My sister adopted a little girl who she met while teaching. She learned that the little girl's history was horrific. She had been removed from her mentally disabled mother after the mother had tried to throw the child from the roof of a 12 story hotel. During the next 3 years this little girl had been in 17 different foster homes and been returned from several. After everything was investigated it came to light that she had been intimately abused in 6 or the foster homes and had been forced to participate in illegal child movies. The former foster parents are now serving various prison sentances and my adopted niece is now grown, but it took over 10 years of mental health treatment for her to even begin to hope for a normal life. At the time my sister adopted her my niece was not even 9 years old yet.
In one case in my state there had been several reports that a 10 year old girl had been abused. Child Protection Services had visited the home and found that the mother had substance abuse problems but left the girl there. Around a year later a neighbor called the police to report a bunch of loud screaming coming from the apartment. When the police got there they found the 10 year old girl dead in the bath tub and the mother and her boyfriend no where to be found. The investigation and autopsy found that the girl had multiple stds and scarring from repeated abuse. The mother had been training the daughter to various men and drug dealers for drugs. There were several instances where the mother actually held this girl down so that the boyfriend and other men could have their way with the child. At the end of the case the mother was sentenced to life in prison with no parole and boyfriend was sentenced to death. There were a dozen other people who were sentenced to prison terms ranging from 10 years to 50 years.
Yeah, and it's extra risky when you let addicts keep theire child. They will do litterally anything for drug money so selling their kids is just another thing they do. And then fostercare is full of pedos too. They need a real safe place for these kids as there is a huge chance fosterkids have kids in fostercare too.
Man, ones like this are so conflicting. It is so sad and horrible that the child was killed and CPS' absolute negligence in doing their whole goddamn purpose, but also the court system usually lets people like this off and it is always a win when the perpetrators actually get what's coming to them.
CPS do have a lot of problems, and their workers let a lot of kids (and their families) down. But they are dealing with government bureaucracy, budget restraints and sometimes don’t have access to the full picture. Generational trauma has a lot of input into how these families function, so sometimes the parents don’t see the abuse for what it is. It’s heartbreaking to know that some children are being failed in every corner of their life. I have had my great niece in my care for 4 months. She is only 5 so I’m hoping that we can help break the generational trauma so that she can grow up to live a happy and fulfilled life into her adult years.
I think the mom that called for herself did the best she was able to do at the time. Obviously her best was not sufficient for those children, and she should have reached out for help sooner. But I'm glad that she did reach out before it was too late for any of them to get help. She recognized her own limitations and put her kids in the hands of people who had the ability to do what she couldn't. She's not a good mom, but she's at least a decent human being.
So. Family friend was a social worker. Here are some cases that made her quit: -Deaf couple was upset that their kid wasn't born deaf. So the dad attempted to deafen the kid with noisemakers and air horns, smacked the kid whenever he tried to speak with his mouth, and the mom allowed this to happen. She somehow managed to get away with a lesser sentence. The house was apparently a death trap since fire alarms were constantly going off with the "Replace battery" noise. -Kid got his brother to punch him in the face, said "Dad did it", and wasted CPS's time. I actually was younger when this happen but I overheard her absolutely ranting about how pissed she was that this wasted their time when they had so many other cases that they "didn't have the resources to investigate now". -Homeschooled kid who was kicked out at age 10 for "Disrespecting his parents". (Ie, standing up to them) The parents claimed he never existed, literally threw out his bed or any property, had no pictures of him (suggesting this was going on for awhile...) and kept on denying. The kids wouldn't speak. -Kids who were SA'd by priests. -Tiger parents who kicked a 15 year old out for getting a 3.9 GPA. -Kid got knocked down by a goat and hit their head on the fence, causing CPS to waste time with an investigation for a literal freak accident. (Well, apparently when they investigated the farm the kid lived at, they found some things that needed updating and the parents happily did it) -Multiple cases where the abusive one isn't mom or dad, or grandma or grandpa, or anyone in the extended family... but the sibling. Multiple parents had to separate because they needed to stay in different building(s) or else one or both of their kids would try to kill each other. It's amazing how many times the parents let it go so far before admitting there was a problem - Kid has a knife and baseball bat in their room because their older sibling tried to smother them to death multiple times? Parents think it's just "Quirky". Kid has ligature marks from their younger sibling trying to strangle them? It was "an accident" and they were "just playing". -Multiple cases of kids who had injuries and had O.I.
Regarding the second story: That call might not have been a waste of time. A kid doesn’t act that way for no reason. He was definitely acting out. Which means that he needs help. If his parents aren’t the cause, then there’s something else at work.
@@maatnofret1234 He had munchausen's syndrome I bet. The social worker was so pissed at this instance because there were other cases that were slipping through the cracks.
@@Terestrasz Understood. I’m sure it was frustrating to spend so much time on what, on some level, turned out to be a false alarm. If a kid has Munchausen’s, there is trauma there, and he does need help. The idea that this is the best way to get kindness and attention-he got that from somewhere. A normal, happy, mentally healthy child would not be acting out that way.
Thank you for covering stories like these (including your other recent videos concerning CPS and the foster care system). It's a very painful subject, but people need to understand just how common child abuse/neglect is, how normal (and even respected) the parents can seem when out in general society, how normal this can all seem for a child when they have no other frame of reference, and how the supposedly caring people that would be horrified to hear of a young child's abuse can be completely dismissive towards a victim in their teens. It sucks to hear/read (although far more to *experience*), but nothing can change without awareness.
i appreciate these videos.. as a former foster child, i suffered a lot of this and usually when it is talked about with professionals it barely scratches the surface of what really goes on. as much as it pains me to know it is still just as bad it is good that it's being talked about..
I really hate it when people can't understand that my bio-mom is a terrible mother because "she's so nice". She is nice, sure. She's also the single most incompetent person I have ever met, and I've worked in politics! She didn't beat or sexually assaulted me like in these stories from the video. What she did was constantly forget to feed my sibling and myself so we were always skin and bones until we were taken to more functioning families. The house was a mess that is considered a hazard zone, with someone getting cut on broken glass or stepping on something sharp being a weekly occurrence. Neglectful parents are perhaps not as bad as those who rape their children, but they are pretty damn bad too.
Neglect can be just as harmful and dangerous. Maybe it isn’t as bad as being physically abused and SA, but the insecurity it creates is unhealthy and the danger is very real. Children die from harm by omission. Not feeding a child or even the dangers of being unsupervised or in an unsafe environment can result in death. No one should be diminishing you and your siblings experiences.
I wouldn't really call what my mom did to me and my brother "abuse," but a lot of people meet her and think she's super nice. On the surface, she really is, but she has major, major priority issues, and there's something mentally disconnected in there somewhere. When we were really little, she basically did nothing but work all day every day and ignore us, and then a few years down the line she got WAY into religion, church four times a week, forcing us to go to sunday school, destroyed things we had/we liked because they were "distracting" us from church and god, etc. Mom, I was 7 and saved up money from mowing lawns to buy a keyboard at a yard sale, you didn't have to cut the cord off and throw it away in front of my face because I didn't want to spend half of my sunday at church When my parents divorced (After I graduated high school), it came out that during the recession in 2008, my dad was skipping meals every day so that we could afford for me and my brother to eat, only to find out that my mom was donating $500 to the church every week. I've certainly voiced my distaste for her numerous times, but she still asks why I don't call more often. I wonder if she will ever figure it out.
Thanks, UnderSparked. Not only for shedding light on this theme but also for treating it with the respect the kids deserve. To me, story 11 hits a nerve. I have never linked drug trafficking to child abuse problems, but it does fit. My father was a doctor, and this story reminded me of something he said. "People don't start on drug selling because they like destroying othr people's life for profit, they do it because they have no other option." "Give them help, shelter, food, quality education to their kids, and see how many stay in this path, there will always be some, but most won't be". I don't miss him, he was a horrible human being in several regards, but I do respect his opinions on this.
Not a CPS worker, but ... I was one of the kids in these stories. For the record, I was eight and I was so traumatized I blacked everything out for about a five year span of time. That's the best explanation I have for the complete lack of memories after my mom took me and before my dad came and got me. Before that, living with grandma, I can remember conversations I had with my grandpa when I was only two years old. We suspect all sorts of things - physical, emotional, maybe even sexual abuse, but I can no longer substantiate any of those claims because it's been twenty years and I've forgotten almost all of it. I have all of two memories from that time I'm confident actually happened, the rest is a blur. What I do know is that my mother accused eight year old me of trying to manipulate them so I could see my father more. I remember telling the counselor lady at school that bad things were happening at home, I remember the drive as we left. I've heard accounts from my grandmothers, from my mother, and from my father, but I don't actually know what happened. All I know is that deep down I hated my stepfather with a blazing passion that no small child should feel and I was terrified of men aside from my father for a long, long time. Sometimes I remember fragments of whatever happened in that trailer while I sleep and I wake up disorientated and afraid. That's enough to tell me I don't want to remember everything.
