Leadership in Eliminating Workplace Bullying | Joanne Simon-Walters | TEDxSaintThomas

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  • Опубліковано 17 жов 2017
  • Joanne explores how transformational leadership attributes support a shift in company culture that creates an environment where bullies are not welcomed. Joanne’s talk will cause you to question your own behaviors, your action, and inaction when you encounter colleagues bullying each other. Joanne Simon-Walters is a resourceful leader with 20 years progressive management experience in financial services, information technology, healthcare consulting, education, and human resources. Joanne has earned degrees in finance and technology management and is currently pursuing her PhD in Creative Leadership for Innovation and Change at the University of the Virgin Islands. Joanne is the author of 3 HR certification preparation manuals and currently works in an HR leadership position locally. Joanne was born and raised in St. Thomas to Antiguan parents and is a wife and mother to a 9 year old son and 5 year old daughter. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

КОМЕНТАРІ • 101

  • @TGWMPE
    @TGWMPE 5 років тому +92

    I love it when she mentioned that some employees act like middle school children in the work place. So true!

    • @christopherkylen380
      @christopherkylen380 2 роки тому

      i guess im asking the wrong place but does any of you know of a way to get back into an Instagram account..?
      I stupidly lost the account password. I would appreciate any tricks you can give me

    • @loganjalen3802
      @loganjalen3802 2 роки тому

      @Christopher Kylen instablaster ;)

    • @srowe1528
      @srowe1528 2 роки тому +1

      They sure do... smh 🙄😒

  • @racheluk87
    @racheluk87 5 років тому +89

    Loved this! Been bullied by a HR Manager myself.. don't know why HR actually exists. Now I have my own business :)

    • @trudoll
      @trudoll 4 роки тому +10

      I don't know you but I am happy for you. God bless

    • @cacatr4495
      @cacatr4495 Рік тому +1

      It exists to hire/fire employees and to work for the corporation.

  • @kathyjowistert6026
    @kathyjowistert6026 3 роки тому +11

    bullying, intimidation, cruelty, meanness, mistreatment, and abuse of any kind has absolutely and positively NO place, business, or right to take place any where in our daily lives under any circumstances whatsoever. NOT in politics, NOT in our Government, Not in our workplaces, Churches, our homes, apartment complexes where we live and reside, NOT in our schools, Not in our homes and in our families, or relationships, either. and is just plain unjustified and inexcusable and must STOP, NOW and At ONCE!

  • @nselaaward
    @nselaaward 5 років тому +52

    This is so needed! I’m happy that someone is finally talking about this issue. Who stands up for the adults that are bullied? Thanks for doing this!

    • @TGWMPE
      @TGWMPE 4 роки тому +4

      Nobody will stand up. They do not want to lose their job.

    • @lemostjoyousrenegade
      @lemostjoyousrenegade 3 роки тому +2

      @@TGWMPE That has been my experience. Every "good/nice" coworker remains silent.

    • @TGWMPE
      @TGWMPE 3 роки тому +1

      @@lemostjoyousrenegade So True!

  • @corinadanaeca4778
    @corinadanaeca4778 5 років тому +26

    I respect that she has gone through the effort to do the things it takes to speak out about this serious issue. It's pretty sad when people feel so discouraged due to being abused at work that they become medically depressed or worse. People are human beings! It's alarming that cruelty to other people is allowed and even sometimes encouraged. We need to change this.

  • @michele_leona
    @michele_leona 2 роки тому +6

    The way I began to ball (weep) halfway through this video. I work in a super toxic environment. I’ve been targeted, bullied, and experienced many instances where people of influence have witnessed it and did nothing about it. I have been used as a scapegoat for underperforming individuals and shared some of the issues with others (including leaders). Nothing was/is being done. Anxiety, depression, trouble breathing, sickness and dread have become a part of my daily experience. My super joyful, inspirational self has slowly been fading and I constantly feel trapped. I would leave but I have financial responsibilities. I wouldn’t wish this on anyone!

