Last night I asked him if he saw a future with me after 1.5 yrs of dating... he said no that he doesn’t even think about it. I dumped him right then and there & im not looking back. 100% youre partners should know after 1 year if they think your relationship has potential for marriage. It’s not like I wanted to get married tomorrow but just knowing he sees the future would’ve reassured me we are both on same page. I made him FULLY aware for months what I want out the relationship. It’s whatever I’m glad I know what I know now and can move on . He’s been blowing my phone up but it’s only bc he feels bad & doesnt want to lose the convenience of me rn. Literally if he never saw me for marriage... this whole time I have been being USED. On to the next.
The problem isn't the idea of marriage. The problem is society and everywhere you look they're telling you there is always more fish in the sea and you got social media that makes it so easy for anybody to hook up and cheat and find somebody else to replace their old partner. Take away tech, folks and it's not gonna be that easy to replace the person that you really loved. You just got a little bored because there's hot people everywhere you turn and you can access them on Snapchat any day or night.
@@JaysonGaddis my partner and I separated for a while and I kept getting hit on by married men who only wanted to talk to me on Snapchat or they complain about their wives. My my relationship wasn't like that. I had to leave my husband because of all the psychiatric medicine the doctors kept putting him on. He had PTSD and became a little dangerous but our wounds are closing. I'm trying to be there for him.
Nah I found people in real life before social media was big and they sucked I think that now with social media I'll meet people much faster and won't have to waste time on going to bars and clubs
People people listen up. Before you get real serious with anyone the topic of marriage must come up if it is important to you. Don't let them talk you out of it. If it scares them good tell them to hit the road and not waste your time. You want to find out now not years later. Obviously don't bring it up right away as it will scare everyone away but bring it up pretty soon in the relationship when you are seeing each other regularly for 3 to 4 months but no later than 6 months. Don't' waste time life is short. Tell them if you are still together within say another year or two where the deadline of marriage should be. Depending on your age like young people should take more time so 2 years is acceptable as a deadline. Better 12 months or 18 months. For older folks you've been around the block and you know what you want more and you don't have years to wait around as you are closer to the end of your life so 1 years is the limit. Definitely don't have a kid before marriage. You set a bad example for the kid and the person has no real reason to marry you now as they already have the kid so what is the point of marriage? You are putting the carriage before the horse. This will motivate them to marry you. DO NOT WASTE TIME WITH TIME WASTERS. DON'T BE SOMEOONE'S PLACE HOLDER. WAKE UP YOU DESERVE BETTER.
Thank you. Good advice. I will not be called someone's girlfriend at 51. Non negotiable. I will not waste my golden year's on a relationship that isn't moving, three year's and no proposa. Must leave! Blessings 💖 🙏
I'm 40 and I'm starting to feel embarrassed about being just the girlfriend. Been together 7 years, we live together and have a child together. He knows I want to move forward with the relationship. But he won't even compromise. We are stuck and he doesn't see that
Thank y’all. Battling with this myself. Going on 6 years. Completely happy with him and he loves me just not enough to marry me. He’ll financially support me as if we were on the surface. I don’t have a say so I’m anything. I have pleaded why. I want to be married-it’s important time. I don’t know what to do.
I am literally in this situation I been with him for 6years and engaged for one year when I pop the question when we are getting married he says he doesn’t know I gave him till this year we get married or we break up I can’t keep giving the best years of my life that I cant get back I am preparing myself mentally so if I have to walk away I have the courage to do that because ladies we need to show our worth if the man your with can’t see that walk away save you a lot of hurt and heart break at the end of the day
I'm so happy having back my ex fiance back, after bring separated for 3months All thanks to mr Willson whom held me to get back my ex again I will suggest y'all get help from him and it's works within 4days.
I don’t agree with you. It’s very unfavorable to a male in the US to get divorced, especially if you are a high earner. The whole wedding thing is one night, like it’s not a big deal.
I'm going through this now... been with my bf for 5 years we talked about marriage before and recently told me it's not what he want. I asked is it someone else or is it me?? I am honestly hurt and confused. I told him if this how he is breaking up with me he is doing a good job. He said it's not me its him . I know I cannot change him. I love him so much and never imagined my life without him. I am just sad.
favored81 I think he played you at the beginning by telling you wants marriage, you need to pull back. Even cut of sex and start dating other people. If he wants a commitment and loyalty he needs to commit or he should be fine with you doing as you like.
why label him as "playing" her? Sometimes men are just confused inside. they are all in at the start, but soon, they have to confront their intimacy fears and often want to run or walk away. It might just be he's afraid.
@@JaysonGaddis yes it can be, but sorry everyone is. At one point in your life we have to leave our comfort zone, taking desicisions,be responsible and choose to be there for each other and not just living, taking everything for granted and using the energy, years and attention of your partner!
I am gong through the same thing... my BF of 4.5 years TOLD ME FROM DAY ONE, he was willing to get married again after his divorce. So I moved in with him and his twin 3 year old boys...but, year after year tells me he needs more time and is not sure. I finally told him, if you don't want to marry me let me go cuz I cant waste anymore time...I am 36! He told me he is not sure and still needs more time... so I told him I love you but I am walking away if your unsure. And you know what...he let me go. I was hurt at first but, I started thinking about it..and now Iam happy, cuz if he is letting me walk away and does not care enough to fight for me or, then I will find someone some day who will. I know he is scared and afraid of divorce but, its a NON NEGOTIABLE with me. I value marriage and its important enough to me to walk away. You just have to decide how important it is to you. I almost said its ok, but I would of resented him.
