How to move past a TOXIC RELATIONSHIP | Moving on & BREAKING FREE from a toxic person

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  • How to move past a TOXIC RELATIONSHIP | Moving on & BREAKING FREE from a toxic person
    Why do I love a toxic person? Why do I want to be with someone so toxic? How do you stop loving a toxic person? For those of us who have felt stuck in a toxic relationship before, these are questions we can certainly relate to. Breaking free from a toxic person and being able to move on when you're still in love is much easier said than done, and it can be very difficult to know when to let go. However, breaking free from a toxic relationship is certainly possible once you are willing to be radically honest about the stories you are telling yourself, such as hoping your toxic partner will change or believing that they have the potential to be better than they are. In this video, I discuss how to move past a toxic relationship and how to move on from someone you love deeply. Although it may not be possible to stop loving a toxic person, what and who you choose to permit into your life is entirely within your control. This video is the wake up call you need to get away from your toxic relationship.
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    I'm Ash Nord, your truth-bombing fairy godmother for everything love, dating and relationships. With so many idealistic, romanticised Hollywood messages about love out there, my mission is to be an honest, unfiltered source of information for individuals and couples seeking honest relationship advice and love lessons. No games, no manipulation tactics, no teachings about how to trick someone into liking you… so, if that’s what you’re looking for, I’m probably not your girl. My content is geared towards those wanting to learn more about REAL intimacy and togetherness with their partners or future partners. I have a psychological focus (I'm a psychology student) and a genuine passion for understanding how humans relate to and connect with one another. If you're into that type of thing, or would simply like to hear personal stories about my own life experiences and romantic relationships, then stick around! I got you.
    DISCLAIMER: Please note everything stated in this video and all videos on my channel are purely my personal opinions and are for entertainment purposes only. I am not a qualified professional and as such my opinions should not be taken as psychological advice.
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  • @Sarah-fs2fw
    @Sarah-fs2fw 3 роки тому +180

    Yes!! Please do more videos on this subject. I love that you addressed the bullshit stories we tell ourselves! Yes I loved my ex, so much that I forgot my boundaries and became a shell of myself all for fear of losing him. But down to the brass tacks; he started treating me like shit, criticised me and was abusive and this had a major affect on me mentally to the point I had no self esteem. He got with someone else within 2 weeks of breaking up, it hurt like hell and I was fooled at first by the ‘loving pics’ etc and desperately wanted him back, but really it’s all crap because I know what he is like & she has no idea what she has got herself into. I tried warning her - that was a waste of time! - but people have to find these things out for themselves. I still have bad days & think that he may have miraculously changed for someone else. But I know I need to face the reality that he wasn’t showing up for me in the relationship and I deserve better. Ps I love your cat! 😂

    • @AshleyNord
      @AshleyNord  3 роки тому +10

      Yes yes and yes to everything you said! I couldn’t agree more, and you should be so proud of yourself for having the insight to recognise all of that now. Being able to be honest with yourself about the true quality of your relationship as well as what kind of stories you were telling yourself about him/the relationship is EVERYTHING! Well done to you! Heheh thank you, he’s the sweetest little boy 😍❤️

    • @louiskane7621
      @louiskane7621 2 роки тому

      you all prolly dont care at all but does anybody know a method to get back into an instagram account..?
      I was stupid forgot my login password. I would appreciate any help you can give me!

    • @jersey_xoxo9082
      @jersey_xoxo9082 2 роки тому +1

      Gurl lmk wat happened! Im in da SAME situation my bf" who i had a bby w/ last yr is toxic asf & abusive verbally & physically & its bad really bad to da point i dnt want him BUT i dnt want him to leave cuz of our bby! 1. Ima b da one suffering financially & emotionally w/ da bby bein a single mom & i dnt want hime to have fun & act single wen he dnt wana take care of his bby 2. Ive given him so much advice on how to strengthen our relationship & he dsnt care i cnt stand tht i kicked him out & hes lookin for hoes to fck & i cnt stand da idea of him movin on a day ltr & bein in a relationship & makin her happy while i gave him the world & got treated like shit i cnt stand dat feelin of him makin someone else happy🤬

    • @sabilaayyida
      @sabilaayyida 2 роки тому +1

      @@jersey_xoxo9082 hi, i was a kid that raised in the family that my mom who the one suffering financially but my dad doing nothing at home, have a bad habit, talk negative about people and abuse his children at the young age. But my mom kept this relationship, meanwhile me, have traumatic and verbally abuse by my father. If you love and want to give a happy future for your child and want to show what love your child deserve or as a sample of what you deserve so your child can learn from you, you know what to do. :)

    • @dianezemliak5606
      @dianezemliak5606 Рік тому

      He NEVER deserved You in the first place!!!!