I've got similar amnesia from ages 11-15. I went through some brutal shit during that time (medical abůse). Turns out it's a PTSD symptom. You might look it the condition if you haven't yet. 💖
@@SewardWriter Oh, we're fairly sure it's PTSD. At this point I'm well-adjusted and living a pretty decent life, but we had me in therapy for a long time, from when I was about 11 or 12 to when I was 25 or so. It's been a long journey to get here, but every day I'm thankful I had a father who loved me enough to get me out of there.
it must be relieving in some way that your brain has blocked these parts of your life out. I’m sure there’s a part of it that’d bring closure, but I can only imagine living blissfully ignorant would be better than knowing the whole truth. either way, I’m very sorry you ever had to go through any of this and I hope your life has become much easier and peaceful
I used to always be scared of turning into a crap mom but when I hear these my heart knows I could never put my flesh and blood through this of even a child period I pray for a brighter future where kids can live without having to face these twisted issues
In Texas filing a false report (whether it be police or cps) is a state felony (3rd degree felony for second offense) and can lead to jail time if proven you knowingly made false reports. But the punishment is usually pretty minor and sadly many times it just brushed off or not enforced past a verbal warning. But sadly this does not stop many so they keep doing it and waste necessary resources needed for other cases in the process.
I’m a cys (it’s what CPS is really called, depending on your county and state) and, unfortunately, there can’t be a way due to the reports being “anonymous”. We are not allowed to tell the family who made the report and, most the time, we don’t even know ourselves. It can make our job hard and annoying. I apologize a lot of families when I have to show up…especially when I’m on-call. (I hate on-call…)
I watched this straight after the therapists taking a minute video, where he also said to maybe take a minute as the viewer. I think after watching these both back to back, I definitely need to watch something a bit less heavy. Also before that I watched the most interesting cases by psychiatrists one. And it's almost my bedtime now...
How is it possible that in cases when CPS discovers that a parent is raping and beating a child, they later return the child to that parent? What justifiable reason exists for that? This is ridiculous. And the media wonders why there are so many murderers and sadists out there. Imagine being an abused child and growing up with no authority helping you; you can't have respect for humans if you grew up like that ...
Part of the illusion of the American dream. Laws are illusions. So a ground of pedos themselves most of the time can claim looks ee its illegal and hid the abuse for what ever adgenda is going on or who knows who. It's about the ap
The worst of it all is that for every case that eventually gets some kind of intervention, there are so many more who stay in the dark. Its terribly depressing. The horrors what parents or more cn do to those poor children is beyond words. And yes, the amount of generational trauma. You are absolutely right that the people working in this field to help are absolute superheroes. I can't even imagine processing so much horror and at the same time have your hands tied so much. People like them are part of the reason why their might still be some hope concerning humanity. I grew up in a toxic family sytem and have sevrious mental health issues, but compared to these cases, it was tame. I can't even fathom how much these victims will suffer from the scars these traumata left on their mental health. Words can't describe how unfair the system is. And I'm from central Europe, I think we may be doing slightly better than the US foster care system.
I'm not a cps worker, but I was in the system. It took me three years, and running away from home twice, then going to court to get me out of there, and then there were forced visitations. I'm glad now there are programs to get children to talk about bulling at school, it just wasn't a thing in my time, but they really need to start having programs for kids to talk about bulling at home. It would help so many more of them. 😢
My mom grew up in the foster system. She suffered a lot of abuse and neglect but is considered one of the lucky ones. Ended up having me at 16 yrs old.
This isn’t a topic for entertainment, friend,, it’s a serious look into what some kids endure on a daily basis. Hopefully, it’ll teach folks not to judge those babies too harshly. Speaking as a former kid in an effed up situation, pro need to know these things exist. Children are usually made voiceless, or not believed or passed off as not their problem. So thanks for reading this.
Having lived in Wisconsin for nearly 40 years, I'm amazed those girls survived. It's common to have temperatures in the negatives, and they can last as long as a week.
I made an online friend some years ago. After getting to know her for a few months and chatting daily, she revealed to me that both her kids were being taken away from her and she was losing custody of them all together. When I ask why, she said "because the neighbors hate me. So they called CPS and made up some story about me that made them take the kids. They said I live in awful unsanitary and filthy conditions that isn't healthy for children. They took my kids for no reason. I shoukd sue the city for this." Ok. That didn't make sense to me. If CPS came to take the kids, they must have looked through the house. If their house was fine, then no need to take action. But if what the neighbor said was true, then they'd take the kids. So I ask her, "is your house a mess?" And she said "are you blaming me now too?" And she got really defensive. Well, long story short, she made a deal with CPS. Clean up her house, repaint, fix water damage and other maintenence. She got what she said "real beds this time." She also added she had to "learn how to cook better". All evidence that tells me neighbor wasn't lying and CPS didn't take kids for no reason. She got her kids back for a few months but ended up having them taken away again but this time she's not getting them back. I wish for the best for her because she's clearly battling some kind of mental health.
I love these type of videos please keep making more I know that sounds weird but it makes me so happy that there are people out there (the cps workers) that help these children so they can hopefully get better
My stepdad would have been a candidate for being taken into foster care if it hadn’t been the 1940’s-50’s. His asshole father tied him to rafters to take his rage out on him, which eventually left him with severe head trauma and learning disabilities. His neurologists thought the trauma was a huge contributor to his early onset dementia. This prize example of “humanity” (stepdad’s father, for reference), also had multiple affairs, didn’t care that his wife knew, and spent his life flashing his badge (firefighter) to get out of trouble. He also refused to pay for the equipment needed when his wife got severe cancer and was horribly abusive during the last months of her life. I only knew about the way he treated my (step)grandma when I was younger (and they lived in another state, so we couldn’t regularly intervene), and it made me realize he was a horrible person, but finding out from my stepdad’s aunt about the abuse he suffered as his father’s punching bag made me understand that he wasn’t just a bad person, but one of those full on monsters I had only just heard of on the news or in shows based on court cases(we all know the theme music). I don’t, strictly speaking, believe in the concept of Hell, but I hope every day that, in death, he is suffering some measure of the pain and damage he caused his family, and that my poor stepdad, who tried so hard to be kind, but was…troubled (emotionally and financially abusive) throughout his life. Now that I know what I do about trauma, I can understand why my stepdad was a difficult person to live with, and it really pisses me off that his evil father was able to skirt under the radar (he even manipulated stepdad as an adult, leading to his first divorce), causing pain to not only his wife and children (though stepdad’s brother seems to have been more of the favored child) , but also to stepdad’s ex, my step siblings, my mom and I. I never thought I would have encountered an evil person in my own life, but here we are. I can’t even begin to imagine the depths of horror that people in similar cases have experienced. Ugh.
I hugged my baby so tight after this. Kids drive u crazy but other than raise my voice and time out, I couldn't imagine them going through any of this.... praying for those kids..
I was a custodian for CPS let the things the staff gone through really hurt my heart but this one moment I was told sticks with me During the peak of the pandemic in 2020 I worked as a custodian for CPS hearing my state of New Jersey. I was asked to clean cars, wiped down the visiting room and prep the same room for of course visitation which are monitored by a caseworker. So one day I was just saying they're talking with the security guard. It was a slow day. Really nothing to do since no one was in the office. Just like maybe three or four people. So during the day I was approached and escorted to one of the cars to clean it. I asked what's going on and they said that was a code red and they needed a car prepped and ready to go immediately. I rushed out, wiped out a car, during the time I saw two New Jersey state troopers lined up outside. I was like what the hell is going on? As soon as they left they told me to prep the visitation room as well because they may need to have the child in there. So I went to work, spray down the room, wipe down the chairs did everything. Then I was told they were rerooted to the hospital and I was told the kid was exposed to commercial grade bleach. My heart sunk I never believed that somebody will do this to their child. I almost flew up in the bathroom. To the hard working CPS staff you are heros during the pandemic You took children out dangerous situations and made sure they were safe. I don't care what people say. You did the biggest thing for children out there and I say thank you for it
I am a cps kid. Stuff with my dad. If any of you want to go into this work, know that the kids may be grateful, but they may be mad. Your strength means everything. Kindness goes so very far when you haven't had much to start with.
Survivor of Childhood Exploitation by my Drug Addicted parents, here. I was Four. This vid actually helped me better understand just how our family slipped through the cracks. I never got rescued. Left home at 17. Now on NC with all of them cuz I loathe those that participated or enabled and those that did nothing I consider nearly as bad. NC with Fam was the only reason I've healed enough to type a comprehensible sentence. I'm stunned at how badly my generation was hobbled by abuses like these. :(((
I’ve heard that somewhere in the world, you require a parenting licence in order to be allowed to have kids. I think that should be a thing everywhere in the world..
this along with legal abortions, contraception & birth control, as well as a better funded foster care system would be an absolute must in avoiding people who shouldn’t have kids having kids.
This video has actually made me consider working for CPS in some regard. I dont think I'd enjoy the job (as if it's possible to enjoy it), but i believe its important, and i think ive heard enough and seen enough, that whats left out there cant mentally ruin me.
my son was taken from me when he was 6yrs old. my cps worker told me to cut down on the time my son spent with his grandmother. she wasnt ever alone with him. she was abusive to me all my life. she got mad when i did what i was asked to do. in return his grandmother, my mother called and told a bunch of lies. they took my son away. i got him back in my life when he turned 18. and have had him in my life ever since. but it severely pissed me off to lose my son because of my mother. i cried when she died in my arms in the hospital. but i felt so much better after she died. a relief. like i said she abused me. i was raped at 5yr old and molested at 11yr old. my mother made them both happen. she is the common person literally present both times. took a shit ton therapy. i dont trust the system at all anymore.
my siblings are twins. the girl asked us to stop telling everyone that they were twins because she didn’t want anyone to know we thought it was a phase but then it went on for a couple of years eventually she finally told us that it was because she didn’t want anyone to know that her twin had been held back a grade because she knew he was smart but other ppl would probably think he’s dumb my. heart. melted.
