Love that solid tangible advice to spend 20 minutes of undistracted time to bond with child and letting them do more talking - no demands, no questions. I will do this with my little man! 🎉 Thanks!
Raising resilient kids today is tough but building mental strength is key. Letting kids learn from their mistakes and handle responsibilities helps them grow confident and capable. The ADHD Parenting Guide for Boys by Richard Bass has practical tips for fostering resilience.
13.53 When I put my 5 year-old son in bed, we both have a gratitude moment, we thank for everything we had in the day, and we say outloud; "tomorrow is gonna be very great day! " He is definitely a positive guy🥰
Terrible advice. That's pure narcissism. That is "everything that I think is right is right" kind of attitude that allows religious wackos as you to kick gay children out of your house.
Yes I'm my son's biggest fan, but also his biggest critic & I feel I'm to hard & to soft at times, I wasn't taught well so I'm learning on the fly how to be in the middle
@micro335 it's a struggle as a father knowing if we are doing this right, I just know it's tough for a man these days and I don't ever want him to give up like my parents did ya know
@@millionairemccoy218 I feel exactly the same. I can't give up for me, I can't give up for him. Its accepting that I need to change for him to potentially use me as model to follow.
Oh my lord me too. My parents were volatile and violent. It crippled us. I now have a child who is wildly intelligent and emotional and sensitive. He also has a smart arse retort for everything. He can’t follow a direction without pushing back and my mother who recently moved in with us loves to say “well you know what I would do”. Yes mom. I do. And assaulting my child with a belt or a stick is not an option. JFC. This is exhausting.
Thanks for your honesty. Parents don't want to really hear truth they prefer someone else fix the problem. I'm a firm believer kids are being neglected in what would seem to be the best of homes. So grateful for your book and I will order when done watching. This is generational because 3 generations ago there were no large binkies like tech stuff, no extra money to buy kids what they don't need just giving the parent a false sense of good parenting. My daughter is a single mom with a taxing job as a probation officer spending too many hours at work while my granddaughter spends way too much time alone without any boundaries. I could write much more but instead of detail the book is going directly to her as soon as it arrives, and I pray she will be open to embrace the information. She comes home worn out, crabby and no loving exchange with her daughter so she is beginning to act out which is simply a way to say, "I'm hurting and lonely".
Love this! I run nature play classes for kiddos 18 months and up, and even at the youngest level I ask parents to hold back from helping kids right away say with a squirt bottle to give kids the time to think, and if needed ask for help. So often parents are surprised to see their children accomplish something they didn't think they could.
I love your content… I’ve been teaching in Taiwan as a kindergarten and ESL teacher where I’ve seen so many parents, teachers and the system hurt children. They aren’t allowed to play outside, parents do too much and children are weak and entitled. Parents never spend time with their kids anymore… it’s so sad
Oh no! I grew up in Taiwan although I had moved to states for 14 years. I thought the education had been much better now than when I grew up. So sad to hear that 😢
Very cool episode. Dr Amen is a wealth of knowledge and am glad he's bringing this to the fore front. Made me depressed just being in front of a screen all day. 😅
Hi Jim Kwik, I hope you're doing well! I'm Misagh, about to turn 29, and I'm from Iran! It's been 5 days since I got acquainted with you through your exceptional book "Limitless". I was diagnosed with MS when I was 16. After being diagnosed with this mysterious disease, I had never been successful in finishing a book. After starting to read "Limitless", it took me back to a time when I used to finish Harry Potter books in just 2 or 3 days and could never be satisfied until I finished the book. I'm confident that with the content of this book, I can overcome issues and problems in my life. I want to thank you for sharing your knowledge and experience with me in this world. 🙏🙏🙏🙏
1. Model mental strength.13.18.. tell your brain what kind of parent you want to be. Tiny habits..start with them. Nudge their brain to look for what is right. Looking for the wrong is the base for mental disorders. Say " today is going to be a great day ". Focus on what went well.
I am a first ti mum to a 2 year old an I fiscovered that 30mins of my uninterrupted total attention paid to her, playing spmething she wants results in DRAMATIC reduce of a toddler tantrums! I was shocked and I am happy I came to this conclusion
I play a game with my daughter! At night…what made you happy today. What was something you learned today? What was something that made you sad, or mad? How could we work on that next time? What made you laugh? What’s your favorite part of the day? Usually the last one is…this right here momma, this right here!!! And snuggles! 🥰
Hello brothers and sisters. I would just like to recommend that everyone read the book ‘Raising Warriors: Preparing Your Children For a Godly Life’. Reading that book was the best desicion I ever made.