  • @kaylanicole3962
    @kaylanicole3962 2 роки тому +204

    i just left an abusive relationship and as much as i should be relieved to be out of it, i feel the absolute MOST crippling anxiety that i have ever felt. anytime i think about it i start crying and panicking and i have to force myself not to get back into contact. i am starting to see how the extreme attachment to someone who treated me so badly is so unhealthy. in some moments i feel more miserable without him than i felt when he constantly put me down. i really just am having the hardest time, this is SO much harder than i thought it would be.

    • @inesscrivo4036
      @inesscrivo4036 2 роки тому +4

      how are u doing now? i'm feeling the same...

    • @alexis878
      @alexis878 2 роки тому +2

      same

    • @Alondajones8
      @Alondajones8 2 роки тому +10

      I completely understand I found myself doing the same thing with my ex husband. It sucks when you want to go back but you know you shouldn't. It's such a toxic mind thinking

    • @kaylanicole3962
      @kaylanicole3962 2 роки тому +43

      @@inesscrivo4036 I am feeling SO MUCH BETTER. I just feel so inclined to reply to this now that I am doing well because it truly does get better. I am happy and independent. My anxiety has decreased so much. I am completely out of contact with my toxic ex.

    • @inesscrivo4036
      @inesscrivo4036 2 роки тому +6

      @@kaylanicole3962 thats so nice to hear! I was surprised to see my own comment was made one month ago. I'm still not over him. Feeling some glimpses of relief here and there, about the rest I feel completely hopeless and wary of everyone. I was hoping for the healing to be faster than this :(

  • @insafk6416
    @insafk6416 Рік тому +33

    "Love doesn't take away your free will" this hits deep

  • @jessicahernandez1853
    @jessicahernandez1853 3 роки тому +195

    So true! I saw the red flags of my ex since the first date and for so many reasons (now I realise) I just ignored them for almost 2 years. We broke up almost 5 months ago and yes it was really hard the first months, but it was the best choice ever! Trought the hard times I learned so much and felt a strenght that I didn't know I have, now I feel so much relieve, I'm happy again an the most important I feel peace! That relationship brought so much anxiety and caos into my life and I didn't want to see it because I was so "inlove", I didn't respect myself and the lesson has been huge! So don't be afraid, it might be scary and painful at first, but I promise that if you focus on yourself you'll fell better than ever and eventually meet someone good for you :)

    • @AshleyNord
      @AshleyNord  3 роки тому +7

      Thanks so much for sharing your story! I’m so happy you were able to rediscover your strength amidst your breakup. It sounds like you’ve learnt so many extremely valuable lessons. A big well done to you! ❤️

    • @tamarakelly3369
      @tamarakelly3369 3 роки тому

      Wow thanks for the comment that is amazing x

    • @rajinredowan5872
      @rajinredowan5872 2 роки тому

      thanks jessica you make me confident about my decision.

    • @adamfuz
      @adamfuz 2 роки тому +1

      I saw red flags on my ex also, which I ignored, talk about a wake-up call!! 🤦

    • @hob1996
      @hob1996 2 роки тому

      I’m proud of you

  • @mattblom3990
    @mattblom3990 3 роки тому +97

    It hurts. I'm a 6'1" man who had to break up with his toxic gorgeous ex yesterday. I was confident and assertive when I met her, but she beat it out of me daily over several months. I'm sad, ashamed, but I was "patient" as her and I called it, out of love. I'm grieving because I tried so hard with her but am moving on.

    • @kajja27
      @kajja27 2 роки тому +1

      I know how you feel

    • @hir0neko
      @hir0neko 2 роки тому +5

      Right there with you brother. Her family was saying that I was “patient” while being with her. Saw the signs over the course of 2 years. Had to leave and so far the best choice of my life. My mental health is more important than trying to make everything work all by myself…

    • @HolisticMotion
      @HolisticMotion 2 роки тому +1

      Relatable. Coming up on 3 months single soon.
      A few people described it as “she made your light dim” after we split.

