The Importance Of Being Inauthentic: Mark Bowden at TEDxToronto

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  • Опубліковано 21 жов 2013
  • The fifth annual TEDxToronto conference took place on September 26, 2013 at The Royal Conservatory of Music.
    For our 2013 TEDxToronto Conference, all talks, performances and demos were rooted in our selected theme, "The Choices We Make."
    About the Speaker:
    Mark Bowden is an expert in human behavior and body language, and creator of TRUTHPLANE™, a communication training company and unique methodology for anyone who has to communicate to an audience with impact. Mark gives keynote speeches worldwide on persuasive verbal and nonverbal language and communication structures to stand out, win trust and profit when you speak. Mark's publications are bestselling Winning Body Language (McGraw Hill 2010); Winning Body Language for Sales Professionals (MH 2012); and Tame the Primitive Brain (Wiley 2013).
    For more information visit www.tedxtoronto.com
    In the spirit of ideas worth spreading, TEDx is a program of local, self-organized events that bring people together to share a TED-like experience. At a TEDx event, TEDTalks video and live speakers combine to spark deep discussion and connection in a small group. These local, self-organized events are branded TEDx, where x = independently organized TED event. The TED Conference provides general guidance for the TEDx program, but individual TEDx events are self-organized.* (*Subject to certain rules and regulations)

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  • @marthaalexander4441
    @marthaalexander4441 10 місяців тому +16

    Mark is so charismatic, brilliant, and entertaining. Just love him and the rest of the Panel.❤

  • @BluJMuzik
    @BluJMuzik 9 років тому +208

    this is low key one of the best ted talks I've heard

    • @niceguyy3815
      @niceguyy3815 3 роки тому +1

      it's wrong though lol all of the neurobioloy is wrong

    • @carlosalford
      @carlosalford 2 роки тому +4

      @@niceguyy3815 Could you argue, make a case, or give the sources?

  • @mtthomason
    @mtthomason 9 місяців тому +8

    I LOVE the head nod without the usual “Thank you” at the end. It gives off “magician after he nails his magic trick” vibes (and so do the arms he uses as he walks off the stage). I love it! He is as much a performer as he is an intellectual, or at the very least, he has most definitely chosen to appear that way to us. Bravo.

  • @dottie1966
    @dottie1966 3 роки тому +61

    Wow. Masterful. I'm at 16:15 and watching Marks descension from displaying competence, vulnerability and empathy in body language and facial expressions, to the opposite was awesome. Suddenly, no smile, minimal eye contact, hands down or in pocket, agitation, aggressive stance. Love it.

  • @susanblake9946
    @susanblake9946 3 роки тому +142

    I've become acquainted via UA-cam with Mark Bowden from his participation on The Behavior Panel. I think he's really smart, funny, and thoughtful. All of these qualities are displayed well in this TEDx Talk.

    • @Laura-Lee
      @Laura-Lee 3 роки тому +5

      I find Mark and the Behavior Panel really interesting too. The only problem is that Mark is lying in this speech. One of the things he is forever pointing out on the Panel is when someone is showing a smile that they don't really mean and how it still registers on their face and that we can spot it at an instinctual level. Here (no matter what he states to the contrary) he truly likes people and his smile is authentic. Busted, Mark!

    • @patriciajorgensen4728
      @patriciajorgensen4728 2 роки тому

      @@Laura-Lee or he did a really good job.

    • @trialshoppl7203
      @trialshoppl7203 2 роки тому +4

      Mark is an astonishing communicator. It's almost as if you could switch the sound off and make out what he's saying.

    • @susanblake9946
      @susanblake9946 2 роки тому +5

      I also think that Mark's consistent congeniality, his sense of humor, and great listening skills really enhance any dialogue in which he participates, and make for enjoyable listening.

    • @BenWeeks
      @BenWeeks 2 роки тому +3

      Same! It's a pleasure to see him moving in a physical space outside zoom. Great talk.

  • @cexargzm69
    @cexargzm69 8 років тому +150

    In my opinion... He is right! I used to be authentic and realized that is was taking me nowhere. Being "inauthentic" does not mean being dishonest but changing our mindset for our own betterment.

    • @lilyofthevalley9819
      @lilyofthevalley9819 3 роки тому +3

      Cesar.. DITTO... COMPLETELY Agree with your observation

    • @Laura-Lee
      @Laura-Lee 3 роки тому +2

      Yes. Your "OWN" betterment. That says volumes about you without seeing your body to interpret it. The greatest advancements made by humans throughout history was, in the overwhelming majority of times, to help someone other than the creator and usually involved them making a huge personal sacrifice. But those who acted for themselves history has recorded as tyrants ... or not at all. When we compare Mark Bowden and Madame Curie in 100 years, which one will people still know about?