Hi! Great episode. Appreciate all the helpful information. Can you share suggestions for parents of older adult children (22/23) where COVID impacted them and their confidence. With increases in costs and less personal interaction, it seems they are more withdrawal and have less desires to go out and live life.
My son (almost 7) has very low self esteem and feels shame. I’m always praising him and telling him how amazing he is, but at the same time I have very little patience and shout a lot. I’m a single mum and have ptsd and some of the things he does/says are very triggering. I’m not sure how to get help. I really want my son to thrive and I feel guilty about me being the one to ruin him 😢
You are a wonderful mom to realize this and admit to it! That’s a big step and you and your son will make great progress, I’m sure. I was were you are about a year ago. Keep learning. Take care of yourself and get into therapy for you. Breaking generational traumas/habits/dysfunction is difficult but possible. This will restore your relationship with your son and help him shed the shame and build his self esteem. You’ll both feel better about yourselves and your relationship. Life is hard, but you will weather this together! Praying for you both right now🙏
Spend time in The Presence of God and ask Him to guide you to lead your son. Praise your son for his EFFORTS, his patience , his endurance ( tell him specifying the task/ event) Pray Bible verses over him, of being a leader, etc
I can totally relate. I have found that implementing a “pause” right when the feeling to raise my voice comes about really helps. Or even a deep breath.
I can relate TOTALLY. I struggle with the same issues. I've gone through a lot of trauma and abuse, and my son triggers me as well. I try to be encouraging to my son and hug him but it's hard for him to receive love. I think you are a better mom than you think! God chose you to be the mom of your son for a reason. You are making a positive impact in his life. Celebrate the small victories every day. Praying that God would guide you into all truth and discernment to parent with love and discipline. Parenting has never been easy for me since I come from a very dysfunctional background but God can turn our messes into messages of hope for those in the future. He can turn our tests into testimony! I pray you have a blessed mother's day today! God is with you and He is for you. Xoxo
Thanks for this :) the responsibility we have as parents is huge and learn daily about how to improve and show them to be the best humans possible is mandatory.
4:30-congratulations Jim! It’s a strange, I have been following you for years, and I don’t think I’ve ever heard you talk about your family so congratulations!
You talked about teaching consequences but without fisical punishment and thats great. But how can we teach toddlers consequences when they don't understand more complex reasoning?
Hi Team. I gave the book limitless to a few people on my circle. But I had to buy in 3 different languages, Spanish, Portuguese and English. They all loved it. The UA-cam videos are super insightful, specially videos like this. I can share the overall information about this Video, but it would be amazing if I could share this video and everyone on my circle could read captions on their native language to understand the content. Just a suggestion.
I used to do Family Constellations with parents of 2-5 year-olds This is a systemic therapy-like technique. The director of the kindergarten I used to work with, actually saw the change in the children after the parents did a Family Constellation. Sometimes inmediate, sometimes over time.
I am very very busy. But i always make time to read to them at night for even 15 mins. They love the “nightly meetings”. Bc the toddler goes to montessori, they are taught to do their job like take out stuffs to learn or play but its a job like puzzle job so i continue it at home and when I say its meeting time they pull their chairs together and we talk and read etc.
Thank you for sharing this information. My son is turning 16 in a couple of months. He lacks agency. Do I need to do anything differently differently differently because of his age? Thank you
Raise a good kid is by being with them and be there for them. Teach them what they want to be in the next 10 years? But discipline and being fit will boost their confidence over the hill.
Raising healthy kids in this dysfunctional society is almost impossible. One have to be lucky to have a supportive partner, to have very good luck with schools and teachers,.... and having lots of energy regardless of if you don't have enough money to feed your children or taking care of oneself.
Easy to focus on the negatives Quality time and kindness as Dr mentions doesn’t depend on external factors thankfully and something you can easily implement if you so will
@@sarabrigido2163 What would you suggest to implement for people who don't have money for paying bills and food for their children (of course the children upset as they are hungry, so telling to the children to be positive is not going to fill their bellies), and the school is threatening with social services for not having nutritious lunches or washed clothes? Also if you can suggest how quality time doesn't depend of external factors in these situation would be helpful! (Hope you are not a bot or an unintelligent person responding with some useless stuff).
