6 TYPES OF ABUSE | WHAT IS ABUSE?

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  • Today, I am talking all about abuse and abusive relationship. There are 6 types of abuse that can occur in and out of a relationship. Everyone can acknowledge and accept physical abuse; however there are 5 other types of abuse that many are not aware of. I want to bring awareness to the different types of abuse that happens all the time and people often suffer in silence because they do not know they are being abused.
    The forms of abuse that I discuss are physical abuse, sexual abuse, verbal/emotional abuse, mental abuse, economic abuse, and cultural abuse. All or one of these can happen for someone to be in a abusive relationship.
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  • @feefee8627
    @feefee8627 5 років тому +35

    I've been verbally, sexually, and physically abused. I don't have any friends and feel depressed that no one likes me for some reason!!!!

    • @meeraal7083
      @meeraal7083 4 роки тому +6

      We all been through it, u gotta work on ur self

    • @oliviahudson348
      @oliviahudson348 4 роки тому +5

      Bro I understand completely. I’ve had 2 abusive relationships in the past that left me with little to no friends

    • @dinonuggies8382
      @dinonuggies8382 2 роки тому +5

      I like you random person

    • @karengrace4309
      @karengrace4309 Рік тому +1

      Suspect your an extremely kind generous spiritually inclined person
      the more ones spirit shines the harder the world is
      Get involved in your community
      Volunteer at a local soup kitchen nursing home ect
      Suspect Jesus
      felt alone & unloved on the cross showing we are not alone in our pain when most alone God will never leave nor forsake us . God bless you
      You are loved
      By one far greater then I
      The creator loves you perfectly 💕
      God please send them an authentic friend
      Amen

  • @KatieDMellott
    @KatieDMellott Рік тому +9

    Emotional abuse doesn't have to happen regularly. It can be a one-time occurrence. It's still abuse.

  • @isabelljean3977
    @isabelljean3977 4 роки тому +27

    Financial abuse can also happen the other way around. You can be the one to use the financial ressources of your partner and guilt trip them into buying you stuff or supporting you financially, saying things like "if you loved me, you would let me use your debit card" etc.

    • @juliamonk2739
      @juliamonk2739 3 роки тому +4

      Isbell Jean yes definitely I agree with, I'm the same I've had financial abuse done to me for 4 years from narcissists parents, its narcissists behaviour, control power, gaslighting manipulation, guilt trips, flying monkeys smear companies, emotional abuse and violence , mind games and definitely bullying and harassment, spying on you to ect. If any of these have happened to you, then you you are dealing with toxic abuse, probably narcissists as well

    • @freespiritpearl89
      @freespiritpearl89 Рік тому +2

      My mother would say nice things to me and sibling to get money from us to gamble.

    • @DikieHelen
      @DikieHelen 9 місяців тому

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  • @freespeech4all723
    @freespeech4all723 4 роки тому +3

    And yes I am a new subscriber.
    I look forward to more of your videos Ms Carey👍👍

  • @antoniogoods1742
    @antoniogoods1742 5 місяців тому

    When I heard about abuse, I didn't believe what I was hearing. Now, I'm researching everything I can to know more. This video helped more than I thought it would by breaking down the types & giving details to better understand I have so much more to learn

  • @movedaccounts11185
    @movedaccounts11185 Рік тому +1

    ive learned that ive suffered through physical mental and verbal abuse. thank you very much

  • @cnashford2
    @cnashford2 3 роки тому +11

    Just found your channel as I tried to understand the types of abuse. This was a great video. Thanks. - a new subscriber

  • @mjm5081
    @mjm5081 2 місяці тому

    Thank you for sharing your wisdom and expertise!
    ✌❤🌎

    • @TshedisoKhunou
      @TshedisoKhunou 2 місяці тому

      My mother is abuse me and l feel sad but l crying now

  • @faithannferdinand5231
    @faithannferdinand5231 3 роки тому +4

    Thanks u so much for giving me these advices😊

  • @urmomslollipops6499
    @urmomslollipops6499 2 роки тому +5

    Is hugging without consent especially after asked not to hug the person a type of abuse? If so, which kind?

  • @papushlobo
    @papushlobo 4 роки тому +3

    Thank you so much Madam for this informative video.I am using it for Teaching Counselling Course students.God Bless You .

