🔴Narcissists Still Obsess Over You And It Never Fades! | Narcissism | NPD
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Hello everyone, and welcome back to our channel. Today, we are going to discuss the profound impact you have had on the life of a narcissist. You may notice that they are currently involved with someone new, but I want to emphasize that they are still absolutely obsessed with you, and this obsession never truly fades.
As time goes by and you spend more distance away from them, their infatuation grows even stronger. They begin to re-idolize you, reflecting on the significance of the role you played in their life. It is essential for you to recognize your importance. Many people do not realize just how much of a blessing they were to the narcissist and the extent of the support they provided. Often, individuals encounter narcissists when they are at their lowest points. While these individuals might seem charming and attractive on the outside, their inner struggles can be quite severe. They may appear as if they have it all together, but in reality, they are often bitter and unhappy. Your presence and support allowed them to project a more appealing image to the world, drawing strength from your light and energy.
However, the longer you remain apart from them, the more they spiral into a state of obsession. They miss you deeply. They long for the way you used to treat them and the feelings you evoked within them. It is crucial to understand that, in the eyes of the narcissist, you were more than just a person; you were a source of validation and comfort-essentially, a "feel-good object." This new supply in their life does not provide the same level of satisfaction or emotional fulfillment. They simply do not measure up to what you once offered.
It is vital to keep boundaries in place. If you decide to re-engage with the narcissist, you risk returning to the same unhealthy dynamic. They may feel as though they have successfully manipulated you once again, regaining the control they desire. To take back your power, it is crucial to maintain your distance. This can be done by refusing to communicate with them, giving them the silent treatment similar to what they may have given you, and leaving them feeling ignored. This approach can drive them to distraction.
The knowledge that they once had something incredibly valuable-something that slipped through their fingers-can torment them. They had the opportunity to treasure, nurture, and appreciate you, yet they chose to devalue and take you for granted. Instead of cherishing what they had, they dragged you through the mud, failing to recognize the true worth of your presence in their life.
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🔴You've Won Over the Narcissist, But May Not Realize It 👇🏼
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My x narc has been trying to re connect with me for over 25yrs, I discarded him all those yrs ago ...and went no contact for good. He has been driving up & down my street & finding out my x directory numbers for all this time, how exhausting is that ! They never ever stop...police, restraining orders, being happily married, makes no difference to them, probably will happen till the day they die, being so private in my own life has definitely taken its toll, but have to protect yourself at all cost. Obsession is totally the only word I can say, unbelievable for sure, in this case the truth is more weird than any fiction. you could ever write.
He told me that too that we need each other. I told him that I don’t need mental abuse.
I hope my narcissist ex misses me until his last breath...because he lost a great thing! Good riddance to him! His loss!
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I often pray to God that after I gave 25 long, hard working and beautiful years of dedication to my marriage just to be thrown out the window… that my Narc husband whom I’m divorcing now will be tormented with “all the Happy Joy Joy moments of our lives!!! Tormented night and Day.
He can’t contact me anymore.
But we do have children so prolly someday I will see him… before Jesus comes
Stay strong
It's empowering to recognize your worth and see it as his loss! Good riddance indeed. Focusing on your own healing and happiness is what truly matters. Wishing you all the best moving forward!
That is so true that I built him up so high and he thinks something better is waiting for him!
He told me that before I filed for the divorce. He said,” don’t know what I was thinking. Grass is not greener on the other side.” I just laughed and said,” you knew all along grass is not greener on the outside, so stop using that excuses. You just want to do what you want to do, so you continue to do!!!!” I told him that plenty of men out there waiting for someone like me!!! I got a job, house, sport car, and great personality!!!!. That he will not tip it with his new supplies. No one will pick up his tab the way I did!!!!!
My ex told me I was her criptonite when I took her back after she was in a new quick relationship that didn't work.
She eventually blamed me for breaking them up, she was more toxic than ever before.
Don't believe a word they say.
I'm still recovering, it's not easy but better than being back with her.
I am so glad you mentioned how you suddenly start thinking about the narcissist when you are in the middle of doing something, means they are more than likely thinking of you
I find myself saying "Go away"
I'm glad you resonated with that! It's interesting how their thoughts can creep into our minds unexpectedly. Setting those boundaries, even mentally, is so important. Keep telling them to 'go away', you deserve that peace!