Thanks for this video....its shocking how evil and heartless humans can be.....those poor children.... I wish them all healing and a beautiful and happy life ❤️
my brother was in foster care and abused a lot. Foster parents took him from the only doctor who knew about the really rare heart condition he shared with his twin. all because they didn't want to run into my mom and his twin. my mom knew of the abuse and CPS did nothing no matter how much she begged and provided evidence. when he turned 18 we finally got him back. He was mentally stunted and a whole 4 inches shorter than his identical twin. Unfortunately, he passed not even a year later due to a brain anuresim.
Honestly nothing suprises me anymore. I had loving parents. I was raped at age 8. I am 26. I was forced to eat my own puke. I come from a loving family. I canimagine the horrors in an abusive home. Edit: "i qm honestly suprised by ths stuff kids would reveal that is honestly just their life" yeah. Realizing not everyone had dreams ow men chasing and doing horrible things to.them, realising other kids didnt instinctualy panic with a simple hand on your shoulder. Realizing other kids were afraid of beign scolded and fidnt experience some kind of primal fear every so often was a shock. Edit: thano you for covering these stories, could you cover these stories from the perspective of tje survivors sometime. I would be able to provide my own story for this.
These stories are horrific, to think people treat children like that. Its also maddening as there are people out there that can't have children and would make great parents but can't, its so unfair
I seen this video in my recommended. I'm like i can handle. I hate that these things happens to kids. Kids should be able to be kids and this just breaks my heart hearing and now I'm sobbing cuz i wish these things just didn't occur
I heard this from a social worker during college. I don't remember much of what the kid's life was like before this incident but here it is. The dad took his kid's to the woods with their dog. The dad then broke the dog's back by stomping on it. Then he handed the kid a plastic bag and said "you're not gonna let him suffer are you?" And left the woods, forcing the kid to suffocate his own dog to put him out of his misery. I think the kid was about 10 when this happened.
20:34 honestly this part makes me sad. If with DID they mean Dissociative Identity Disorder, and it's why the state found the person unable to be a parent, it breaks my heart. DID people can be good parents if they have gone through theraphy to resolve their trauma. I just... man.
That baby who got quickly attached to that social worker reminds me (I worked in foster care) of the four year old who they had to pry from being wrapped around me and as they were carrying her down the hall she cried and reached out her arms toward me. We’d just met that afternoon. All we did was chit chat in an adult-taking-with-4-yr-old way and I held her a bit but she still clung to me like a koala and my heart re-breaks a bit whenever I remember this, but the happy ending is she was returned home with services in the long run.
This makes it feel a little more human than just a robot voice reading out the stories. It’s just so mind blowing of why a lot of these “people” do to the children and be fine with it…
I've heard the full version of the first story here on youtube, and it's so sad. I've heard/read a lot of horrendous stories about human scum, but that story.. A piece of me died the day I heard it, I think it hit me even harder because I was the same age as the girl in the story. I think about them sometimes. Wherever she (and probably her son which was the reason a person called cps in the first place) is, I truly hope that they're ok.
4:23 i knew a 16-year old in this exact situation. we were in a depression/anxiety group home together. she had also been abus3d by her dad. it’s absolutely disgusting what some people do.
"Eventually she was taken out of the house and put into a foster home, where she was forced to take part in an explicit club. Honestly I don't know how that never became a public scandal." Oh yes you do. You know exactly how.
This made me gain a little respect for cps. After they had been called by my mom on my bio dad, they blamed her and but me back with my abusive bio dad. I’ve lived with him for 9 years, hopefully not longer and it is hell. They were called by my therapist because I didn’t feel safe. I was regularly gaslight, and felt insane. What made it worse was when I started living with him he would beat me up, hold me down in a se*xual position and choke me out and I couldnt tell anyone. The cops and cps did nothing because it was years ago, they even let it slide that recently,when I would change he would crack my door and watch.
It doesn't matter how much money is thrown at attempting to rehab people, if they are not ready to be rehabbed. I've seen junkies go through ten or more programs with flying colors, only to get out and go straight back to their drug of choice. More often than not, they've only gone into treatment to avoid jail time. It's the easier sentence. So, not being offered the help they need is not the problem. Abusing the offered help, and the resources that come with that, is just something else putting a drain on the system. If the system ever gets overhauled, there should be a two strikes rule. If your kids are removed twice, for whatever reason, reunification should not be attempted again. Your children should be allowed to be sent to a family to be adopted. That's another issue with the system. Everyone believes all the children in foster care are up for adoption, when the truth is most are not. They are there temporarily. Just long enough to get a small taste of normalcy before they are thrown back to the wolves they were born to, to become even more messed up.
I appreciate this video...its important to hear the stories of abused children....its beyond heartbreaking and soul crushing ..I can't believe that God gives children to these worthless abusive monsters....they should never have aby kids ..not even pets....to hurt, abuse,molest...a child should be taken seriously and the persons responsible... should get the maximum....at least..
27:45 I like the addition of "if you're in the space to take in this information". It's great to get this stuff out there, but if you don't want to hear or engage with it, I think that decision should be respected. Also, I've never heard of actors being used for practice interviews for CPS and cops. That's really interesting!
I think there's a lot of value in telling the stories that you are telling especially when people say the wrong things and they're like oh I wish I didn't say that cuz I been on a binge session with your stories tonight and I've done the CPS workers the EMS workers the silly doctors after coming out of anesthetic you are covering the board and I think you're doing a wonderful job because you're showing the dark the light and the in between and so many people just want to smash on the CPS workers and it's not always like that but also I'm not saying on the other side of that same❤ it just seems like they are hopping from one bad family to another it's sad because I would love to adopt and it's over $60,000 when there are little angels already running around getting adopted and placed into these horrible places it's just sick😢
I would strongly encourage people to consider if they can become foster parents or provide help to families that are fostering. It's a lot of hard work and there are nightmares involved, but good foster parents help keep kids out of bad homes. I know grandparents, aunts, uncles, and neighbors who saved kids because they petitioned for emergency custody when they saw children being abused and neglected. You may have the chance to step up that way too if you recognize that a kid you love needs help.
I think it is impirtant The kids that do survive Grow up And too many people have been sheltered from our life stories And we get excluded and outcasted And I think sharing these things are really good for people to realize That these children do survive and they do grow up and they walk amongst you
Why did story 14 remind me of Gabriel Fernandez? I have mad respect for cps workers who have to witness and listen to every case and actually do their jobs. Ive heard many who just brush cases under the rug, like the boy mentioned above. My cousin works for a Domestic Violence centre for women and her SIL works with cps and often removes children, they never disclosed anything but they did say you needed a strong stomach and resistence from knocking the abusers out yourself.
i am a person who wants to help thoose kids but my academic record isnt good enough to work in this field. also i am way to unstable to bear with that crap. but even i can look out for signs of abuse. since i am a grown menchild myself and i live alone i really hav3e fun playing with ne neighbors kids. it helps to brighten my mood but in the same time i knew a lot of them that good that i can tell if something is of. like they have a bad day or gotten bad grades. it goes as far that a few of them come to me for help if they messed up or have problems with something (mostly mostly english or reading writing related or they need a handyman to fix theyr bikes ect.
While I absolutely love your character voices. I greatly appreciate you not doing them in these serious kind of videos. Thank you for all your hard work. I enjoy listening
21:05 That case is on the neighbours as well.. Should have broken down the door and rescue the kid themselves. The gov. Wont be there to save tje kid. Youre already there.!
I was abused as a small child buy an older brother from just my dad who found his mom dad and played in her dead body for a long time before my Dad figured out that he was over at a dead person's house but I do have a question for those people who rescue kids who are being assaulted by grown men especially little girls I know our areas can stretch out because we can push a human being out eventually but do these kids need reconstructive surgery is it completely obvious that something is hurting them internally instead of externally?
Canada and the U.S. need to follow the example of Norway. Norway can be over protective, which can also be harmful to children, but it is a far better outcome than to be under protective. These stories are downright depressing to hear. In Norway spanking your child will result in an immediate visit from "CPS" and the immediate removal of the child if there is any hint of repeated abuse; sometimes just one offense is all it takes. I grew up in Norway as an expat child for two years and children in Norway have rights. They are not treated as the property of the parents. For instance if you are a teenage girl and get pregnant and don't want your parents to know you got an abortion you have the confidential right to keep that from them and can require others you tell to do the same. It protects children from parents who might heap verbal abuse on them for a poor decision.
Story 14 i heard about something similar in California kid was named Gabe and both the mom and boyfriend ended in jail for said death. Gabe was with his grandparents at first then an uncle then with mom. It was a documentary on Netflix.
I want to become a CPS worker, I feel for these kids. I was intimately abused five years ago (when I was 7). I want to help these kids get out of their situation and comfort them.