    • @gabeleone6896
      @gabeleone6896 2 роки тому

      There’s other pretty ones, and looks are inside and out, and evil girl with a pretty face is still an evil hit

    • @Sheswho
      @Sheswho 2 роки тому

      I hope you are doing much better now dude

  • @codystaves6390
    @codystaves6390 3 роки тому +63

    “You have to separate your feelings of love from your conscience choices and actions.”
    Yes 🙌

  • @arielvidriales
    @arielvidriales Рік тому +3

    I was with an abusive liar. He tried to control the way that I looked and lied to me. But he wasn't malicious, he was only a child. I thought I could show them the right path, but the experience only intoxicated me to the point where I didn't know who I was. I'm healing right now and it sucks bc I still have feelings for him.

  • @merrymerryquitecontrary136
    @merrymerryquitecontrary136 2 роки тому +3

    I’m hurt rn and sad. When u give a person your all and they js turn around and spit in your face repeatedly. I js hope I can get through this and wake up not thinking or feeling like this anymore.I wil get through this. God be with me plz. Bless evryone, especially those who are feeling like me and going through this 🥺❤️👍🏽

  • @mariamanou2987
    @mariamanou2987 2 роки тому +9

    I’m going through a break up right now and it feels like it’s never going to get any better. This person was so toxic and I kept ignoring and forgiving everything he did only for him to do the same things over and over again. He never cared about how much he hurt me, he would lie about everything and he would manipulate me as hell. I know I’m better off without him, but it’s so hard letting him go. I also know that he already has another girl and this pain is just unbearable. I don’t know what else to do, I just want all this pain to be over

  • @John_Szwed
    @John_Szwed 29 днів тому +1

    Journal is key. Write it down. Sit back and look at it. It’s right there in front of you. Please walk away. Take the pain and forget the person you thought they were. They aren’t. Toxic will kill your soul!

  • @fatimasari7770
    @fatimasari7770 2 роки тому +60

    Really needed to hear this! My ex sold me so many dreams through words but never proven through action. We have to believe that person that they show us and that person is undesirable. I plucked the courage to leave but post-breakup "entertained a chaotic dynamic" I guess because as you said I was desiring that chaos and didn't know any better. But it is soul destroying to be addicted to an individual who is not good for you! But with enough support and videos like this, we can all do better for ourselves and claim our dignities back, we all worthy of stable, happy fulfilling love!

  • @TheRealSlimshadyyyyyy
    @TheRealSlimshadyyyyyy Рік тому +13

    I literally listen to this video at least every other day. I’m getting better, and I use this video as the mantra to start holding space for myself. Makes me better every time I hear it.

  • @bxnzer7630
    @bxnzer7630 3 роки тому +51

    Oh my gosh this video perfectly coincides with my recent breakup. I broke up with my now ex just over a week ago because I caught him in a lie, and throughout our entire relationship he had been hiding things from me involving other people. I kept telling myself "he's not a malicious person! he's a good person who has bad judgement and a lot of baggage" and then forgave him and stayed time and time again. Your point about letting go of the story you tell yourself and facing the facts is so enlightening. Thank you thank you thank you

    • @AshleyNord
      @AshleyNord  3 роки тому +2

      So happy it resonated with you and that it was relevant to your current situation! I can relate to that story all too well. You’re so welcome! ❤️

  • @wendyb1578
    @wendyb1578 2 роки тому +3

    I wrote down In my notes on my phone all the things I didn't like/hated about my toxic ex, but I overlooked it all at the time cause I thought I loved them.
    All the times they were hurtful towards me, all my suspicions, truths I found out & the lies they told me over our time together.
    kept adding over time, when i remembered things id pushed to the back of my mind years ago, cause they had me fooled.
    Every time I felt that I missed them or loved them still.. i hot it up & I read through it.
    It really worked.
    I hope to delete this one day when I'm over my toxic ex.. negativity isn't good but it serves a purpose in opening your eyes to how they really treated you.. & shows you how you should not be treated in the future.
    Thought ppl shouldn't be in your life.

  • @user-ml9bs2lf5c
    @user-ml9bs2lf5c 7 місяців тому +1

    Looking back and like you say, being totally honest to yourself/myself, my toxic relationship did not last for two years, it was the two years that it took to break free, from a loving but toxic person, of whom I now succeeded to walk away from and be free and be myself again.

  • @wayfairer5086
    @wayfairer5086 2 роки тому +5

    I just ignored the first massive red flag from this person. And suffered because of it. But I am done now. I am watching all the videos I can for support and my friends are really helping me through it all.

  • @brigitconroy8306
    @brigitconroy8306 2 роки тому +28

    Thank you so much for this. Another thing I believe is that once someone has done you wrong and they beg for forgiveness and show THAT desperate love that YOU want too, it becomes addicting. You almost seek THAT love out again. Even if it means enduring dysfunction.