I wish i knew this earlyer i have 5 children some adults naw n i feel i protected them way to mych as i dodnt have the tools myself coming from care home abused not healthy at all
An issue is that many parents dont know how to regulate their emotions or deal w/their "demons" nor roll witj disappointment for themselves much less guide their children 😢
I made the mistake of doing too much for my children and the became adults ill-eqipped to handle the real world. How best to modify or reverse 30 years if entitlement?
I, too, did this. I think it was the mental effects of an early divorce and trying to make my kids feel more love or less alone when their dad stopped showing up for them. Saying this, I now know the effects of divorce on children. I definitely would have opted to stay married for the children
Don’t coddle them during uncomfortable situations, or be quick to solve their problems. Start encouraging them to find solutions on their own, that will build confidence in their own abilities to solve their problems or discomfort. You should be there to just listen to them vent and you can encourage them, but fight your urge to solve their problems. Ask them what they think they should do about it, listen and give them suggestions. If they say they don’t know, encourage them to get out a notebook and write them down. It’s like sitting down and doing homework with your kids. Either you do the work for them to make things less stressful on yourself and on them (which sets them up for failure and dependency), or you sit with them showing your support, empathy and compassion while they navigate through figuring it out. You show up for them, but you don’t do for them. Hope that helps!
Parents today are way more narcissistic than any other time in history, hard to come across selfless devoted parents, their more interested in taking 🤳 than spending quality moments with their precious children 😢
While I really do like and understand the love and logic thing, that horrifying child abuser, Ruby Franke, utilized these principles and bastardized them. So there is going to be a major issue with not bringing a lunch or a sweater or what have you. You have to be able to use your discretion and be a little flexible in some instances. Every child is different and you can’t apply principles across the board exactly the same. Parents still need to use their own discretion in knowing child. And of course don’t be a psycho monster like Ruby Franke.
The issue with this podcast is that Jim Kwik already knew all this stuff. Watch a podcast with someone who didn't know how the brain works beforehand, and you'll get more insights.
Only 5 grand a pop😠. His people put my niece on antidepressants and suggested a few supplements after her scan. Maybe if you’re famous you get more care. 😢 my friends child also went and I didn’t see improvement in him either. It’s hard for me to be impressed. Just a lot of talk
Some context here: that statistic about “25% of women are on antidepressants” is actually 25% of American women ages 40-59 and is from 2010. Not generalizable to all women everywhere or even just to that same population 14 years later and isn’t even relevant to what he’s talking about here. Parenting that millennials and Gen Z’ers received has nothing to do with antidepressant use by these women. If anything, their antidepressant use was probably caused by hormonal fluctuations due to menopause. It’s also helpful to keep in mind that 1950s housewives were commonly taking tranquilizers to the point that the Rolling Stones actually wrote a song about it called “Mother’s Little Helper”. So overmedicating women is not a new phenomenon.
Too many commercials. Hey i know what we need more of, more noise and adds to clutter up our mental space! In fact i would like extra spam on top of my adds please!
How the fck is punishment of your children’s behavior increasing their self-esteem? Are you out of your mind? Taking away the console for a week is for sure tempting, but that has nothing to do with consequences. That is you enforcing prison rules on your child, telling him - I’m the boss here, I can take what’s yours and you can do nothing about it. Good luck raising a mentally strong kid with this approach
This talk seems to me to be unfair, as the parents who are on their phones all the time and don't care about their children, are not going to listen to this talk. And the parents who care and are listening, because they want to bring their children well, they are struggling a lot, and what you are suggesting can not fix the problems.
@@xavthomas What a question? No need to 'try' a lifestyle I already live. All parenting experts are recommending it, and again, it is for parents who don't care and are not seeing these experts. The parents who are seeing this experts struggle, because the experts are not helping. And yes, I am one of them, who asked for help and was told that what schools do is out of my control. To teach by humiliating is the fastest way to learn, so they will not stop humiliating the children (and damaging theirs self esteem).
@@ic7804 I'm sorry you went through that. Handing our kids over to other people to shape them can either be hugely beneficial to them by giving more access to information, culture, and perspectives... or can be irreparably destructive. We are at the mercy of the school districts and individual teachers. This is why so many families turn to homeschooling. My own family of origin had big problems with our school and my brother still suffers from the affects nearly 50 years later.
It's abuse. It's exerting power and control over them instead of listening and communicating with respect. It undermines trust and love. It's your way of getting revenge for them not listening. It's not a parenting tactic.
