The Abby Howard Interview *emotional* | Ep. 22
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- Опубліковано 3 лип 2024
- I interviewed my wife.
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Chapters:
00:00 - Episode 22
3:31 - Asking my wife if she likes being an influencer
6:35 - Asking my wife what her passion is
8:34 - The origin of Matt & Abby
17:06 - How my mom made me practice adult skills as a child
22:29 - How becoming a mom changed my life goals
27:01 - It's our 7-year anniversary
28:51 - Asking my wife why she married me
31:33 - Telling my wife how I really feel about her
34:22 - Working together in college
48:14 - Getting emotional about our son growing up
55:06 - Asking my wife what her purpose is
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Props to Abby for admitting that being a mom and a homemaker is her passion. There is nothing wrong with that! 👏🏻
It’s refreshing. We get told so often that’s not a worthy passion yet it’s one of the most admirable in my opinion.
It's my passion too, and the most fulfilling thing in the world.
From the perspective of a man (me), it’s really refreshing to hear. It’s one of things I truly love about my wife and a reason I have complete faith in her mothering ability.
It would be my passion too if I had it so easy as she does.
Everything she said was how I feel I love cleaning and cooking cause I'm blessed to have the home my husband provided and the furniture he carried in and the groceries he bought and stores most of the time and I enjoy serving our family it does become a passion and it's so spiritually rewarding imo.
Abby should make a chill YT channel where she just bakes random thing😂I'd love that, dont even have to talk
Omg. I would binge-watch that!
And maybe Reading books
yes! even teaching how to cook and bake that would be so fun and interesting! ❤
I would love that
Yes! A super chill Abby side channel would be so great. Even just once a month or whenever she feels like it would be awesome!
I love the honesty about how Abby just wants to live her life and bake and love her house and that people don’t NEED to have crazy drive and purpose in life. It’s so normal and human. ❤
AMEN!!
And doesn’t want to be filmed
I just wanted to say, Abby you are allowed to be uncomfortable & complain about your job without feeling guilty over it. It’s absolutely normal.
No, she's not. She is literally extemely fortunate. No reason to complain about having the perfect occupation.
@@nm6857you can have the best job to other people yet be miserable. People who are billionaires also suffer from depression and/or suicide. It’s okay to have negative feelings about your job regardless of how good it looks to others.
Sure, she’s allowed to feel however she wants. It doesn't change the fact that it's ungrateful & spoiled.
@@nm6857and comments like this is why she’s afraid to say how she feels. That’s so stupid to even say dude
Amen she is allowed to be uncomfortable
They way Abby said “we are not having a pitty party for an influencer” made me genuinely smile ❤
The passion that Abby has for being a mother and a wife and a homemaker to the point of tears literally made me cry
It's something beautiful and fulfilling that very few are honored to be able to do. The absolute most amazing thing in the world is to love your family and bring them up strong and solid.
You’re not boring Abby you’re just a heart forward , down to earth person and it’s refreshing to see that
Abby's passion for motherhood is beautiful. I love it so much.
Take care of yourself, Abby. Your health is all that matters right now. If a life in social media is too taxing, it’s okay.
Usually a silent follower here 👋🏼 id just like to say, especially to Abby, I REALLY appreciate hearing how you talk about being a mom and your dreams for your sons. Im 26 and considering starting a family with my husband, but am surrounded by people at work complaining about their children. I get that work is their only outlet to let out their frustrations, but it makes me feel afraid to become a mom. I love hearing your perspective of parenthood. Thanks for always being a bright light. Love y’all.
No!! Ask them how it would be without those precious babes.. believe me it’s just part of being a parent 💗
I love being a mom and a wife ! It is extremely challenging and humbling but it's soo great ! You should definitely start a family . It will change you and your husband in the most beautiful way if you you allow it.
The fact that you are scared means you’re already doing better than many mothers. It’s so hard sometimes, but just when you get frustrated with a phase, it evolves and changes. I have 4 kids, work full time and wouldn’t change anything. Being a mom is the greatest joy of my whole life!
I second the person who commented beneath yours. Ask them what life would be like without them. Or, if it really keeps bothering you, say imagine if you lost them or couldn’t have them to begin with. That always hits a mother deep within. They complain because they can, and when they’re away for long enough they miss all the things they complain about. I use to complain about a messy house and stepping on toys until I heard a ton of moms crying while sending their kids off to college and other moms crying bc their babies died young. It gives you a different perspective and appreciation for those things.
Being a mother is literally the greatest gift. You will never regret it. I’ve heard so many moms tell me that they wish they had had more children but they’re too old now etc.