  • @kimking3314
    @kimking3314 3 роки тому +8

    this is so wonderful, and exactly what I needed to hear. I appreciate you so much for taking the time to help this many people with something that's so hard to do on your own

  • @adamgafa1693
    @adamgafa1693 3 роки тому +2

    I've watched a few of these and this one really helped thanks heaps

  • @veronicabuford3095
    @veronicabuford3095 3 роки тому

    Yes 🙌🏼 thank you so much this video is extremely empowering and I am so blessed to have found it when I became truly ready. I am so grateful for this breakthrough

  • @seangrady9542
    @seangrady9542 2 роки тому +2

    Thank you for this. I've been struggling. My weakness is staying busy in the aftermath.

  • @xxpositivexxful
    @xxpositivexxful 3 роки тому +4

    So perfectly put and you’ve really helped me confirm the decision I made was right. I ended a 5 month relationship with a guy who had so many red flags that I kept pushing aside. I stopped going back because I couldn’t see a future with him. Thank you 😊

  • @productivejayvlogs2807
    @productivejayvlogs2807 2 роки тому

    Amazing video to say the least. Gave me a new perspective, and I can honestly say I feel better.

  • @leensmiley
    @leensmiley 2 роки тому +4

    Ashley, I had tears watching with video because you are so right. It seems to simple and logical, but when we are in love we can be ignorant and delusion is the child of ignorance . The image I have of him doesn’t represent him. I have been in a toxic on off relationship for 2 1/2 years now, and every couple of months he uses the feelings I have for him, for physical „intimacy“ and I always justify it. He has broken my heart 4 times by now (replacing me for example), but because I’m so in love with the idea of him I can’t let go. He knows that, and abuses this. The point is: I have to judge him as a person, by his actions and what they have consistently shown. I already subscribed, please talk about this more.

  • @clarasanches9345
    @clarasanches9345 3 роки тому

    Thank you for this I really needed it

  • @mirandahernandez2859
    @mirandahernandez2859 2 роки тому

    This video spoke so much to me. Thank you for your content

  • @stephaniejohnson9644
    @stephaniejohnson9644 Рік тому

    This is the best talk I have heard on this topic! Thank you 🙏

  • @luiscalderon84
    @luiscalderon84 3 роки тому +4

    You read me like a book. I cried, and hard, but I needed to hear it

    • @AshleyNord
      @AshleyNord  3 роки тому +1

      I’m so happy it resonated with you, but also so sorry to hear that you’re in a painful situation. Sending you so much love and strength ❤️

  • @baileykurlov5110
    @baileykurlov5110 2 роки тому

    Thank you for this, you have no idea how this helps. I’m crying out of sadness right now and I know what to do but thank you for making this video.

  • @vanillabean6453
    @vanillabean6453 2 роки тому +1

    Hi! I know this has been a year already but I hope you can talk more about this. I’m seeing this at a very perfect moment in my life rn. Thank you so much.
    I never really understood why I kept coming back and my friends are tired of hearing about the toxic relationship. But I’m trying to choose myself now. Thank you for bringing a lot of clarity and I really hope to hear you talk about this more. ❤️

  • @kingstropharia8011
    @kingstropharia8011 3 роки тому +3

    Hi Ashley , good morning to you.just found your podcasts and this podcast really resonates with me
    Really speaks to me and hits home.I realize now that my relationship with my wife has been a toxic one right from the very beginning. I get treated like shit and I feel like shit. Someone not to long ago asked me if I have been dipped in shit lately,and to his surprise. I said yes I have been. My wife is definitely a covert narcissist and she's an alcoholic besides ,which doesn't help matters at all. I'm just now finding out about narcissists.i could never understand what was going on. All the time. I do now understand. Lies on top of lies. Cheating to no end, totally immoral acts totally indecent acts .No empathy and never any accountability. I never knew that someone could be so cold hearted ,so cruel. Hey Ashley I'm glad I found your podcasts and I will continue listening to you. Thank you very much for all your helpful podcasts .Till next time,. Have a good day.

  • @alyssacocchiarella9607
    @alyssacocchiarella9607 Рік тому

    Thank you Ashley that made a lot of sense. You brought me a lot of clarity. I'll definitely be leaning on your youtube videos to continue to keep my mind clear and not fall back into the bs. Thank you ur a strong woman and I value that.