  • @saviplays6739
    @saviplays6739 3 роки тому +15

    The more views this video gets, the more brilliant the world becomes.

  • @tdreamgmail
    @tdreamgmail 9 років тому +104

    I can't believe this hasn't made it onto the TED director channel. This is utterly amazing and groundbreaking, completely against the grain thinking and a revelation to me personally.

    • @wlkf.727
      @wlkf.727 9 років тому +9

      tdreamgmail I totally agree with you. Mark Bowden's presentation is one of the BEST I have seen on TEDx youtube videos. The mere 46,000 view is even more shocking! Mark is absolutely spot-on about how us humans act "indifferently" most of the time to protect ourselves; yet Mark effortlessly breaks our barriers and lets us into his big ideas. What a great presenter, even better message... (he should try out acting career too!)

    • @SokaMagic
      @SokaMagic 7 років тому +1

      I totally agree with you! Everyone has to see this. His presentation inspires me everytime when i see this TEDxTalk

    • @albertoamendola2853
      @albertoamendola2853 6 років тому

      ahhah exactly!

    • @leegreen159
      @leegreen159 3 роки тому

      @@wlkf.727 He already did a stint as an actor. He now trains people how to speak in public, including G7 leaders.

  • @celebrity_rooster7488
    @celebrity_rooster7488 3 роки тому +3

    Stay away from anyone who tells you "to succeed, you have to be fake".

  • @GlenOrsak
    @GlenOrsak 5 років тому +31

    This is a great counter-balance to the conventional messages of this era that being authentic and real is a one-way ticket to betterment. As with all betterment ideas, balance and intention is the often the best approach. Perhaps being inauthentic - but with good intentions - can become our authentic self with practice.

    • @MrCostaC
      @MrCostaC Рік тому

      Not a good comparison. He is not talking about being authentic in the same way.

  • @tomcherryhomes3914
    @tomcherryhomes3914 8 років тому +36

    June 2016: 98K views? This should have 98 Million views - it's brilliant!

  • @gailolson7801
    @gailolson7801 3 роки тому +11

    His work on the UA-cam Behavior Panel is interesting and fascinating as well!

  • @aizareptails7038
    @aizareptails7038 Рік тому +12

    mark Bowden is amazing. one of the best ted talk ever for me

    • @kanajingly8957
      @kanajingly8957 8 місяців тому

      Mark Bowden? I thought it was Colin Cowherd

  • @valaries.5944
    @valaries.5944 3 роки тому +7

    This speech made, me want to be a better human.

  • @Irish__Clan
    @Irish__Clan 2 місяці тому +1

    Given that mankind is the most dangerous beast, Mark’s message of inauthenticity is a good one.

  • @redelfshotthefood8213
    @redelfshotthefood8213 2 роки тому +9

    If you broadcast friendliness, you will find the world a much richer and beautiful place.
    I broadcast happiness when I visited places and found the locals to be absolutely charming. I’ve also been places where I’ve been more guarded and found it indifferent.
    Mark is so right. Doors will open for the friendly that don’t exist for the indifferent.

  • @RhiannonBell252
    @RhiannonBell252 6 місяців тому +3

    Mark has wonderful charisma, definitely friend category 😁

    • @marinvanz.1924
      @marinvanz.1924 6 місяців тому +2

      Totally agree with you 😃

    • @teresev1435
      @teresev1435 2 місяці тому +1

      Ditto
      Love mark!
      ❤❤❤

  • @helenmacdonald8406
    @helenmacdonald8406 6 місяців тому +1

    Mark! I think you are wonderful! ❤

  • @criticalmass5402
    @criticalmass5402 2 роки тому +3

    Mark trained as an actor. It tells. He knows how to manipulate and play an audience. He proved this when he did the Nike super bowl streaker advert. Can't be unseen.

  • @nitekat007
    @nitekat007 8 років тому +40

    holy moly! I totally just stumbled across this one when looking for body language videos! He is amazing! and that was brilliant! and ive watched Ted talks for years.
    its also ironic how many teachers, lecturers, politicians and even public speakers have the body language that Mark intentionally adopted half way through the talk, and don't realise why nobody listens to them!!