Thanks for talking about the nonnegotiable need. It really speaks to me and it's where I am standing now. Not wanting to give up on marriage, something I believe in since forever.
If y'all love each other why is marriage required? The paper won't stop someone who cheats from cheating like y'all put more value on marriage then the love between yall
@@saferides2474 you cant go against a tradition of thousands of years. also the normal thing is to get married. if you dont want then you are not normal. how selfish it is to deprive this life event for your spouse,your family and your spouse's family. smh.
Marriage is a constitution of love, forever commitment, and God's vows for 2 people to share and worship! It's definitely not just a piece of paper that is saying yes where married! If a man or woman regardless is thinking of marriage in this type of concept then there's serious commitment issue's that need further exploring... period!! Marriage is a holy and spiritual act that two people who are deeply inlove will accept! If one party is against it, there's definitely more going on then meets the eye! That's my opinion
I'm a 58 y/o man and have been with my girlfriend less than a year. I knew within a couple months that I wanted to marry her. She doesn't feel the same. She says I treat her better than anyone else has, do more for her and I'm the best looking man she has been with. This makes me feel that I may be all that, but not good enough to marry. I want marriage for the same reasons you stated. I know she'll never change her mind so I guess I need to let go.
I’ve been with him for 19 years, two kids. A few ups and downs. I let go of the idea of getting married finally and when I told him that, he said he didn’t want to be with someone that didn’t want to marry him. It’s not that I didn’t want to marry him, I just quit hanging so hard on to the importance of it as much. Now he doesn’t believe in marriage again. Relationships are so confusing sometimes and some people won’t grow up no matter how old they get!
I’ve been with someone for 4 years. As well a blended family. He engaged to me about 2 yrs ago and now I want to make it official. But he now seems to have a change of heart and doesn’t want to. It makes me feel uncertain and not secure. I feel like this is becoming more of a burden on me and I feel like why hasn’t he committed. Why did he go out of the way to ask my parents for my hand in marriage if he really didn’t want to. I’m so confused and hurt.
I’m going through this right now. We met every thing was good. We loved each other and then I think we got different timelines and I think I was pressuring him. And he just said he couldn’t do it anymore. He loves me so much and does see me i the future but he can’t get married anytime soon. It crushed me. I tried to text him back but he was stern and I let it go. it’s been 3wks and I’m still Hurting. It was toxic it was bad. I genuinely love him.
Let him go. I hope you r doing better 6 months down d line. You will meet someone else who will love you wholeheartedly. Trust and believe. My aunt got married during covid after 8 months of dating. She told him on their second date if he did not propose in a year, she was out of d door. He did in 5 months. And he is a tech ceo from the UK. They r married just about 2 yrs now
you cant go against a tradition of thousands of years. also the normal thing is to get married. if you dont want then you are not normal. how selfish it is to deprive this life event for your spouse,your family and your spouse's family. smh.
I'm a man (42), been together with a same age woman 5 years, have a daughter together. I asked her to marry me, because we love each other and I really wanted that. She did say yes to proposal, but I sensed something was not right. After 8 months, when she did not even mentioned about our union, I asked about her true feelings about it and she said that she does not want to get married, because marriage is too final for her, but she still loves me, which I believe also. So now I cannot understand her, sounds like she is still on a wait for a better catch or? Maybe somebody can give their thoughts. Thank you.
Jayson, i've listened to quite a bit of relationship advice over the last 15 years or so, and what you shared in answering that first question is the very first time a relationship coach, if you will, has said hey, can you two work out the conflicts.... that was an ah-ha moment because in all the advice it's about how to get there, and not about the reality of what being in a partnership takes..... being able to work out those conflicts. GOLDEN statement. Thanks!
SAME HERE wasted time, 4 years gone , 50 and supposed to be " a girlfriend" him taking the benefits of a wife . DONE i knew what i was getting into i knew the level of committment. I let all my dreams be stolen by a liar keeping me lingering on , on and off, never to be seen in my worst times, made me loose selfesteem, gave him AGAIN a chance, against all odds but he does not meet my needs. second question aked is so similar , non negotiable need!!!
She doesn't have to marry him to have legal rights and protections.. life insurance, power of attorneys, cohabitation agreements should all definitely be brought to the conversation so that she isnt giving up all her values for nothing
I know weddings are expensive but my cousin had a wedding last summer for Fourth of July weekend and all of our family was there and we have a big family. It was an incredible event. It was so memorable. Sure maybe I’d have paid a little less but it was incredible.
Since with straight couples, it seems as if the woman wants a commitment vs. the man. Consequently, it does seem like a biological phenomenon. Please address the issue from this angle.
I don't understand why you would stay with someone who is not on the same page as you in terms of life goals like marriage, children as this should be discussed in the early stages of a relationship so you can see how compatible you are with each other.
Sometimes, you do discuss it in the beginning, and they say they want marriage, and it doesn't mean it always happens. Sometimes, things happen along the way, and one person may change their mind. We shouldn't assume that's its not always discussed in the beginning.
hello jason im in a relationship for almost 8 years and we live together for 4 years now but when it comes to other commitments he is crazy talk to me like crazy but he dont leave his priority alone like if he want to buy a new moto he has money but when it comes to talk about children he told me the money is th problem and i wanna leave this relationship even i love him but i think iam 29 years old and i dont have more time to waste pls help me
My parents were together for 45 years and didn't get married until 53 yrs old I want to get married one day but not sure I will been with my bf for 7 years and have 2 kids we both love each other and have our moments lol but just because you love someone doesn't mean you have to get married to prove it 💖 and yeah everyone has their opinion and reason behind it but do whatever makes you happy!
