PLEASE, you, and EVERYONE, if you haven't already, embrace the One True Only God YHWH Jehovah, Only One Jesus Christ His Only Begotten Son and Lord and Savior of our souls and the Only One Holy Spirit. God is good. God is love. Jesus is Lord. Jesus IS coming. Your soul depends on it! I have seen God act in my life. He saved my soul, changed my heart, changed my mind, helped people through me, took care of people in my life, people I hurt before I found God. God is the only reason I was able to reconcile with my dad before he died. God worked through Jesus Christ to save our souls. Jesus Christ died on the cross for our sins. Believe in your heart and confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus, and that God raised Him from the dead and you will be saved. Be baptized in The Holy Spirit, and if He wills, water as well. Repent of your sins, accept God, Jesus Christ and the Holy Spirit into your heart, that Jesus Christ died on the cross for your sins. For God so loved the world that He gave His only Begotten Son Jesus Christ, that all who believe on Him should not perish but have everlasting life. Jesus Christ is The Way, The Truth and The Life. No one comes to the Father Jehovah God but through Him. Not long after I got saved I prayed to God for help understanding the Holy Bible, and that same day someone knocked on my door asking me if I wanted to understand the Bible. The Holy Bible says, "love thy enemy", "turn the other cheek", "If your enemy is hungry, feed him", "if he is thirsty, give him a drink", "pray for those who persecute you", "do not repay evil for evil". LORD willing, all humans may commit sin of almost every kind (gay, straight), and that's wrong, and all humans sin, as God tells us through the The Holy Bible, "for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and all are justified freely by His grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus." The Holy Bible also says, "If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness."
We were all thinking the same thing I think XD I almost had a heart attack because I thought he was gonna kill the baby cow but I was very relieved that he didn’t.
The classic. "You should love yourself NOW!" Whenever I have difficulty trying to treat myself better, then I ask myself "What do I gain from treating myself worse?" Sadness? Lack of willpower? Demotivation? *Well, those things all suck.* Even just saying "I'm okay with myself and who I am" or even "Maybe I do deserve this good thing" has helped a lot in letting me feel better about myself as a person. The slow incremental steps add up over time.
Another tip on loving yourself: Don't dwell on your mistakes that you've made in the past... there's nothing you can do about it now. If you're struggling with a relationship, think about this: Everybody; and I mean *everybody* you meet, and ever will meet in your life will constantly learn, grow, and change... You will need to expect this moving forward, and if you're with the right people, they should expect the same from you as well. So, I'll leave you with this: Even if you've screwed up really, REALLY badly, all we can do as people is learn from our mistakes and keep on trucking!
Self love ≠ narcissism. It’s being compassionate to yourself, even if you make a mistake. It’s not a delusion of telling yourself: ‘it’s great I’m great! I love myself’ When you fuck up, it’s: ‘I messed up and that’s okay, that’s what people do. Lets try this again!’ With self love you can admit your mistakes and take responsibility without giving yourself the life sentence of shame and self-hate
There has been a lot of talk about you bringing back old youtube, but I think that sells you short. While the format may be like old youtube, what you say is far more interesting and profound than the phallic jokes of old youtube. You have brought in the emotional honesty and frank discussion of life which has arisen on the internet after old youtube. You have done something new and valuable, and should be praised for it.
It's really weird because people have been told that "thinking anything good about yourself = being egotistical = egoism bad" and "thinking about others first = good", and to some extent "being humble (hating, belittling yourself) = good" And now we're here...
A big problem with that is people helping others to the point of neglecting themselves. There's nothing wrong thinking good things about yourself, that's entirely different from the extreme versions or being narcissistic/NPD. There needs to be a healthy balance where you take care of yourself and help others, way too many people are takers and you can never help them "too much". There's a saying that you need to "fill up your own cup before you can pour out to others". If not, you risk getting burnt out and ignored, since there tends to be quite few givers compared to takers.
