Five Common Tactics That Do Not Stop Bullies | How Do I Stop a Bully? | Preventing Bullying
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- Опубліковано 16 вер 2024
- Five Common Tactics That Do Not Stop Bullies | How Do I Stop a Bully? | Preventing Bullying
Dr. Ben Leichtling discusses five common tactics that are not effective in stopping a relentless bully:
1. Condoning bad behavior and suffering in silence.
2. Kindness, begging and bribery.
3. Mediating, negotiating and compromising forever.
4. Accepting promises without immediate changes in behavior.
5. Not to have a program for preventing bullying in school, at home, or at work.
Call Dr. Ben at 1-877-8BULLIEs to discuss your situation and to work out a plan for stopping the bullies in your life or in the lives of the people you love, whether the bullying is going on at home, in school or at work.
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We are not weak we are strong we are just not malicious like them and have more self control. Bullies need to respect render kindness appreciate it gives e it back. They have no self regulation they deliberately don't make effort.
thanks a lot for sharing, very helpful for many of us.
I have found that involving law enforcement works where appropriate. If the act is a criminal act, call the police. At work, it means to involve the proper work authorities, and again, call the police if we are talking about something that is also a criminal act. Some bullies I had when I was a child were only stopped by me defending myself with physical force.
Thank you!
I was harassed and bullied by my family. I was gang stalked and actually got into a car accident because of it. Ive lost jobs due to my familys jealousy and having connections with people. I endured severe mental abuse for years. I recently just cut off my family but I still cant make friends because my family knows everyone or they follow me around and somehow get to people I might consider friends. Its been years of severe stress. I want to move out if the area but I dont have the money.
+Katherine Roberts
Hi Katherine,
Sorry I couldn’t answer sooner.
Of course it’s hard. So what? Just keep at it.
You future, the wonderful future you want is calling for you. Answer the call!
Grit wins. Then you can find the true family of your heart mind and spirit.
Best wishes,
Ben
Hi Luke,
Ok, now learn the ways that stop bullies. Be strong, courageous and skillful.
And protect your personal space from toxic polluters - no matter the situation.
Best wishes,
Ben
+Demy Smit
Hi Demy Smit,
I can't find your comment.
But stop listening to what other people think. Stand up and protect yourself. Learn how to be skillful and tactical.
Make your own life with people who think you're great. Create a family of your heart mind and spirit!
Best wishes,
Ben
Hi Jennifer S,
Right you are.
Unfortunately those tactics usually don’t work. If they would have worked, those bullies would have changed or been long gone.
Now, instead of thinking that if we understand Bullies, we can change them, or instead of hoping you’ll get help from sources that rarely do help, you need to learn how to stop them on your own.
Hard work but possible. In general I don’t encourage acting out. You need strategies that show you’re the most profession and they’re the bad actor.
You can influence the situation, not by thinking of motivating them to rehabilitate but by power and clever tactics.
You may need a lawyer. You’ll need a practical coach.
Best wishes,
Ben
I called a bully out to fight and he ran in his house like a little girl, the problem after that was his wife started and there was nothing i could do.
Hi Pfsif,
Good for you for the first step. Now you have to make next steps for a new situation (his wife).
All tactics depend on the situation.
Best wishes,
Ben
Sorry I haven't gotten back with you sooner. Computer ignorance. All are possibilities including get away, getting authorities involved, fighting back (taekwando). Make a sequence. All tactics depend on the situation. Call me at 877-8BULLIEs for coaching if you need.
Can't hardly hear you.
Hi Kitty Kat,
Good for you for making boundaries and getting away from the bullies.
Now, I suggest putting them way behind you - not even arguing or asserting or fighting with them - and finding much better people to have in your personal space.
Of course, depends on the circumstances.
Best wishes,
Ben
Hi Demy Smit,
I can't find your comment.
But stop listening to what other people think. Stand up and protect yourself. Learn how to be skillful and tactical.
Make your own life with people who think you're great. Create a family of your heart mind and spirit!
Best wishes,
Ben
Thank you!