Love that solid tangible advice to spend 20 minutes of undistracted time to bond with child and letting them do more talking - no demands, no questions. I will do this with my little man! 🎉 Thanks!
Raising resilient kids today is tough but building mental strength is key. Letting kids learn from their mistakes and handle responsibilities helps them grow confident and capable. The ADHD Parenting Guide for Boys by Richard Bass has practical tips for fostering resilience.
13.53 When I put my 5 year-old son in bed, we both have a gratitude moment, we thank for everything we had in the day, and we say outloud; "tomorrow is gonna be very great day! " He is definitely a positive guy🥰
❤ I will try to remember to do this
That is amazing 🙏🏼❤️ Good Job momma!!
If God wills for you to wake up
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Like this video if it was helpful. 👍
Can you please tell me the name of the book in this episode
Bring everything into prayer, do your best as parents, & trust God todo His will...
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Beautifully said!
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Terrible advice. That's pure narcissism. That is "everything that I think is right is right" kind of attitude that allows religious wackos as you to kick gay children out of your house.
And they will do it "out of love". 🤮🤮 Maybe out of "God's love" which is basically obedience.
Yes I'm my son's biggest fan, but also his biggest critic & I feel I'm to hard & to soft at times, I wasn't taught well so I'm learning on the fly how to be in the middle
You took the words out my typing pad
@micro335 it's a struggle as a father knowing if we are doing this right, I just know it's tough for a man these days and I don't ever want him to give up like my parents did ya know
@@millionairemccoy218 I feel exactly the same. I can't give up for me, I can't give up for him. Its accepting that I need to change for him to potentially use me as model to follow.
Oh my lord me too. My parents were volatile and violent. It crippled us. I now have a child who is wildly intelligent and emotional and sensitive. He also has a smart arse retort for everything. He can’t follow a direction without pushing back and my mother who recently moved in with us loves to say “well you know what I would do”. Yes mom. I do. And assaulting my child with a belt or a stick is not an option.
JFC. This is exhausting.
I love Dr Amen!! I use his children’s book Captain Snout with my students. Thank you for having him on your podcast!!
Thanks for your honesty. Parents don't want to really hear truth they prefer someone else fix the problem. I'm a firm believer kids are being neglected in what would seem to be the best of homes. So grateful for your book and I will order when done watching. This is generational because 3 generations ago there were no large binkies like tech stuff, no extra money to buy kids what they don't need just giving the parent a false sense of good parenting. My daughter is a single mom with a taxing job as a probation officer spending too many hours at work while my granddaughter spends way too much time alone without any boundaries. I could write much more but instead of detail the book is going directly to her as soon as it arrives, and I pray she will be open to embrace the information. She comes home worn out, crabby and no loving exchange with her daughter so she is beginning to act out which is simply a way to say, "I'm hurting and lonely".
This breaks my heart!
I feel this is common with this generation... it's sad honestly on both ends
Love this! I run nature play classes for kiddos 18 months and up, and even at the youngest level I ask parents to hold back from helping kids right away say with a squirt bottle to give kids the time to think, and if needed ask for help. So often parents are surprised to see their children accomplish something they didn't think they could.
Be present, firm & kind!!
Indeed children need the best tools to survive this in this world. Basic survival skills are key .
Being from a different cultural background getting this strong source is more than a blessing. Thank you
What a gold podcast, so much info for us parents!
I love your content… I’ve been teaching in Taiwan as a kindergarten and ESL teacher where I’ve seen so many parents, teachers and the system hurt children. They aren’t allowed to play outside, parents do too much and children are weak and entitled. Parents never spend time with their kids anymore… it’s so sad
Oh no! I grew up in Taiwan although I had moved to states for 14 years. I thought the education had been much better now than when I grew up. So sad to hear that 😢
Very cool episode. Dr Amen is a wealth of knowledge and am glad he's bringing this to the fore front. Made me depressed just being in front of a screen all day. 😅
Thank you so much for educating parents. God bless u!
So so true, so sad about these young ones these days..We need to pray more for them and good advise wud be treat...
Hi Jim Kwik, I hope you're doing well! I'm Misagh, about to turn 29, and I'm from Iran! It's been 5 days since I got acquainted with you through your exceptional book "Limitless".