Hey man, I don't know if you'll see this, but I'm so glad you're making videos. You've got a way of thinking about tough things and putting your thoughts into words that I really admire. Please keep doing what you're doing. Wish you the best.
Been dealing with a depressive bout recently. Sunday I spent my entire day in bed. I couldn’t physically move myself to do anything productive. So Monday and Tuesday I just read when I felt like it so I might be able to be the tiniest bit productivez
For me the hardest thing is to not give myself such a hard time. Because to be honest I don't have much sympathy for myself after seizures I have. I tend to just say "work hard, you don't have time to rest!" so I am learning though through all this even though its been years. I'm always learning from my mustakes to just say "Hey, relax, you need to rest to recover".
I genuinely don’t care about most things in life, I just do things I want and I try to make my life as good as I possibly can. Sometimes I just come off as an asshole tho, even when I don’t mean to be. Other times people get mad at me because I either don’t care about what they are saying so I genuinely just don’t want to talk to them about it and it’s hard for me to be social in general, let alone when I don’t want to be and when I don’t care about the topic. They also get mad because they think I should be more upset, worried, embarrassed, sympathetic, etc. when in reality that’s just not who I am and I’m not trying to just act like a big tough guy, I just genuinely dont care about a lot of things or mistakes. I’ve always wanted to just try to be less of an ass, but it’s really hard
i feel this on a deeper level. i understand you because im the same. its hard sometimes but its always good to know that we are not alone🫂 its hard but its okay. we cant all just care about every miniscule thing in the entire world
10:19 I try to plant more trees than I cut down, mostly to have more trees to cut down later. Regarding animals, I tend to wait until I have a few dozen of them before "harvesting" any of them. Unless I really need food, which I don't in my current world (got a few full stacks of bread and two nearby villages that have wheat farms setup).
I love looking at these comment sections because you all are my type of people. It's nice to feel part of a community and niko brings such a wonderful group of people together with his videos. I literally just figured out the "secret" that is you have to love yourself before you can love others. I am on my journey of loving myself and the best way I can think about that is by saying, "what would you do for someone that you love" and then apply those things to yourself. In order to help others, you have to help yourself. There are two roads in life, the road of discipline and the road of regret. Far better things come from the road of discipline. To anyone reading this, I want to say thank you for your time and much love.
what i have recently done to love myself is to just be a better person in general. i had a lot of issues with my friends in the past of me having this "narcissist" type thing going on and i also blamed a lot of my issues on other people. mind you this was mainly back in december but i had a friend at the time that im not friends with anymore (more on that later) who made me at least a little bit aware of the things i needed to work on. this ultimately failed, and i actually thought it DID work, but in the end i was just being a narc which again i thought was loving myself. a lot of things in my life were going great, until march happened. i started to become probably the same person i was in december and that same friend made it aware of what i was doing, again. this time she said it in a less chill tone and in more of an agitated tone, which made me upset and caused me to stop being friends with her. after a few days, i realized that she was actually right and i should listen to her, so thats what i did. one of those things was actually loving myself more. some of the things i did in order to love myself more is take a break from social media, and give more time for myself. i also tried to admit my mistakes to others, so that people started to know i was self aware. i forgot to mention this but when i lost that one friend, around the same time i lost multiple of my other friends. besides that, i feel like i have been trying to love myself more and am really hoping that i am becoming a better person overall.
It’s currently 1:47 a.m where I live. I have school in the morning and I get bullied. I don’t know what I’m doing awake right now other than scrolling through this guy’s UA-cam page and trying to figure out what the hell I want to do. I’m okay mentally most of the time but I have bad days more often than most. Love y’all, thank for reading my yap.
