THE TRUE COST OF FEAR | Stop Letting Fear Take the Joy From Your Riding

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  • Опубліковано 3 лют 2025

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  • @sylviarogers4510
    @sylviarogers4510 2 роки тому +2

    I’m so thankful that scientists are finding better ways. No more “just suck it up and get back on”
    And great to see you again Tash!

  • @josephinegaarde4476
    @josephinegaarde4476 2 роки тому +1

    So great to hear someone say that it is okay to get frustrated and angry with the fear and to hear that those feelings actually can be great feelings to get motivated enough to get rid of the fear! Thank you so much for mentioning that. x

  • @clover426
    @clover426 2 роки тому +4

    My biggest takeaway from this video was learning that waiting for fear to just go away, won’t work. You have to control you fear and work through it. I learnt that fear was the root cause of most of my problems. Thank you so much for making this video and an amazing masterclass, I can’t wait! This came at the perfect time, as I really need the confidence boost right now. Thank you so much and i’m glad to know there is a way to get through this and that other people can relate and have been through my experience. ❤️❤️ 🐴

    • @YourRidingSuccess
      @YourRidingSuccess  2 роки тому

      Thank you so much for sharing this with us! Love that you are doing your best! :)

  • @debrahall7010
    @debrahall7010 2 роки тому +1

    You are so right! I am working on my fear daily. I choose joy.

  • @Moonmoona1211
    @Moonmoona1211 2 роки тому +8

    Can’t wait for this masterclass on Fear. My takeaway from this video is there is an actual method to controlling your fear! Not just letting time pass. I’ve been fortunate to not have a bad accident yet but an accident can happen anytime and I want to be prepared to properly mend (and strengthen!) my broken confidence. -Anne
    Edit: also I want to gain confidence in the saddle in general. Lack of confidence (“do I know what I’m doing?”) bleeds right into the hairiness of fear/anxiety. It could cause accidents! Or prevent me from saving the situation.

    • @YourRidingSuccess
      @YourRidingSuccess  2 роки тому

      We can't wait to see you in this masterclass and we hope you learn something to help you gain back your confidence in riding 😘

  • @caseylewis9125
    @caseylewis9125 2 роки тому +3

    Thank you so so so much for posting this. I've just taken a fall off my horse this weekend and fractured my pelvis. I'm devastated, but this video has given me the hope and confidence to get back on once I recover!

    • @YourRidingSuccess
      @YourRidingSuccess  2 роки тому +1

      Oh no!! Feel better soon! And thanks for watching this video - glad it gave you the confidence you need! 😘

  • @emilymarker5032
    @emilymarker5032 2 роки тому +1

    That was very helpful! And also, welcome back tash!!!!

    • @YourRidingSuccess
      @YourRidingSuccess  2 роки тому

      YAY!! Glad it's super helpful for you!! And yes, Tash is soo back! 🥰

  • @kimcloss7918
    @kimcloss7918 2 роки тому +1

    Love it. Thanks for sharing your story!! Great to reflect on what fear is costing. Looking forward to watching the masterclass!

  • @benitascott3533
    @benitascott3533 2 роки тому +1

    Tash has a great handle on the subject of horse-rider fear; how to decontrsuct it; & how to best address it! I know this, because I too have been dominated by fear & I am the successful graduate of an earlier workshop by Tash on managing rider fear. I then met Alicia on YRS UA-cam & studied her methods on developing a secure & balanced rider seat. Combining the benefits of both together, resulted in me now, being able to happily canter about, & feel secure in the saddle, after avoiding the canter for about 2 years! I was at the mercy of a dominant fear after a silly fall, upon which I broke my wrist. I say silly, because some falls could likely be prevented by applying careful mindfulness & some fundamental riding skills. That is, by developing better situational awareness & the correct riding seat to provide security & balance in the saddle & better ability to move the horse more precisely. These are all the things Tash is referring to here. So, essentially I know the quality will be high! And further developing my understanding about the psychology of fear & riding mindset, & the tools to improve, can only be beneficial! Hence, I'm in - & looking forward to it! Thankyou for the invitation & encouragement! And I encourage you to attend also!!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻🐴🐎❤🙏

    • @YourRidingSuccess
      @YourRidingSuccess  2 роки тому

      Thank you so much for sharing this with us Benita! Love that you are able to learn so much and can happily canter with the correct rider mindset. Thanks so much again for always being generous about your riding experience and your learnings!

