How I Met my Boyfriend (and made gay male friends)
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- Опубліковано 17 вер 2024
- I'm very excited to be done with our move and back to filming more! Please let me know what kinds of videos you'd like to see from me.
p.s. sorry I didn't include any photos of him in the actual video!! you'll see more of him, I swear
As a cis queer guy, this video is very relatable. Not about coming out as trans to new queer friends, but for coming out as not knowing anything about drag haha
She's a female. Not a gay man.
@@CharlesBingley-v9iwhy are gay men so transphobic
Absolutely gushing over "I'm working on being less forward" you guys truly met at a perfect time
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That was my favourite part!😅🩷
It's actually very conforting hearing how much choice and intentionality went into you becoming who you are. I'm a trans guy who is super feminine and people act like transitioning means I have to leave my feminine self-expression behind. It's nice to hear that you get to be in control of who you are
Yeah absolutely! Realizing you have that kind of control is so freeing
Hey, im a lesbian teenager and this video has honestly inspired me. A few years ago i went to my first gsa meeting and had my first panic attack. Ever since then, I have been avoiding queer spaces because of my anxiety around being out, but this helped me realize that community won't just show up one day. "If you sit around waiting for the moment that you're not scared, it'll just never come" was exactly what i needed to hear. Sorry this turned into impromptu therapy lol
This was very timely. I'm in the earlier stages of exploring gay male spaces, and it's true that you just have to do it in spite of the fear and intimidation. It's definitely difficult, but it's been such a positive thing for me to do that, I'm really glad that I pushed myself. Also, the surreality of people just looking at you and identifying you as a guy, and that shift from having to explain your identity to people just correctly inferring your identity is definitely odd at first. Great, but definitely a through the looking glass kind of moment.
Aw yeah that's such a special time! Enjoy the newness - it's fun in its own way :)
HELL YEAH NEW ARTHUR VIDEO
i'm not sure why i watch these videos as a transfem but they're just so comfy i love them
me too! Idk why its so comforting but it is
thats cute :3 as a nonbinary person i do the same with both transmasc and transfem vids despite not being either
Im transmasc but I love seeing and listening to transfems too
@@pinkforguystrans masc?? You mean a transsexual man.
Trans fem?? You mean a transsexual woman
so true about treating hangouts like its an assignment. I went to a queer house party tonight that I was doubting last minute but i always end up having a great time and meeting new people anyways. did have a few awkward moments but i own it and laugh it off… you just gotta push yourself to make those connections and show up and life will do the rest of the work!
Honestly these comments always make me kinda jealous :(. I'm a 19yo lesbian and I really struggle with romantic connections and therefore dating. I don't know too many gay people either so I'll basically never go to a queer house party :(. I feel instead I should be happy for people 😅
@@wolfzmusic9706hey its ok you will get there its often sometimes spontanoue
I can't help but feel inadequate when it comes to dating and being gay. Like I'll never measure up or be what somebody wants. It's rough. I know I gotta put myself out there but it's hard. You always end up posting videos whenever I need them the most lol
Thank you for yet another banger. Ive been meaning to be more open about it but I thought I was alone (for why???). This has rlly helped me, please never stop talking about your experiences. 🙏
Love the board games in the background!
I'm a trans guy pre top surgery and I thought it was impossible to be comfortable in a relationship without having top first. less than a month ago I was bored and download tinder to at least make some friends idk and from all the guys I talked there was one that call my attention. i found it later he works in the same place I do and that was super scary cause I was afraid he would out me. So we started dating and kissed until I could't keep it anymore and told him I was trans. He took it well and now we're together. Of couse i'm gonna be more comfortable intimately once I have top surgery but I'm so happy rn with him. What I mean is don't let fear of what might happen stop u. Feel the fear and do it anyways. That's how you get good things in life
I've also had a similar experience! Pre top surgery worked and I am so happy I put myself out there - but it's way easier and more comfortable now (so something to look forward to too!).
@@yourownpersonalhater I agree that if you’re ok with your body there’s no need for surgery but in this case I am not okay with my body and either was Arthur so surgery is probably life changing in this cases
I always love hearing your voice (and the light in your voice) and your thoughtful perspective.
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aaaah arthur i'm always so happy to see a new vid from you !! your videos are so comforting, such a happy place and they really give me hope for my future, which is amazing considering the scary stuff happening right now in the world. and congratulations on the move :)
awwww thank you
hi, arthur! long time viewer here, thank you as always for putting these videos up.
a very important trans man in my life is very sexually confident, and puts a lot of energy towards chatting with and meeting cis men on grindr. which has been great, he’s grown a lot more comfortable in his skin putting himself out there like that. but he struggles a lot/avoids meeting and building friendships with cis gay (or het) men in non-sexual contexts, and doesn’t feel like he’s “one of them” enough to successfully socialize with cis men he’d want to befriend in his everyday life. would be curious to hear your thoughts, though it’s admittedly a very different experience than the one you’ve described.