  • @swatijayant8330
    @swatijayant8330 2 роки тому +3

    Every sentence hit me hard as I am currently in the exact situation. I have been treated like shit for last one year and i keep telling these unrealistic stories to myself that he will change eventually and would love me the way he used to in the beginning. I have decided to move on as it’s badly impacting my mental health to the extent that seldom I get thoughts of giving up on life. But I have decided to realise my worth after all which unfortunately I forgot feeding his ego, tantrums or shitty behaviour. The only issue is my every day and every activity was attached to him. We were in a live-in relationship and now i don’t know how to get rid of this chronic habit. I cry almost everyday because I miss our time together and I am very attached to him. I know that he is not worth my efforts at all but this attachment in my mind is not allowing me to let go of him. Basically not love but the habit I have built during this whole time staying with him, is what affecting my moving on decision. I don’t want to go back to him ever. If you can suggest something on this, I would be really glad.
    Thanks for making such helpful video !!

  • @edwardmasiulis4659
    @edwardmasiulis4659 3 роки тому +5

    Thank you! There are two choices I choose to leave and build on myself. Some people will not change. I deserve better or to be alone and I am okay with that. PEACE

  • @rbs427
    @rbs427 Рік тому

    Thank you for the clarity.

  • @myawascavage
    @myawascavage Рік тому

    going through this rn and helped me rethink a LOT. thank you❤

  • @brigitconroy8306
    @brigitconroy8306 2 роки тому

    First of all you are gorgeous! And thank you so much for this video. Always believe these men even though I am smart enough to know otherwise.

  • @Summerlove23
    @Summerlove23 2 роки тому +9

    I really needed to hear this . Thank you. I'm divorcing a covert narcissist and i really don't want to because of my trauma bond. Its hurts so much.

  • @matthowland3550
    @matthowland3550 Рік тому

    I’m a 29 yo male going through some drama and this video solidified how I was feeling, I entered a new relationship with an old friend and it was immediately abusive and toxic and I didn’t see it and I knew something was wrong, I listened to this video and you’re exactly right and I’m willing to except my flaws and see that she was preying on them. Keep up the good work girl ❤

  • @dawnfen
    @dawnfen 2 роки тому

    I love everything you said, so true

  • @elskar1
    @elskar1 Рік тому

    Thank you for the wise reminder !!!🙏

  • @hob1996
    @hob1996 2 роки тому

    I am in need for videos like that, thank you really I felt good for leaving him today.

  • @stephaniel6883
    @stephaniel6883 Рік тому

    This gave me so much peace ❤

  • @jacquesdeacy7412
    @jacquesdeacy7412 11 місяців тому

    Thank you SO much for this video.

  • @arnibarnie
    @arnibarnie 10 місяців тому

    Thanks for this. And I love your makeup. You're beautiful :)

  • @shaymikulka6071
    @shaymikulka6071 3 роки тому +39

    You may have saved my life with this video. This is exactly what I’ve needed to hear. Thank you ❤️

    • @AshleyNord
      @AshleyNord  3 роки тому +3

      You’re so welcome! I’m so happy it resonated with you ❤️❤️

  • @kylelamb5343
    @kylelamb5343 2 роки тому

    Thank you you for this!

  • @nataliemacias1
    @nataliemacias1 Рік тому

    THANKS this video help me out so much i really needed to hear this !!!

  • @user-rb5ji5le1q
    @user-rb5ji5le1q 10 місяців тому

    Got it you put that in a firm way tgat i could understand i needed to hear that

  • @vertodroit1493
    @vertodroit1493 3 роки тому

    Thank You for this video Ash . I have been struggling with the same and a month ago we broke up but Somewhere I was feeling guilty . But after This video I m feeling better . 👍 . Thank you.

  • @nokaptv2736
    @nokaptv2736 Рік тому

    This helped me so much and 2 years after it was originally posted!

  • @user-wr9ci7nw2j
    @user-wr9ci7nw2j 10 місяців тому

    on f ing point! i needed this! thank you

  • @womanof13capes23
    @womanof13capes23 2 роки тому

    Oh my gosh, your camouflage cat scared me lol. He blends amazingly on your sheets.
    What a beautiful cat..
    Great, honest video. Thank you!!

  • @pratikshasingh5242
    @pratikshasingh5242 3 роки тому

    This topic perfectly resonates with me... Thank you so much for this one..💗
    Desperately waiting for your upcoming videos..