I was diagnosed with MS when I was 16. After being diagnosed with this mysterious disease, I had never been successful in finishing a book. After starting to read "Limitless", it took me back to a time when I used to finish Harry Potter books in just 2 or 3 days and could never be satisfied until I finished the book. I'm confident that with the content of this book, I can overcome issues and problems in my life.
I want to thank you for sharing your knowledge and experience with me in this world. 🙏🙏🙏🙏
1. Model mental strength.13.18.. tell your brain what kind of parent you want to be.
Tiny habits..start with them. Nudge their brain to look for what is right. Looking for the wrong is the base for mental disorders. Say " today is going to be a great day ". Focus on what went well.
Nutritious food support is very important
❤ thank you for all you share, it helps a lot with my children thank you to people like you. ❤
This was an amazing show. I am so thankful for your work, both of you.
I am a first ti mum to a 2 year old an I fiscovered that 30mins of my uninterrupted total attention paid to her, playing spmething she wants results in DRAMATIC reduce of a toddler tantrums! I was shocked and I am happy I came to this conclusion
I play a game with my daughter! At night…what made you happy today. What was something you learned today? What was something that made you sad, or mad? How could we work on that next time? What made you laugh? What’s your favorite part of the day? Usually the last one is…this right here momma, this right here!!! And snuggles! 🥰
The book is really good! I love the kind and firm approach and the authors bring so many good examples to use! I highly recommend it!
Right on Point....
Hello brothers and sisters. I would just like to recommend that everyone read the book ‘Raising Warriors: Preparing Your Children For a Godly Life’. Reading that book was the best desicion I ever made.
Who is the other
Author?
Fr. Benjamin Johnson
I prefer my children don’t depend on fictional characters to create their reality. But thanks though.
@@2MushyLol you're sad
Hi! Great episode. Appreciate all the helpful information. Can you share suggestions for parents of older adult children (22/23) where COVID impacted them and their confidence. With increases in costs and less personal interaction, it seems they are more withdrawal and have less desires to go out and live life.
Thank you for using the word kind and not "nice"
I absolutely love love and logic amd will be buying this!
Great advice. Thank you
My son (almost 7) has very low self esteem and feels shame. I’m always praising him and telling him how amazing he is, but at the same time I have very little patience and shout a lot. I’m a single mum and have ptsd and some of the things he does/says are very triggering. I’m not sure how to get help. I really want my son to thrive and I feel guilty about me being the one to ruin him 😢
You are a wonderful mom to realize this and admit to it! That’s a big step and you and your son will make great progress, I’m sure. I was were you are about a year ago. Keep learning. Take care of yourself and get into therapy for you. Breaking generational traumas/habits/dysfunction is difficult but possible. This will restore your relationship with your son and help him shed the shame and build his self esteem. You’ll both feel better about yourselves and your relationship. Life is hard, but you will weather this together! Praying for you both right now🙏
Spend time in The Presence of God and ask Him to guide you to lead your son.
Praise your son for his EFFORTS, his patience , his endurance ( tell him specifying the task/ event)
Pray Bible verses over him, of being a leader, etc
I can totally relate. I have found that implementing a “pause” right when the feeling to raise my voice comes about really helps. Or even a deep breath.
I can relate TOTALLY. I struggle with the same issues. I've gone through a lot of trauma and abuse, and my son triggers me as well. I try to be encouraging to my son and hug him but it's hard for him to receive love. I think you are a better mom than you think! God chose you to be the mom of your son for a reason. You are making a positive impact in his life. Celebrate the small victories every day. Praying that God would guide you into all truth and discernment to parent with love and discipline. Parenting has never been easy for me since I come from a very dysfunctional background but God can turn our messes into messages of hope for those in the future. He can turn our tests into testimony! I pray you have a blessed mother's day today! God is with you and He is for you. Xoxo
@@PinkShimmer74a.l’
Thanks for this :) the responsibility we have as parents is huge and learn daily about how to improve and show them to be the best humans possible is mandatory.
4 minutes in and no content yet. Food for thought. Will come back later to check it out when I have time. Love your stuff. Cheers
4:30-congratulations Jim! It’s a strange, I have been following you for years, and I don’t think I’ve ever heard you talk about your family so congratulations!
You talked about teaching consequences but without fisical punishment and thats great. But how can we teach toddlers consequences when they don't understand more complex reasoning?
Love love love the content ❤❤
True Worth
Hi Team. I gave the book limitless to a few people on my circle. But I had to buy in 3 different languages, Spanish, Portuguese and English. They all loved it. The UA-cam videos are super insightful, specially videos like this. I can share the overall information about this Video, but it would be amazing if I could share this video and everyone on my circle could read captions on their native language to understand the content. Just a suggestion.