I have been doing a couple things lately. First of all, I have been trying to allow myself to take mental breaks, to really rest my brain. I tend to avoid things, so I got into this habit of not truly allowing myself to rest just so I don't end up avoiding things that stress me out. But recently I learned that it's not avoiding if you intend to come back to it. That's what makes the difference. True avoidance is trying to push something out of your mind with the intent of never thinking about/doing that thing again. It's only natural to want and need breaks. Journaling helps a lot with this.
This is probably the best advice I heard in a while. I am a currently in highschool while also doing my first degree in math and computer science, and I tend to overwork myself. It took me a while to let myself actually rest from time to time and take a bit of a break, and every time a friend of mine told me about their problems and lack of time due to school my first thought was that they should suck it up and that it's not that serious. It really is important to know how to treat yourself in order to know how to treat others. Thank your for another banger of a video niko. 🙏
I really love this content, but people saying old yt is coming back don’t get the full picture. yes, old minecraft content is coming back, but stuff most people watch is still super over edited. while I believe old yt will come back, I just think its a bit overstated to say “OLD UA-cam IS COMING BACK!!!” just a useless rant but anyway love this content, and it’s inspiring me to start making my own “old youtube” style videos.
10:45 The thing Ive done recently to love myself is allow myself to cry, to let my emotions out. Im not really sharing them with anyone, but Im not trying to suppress them as much anymore. It hurts because they mostly have to do with a break up, but I cant move on without letting myself feel them.
personally. I find it easier to love or appreciate myself more when people tell me they love me and stuff. My self worth is dependent on how people think of me.
I don’t necessarily think this is a bad thing. As human beings, we are designed to tackle life with others! We aren’t meant to live life alone, but you do have to be aware about what might happen if you stop receiving that support from those around you. It can be very depressing and challenging to live life when feeling lonely if you don’t love yourself. Equally, it is also challenging to love others if you don’t love yourself. This is something to be aware of, especially since it’s never a bad thing to be able to love yourself!
@@Tr1qYY Im there right now. I get appreciated occasionally in school by teachers or classmates. Rarely by family and not at all by close friends. It feels lonely and depressing and I don't feel there's anyone to talk to. Specially cause my friends insult me for stupid shit and I catch strays even when I ain't there
@@wyawylI feel that! I got so wrapped up in the validation of good grades and helping classmates that I overlooked spending time with friends outside of school and taking care of myself. It’s a tough situation to be in, but I have found that reaching out and talking to your most trustworthy friends/peers helps so much! Pick a few people to have in your inner circle and devote time to growing your relationship with them! You may have to make some sacrifices to do this, but it is so worth it! Not only will it feel good to have friends, but you’ll have a stronger support group, and they might be people who you spend the rest of your life talking too!
THIS!!! exactly bro this is what I mention every time but nobody seems to get it, what others think of me is what I think of myself, there is literally no other way around it, if someone calls me ugly and worthless It's obviously going to change the way I view myself even if I know that I'm not ugly, subconsciously the way we think of ourselves is heavily dependent on how others view us, anybody who says otherwise is coping
honestly i try to accept myself as i am, and to improve loving myself, i cut my hair or just improve my looks, i feel like it gives more confidence to myself, not that i want to look better for the others but for myself.
In terms of what I've done recently to love myself, I started making videos just about a month and a half ago. It wasn't for views, I just needed to do something creative with a medium I loved. It's felt really great these last weeks to make something I'm proud of, rather than just feeling like life is the same old boring routine every day. Thanks for another wonderful video and topic!
It's pretty easy to tell people to love themselves, but the actual act of finding reason to love yourself can be an insurmountable task. But to be fair, someone like me who despises themselves also usually aren't in a place in life where we should be trying to form deep and lasting bonds with other people, I'm just trying to keep my head above water.
This is such an incredible truth. If you've been taught that you don't sympathy or a break, that internalized belief projects onto others as what people in general deserve.
i had my relationship end before finding this channel about 3 weeks ago. im about 19 years old and your videos help a lot to have an objective perspective on some things. this is the youtube everyone needs and you're doing a great job at it keep going niko
Niko, i think i can speak for all of us when i say that we absolutely love your videos where you do these talks about life. You make what your talking about easy to understand and it really helps out people. Thank you for what you do and have a good one mate.