“it’s not a passion but it’s something that fulfills me”
i love her so much
I love Matt’s “you’re cool because…” comments to Abby. That seemed extremely genuine ❤
Actually, I think you should make a video where Abby is doing a morning routine but Matt does the voice over, that way she only needs to do half the work and it would be so funny 😄
There was a time this was very popular, and the men would explain things like make up in a very funny way. I love the idea too
Yes!!
yes yes yes!!
Abby's face is telling us....her eyes.. you can't hide sadness in your eyes. Bless her heart. ❤
I love that in 5 years' time that you can look back to this episode and be reminded of your younger selves. I can also imagine how much your boys will love seeing and hearing their parents talk about them like this
I love Abby's honesty because sometimes in today's world, it's really hard as a woman to admit how fulfilling motherhood is and to find gratification in those simple things in life instead of having those "lofty" business goals. It can really be looked down upon when really it is one of the greatest gifts in life. I'm so glad you spoke on that and your honesty is amazing
As someone who has opposite passions wanting to have a career before being a mom I love hearing Abby's honest opinions about content creation and wanting to genuinely be a stay at home mom.
Abby is definitely more traditional and you can tell she truly loves just being a mom and homemaker which is AMAZING. She even admits how she got more than she bargained for..which is pretty sad to hear. Hope this doesn’t cause issues for their relationship in the future. Social media is turning out to do more harm than good.
Matt is so in his element here, love to see it!!
To see such a confident woman speaking without fear about her life, made a significant impact on me. I don´t speak publicly and yet I tend to be self-conscious on almost every single aspect of my life. I´m your age Abby and I loved that this episode was all about you. You really inspired me. Love you, guys! I´ve never been this devoted to any podcast but I listen to yours every single week.
this whole interview is so sweet. I love how much Matt loves Abby and how there is nothing but patience and genuine interest in continuing to get to know her even 7 years into their relationship together. SO SPECIAL.
What I like about this channel is Abby been so real, and it includes she been emotional. A lot of channels is just people happy. I can see myself in her, been vulnerable sometimes dropping some tears, sometimes happy.
It's so sweet to see how much love Abby has for her family :) And now we need a Matt Howard interview!
I love how Matt took a deep breath in and out with her to help her calm down. So sweet.
The sweet thing would have been to give her a hug and turn off the camera.
I love they way matt comforts abby when shes upset or stressed and the way abby knows how to communicate with her children
Abby-You are SO well spoken and I absolutely love listening to the podcast to hear your thoughts on things so a whole episode dedicated to you was a treat! You are such a caring person and it shows through your answers. You’re doing an amazing job in all aspects of your life.
Matt-You did such an incredible job with the questions! Seriously. We got to know Abby on a much deeper level and it was so refreshing to hear her answers to your unique questions!
Matt and Abby-This podcast episode was just another example that you two truly love each other. I know you may not always get along, like any couple, plus you’re in the THICK of raising kids and growing kids, but I really think you two have a strong bond with each other and your love runs deep. Remember when you’re in the thick of it; it won’t always be like this. It won’t always be this hard. It’s just a season. You got this.
Matt did the right thing to interview Abby at the time he did and to ask the questions he asked. It's when we are feeling most vulnerable that we are most genuine. Well done Matt! Abby went with his flow and that was great too.
She looked uncomfortable and was clearly stressed. They should have stopped filming. Don’t encourage this
She did give her consent to film and post it, so that's that.
It is VERY hard to get government benefits even if you are qualified/entitled to them bc of disability. I had a brain tumor and I lost my job bc I was constantly at the doctor or sick. I had to get a lawyer and go to court to get my benefits and it took 2 years. Trust me, very few people are getting benefits just for the heck of it. I would do anything to be able to work. I don't get enough money to survive on my own. There is a MAJOR misconception that those getting government benefits are lazy and I hate it.
The government benefits also keep people in low income / poverty levels forever and it’s sad that some people think it’s living the high life
@@beccac6812 Not true at all. My government payments don't even cover my medical bills. I'm dependent on my family to not be in the streets and get basic medical care. No one wants to stay on benefits and it is certainly not living "the high life". Please educate yourself.
It definitely varies between states. I work in government benefits in Colorado and I can tell you that there is a huge population of people who absolutely are lazy and are able to stay on government benefits by getting around the system for years. People know how to work the system and stay on government benefits for life.
I was disabled, applied, and waited TWO YEARS to get a hearing with a judge. I was living off of my husband one tiny income during that time and barely survived. Assuming people are lazy is just a common misconception of debilitating mental illness.
i was VERY disappointed by him making that comment. it felt so unnecessary for what they were talking about!