Marriage is a formal declaration of union and commitment presented in front of your family and friends. Just cause you don’t have it doesn’t lessen the value of marriage…
I am having such a hard time with this right now. I can’t even begin to think about a life without my Significant other. We have two kids and have been together for 7 years. I really want to be married and have another child but he doesn’t want any of those thing. He says that we are already technically married. We are in completely different places in regards to these things and no matter how much I tell him he doesn’t see my POV. I tell myself that I can just move on and leave my dreams for marriage and another kid behind but at the same time I feel like I would always have the what if. I am so crushed at the thought of separating and I am crushed at the thought of giving up on my dreams.
I hope you are in a better place now mentally & emotionally. I am in the process of moving out of my boyfriend’s house and leaving him after 8 years together. I SO feel your pain ♥️ I love him very much and I have no idea what I’m going to do without him…he is my world/my comfort zone and I have zero desire to put myself out there and get back into the dating world and start all over with someone else. But just the thought of being someone’s wife & starting my own little family makes me so happy and is literally all I’ve ever wanted/dreamed of. I wish it were with him but he even said himself that he hopes I find a family man to make me happy. This is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do because he is such a good man…just not the man for me.
I’ve been with my partner for 10 years, we have a 5 year old child, I want to move forward do another step like married and he doesn’t want to, I don’t need a big wedding I want the commitment I want another step forward and I don’t know what to do.
It's not a tricky question. Do you want to live another 10years like that? Do you feel you are worth more and deserve more from a man you have dedicated and given him a child. He doesn't love you enough nor respects you enough to give you your dream of marriage and recognition as his wife. I'm sorry if what I say sounds hurtful but too many women have wasted their time and made too many excuses on men who are not able to reciprocate that commitment to love. Good luck.
Now the question is, is being your partner for 10 years and raising a child with you not commitment enough? Married couples also divorce and the rates are increasing. the most important thing is that he's committed to you, being married is not a commitment anymore in this modern times.
Together 10 years. When I asked about marriage, he gets mad. There's an argument usually after. Seems by doing this, he's trying to get me to avoid the topic by making in negative outcome. But, yet he does say maybe one day after the argument is over. It confusing for me
Thank you for this video. Thank you for your transparency and advice. I pride myself on being authentic and true to myself and I spent majority of 2021 betraying myself, crying pleading my wants etc… even going to couples counseling to no avail. I gave myself/partner until the end of January for movement and the closer it approaches - I am confronted with my non-negotiable and what choosing my truth will entail.
What does it mean if a man says "When the time is right." When a discussion of marriage is brought up, and there are no prerequistes to determine when the time is right?
I am back togather with my ex husband. Its been 2 years. I want to get remarried to him and he says he doesnot want to get married. He is committed to stay with me in this relationship but doesn’t want to marry me or get family involved with me . I understand he is still unhealed from the last time so am I . I am so confused what to do
Hey! I recently found your channel and they're very informative. Kudos! ❤️ I have some troubles in my relationship and I can't seem to communicate with any adult here (I'm from India and the culture here is very restrictive) I'd love to get your word on this. I'm 24, in a 1 year relationship with my BF. Hes 25 from the states (moved back here to study). This is my first relationship. We both did medicine and are studying to give exams to get into US medical system. I've always been a lil reserved, still a virgin and wanted marriage cuz I feel it gives a lil more security and eases my abandonment issues. He's been with 13 people before, very paranoid (had been cheated on before) and wants a monogamous loyal partner. We were really happy and Everything was fine until recently when he told me he wasnt planning to get married ever or he doesn't see himself in a relationship more than 4-5 years with someone. I initially thought it was cuz of the money (his parents are rich) and I agreed to sign a prenup which he didn't bother about. My question is, Should i stay with him tho our long term goals don't align cuz I'm in a TRANSITIONAL PERIOD in my life anyway or am I wasting time with him knowing we don't want the same things. He says he really loves me, he makes me happy and I'm looking to be married in my late 20s and he said he might change his mind and i believe it gonna be hard for me to find someone like him in India and I'm in a transitional period of my life so I'm really confused. Would really appreciate some help! xD
I’m in a tricky situation. Soon after we met, my partner asked me if I dreamed of getting married someday. I answered a big fat no because my parents had just ended a seriously bad, BAD divorce... it was awful. So I said no. Now, almost 12 years later, I became an aldult and realize it was just my parents brainwashing me against one another and that happy longlasting couples DO exist - I am in one. And we’ve been through some sh*t, illness and other very tough life situations, and we’re very strong and happy. Today I realize I don’t ‘’want to get married’’, I want to marry _him_ . I talked to him about it, for years now. He’s upset because he said ‘’But I had asked you and you said no!’’ People change their minds... I would either want him to understand and share my point of view, or myself understand why he doesn’t ‘’believe’’ in marriage. (FYI we plan to buy a home and have children anyway so it’s just the question of ‘being married’)
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I been in a long distance relationship for 11 years no marriage but he asked to marry him a few years back and now he doesn't want marriage.do you think it was all games on his apart?
My boyfriend has told me that he wants to marry me, live a life together, wants to give all of himself, and even can risk his life for me. So I thought he was really into me and wanted to really marry me. But I have noticed that he doesn't show it as a concrete action and later realized that he is not considering marriage now. He says "later" , "not now" , "someday". He and I are both in mid 30 and I thought we were closer to get married but I am so confused why he told me something that he cannot be responsible for. I am now curious if this is my fault to trust too much on his wording, or whether he unintentionally lied to me. I feel somewhat betrayed because it was him to initially speak about marriage.