    • @benitascott3533
      @benitascott3533 2 роки тому +1

      @@YourRidingSuccess That's my absolute pleasure! I've shared the event in as many different areas/groups as I can think of, because I'm such a true believer in everything YRS produce! I love to see how the channel has grown in its professionalism, on a continuous basis! You should all be very proud of the work you produce, & how many people you continue to help! ❤🐎🙏

  • @ano.theart3050
    @ano.theart3050 2 роки тому +1

    Yay we miss you Tash!!!

  • @matthewkermode8996
    @matthewkermode8996 2 роки тому +1

    Finally managed to watch the full video and I have discovered that you guys are mind readers... You nailed to a T what is going on in my head when I am trying to ride at the moment! Can't wait for the masterclass!

    • @YourRidingSuccess
      @YourRidingSuccess  2 роки тому

      Yes! We are looking forward to it too! :) Thank you Matt!

  • @lindylufromoz5111
    @lindylufromoz5111 2 роки тому

    Crikey! Timely or what? Tomorrow afternoon my new super-quiet gentle gelding arrives here. He is one of the solutions I chose to buy at the start of this year, to help me with getting on top of my fear after a non-horse related heavy fall that smashed the crap out of my skull, put in an induced coma for a week & ended up with severe brain damage. I can still walk & talk quite well & I still have to clean the poopin stables every day. Damn. That was 4 years ago & I accepted that I'll never be able to ride again. I've already got the starting points in place & plan to take it slowly-slowly..
    If it wasn't for having watched yours & Alicia's videos over & over for the past year or so, I wouldn't even have been at this point. YOU did that.
    You can be sure I'll be joining this series on fovercoming fear.
    xx Linda.

    • @YourRidingSuccess
      @YourRidingSuccess  2 роки тому

      Thank you Lindylu, for sharing your experience. Love that you are joining this series! Let me know how you go!

  • @elizabethrees1965
    @elizabethrees1965 2 роки тому +1

    Tash, you describe exactly how I feel about riding right now. You articulate the feeling exactly, a feeling of crippling fear, yet being desperate to ride inspire of it. I have not been able to make friends, even horsey ones understand. I have been unlucky enough to fracture my spine, not once but twice, in two falls on different horses 13 years apart! I was just getting more confident when I had a fall during a lesson and this has shaken me. I will definitely be signing up for the programme!

    • @YourRidingSuccess
      @YourRidingSuccess  2 роки тому

      Thank you so much for sharing this with us, Elizabeth! We hope to be able to help you get your confidence back! 😘

  • @danaadams9165
    @danaadams9165 2 роки тому +1

    This was wonderful- thank you so much for sharing! Much of fear is mental and I have found that if I can overcome the negativity of the self-talk, it really helps me. I have not done a few things with this new horse due to "caution", I'll call it, BUT I have slowly started doing a few of them recently and it has gone well :-) It's OK to go at your own pace when you feel apprehensive. I had one horse for 20 years, so this this a new journey with a new horse and we need to learn to trust each other. Thanks Again!

  • @darkstarsoul24
    @darkstarsoul24 2 роки тому +1

    Wonderful to see Natasha :) ... thank you for putting this together! Fear is also terrible for the horse you are riding...brain to rein... I experienced this today on a new horse I was riding. Once I relaxed he was so much calmer as I guess he could feel 'I got him' and he didn't need to be frightened of the shadows in one corner of the school ... (he has some sight issues).

  • @kozytoes10
    @kozytoes10 2 роки тому +1

    Fearless program changed it all for me,worth every penny.thank you Tash.

    • @YourRidingSuccess
      @YourRidingSuccess  2 роки тому +1

      YAY!! So lovely to see this!! Glad the FearLESS Mastery program has helped you a lot!! 😘

  • @shannonclendon1424
    @shannonclendon1424 2 роки тому +2

    LOVE LOVE LOVE that you shared your story Tash! It helps to hear that someone as successful as you, had paralyzing fear. We are not alone!

  • @Jules-dx3nu
    @Jules-dx3nu 2 роки тому +1

    Really needed this 🥺❤️

  • @idajoh09
    @idajoh09 2 роки тому +1

    So happy to see you in a video again, hope its going well with you.

