shape as per our wish. But it's sad to that in India around 1.50 lakhs children forcefully growing with hatred mentality against #Father. Who will save those children. If you have a time then kindly make speech on #ParentalAlienationOfFather & #GrandParentAlienation. A big problem now in India.
1.build you connection with children. 2.donot stress 3. Calm and understanding 4. Observer you own behavior 5.be consisent . 6. Don't user fear methods, Don't threat them. 7. Manage expectation 8. Don't make your child a project
Madam i respect n appreciate wht u saying, par koi parents ke stress aur frustration level ki bhi to baat kare. We don't become super humans miraculously right after becoming parents. We try n try hard to give our child the best still things tend to go out of hands, we are no robots we too go thru emotions and anxieties trying as hard as we can. One should also understand each child is unique, it bcms so dfclt to figure out wht sort of child u have. It's jst we helplessly trying to manage things. Please try to think from a parents perspective too , it's very easy to stand and lecture on a podium. No parent wud willingly choose violence for their child. But things do go out of our hands we do get crazy. Please stop sending parents on a guilty trip too.
But even I also agree that we should not be violent to our children/child. When for the first time the child is doing wrong rectify him/her at that very moment and keep on rectifying each time the mistake is repeated.. after five or six times the child will definitely learn what is wrong and why is that wrong... And to some extent we should give relaxation to our children too... how can we forget that what kind of suffocating childhood we had with our parents!! Shall we also carry forward the same suffocation for our children? Please think about it as well... It's absolutely fine to be mad at children sometimes because we as parents too have our limits of taking things but at the same time let the role reverse also happen... let our children also vent out their anger, frustration, emotions at us when they feel it over the limits... then it will be a different parenting we can give to our children... at least different than we got from our parents.. And please don't worry.. i am not lecturing.. 😅 I am a single parent and this is my 'hands-on' experience I felt to share with you.. ❤
One should just remember that child is never our trigger to get angry , we should learn to identify our trigger, then only we will not blame them everytime for our anger
You are taking your frustration on your child because it is granted. You know there is no consequences.. Your child will call mama or papa and come back again to you because she or he is helpless and she or he loves you more than anything else. Plus there is no negative consequences to you. “So your child becomes a safe target to take your frustration on.” There is frustration, there is difficulty everywhere you go. In your workplace or in your society or in your family. Do you take your frustration on your mother-in-law, father-in-law, your teacher or your colleague or your boss? No, because there are consequences. So the only safe place without any consequences where you can let go of your frustration is your child and that is a crime and what you are doing is wrong..
@LISAA-X-24S You are taking your frustration on your child because it is granted. You know there is no consequences.. Your child will call mama or papa and come back again to you because she or he is helpless and she or he loves you more than anything else. Plus there is no negative consequences to you. “So your child becomes a safe target to take your frustration on.” There is frustration, there is difficulty everywhere you go. In your workplace or in your society or in your family. Do you take your frustration on your mother-in-law, father-in-law, your teacher or your colleague or your boss? No, because there are consequences. So the only safe place without any consequences where you can let go of your frustration is your child and that is a crime and what you are doing is wrong..
Mam mera masika beta. 10th me bad usne 10th ke marks ka boht pressure liya hai. Ab o khud se hi badbana laga hai. Usne boht hi pressure leliya hai. Medical bhi chal raha hai usala. Apke hisab se kya thik hoga ki o pahle jesa ho
Apna ghar alag se banao, agar possible nahi hai toh saath rehke bhi apni life ki responsibility khud lena shuru karo. Other people at home will lose their control over you gradually.
Mam I m talkative love dance music jolly kind person but my son is very quite less talkative loves football.. Thats all fine but recently he had very bad bad bad fight with his classmate.. My child broke finger of other child. Plz tell mee how to deal with him. My kid not stubborn not shaitaan not talkative not jiddi So this situation is very shocked to mee..