Yes, he is intimidated by me! He knows how strong I am!!!!
THANK YOU🙏😩 Am I the only one who can't continue living like this💔 and miss him so much. ❤️🩹❤️
Thank you! This was excellent it made me realize that I am above the person who discarded me. The narcs destroy our spirit but this video lifted me up again and made me realize my value once again. ❤❤❤
Yes, he thought he knew me better than I know myself!!! What a foolish boy!
There again no Memories of anything we did together and no way of REBUILDING,like I said she is DONE
It sounds like you've found clarity in your situation, which is really important. If you feel there are no memories or reasons to rebuild, that’s valid. Just remember, sometimes narcissists can surprise us with their behavior later on, but focusing on your own growth and the future is key. You're making the right choice for yourself!
Yes, he had no social skills.
The weird thing is after 7 months apart she came back for 6 weeks love bombing me only to do a 180 and discard me just when I was falling for the hoover. As she told me two years ago “love is a game”. And she was just toying with me but ultimately she is the one who has lost
That sounds incredibly challenging! It's painful when they use love as a game, but it's great that you recognize her loss. Your strength in seeing through the love bombing is commendable. Thank you for sharing your experience!
He said that he is the love of my life. I said,” who told you that? He said you did.” Well, 😂told him that I said that to all the men in my life! I love them hard and took great care of them because I am an empath. But don’t abuse my good nature!!!!!
My ex will never talk bad about me or his other exs. He won’t talk about past relationships at all good or bad. At least, that’s one good thing of this creature.
Hello my Friend, it's Always a real great pleasure to listen to you. Thank you Madame.
Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm glad you enjoy the content, and I truly appreciate your support. It means a lot to me!
Thank you so much.
She is no way obsession , thinking,messing or even thinking about a way to re enter , it’s Gaurennted she is DONE
I respect your perspective and understand that you feel she’s truly done. Just remember, sometimes narcissists can surprise us with their behavior later on, but what's most important is your peace of mind and focusing on your own path forward!
The Narcissist is an idiot to think they can get into my good graces when they haven't taken accountability for the role they have played in the damage in my soul! Besides, I won't apologise for speaking out about the evil things they have done to me or what they have put me through and if my truth imvolves what they have done to me then they don't get to walk free! I had to fight for my justice and my justice is not forgiving them but I deserve the forgiveness for what I had to suffer from and I do feel disgusted because I tolerated things that I should have never tolerated. Don't give me a fake apology when you think you are always right. Don't feel entitled to be forgiven by me when you haven't taken accountability for your actions or own up to what you have done. They never did anything good for me apart from bringing trauma, drama and chaos into my life and no matter how many years go by i will never forget. What they did to me was unforgivable so I can't help but to have contempt towards them. These Narcissistic men wish to have a good woman but when they get the opportunity they take her for granted. They deserve to suffer with their new supply. ( Narcissistic). I have told the truth.
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Thank you so much! I'm glad you found it excellent. Your support means a lot!
She has absolutely no way of contacting me in any way whatsoever , and she lives in another state. I Totally disagree that she wants anything to do with me or even wanting to know what I’m doing or if I have Someone that Truly Loves and cares for me , and have just moved on . Oh , and I Completely disagree she thinks about me much Less cares or OBSESSED, not a Chance .
I understand your perspective, but it’s common for narcissists to become obsessed, even if it may not seem that way at times. Their responses can vary, and it’s important to prioritize your own healing and happiness regardless of her feelings. Stay strong!
He used to meditate a lot when I first met him. Later on I saw his behavior. I told him to stop being lazy just sit around pretending to meditate. If you truly do it for the right reason, you’ll have a better brain to think!
She has no REGRETS
It’s often true that narcissists don’t feel regret, but what matters most is your own healing and moving forward without their influence. Stay strong!
Yes, we planned future together while all along he has his own plan. That turned out to not be a successful plan. He thought he out did me. He is suffering now in my country chasing those young girls that he can buy them for $20 per hour. All awhile they only see him as a$$!!!!