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been living together for 4yrs.he keep telling me why I'm still want to be with him even he keep telling me he not gonna married any women including me..everytime we argue he always verbal abuse me.theres a lot of time he pushing me away already and he controlled everything.he didn't respect me.i just can't take it anymore.this man he will make women crazy.think that I'm doing bad even I'm not doing anything.its just sad that I look at him as my forever.
I'm so happy having back my ex fiance back, after bring separated for 3months All thanks to mr Willson whom held me to get back my ex again I will suggest y'all get help from him and it's works within 4days.
I’m so lost. I’m in a 10 yr very rocky relationship, many cheats from him, even a 5 year old child (yes he has a baby with a women on our year 5) The last cheat (not sexual, almost) was 5 months ago. He refuses counseling. Says he is done cheating and I need to fix myself and stop stressing him out and not trusting him. On top of this I want to be married. I follow God and I hate living in this sin, I can’t SETTLE like you said, I always feel like we have nothing solid, no foundation. I feel so deep with pain from the cheating for years and not being married, how can I even try to fix this? He’s great otherwise all around. I’m 45, basic women, really what are my options? Dieing alone? I feel like I’m out of time
You don’t respect yourself by staying. Get out asap. Get a cheap apartment and start over. He’s causing you so much pain. God wouldn’t send you a man that treats you like that. You are a child of God and need someone in your life that respects your time and honors you. You’re never really single if you’re religious and can rely on Jesus to take the spot of “boyfriend/partner” until you find the one.
So if you love the person and they just want no marriage why shouldn't you stay with someone all because pf married?marriage shouldn't get in the way of your connection either if you and a person really love each other
You should leave that person if he or she doesn’t have the same marriage goals. Like honestly man, y’all just gonna end up resenting each other and wasting time if you stuck together in this kind of a dynamic. Time to grow up and LEAVE
Yall be trying to force these men to marry yall! I got one that keeps trying to marry me im not interested! If I can’t just be his gf then he can leave
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Wait up, you teach women how to persist in their effort to lure men in another failure, another deal with government, another possible divorce battle?? It's modern time, and modern time promote new values and those values are: women need to work their way and be accountable for their choices and responsible for their children from previous marriages. If a man is adamant about something from the get go stop busting his balls! The second time she'd be bothering me about something I don't want to do and don't find benefitial neither for me not for my children, I'd break up with such woman.
Just because they failed in their marriage doesn't change the laws of God! Selfishness and arrogance stand in the way for most people to be good marriage partners.
Marriage as a legal contract is basically a woman's secondary life insurance policy. Men don't really benefit at all, except in cases of visa sponsorship. Children can be had and nurtured with or without the government involved. Women know why they seek marriage above all else, and it's not for altruistic reasons. Don't be fooled.
I just came across this video. Wow, I have to say I’m really impressed at your approach to this conversation. I myself am in this position after seeing a guy for a year and we’ve been living together for six months. So this video really really made things clear for me about remaining steadfast in my standards. I’m very grateful I came across this video. Thank you so much for the contact. I wish you much success and love in your life. 🤙🏼🌸 Big Aloha.
My bf and I are together for 3.5 years now, but he said that he doesn’t want to marry me because he thinks that marriage is not modern and divorces are very expensive etc… (also his parents dated 9 years before they got engaged.) but he said multiple times that he wants to spend his life with me. We don’t live together and don’t have kids (I’m 22 he’s 24) But I really want to marry him, it’s one of my biggest dreams. Idk what to do bc I don’t want to break up with him. And we haven’t lived together. Should we live together until we discuss marriage again? I am really confused.
He has every right to not want marriage. Divorce rates are high divorce is something very expensive and only benefits the woman. You have everything to gain while he has everything to lose in such an unfortunate event. I’d say just be his life partner. No need to get the state involved in your relationship.
Last night I asked him if he saw a future with me after 1.5 yrs of dating... he said no that he doesn’t even think about it. I dumped him right then and there & im not looking back. 100% youre partners should know after 1 year if they think your relationship has potential for marriage. It’s not like I wanted to get married tomorrow but just knowing he sees the future would’ve reassured me we are both on same page. I made him FULLY aware for months what I want out the relationship. It’s whatever I’m glad I know what I know now and can move on . He’s been blowing my phone up but it’s only bc he feels bad & doesnt want to lose the convenience of me rn. Literally if he never saw me for marriage... this whole time I have been being USED. On to the next.
Stay strong!
I’m on the same page as you rn. Currently battering between my own heart and what I firmly want in my future. Keep your head up !!!
You're a rare one that has a standard
I'm facing this situation rn😢
Y'all put too much value on marriage and not the love.
The problem isn't the idea of marriage. The problem is society and everywhere you look they're telling you there is always more fish in the sea and you got social media that makes it so easy for anybody to hook up and cheat and find somebody else to replace their old partner. Take away tech, folks and it's not gonna be that easy to replace the person that you really loved. You just got a little bored because there's hot people everywhere you turn and you can access them on Snapchat any day or night.
you sound hurt. Are you working on healing that?
@@JaysonGaddis my partner and I separated for a while and I kept getting hit on by married men who only wanted to talk to me on Snapchat or they complain about their wives. My my relationship wasn't like that. I had to leave my husband because of all the psychiatric medicine the doctors kept putting him on. He had PTSD and became a little dangerous but our wounds are closing. I'm trying to be there for him.
Nah I found people in real life before social media was big and they sucked I think that now with social media I'll meet people much faster and won't have to waste time on going to bars and clubs
I want to be in a loving committed relationship I just don't believe in marriage any more.