    • @AshleyNord
      @AshleyNord  3 роки тому +1

      I’m so happy to hear that! And you’re very welcome ❤️❤️ and I’m back!! Thanks so much for waiting for me ☺️🥰

  • @mindyreyes541
    @mindyreyes541 3 роки тому +12

    Thank you so much for your video.. I wish I would’ve heard it when I was younger. I’m 53 now I’m glad I learned it NOW better late than never. Your words spoke to me in 3-D. Keep doing what you’re doing. And much love to you too🙏🏼🤗

    • @AshleyNord
      @AshleyNord  3 роки тому

      You’re so welcome! I’m so happy it resonated with you! It’s never too late to learn these lessons and we all have our unique journeys and paths 😊 thank you so much for the encouragement and support, much love to you as well!! ❤️

  • @grayscar05
    @grayscar05 2 роки тому

    Oh my gosh .... this is so good!

  • @hani9633
    @hani9633 3 роки тому

    this helps alot!!!! thank you for this really thank you.

  • @cindyhurtubise1574
    @cindyhurtubise1574 2 роки тому +3

    Big breath...you are an amazing speaker, sad to hear what you say is the truth. 17 year marriage, and faced head on, and I'm paralyzed with fear. I've just made the decision to leave and just writing the words tears me to the core. I don't want to do it, but I've tried and tried and tried. I'm scared, and sad so sad, knowing what I must face, for the 2nd time in my life. Give me strength.

  • @ToxicsmilesXD
    @ToxicsmilesXD 3 роки тому +3

    I really needed to hear this after 1.5 months of no contact.

    • @AshleyNord
      @AshleyNord  3 роки тому

      So happy it resonated with you!! ❤️

  • @srushtishah1862
    @srushtishah1862 Рік тому

    Omg, Love this video. So realistic and well explained. Something I needed to hear right now. Keep making such videos you’re helping so many like Me. ❤❤

  • @MarquiceMoore
    @MarquiceMoore Рік тому

    Wonderful massage, thank you Angel ❤😢

  • @shanika8
    @shanika8 Рік тому +2

    I was in a toxic 2 year on again off again relationship I went from fat to skinny even the doctor told me I wasn't eating, drinking and sleeping enough I could never eat or sleep I just cried all the time he recently left me for my ex friend I qas crying I even left my home and drove I went back home and I feel so happy now because I'm free away from that demon to me driving in the middle of nowhere with relaxing music is pure therapy im also im therapy

  • @victoriam3894
    @victoriam3894 Рік тому

    This is a great video. Definitely apart of my wake up call journey.

  • @adamfuz
    @adamfuz 2 роки тому +2

    Bang on Ashley, really need to hear this at this exact moment, live and direct and straight to the point.

    • @AshleyNord
      @AshleyNord  2 роки тому +2

      I’m so happy it resonated with you! Sending you lots of love and strength ❤️🙏🏼

    • @adamfuz
      @adamfuz 2 роки тому

      @@AshleyNord awww, thank you, you're so very kind,🙂 if only you knew my story. It's crazy what you put up with when you deeply love someone, it's really knocked me about but as I said, your videos really help so thank you from the bottom of my heart.🙏❤️

  • @amberbrown4267
    @amberbrown4267 3 роки тому +2

    I Have Listened to this 5 times already. I Am Really Hurting. But this video helps. Thank you ❤

    • @AshleyNord
      @AshleyNord  3 роки тому

      I’m so sorry to hear that you’re hurting 😔 I’m happy my video was able to be of some help! You’re very welcome ❤️

  • @shynessbreakthroughcommuni826
    @shynessbreakthroughcommuni826 3 роки тому

    Great suggestions for a touchy subject! Many face this exact challenge

    • @AshleyNord
      @AshleyNord  3 роки тому

      Thanks so much! So happy you think so 😊 and I agree, sadly I think this is a position most of us have been in before!

  • @nickre96988
    @nickre96988 4 місяці тому +1

    I think this is exactly what I needed to hear. While I was the one who made the final call, it feels like this person broke up with me with their behavior.

  • @stephenkane7499
    @stephenkane7499 2 роки тому

    Please keep on, because I'm such in love with her. I know it's over, but we were so good in the beginning and I didn't see the red flags from the beginning.

  • @anne-marietracey4866
    @anne-marietracey4866 6 місяців тому

    What an amazing video. You are absolutely right and thank you for your insightful words 😊

  • @productioninquiry8937
    @productioninquiry8937 11 місяців тому

    This is a very good video. Thank you. 🙏🏾

  • @arthurzhu795
    @arthurzhu795 8 місяців тому

    its been a healing process listening ash...