Abby you make me feel so seen. I’m not pregnant but I’m such a sensitive and emotional person. Thank you for your vulnerability and showing your raw emotions. It feels good to know I’m not alone.
You better keep singing off key to Griffin. You are his Momma and how ever you sing, it is special and loving.
So true❤
LOVED this! Please do more of this one-on-one style. Matt is a natural interviewer!
When Matt started listing why Abby is cool, it melted my heart!!!! ❤️❤️
The episodes with the two of you are truly the best, y’all are such an inspiration for young couples!
I really loved seeing Abby in this light. Thank you for being so vulnerable and honest!
When Abby was talking about empathy it reminded me someone said that we used to say “it takes a village” but now villages are rare because of stress and other factors and I think it’s so true. Community is so helpful but so many of us don’t have it
This was a fun episode! You guys should do another one of these with Abby interviewing Matt the whole time! 🥰
I would like to see that
My kids are grown and out of the nest. Looking back, being a stay at home mom is something that I'll always cherish. Its not what I planned on doing but pouring my life and all I had into raising them, being a wife and taking care of our home was the best decision I ever made.
I feel like Abby is so tired of social media. I would not be surprised if Matt&Abby the UA-cam channel comes to an end by the end of this year. I feel like Matt would go on to have his personal channel.
They can still have Matt and abby channel but more Matt content
It’s hard to turn away a job where you can get paid to stay home and talk. Going from the freedom of WFH and setting your own hours is so very different from working full time for someone else.
I think she's just pregnant and exhausted. . But for sure he's the one filming mostly I think she's just along for the ride these days. Maybe things will change back where she's more actively pursuing after baby's born
She’d be back very fast. Matt on his own has fans and connections but nowhere near Abby or Matt&Abby as a team. It would be a HUGE change in their income and they can’t afford to lose that income. They have no prior work history except their last college job so reentering the workforce would not only be exhausting but very hard on them. Abby can complain all she wants but she loves the money and freedom it gives her to do whatever she wants in life while most don’t have that privilege.
@@kaylavarela7215 i dont think so. Matt is more fame hungry
You two do an amazing job. I am sure you are helping a lot of young couples more than one can imagine.
Yessss! More empathy pah-leeeeeeze
Love Abby’s love for her family and Matt is such a sweet encourager! We love to see these heartfelt convos between y’all!
You two have such a beautiful relationship and family. I absolutely love the way that you two communicate with one another. It’s so healthy and refreshing. Thank you for sharing parts of your life with us. It’s truly so beautiful and inspiring to see. 💛
I love this so much, we need a Matt Howard interview!!
Abby talking about the need and pain of wanting to have kids hit home so hard for me. I'm 22 going on 23 and about to get married in August. And over the past 6 months I have the strongest urge to have babies to the point where i am almost jealous of other parents. I dont know if its biological or just because i want to be a mom someday. But knowing that someone else felt that way makes me feel so much better about it
Same 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
i have a similar feeling with my long term partner. unfortunately we’ve now separated and my heart is crushed.. both from the break up and from knowing the desire for children will be several years away
@@twocathome399I'm so sorry about your break up. In my case I have to wait as I'm student teaching in the spring and can't afford to miss any days due to pregnancy. I hate choosing my career over family but I know it will be a better choice long term
Matt, the fact that you sing "you are my sunshine" to griffin every night.... 😭 Literally brings tears to my eyes. My momma used to sing that song to me every night. And sometimes on the weekends to wake me up, she'd sing it to me. 🥹❤️
This was the best episode ever. Y'all are so good together and hilarious. I feel like I'm sitting here talking with my friends. ❤
I love that you are telling people that it’s OK to have dreams that aren’t “lofty” as you said. Don’t get me wrong, it’s GREAT if you do! But it’s also GREAT if you don’t!
Growing up all I wanted was to be a mom. I didn’t have career dreams and I felt so lost in my teen years bc I felt so pressured to have big career dreams. Now I’m a stay at home mom to 2 little babes and I finally feel like I am living my dream.
Such an authentic and deep conversation! Thanks so much for sharing. It was an honor to listen to it.
I’m 40 years old and I adore listening to you both. It’s exciting to see.
This was so sweet, I love how kind and genuine you both are. Gives hope that there's still good in the world.
You guys are the best and most accurate representation of what true love looks like. It’s so comforting to see in this day in age how you talk, treat, and even simply just look at each other. Truly the most genuine couple i’ve ever come across. Although you may not see it you are making such a difference in todays relationships. I thrive to find love in someone like matt and abby have for each other.