  • @twirlingparasol_
    @twirlingparasol_ 7 місяців тому +1

    I love Mark so much. He has a brilliant mind and way of communication. This was a great speech!

  • @neurosentience5150
    @neurosentience5150 7 місяців тому +1

    Did this guy become my new hero?

  • @mightytinwhistler
    @mightytinwhistler 9 років тому +12

    Just finished reading his book and already using these techniques with great success. I am a corporate trainer and am always speaking to people.

  • @danielastockfleth-menis8786
    @danielastockfleth-menis8786 Рік тому +2

    I guess we shouldn't go around letting people know how authentic we are. Excellent TEDx Talk.

  • @chantellorimer-george2342
    @chantellorimer-george2342 9 років тому +11

    Wow I remember him in our middle school play...always was destination ed for the stage 😉

  • @stevegwizzle3560
    @stevegwizzle3560 8 років тому +11

    Wow..................MIND BLOWN.....I can already see me applying this to my life and making a big change in it.

  • @AllABoardYouth
    @AllABoardYouth 10 років тому +10

    Great way to demonstrate the paradox and bring us back to our choices. We all yearn for connection but wait for others to start it or notice us. This brings home the profound effect of reaching out to the person near us. Well said

  • @lifesab470
    @lifesab470 7 років тому +27

    That was brilliant!! ate it up!! loved it! and thank you Mark Bowden

  • @k3vl4r
    @k3vl4r 4 місяці тому +8

    My teacher forced me to watch it

  • @bruceshuler524
    @bruceshuler524 6 років тому +12

    When he was doing the predator bit towards the end, I could tell that I was on alert. I could tell what he was doing, but It was still working on me lol

  • @MaxCollingetheking
    @MaxCollingetheking 10 років тому +15

    Wonderful talk; I just read his book "winning body language" and Vloged about it.It was worth the time it took to read it! Thank you for all the great content Mark!

  • @StephRae
    @StephRae Рік тому +3

    Mark, Thank you very much for this insightful and intelligent talk. This is something I have been trying to explain but of course, I have never been able to explain with articulation and expertise. There are so many times when we must be a bit fake to become a better community and become closer. I have a very dominant and aggressive personality but I am also very caring and loving. They can appear to be contradictory so I must do exactly what you did in the video just to make sure that the listener feels safe receiving my message. It does work.
    As I am developing my business I will make sure that this TedTalk is required watching. You are brilliant and I am thrilled I found you and all of the group through The Behaviour Panel whom I found through Spidey. This kind of information is life-changing.

  • @allysonogston522
    @allysonogston522 2 роки тому +1

    Brilliant. I normally don't get through the first 5 minutes of any TED talk......bravo. And thanks.

  • @SheshagiriPai
    @SheshagiriPai 8 років тому +6

    I am surprised this has such less and biased views. Beautifully explained and enacted.

  • @MattysModernLife
    @MattysModernLife 9 років тому +23

    A brilliant talk, implemented in my every day life and it's amazing the difference it makes.

  • @wlkf.727
    @wlkf.727 9 років тому +8

    I have been watching quite a few of Tedx videos today, and I must say Mark Bowden gives me the most pleasant "feel". He comes off as interesting, funny and genuine (even if he pretends to be). I am surprised the views of his video is so low comparing to some of the videos with very mediocre content and communication.

  • @moh_Alashwal
    @moh_Alashwal 5 років тому +6

    When he said "so..." in 16:03 I immediately burst with laughter and clapped for him while I'm watching on my laptop!!! He's brilliant in acting being authentic ''a predator''..

    • @derkgerk2045
      @derkgerk2045 4 роки тому

      @gerald geriaafter he said he was manipulating us and he went straight to the aggressive tone saying that was his authentic behavior, I was like "hes about to pull the o'l switch-o-dic ko on us.

    • @Unkn0wn1133
      @Unkn0wn1133 Рік тому

      Hes got all the mannerisms of a magician and a hypnotist I dont trust him. Havent even got to the part where he switches in the video.

  • @tanatunya8124
    @tanatunya8124 3 роки тому +2

    He kinda authentically just spoke to my soul. A life lesson for me.

  • @missjanecocaine
    @missjanecocaine Рік тому +4

    You legend Mark. This speech literally saved my life ❤️

  • @DENNSWJ
    @DENNSWJ 5 місяців тому +1

    great speech, just great

  • @chianismo5938
    @chianismo5938 Рік тому +1

    This is a TEDx Talk, that doesn't only speak to those searching for authenticity, but also to the people who have seemingly found it. What a perfect guide to self reflection.
    Knowledge, humor, and charisma. Thank you, Mark.