People people listen up. Before you get real serious with anyone the topic of marriage must come up if it is important to you. Don't let them talk you out of it. If it scares them good tell them to hit the road and not waste your time. You want to find out now not years later. Obviously don't bring it up right away as it will scare everyone away but bring it up pretty soon in the relationship when you are seeing each other regularly for 3 to 4 months but no later than 6 months. Don't' waste time life is short. Tell them if you are still together within say another year or two where the deadline of marriage should be. Depending on your age like young people should take more time so 2 years is acceptable as a deadline. Better 12 months or 18 months. For older folks you've been around the block and you know what you want more and you don't have years to wait around as you are closer to the end of your life so 1 years is the limit. Definitely don't have a kid before marriage. You set a bad example for the kid and the person has no real reason to marry you now as they already have the kid so what is the point of marriage? You are putting the carriage before the horse. This will motivate them to marry you.
DO NOT WASTE TIME WITH TIME WASTERS. DON'T BE SOMEOONE'S PLACE HOLDER. WAKE UP YOU DESERVE BETTER.
Thank you. Good advice. I will not be called someone's girlfriend at 51. Non negotiable. I will not waste my golden year's on a relationship that isn't moving, three year's and no proposa. Must leave! Blessings 💖 🙏
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I'm with you sister.. not planning on being a girlfriend in my golden years.
I'm 40 and I'm starting to feel embarrassed about being just the girlfriend. Been together 7 years, we live together and have a child together. He knows I want to move forward with the relationship. But he won't even compromise. We are stuck and he doesn't see that
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Thank y’all. Battling with this myself. Going on 6 years. Completely happy with him and he loves me just not enough to marry me. He’ll financially support me as if we were on the surface. I don’t have a say so I’m anything. I have pleaded why. I want to be married-it’s important time. I don’t know what to do.
I am literally in this situation I been with him for 6years and engaged for one year when I pop the question when we are getting married he says he doesn’t know I gave him till this year we get married or we break up I can’t keep giving the best years of my life that I cant get back I am preparing myself mentally so if I have to walk away I have the courage to do that because ladies we need to show our worth if the man your with can’t see that walk away save you a lot of hurt and heart break at the end of the day
courage
Yasss girl. 🙋
Girl SAME!
same here -.-
Me too..
If your partner doesn't want to marry you it's better to end things
amen
Guys who want to live with you but dont want to get married want the option to keep playing the field...end of story.
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I don’t agree with you. It’s very unfavorable to a male in the US to get divorced, especially if you are a high earner. The whole wedding thing is one night, like it’s not a big deal.
I'm going through this now... been with my bf for 5 years we talked about marriage before and recently told me it's not what he want. I asked is it someone else or is it me?? I am honestly hurt and confused. I told him if this how he is breaking up with me he is doing a good job. He said it's not me its him . I know I cannot change him. I love him so much and never imagined my life without him. I am just sad.
favored81 I think he played you at the beginning by telling you wants marriage, you need to pull back. Even cut of sex and start dating other people. If he wants a commitment and loyalty he needs to commit or he should be fine with you doing as you like.
@@user-qr7eb1sf3l thank u I have been thinking about this.
why label him as "playing" her? Sometimes men are just confused inside. they are all in at the start, but soon, they have to confront their intimacy fears and often want to run or walk away. It might just be he's afraid.
@@JaysonGaddis yes it can be, but sorry everyone is. At one point in your life we have to leave our comfort zone, taking desicisions,be responsible and choose to be there for each other and not just living, taking everything for granted and using the energy, years and attention of your partner!
I am gong through the same thing... my BF of 4.5 years TOLD ME FROM DAY ONE, he was willing to get married again after his divorce. So I moved in with him and his twin 3 year old boys...but, year after year tells me he needs more time and is not sure. I finally told him, if you don't want to marry me let me go cuz I cant waste anymore time...I am 36! He told me he is not sure and still needs more time... so I told him I love you but I am walking away if your unsure. And you know what...he let me go. I was hurt at first but, I started thinking about it..and now Iam happy, cuz if he is letting me walk away and does not care enough to fight for me or, then I will find someone some day who will. I know he is scared and afraid of divorce but, its a NON NEGOTIABLE with me. I value marriage and its important enough to me to walk away. You just have to decide how important it is to you. I almost said its ok, but I would of resented him.
Thanks for talking about the nonnegotiable need. It really speaks to me and it's where I am standing now. Not wanting to give up on marriage, something I believe in since forever.
Thanks for commenting!
If y'all love each other why is marriage required? The paper won't stop someone who cheats from cheating like y'all put more value on marriage then the love between yall
@@saferides2474 you cant go against a tradition of thousands of years. also the normal thing is to get married. if you dont want then you are not normal. how selfish it is to deprive this life event for your spouse,your family and your spouse's family. smh.
@@gamwsas married back the over those thousands of year was never about love but about arrangement
@@saferides2474 still a tradition
Marriage is a constitution of love, forever commitment, and God's vows for 2 people to share and worship! It's definitely not just a piece of paper that is saying yes where married! If a man or woman regardless is thinking of marriage in this type of concept then there's serious commitment issue's that need further exploring... period!! Marriage is a holy and spiritual act that two people who are deeply inlove will accept! If one party is against it, there's definitely more going on then meets the eye! That's my opinion
wow i needed this
That is, until you get bored and serve him papers.
I'm a 58 y/o man and have been with my girlfriend less than a year. I knew within a couple months that I wanted to marry her. She doesn't feel the same. She says I treat her better than anyone else has, do more for her and I'm the best looking man she has been with. This makes me feel that I may be all that, but not good enough to marry. I want marriage for the same reasons you stated. I know she'll never change her mind so I guess I need to let go.