I understand that there are some individuals who work for CPS that genuinely care, but seeing as CPS as a whole failed my siblings and myself, I will never have respect for CPS or the courts for as long as I live.
“Our hands are so tied… People don’t realize that we try and try and try” -CPS person Sorry, no. I had a visit from CPS when I was a teenager. They spent the entire time talking to my dad, asking him questions, letting him lead. They asked me maybe only one question and it was in front of my dad. My dad, using his good side, was able to convince them I am just some problem child and something is mentally wrong with me. Life got way harder for me after that day. But sure, tell me how hard your job is and how tied your hands are. Just try to remember on your next job that it might behoove you to give a kid a chance to speak in safety and confidence (DUH 🙄). That should be obvious enough, yet somehow so many of you - who have your hands oh so tied - don’t even try this most basic and obvious thing. Just don’t wanna hear it really.
The cases are hard to hear and see. One of the biggest issue dealing with these children/teens is that the CPS workers are overwhelmed by the number of children in each home. I didn't have much direct interaction with these children , parents. However, I saw how many cases the social workers had to handle in the volume of cases. I'm not sure I could do their work without breaking down and/or bruning out.
Im pretty sure story 14 is about Gabriel Fernandez. He was 8 I remember when it happened I was like 10. He lived in my town. I remember the car wish they did for him when he died
I was part of foster system in California San Diego only one treated me as a family member let alone human when I was taken the Social Worker got in accident and my head slammed on the dash board I was only 4 almost 5 at time she went argued with the person she slammed into without asking me if I was okay then came in drove off and threatened me she would make my life a living hell if I ever told anyone that we got in a accident well I was taken to hillcrest receiving home (look it up) they saw the goose egg on my head she told them I slammed my head on the ground when I was taken then was healthy but when I got there had to seep in same bed as 3 other kids had to fight in line to get full meal breakfast was one small milk one single serve cereal box and slice of fruit and juice you had to fight for lunch and I usually had to have a smashed sandwich milk and fruit if lucky a bag of chips or other snack and dinner first come first serve type thing as I was on the smaller size was usually at end of line so not much left I would get my food and run out on the field as far as possible so others didn't steal my food my first week it was stollen and was starving not to mention I went in healthy came out with lice in hair mites on skin scabies lung problems pink eye and many other assortment of illnesses bronchitis flu and pneumonia which caused me to cough so bad that I coughed up blood well my first foster home got me shaved my head bald (I am female) bathed me in rubbing alcohol took me to hospital and left me there as I coughed up blood in front of them my second after hospital stay was a family with little boy they forced him to do me he was around five or six and they taped it and locked me up in closet all day only letting me out 2 times a day to use restroom and if I wet my self they would take me to the punishment spot a fire ant mound by the time my grandma came to visit when she took me out to eat I had to go to bathroom she went in to help my butt skin peeled off with my underwear as when I peed myself I was forced to keep the pants on rest of day also they would wake me up around 3 in morning to walk 15 miles down a hill to preschool yep was only 5 years old and had to walk in dark I would not make it till noon and the foster parents punished me for being late I only made it to preschool 3 times as I had to find food like berries and fruits I stole from front yards as never got breakfast they said I could get it if I made it to school and many other places I lived at (foster homes) I got hit raped locked up some even tried to kill me harmed me mentally treated as a slave so I worked to clean and keep kids from harm was given left overs at most places if I was lucky and the same Social Worker followed me till I was 18 and tried to follow me in the adult Social Worker but then her past caught up with her as her charges had mostly died and all the homes she claimed good where torture homes well the one home I was taken out was the one mentioned above the reason Social Worker claimed I was getting to attached to them so she was hell bent on keeping me in dangerous homes but not good homes that treat me nice let alone as a human well come to find out she was with my father as in doing the deed and many of the claimed run aways she was in charge of were sold into sex trafficking type deals and even brought little kids to my father to have his way with them and every time he was put in jail I was the one she took anger out on by placing me in even worst place the Social Worker was named Mary Landis
Here’s my cps horror story from the perspective of an victim of CSA this is my personal experience with CPS and the foster care system I apologize for the length and graphic nature of the story and also my grammar English is not my first language. When I was 4 years old I tried to commit suicide when my sister was 3 she tried to slit her own wrists and I had just stopped her in the nick of time I comforted her about and she just broke down uncontrollably crying saying “ Mommy and Daddy made me do it “ So me and my sister came from a house where we both physically and mentally and sexually abused by our birth parents and when our birth parents raped us they would force one of us to watch as the other one was getting raped. This went on for years and years until one day I was 13 and I ran away from home and went missing for a year during that time I got involved with sex and drug trafficking and also murder for money including joining a gang that had ties to the mafia the police where called on me when I was 14 after a particularly nasty gang fight I got into and I had accidentally killed him during the fight and instead of feeling bad about I attempted to take all his money and the police caught me I was put into juvi than I was returned back home in which the police just happened to walk in on my dad about to rape my sister this prompted the police to immediately take us away when they saw it happen in front of them their demeanor changed towards me after they saw that to instead of one of disappointment to one of sympathy. Me and my sister where taken in my cps and there they found out that both me and my sister had multiple STDs and my sister also had severe vaginal damage and also vaginal cancer too which they believe was from her contracting HPV, with I had severe tearing in my anus I also had multiple burn wounds also genital damage too I also found out I had testicular cancer which resulted in me losing one of my testicles and I always wounded why I kept having seizures turns out I also had brain cancer and I needed to go through chemo therapy in order to cure it they doctors said it wouldn’t have gotten that bad if I wasn’t so neglected. Thankfully the STDs me and my sister had could be cure but it took extensive medical treatment to get rid of the cancer. Both me and my sister where put into a foster care home after we where shown to be stable enough to be introduced back into society and also after our health issues where helped too. I was physically and emotionally abused in the foster care system and ran away from the foster home multiple times getting involved in things I really shouldn’t be getting involved in. However this story has a happy ending as me and my sister where adopted by a family that loves us even if we have all these issues.
Story 15: "this job is not for people who think the world is an alright place." Me: *is a person who likes to beleive the best in people Also me: "i wanna be a counselor who works in correctional facilities (jail, prison, etc.)"
Yeah, the "world is not an all right place" because people refuse to do anything about it and use the misanthropy excuse to justify it. It could only go as worse as we would allow it.
Cps is a joke. I called for help and case closed no intervention needed. With no one comeing out to ask a question. It only took getting out of high-school and they couldnt contact my guardians cause my address just said ditch infront of school. Since they forced us to get a ring and a year book inorder to have 100% of sinor class to have them foe photos if you didnt have you didnt graduate. They only felt bad not realy when it was food or graduation
CPS = Child protective services. They investigate when there are complaints made about children with unexplained injuries, appear neglected, etc. Probably has different names in different places.
Warnings probably good idea you know the whole of story 4 are just the kinds of story’s that make like ok this can not possibly get any worse right but then it keeps going and yeah no it can get worse it can always get worse 10:03 I think you already did this story just thought you’d want to know based on how you toyed not to repeat story’s in the pasted
My sister adopted a little girl who she met while teaching. She learned that the little girl's history was horrific. She had been removed from her mentally disabled mother after the mother had tried to throw the child from the roof of a 12 story hotel. During the next 3 years this little girl had been in 17 different foster homes and been returned from several. After everything was investigated it came to light that she had been intimately abused in 6 or the foster homes and had been forced to participate in illegal child movies. The former foster parents are now serving various prison sentances and my adopted niece is now grown, but it took over 10 years of mental health treatment for her to even begin to hope for a normal life. At the time my sister adopted her my niece was not even 9 years old yet.
That poor baby. If she's comfortable with it, hug her for me? Either way, tell her she's a badass. 💖
@@SewardWriter not just a hug but she deserves so much more cuz she is a true warrior in my eyes
Get that little warrior a pie tin sized cookie of her choice.
JESUS CHRIST! Adopting a child just to use them to make porn? There is a special place Hell for those people!
In one case in my state there had been several reports that a 10 year old girl had been abused. Child Protection Services had visited the home and found that the mother had substance abuse problems but left the girl there. Around a year later a neighbor called the police to report a bunch of loud screaming coming from the apartment. When the police got there they found the 10 year old girl dead in the bath tub and the mother and her boyfriend no where to be found. The investigation and autopsy found that the girl had multiple stds and scarring from repeated abuse. The mother had been training the daughter to various men and drug dealers for drugs. There were several instances where the mother actually held this girl down so that the boyfriend and other men could have their way with the child. At the end of the case the mother was sentenced to life in prison with no parole and boyfriend was sentenced to death. There were a dozen other people who were sentenced to prison terms ranging from 10 years to 50 years.
That poor child. May her memory be a blessing.
Yeah, and it's extra risky when you let addicts keep theire child. They will do litterally anything for drug money so selling their kids is just another thing they do. And then fostercare is full of pedos too. They need a real safe place for these kids as there is a huge chance fosterkids have kids in fostercare too.
Man, ones like this are so conflicting. It is so sad and horrible that the child was killed and CPS' absolute negligence in doing their whole goddamn purpose, but also the court system usually lets people like this off and it is always a win when the perpetrators actually get what's coming to them.