The only way my ex will contact me is by walking up to my door. That’s he will not have the guts to do!!!!! He is too dumb to do the right thing!!!!
@@Mercy-hz1hl powerfully said!!!
My family and friends love me and care about me before and after this dumb individual came into my life!!! I was great before him, and I am great now. I only allowed the bad shows to go on too long. He knew I allowed him to do that to me. I just wanted to see how far he will take. The show is now got canceled by me!!!!
Love me when I'm gone 🎉
I just don’t see any of this happening with me, no matter how long or time Period.
That's completely valid! Everyone's experience is unique, and it's important to trust your own feelings. Just keep in mind that narcissists can sometimes reappear after weeks, months, or even years, so staying aware and focused on your healing is key. You're in control of your journey!
How is it that she can regret and idolize when she left me 8 months ago and I haven't seen her face since the day she walked away. This was 25 years of marriage and she was my friend for 38 years only thing I come up with is she either didn't think she was good enough for me and that she left me before I would leave her which I was never going to do because when I said I do I meant it. But I watched her change over time and she wasn't willing to do anything to fix herself I had no idea that I was married to a covert narcissist I really wish they would have taught this in school would have saved a lot of heartache for a lot of people. And then I hear that she misses me well she must not miss me that much if I haven't even heard from her and now that it's been almost 6 months since I've actually spoke with her she's a she's a coward and that's only what I could come up with except for a few others that I won't mention. I gave this woman my whole heart and put up with everything with her support her through breast cancer 20 plus years ago and supported her loved her took care of her I guess she must have got tired with the you know the same supply and needed some new supply I just want to know that she's going to regret what she's done that would help me feel a lot better now that I'm moving on and moving forward. Tell you one thing she will spend the rest of her life looking for a person like me and she will never find him again she'll just find low vibrational people that don't know her game yet but they will trust me on that. She can be very charming I just thought since we were friends for so many years I think it's more important to be friends before you actually get intimate with someone well I guess that didn't work for me either. Right now I'm just angry and I am going to have to someday forgive with compassion and love so I can set myself free.
Hi Jeff,
I felt compelled to respond to your comment because it brought me back to that phase you are currently experiencing. It was a 40 year marriage for me; 48 total with dating. Yes, it can be over as if it never happened at all. No hoover, no inquiries about how you are, but trust me that they're non response and non reaction to all of it, is a blessing. A genuine gift. I promise you that the compassion and love you strive for will slowly come to you and set you free. I never believed I would pray and wish my ex the best, but I've learned to and I can't tell you the freedom that gives me. My divorce was final 7 months ago and brace yourself for yet another version of this person you haven't seen. When you quiet everything down and give zero attention and reaction to everything that is thrown at you, you will see it all so clearly and objectively, and all the anger, hurt, disbelief, etc., starts to dissipate. You are so right: cowards, users, abusers, and other adjectives as well.
Just wish her the best, knowing she's already had it (with you), and live the life you were meant to live. If you have faith, lean into it because God is the one who fights these battles, and He wins, every time. I'll pray for you, but hopefully you have a dialogue of your own going on. I tried saving myself many times throughout those 48 years, but it was only when I called on God did it actually happen. I'm 64 years old, and I've never felt this kind of peace, not ever. God bless you and everyone here.