  • @reikolinde16
    @reikolinde16 2 роки тому +2

    My takeaway is that I need to look at this program! I already have Fearless Mastery, and it’s transformative. My horse launched me on March 6, and I suffered a burst fracture of L1. Still in a clamshell…. It’s been 14 weeks of waiting for clearance from my surgeon to start physical therapy. My goal is to get strong enough to get on a quiet horse in September - and maybe my rock star next spring (she’s continuing in the meantime with her trainer…. I’m hopeful, not insane! 😁). The new program should be even better, as you say there are riding tools ⚒️ too!

    • @YourRidingSuccess
      @YourRidingSuccess  2 роки тому +1

      Thanks for sharing Reiko! I hope you get the clear from your surgeon! I love your hopeful attitude! :)

  • @matthewkermode8996
    @matthewkermode8996 2 роки тому +3

    Can’t wait for this! Really struggling with my horse at the moment!

  • @TaylorParnell
    @TaylorParnell 2 роки тому +2

    PERFECT THING TO TALK ABOUT THANK YOU ❤️🙌🏻

  • @gryaznyyy
    @gryaznyyy 2 роки тому +5

    I am a person who's really anxious about everything, I am the definition of "what if". But I started riding horses mainly because of my love for the animal and to make me a more confident person.
    I fell a lot, and I did a lot of mistakes too, but there is one of them that haunts me every time I ride.
    I was once doing a gymnastics with a horse (which I don't and can't ride anymore) and everything went ok till the final curve, where I had to turn right, but I missed the cue to the horse and we both got separated, I went right and she went left. That was totally my fault. I didn't get hurt at all, just distended a little bit my neck but nothing really seriosous, I got back on and did it again. But it really marked me.
    I am afraid of turns, any kind of turns. When I'm practicing dressage, when I'm practicing jumping, it doesn't matter what, once I'm on a horse and have to turn, I panic. In jumping I tend to close those turns so I don't have to stay too much time doing it, in dressage, I forgot about my body consciousness and let the horse drop their shoulders where they want to go. I simply turn my mind off.
    All of my rides don't go 100% as they should because of it. Because I am afraid to turn.
    I love to ride, but it became an habit to turn before the right time, to try to run away from the turns. I know it shouldn't be a scary thing to do, but since that fall I couldn't do such things as circles or turns properly, because I am scared that I will miss the aid and the horses is going to go the other side...

    • @YourRidingSuccess
      @YourRidingSuccess  2 роки тому +2

      Thanks for sharing this! We hope this masterclass gives you the confidence you need to help you in your riding 🥰

  • @kaylapearson294
    @kaylapearson294 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you for sharing your story tash! We miss you! Love to learn more about how to avoid problems in horses like bolting

  • @realisticequestrian8229
    @realisticequestrian8229 2 роки тому +3

    Looking forward to this. Having to go right back to basics with my TB at the moment. Even just lunging her right now makes me tremble, let alone getting on. I'm quite happy to get on my other horse which in comparison has dumped me so much. It's not even a fear of falling. It's such a struggle 😪

    • @YourRidingSuccess
      @YourRidingSuccess  2 роки тому +1

      Thanks for sharing this, Amy! We hope this masterclass gives you the confidence you need to help you in your riding 🥰

  • @joanneharten7131
    @joanneharten7131 2 роки тому +2

    Hi Tash WOW have heard of NLP but never thought it could help with my riding journey. I’m intrigued. Have had to have several stern talks with myself after a fall, didn’t realise other equestrians felt the same. 🦋

    • @YourRidingSuccess
      @YourRidingSuccess  2 роки тому +1

      Thanks, Joanne! Will you be able to join us in the masterclass?

    • @joanneharten7131
      @joanneharten7131 2 роки тому +1

      Would love to can you send me cost and details? Lovely to hear from you 🦋

    • @YourRidingSuccess
      @YourRidingSuccess  2 роки тому +1

      You can register here - www.yourridingsuccess.com/class-fear

  • @kimchi_pancakes3832
    @kimchi_pancakes3832 2 роки тому +2

    This is such a perfectly timed video asI’m working through some self doubt and the “what if’s” when I actually back my OTTB again after a major injury she sustained. She’s very young, green and has become hotter since being out of work for so long. I would to hear more about what you (Tash) read to help understand the human psyche and what makes us tick!