  • @flyyygirlll
    @flyyygirlll 3 роки тому +21

    You definitely hit the nail on the head. I have to make the choice to stop allowing him to continue to hurt and disappoint me. At this point,after all these years, I'm a volunteer.... not a victim. Time to DEAL with the truth and HEAL the hurt.

  • @chinachanelle
    @chinachanelle 2 роки тому +9

    Idk why i feel like everything is my fault 😕 when all I wanted was real love.

  • @carolinagrime-vq4jv
    @carolinagrime-vq4jv Рік тому

    I have just ended a toxic relationship and came across your video, I want to say thank you so much, your video just makes it so clear, is painful to look at it this way but I needed that right now.

    • @carolinagrime-vq4jv
      @carolinagrime-vq4jv 9 місяців тому

      @JoshuaBaris-je6ws you will have to be patient and give it time unfortunately. A lot of reading and learning about healing. Hope things get better soon.

  • @riceshineshow
    @riceshineshow 3 роки тому +1

    Informative video! Loving yourself first is OKAY

    • @AshleyNord
      @AshleyNord  3 роки тому

      Absolutely! ❤️🙌🏼

  • @chinachanelle
    @chinachanelle 2 роки тому

    I needed this video 😔

  • @user-dm8vb1xv7i
    @user-dm8vb1xv7i 4 місяці тому

    Thank you. Not able to afford expensive therapists. This helps ten fold.

  • @user-rb5ji5le1q
    @user-rb5ji5le1q 10 місяців тому

    Maurice,Thankyou done!!

  • @MM-fn6tx
    @MM-fn6tx 3 роки тому +1

    This video spoke directly to me.

    • @AshleyNord
      @AshleyNord  3 роки тому

      I’m so happy to hear that! I’m glad it resonated with you 😊

  • @aprildawn221
    @aprildawn221 2 роки тому

    I needed this ...

  • @chelseapoet3664
    @chelseapoet3664 3 роки тому +1

    Excellent video, thank you!

    • @AshleyNord
      @AshleyNord  3 роки тому

      You’re so welcome! Thank you for watching ❤️

  • @rikaiahenry1636
    @rikaiahenry1636 2 роки тому

    Thank you for this video ❤️ new subscriber

  • @khady_Ndiaye
    @khady_Ndiaye 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you for this

    • @AshleyNord
      @AshleyNord  3 роки тому

      You’re so welcome ❤️❤️

  • @kristinbrowne8756
    @kristinbrowne8756 4 місяці тому

    Thank you Ashley.
    I keep postponing my departure... and I am so very close.

  • @terrysmith636
    @terrysmith636 2 роки тому

    I just wanted to say thank you. I am coming out of a rocky 4 year relationship with a narcissist. She has multiple addictions and showed me who she was a bunch of times, all to my detriment. Lies, cheating, drugs, and tons of verbal abuse coming my way when I dared to hold her accountable. I could write a book, but I'll stop here, because I'm moving on.
    We have a 2 1/2 year old that I am now going for full custody of.

  • @takemycoints
    @takemycoints Рік тому

    Thank you so much!!!!

  • @XDXRLNG
    @XDXRLNG 2 роки тому

    You deserve way more than 14K subs

  • @carmencorea5238
    @carmencorea5238 3 роки тому +56

    Ash, could you do a video on breakups after a long term relationship and the process of healing? You’re always so insightful.

    • @AshleyNord
      @AshleyNord  3 роки тому +6

      Ohh yes, this is a good one!! Thank you for the topic suggestion 🤗

    • @edmardomingo1500
      @edmardomingo1500 3 роки тому

      @@AshleyNord Thank you Ms.Ash :)

    • @veronicabrannigan6594
      @veronicabrannigan6594 2 роки тому +1

      @@AshleyNord oh please do, and if yiu have already where can I find it? Ty

  • @geraldinepenaso2801
    @geraldinepenaso2801 Рік тому

    Thank you for enlighten my view now..

  • @randomthoughts9832
    @randomthoughts9832 3 роки тому +2

    Ashley, thank you for your words. I just came across your videos today. I am Christine from the Philippines. I want you to know that your words resonate so much with what I am going through right now. I just recently break up from a 5-month relationship with my GF. It was a nasty break up. I felt like I was used. She was always emotionally unavailable. I felt like, she was only nice to me when I am able to provide for her. I did most of the work in the relationship and I only get the bare minimum effort from her. In the end, she accused me of being toxic, of being selfish only because I did not agree to her sister(who in unemployed) live with us. She was also unemployed at the time we broke up. Tried to explain everything to her as to why I hesitate.