  • @hannahmiller5515
    @hannahmiller5515 Рік тому +2

    That definition of abusive is confusing to me, because if abuse is anything intending to be powerful or controlling (changing perspective, effective, persuading, causing change) then the word abusive is itself abusive? Since calling something abusive is basically a way to get people to view an action and potentially an entire person as bad/not useful? Ever since I was in an abusive relationship (being chased with a knife, angrily sworn at and name called every day because he thought I was doing things I wasn't), ever since then my perspective has been shattered, there is a spectrum of abuse but there has to be a line drawn at some point, calling things "abuse" can become abusive and confusing, at what point is it just regular disagreements that instead of being calm and expressing options and perspectives and goals in order to persuade the autonomy and the positive results that would come out of something, instead just flinging the word abuse as a means to confuse people and maintain our own power and control? You can argue existing is abusive since we innately have little control over everything in our environments. So our options to communicate are to persuade/cause change by force or threat of force, or to persuade by being kind and selling the benefits but being dishonest about the negatives, or to be honest about both positives and negatives which requires more patience and calm to prevent jumping to stereotypical conclusions, painting people as 1D characters of good or bad. Another option, especially if we have been told that it's "manipulative" (read:effective, persuasive) to speak and state our perspectives and experiences or taught that no one will believe or listen to us, another approach is to not attempt to engage is proactive communication and negotiation of human energetic exchange, because we know we can get people to help us if we fall back on calling behavior abusive after events have transpired. The word abusive basically is used to signal help to other people, but we don't have to conceptualize horrible situations in order to get help or be accepted.

  • @davidtichborne2912
    @davidtichborne2912 4 роки тому +2

    Really that's odd because people accually seem to think that sexual abuse is the only type

  • @amandarecoveryjones8216
    @amandarecoveryjones8216 3 роки тому +4

    My soon to be ex husband believes that since he has never given me a black eye, Im not allowed to call abuse. No worries, i left.......but a lot of people believe if you're not being OR not being hit bad enough doesnt mean its abuse. Im actually shocked by this video b/c he met all 6. Screaming on me for more sex, stealing my money, degrading my sexuality, ugh i can go on n on

    • @torihenson9563
      @torihenson9563 2 роки тому +2

      i hope ur doing much better!! u don’t deserve that.

  • @raymondezell7817
    @raymondezell7817 2 роки тому

    Great video. Thank you!

  • @112stace
    @112stace 3 роки тому +2

    I noticed the bruise marks before but she would lie and say something happened while I was cleaning

  • @doratheexplore1679
    @doratheexplore1679 2 роки тому +2

    Medical abuse... not allowing doctor appointments, keeping someone from needed medication... this is not widely talked about but abusers wont
    Allow partner access to help bcuz then theres help

  • @Shanaevaz
    @Shanaevaz 2 роки тому +2

    ❤ this viedo thank you for teaching the youths

  • @dinonuggies8382
    @dinonuggies8382 2 роки тому +1

    I've been through mental and verbal abuse my ex dragged me down the 9 months we were together and he isolated me away from all of my friends and would try and force me to be christian (I'm pagen..) he would also tell me I was a pill popper when I first started taking medication for my depression and anxiety. He would constantly tell me that what I believed in wasnt real, it was stupid, I had no proof, I should listen to him and other things.. he would constantly tell me I was wrong tell me I wouldnt be loved by anyone else but him and he had tried to attempt.. suicide both while we were dating and when we had broken up for the last time. He knew I had trauma with suicide and showed me both times, started doing hard drugs saying its all my fault that hes doing it.. its left me emotionally and mentally troubled.. I have panic attacks and I'll break down..

  • @112stace
    @112stace 3 роки тому +2

    I was told by my friend that her guy friend would grab her to stop her from leaving and it left bruise Mark's on her arm or leg

  • @edithcarter3554
    @edithcarter3554 7 місяців тому

    What about a person that yells at you at the drop of a hat? It’s awful to deal with.