    • @Xolo7Peace17
      @Xolo7Peace17 Рік тому +1

      U made me cry, coz I relate and know exactly wat u going through. Damn this is extremely deep
      This daily experience that you endure in the workplace cuts deep 🤞

  • @elisabethcornell7109
    @elisabethcornell7109 4 роки тому +37

    Thanks, I attempted suicide because of the bullying. It's soul destroying.

    • @Chipotle77
      @Chipotle77 4 роки тому +8

      I'm very sorry to hear that. I'm glad you're still alive. I hope you're doing well.

    • @elisabethcornell7109
      @elisabethcornell7109 4 роки тому +5

      @@Chipotle77 thanks for your support. I am here and determined that it is taken seriously as my family are waiting for answers from my employer.

    • @x7Votorious84x
      @x7Votorious84x 4 роки тому +1

      Elisabeth Cornell are you trying to get a explanation or are you suing? I feel like I could make a case but the cards are stacked it seems

    • @rozzie5651
      @rozzie5651 3 роки тому +1

      Out of all the videos about bullying I've seen, this is the best and my favorite, because i can put myself in her place as if i was right there, because of how she's explaining things. She gets to the meat of the matter.

    • @smoothiecutie2277
      @smoothiecutie2277 3 місяці тому

      Your comment was 4 years ago. Hope that all is well with you. Posting this comment on 2.23.24

  • @francescoallegretta389
    @francescoallegretta389 4 роки тому +15

    Thank you joanne! My boss closes his eyes on things like this. I reported it a lot of time, his answer is"come on, your colleague has just a bad temper"....
    So he decided to be a "bystander".
    I'm workimg hard to gather all the competence I need to leave this f*****n job!

  • @BriaBarrows
    @BriaBarrows 4 роки тому +44

    I just don’t get what’s so hard about hiring good managers and wanting happy employees

    • @TGWMPE
      @TGWMPE 4 роки тому +3

      i agree.

    • @Aerojet01
      @Aerojet01 3 роки тому +1

      You have to accept, bullying is part of human behaviour.

    • @bhbluebird
      @bhbluebird 3 роки тому +3

      It depends on the people at the top.

    • @LivingLightCoalition
      @LivingLightCoalition 3 роки тому +6

      @@Aerojet01 Nothing gets solved thinking that way. Bullying is a part of pathological behavior and people don't want to be out of the group. Feeling ousted from a group is part of human behavior. Bullies make up a small part of the workforce, people who are complicit bystanders make up the greater portion.

    • @cacatr4495
      @cacatr4495 Рік тому +2

      @@Aerojet01
      No it's not. It's part of Neurological Dysregulation: it is *not part of healthy people. It used to be rare in the workplace; narcissism has become far more prevalent in the population due to the changes in people's neurology. That is what forms their behaviors and attitudes.

  • @lovesings2us
    @lovesings2us 5 років тому +15

    I'm so sorry Joanne Simon-Walters had to go through such brutal injustice, but I am very inspired by her brilliant rising up, taking powerful action, and brave, passionate teaching. I''ll strive to be an ally rather than a bystander,
    though I've learned from rugged experience how choosing to be an ally can mean suffering serious retaliation.
    But if enough of us commit to being allies rather than bystanders, the retaliaters won't have a leg to stand on.

  • @alysencameron361
    @alysencameron361 4 роки тому +9

    In Canada there is within the criminal code a law against bullying, yet it is rarely reported or enforced. It is a very slow process to have people recognize their place in the bullying dynamic and change. The victim has to stop believing it is their lot in life and the bully has to stop believing this is the only behaviour to 'get ahead'.