  • @nv6288
    @nv6288 4 роки тому +2

    This is like the best Ted Talk i’ve ever watched

  • @JimLovell-np4pv
    @JimLovell-np4pv 8 місяців тому +1

    i should watch this every day before i go teach

    • @teresev1435
      @teresev1435 2 місяці тому

      I watch it every once in a while

  • @nick31111111
    @nick31111111 7 років тому +5

    bought his book and it's even better!!

  • @LuvKumarcanabis
    @LuvKumarcanabis 7 років тому +7

    I study body language for the same purpose you are trying to tell us .
    Thanks a lot for this . i really get motivated.

  • @JoanOfArgghh
    @JoanOfArgghh Рік тому

    I always joke that sincerity is the main thing: if you can fake that, you've got it made.

  • @nobleani9177
    @nobleani9177 9 років тому +3

    Honestly, the majority of this I already knew, sorta common sense I suppose, not all of it though. It's just sort of fascinating to hear someone put it all into just 20 minutes. Really good way of presenting too, I really follow it all and will be researching some more of Mark's work. Mark Bowden

  • @alphafemalenetwork3452
    @alphafemalenetwork3452 8 років тому +1

    If you turn the sound down on your tv/hulu/Netflix you will still be able to follow what is going on - even without words. Hollywood and politicians live and breathe this stuff. Body language can even be used for stress relief.

  • @ahmedouajib1228
    @ahmedouajib1228 7 років тому +3

    Tedx Talk is a place of knowledge ForFREE. I was smiling and could not help it! Thank you Mark!

    • @suzannenorthcutt5100
      @suzannenorthcutt5100 7 років тому +1

      ahmed ouajib Me too!!!☺

    • @ahmedouajib1228
      @ahmedouajib1228 7 років тому

      That's nice, and I am happy to see someone having the same feeling as I have had.

    • @ahmedouajib1228
      @ahmedouajib1228 7 років тому +1

      That's nice, and I am happy to see someone having the same feeling. Keep it up Suzanne!

  • @julesfairfax5623
    @julesfairfax5623 4 роки тому +1

    I don't agree that I am indifferent, but I DO agree that talking to everyone changes your day.

  • @ufolover40
    @ufolover40 8 років тому

    the importance of this talk is incredible. thank you for uploading this :)

  • @HoneyPresents
    @HoneyPresents 5 років тому

    One of the best TED talks I've seen!

  • @ginnilou1
    @ginnilou1 10 років тому

    Loved your presentation...will implement!

  • @SophieBennettUK
    @SophieBennettUK 10 років тому +2

    Absolutely brilliant talk. Truly inspiring. Thank you to James Lavers for pointing me to this great speaker. A must watch

  • @jenniferdettloff-carter4245
    @jenniferdettloff-carter4245 Рік тому +1

    Eye opening and funny! Wow, I never really looked at our "authenticity" that way. 'Loved this. Thanks Mark!

  • @taravanderveer7842
    @taravanderveer7842 9 років тому +1

    I saw Mark at a recent Conference at Humber College - what an incredible speaker and such interesting content. Loved it then and again watching this today.

  • @victoriaatamansky474
    @victoriaatamansky474 9 років тому

    Love this talk. Very informative.

  • @digiedit1
    @digiedit1 10 років тому +1

    Wonderful talk. Have shared with my whole team

  • @niesporczak_magnum
    @niesporczak_magnum 6 років тому

    one of best Ted talk i've seen

  • @KaneyoshiSouji
    @KaneyoshiSouji 10 років тому +2

    So talented and I laughed so hard, but even more so, I was moved by the ending. Thank you!

  • @nccacanada
    @nccacanada 7 років тому

    Excellent topic and delivery!

  • @daultonbaird6314
    @daultonbaird6314 8 років тому +7

    An amazing talk , I like the way the first 19 minutes set the framework for the last minute .

  • @alphajet75
    @alphajet75 7 років тому

    This man is so bright and funny ..wow thumbs up i love his work and act !!!

  • @luisaaraneda1950
    @luisaaraneda1950 5 років тому +1

    This is one of the BEST TED TALKS EVER!!!

  • @jacobbailey5498
    @jacobbailey5498 7 років тому +4

    I've needed this video for a while. Completely remarkable. Frees up some cognitive dissonance. Thank you to Mark!