  • @112stace
    @112stace 3 роки тому +3

    What about leaving bruise marks and denying them

  • @melissamatas9424
    @melissamatas9424 4 роки тому +1

    You are the only one that under stands me I am 10 and my dad leaves a mark

  • @freespeech4all723
    @freespeech4all723 4 роки тому

    Thank you so much!
    Yes...your teaching on this subject did bless me. I had a blow up at work. I work at a university for campus maintenance. We have a work shop that 16 men have to share. We have 1 computer that we share to log time, document work orders and purchase our uniforms on. There is 1 employee that has treated that computer station like a park bench for over a year. Doesn't use the computer...just sits there and watches TV. I have asked him to let me get on the computer several times in the past. It has gotten progressively difficult to get him to move. He would move, but not without making me feel like a jerk for bothering him. Last Friday he asked me to move because I was blocking his view of the TV. I bristled and asked him to move to any other chair...so he could watch TV and I could use the computer. He would not budge. I blew my cool and started yelling at him in front of everyone. I said this is a work station and I don't feel like getting on my knees and kissing your ring in order to use the 1 computer we all need. Others started making jokes. Sit on his lap and order your uniforms. Any other time this wouldn't phase me.
    (We kid around a lot) but not this time. It escalated until the boss heard the commotion. He started making it a joke in front of the crew as well, until I told him I want to go to human resources.
    They trued to intimidate me so that I would back down. They saw that I was adamant and not willing to let this slide. I wanted to understand what I was feeling.
    Your video was the first one I came to. I had an ahh...soooh moment as you explained. He was told to find another place to sit.😁Finally!!! I feel an enormous weight lifted. Free at last...Free at last! Thank God almighty...I'm free at last😁👍I feel great as a man standing up to this guy and my bosses and the system. They were making decisions without any training in physcology. I wish you could come here and do a seminar. Love you like a little sister.
    Regards- James

  • @oofendary7050
    @oofendary7050 5 років тому +3

    My brother abuse me is called as verbal im serious :(

  • @Cherry_Kuru
    @Cherry_Kuru 4 роки тому +3

    So uh I would like to ask a question let's say a parent/ guardian says that they're going to get rid of your things so that you only have a bed, you'll going to end up working in a fast food place, that you can't do nothing right. And you end up just feeling worthless, and you wanna commit suicide or run away. You almost wanna be isolated from the world. Is that abuse? If so what kind?

    • @lovelylinda8891
      @lovelylinda8891 4 роки тому +1

      Mental, Verbal, and Emotional. Even spiritual.

  • @1222mrbrown
    @1222mrbrown 6 років тому +11

    Very informative...stay blessed

  • @Journeyoflove13
    @Journeyoflove13 3 роки тому +2

    Great video, thank you!♡

    • @saintmarybulicek567
      @saintmarybulicek567 3 роки тому +1

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      it's a painful feeling but I believe things happen in life it comes as it goes, as it says what doesn't kills makes you stronger

    • @RashawndaJames
      @RashawndaJames  3 роки тому

      Glad it was helpful

  • @VANNY56-j9o
    @VANNY56-j9o Рік тому

    Tanks , this was very helpful, why not make videos of each form of abuse

  • @pepsi4ever420
    @pepsi4ever420 Рік тому

    He using my disable paraplegic everything u said is going through but also using my 1 year old dog I also already have charged him and no contact but he runs everything so really what I do I can’t handle much more

  • @xxsarrahh
    @xxsarrahh 3 роки тому +2

    i really cant tell if my dad is abusive or not im thinking not but im not sure, so when i was four years old he'd get mad at us for not doing something or not doing it right so hes spank us with a yard stick. but now he just yells at us. and when i was younger and even now im scared of crying in front of my dad without being hurt, because he'd get after me for crying. so if you know if this is abuse or not please tell me. ty

    • @Web_vlogz
      @Web_vlogz 2 роки тому +2

      That is definitely abuse

    • @yatsubox4893
      @yatsubox4893 2 роки тому +1

      I agree; sounds like abuse.
      Makes me wonder if he was one of those older people taught to spank their children as discipline and that crying isn’t okay.
      In modern terms, this could certainly pass as abuse, especially if he tends to get more than just upset (like mental abuse or emotional abuse where the abuser uses strategies to manipulate or downgrade somebody).

  • @tonyirving4154
    @tonyirving4154 4 роки тому +2

    This sounds like my life every day my wife does all this to me all the time,I am English and she is angolan and talks in her own language to her family and friends,and I dont know what she is saying, I now feel I would be better off dead, and I am very very unhappy and depressed, I just wish I could die to stop this constant criticism and abuse 😔

    • @stammer9406
      @stammer9406 4 роки тому +1

      Talk to someone about it.

    • @sakamidimka4541
      @sakamidimka4541 4 роки тому

      Why not leave? It is not that hard for a man. Society wont judge u and harrass u forever.

    • @Abena1709
      @Abena1709 3 роки тому +2

      @@sakamidimka4541 you clearly don't understand how undermining abuse is and how it's not that easy "to just walk away", and to say "it's not that hard for a man" really minimises all the feelings and emotions this person is going through.
      And to say "society won't judge u and harass u forever" is such an ignorant statement because society does indeed judge the victims of abuse, more so in the case when it's the man who is being abused because people wrongly assume, that it's easier for men to walk away simply because they are men.
      Educate yourself on abuse and the detrimental effects of abuse before you dish out your misguided advice.