Love listening to you guys while I go out for a stroll with my daughter. Isn’t that crazy that I’m listening you from Russia, not even Moscow, but a small city) keep on doing what you love, Abby is so sweet soul
I love this video it was so genuine! Matt’s interview skills shine with Abby😊
I actually just listen to you guys when I cook and clean without even watching alot of times! I just love listening. ❤️
Loved this!! 😊 It would also be cool to do a reverse episode where Abby interviews Matt.
I'm up every single night at 3am just to watch you guys. You both rock!!😊
I’m 35 wks pregnant and I’m constantly in tears too Abby. You know it’s actually really beautiful that we are this way, we truely FEEL while we’re pregnant and it helps us to care, love and appreciate more ❤
I can tell that Matt is a great man. As soon as he realized that Abby was stressed he immediately asked her what he could do to help, Abby you have a great man ❤
Yet he continued to film even though she said in the beginning that she didn't want to? He needs a watch to believe his wife is stressed? I wouldn't be singing his praises because he superficially asked her what he can do.. anyone can ask. Stepping in when your partner is expressing something to you is more helpful than actually the added stress of having to tell someone how to help you.
When she said she doesn't want to answer deep questions today and he knows she's been stressed recently, the most admirable thing to do would be to turn the camera off and tell her they can do the podcast another day
@@josiebrown8581 obviously if she really didn’t want to do it she would have stepped in and told him that she’s not doing the podcast
@LL-yl6jk not necessarily obvious. Some people are naturally more submissive and less outspoken - not necessarily a bad thing, it's actually biblical. Besides, you don't know what she said off camera, neither do I! I'm just saying that you can't really tell who people are based on the produced content that they select to expose to you.. all the best!
@@josiebrown8581 that’s true God bless
And didn’t listen to a word she was saying 😂
We love Abby Howard. ❤️ Truly such an inspiration for a women, mother and wife. I love how real you are. I always know I’m gonna get the real vulnerable side of you that talks truth. It’s obvious how relatable you are.
I am a 66 year old woman who just enjoys your podcast. I love hearing about your family, it’s makes me think of all the important things in life. God Bless you Abby and Matt. ❤❤❤❤
I totally get it Abby. Simply it’s lovely to just “be”. To pause and take it all in. The simple things. A quiet cup of tea and a ponder! Brushing your baby’s soft hair. Little things. I’m 4 months post partum after my second and I still feel the same. X
I loved this episode! When it’s just you two, it’s always so sweet and fun!
You both are so sweet and genuine. To have goals for your family and being a mom is refreshing in a world that pushes women to abandon the idea of family and a society that isn’t really valuing family and parenthood. Keep being true to yourselves and sharing great wholesome real content. Love you guys!
This felt like watching a therapy session. I’ve always had the feeling Abby wasn’t into this lifestyle but Matt kept it pushing because he enjoys it/it pays well/fills his need for attention. Matt, I hope you genuinely hear Abby otherwise I feel like there may end up being a-lot of resentment down the line.
Yess🙏
I did not get the same impression.
@@Amanda-ws5ty oh she’s hinted at it many times. And flat out says it.
@@Madison-sn4ih yeah, I just don't interpret it that way at all.
what's up dudes!!!!! another awesome hour with the Howards!!! Seriously guys, keep up the great work.
Love love love ❤ my favorite podcast ! Abby is such authentic and we love that. Cannot wait for the next episode 😊
I admit I’ve only watched the first 8 minutes so far but I just love Abby’s honesty and realness. It’s just so refreshing in todays world where so many people are fake and pretend that their lives are perfect when they aren’t. And I also agree that very few people love everything about their occupation. I’m 60 and have an adult nephew who constantly finds some negative aspects of every job he gets, and he keeps on quitting. And I keep on telling him that rarely is any job perfect. And if it is, things will change. So thx for keeping it real. I’m a big fan! ❤️
You guys are litteral gems
I love you guys and so glad that you are doing something good!!
Abby! Thank you for being such a genuine kind human on the internet that we get to listen to and learn from. Especially loved hearing all your stories from when you were acting as a child.
Matt! Thank you for also being such a kind human and great interviewer in this episode always making sure your wife feels seen and okay.
Matt & Abby! Thanks for being such a great duo. We love you!