Mam mera beta 12 years ka h usko ADHD H last year wo mobile se addict ho gya tha abhi addiction nhi h pr adhd h to usko consantration bilkul nhi h padhai me uska mn nhi lgta h abhi uska occupational tharapy chal rha h mam use hm kaise treat kare jisse uska padhai me consantration bne please guid kare
Please share the other option for mother who is living alone ...without any support of parents...my child is just 2.5 how a mother go out and do job... without any support....how is possible just leave....n go job ...of your husband is pn full time job
Experiencing Brief Moments of Mind Blanks - Seeking Advice I am 18 year Old Boy, My mind goes blank for 5-10 seconds when I'm stressed, thinking too much about topic / thing , or scared. I can feel it coming also... but can't do anything, it's scary! Any idea what's happening with me? Thanks,
Bookish examples... Reality of life is different, A child who has the intelligence to absorb and analyze can do both for good and bad...several kids from drunk fathers divorced parents come out with flying colors... Children need to be disciplined need to focus on academics... growing stage they hv to be bent... Your bookish thoughts dont work in reality.. its like saying school has a discipline but let kids do wt they want....
I am grandmother of 12 year old boy. He doesn't want to study at all he says it is boring. All time he wants to play football or he will play see vedios of football games. He lost his mother in 2022. He has father who goes to work. Wr have started giving him pvt tution but the result is not good. He tells lies also many time and we tell him he doesn't agree that he is wrong and lying. Now pl suggest what should we do. This month terminals are starting but he doesn't open the book in house at all only school and tution he sees the books
He would have experienced trauma of losing his mother and that might make him distracted or disinterested - he has to learn from his mistakes. With whatever he is doing in school and tuition let him get the marks - then let him experience failure and he might learn from it. Or talk to him and understand what is going on in his mind - does he want to study or make a career in football? At 12 he understands that he needs to study if he wants to work - pls talk to him and understand what is his understanding on this
Hi ma'am my first child is 8 years old he is mild autism and my second son is 4 years old am telling about second son he is too good in studies he is went to school studing in nursery the complaint is in school he is not behaving well ziddi hai jaldi nahi sunta aur agar writing reading time achha communication karta hai baad mai bachho ke saath marna peethna karta hai please help me how can i control this
Your child is small you can take parental consultation for yourself which will focus on how to handle such situations. For therapy or consultation queries please fill up this form forms.gle/EP8FsWkmhe2bDTS6A Once you submit the form our team will reach out to you in the next 48 hrs For further questions please WhatsApp us on +91 9099853844 between 10 am to 6 pm IST Meanwhile please see the video on what our consultation process is like ua-cam.com/play/PLa4jfO4aTSvtuDRNpUU5RO3xIuvQBieDx.html&feature=shared
For therapy or consultation queries please fill up this form 👉🏼 forms.gle/EP8FsWkmhe2bDTS6A Once you submit the form our team will reach out to you in the next 48 hrs🙏🏼 For further questions please WhatsApp us on +91 9099853844 between 10 am to 6 pm IST Meanwhile please see the video on what our consultation process is like 👉 ua-cam.com/play/PLa4jfO4aTSvtuDRNpUU5RO3xIuvQBieDx.html&feature=shared
For therapy or consultation queries please fill up this form 👉🏼 forms.gle/EP8FsWkmhe2bDTS6A Once you submit the form our team will reach out to you in the next 48 hrs🙏🏼 For further questions please WhatsApp us on +91 9099853844 between 10 am to 6 pm IST Meanwhile please see the video on what our consultation process is like 👉 ua-cam.com/play/PLa4jfO4aTSvtuDRNpUU5RO3xIuvQBieDx.html&feature=shared
Mam sorry but you are too constricted in your thoughts, everything is needed in various phases of life as a child grows. Same was given to me as well daant ladai pyar sab, parents also have their own life, they are not slave to their choice of having a child. You are just referring to the few negative cases that you solve. Just spreading negativity also excites or increases the negativity exponentially of someone who maybe even have just a small problem. Just making a business. Great mam. You are doing a noble job, but atleast don't spread hatred in the unique and sacred relation of a child and parent(*Don't plant seeds of doubt in teens with a difficult pre-teen life, their parents did the best of their capability*) . And it's life mam every family has it's own issue and struggles and they overcome it by various ways., you are no one to judge. Rather you should preach about the real struggles and the root cause of a teen coming running to you complain about parenting. If anyone is not able to handle the way of parenting whatever be it a rough one or a pleasent one, how will they face actual problems of life. It's goes on mam. You are doing a Noble job great, earning a great amount awesome you should. But atleast don't poison the teens mind of India. India has its own culture and struggles so stop thinking ki western way of parenting (always pamper, love, understanding and freedom, etc.) will solve anything. Rather it would lead to a western culture where teen will start living without parents. #Shame on such thoughts. #Embrace and learn from the western culture but don't adopt it.