  • @downbntout
    @downbntout 6 років тому

    Brutal unskippable ad!! Grr!

  • @JimLovell-np4pv
    @JimLovell-np4pv 8 місяців тому

    the Brits' greatest contribution to humanity: self depreciating humor. thanks.

    • @VenetianSnus
      @VenetianSnus 7 місяців тому

      Deprecating* sorry, I’m a spelling nerd

  • @ChuckBosse
    @ChuckBosse 9 років тому

    Just awesome, thank you Mark.

  • @Melissa19f
    @Melissa19f Рік тому

    Brilliant message and execution!

  • @harrissourapas6840
    @harrissourapas6840 7 років тому +1

    amazing information,this video should be more popular

  • @CarlSpiessScotiaWealth
    @CarlSpiessScotiaWealth 5 років тому

    Great talk! Very insightful.

  • @MyOveralls74
    @MyOveralls74 2 роки тому

    This is beautiful. Thanks Mark!

  • @josienewnham8616
    @josienewnham8616 Рік тому

    I found Mark through The Behaviour Panel on UA-cam. What a Ted. So informative and a comedian too ❤

  • @dewetvanrooyen8458
    @dewetvanrooyen8458 2 роки тому +2

    How interesting , this is so true I have experiance this so many times . This presenter was extremely entertaining and enlightening at the same time .

  • @AntonVoronych
    @AntonVoronych 7 років тому

    Thanks for this amazing content!

  • @helencampbell
    @helencampbell Рік тому

    This is the best TedTalk I have seen - thank you Mark

  • @hendiherawan
    @hendiherawan 9 років тому +4

    Wow! Thank you....

  • @sinnera
    @sinnera 2 роки тому

    Amazing talk - I loved it!

  • @lorim.1528
    @lorim.1528 2 роки тому

    Wow. Wow. Wow. I love it Mark. Genius! Great talk!

  • @hi.moriarty
    @hi.moriarty Рік тому

    Mark! Great talk! Thanks!

  • @memeboisvert7907
    @memeboisvert7907 3 роки тому

    Awesome! Learned of this talk from The Behavior Panel and shared.

  • @Melissa-vr8zv
    @Melissa-vr8zv 9 років тому +1

    This is awesome! I'm surprised it didn't get more attention.

  • @elenabevzova5465
    @elenabevzova5465 5 років тому

    Idea is completely true and performance is just perfect!

  • @WhiteNorthStar1
    @WhiteNorthStar1 10 місяців тому

    One of the greatest presentations I've ever seen 🙏

  • @dubeauc
    @dubeauc 8 років тому

    Excellent talk!

  • @mrsmacca126
    @mrsmacca126 2 роки тому

    I LOVE LOVE LOVE Mark.

  • @sharon_Stralia
    @sharon_Stralia 11 місяців тому

    This is very timeless 🫡

  • @amd-137
    @amd-137 Рік тому

    So beautiful! Thank you Mark.

  • @655Louisa
    @655Louisa Рік тому

    Love this. Thank you.

  • @pytheas222
    @pytheas222 Рік тому

    I find that simply affirming that someone is my friend dose wonders for how I am perceived in general.

  • @thehumbledevil
    @thehumbledevil 7 років тому

    outstanding i will be looking into all his work.

  • @amazingsupergirl7125
    @amazingsupergirl7125 Рік тому

    Mark! That’s was FANTASTIC! Obviously love you on TBP and in interviews but wow you’re a wonderful public speaker. ❤🤟🏻

  • @alen1alen1
    @alen1alen1 8 років тому

    This guy is awesome!

  • @jackmilner5033
    @jackmilner5033 10 років тому +23

    Brilliant, dramatic and inspiring - oh yes and funny. You don't want much more in a TED talk do you.

  • @1208harmony
    @1208harmony 8 років тому

    what a gem!!!!!

  • @tylerkolb2277
    @tylerkolb2277 2 роки тому

    This is by far the best performance on Tedx i've ever seen and I have benefited, BY FAR, the most from this particular Ted Talk

  • @TheHyena-ru8bz
    @TheHyena-ru8bz 6 років тому

    What a powerful ending!

  • @melanycouch9749
    @melanycouch9749 3 роки тому

    Love this guy!

  • @melittaanca8993
    @melittaanca8993 Рік тому

    loved it! thank you! ❤

  • @samureeswords8181
    @samureeswords8181 Рік тому

    Fascinating stuff Bowden!