@@patriciamacnichol5061 thank you Patricia I really appreciate you reaching out it's been very difficult because I am absolutely loving kind empath and unfortunately she wasn't raised with love and support like I did and I'm very blessed for that. My twin sister and my other four siblings say that to each other all the time how blessed we were. I'm so sorry that you went through all that. How long did it actually take you to stop thinking about him when you go to bed and when you wake up it's getting a little bit easier for me because being angry is helping me heal. It just blows me away how a grown 63-year-old woman could just do that. We all make mistakes in our lives but as a loving couple you should be able to talk about it and move forward My wife had a hard time communicating with me and she was one of my best friends before we actually became a couple. What hurts the most is how she did this she couldn't be a mature adult and sit down and have that uncomfortable talk with me That's what I'm more pissed off about than anything like I literally feel like I'm yesterday's trash and she's probably you know not going to say probably but she's already moved on probably multiple people. Not sure how they're going to deal with her but they will eventually because she totally love bombing in the beginning really made me feel like I was something special and I do believe that some of this marriage she did love me but I actually watched her change and she never came back from it. I am 64 years old and having to start all over again I don't even know what to say about that. Trying to teach myself how to cook which is something I never learn to do because she was an amazing cook and she always took care of me that way but between that and doing my laundry once a week it was just the bare minimum she wasn't there for me when I needed her most. I guess that's somebody just being selfish. I have given myself to God and my ancestors and my angels and I know that they're protected me. As I am of course going through a divorce. And she serve me papers 3 months after she left. She didn't even give it 6 months to realize what she possibly could lose. Well she did big time and I believe that God will bring me a beautiful woman that will love me truly for who I am I'm an easygoing I don't ask for a lot in life I have my passions of playing live music. Boating and fishing and hanging out with my only a couple of friends that I have left that have been my friends for over 4 years. Thank God for them and my siblings. They were actually blown away to hear what had happened and how it had happened. But knowing a covert narcissist I'm sure she did the smear campaign on me and you know what Patricia I don't even care it doesn't matter to me what kind of s*** she talked about about me. My life has been quiet and peaceful since she left. Of course I'm absolutely lonely and I miss being loved on and cuddled with but then again I wasn't getting much of that from her anyway. but I want you to know how much I really appreciate you reaching out and feeling compelled to send me a message I'm not looking for someone to feel sorry for me I just want to let people know that they're out there and I just wish they would have taught this in school probably would have saved us all a lot of heartache. But she's every sense of the word of a narcissist and I just didn't recognize it. I did see red flags throughout the relationship but I just figured that was just because we have issues sometimes with our other half. But you have to learn to move forward and communicate and she never wanted to do that So I felt very lonely in the end even when she was here. I can't help that I was love and nurtured as a child growing up sure we all have our wounds but you're supposed to move on and move forward with that and not use it in your everyday life especially as a grown ass woman. I know God will bring somebody to my life when that time is right Right now I'm not ready but I always willing to communicate with somebody online or on the phone or text messaging. So if you ever feel that you want to do that let me know. Maybe we could help each other. I've literally been on this road pretty much by myself and she walked away from a successful business of 38 years which I never agreed with but I supported her and for her to tell me that I financially didn't take care of her through a long-term marriage I mean what kind of a person says that knowing very well that I used to hand her $1,000 a month just cuz. And to just recently find out that she has a savings account with $15,000 in it which is where all my money is gone I always told her to go out and pamper herself Go on a shopping spree all along she was hiding my money from me probably preparing herself for the day she would walk away from me so that's where I'm angry but anyway I'm sorry that I carried on as long as I did but thank you so much You're a kind heart and a kind soul 🙏❤️
@@patriciamacnichol5061Patricia, you are a beautiful writer. Thank you for sharing. You helped me
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Hi Jeff,
I can tell how much pain you're still in, but I want you to believe that the longer you are away from the toxic relationship, the clearer it all becomes. It lessens the trauma bond, and the ruminations get less and less also. The one unfortunate thing that happens is that you will probably find out a lot more about things that happened than you want or need to. For example, my ex-husband portrayed himself to be the most loyal, loving husband and father. I never questioned it, not once. He told me I was the love of his life from the first date to throughout the marriage. I felt fortunate that I didn't have to deal with a husband who went out a lot, drank a lot, hit me, was into pornography, etc. However, I found out most of the above was not true. I didn't even know about his second phone, addiction to pornography, or multiple affairs lasting decades until after I filed for divorce. I filed because I was becoming so emotionally depleted, exhausted, and resentful about dealing with silent treatments, never