I don’t think my talks or videos are poisoning anyone’s mind. I am a parent to 2 kids myself so last thing I would do is blame parents! But yes if parents are doing things that are damaging the child - even if intentions are right, needs to be called out. Today’s youth knows what i am talking about and also most parents who follow me. I don’t just find faults but I also give solutions and positive parenting tips - if u have seen the full video
As parenting involves nurturing from both the parent's viewpoint, it is as important to understand the child's needs. Parenting in the presence of a toxic partner can be tough, but prioritizing your child's needs is crucial. It's important to communicate openly about what's best for them and let them decide how to proceed, even if it differs from the other parent's views.
That is called OLD IS GOLD....Ma'am Salute to yoir Knowledge❤
I am only 50!! he he he!! Yes old is gold!!
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😂 I do stopped dying hair because of Riri Trivedi ji and life has become so easy @@riritrivedi
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I treated my children as friends - results are perfect. Both are educated and well settled. ❤️🙏
Good to hear that
Mam ese seminar sabhi school me bhi ho to hum 21 vi century ko energy me convert kar sakte hai ❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏🙏
sahi!! pls organize! i will come!
Thanks ma'am aapke videos sahi time pe mile just one year of married no kid's yet but video dekh ke kafi kuch pehle hi prepare kar sakte hain.💚
Look at sister Shivani's concentration. Such a knowledge soul but still giving full attention to Riri Ma'am
Exactly 💯
Lovely maam.. i wish n pray it reaches to more n more parents.. om shanti
Absolutely true I HV tried all this to my son,n believe me he is a bachelor now n perfect in all things.
my daughter is 3 year old
i always try to make her understand things by talking, whatever u have is best p, never make her fool n say lies etc
it really works
Absolutely true. I realised after a year that I’m forcing my son to study and learn for exams. Later I realised he has his own time to study and I felt I shouldn’t make him study study study. I left him explore life first and then I won’t force unless he says let’s do study or reading…
Younger age is more of tender age.
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My dearest friends. Being in control of your parents is the most beautiful thing in life . I am 42 yrs old. I proudly say I am in complete control of my mumma. I am in her control because I respect her and the values she have given to me.
I have a good job and decent salary and 42 yrs but this does not mean that you overlook your parents.
Avoid negativity feel proud by saying that your parents never permit you drink, or to do this.
I am sure that taking permission from your parents makes them proud
Somethings are not in our control, continue doing what's best for your child from your side and support them in everyway which will balance their confidence.
Aapko lgta h control me rhna thik h ,,, meri mumma bat nhi krti mujhe jyada bs hmesa chup krati 🙂,,, aur meri aage ki study me koi interested nhi h aap btao ky shi h
Ma'am m the mother of 1 year old.. and working women... All ur videos have always helped me wenever i felt frustrated about parenting..
Aap kise sambalte ho.kya profile apki job ki
Model right behaviour.. I think there should be parenting course for every parent on how to discipline child with positive motivation or ignoring bad behavior.. Children does not comes with manual.So parenting classes are very important.Society has changed earlier there was a whole "village to raise a child" now its a nuclear family mostly.
thank u ma'am
thank you so much ma'am 👏😊
welcome!