I’ve been with him for 19 years, two kids. A few ups and downs. I let go of the idea of getting married finally and when I told him that, he said he didn’t want to be with someone that didn’t want to marry him. It’s not that I didn’t want to marry him, I just quit hanging so hard on to the importance of it as much. Now he doesn’t believe in marriage again. Relationships are so confusing sometimes and some people won’t grow up no matter how old they get!
Gaslighting 101
@@TinaTimmons-d8y how you let him play you like that.
I’ve been with someone for 4 years. As well a blended family. He engaged to me about 2 yrs ago and now I want to make it official. But he now seems to have a change of heart and doesn’t want to. It makes me feel uncertain and not secure. I feel like this is becoming more of a burden on me and I feel like why hasn’t he committed. Why did he go out of the way to ask my parents for my hand in marriage if he really didn’t want to. I’m so confused and hurt.
Bela T.T wow 7 years😳 I’m so sorry about that! That sucks! I’m glad you walked away!!!
Stay strong!
I’m going through this right now. We met every thing was good. We loved each other and then I think we got different timelines and I think I was pressuring him. And he just said he couldn’t do it anymore. He loves me so much and does see me i the future but he can’t get married anytime soon. It crushed me. I tried to text him back but he was stern and I let it go. it’s been 3wks and I’m still
Hurting. It was toxic it was bad. I genuinely love him.
Let him go. I hope you r doing better 6 months down d line. You will meet someone else who will love you wholeheartedly. Trust and believe. My aunt got married during covid after 8 months of dating. She told him on their second date if he did not propose in a year, she was out of d door. He did in 5 months. And he is a tech ceo from the UK. They r married just about 2 yrs now
you cant go against a tradition of thousands of years. also the normal thing is to get married. if you dont want then you are not normal. how selfish it is to deprive this life event for your spouse,your family and your spouse's family. smh.
hmmmm
I'm a man (42), been together with a same age woman 5 years, have a daughter together. I asked her to marry me, because we love each other and I really wanted that. She did say yes to proposal, but I sensed something was not right. After 8 months, when she did not even mentioned about our union, I asked about her true feelings about it and she said that she does not want to get married, because marriage is too final for her, but she still loves me, which I believe also. So now I cannot understand her, sounds like she is still on a wait for a better catch or? Maybe somebody can give their thoughts. Thank you.
You're welcome!
Know your worth
She doesn't love you period
Leave that bitch immediately
Shes waiting for someone else.
Jayson, i've listened to quite a bit of relationship advice over the last 15 years or so, and what you shared in answering that first question is the very first time a relationship coach, if you will, has said hey, can you two work out the conflicts.... that was an ah-ha moment because in all the advice it's about how to get there, and not about the reality of what being in a partnership takes..... being able to work out those conflicts. GOLDEN statement. Thanks!
you're welcome
excellent advice. glad I landed on your videos! thank you!
for sure!
Hey morning
SAME HERE wasted time, 4 years gone , 50 and supposed to be " a girlfriend" him taking the benefits of a wife . DONE i knew what i was getting into i knew the level of committment. I let all my dreams be stolen by a liar keeping me lingering on , on and off, never to be seen in my worst times, made me loose selfesteem, gave him AGAIN a chance, against all odds but he does not meet my needs. second question aked is so similar , non negotiable need!!!
thanks for the share!
She doesn't have to marry him to have legal rights and protections.. life insurance, power of attorneys, cohabitation agreements should all definitely be brought to the conversation so that she isnt giving up all her values for nothing
thanks for your share
Do you recommend marriage? Just curious.
only if you are willing to do the work required to make it awesome
I know weddings are expensive but my cousin had a wedding last summer for Fourth of July weekend and all of our family was there and we have a big family. It was an incredible event. It was so memorable. Sure maybe I’d have paid a little less but it was incredible.
Thanks for sharing!!
I would never have just dated someone after a couple
Years. If marriage wasn’t imminent at that point peace out.
You’re quite handsome. I love your genuine eyes.
Thank you for your informative insight.
thanks
Since with straight couples, it seems as if the woman wants a commitment vs. the man. Consequently, it does seem like a biological phenomenon. Please address the issue from this angle.
Is saving you bro from the marriage license that the government want to gave to you, marriage is no necessary is just about ancient cultures 🙄
thanks for your feedback
I don't understand why you would stay with someone who is not on the same page as you in terms of life goals like marriage, children as this should be discussed in the early stages of a relationship so you can see how compatible you are with each other.
Sure thing! Thanks for your feedback!
Sometimes, you do discuss it in the beginning, and they say they want marriage, and it doesn't mean it always happens. Sometimes, things happen along the way, and one person may change their mind. We shouldn't assume that's its not always discussed in the beginning.
@@CeeP211 And sometimes, they just say what they think you want to hear in the beginning of a relationship so they can keep you interested in them.
hello jason im in a relationship for almost 8 years and we live together for 4 years now but when it comes to other commitments he is crazy talk to me like crazy but he dont leave his priority alone like if he want to buy a new moto he has money but when it comes to talk about children he told me the money is th problem and i wanna leave this relationship even i love him but i think iam 29 years old and i dont have more time to waste pls help me
i would recommend hiring a coach to help you. you can do that here. relationshipschool.com/getcoachingnow
My parents were together for 45 years and didn't get married until 53 yrs old I want to get married one day but not sure I will been with my bf for 7 years and have 2 kids we both love each other and have our moments lol but just because you love someone doesn't mean you have to get married to prove it 💖 and yeah everyone has their opinion and reason behind it but do whatever makes you happy!