Yeah that's a great topic! I think friendship insecurity is difficult in a related but different way than romantic/sexual insecurity. I'll make a note about it for a future video!
I’m a gay man and I have never watched an episode of Drag Race. And I’m not embarrassed.
lol i was just thinking about a video of yours a couple minutes ago out of nowhere coincidentally before you uploaded right now
this is literally adorable
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Hey man, I’m also a transgender male, and I have struggled a lot with telling those around me that I am trans and telling myself that it’s ok to be trans. My parents don’t really support me at the moment because I’m a minor and you have proven to me that it can get better. Thank you so much!
It's so interesting and helpful to hear that even to someone very extroverted social events can sometimes be a chore.
Thanks for sharing your story and good luck with the unboxing!
Yeah it's part of how it took me a while to realize I was extroverted! Meeting new people can still be exhausting for me even if I'd ideally wanna spend 95% of my time surrounded by friends
Thank you so much for your content. It's just a genuine form of trans positivity that I don't feel from so many trans spaces or creators
Since you're so open about things. Would you ever maybe mention or talk about power dynamics with gay/trans sex? I feel like the Trans men always seen as bottoms in the gay community..
Yeah that's a super interesting topic! Definitely could talk about something in that genre, but I'm always dancing around the UA-cam age restriction/demonetization guidelines hahaha
Not all gay guys care what happens on RuPaul's Drag Race. I enjoy watching drag shows sometimes of course but I'm not into reality TV whatsoever and not into the scene so to speak. Don't be embarrassed. I'm more of a nature Outdoors animal and sci-fi gay nerd . Everybody has their tribe so to speak. Transitioning for the most part likely doesn't really change much about that part of you. You like what you like regardless. I can only liken it too when I came out as I am a CIS gay man. For a while I tried to get into things that a lot of other gay guys seem to be into. It took me a while to find my niche and when I say that I mean I found other people that like what I like to start with and there are a lot of them but they just weren't part of the scene or the ones that were part of the scene were in the closet so to speak about their real interests. Talking about RuPaul's Drag Race seems to be the popular small talk at parties as well as sort of social credit to avoid talking religion and politics LOL
I’m a nonbinary bi guy and being able to get out and socialize is a dream of mine. It’s really nice to be encouraged by someone who was able to do that
Sending love and positive energy from mongolia 🇲🇳 0:22
Your videos are always really lovely and helpful and you always radiate really good vibes
congrats on the move :) and i know your life is not a fairytale lol but im happy for where you have gotten :)
unrelated, you should have a husband named Norman so he can become Norman Rockwell
You’re an inspiration for happiness. I’m going to pride this weekend, even though I don’t know anyone going to pride! I just wanna meet some people who, you know, would go to pride 😂 it’s a little scary!
Awww love this!! Have fun
This is great, thanks Arthur 🥰❤❤
thx for the video! now that im passing a bit better, i need to buckle down and take your advice!
I always find it funny when me being a trans female, find a trans man hot. Cause its like both me and this other person started out a boy and a girl and I wouldn't have been into them when they were a woman but now that they do all these things to transition I'm into them. I heard someone say something on tv once that made me laugh to myself about that, its kinda like just being straight with extra steps, hahaha. Anyways, you look great, very cute. Congrats on looking so good at the end of all this stuff.
When I was growing up I thought that I would have to like things like Opera
Love your videos they make me feel less alone
I am kinda alone Irl but this made me feel better
Not every gay man likes DagRace or drag in particular.
i'm non binary and don't always relate to aspects of you being a trans man, but i just feel such a strong sense of comfort and joy and hope watching your videos. thank you so much for what you do, i wish you all the very best in the future and congratulations on the move :))
I do not mean this in an offensive way, but I had no idea you're trans, until you said. (First time watcher) So happy for you and your journey, may it continue forever.
Aww thank you!
If I was stealth I’d hate to get approached by anyone trans or not asking me if I’m trans.
This made me really happy
This video is exactly what I needed today 🖤
hi, it's so cool to hear you. i'm trans and an economics student as well. how crazy would it be to work together sometime. ty for your videos and your story. much love
I love hearing about other trans economics students!! Good luck w your work 😁
Great vid.
Where can we follow you on Instagram.
wow... a very gay video.
yuppp 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
So you are gay transman , man you are cute , i want to ask you about taking hormones, they say it can cause of losing hair specially head hair , what do you think?
If you're worried about losing your hair there are things you can do to help prevent it- Finasteride and Minoxidil work for everyone trans or cis, but finasteride does require a prescription