I used to do Family Constellations with parents of 2-5 year-olds This is a systemic therapy-like technique. The director of the kindergarten I used to work with, actually saw the change in the children after the parents did a Family Constellation. Sometimes inmediate, sometimes over time.
Incredible, thank you!!!
I am very very busy. But i always make time to read to them at night for even 15 mins. They love the “nightly meetings”. Bc the toddler goes to montessori, they are taught to do their job like take out stuffs to learn or play but its a job like puzzle job so i continue it at home and when I say its meeting time they pull their chairs together and we talk and read etc.
Is there a type of sun screen that is "good"? He mentioned looking at the labels for bas things. Anyone have some direction on this aspect? Thanks
Thank you for sharing this information. My son is turning 16 in a couple of months. He lacks agency. Do I need to do anything differently differently differently because of his age? Thank you
Raise a good kid is by being with them and be there for them. Teach them what they want to be in the next 10 years?
But discipline and being fit will boost their confidence over the hill.
Jesus is the way, the truth, and the life. No man comes to the father except through the son! Receive eternal through Christ's sacrifice
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Great advice
Thank you very much for a great conversation! Will this book still be good if our children are teenagers now?
Profound knowledge
Taking care of your kids mental health is absolutely one of the most important things you can do for them
Can MCT COCONUT🥥 OIL HELP MEMORY?
I know Lion's Mane does. The best product for Lion's Mane is from Lifecykle. Have a look into it and research it 🙏
What is the name of the book recommended here
Raising healthy kids in this dysfunctional society is almost impossible. One have to be lucky to have a supportive partner, to have very good luck with schools and teachers,.... and having lots of energy regardless of if you don't have enough money to feed your children or taking care of oneself.
Easy to focus on the negatives
Quality time and kindness as Dr mentions doesn’t depend on external factors thankfully and something you can easily implement if you so will
@@sarabrigido2163 What would you suggest to implement for people who don't have money for paying bills and food for their children (of course the children upset as they are hungry, so telling to the children to be positive is not going to fill their bellies), and the school is threatening with social services for not having nutritious lunches or washed clothes? Also if you can suggest how quality time doesn't depend of external factors in these situation would be helpful! (Hope you are not a bot or an unintelligent person responding with some useless stuff).
Is there any native speaker? I need an English partner to improve my English.
Yes!!
I wish i knew this earlyer i have 5 children some adults naw n i feel i protected them way to mych as i dodnt have the tools myself coming from care home abused not healthy at all
Can you please let us know how we can be firm while we are nice at the sametime😢 I can not manage this being firm while I am not yelling 😢
Un abrazo para mi viudo😘
An issue is that many parents dont know how to regulate their emotions or deal w/their "demons" nor roll witj disappointment for themselves much less guide their children 😢
I think doc got his beats on backwards. ❤ L for left R for right cord behind the neck 👍
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Be firm and kind and allow them to pay the consequences
Love this ❤
Social media are bad. Then, “dr Amen is all over social media. “
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ADHD is a common misdiagnosis among the gifted.
With parenting be:
Available
Firm
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I made the mistake of doing too much for my children and the became adults ill-eqipped to handle the real world.
How best to modify or reverse 30 years if entitlement?
I, too, did this. I think it was the mental effects of an early divorce and trying to make my kids feel more love or less alone when their dad stopped showing up for them.
Saying this, I now know the effects of divorce on children. I definitely would have opted to stay married for the children
Don’t coddle them during uncomfortable situations, or be quick to solve their problems. Start encouraging them to find solutions on their own, that will build confidence in their own abilities to solve their problems or discomfort. You should be there to just listen to them vent and you can encourage them, but fight your urge to solve their problems. Ask them what they think they should do about it, listen and give them suggestions. If they say they don’t know, encourage them to get out a notebook and write them down. It’s like sitting down and doing homework with your kids. Either you do the work for them to make things less stressful on yourself and on them (which sets them up for failure and dependency), or you sit with them showing your support, empathy and compassion while they navigate through figuring it out. You show up for them, but you don’t do for them. Hope that helps!
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Please turn off background music.
Is Dr. Amen using bluetooth earbuds? Isn't that bad for your brain?