I hear you
I disagree
Marriage is a formal declaration of union and commitment presented in front of your family and friends. Just cause you don’t have it doesn’t lessen the value of marriage…
I am having such a hard time with this right now. I can’t even begin to think about a life without my Significant other. We have two kids and have been together for 7 years. I really want to be married and have another child but he doesn’t want any of those thing. He says that we are already technically married. We are in completely different places in regards to these things and no matter how much I tell him he doesn’t see my POV. I tell myself that I can just move on and leave my dreams for marriage and another kid behind but at the same time I feel like I would always have the what if. I am so crushed at the thought of separating and I am crushed at the thought of giving up on my dreams.
Thanks for sharing this point of view, it happens! Just stay strong, move on AND follow your dreams!
I hope you are in a better place now mentally & emotionally. I am in the process of moving out of my boyfriend’s house and leaving him after 8 years together. I SO feel your pain ♥️ I love him very much and I have no idea what I’m going to do without him…he is my world/my comfort zone and I have zero desire to put myself out there and get back into the dating world and start all over with someone else. But just the thought of being someone’s wife & starting my own little family makes me so happy and is literally all I’ve ever wanted/dreamed of. I wish it were with him but he even said himself that he hopes I find a family man to make me happy. This is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do because he is such a good man…just not the man for me.
I’ve been with my partner for 10 years, we have a 5 year old child, I want to move forward do another step like married and he doesn’t want to, I don’t need a big wedding I want the commitment I want another step forward and I don’t know what to do.
yea, tricky, hire one of our coaches!
It's not a tricky question. Do you want to live another 10years like that? Do you feel you are worth more and deserve more from a man you have dedicated and given him a child. He doesn't love you enough nor respects you enough to give you your dream of marriage and recognition as his wife. I'm sorry if what I say sounds hurtful but too many women have wasted their time and made too many excuses on men who are not able to reciprocate that commitment to love. Good luck.
That’s why you don’t give a man kids before marriage
Now the question is, is being your partner for 10 years and raising a child with you not commitment enough? Married couples also divorce and the rates are increasing. the most important thing is that he's committed to you, being married is not a commitment anymore in this modern times.
Together 10 years. When I asked about marriage, he gets mad. There's an argument usually after. Seems by doing this, he's trying to get me to avoid the topic by making in negative outcome. But, yet he does say maybe one day after the argument is over. It confusing for me
Thank you for this video. Thank you for your transparency and advice. I pride myself on being authentic and true to myself and I spent majority of 2021 betraying myself, crying pleading my wants etc… even going to couples counseling to no avail. I gave myself/partner until the end of January for movement and the closer it approaches - I am confronted with my non-negotiable and what choosing my truth will entail.
You are so welcome!
What does it mean if a man says "When the time is right." When a discussion of marriage is brought up, and there are no prerequistes to determine when the time is right?
This is amazing. Face the similar issue. So agree my decision is not something he can negotiate about. I am woman and deserve to reach my dream .
cool
@@JaysonGaddis lol
I am back togather with my ex husband. Its been 2 years. I want to get remarried to him and he says he doesnot want to get married. He is committed to stay with me in this relationship but doesn’t want to marry me or get family involved with me . I understand he is still unhealed from the last time so am I . I am so confused what to do
Hey!
I recently found your channel and they're very informative. Kudos! ❤️ I have some troubles in my relationship and I can't seem to communicate with any adult here (I'm from India and the culture here is very restrictive) I'd love to get your word on this.
I'm 24, in a 1 year relationship with my BF. Hes 25 from the states (moved back here to study). This is my first relationship. We both did medicine and are studying to give exams to get into US medical system.
I've always been a lil reserved, still a virgin and wanted marriage cuz I feel it gives a lil more security and eases my abandonment issues. He's been with 13 people before, very paranoid (had been cheated on before) and wants a monogamous loyal partner. We were really happy and Everything was fine until recently when he told me he wasnt planning to get married ever or he doesn't see himself in a relationship more than 4-5 years with someone.
I initially thought it was cuz of the money (his parents are rich) and I agreed to sign a prenup which he didn't bother about.
My question is, Should i stay with him tho our long term goals don't align cuz I'm in a TRANSITIONAL PERIOD in my life anyway or am I wasting time with him knowing we don't want the same things. He says he really loves me, he makes me happy and I'm looking to be married in my late 20s and he said he might change his mind and i believe it gonna be hard for me to find someone like him in India and I'm in a transitional period of my life so I'm really confused. Would really appreciate some help! xD
If hes not dating to marry then hes dating to break up. Men dont change so save yourself
I’m in a tricky situation. Soon after we met, my partner asked me if I dreamed of getting married someday. I answered a big fat no because my parents had just ended a seriously bad, BAD divorce... it was awful. So I said no. Now, almost 12 years later, I became an aldult and realize it was just my parents brainwashing me against one another and that happy longlasting couples DO exist - I am in one. And we’ve been through some sh*t, illness and other very tough life situations, and we’re very strong and happy. Today I realize I don’t ‘’want to get married’’, I want to marry _him_ . I talked to him about it, for years now. He’s upset because he said ‘’But I had asked you and you said no!’’ People change their minds... I would either want him to understand and share my point of view, or myself understand why he doesn’t ‘’believe’’ in marriage. (FYI we plan to buy a home and have children anyway so it’s just the question of ‘being married’)
He can also change his mind! Keep strong!
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I been in a long distance relationship for 11 years no marriage but he asked to marry him a few years back and now he doesn't want marriage.do you think it was all games on his apart?