  • @macunz111
    @macunz111 5 років тому +29

    You are brilliant and powerful. Best talk on bullying I have ever seen. Thank you 💗

  • @KB11480
    @KB11480 6 років тому +41

    Thank you for mentioning the psychological and physical impacts of bullying. I dealt with it for 3 years at Duke University and I spent the last year and a half thinking about dying; death was better than another day in that environment. Everyday I looked at Duke University Hospital in front of me, while on the road, and I could only think about how I could possibly get access to the roof and if the building was tall enough, to walk off and die.
    Thank you for your work and your speech. Despite the importance of WPB, this country has not come close to doing anything to address it. Thank you, so much, for sharing your story. Until they take it seriously, all we have is reinforcement and support for others who've also been there.

    • @walters1227
      @walters1227 6 років тому +4

      KB11480 I’m glad you continue to choose life. Peace and blessings to you.

    • @imdifferent7294
      @imdifferent7294 5 років тому +2

      Wow omg I applied there several times. God knows what's best.

    • @simplydee4522
      @simplydee4522 4 роки тому +7

      Funny how things can be done to us but we can be made to feel like we are the trouble makers.

    • @rozzie5651
      @rozzie5651 4 роки тому +2

      @@simplydee4522 you're right

    • @elisabethcornell7109
      @elisabethcornell7109 4 роки тому

      @@simplydee4522 exactly, when I raised these issues the bully she called me a troublemaker for raising it!!!

  • @EricaYE6
    @EricaYE6 4 роки тому +14

    Love the yellow jumpsuit, sista. 💛💛💛

  • @redcherry7485
    @redcherry7485 5 років тому +15

    Bullying and Psychopath is at NTUC supermarket in Singapore. They have a facebook. They allow customers to take photos of staff they are not happy with. They should be charged with slandering. And the staff be compensated. 💰💰🐕

  • @BriaBarrows
    @BriaBarrows 4 роки тому +6

    This is crazy. I am so sorry she went through this. This does not end in highschool. I’m sorry but someone would have to get beat up. Lol like I ain’t going out without a fight.

  • @didididi8419
    @didididi8419 5 років тому +26

    wow... the best TEDx I have ever seen. Honestly, the information she mentioned is exactly what I was looking for, I felt for the first time that someone is speaking for me. Thank you so much. Amazing work really. You made my day.

    • @garrymoise
      @garrymoise Місяць тому

      I agree. It is one of the best I have watched.

  • @user-he1pp9gh1l
    @user-he1pp9gh1l 5 років тому +17

    The best lecture I have seen on Bullying. She is amazing!!! I LOVE MY JOB! My boss is a bully. She doesn't just do it to me. I hope they do something but they probably won't. I have to look for a new job because of her. It is not fair.

    • @yvetteeholmes
      @yvetteeholmes 4 роки тому +6

      I went to HR (mistake) and recieved retaliation. I have incidents, names, dates, times, allys names, phone numbers, email addies, examples from coworkers and a appointment with the EEOC pray for me. Don't worry sis, I'm not going hurt myself.

    • @faithadams8162
      @faithadams8162 3 роки тому +2

      @@yvetteeholmes I hope you won.

  • @garrymoise
    @garrymoise Місяць тому

    I am going to share this video with students in my International Organizational Behavior class. This is a very important topic.

  • @ieyeshiabates3556
    @ieyeshiabates3556 6 років тому +14

    I should have learned about this in school.

  • @mayyang8350
    @mayyang8350 2 роки тому +3

    Wow! Every work organization should have their employees watch this TedTalk.

    • @Xolo7Peace17
      @Xolo7Peace17 Рік тому +1

      I second u recommdation, precisely they shld watch this🤞

  • @quintonmillett5149
    @quintonmillett5149 3 роки тому +2

    One UA-cam show said bullying is on the rapid increase include virtual work, since 2017.

  • @jmk2530
    @jmk2530 4 роки тому +4

    Thank you for this presentation.