    • @AshleyNord
      @AshleyNord  3 роки тому

      You’re so very welcome and I’m so pleased to hear that you have found some comfort in my words ❤️ I’m so sorry to hear that you’re struggling! It sounds like this was a very one-sided relationship, and I can assure you that you deserve SO much more! You were entirely within your right to maintain a boundary of not wanting her sister to live with you. I would have done the same thing! ❤️

    • @randomthoughts9832
      @randomthoughts9832 3 роки тому

      @@AshleyNord Thank you so much Ashley!. Keep doing what you do because you are helping people really. God Bless you more

  • @toriambrr
    @toriambrr 9 місяців тому

    periodd! 👏🏽

  • @rajinredowan5872
    @rajinredowan5872 2 роки тому +2

    You just make me realize everything Ashley. The things you said are so on point. Thank you so much. It's has been so hard for me. So hard. I am struggling everyday.

  • @srishtigoswami2305
    @srishtigoswami2305 2 роки тому

    This is totally relatable.it feels worst..
    But i just hope i can stay strong,and take a stand for my emotional well-being.
    It would be great if you can talk about this topic more..
    Love from India ❤️

  • @Dee-nj4xo
    @Dee-nj4xo 3 роки тому

    This was amazing advice.. thank you.. love from india... ❤️ Keep making more videos like this...

  • @tamarakelly3369
    @tamarakelly3369 3 роки тому

    Wow thanks so much for your video they are amazing and I’ve been telling so many people to watch them
    If there going through a difficult time with relationships because they are helping me so much whenever I feel my mind wandering I come on here and find the strength to keep going. But I would say tho if you could do one where children are involved because. I split up with my ex and we have a child together and it makes things so complicated because you want to move on. But it breaks my heart so much when he just doesn’t really care now he’s moved on with someone else. It was toxic relationship and also a lot of mind games And I would love to hear more x

    • @AshleyNord
      @AshleyNord  3 роки тому

      Aww this is so sweet! Thank you so much! It’s so wonderful to hear when people find my content meaningful or impactful.
      Sharing a child with an ex absolutely complicates things - I’ve avoided talking about this as yet simply because it’s something I don’t feel educated enough to speak on. And it’s also something I’ve never had to go through given that I’m not a parent.
      That being said, perhaps I can do a future collab with someone on this topic 😊

  • @maor.mp4
    @maor.mp4 3 роки тому +2

    You're literally UA-cam's best hidden gem (don't worry- won't stay hidden for long lol!) your advice is always so helpful and wise, love your channel!

    • @AshleyNord
      @AshleyNord  3 роки тому

      This is such a lovely compliment!! 🥺 thank you so so much ❤️ I’m so happy you enjoy my content!

  • @suzannemaroney4579
    @suzannemaroney4579 2 роки тому

    Awesome video!!!! Thank you!!!!👍👍👍👍👍😔💔

  • @Sunaina_mehta
    @Sunaina_mehta 6 місяців тому

    Its been one month since I broke up with him but I am still watching this video cuz even though we broke up he calls me whenever he needs me and that gives me anxiety and I start overthinking about my past. Breaking up wasn't hard honestly but getting him outside my mind is hard.

  • @sarahmcmahon1037
    @sarahmcmahon1037 2 роки тому

    i love you. truly.

  • @Sistanatus
    @Sistanatus 3 роки тому +5

    Word!
    I feel like I loved him so bad that I had to respect his decision to end our relationship and start a new journey and work on myself. Save myself, growth, live, enjoy my life.
    We totally keep thinking or living during the "great times" just to convince ourselves that there is still love and we can work it out.
    It has been 4 months and as the days go by I still reflect on that he was also toxic to me and I kept trying to help him to grow when he didn't even want to do it and we need to accept that too even when we have the best intentions. The best thing to do is still working on your passions and enjoy your life. Time is an excellent healer. Thanks Ash for another wonderful video.

    • @AshleyNord
      @AshleyNord  3 роки тому +1

      Ohh yes, I can relate to wanting to force someone to grow SO much. I think so many of us have been there. We think our love is enough to encourage someone to be their best selves along side us, but unfortunately, that just isn’t the case. Growth has to be something that person is intrinsically motivated to pursue. And you’re so welcome! Thank you as always for watching ❤️❤️