My boyfriend has told me that he wants to marry me, live a life together, wants to give all of himself, and even can risk his life for me. So I thought he was really into me and wanted to really marry me. But I have noticed that he doesn't show it as a concrete action and later realized that he is not considering marriage now. He says "later" , "not now" , "someday". He and I are both in mid 30 and I thought we were closer to get married but I am so confused why he told me something that he cannot be responsible for. I am now curious if this is my fault to trust too much on his wording, or whether he unintentionally lied to me. I feel somewhat betrayed because it was him to initially speak about marriage.
trust actions, not words
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been living together for 4yrs.he keep telling me why I'm still want to be with him even he keep telling me he not gonna married any women including me..everytime we argue he always verbal abuse me.theres a lot of time he pushing me away already and he controlled everything.he didn't respect me.i just can't take it anymore.this man he will make women crazy.think that I'm doing bad even I'm not doing anything.its just sad that I look at him as my forever.
Ouch. Sorry about this!
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Most of people never know what is married means ? accepting me
I’m so lost. I’m in a 10 yr very rocky relationship, many cheats from him, even a 5 year old child (yes he has a baby with a women on our year 5) The last cheat (not sexual, almost) was 5 months ago. He refuses counseling. Says he is done cheating and I need to fix myself and stop stressing him out and not trusting him. On top of this I want to be married. I follow God and I hate living in this sin, I can’t SETTLE like you said, I always feel like we have nothing solid, no foundation.
I feel so deep with pain from the cheating for years and not being married, how can I even try to fix this? He’s great otherwise all around. I’m 45, basic women, really what are my options? Dieing alone? I feel like I’m out of time
You don’t respect yourself by staying. Get out asap. Get a cheap apartment and start over. He’s causing you so much pain. God wouldn’t send you a man that treats you like that. You are a child of God and need someone in your life that respects your time and honors you. You’re never really single if you’re religious and can rely on Jesus to take the spot of “boyfriend/partner” until you find the one.
So if you love the person and they just want no marriage why shouldn't you stay with someone all because pf married?marriage shouldn't get in the way of your connection either if you and a person really love each other
Because some people want marriage. I don't understand why this is a question
You should leave that person if he or she doesn’t have the same marriage goals. Like honestly man, y’all just gonna end up resenting each other and wasting time if you stuck together in this kind of a dynamic. Time to grow up and LEAVE
Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
Good topic!!!!
Great talk. Thank you ❤️
Glad you enjoyed it!
i want to.get marry my bf from canada but he dont want we been bf gf for one yr he is staying in canada i wnat marriage but he dont want why?
did you ask him why?
1 year is not alot of time give it time
Yall be trying to force these men to marry yall! I got one that keeps trying to marry me im not interested! If I can’t just be his gf then he can leave
I appreciate this video. We can only be responsible for our own reality. Best case is to in invest relationships with like-minded people.
yup
probably just me but when i get into a relationship i dont want to get married theres nothign wrong with that and idk why yall frown upon it
Great video! Thank you 🙏 Many Blessings .
Glad you enjoyed it!
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You gave thoughtful and wise advice.
which part was most helpful?
Hi Jason ! Do you have any videos about how you over came fears of institutional marriage ? You mentioned you were one of those guys...
Hey Deep Diver, I have one podcast related to Overcoming fear, please check this: relationshipschool.com/podcast/overcoming-fear-standing-up-to-your-parents-finding-your-own-path-kute-blackson-307/ hope it helps 🙏🏻
@@JaysonGaddis Thanks for your prompt answer ! highly appreciated
Wait up, you teach women how to persist in their effort to lure men in another failure, another deal with government, another possible divorce battle?? It's modern time, and modern time promote new values and those values are: women need to work their way and be accountable for their choices and responsible for their children from previous marriages. If a man is adamant about something from the get go stop busting his balls! The second time she'd be bothering me about something I don't want to do and don't find benefitial neither for me not for my children, I'd break up with such woman.
Thanks for commenting
Just because they failed in their marriage doesn't change the laws of God! Selfishness and arrogance stand in the way for most people to be good marriage partners.
I like your advice
Thanks, glad you liked it.
Wow this really helped thank you 🙏
Glad it helped!
Marriage as a legal contract is basically a woman's secondary life insurance policy. Men don't really benefit at all, except in cases of visa sponsorship. Children can be had and nurtured with or without the government involved. Women know why they seek marriage above all else, and it's not for altruistic reasons. Don't be fooled.
Thanks for commenting!
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But many women have their own money
@@olympiascott9196 "Her money is her money. His money is her money."
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I just came across this video. Wow, I have to say I’m really impressed at your approach to this conversation. I myself am in this position after seeing a guy for a year and we’ve been living together for six months. So this video really really made things clear for me about remaining steadfast in my standards. I’m very grateful I came across this video. Thank you so much for the contact. I wish you much success and love in your life. 🤙🏼🌸 Big Aloha.
Thank you!! Glad you like my content!
My bf and I are together for 3.5 years now, but he said that he doesn’t want to marry me because he thinks that marriage is not modern and divorces are very expensive etc… (also his parents dated 9 years before they got engaged.) but he said multiple times that he wants to spend his life with me. We don’t live together and don’t have kids (I’m 22 he’s 24)
But I really want to marry him, it’s one of my biggest dreams. Idk what to do bc I don’t want to break up with him. And we haven’t lived together. Should we live together until we discuss marriage again? I am really confused.
Live together before getting married is the best option (if he thinks marriage is not modern, etc)
He has every right to not want marriage. Divorce rates are high divorce is something very expensive and only benefits the woman. You have everything to gain while he has everything to lose in such an unfortunate event. I’d say just be his life partner. No need to get the state involved in your relationship.