  • @timberwaters
    @timberwaters 4 роки тому +2

    Wow just wow. I'm in tears. You talk about so much I am only thinking about. Thank you. I know I am not alone. Thank you

  • @apriljohnson2441
    @apriljohnson2441 4 роки тому +8

    I can relate to all of this😢

    • @hexoroid
      @hexoroid 4 роки тому

      Stay strong hun.. Karma gets those sooner or later

  • @AudraT
    @AudraT 4 роки тому +9

    I think both of her situations could be considered workplace bullying, however, I would be careful about defining workplace bullying solely on the impact. Some people are way to sensitive and could perceive the slightest wrong glance as bullying. Cranky people who are not always the sweetest are not a bully, just troubled. Bullies are a class of their own and they know exactly what they are doing.

    • @BriaBarrows
      @BriaBarrows 4 роки тому +2

      Audra T very true. Most jobs just have horrible management

  • @GP-mw9nj
    @GP-mw9nj 5 років тому +6

    brilliant & inspiring

  • @elianacordobasepulveda6887
    @elianacordobasepulveda6887 3 роки тому +1

    Yes! Is unbelievably prevalent

  • @adventurecoalition3690
    @adventurecoalition3690 Рік тому +1

    This is so spot on, this goes on far too often. Thank you for story and coming forward for others in the same situations. Best video on this topic yet. Thank you so much 🙏

  • @bonniefritz5395
    @bonniefritz5395 3 роки тому +1

    That was an amazing speech! I star book marked it so I can watch it again and take notes to present to my manager! What a wonderful correlation announced!

  • @2lemonades
    @2lemonades 4 роки тому +3

    Thank you for this.

  • @KB11480
    @KB11480 6 років тому +6

    Amazing speech re WPB. Thank you for your perspective, expertise and insight.

    • @walters1227
      @walters1227 6 років тому

      KB11480 Thank you for watching and your feedback.

  • @annabellalea6979
    @annabellalea6979 5 років тому +3

    GIRL, GO! Thank you so very much

  • @tracysmith3051
    @tracysmith3051 3 роки тому

    An excellent talk! I agree you were bullied. The impact from work colleagues behaviour can immobilise others i have experienced this and more times than I care to remember. I can resonate with your experiences.....is it me, am I cut out for this job and oh my over 50% discussion on this. With the best of intent getting my head and pushing through it so to speak is not always achievable. Thank you I needed to see this today.

  • @hdmccluskey
    @hdmccluskey 5 років тому +8

    Good Job!!!!!

  • @janepettinger9009
    @janepettinger9009 3 роки тому +1

    Bravo for putting this information together, making it personal and focusing on positive change!

  • @RicardoJimenezCR
    @RicardoJimenezCR 4 роки тому

    Such an amazing talk. Thank you Joanne for your clarity, inspiration and example, I was really impacted by you and your energy.

  • @SetoKnight
    @SetoKnight 2 роки тому

    She was really amazing I am just watching this now and this is everything that I needed to hear.

  • @jaclynshawmsbisii3521
    @jaclynshawmsbisii3521 5 років тому +4

    Sounds right on.

  • @bhbluebird
    @bhbluebird 3 роки тому

    Good talk and I'm glad the last ten years has brought more attention to this issue.

  • @tiffanystancil3087
    @tiffanystancil3087 Рік тому

    God bless you. Thanks I am going through this. Thanks 😊 bless you
    Thanks for sharing.

  • @zenafrey9391
    @zenafrey9391 2 роки тому

    Beautiful thank you!!

  • @mmoore3096
    @mmoore3096 Рік тому

    Go Joanne - we hold the power!

  • @rosebarbour8493
    @rosebarbour8493 3 роки тому

    Amazing talk, thank you!

  • @noweare1
    @noweare1 3 роки тому +2

    There was no way I was going to change my workplace. They were only concerned with one thing. Making money and making lots of it. All other things are not important.