I had such narcissistic parents, my mom always said that I left job because of you. As I was not good in maths, my parents discontinued my hobbies since class VI. My father used abusive language and there was a perpetual disconnect between me and my parents. My father expired three years back but I was not in grief. I did my motal duty of last rites. I did my duty. My parents always said that we did our duty to our daughter. Even at the age of 40,my mom still tries to control me.
This is me. At the age of 43 controlling parents
I could feel your pain. We cant live in the pain of past and create a Happy present or future. Whats not of no use we throw in the dust bin. What is valuable we preserve. Liberate yourself and your father by forgiving and forgettig. Passing on fatherly love to wounded daughter
Truly sad about it and pls forget their mistake and learn from it for your children. So much support to you.
Koi bhi parents ke intentions galat nahi hote. Aap unke side se socho. aur aap aaj ke generation ke hisab se soch rakhte ho par unke generation me sab aise hi chalta hoga jaise ki vo vaise pale badhe he to uska Asar bhi rahega
Aap bhi apne baccho ke liye kuch chije sacrificed karoge aur fir Aap ke soch jaisa socha vaisa nahi hua to Aap ke muh se bhi Aap ke sacrificed ki baate niklegi baccho ke samne na nikali to man me par Aap bhi vaisa hi sochoge so pls parents ko hate mat Karo Aap jo apne liye aapke baccho se expect karte ho Aap khud bhi Aap ke parents sath vaise rahe kyoki aakhir Aap ke bacche bad me Aap ka hi follow karenge aur sau baat ki ek baat Aap ke soch ka Asar Aap ke health par bhi hota he to pls sab ignore maro life jio huske pyaar baatke na ki nafrat
Aap ko behtar mehsoos hoga
Aur fir jaiske ko vaisa dushman ke sath karte he ma bap ke sath nahi
Bade budho ne kaha ma bap ke charno me swarg hota he to sach he bhai unke karm agar galat ho to bhagwan dekh lega tum apne karma par focus Karo
Kyonki acchai ka fal bhagwan deta koi ma bap nahi unke hat me hota to duniya ka koi baccha kamnasib nahi hota .
Last me bhai meri baat ka bura laga ho to maaf kar dena maine Aap ki khushi hi chahi Hai...
Vaise Maine video dekha nahi sidhi aapki coment padhi he
I have also faced these things
Assalam o Alaikum
I am from Pakistan. Your lecture is very informative. Kindly deliver a lecture on how parents control their anger before children.
First time watching 👀 liking so much 🙏
Yay! Thank you!
Will try to follow... Very nicely explained.
All the best
Yes 👏👏 Yes even I have pass my child hood in stress of my aunty now she is no more …but I passed through insecurity feeling
It's worth watching every parent should watch this.
Excellent..bohut sare mistakes krti hu..sudharungi khub ko
yes pls. iss liye videos daali hai
Welcome from Nepal Dr ma'am, You're great.
True but in today’s scenario kids are completely forgetting basic ethic culture of minimum listening and agreeing to the parents and this will impact their future only!!
My parents destroyed my childhood. But I'll try my best to give the best environment to my baby.
Yes you can be the change maker who breaks the cycle of trauma :)
@@shrishtikhare4037 Hope your children are enjoying the childhood
I am a single working mom.mere bacche k sath mera bonding bahut accha hai.but abhi to bas 5 yrs ki hai.mujhe ye soch k darr lagta hai k main sara kuch akele kaise manage karungi.its a long way to go 😢
Same same
Mt parents also destroyed my hole life 😭
I can vouch whatever she has said is 💯 percent correct. But at times it’s very hard to follow the basic rules . Coz we have grown up like that where parents n grandparents had no clue about correct parenting. Scolding n comparisons ke bina din shoru nahi hota hai 😊. It’s still going in every household. Most of Asian parents are like that . Chinese n Korean upbringing is worse intact . I work with them so I can tell they are much more harsh than Indian parents with there kids. . So it’s in human DNa . We can change gradually by this kind of awareness n rolemodeling I guess . Also as u said balancing is the key .
