These are great videos. Very factual, professional and direct. All mixed with just the right personal element. Even though I've been divorced for years, I learn something new each time I watch one of Robin's videos. I wish my lawyer had been as smart as Robin.
Thank you. Even though I’m not in Va. but going through divorce your videos are helping me to be more prepared regarding things and questions to ask my lawyer. By the way I didn’t do my husband’s laundry and cleaning only my side of the bedroom, vacuum only half too. 🤫
If you have a settlement agreement, or a divorce decree, you need to look at that first to see if you have a cause of action for a lawsuit. In other words, you need to check on what each of you are responsible for. If there is no separation agreement or divorce decree, and your name is on the mortgage, you are responsible for making sure that mortgage gets paid. The mortgage company does not care whether the payments come from you, her, or any other source. They just want their money. If you want your ex to have some responsibiity for the mortgage payments, you need a contract (a settlement agreement) that says that or a divorce decree that orders her to contribute to those payments.
This video is very informative. My soon to be ex and I are doing an uncontested divorce. We did our separation paperwork through an attorney I found. The paperwork list all debts and property stuff and who gets what. Also handles the retirement and spousal support stuff. The only issue we have is the living under the same roof part. My ex is working to find her own place but due to the pandemic and cost of living she is not able to immediately move. This is fine by me, I want her to have the best foot moving forward in life. We both have done everything that you have suggested in the video. The only thing is the letter of intent. Can that be something I could write today and send over to my attorney? I have a letter from her, but it contains more information than just the initial intent. My second question is why would an attorney want to skip doing affidavits and move to scheduling an actual hearing with live witnesses? In your experience with no contested divorces and living under the same roof, have you seen a huge pushback from the courts to the extent it requires more than just submitting the paperwork for consideration? Thank you for this video and hopefully you can answer my question and it may help others out.
I'm glad that you found this video helpful. Since you are represented by an attorney, the best person to answer your questions is usually that same attorney. He or she will know all of the facts and details of your case. Generally, however, Virginia is a strange state when it comes to divorce and separation requirements. Different attorney's have different ideas about what is the best way to meet and prove Virginia's separation requirements.
@@GraineMediation Thank you for replying. I was talking to my attorney and turns out the issue might be with the judge being known to be sort of extreme by the book in a sense of literal interpretations of the law language concerning "separate and apart". Evidently physically address difference is the key for this county judge. So we are going to petition to have a hearing with him to explain the financial situation and the steps we took to live as separate as possible under the same roof. I have witnesses that will come in to testify etc. Is this common in your experience with some judges being ok with under the same roof and others being not ok with that?
@@jcott1981 The law is a mess. Judges have wide latitude when interpreting "living separate and apart". I have never had a case rejected by a judge -- in my 12 years mediating divorce settlement in Northern Virginia -- due to the parties establishing all or a portion of their mandatory separation time while under the same roof. I warn my clients, however, that this is always a possibility.
This was very good. My husband just send me a final decree and I never knew anything. He made me believe we were working on things. He lied that he didn't know where I was. I am his sponsor for his green card there are several issues that I have with him lying. He was cheating and that is why we had an issue. I don't know what to do as he wants my retirement. I never had a say in this settlement. What do I do.
There are nothing in your comment that any sense to me. You need to hire an attorney immediately to get a handle on what is actually going on in your case.
What if you are married online,,then you dont meet yet,,,then we want to file a divorce?is it possible to grant our divorce easier?i am from the Philippines and my husband is there in Virginia?
Hi! I’m Randall J. Borden, a legal advocate with over 30 years of experience, and I'm excited to reach out to you. We're launching a legal podcast series, and I believe your insights would be invaluable. I'd be honored to have you join me for a dialogue on legal matters. Your expertise would greatly enrich our content. Would you be interested in collaborating? Let me know your thoughts.
These are great videos. Very factual, professional and direct. All mixed with just the right personal element. Even though I've been divorced for years, I learn something new each time I watch one of Robin's videos. I wish my lawyer had been as smart as Robin.
Thank you, mrluckybreak. Always good to know that my work is valued by my viewers and that I am able to help.