Abby you are such a sweet soul. The world needs more people just like you! ❤
STAR STAR STAR STAR STAR.....this is by far my favorite episode of your podcasts so far
I read out loud to my kids for an hour (or two, if the story gets exciting 😆) every night! I tell everybody I would love to be a narrator (for kids chapter books) for a living. You should look into that, Abby! You guys already have great equipment for it!
I just love how genuine and authentic you guys are, it goes to show how you're okay with being yourself, not having to follow society's expectations. And Matt is such a natural and inquisitive interviewer - loving to dive deeper into Abby while being emotionally sensitive, and all this would strengthen your relationships so much more!!! Love you guys!!!! ❤❤❤
Honestly Abby trust yourself and what you believe in. If UA-cam isn’t for you Matt you need to respect that.
Your life and your happiness is worth far more than being unhappy or resentful feelings coming in the future.
This is so wholesome it’s awesome! Much love and respect for the two of you! I always laugh, cry and just really feel apart of y’all’s life, thank you🤍
This is the best podcast/video yet! I loved it and Abby you are a gem
Gleaked?! 🤣 That's a new one for me. I love getting to just sit in on your conversation and feel like we're all hanging out! Thank you for being yourselves and sharing that with us!
The intro even was so sweet. Love you both!!!
I relate to Abby so much. I don’t have kids but those are the kinds of visions I have for my future too. The vision of watching my future kids learn and explore the world and how excited they are for everything.
Matt you and Abby are doing a good job with all this. Keeping it Rollin. 💯
I love this! I would love it if yall kept making videos like this! I feel like people love Q&As b/c it's such a deeper connection. Matt, you are doing great with laying off on saying frick...great job dude!
I feel the same way about my work Abby. I love that you are so open with us. You guys are great.
I would love to see you guys open up more about your faith. I know from your bio’s and old content you guys are believers, so would love to have a glimpse into that part of your hearts ❤
I don’t normally review or leave comments, but I really feel compelled to share this. Your podcast is one of the few I can listen to in any context, without mental preparation or needing to focus. I am a kindergarten teacher and come home from school with limited mental capacity, needing to listen to grown ups for my own sanity some days, but not being required to contribute to a conversation. Listening to you guys is like listening to friends. My husband and I are on a similar journey in that we got married when we were 20, finished school and started our adult life together after being high school sweethearts. Through university we were in different provinces, 6 hours away from each other. This episode made me feel so seen, just hearing that another couple got married after years of dating, long distance and hard work, all before the worldly expectation/timeline. We just celebrated our first wedding anniversary together and I loved hearing Abby speak of the romantic simplicity of the “church mouse” stage, as my mom calls it, and how you work and grow together as individuals and within the oneness of your marriage. I cannot stand the over produced, rehearsed and planned part of content production, it drives me mad. Your podcast is so far from that- it’s intentional and genuine. Keep doing what you’re doing, and God’s blessings to your family! ❤️
You guys are so awesome! I love listening to your podcast while driving and folding laundry😂
Abby I'm also pregnant with my second and I literally cry at every serious question. Just because you cry doesn't mean you have prenatal depression 😂 it could just mean you are having a happy healthy pregnancy! I love you guys. I look forward to every Wednesday to hangout with my "friends" Matt and Abby ❤❤
Love this episode! You guys are so authentic and I love how real you are. Best content! Thanks for another great episode:)
I love this episode! Your all’s podcast is amazing and so real. I love you guys ❤️
Can not wait for the Tay L interviews 🙌.
This was so sweet. I totally am just as emotional so i get it.
I just have so much respect for your marriage and how y’all talk to each other it.
This was awesome! We definitely need one on Matt as well!
Love y’all’s UA-cam videos and the podcast❤️I’m old enough to be y’all’s grandma and really enjoy your perspective on things.
Love love love your podcast! The only one I look forward too ❤
This just shows how genuine and authentic Abby really is! I absolutely love this! Abby needs to interview Matt now lol
Love u guys. So down to earth and real. Thanks for sharing
I cry all the time normally at happy and sad things.. I call it leaky eyes and just own it.. being pregnant definitely heightened that for me
I just love y’all so much!!!❤❤❤ Abby is so freakin. ‘ cute and sweet and Matt just tries to help her so much. It’s great to see!!
I love hearing y’all talk about your time in Springfield. I started watching when y’all when you were in your first apartment together! I finally made the move to Springfield last June and hearing about all of the places you went to in college and worked at is cool to actually know where these places are! I’m getting married next week and watching your marriage grow has been super inspiring and encouraging! Thank you!!!
Abby you are so strong!!! Bless you and Matt and your little boys!! This is going to be such an amazing season for you all!!🙏🏻😍🥰❤️