Thank u
Ms. Trivedi, its a great advice for every parents. Excellent 👌🏽👌🏽🙏🏽♥️
This madam should also take some initiative on keeping students school bag much lighter in this digital way of academics.
You are wonderful and helped many. Thankyou
Thank u❤
It is very difficult to make understand my husband all these things. He always just points out mistake of my son, doesn't try to rectify mistake.
Same problem mere sath v h
Your husbands behavior is not in your control
@@riritrivediI don't know even if it's right or wrong because my husband is always shouting & telling me that I'm wasting my money on her activities. Our daughter is not academic & likes sports etc. She is a single child. So in the pretext of work, I live a little far from our main home & we go back during the weekend.
Our daughter is neurodivergent so often we have dramas at home if we all are together. My husband doesn't believe in role modelling & as you said, we can't control others behavior!!
Ever since I keep them far, less drama. I didn't tell him that you are always scolding us. I just said, let money go maintaining two places but it's hard for me to do up & down. My daughter' school is near my work place. It works out well for us. I take her to her dance lessons, music concert which she enjoys a lot!
@@riritrivedimam mere husband hamesha meri galti nikalte hai... In sab chizo me
Ma'am मैं तो आपका कॉन्फिडेंस देखकर हैरान हूं 😮high level 🎉
Thank you 🙏
Nice talk mam.
सही कह रहे हैं। मैं भी यही बात पेरेंट्स टीचर्स मीटिंग में कहता रहा,पर कुछ ही अभिभावक फोलो करते हैं।
My daughter is 4 year old ..through this journey most of days i have been kind loving n supportive parents hence on other days specially in her todler years someday i hit her n do not understand her..everyday i m thinking that i want to be more on understanding n loving n supportive side ..i want to do lot of work on myself ..still as a parent i do mistake ..and thats y i m here watching this video
The very fact that you are feeling guilty and looking for ways to improve yourself means you are a great parent. Accept that you made a mistake, you are not perfect and move on. Most imp thing while discipling a child is to not cut yourself off, if you got angry tell your child in simple language that “mama made a mistake and mama will try to do a better job” . This makes the child immediately learn two things - 1. We are reaponsible for our actions
2. We should always apologize for our mistakes.
Great information madem
Few parents know the value of life ... , value of money , value of people, value of trust, truth.....
Children are taking advantage of parent being easy with them spending time with video gaming , playing , chatting . If we are not making them study now , we are worried , how many become Sachin & shariah . if there is no alternative talent , then we are worried of their future.
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thanks buddy !
Wish someone was their to teach our parents about parenting when we were kids and not be the victim of abuse and generational trauma. Atleast our kids wont suffer like us
Well said!
Thanks
Thanks Mam definitely i will change my behaviour
great
Useful . Thank you mam.
Failure handle karna keise sikhaye bachcho ko ? Pls give video on that .. kyoki aaj kal parents sucessful banna sikhate hai , par failure handle karna nahi sikhate. Aur depression ke case isi karan se increase hote hai .
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True.
I wish I send these video to my mother and father 😢😢😢
My parents, sisters,my husband and also full in- law family narcissist hain...i have 6 years baby boy...so iss narcissist logo ke bech mai, kaise mere bete ko acche parbarish du??? And i need to know ki mera 6 years beta bhi kya narcissist ho sakte hain?? Main kaise save karu aur acchi parenting katu mere bacche ka???? Pls give me suggestions
For teachers to take account too
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You’re welcome 😊
Agreed with the thoughts and understand that you want to convince all 😊 however the voice sounds stressful. As a parent primary thing to avoid stress in kids or any one is to talk softly and wisely 🥰
Thanks for sharing!
What a wonderful way
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Thanks Madam it was nice
Nicely said
I can see the audience getting so uncomfortable hearing this.. 😅
Subtle parental abuse is such a hidden form of trauma in the south asian context 💯
Great speech!!
I wish Indian parents ko ek din ye sari baatein samajh me aa jaye. 😢
Connection before correction.