resolving issues, being blamed for every single problem we came up against, being told my feelings were not normal or unreasonable, never having my back, etc. The list goes on and on. I tried to talk and explain myself until I just could literally not stand it anymore. It was beyond frustrating to the point I was looking forward to death. I'm not an unintelligent being either: I have a master's in psychology, and I'm an RN, but I didn't see it. I didn't know what I was dealing with until I did, and then I couldn't unsee it. To really learn about how their brain works helped break the trauma bond for me. He ripped his mask off immediately when he knew this time was the real deal. Started trying to turn my adult children against me, and honestly, my 2 sons and 1 daughter got cold toward me for a while. My youngest daughter stayed neutral. Still, I kept my mouth shut and said not one word to them about him or anything I have learned. It really has been the best decision I've ever made. The quieter I am, the more self-destructive he becomes. I wanted to tell everyone what a nasty hypocrite he really is, but I followed the Bible's instructions and psychological principles, and it works! He took all our money and put himself in contempt with the court, and recently had to hand it over, with interest. Still, I kept my mouth shut. It's the key. They can't understand it because all most of us on these channels wanted to do throughout our marriages was talk and resolve issues and were met with stonewalling. I no longer have any desire to communicate with him at all, and this will be you talking soon if you stay on the path to healing. This disorder is insidious and so damaging, and I am so grateful to finally be away from it. I understand the phase where a hoover or some closure is desired, but I genuinely feel that not getting one is a sign of respect. Respect because they know you are not going to be there waiting for the cycle of abuse to continue anymore. They know they can't use you again and they can't set themselves up to get rejected and humiliated. That's how I see it because that is definitely what would and should happen. I don't know my ex- husband, and I now know that I never did. He wanted an image of a family with him at the helmet looking good, and that's what we were to him, with no input from him. Very clever. Games over now until he finds another unsuspecting soul to use. It's not ever going to be me again. God will make up for those wasted years, Jeff. Let Him do his job while you quietly heal, continue studying this disorder, and connecting with others experiencing it. Things will shift every day in the right direction, and before you know it, life will feel lighter and brighter. Stay close to God and trust He has this.
@@patriciamacnichol5061 wow I'm really so sorry. it's funny you say that because I was just telling myself a few minutes ago that I guess I never really knew her. Always consider her a close friend for 38 years. But now I look and feel that she was never genuine. She definitely love bombs me that for sure made me feel like I was a king of the hill. And then all of a sudden it all stopped. I'm just kind of continuing to allow God to put me in the path that I'm in and I have absolutely been in a hermit mode for 8 months now. I still run a successful business but when I'm done with my day I come home to peace. I'm lonely. But I believe I'm where I'm supposed to be right now. So many things to plan ahead but I can only handle so much. I think that's incredible that you're a nurse in psychology that's amazing. Sounds like he was a real idiot to let you go. Definitely his loss. I guess it's hard to find loyal people anymore. But if I'm lucky enough when the time is right God will bring her to me. Can't say that I'd ever marry again but you never know. I'm really sorry you went through all of this. it's just devastating. My heart goes out to you. My two have a daughter that. I'm a papa of five granddaughters. I'm very blessed. It was really nice talking with you you know you just confirm to me that I'm doing the right thing. And that I will be happier in the end after this financial institution gets dissolved or resolved. Take care of yourself Patricia. You're very kind heart and I appreciate it. ❤️🙏
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@NarcPedia i think about him all day long..does that mean he is thinking about me all day long???
It is very difficult to understand the spiritual connection of thoughts…buy anyways, they are with someone else and i want them to miss me every single day of their life, forever and ever..
It's completely natural to think about someone who has had such a strong impact on your life, but it doesn't necessarily mean they're thinking about you too. It can be tough to process those feelings, especially when you desire that connection. Focus on your own healing and the positive things ahead-it's important to prioritize your well-being!
My ex nảck came back 6 times and i never took her back i cant see myself going thru that again im done now i look at her like another làdy and love have nothjng to do wit it fr sex and by that all i do she never get my love again only sex and bye i dont call her are anything but she still come over when ever ill never love her again tryed that didnt work so sex it is
He told me that before I filed for the divorce. He said,” don’t know what I was thinking. Grass is not greener on the other side.” I just laughed and said,” you knew all along grass is not greener on the outside, so stop using that excuses. You just want to do what you want to do, so you continue to do!!!!” I told him that plenty of men out there waiting for someone like me!!! I got a job, house, sport car, and great personality!!!!. That he will not tip it with his new supplies. No one will pick up his tab the way I did!!!!!
He said that he is the love of my life. I said,” who told you that? He said you did.” Well, 😂told him that I said that to all the men in my life! I love them hard and took great care of them because I am an empath. But don’t abuse my good nature!!!!!