CPS do have a lot of problems, and their workers let a lot of kids (and their families) down. But they are dealing with government bureaucracy, budget restraints and sometimes don’t have access to the full picture. Generational trauma has a lot of input into how these families function, so sometimes the parents don’t see the abuse for what it is. It’s heartbreaking to know that some children are being failed in every corner of their life.
I have had my great niece in my care for 4 months. She is only 5 so I’m hoping that we can help break the generational trauma so that she can grow up to live a happy and fulfilled life into her adult years.
I agree with you fully. We all need to help CPS improve, to make sure more children get saved.
Also, how’s your niece doing?
I think the mom that called for herself did the best she was able to do at the time. Obviously her best was not sufficient for those children, and she should have reached out for help sooner. But I'm glad that she did reach out before it was too late for any of them to get help. She recognized her own limitations and put her kids in the hands of people who had the ability to do what she couldn't. She's not a good mom, but she's at least a decent human being.
Calling for help when she couldn't do it made her a good mom
People need to be more aware of the seriously fvcked up things parents do to their own children.
You mean some parents right? Because you shouldn't generalize.
@@killuanatsume Yes? Do you really think I'm delusional enough to believe that these stories are representative of all parents everywhere?
So. Family friend was a social worker. Here are some cases that made her quit:
-Deaf couple was upset that their kid wasn't born deaf. So the dad attempted to deafen the kid with noisemakers and air horns, smacked the kid whenever he tried to speak with his mouth, and the mom allowed this to happen. She somehow managed to get away with a lesser sentence. The house was apparently a death trap since fire alarms were constantly going off with the "Replace battery" noise.
-Kid got his brother to punch him in the face, said "Dad did it", and wasted CPS's time. I actually was younger when this happen but I overheard her absolutely ranting about how pissed she was that this wasted their time when they had so many other cases that they "didn't have the resources to investigate now".
-Homeschooled kid who was kicked out at age 10 for "Disrespecting his parents". (Ie, standing up to them) The parents claimed he never existed, literally threw out his bed or any property, had no pictures of him (suggesting this was going on for awhile...) and kept on denying. The kids wouldn't speak.
-Kids who were SA'd by priests.
-Tiger parents who kicked a 15 year old out for getting a 3.9 GPA.
-Kid got knocked down by a goat and hit their head on the fence, causing CPS to waste time with an investigation for a literal freak accident. (Well, apparently when they investigated the farm the kid lived at, they found some things that needed updating and the parents happily did it)
-Multiple cases where the abusive one isn't mom or dad, or grandma or grandpa, or anyone in the extended family... but the sibling. Multiple parents had to separate because they needed to stay in different building(s) or else one or both of their kids would try to kill each other. It's amazing how many times the parents let it go so far before admitting there was a problem - Kid has a knife and baseball bat in their room because their older sibling tried to smother them to death multiple times? Parents think it's just "Quirky". Kid has ligature marks from their younger sibling trying to strangle them? It was "an accident" and they were "just playing".
-Multiple cases of kids who had injuries and had O.I.
Regarding the second story: That call might not have been a waste of time. A kid doesn’t act that way for no reason. He was definitely acting out. Which means that he needs help. If his parents aren’t the cause, then there’s something else at work.
@@maatnofret1234 He had munchausen's syndrome I bet. The social worker was so pissed at this instance because there were other cases that were slipping through the cracks.
@@Terestrasz Understood. I’m sure it was frustrating to spend so much time on what, on some level, turned out to be a false alarm.
If a kid has Munchausen’s, there is trauma there, and he does need help. The idea that this is the best way to get kindness and attention-he got that from somewhere. A normal, happy, mentally healthy child would not be acting out that way.
Thank you for covering stories like these (including your other recent videos concerning CPS and the foster care system). It's a very painful subject, but people need to understand just how common child abuse/neglect is, how normal (and even respected) the parents can seem when out in general society, how normal this can all seem for a child when they have no other frame of reference, and how the supposedly caring people that would be horrified to hear of a young child's abuse can be completely dismissive towards a victim in their teens. It sucks to hear/read (although far more to *experience*), but nothing can change without awareness.
i appreciate these videos.. as a former foster child, i suffered a lot of this and usually when it is talked about with professionals it barely scratches the surface of what really goes on. as much as it pains me to know it is still just as bad it is good that it's being talked about..
I hope you are doing better now I wish you the best of luck
I really hate it when people can't understand that my bio-mom is a terrible mother because "she's so nice". She is nice, sure. She's also the single most incompetent person I have ever met, and I've worked in politics! She didn't beat or sexually assaulted me like in these stories from the video. What she did was constantly forget to feed my sibling and myself so we were always skin and bones until we were taken to more functioning families. The house was a mess that is considered a hazard zone, with someone getting cut on broken glass or stepping on something sharp being a weekly occurrence.
Neglectful parents are perhaps not as bad as those who rape their children, but they are pretty damn bad too.
Neglect can be just as harmful and dangerous. Maybe it isn’t as bad as being physically abused and SA, but the insecurity it creates is unhealthy and the danger is very real.
Children die from harm by omission. Not feeding a child or even the dangers of being unsupervised or in an unsafe environment can result in death.
No one should be diminishing you and your siblings experiences.
I wouldn't really call what my mom did to me and my brother "abuse," but a lot of people meet her and think she's super nice. On the surface, she really is, but she has major, major priority issues, and there's something mentally disconnected in there somewhere. When we were really little, she basically did nothing but work all day every day and ignore us, and then a few years down the line she got WAY into religion, church four times a week, forcing us to go to sunday school, destroyed things we had/we liked because they were "distracting" us from church and god, etc.
Mom, I was 7 and saved up money from mowing lawns to buy a keyboard at a yard sale, you didn't have to cut the cord off and throw it away in front of my face because I didn't want to spend half of my sunday at church
When my parents divorced (After I graduated high school), it came out that during the recession in 2008, my dad was skipping meals every day so that we could afford for me and my brother to eat, only to find out that my mom was donating $500 to the church every week.
I've certainly voiced my distaste for her numerous times, but she still asks why I don't call more often. I wonder if she will ever figure it out.
I just want to give every kid in these stories a hug, I feel so sad for them :(
Thanks, UnderSparked. Not only for shedding light on this theme but also for treating it with the respect the kids deserve.
To me, story 11 hits a nerve. I have never linked drug trafficking to child abuse problems, but it does fit. My father was a doctor, and this story reminded me of something he said. "People don't start on drug selling because they like destroying othr people's life for profit, they do it because they have no other option." "Give them help, shelter, food, quality education to their kids, and see how many stay in this path, there will always be some, but most won't be". I don't miss him, he was a horrible human being in several regards, but I do respect his opinions on this.
Not a CPS worker, but ... I was one of the kids in these stories. For the record, I was eight and I was so traumatized I blacked everything out for about a five year span of time. That's the best explanation I have for the complete lack of memories after my mom took me and before my dad came and got me. Before that, living with grandma, I can remember conversations I had with my grandpa when I was only two years old.
We suspect all sorts of things - physical, emotional, maybe even sexual abuse, but I can no longer substantiate any of those claims because it's been twenty years and I've forgotten almost all of it. I have all of two memories from that time I'm confident actually happened, the rest is a blur. What I do know is that my mother accused eight year old me of trying to manipulate them so I could see my father more. I remember telling the counselor lady at school that bad things were happening at home, I remember the drive as we left. I've heard accounts from my grandmothers, from my mother, and from my father, but I don't actually know what happened.
All I know is that deep down I hated my stepfather with a blazing passion that no small child should feel and I was terrified of men aside from my father for a long, long time. Sometimes I remember fragments of whatever happened in that trailer while I sleep and I wake up disorientated and afraid. That's enough to tell me I don't want to remember everything.
I've got similar amnesia from ages 11-15. I went through some brutal shit during that time (medical abůse). Turns out it's a PTSD symptom. You might look it the condition if you haven't yet. 💖
@@SewardWriter Oh, we're fairly sure it's PTSD. At this point I'm well-adjusted and living a pretty decent life, but we had me in therapy for a long time, from when I was about 11 or 12 to when I was 25 or so. It's been a long journey to get here, but every day I'm thankful I had a father who loved me enough to get me out of there.
@@EvonneSol Your dad sounds awesome, and so do you. I'm super proud of you for being able to move on.
I’ve blocked out a lot of my childhood memories as well. There are some good memories, but the little I do remember was very dark.
it must be relieving in some way that your brain has blocked these parts of your life out. I’m sure there’s a part of it that’d bring closure, but I can only imagine living blissfully ignorant would be better than knowing the whole truth. either way, I’m very sorry you ever had to go through any of this and I hope your life has become much easier and peaceful
I used to always be scared of turning into a crap mom but when I hear these my heart knows I could never put my flesh and blood through this of even a child period I pray for a brighter future where kids can live without having to face these twisted issues
There needs to be a way to prosecute people who file false reports out of spite.
Problem is if you do that you'll see people who were telling the truth but couldn't prove it jailed.
In Texas filing a false report (whether it be police or cps) is a state felony (3rd degree felony for second offense) and can lead to jail time if proven you knowingly made false reports. But the punishment is usually pretty minor and sadly many times it just brushed off or not enforced past a verbal warning. But sadly this does not stop many so they keep doing it and waste necessary resources needed for other cases in the process.