  • @freespiritpearl89
    @freespiritpearl89 Рік тому

    In my child hood kids would verbally abuse me like hell sometime turn physically. Parents verbally and emotionally abuse me as well. Neglect. I can say financial abuse too with my mother she was gambler and keep begging for money when I tell her no. I kind of abdopted her behavior when asking my brother for money all the time.

  • @freespiritpearl89
    @freespiritpearl89 Рік тому

    I didnt realize my parents are monsters.

  • @terrimccallum6164
    @terrimccallum6164 4 місяці тому

    This is what im going threw .......this person is not even in my family...... This is what he wants everyone to believe .... He has dont this 2016 2024 .. abusing why i was grieving over my partner and has continued this even today .. my walls are always up towards rus. ... Their is no relationship ... Im earth angel 😇 he needs to fix this crap leave me alone ..

  • @multistans3804
    @multistans3804 3 роки тому

    Can someone tell me... If a father slaps his daughter till her nose bleeds cause of the slap, calling her names, less caring to her and caring to her brother,and act nice when someone in their house is called abusing?

    • @yatsubox4893
      @yatsubox4893 2 роки тому +1

      That definitely sounds like abuse to me

  • @AfiafiMiti
    @AfiafiMiti 4 місяці тому

    what is abuse

  • @freespiritpearl89
    @freespiritpearl89 Рік тому

    No excuse for abuse.

  • @tommychappell6359
    @tommychappell6359 10 місяців тому

    At a base level, but we should be looking from more complex level, behaviours, reasons, deeper human aspect of things. genetics, maybe that person who was verbally abusive simply didn't know how to twist their words and it came out wrong. (aka social disability). to exemplify my point. point is, none of this is helping.. at the top level it comes to this. FEAR or forgiveness? (control or non-control). Because even a system made for connection, non-harm is not excluding possibility that here is imperfection and humanly aspect to attack. which comes to control (in other direction). I have always been firm beleiever that the SITUATION itself should be controlled. not people. Let other people live in happiness. reduce all suffering to none. I would like a system where if people are suffering put their hand up, and help in any way can. (with actual resources, in depth resources which can help), thus saving their life. part of saving life is saving peoples LIVELIHOOD, which equates to the same thing. people are not objects/rats/animals, they are HUMAN BEINGS. in the end is our enemies pain hurts most, not our friends. (Tupac) the one behind the gun. it could be personal closest, and same goes for everyone else too. The deeper picture always comes first, then the simple picture. (deepest the better).

  • @JannahMa
    @JannahMa 2 роки тому +1

    Is it abuse if its because i was being “rude” so my grandma got mad and started hitting me continuously? She was always abusing me psychologically and verbally (degrading me etc)

  • @innaerbe559
    @innaerbe559 4 роки тому +3

    Is it sexual abuse if the other gender attacked you and controlled what you did?

    • @innaerbe559
      @innaerbe559 4 роки тому

      Hello can someone answer my question

    • @grandmastermario3695
      @grandmastermario3695 4 роки тому +2

      Yes men can abuse men women can abuse women women can abuse men and men can abuse women of course sometimes kids can abuse adults but the adult should be able to stop them and if the kids don't then they should be checked out by some sort of specialist and people can also be the victim of abuse but also be the perpetrators even at the same time yes all of that sometimes happens

  • @itsemyli1842
    @itsemyli1842 5 років тому +5

    My mom abuse me

    • @RashawndaJames
      @RashawndaJames  5 років тому +5

      Stella, please let me know if you need any resources for support

    • @frannybroetje6034
      @frannybroetje6034 5 років тому +2

      OMG you poor thing 😱

  • @TshedisoKhunou
    @TshedisoKhunou 2 місяці тому

    My mother is abuse me now

  • @tommychappell6359
    @tommychappell6359 10 місяців тому

    This is pretty lightweight I have to say.
    do away with own hatred and start loving instead.
    make system no man cann. one where everyone is forgiven
    and helped, where suffering pain is not a thing anymore.
    at time we divided than ever. we use technology to prevent
    these things. that is why we are here...
    to be like compassionate GOD. (but reduce fear as well),
    and aspect of high-expectations. for example a device
    that could detect problematic behaviour and activate
    so that whoever has problem will be saved by being self-
    zapped. (help in long-run). reducing thus self vulnerability
    predisposition to things. The ultimate enemy above all is
    not humans but living. (Humans should been working together
    long before then).