We are going to post a video about it soon, stay tuned
Parents believe in strictness and punishment. But not in love and respect.
Very nice
Thanks
this pettern is following in Europe and big metro city, not in indian small town and village
What pattern are you talking about?
perfect rules…
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Aap shi bol rhe madam , but i feel stress by getting know reality through u , about my parents. I am pregnant. And i feel to learn good parenting so that i can be a good parent to my coming kid atleast despite of i dont get good treatment from my parents .and i feel to study psychology .how to study ?? Where to get admission ?
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Too good
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So good
Thanks!
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Thanks!
How to deal with controlling parents?
At the age of 27, i still find my mother policing me and poking nose in almost all business. I somehow feel she lacks boundaries. Apart from this whatever i try to do, i am not supported by them unless i do what they say or decide for me. I have huge trust issues with them as they being the controlling pillars have tried to put a full stop to my independence, career and the freedom i deserve as a woman of 27. At times its so difficult that i only vent out my anxiety, emotions infront of my friends. How do i deal with this? I am a post grad, B.Ed, Ex teacher and now i dont work because i am unable to find a job in my state and wishing to relocate but i am controlled and guilt tripped by my parents as they keep on saying who will look after us, despite there are 2 siblings who are well settled in different states and i am unable to settle and my scope has also become limited by them. What should i do Ma'am?
You can take consultation, after which you'll get better understanding, also your parents might also be victim of childhood abuse and it is showing in their behavior.
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I'm not a counselor however with personal experience, it's very important to find a job for yourself, even if it's in a different city. Find a project for your mother, may be she visits your siblings.
Start saying your point of view for very simple things. This will give them a subtle message that you have your own opinion. At 27 you should be independent. You should be seeking advice & opinions only and not following them with resentment. We love our parents and respect should be there. However you are an individual with such good academic achievements. Please utilize them. Take small steps. The fear of making mistakes & guilt trap is not good. My life changed when I watched movie Beta! (Funny but so many things were true).
Stay blessed!
Madam you are absolutely correct. Children r like mitti ka gola. We give them a shape as per our wish. But it's sad to that in India around 1.50 lakhs children forcefully growing with hatred mentality against #Father. Who will save those children. If you have a time then kindly make speech on #ParentalAlienationOfFather & #GrandParentAlienation. A big problem now in India.
Absolutely 💯 percent. True
So wonderful mam..... ❤❤❤❤
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Me facing all these shits ..sharing this to my controlling parents.. don't know what would be the next reaction I'm gonna face ..hope for the good ..
Good
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May to I stand with my children masha-allah
1.build you connection with children. 2.donot stress 3. Calm and understanding 4. Observer you own behavior 5.be consisent . 6. Don't user fear methods, Don't threat them. 7. Manage expectation 8. Don't make your child a project
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Madam i respect n appreciate wht u saying, par koi parents ke stress aur frustration level ki bhi to baat kare. We don't become super humans miraculously right after becoming parents. We try n try hard to give our child the best still things tend to go out of hands, we are no robots we too go thru emotions and anxieties trying as hard as we can. One should also understand each child is unique, it bcms so dfclt to figure out wht sort of child u have. It's jst we helplessly trying to manage things. Please try to think from a parents perspective too , it's very easy to stand and lecture on a podium. No parent wud willingly choose violence for their child. But things do go out of our hands we do get crazy. Please stop sending parents on a guilty trip too.
But even I also agree that we should not be violent to our children/child. When for the first time the child is doing wrong rectify him/her at that very moment and keep on rectifying each time the mistake is repeated.. after five or six times the child will definitely learn what is wrong and why is that wrong...
And to some extent we should give relaxation to our children too... how can we forget that what kind of suffocating childhood we had with our parents!! Shall we also carry forward the same suffocation for our children? Please think about it as well...
It's absolutely fine to be mad at children sometimes because we as parents too have our limits of taking things but at the same time let the role reverse also happen... let our children also vent out their anger, frustration, emotions at us when they feel it over the limits... then it will be a different parenting we can give to our children... at least different than we got from our parents..