Thank you. Even though I’m not in Va. but going through divorce your videos are helping me to be more prepared regarding things and questions to ask my lawyer. By the way I didn’t do my husband’s laundry and cleaning only my side of the bedroom, vacuum only half too. 🤫
Glad my videos are helpful. I have never heard of the "half-clean" method. Pretty clever! Good luck to you.
@@robin-personal2039 Thank you
Can I sue for defaulting on a mortgage loan???
She got custody of the kids and left me with the house and not paying anymore
If you have a settlement agreement, or a divorce decree, you need to look at that first to see if you have a cause of action for a lawsuit. In other words, you need to check on what each of you are responsible for. If there is no separation agreement or divorce decree, and your name is on the mortgage, you are responsible for making sure that mortgage gets paid. The mortgage company does not care whether the payments come from you, her, or any other source. They just want their money. If you want your ex to have some responsibiity for the mortgage payments, you need a contract (a settlement agreement) that says that or a divorce decree that orders her to contribute to those payments.
This video is very informative. My soon to be ex and I are doing an uncontested divorce. We did our separation paperwork through an attorney I found. The paperwork list all debts and property stuff and who gets what. Also handles the retirement and spousal support stuff. The only issue we have is the living under the same roof part. My ex is working to find her own place but due to the pandemic and cost of living she is not able to immediately move. This is fine by me, I want her to have the best foot moving forward in life. We both have done everything that you have suggested in the video. The only thing is the letter of intent. Can that be something I could write today and send over to my attorney? I have a letter from her, but it contains more information than just the initial intent. My second question is why would an attorney want to skip doing affidavits and move to scheduling an actual hearing with live witnesses? In your experience with no contested divorces and living under the same roof, have you seen a huge pushback from the courts to the extent it requires more than just submitting the paperwork for consideration? Thank you for this video and hopefully you can answer my question and it may help others out.
I'm glad that you found this video helpful. Since you are represented by an attorney, the best person to answer your questions is usually that same attorney. He or she will know all of the facts and details of your case. Generally, however, Virginia is a strange state when it comes to divorce and separation requirements. Different attorney's have different ideas about what is the best way to meet and prove Virginia's separation requirements.
@@GraineMediation Thank you for replying. I was talking to my attorney and turns out the issue might be with the judge being known to be sort of extreme by the book in a sense of literal interpretations of the law language concerning "separate and apart". Evidently physically address difference is the key for this county judge. So we are going to petition to have a hearing with him to explain the financial situation and the steps we took to live as separate as possible under the same roof. I have witnesses that will come in to testify etc. Is this common in your experience with some judges being ok with under the same roof and others being not ok with that?
@@jcott1981 The law is a mess. Judges have wide latitude when interpreting "living separate and apart". I have never had a case rejected by a judge -- in my 12 years mediating divorce settlement in Northern Virginia -- due to the parties establishing all or a portion of their mandatory separation time while under the same roof. I warn my clients, however, that this is always a possibility.
This was very good. My husband just send me a final decree and I never knew anything. He made me believe we were working on things. He lied that he didn't know where I was. I am his sponsor for his green card there are several issues that I have with him lying. He was cheating and that is why we had an issue. I don't know what to do as he wants my retirement. I never had a say in this settlement. What do I do.
There are nothing in your comment that any sense to me. You need to hire an attorney immediately to get a handle on what is actually going on in your case.
What if you are married online,,then you dont meet yet,,,then we want to file a divorce?is it possible to grant our divorce easier?i am from the Philippines and my husband is there in Virginia?
I need you as my lawyer, I’m in VA
Thanks for the vote of confidence. I don't practice law anymore. I mediate. I am happy to mediate your settlement.
Hi! I’m Randall J. Borden, a legal advocate with over 30 years of experience, and I'm excited to reach out to you.
We're launching a legal podcast series, and I believe your insights would be invaluable.
I'd be honored to have you join me for a dialogue on legal matters. Your expertise would greatly enrich our content.
Would you be interested in collaborating? Let me know your thoughts.
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