I’m a cys (it’s what CPS is really called, depending on your county and state) and, unfortunately, there can’t be a way due to the reports being “anonymous”. We are not allowed to tell the family who made the report and, most the time, we don’t even know ourselves.
It can make our job hard and annoying. I apologize a lot of families when I have to show up…especially when I’m on-call. (I hate on-call…)
I watched this straight after the therapists taking a minute video, where he also said to maybe take a minute as the viewer. I think after watching these both back to back, I definitely need to watch something a bit less heavy. Also before that I watched the most interesting cases by psychiatrists one. And it's almost my bedtime now...
How is it possible that in cases when CPS discovers that a parent is raping and beating a child, they later return the child to that parent? What justifiable reason exists for that?
This is ridiculous. And the media wonders why there are so many murderers and sadists out there. Imagine being an abused child and growing up with no authority helping you; you can't have respect for humans if you grew up like that ...
Part of the illusion of the American dream. Laws are illusions. So a ground of pedos themselves most of the time can claim looks ee its illegal and hid the abuse for what ever adgenda is going on or who knows who. It's about the ap
The worst of it all is that for every case that eventually gets some kind of intervention, there are so many more who stay in the dark.
Its terribly depressing. The horrors what parents or more cn do to those poor children is beyond words. And yes, the amount of generational trauma.
You are absolutely right that the people working in this field to help are absolute superheroes. I can't even imagine processing so much horror and at the same time have your hands tied so much. People like them are part of the reason why their might still be some hope concerning humanity.
I grew up in a toxic family sytem and have sevrious mental health issues, but compared to these cases, it was tame. I can't even fathom how much these victims will suffer from the scars these traumata left on their mental health. Words can't describe how unfair the system is. And I'm from central Europe, I think we may be doing slightly better than the US foster care system.
I'm not a cps worker, but I was in the system. It took me three years, and running away from home twice, then going to court to get me out of there, and then there were forced visitations.
I'm glad now there are programs to get children to talk about bulling at school, it just wasn't a thing in my time, but they really need to start having programs for kids to talk about bulling at home. It would help so many more of them. 😢
My mom grew up in the foster system. She suffered a lot of abuse and neglect but is considered one of the lucky ones. Ended up having me at 16 yrs old.
This isn’t a topic for entertainment, friend,, it’s a serious look into what some kids endure on a daily basis. Hopefully, it’ll teach folks not to judge those babies too harshly. Speaking as a former kid in an effed up situation, pro need to know these things exist. Children are usually made voiceless, or not believed or passed off as not their problem. So thanks for reading this.
Having lived in Wisconsin for nearly 40 years, I'm amazed those girls survived. It's common to have temperatures in the negatives, and they can last as long as a week.
I made an online friend some years ago.
After getting to know her for a few months and chatting daily, she revealed to me that both her kids were being taken away from her and she was losing custody of them all together. When I ask why, she said "because the neighbors hate me. So they called CPS and made up some story about me that made them take the kids. They said I live in awful unsanitary and filthy conditions that isn't healthy for children. They took my kids for no reason. I shoukd sue the city for this."
Ok. That didn't make sense to me. If CPS came to take the kids, they must have looked through the house. If their house was fine, then no need to take action. But if what the neighbor said was true, then they'd take the kids.
So I ask her, "is your house a mess?"
And she said "are you blaming me now too?" And she got really defensive.
Well, long story short, she made a deal with CPS. Clean up her house, repaint, fix water damage and other maintenence. She got what she said "real beds this time." She also added she had to "learn how to cook better". All evidence that tells me neighbor wasn't lying and CPS didn't take kids for no reason.
She got her kids back for a few months but ended up having them taken away again but this time she's not getting them back.
I wish for the best for her because she's clearly battling some kind of mental health.
I love these type of videos please keep making more I know that sounds weird but it makes me so happy that there are people out there (the cps workers) that help these children so they can hopefully get better
Hope they get better
I feel the same
My stepdad would have been a candidate for being taken into foster care if it hadn’t been the 1940’s-50’s. His asshole father tied him to rafters to take his rage out on him, which eventually left him with severe head trauma and learning disabilities. His neurologists thought the trauma was a huge contributor to his early onset dementia.
This prize example of “humanity” (stepdad’s father, for reference), also had multiple affairs, didn’t care that his wife knew, and spent his life flashing his badge (firefighter) to get out of trouble. He also refused to pay for the equipment needed when his wife got severe cancer and was horribly abusive during the last months of her life. I only knew about the way he treated my (step)grandma when I was younger (and they lived in another state, so we couldn’t regularly intervene), and it made me realize he was a horrible person, but finding out from my stepdad’s aunt about the abuse he suffered as his father’s punching bag made me understand that he wasn’t just a bad person, but one of those full on monsters I had only just heard of on the news or in shows based on court cases(we all know the theme music).
I don’t, strictly speaking, believe in the concept of Hell, but I hope every day that, in death, he is suffering some measure of the pain and damage he caused his family, and that my poor stepdad, who tried so hard to be kind, but was…troubled (emotionally and financially abusive) throughout his life. Now that I know what I do about trauma, I can understand why my stepdad was a difficult person to live with, and it really pisses me off that his evil father was able to skirt under the radar (he even manipulated stepdad as an adult, leading to his first divorce), causing pain to not only his wife and children (though stepdad’s brother seems to have been more of the favored child) , but also to stepdad’s ex, my step siblings, my mom and I.
I never thought I would have encountered an evil person in my own life, but here we are. I can’t even begin to imagine the depths of horror that people in similar cases have experienced. Ugh.
I hugged my baby so tight after this. Kids drive u crazy but other than raise my voice and time out, I couldn't imagine them going through any of this.... praying for those kids..
Trauma after this was messed up, I know what they go through after this. We are the foster family, it’s hard.
Yeah
I was a custodian for CPS let the things the staff gone through really hurt my heart but this one moment I was told sticks with me
During the peak of the pandemic in 2020 I worked as a custodian for CPS hearing my state of New Jersey. I was asked to clean cars, wiped down the visiting room and prep the same room for of course visitation which are monitored by a caseworker. So one day I was just saying they're talking with the security guard. It was a slow day. Really nothing to do since no one was in the office. Just like maybe three or four people. So during the day I was approached and escorted to one of the cars to clean it. I asked what's going on and they said that was a code red and they needed a car prepped and ready to go immediately. I rushed out, wiped out a car, during the time I saw two New Jersey state troopers lined up outside. I was like what the hell is going on? As soon as they left they told me to prep the visitation room as well because they may need to have the child in there. So I went to work, spray down the room, wipe down the chairs did everything. Then I was told they were rerooted to the hospital and I was told the kid was exposed to commercial grade bleach. My heart sunk I never believed that somebody will do this to their child. I almost flew up in the bathroom.
To the hard working CPS staff you are heros during the pandemic You took children out dangerous situations and made sure they were safe. I don't care what people say. You did the biggest thing for children out there and I say thank you for it
I am a cps kid. Stuff with my dad. If any of you want to go into this work, know that the kids may be grateful, but they may be mad. Your strength means everything. Kindness goes so very far when you haven't had much to start with.
Survivor of Childhood Exploitation by my Drug Addicted parents, here. I was Four. This vid actually helped me better understand just how our family slipped through the cracks. I never got rescued. Left home at 17. Now on NC with all of them cuz I loathe those that participated or enabled and those that did nothing I consider nearly as bad. NC with Fam was the only reason I've healed enough to type a comprehensible sentence. I'm stunned at how badly my generation was hobbled by abuses like these. :(((
I’ve heard that somewhere in the world, you require a parenting licence in order to be allowed to have kids. I think that should be a thing everywhere in the world..
that is a very good idea
this along with legal abortions, contraception & birth control, as well as a better funded foster care system would be an absolute must in avoiding people who shouldn’t have kids having kids.
@@lillynxy also a very good idea
Story’s that involve kids are always bad, the warning is necessary
Yeah its a good thing
ignored the warning and listening to that and another cps vids from him on my evening routine. bad decision. hadnt slept much last night
This video has actually made me consider working for CPS in some regard. I dont think I'd enjoy the job (as if it's possible to enjoy it), but i believe its important, and i think ive heard enough and seen enough, that whats left out there cant mentally ruin me.
my son was taken from me when he was 6yrs old. my cps worker told me to cut down on the time my son spent with his grandmother. she wasnt ever alone with him. she was abusive to me all my life. she got mad when i did what i was asked to do. in return his grandmother, my mother called and told a bunch of lies. they took my son away. i got him back in my life when he turned 18. and have had him in my life ever since. but it severely pissed me off to lose my son because of my mother. i cried when she died in my arms in the hospital. but i felt so much better after she died. a relief. like i said she abused me. i was raped at 5yr old and molested at 11yr old. my mother made them both happen. she is the common person literally present both times. took a shit ton therapy. i dont trust the system at all anymore.
I seriously hope this channel does wholesome content next, the world is already depressing enough.
how about a new one called "what is your most wholesome story?" this shit is getting too depressing.
Yes that is what we need to
You'd rather go through life believing things are unicorns and rainbows????