And please don't worry.. i am not lecturing.. 😅 I am a single parent and this is my 'hands-on' experience I felt to share with you.. ❤
One should just remember that child is never our trigger to get angry , we should learn to identify our trigger, then only we will not blame them everytime for our anger
Sir ma'am is saying right think children are your full time project
You are taking your frustration on your child because it is granted. You know there is no consequences.. Your child will call mama or papa and come back again to you because she or he is helpless and she or he loves you more than anything else. Plus there is no negative consequences to you.
“So your child becomes a safe target to take your frustration on.”
There is frustration, there is difficulty everywhere you go. In your workplace or in your society or in your family. Do you take your frustration on your mother-in-law, father-in-law, your teacher or your colleague or your boss? No, because there are consequences. So the only safe place without any consequences where you can let go of your frustration is your child and that is a crime and what you are doing is wrong..
@LISAA-X-24S You are taking your frustration on your child because it is granted. You know there is no consequences.. Your child will call mama or papa and come back again to you because she or he is helpless and she or he loves you more than anything else. Plus there is no negative consequences to you.
“So your child becomes a safe target to take your frustration on.”
There is frustration, there is difficulty everywhere you go. In your workplace or in your society or in your family. Do you take your frustration on your mother-in-law, father-in-law, your teacher or your colleague or your boss? No, because there are consequences. So the only safe place without any consequences where you can let go of your frustration is your child and that is a crime and what you are doing is wrong..
Mam mera masika beta. 10th me bad usne 10th ke marks ka boht pressure liya hai. Ab o khud se hi badbana laga hai. Usne boht hi pressure leliya hai.
Medical bhi chal raha hai usala.
Apke hisab se kya thik hoga ki o pahle jesa ho
aap usko emotional support dijiye aur ashwashan dijiye ke aap hamesha uske sath hai!!
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Teacher specialy Convent teacher must be needed to learn something about how to teach and what to teach it will be proved helpful for a healthy child.
Great job ma'am
Mam I have question inlaws ager toxic hn to kase kren parenting
Apna ghar alag se banao, agar possible nahi hai toh saath rehke bhi apni life ki responsibility khud lena shuru karo. Other people at home will lose their control over you gradually.
Jo log ye sbb sun ry hn aksr ye kuch ni krty hn ge
Afsos ye k jo log ye sbb krty hn they don’t relies k wo ghltt kr ry hn😮
Mam I m talkative love dance music jolly kind person but my son is very quite less talkative loves football.. Thats all fine but recently he had very bad bad bad fight with his classmate.. My child broke finger of other child. Plz tell mee how to deal with him. My kid not stubborn not shaitaan not talkative not jiddi So this situation is very shocked to mee..
Even if your son nature is quite it is possible your son expresses aggression sometime
Mam mera beta 12 years ka h usko ADHD H last year wo mobile se addict ho gya tha abhi addiction nhi h pr adhd h to usko consantration bilkul nhi h padhai me uska mn nhi lgta h abhi uska occupational tharapy chal rha h mam use hm kaise treat kare jisse uska padhai me consantration bne please guid kare
It helps alot and its related
Please share the other option for mother who is living alone ...without any support of parents...my child is just 2.5 how a mother go out and do job... without any support....how is possible just leave....n go job ...of your husband is pn full time job
If possible take help, maybe hire a nanny if you are comfortable with that.
What should I do ...if im having toxic husband??😢😢😢
Can you describe more about this ?
See.. even parents are not perfect,.. they have there own brought up issues
Experiencing Brief Moments of Mind Blanks - Seeking Advice
I am 18 year Old Boy, My mind goes blank for 5-10 seconds when I'm stressed, thinking too much about topic / thing , or scared. I can feel it coming also... but can't do anything, it's scary!
Any idea what's happening with me?