    • @YourRidingSuccess
      @YourRidingSuccess  2 роки тому

      How timely! We can't wait to see you in this masterclass soon! 😉

  • @emmafalconer6407
    @emmafalconer6407 2 роки тому +1

    Fear and anxiety is truly awful, they suck all of the joy out of things and leave you feeling exhausted. I am so often in the habit of trying to do something anyway and putting myself in fearful situations, however, this doesn't allow me to get over it. The biggest fear that stops me from doing things is the thought that something might happen that causes me to lose my horse as she is my absolute world and can't bear the thought of loosing her! This often stops me from going on hacks in case she bolts off into the road, gets hit by a car, scared/bitten by a dog or makes me fall off from seeing bicycles charging past her full speed for example. Thank you for sharing your story with us Tash, it sounds like a confidence shattering and emotional experience! Unfortunately I missed the masterclass, will there be a replay?

    • @YourRidingSuccess
      @YourRidingSuccess  2 роки тому +1

      HI Emma! Thank you so much for tuning in and sharing! Could you email us at support@yourridingsuccess.com regarding the replay :]

  • @annikak.4734
    @annikak.4734 2 роки тому +1

    So interesting to learn the psychological part behind fear! Luckily I personally never had such a horrible accident!

  • @nataliebudge4798
    @nataliebudge4798 2 роки тому +1

    I think I’ve missed this master class and I’m devastated as I could REALLY use it right now! Is there a way I can watch it back at all??

    • @YourRidingSuccess
      @YourRidingSuccess  2 роки тому +1

      Hi Natalie! So sorry you missed the class! Could you kindly email us at support@yourridingsuccess.com and we can help x

  • @alexiapetcu2196
    @alexiapetcu2196 2 роки тому +1

    My biggest takeaway regarding fear was understanding that i actually could control the horse’s movements and stop him from spooking.

    • @YourRidingSuccess
      @YourRidingSuccess  2 роки тому

      LOVE it!! Thanks for sharing your biggest takeaway with us 😘

  • @esaflaka9155
    @esaflaka9155 2 роки тому +1

    I was just getting horse lessons this weekend for the .. third time?😬
    Learning the trot. Coach gave me a horse that usually he’s rlly been calm all his life.. so good for a beginner rider. But he is a super bouncy horse
    Well this time.. he was energetic and just wanted to canter first chance😬so at one point.. i ended up at a trot.. and he i think just about to go into a canter as i was going to post. So instead i launched to his side😬😅luckily didn’t fall.. he was on a lead rope in a round pen thankfully so. He didn’t take off. Yay. Changed horses after that lol

    • @YourRidingSuccess
      @YourRidingSuccess  2 роки тому +1

      Thanks so much for tuning in!! Well done not falling and letting him take off!

  • @cindiamoore2579
    @cindiamoore2579 2 роки тому +1

    Will you have another class on this. I wasn't able to attend .

    • @YourRidingSuccess
      @YourRidingSuccess  2 роки тому

      Hi Cindi! Do you mean the fear masterclass we did? x

    • @cindiamoore2579
      @cindiamoore2579 2 роки тому +1

      @@YourRidingSuccess yes!

    • @YourRidingSuccess
      @YourRidingSuccess  2 роки тому

      We are hoping to have more! If you'd like a replay of this one you can email us at support@yourridingsuccess.com

  • @anna-lisawhite4463
    @anna-lisawhite4463 2 роки тому +1

    Hi, I can't make the time to watch the live class, is it possible to get a recording of it later?

    • @YourRidingSuccess
      @YourRidingSuccess  2 роки тому

      Hello Anna-Lisa! If you have registered, you will be send a replay. :)

    • @anna-lisawhite4463
      @anna-lisawhite4463 2 роки тому +1

      Thank you for your reply. Unfortunately I did not register, but now I know for in the future that I can :)

    • @YourRidingSuccess
      @YourRidingSuccess  2 роки тому

      oh no! If you email us at support@yourridingsuccess.com we can help you xx

  • @justynazagajewska9643
    @justynazagajewska9643 2 роки тому +2

    Hi! This sound so perfectly tailored for me , all of what you've said is exactly what I felt for such a long time...But I won't be able to join this weekend:/ Do you think you 'll make another one soon?