@@BaarBear my father is a pedo.....i know how fucked the world can be.
my siblings are twins.
the girl asked us to stop telling everyone that they were twins because she didn’t want anyone to know
we thought it was a phase but then it went on for a couple of years
eventually she finally told us that it was because she didn’t want anyone to know that her twin had been held back a grade because she knew he was smart but other ppl would probably think he’s dumb
my. heart. melted.
Fr, we need something happy
Thanks for this video....its shocking how evil and heartless humans can be.....those poor children.... I wish them all healing and a beautiful and happy life ❤️
my brother was in foster care and abused a lot. Foster parents took him from the only doctor who knew about the really rare heart condition he shared with his twin. all because they didn't want to run into my mom and his twin. my mom knew of the abuse and CPS did nothing no matter how much she begged and provided evidence. when he turned 18 we finally got him back. He was mentally stunted and a whole 4 inches shorter than his identical twin. Unfortunately, he passed not even a year later due to a brain anuresim.
Honestly nothing suprises me anymore. I had loving parents. I was raped at age 8. I am 26. I was forced to eat my own puke. I come from a loving family. I canimagine the horrors in an abusive home.
Edit: "i qm honestly suprised by ths stuff kids would reveal that is honestly just their life" yeah. Realizing not everyone had dreams ow men chasing and doing horrible things to.them, realising other kids didnt instinctualy panic with a simple hand on your shoulder. Realizing other kids were afraid of beign scolded and fidnt experience some kind of primal fear every so often was a shock.
Edit: thano you for covering these stories, could you cover these stories from the perspective of tje survivors sometime. I would be able to provide my own story for this.
These stories are horrific, to think people treat children like that. Its also maddening as there are people out there that can't have children and would make great parents but can't, its so unfair
Story 6
Wow. Even after all that, the plan is still reunification? This goes to show children really ARE still looked at like property in this world.
People treat children like property instead of people.
I respect how you respect talking about these cases thank you
The ones where the parents put him in girls clothes happened in Kansas. The worst part is it happened again to another child.
I seen this video in my recommended. I'm like i can handle. I hate that these things happens to kids. Kids should be able to be kids and this just breaks my heart hearing and now I'm sobbing cuz i wish these things just didn't occur
I heard this from a social worker during college.
I don't remember much of what the kid's life was like before this incident but here it is. The dad took his kid's to the woods with their dog. The dad then broke the dog's back by stomping on it. Then he handed the kid a plastic bag and said "you're not gonna let him suffer are you?" And left the woods, forcing the kid to suffocate his own dog to put him out of his misery. I think the kid was about 10 when this happened.
20:34 honestly this part makes me sad.
If with DID they mean Dissociative Identity Disorder, and it's why the state found the person unable to be a parent, it breaks my heart. DID people can be good parents if they have gone through theraphy to resolve their trauma. I just... man.
That baby who got quickly attached to that social worker reminds me (I worked in foster care) of the four year old who they had to pry from being wrapped around me and as they were carrying her down the hall she cried and reached out her arms toward me. We’d just met that afternoon. All we did was chit chat in an adult-taking-with-4-yr-old way and I held her a bit but she still clung to me like a koala and my heart re-breaks a bit whenever I remember this, but the happy ending is she was returned home with services in the long run.
This makes it feel a little more human than just a robot voice reading out the stories. It’s just so mind blowing of why a lot of these “people” do to the children and be fine with it…
I've heard the full version of the first story here on youtube, and it's so sad. I've heard/read a lot of horrendous stories about human scum, but that story.. A piece of me died the day I heard it, I think it hit me even harder because I was the same age as the girl in the story.
I think about them sometimes. Wherever she (and probably her son which was the reason a person called cps in the first place) is, I truly hope that they're ok.
4:23 i knew a 16-year old in this exact situation. we were in a depression/anxiety group home together. she had also been abus3d by her dad. it’s absolutely disgusting what some people do.
"Eventually she was taken out of the house and put into a foster home, where she was forced to take part in an explicit club. Honestly I don't know how that never became a public scandal."
Oh yes you do. You know exactly how.
This made me gain a little respect for cps. After they had been called by my mom on my bio dad, they blamed her and but me back with my abusive bio dad. I’ve lived with him for 9 years, hopefully not longer and it is hell. They were called by my therapist because I didn’t feel safe. I was regularly gaslight, and felt insane. What made it worse was when I started living with him he would beat me up, hold me down in a se*xual position and choke me out and I couldnt tell anyone. The cops and cps did nothing because it was years ago, they even let it slide that recently,when I would change he would crack my door and watch.
That end person needs to be fired. People like them are why the system has far far worse stats than just leaving kids with abusers.
I actually need to stop watching these, I honestly feel like I’m addicted im them but here starting to fuck with my mental health
It doesn't matter how much money is thrown at attempting to rehab people, if they are not ready to be rehabbed. I've seen junkies go through ten or more programs with flying colors, only to get out and go straight back to their drug of choice. More often than not, they've only gone into treatment to avoid jail time. It's the easier sentence. So, not being offered the help they need is not the problem. Abusing the offered help, and the resources that come with that, is just something else putting a drain on the system. If the system ever gets overhauled, there should be a two strikes rule. If your kids are removed twice, for whatever reason, reunification should not be attempted again. Your children should be allowed to be sent to a family to be adopted. That's another issue with the system. Everyone believes all the children in foster care are up for adoption, when the truth is most are not. They are there temporarily. Just long enough to get a small taste of normalcy before they are thrown back to the wolves they were born to, to become even more messed up.
I appreciate this video...its important to hear the stories of abused children....its beyond heartbreaking and soul crushing ..I can't believe that God gives children to these worthless abusive monsters....they should never have aby kids ..not even pets....to hurt, abuse,molest...a child should be taken seriously and the persons responsible... should get the maximum....at least..
27:45 I like the addition of "if you're in the space to take in this information". It's great to get this stuff out there, but if you don't want to hear or engage with it, I think that decision should be respected.
Also, I've never heard of actors being used for practice interviews for CPS and cops. That's really interesting!
In the UK it's messed up, their has been so many kids that have died with social services involved
I think there's a lot of value in telling the stories that you are telling especially when people say the wrong things and they're like oh I wish I didn't say that cuz I been on a binge session with your stories tonight and I've done the CPS workers the EMS workers the silly doctors after coming out of anesthetic you are covering the board and I think you're doing a wonderful job because you're showing the dark the light and the in between and so many people just want to smash on the CPS workers and it's not always like that but also I'm not saying on the other side of that same❤ it just seems like they are hopping from one bad family to another it's sad because I would love to adopt and it's over $60,000 when there are little angels already running around getting adopted and placed into these horrible places it's just sick😢
I would strongly encourage people to consider if they can become foster parents or provide help to families that are fostering. It's a lot of hard work and there are nightmares involved, but good foster parents help keep kids out of bad homes.
I know grandparents, aunts, uncles, and neighbors who saved kids because they petitioned for emergency custody when they saw children being abused and neglected. You may have the chance to step up that way too if you recognize that a kid you love needs help.
I think it is impirtant
The kids that do survive
Grow up
And too many people have been sheltered from our life stories
And we get excluded and outcasted
And I think sharing these things are really good for people to realize
That these children do survive and they do grow up and they walk amongst you
Why did story 14 remind me of Gabriel Fernandez? I have mad respect for cps workers who have to witness and listen to every case and actually do their jobs. Ive heard many who just brush cases under the rug, like the boy mentioned above. My cousin works for a Domestic Violence centre for women and her SIL works with cps and often removes children, they never disclosed anything but they did say you needed a strong stomach and resistence from knocking the abusers out yourself.
Story 8 has to be a coworker of mine. We truly have no authority and it drives us insane.
How disgusting does a house have to be that the homeless wouldn't wanna be there
It may surprise you, but some homeless people might not want to live in rot and mold.
i didnt take the warning that seriously and now im going crazy after the story of the boy who was beaten to death and no one cared..
Omg I'm the 200th like! Also I love these videos so much
i am a person who wants to help thoose kids but my academic record isnt good enough to work in this field. also i am way to unstable to bear with that crap.
but even i can look out for signs of abuse. since i am a grown menchild myself and i live alone i really hav3e fun playing with ne neighbors kids. it helps to brighten my mood but in the same time i knew a lot of them that good that i can tell if something is of. like they have a bad day or gotten bad grades. it goes as far that a few of them come to me for help if they messed up or have problems with something (mostly mostly english or reading writing related or they need a handyman to fix theyr bikes ect.
While I absolutely love your character voices. I greatly appreciate you not doing them in these serious kind of videos. Thank you for all your hard work. I enjoy listening
This is the first of their videos that made me lose my appetite 😭
21:05 That case is on the neighbours as well.. Should have broken down the door and rescue the kid themselves. The gov. Wont be there to save tje kid. Youre already there.!
You know its going crazy when there's a trigger warning
Well, my hope for humanity has now reached the negative quad digits.
I was abused as a small child buy an older brother from just my dad who found his mom dad and played in her dead body for a long time before my Dad figured out that he was over at a dead person's house but I do have a question for those people who rescue kids who are being assaulted by grown men especially little girls I know our areas can stretch out because we can push a human being out eventually but do these kids need reconstructive surgery is it completely obvious that something is hurting them internally instead of externally?