  • @coralspringsworship
    @coralspringsworship 4 роки тому +3

    Great speech

  • @noemisolano4748
    @noemisolano4748 Рік тому

    I worked in two different work places where there was 2 bullies in one work place and 1 in the other work place.
    The other work place I had to deal with a 60 year old bully. I couldn't believe a person that age could be a bully!!
    I too always thought is something wrong with me. But it wasn't. I did my work and was a team player. This 60 year old gossiped at work about me and I didn't know nothing. The 60 year old bully was friends with the higher upp. So nothing was done. This bully still works there but I don't, I left. There was nothing I could do to get this bully removed.
    Morale was so so low with those bullies in the work place. I wanted to work remotely to avoid bullies at work and toxic work environments.
    .

  • @Bubbalinsky-pz4oe
    @Bubbalinsky-pz4oe 10 місяців тому

    I cannot believe they put an ad in the middle of this

  • @PTOFofficial
    @PTOFofficial 8 місяців тому

    Love this! You’re amazing!

    • @PTOFofficial
      @PTOFofficial 8 місяців тому

      This is Ketrina responding not Kalaya 😄

  • @scooble
    @scooble 4 роки тому +2

    I think intention is important, unfortunately, people lie about their intentions and say they didn't mean it, when they did (which a bully is always going to do).
    However, even if they didn't realise what they said, they should be encouraged to see all the different ways in which it could be perceived.
    Criticism should always be constructive in order to lift people up, not put them down.
    But, yes agree totally about civility and professionalism without going too over the top, otherwise, it can come off as insincere and inauthentic.

  • @henninbr
    @henninbr 6 років тому +8

    I don't know you but I love you.

  • @andrewc.2952
    @andrewc.2952 5 років тому +3

    Go get em.

  • @dandruff3414
    @dandruff3414 3 роки тому

    When she said "the answer lies.." my mind screams out "IN THE HEART OF BATTLE!" lol. I'll never grow up

  • @SublinkK34
    @SublinkK34 3 роки тому +1

    I am social Worker just got the job with in 3 weeks I got called from my team work mate called me a baby I am not good enough at work to slow

  • @helenarose580
    @helenarose580 3 роки тому

    Wow

  • @Writer_Tj_Noir
    @Writer_Tj_Noir 3 роки тому

    🙏🙏🙏

  • @cacatr4495
    @cacatr4495 Рік тому +1

    Bystander = Enabler. There is something very wrong in the mind/heart of someone that laughs at (reviles) others. It's twisted; it's immoral, unethical. It does damage to people's lives, to their hearts. One cannot say they are humane, and bully or stand by when others do it, and not lift their voice to stand against it. If you consider yourself to be humane, then you *must stand up against abuse/bullying.
    No, not everyone bullies. To suggest that, is to suggest that it is somehow normal, and it isn't. It's a subset within neurological dysregulation. Forty-five years ago, bullying in the workplace was not seen but rarely, if ever. People were civilized, they were respectful, the workplace could be pleasant, and it was. Professional behavior was absolutely required, and respect was the order of the day. Bullying is extremely abnormal, and just because the culture has disintegrated so severely that it can be commonly seen now, does not make it "normal." It is a behavior that destroys, and destructive people destroy themselves. 11:52 Yes, bullying *is deviant. It is anti-social, anti-society, anti-Life because it is destructive. All those that take part in bullying, not only do damage to others, but they damage themselves.

  • @Enavor
    @Enavor 4 роки тому +1

    Audio record, name & shame on social media. Only way change can happen. THE ONLY WAY!

  • @brighteous1208
    @brighteous1208 4 роки тому

    13:32

  • @moperson1
    @moperson1 4 роки тому

    And....

  • @fishslingerbear1587
    @fishslingerbear1587 2 роки тому +1

    Bullying will never go away. You are only replacing old school bullying with new "woke" SJW PC bullying.

  • @user-kn3rv1ny3b
    @user-kn3rv1ny3b Рік тому

    i feel bullied listening to you ! 🙂 ha ha !! kidding

  • @LOADING...o.o.o
    @LOADING...o.o.o 4 роки тому

    Wait. She aren’t wearing a bra? 😳