    • @YourRidingSuccess
      @YourRidingSuccess  2 роки тому

      So sorry to hear you won't be able to join us Justyna! Hopefully we will be able to hold another masterclass xx

  • @erynd2524
    @erynd2524 2 роки тому +1

    I went through this exact situation in November. 3 months in a TSLO brace. No ability to ride. The fear paralyzed me.

  • @lynnejohnson6699
    @lynnejohnson6699 2 роки тому +1

    I did make a list! Although I have had a list for many years now. I am actively working towards a better position as a rider. I am doing strength training once a week. I have worked with a performance coach via phone calls. I mention all these things because I have had tremendous fear and anxiety within my dressage journey. I have had broken bones, falls, and many many tears and emotional responses to so many “what if” thoughts. However, I know no trainer who is interested in helping school my riding ability to help me recognize and counter a buck, a spook, any of those unexpected movements from the horse that would easily unseat me. It is truly upsetting. I continue to ride…and only in an arena…and and for short periods of time. Alicia has helped me become aware of riding position errors and I believe I have improved. But, have I really? It’s difficult to see through the fear and anxiety. I hope you will address some of the physical attributes during your Video! Thanks so much for helping riders like myself! It is greatly appreciated and needed in the riding community world round.

    • @YourRidingSuccess
      @YourRidingSuccess  2 роки тому

      Thanks for sharing this, Lynne! Overcoming fear is really a work in progress and we hope to be able to help you get the confidence that you need in riding 🥰

  • @robinhowe4184
    @robinhowe4184 2 роки тому +1

    Can't wait only just cantering my horse after breaking my back in December and he didn't do it

    • @YourRidingSuccess
      @YourRidingSuccess  2 роки тому

      See you at the masterclass, Robin! I hope this helps you in your riding 🥰

  • @xanthemorton7806
    @xanthemorton7806 2 роки тому +1

    This explained a lot I'm scared of jumping. This has pit me out of comps hunting and everything my old pony used to rush and all I wanted to do a is jump but I couldn't everytine I was like yep I'm gonna jump 40 but what if I fall off what if I mess it up and ruin my pony what of and what will go wrong was all in my mind I refused to jump more than 30cm we tried to control her with a agg bit as I had no breaks it scared me my highest I evered jumped on her was 45cm just as u was growing out but the other day my new pony snaffle in his mouth I have full breaks and believed in myself and jumped 55cm oxer my best yet I'm still to canter but its going amazing I still fear but I'm starting to jump higher and I am having fun this went on for 4 years also sadly masterclass is at 7 am

    • @YourRidingSuccess
      @YourRidingSuccess  2 роки тому +1

      Thank you so much for sharing this, Xanthe! So glad you decided to believe in yourself and that you're doing amazing!! We can't wait to hear more about your progress! x

  • @carollinnan4268
    @carollinnan4268 2 роки тому +1

    i don't see a link

    • @YourRidingSuccess
      @YourRidingSuccess  2 роки тому

      Hello Carol! Here's the link to register for the masterclass - www.yourridingsuccess.com/class-fear

    • @carollinnan4268
      @carollinnan4268 2 роки тому +1

      @@YourRidingSuccess thank you!!

  • @kaynine1834
    @kaynine1834 2 роки тому +1

    Literally yesterday for the first time in 40 years, I went on an outride alone with my horse (2nd horse, the 1st horse is in horse heaven) I had a very bad experience and I blocked taking the leap for 40 years😔

    • @YourRidingSuccess
      @YourRidingSuccess  2 роки тому +1

      Oh wow! How did you feel about it? Love this!

    • @kaynine1834
      @kaynine1834 2 роки тому +1

      @@YourRidingSuccess strangely enough, never more calm even with all the dangers in the bush. I told my horse I have 100% trust in him to bring us back safe and sound, he did and I said thank you to my beautiful boy when we arrived back at the stables🐴
      So glad I stumbled upon your programme🐎🌞😍

    • @YourRidingSuccess
      @YourRidingSuccess  2 роки тому +1

      Amazing!!!! We're loving this - thanks so much for sharing! x

  • @privaternutzer874
    @privaternutzer874 2 роки тому

    Can't tell how curious I am!!