Canada and the U.S. need to follow the example of Norway. Norway can be over protective, which can also be harmful to children, but it is a far better outcome than to be under protective. These stories are downright depressing to hear. In Norway spanking your child will result in an immediate visit from "CPS" and the immediate removal of the child if there is any hint of repeated abuse; sometimes just one offense is all it takes.
I grew up in Norway as an expat child for two years and children in Norway have rights. They are not treated as the property of the parents. For instance if you are a teenage girl and get pregnant and don't want your parents to know you got an abortion you have the confidential right to keep that from them and can require others you tell to do the same. It protects children from parents who might heap verbal abuse on them for a poor decision.
I don't know if the anguish or the rage is stronger after this one. 😭
Story 14 i heard about something similar in California kid was named Gabe and both the mom and boyfriend ended in jail for said death. Gabe was with his grandparents at first then an uncle then with mom. It was a documentary on Netflix.
I want to become a CPS worker, I feel for these kids. I was intimately abused five years ago (when I was 7). I want to help these kids get out of their situation and comfort them.
I understand that there are some individuals who work for CPS that genuinely care, but seeing as CPS as a whole failed my siblings and myself, I will never have respect for CPS or the courts for as long as I live.
maybe next video shouldn't be the fourth cps related video in a row
“Our hands are so tied… People don’t realize that we try and try and try” -CPS person
Sorry, no. I had a visit from CPS when I was a teenager. They spent the entire time talking to my dad, asking him questions, letting him lead. They asked me maybe only one question and it was in front of my dad. My dad, using his good side, was able to convince them I am just some problem child and something is mentally wrong with me. Life got way harder for me after that day. But sure, tell me how hard your job is and how tied your hands are. Just try to remember on your next job that it might behoove you to give a kid a chance to speak in safety and confidence (DUH 🙄). That should be obvious enough, yet somehow so many of you - who have your hands oh so tied - don’t even try this most basic and obvious thing. Just don’t wanna hear it really.
I feel this new channel has a LOT of potential it might just be the new Mr beast :)
Im sorry, but what the actual fuck, who craps in a hole in their floor??
I think we're all going to remember that urine story also I never heard of a actor cps also also idk hearing it doesn't phase me but seeing it does
The cases are hard to hear and see. One of the biggest issue dealing with these children/teens is that the CPS workers are overwhelmed by the number of children in each home. I didn't have much direct interaction with these children , parents. However, I saw how many cases the social workers had to handle in the volume of cases. I'm not sure I could do their work without breaking down and/or bruning out.
Im pretty sure story 14 is about Gabriel Fernandez. He was 8 I remember when it happened I was like 10. He lived in my town. I remember the car wish they did for him when he died
DID is definitely a real thing, and although it doesn’t disqualify someone from being a good parent, it can definitely get messy if it’s not managed
I was part of foster system in California San Diego only one treated me as a family member let alone human when I was taken the Social Worker got in accident and my head slammed on the dash board I was only 4 almost 5 at time she went argued with the person she slammed into without asking me if I was okay then came in drove off and threatened me she would make my life a living hell if I ever told anyone that we got in a accident well I was taken to hillcrest receiving home (look it up) they saw the goose egg on my head she told them I slammed my head on the ground when I was taken then was healthy but when I got there had to seep in same bed as 3 other kids had to fight in line to get full meal breakfast was one small milk one single serve cereal box and slice of fruit and juice you had to fight for lunch and I usually had to have a smashed sandwich milk and fruit if lucky a bag of chips or other snack and dinner first come first serve type thing as I was on the smaller size was usually at end of line so not much left I would get my food and run out on the field as far as possible so others didn't steal my food my first week it was stollen and was starving not to mention I went in healthy came out with lice in hair mites on skin scabies lung problems pink eye and many other assortment of illnesses bronchitis flu and pneumonia which caused me to cough so bad that I coughed up blood well my first foster home got me shaved my head bald (I am female) bathed me in rubbing alcohol took me to hospital and left me there as I coughed up blood in front of them my second after hospital stay was a family with little boy they forced him to do me he was around five or six and they taped it and locked me up in closet all day only letting me out 2 times a day to use restroom and if I wet my self they would take me to the punishment spot a fire ant mound by the time my grandma came to visit when she took me out to eat I had to go to bathroom she went in to help my butt skin peeled off with my underwear as when I peed myself I was forced to keep the pants on rest of day also they would wake me up around 3 in morning to walk 15 miles down a hill to preschool yep was only 5 years old and had to walk in dark I would not make it till noon and the foster parents punished me for being late I only made it to preschool 3 times as I had to find food like berries and fruits I stole from front yards as never got breakfast they said I could get it if I made it to school and many other places I lived at (foster homes) I got hit raped locked up some even tried to kill me harmed me mentally treated as a slave so I worked to clean and keep kids from harm was given left overs at most places if I was lucky and the same Social Worker followed me till I was 18 and tried to follow me in the adult Social Worker but then her past caught up with her as her charges had mostly died and all the homes she claimed good where torture homes well the one home I was taken out was the one mentioned above the reason Social Worker claimed I was getting to attached to them so she was hell bent on keeping me in dangerous homes but not good homes that treat me nice let alone as a human well come to find out she was with my father as in doing the deed and many of the claimed run aways she was in charge of were sold into sex trafficking type deals and even brought little kids to my father to have his way with them and every time he was put in jail I was the one she took anger out on by placing me in even worst place the Social Worker was named Mary Landis
Here’s my cps horror story from the perspective of an victim of CSA this is my personal experience with CPS and the foster care system I apologize for the length and graphic nature of the story and also my grammar English is not my first language.
When I was 4 years old I tried to commit suicide when my sister was 3 she tried to slit her own wrists and I had just stopped her in the nick of time I comforted her about and she just broke down uncontrollably crying saying “ Mommy and Daddy made me do it “
So me and my sister came from a house where we both physically and mentally and sexually abused by our birth parents and when our birth parents raped us they would force one of us to watch as the other one was getting raped. This went on for years and years until one day I was 13 and I ran away from home and went missing for a year during that time I got involved with sex and drug trafficking and also murder for money including joining a gang that had ties to the mafia the police where called on me when I was 14 after a particularly nasty gang fight I got into and I had accidentally killed him during the fight and instead of feeling bad about I attempted to take all his money and the police caught me I was put into juvi than I was returned back home in which the police just happened to walk in on my dad about to rape my sister this prompted the police to immediately take us away when they saw it happen in front of them their demeanor changed towards me after they saw that to instead of one of disappointment to one of sympathy. Me and my sister where taken in my cps and there they found out that both me and my sister had multiple STDs and my sister also had severe vaginal damage and also vaginal cancer too which they believe was from her contracting HPV, with I had severe tearing in my anus I also had multiple burn wounds also genital damage too I also found out I had testicular cancer which resulted in me losing one of my testicles and I always wounded why I kept having seizures turns out I also had brain cancer and I needed to go through chemo therapy in order to cure it they doctors said it wouldn’t have gotten that bad if I wasn’t so neglected. Thankfully the STDs me and my sister had could be cure but it took extensive medical treatment to get rid of the cancer. Both me and my sister where put into a foster care home after we where shown to be stable enough to be introduced back into society and also after our health issues where helped too. I was physically and emotionally abused in the foster care system and ran away from the foster home multiple times getting involved in things I really shouldn’t be getting involved in. However this story has a happy ending as me and my sister where adopted by a family that loves us even if we have all these issues.
The only thing that gives me hope when I see this content warning is these stories will be awful an graphic but they might have a happy ending
cover more topics on job professions plz
Child a**se upsets me, but I’m more curious about this video than I think it would upset me.
Story 15: "this job is not for people who think the world is an alright place."
Me: *is a person who likes to beleive the best in people
Also me: "i wanna be a counselor who works in correctional facilities (jail, prison, etc.)"
Yeah, the "world is not an all right place" because people refuse to do anything about it and use the misanthropy excuse to justify it. It could only go as worse as we would allow it.
I think we need to reset society, and start again
Cps is a joke. I called for help and case closed no intervention needed. With no one comeing out to ask a question. It only took getting out of high-school and they couldnt contact my guardians cause my address just said ditch infront of school. Since they forced us to get a ring and a year book inorder to have 100% of sinor class to have them foe photos if you didnt have you didnt graduate. They only felt bad not realy when it was food or graduation
I always wish CPS would help me get away from my mother's abuse, but i was also terrified of her to speak too much about what i had to go through.
Wut is a cps worker plz in the uk just never herd of them
CPS = Child protective services. They investigate when there are complaints made about children with unexplained injuries, appear neglected, etc. Probably has different names in different places.
"This video will cover serious topics involving children, specifically the abuse of them"
Well no shit, Sherlock
I don't even wanna know what *"Adult content"* means..
Warnings probably good idea you know the whole of story 4 are just the kinds of story’s that make like ok this can not possibly get any worse right but then it keeps going and yeah no it can get worse it can always get worse 10:03 I think you already did this story just thought you’d want to know based on how you toyed not to repeat story’s in the pasted
Yeah
Learn proper English.
@@beccas.7762 fun fact it’s better to point out the problem to someone so they can fix it instead on trying to just say you did something wrong fix it
@@beccas.7762 bro shut up. It just means they know another language, which probably means they’re smarter than you.
20:33 What does pre adoptive mean?