Thanks,
this can happen due to lot of stress and anxiety. pls do some calming and relaxing practises
also doing 10 mins of simple humming can help you focus and concentrate
Thanks madam my baby 3 years old kuch dino se meri mar kha rhahe but ab nhi hoga thanks so much
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Bookish examples... Reality of life is different, A child who has the intelligence to absorb and analyze can do both for good and bad...several kids from drunk fathers divorced parents come out with flying colors... Children need to be disciplined need to focus on academics... growing stage they hv to be bent... Your bookish thoughts dont work in reality.. its like saying school has a discipline but let kids do wt they want....
I am grandmother of 12 year old boy. He doesn't want to study at all he says it is boring. All time he wants to play football or he will play see vedios of football games. He lost his mother in 2022. He has father who goes to work. Wr have started giving him pvt tution but the result is not good. He tells lies also many time and we tell him he doesn't agree that he is wrong and lying. Now pl suggest what should we do. This month terminals are starting but he doesn't open the book in house at all only school and tution he sees the books
He would have experienced trauma of losing his mother and that might make him distracted or disinterested - he has to learn from his mistakes. With whatever he is doing in school and tuition let him get the marks - then let him experience failure and he might learn from it. Or talk to him and understand what is going on in his mind - does he want to study or make a career in football? At 12 he understands that he needs to study if he wants to work - pls talk to him and understand what is his understanding on this
Hi ma'am my first child is 8 years old he is mild autism and my second son is 4 years old am telling about second son he is too good in studies he is went to school studing in nursery the complaint is in school he is not behaving well ziddi hai jaldi nahi sunta aur agar writing reading time achha communication karta hai baad mai bachho ke saath marna peethna karta hai please help me how can i control this
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@@riritrivedi thanks mam . Could you please tell me the fees?
Mam, I have a daughter....she is not good in study. Day by day she gave very poor performance in study..... Mam please help me
Please talk to your daughter understand her concerns
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Ma'am mere 2bete h dono apas me bahut jhagarte h 11year and 8year ka beta h mam please koi solution bataeye
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Mera to bacha hi nhi hai😢.wish i had one
Mam sorry but you are too constricted in your thoughts, everything is needed in various phases of life as a child grows. Same was given to me as well daant ladai pyar sab, parents also have their own life, they are not slave to their choice of having a child. You are just referring to the few negative cases that you solve. Just spreading negativity also excites or increases the negativity exponentially of someone who maybe even have just a small problem. Just making a business. Great mam. You are doing a noble job, but atleast don't spread hatred in the unique and sacred relation of a child and parent(*Don't plant seeds of doubt in teens with a difficult pre-teen life, their parents did the best of their capability*) . And it's life mam every family has it's own issue and struggles and they overcome it by various ways., you are no one to judge. Rather you should preach about the real struggles and the root cause of a teen coming running to you complain about parenting. If anyone is not able to handle the way of parenting whatever be it a rough one or a pleasent one, how will they face actual problems of life. It's goes on mam. You are doing a Noble job great, earning a great amount awesome you should. But atleast don't poison the teens mind of India. India has its own culture and struggles so stop thinking ki western way of parenting (always pamper, love, understanding and freedom, etc.) will solve anything. Rather it would lead to a western culture where teen will start living without parents. #Shame on such thoughts. #Embrace and learn from the western culture but don't adopt it.
I don’t think my talks or videos are poisoning anyone’s mind. I am a parent to 2 kids myself so last thing I would do is blame parents! But yes if parents are doing things that are damaging the child - even if intentions are right, needs to be called out. Today’s youth knows what i am talking about and also most parents who follow me. I don’t just find faults but I also give solutions and positive parenting tips - if u have seen the full video
Mai narcissistic partner ke Sath bache ko.kaise ache se pale 😢 koi viklap bhi nhi hai uske sath rhne ke aalawa
As parenting involves nurturing from both the parent's viewpoint, it is as important to understand the child's needs. Parenting in the presence of a toxic partner can be tough, but prioritizing your child's needs is crucial. It's important to communicate openly about what's best for them and let them decide how to proceed, even if it differs from the other parent's views.
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Currently based in Ahmedabad
@riritrivedi nice to see you video makes happy in life
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