I wish I knew this 16 years ago. If I knew then what I know now……
Please remove the long intro it discourages someone to watch this video.its only that I know you and I know you have very good info.thanks
Agreed- I don’t watch his videos and almost clicked away as I was beginning to wonder if the whole video was like that
Yes. And the energy is quite low in this interview. Couldn’t make it past 5 min
Agree I almost clicked away too but forced myself to stay tune
I just skip all that. I don't like it either. I am straight to the point. I'm a busy mom, and I want to educate myself quickly and move on.
@longashl yeah, it's kind of mellow.
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Parents today are way more narcissistic than any other time in history, hard to come across selfless devoted parents, their more interested in taking 🤳 than spending quality moments with their precious children 😢
While I really do like and understand the love and logic thing, that horrifying child abuser, Ruby Franke, utilized these principles and bastardized them. So there is going to be a major issue with not bringing a lunch or a sweater or what have you. You have to be able to use your discretion and be a little flexible in some instances. Every child is different and you can’t apply principles across the board exactly the same. Parents still need to use their own discretion in knowing child. And of course don’t be a psycho monster like Ruby Franke.
The issue with this podcast is that Jim Kwik already knew all this stuff. Watch a podcast with someone who didn't know how the brain works beforehand, and you'll get more insights.
Only 5 grand a pop😠. His people put my niece on antidepressants and suggested a few supplements after her scan. Maybe if you’re famous you get more care. 😢 my friends child also went and I didn’t see improvement in him either. It’s hard for me to be impressed. Just a lot of talk
The intro was so confusing.
This is gold, thank you 🙏
Gor my copy!!!!!
vile online porn is devastating kids lives and this lasts into adulthood.
Take responsibility - remove access to unsuitable material
Some context here: that statistic about “25% of women are on antidepressants” is actually 25% of American women ages 40-59 and is from 2010. Not generalizable to all women everywhere or even just to that same population 14 years later and isn’t even relevant to what he’s talking about here. Parenting that millennials and Gen Z’ers received has nothing to do with antidepressant use by these women. If anything, their antidepressant use was probably caused by hormonal fluctuations due to menopause.
It’s also helpful to keep in mind that 1950s housewives were commonly taking tranquilizers to the point that the Rolling Stones actually wrote a song about it called “Mother’s Little Helper”. So overmedicating women is not a new phenomenon.
Too many commercials. Hey i know what we need more of, more noise and adds to clutter up our mental space! In fact i would like extra spam on top of my adds please!
You're not wrong, but they're also the reason he can do it, right?..
Pandemic exasperated this 🤬
How the fck is punishment of your children’s behavior increasing their self-esteem? Are you out of your mind? Taking away the console for a week is for sure tempting, but that has nothing to do with consequences. That is you enforcing prison rules on your child, telling him - I’m the boss here, I can take what’s yours and you can do nothing about it. Good luck raising a mentally strong kid with this approach
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I wonder why there are 25 percent of women on anti depressant.
I don’t know why, but seeing Dr Amen I see something weird about kids safety. I don’t know why. Sorry.
Sorry but your channel has way too many adds. I need to move on. Best of luck
This talk seems to me to be unfair, as the parents who are on their phones all the time and don't care about their children, are not going to listen to this talk. And the parents who care and are listening, because they want to bring their children well, they are struggling a lot, and what you are suggesting can not fix the problems.
Have you tried it? All parenting experts recommend the same thing.
@@xavthomas What a question? No need to 'try' a lifestyle I already live. All parenting experts are recommending it, and again, it is for parents who don't care and are not seeing these experts. The parents who are seeing this experts struggle, because the experts are not helping. And yes, I am one of them, who asked for help and was told that what schools do is out of my control. To teach by humiliating is the fastest way to learn, so they will not stop humiliating the children (and damaging theirs self esteem).
@@ic7804 I'm sorry you went through that. Handing our kids over to other people to shape them can either be hugely beneficial to them by giving more access to information, culture, and perspectives... or can be irreparably destructive. We are at the mercy of the school districts and individual teachers. This is why so many families turn to homeschooling.
My own family of origin had big problems with our school and my brother still suffers from the affects nearly 50 years later.
This is too boring for me
Love all of this. So honest. So kind. So correct.
Is pinching 🤏 bad haha I feel sometimes it’s what i can do to make my child notice !
Lol
It's abuse. It's exerting power and control over them instead of listening and communicating with respect. It undermines trust and love. It's your way of getting revenge for them not listening. It's not a parenting tactic.