I decided to not do homework and just recover and relax during a spring break. because I am more important than my grades. hope I will not regret this decision later though
Recently after listening to some of your videos, reading Into the Wild, and taking time to understand what things make me happy and what makes me sad and stressed, I’ve embraced a drastic change in my lifestyle to facilitate my more adventurous spirit. I’ve gone to different hangouts and parties with both familiar and new people, mostly, but I’ve also trying to instill workouts and routine into my life, along with more outings. I’m very early in so I’m hoping it still succeeds, but, when before I was entirely unmotivated and lonely, I now feel more fulfilled. Also, thanks for the advice on family. My relationship with my family is honestly one of my difficulties, so hearing that I shouldn’t abandon them in my path to happiness helped
As someone with a savior complex, I had to acknowledge when to trying to help others that don't want my help without them saying no, since then I no longer exhaust myself on others, I learn to accept that not everyone can be helped, and worst case scenarios go from me snapping and friendships being burned and hateful to simply sizzled out and neutral.
Love is complicated. But, those who cannot love themselves are unable to show that same level of affection to others. Love yourself for who you are. Show it through your actions. Then, you'll be able to show love to others in the way you want.
>> social media is the bane of your existence can't be more true. in my case i just find social media boring. some people over-exaggerate everything they have for attention, and it just makes them so fake that i don't even want to talk to them in real irl
Man this video is perfect i love how you talked about the whole situation and how it affects not only your personal life but also lives of others around you, and how you also clarified you don't mean that kinda selfish toxic cringy self love but just the healthy peaceful one when you feel yourself and others the same
I allowed myself to have 1 run of Hades while studying for the test the next day. Oh man that felt so good, because that was a full run, the build was good. And I passed the test the next day. So love yourself first and the universe will love you
Personally for me, my form of loving myself as of recently usually comes in the form of doing little chores like washing dishes, watering my plants or stuff around the house when I’m living alone for the school semester. Those things actually give me a break from doing a lot of tough programming hw at my uni. And if I am doing that hw I try to go into a nice enough environment where I just feel relaxed while doing so without much interruption. That’s my form of self-love.
Today I went for a walk. The weather was nice, the sun was shining. And I truly enjoyed being by myself. My relationship was draining energy and happiness day by day. But I didn't notice it. I was loved. And then it ended. It crushed me. The future that I dreamed of was shattered. I gave myself time to heal. I put off all tasks and just relaxed. For the first time in months I was free. No one told me what to do, no one pressured me to do what I didn't want to do. I became myself again. I started to love myself. I started to do things that I hadn't done in a while because of her. I became happy If you are reading this I hope that you find yourself. And you will love yourself for who you are. Because if you don't, than you would never find happiness anywhere. Put yourself above anyone. Remember Only you are responsible for your well-being. You are loved. The universe loves you. I wish you all the best❤ Thanks for video Niko❤️
I gave myself enough time to just relax, or just did exercise consistently to build discipline. I also have some trouble with relying on myself and I’m glad that I needed to hear this
I honestly couldn't say what I have done to love myself nor would I know what that could be. I think I can say that I have kind of admired myself in the mirror instead of talking shit about how bad I look and that. It's really hard for me to love myself and life for that matter at this moment because I have gone through a bad personal experience with the girl that I had my first kiss with (I am 19). Anyway thank you niko for your videos they are pretty chill as always.
To love myself, I’ve started to work on allowing myself to not feel guilty for enjoying gaming. I even started posting video game clips and stuff, I use to feel real guilty about enjoying gaming. I felt like I needed a laundry list worth of “productive task” to rattle off before I could justify taking a breather, and I’m happy I’m working not too do that anymore. This video was great, and I’m incredibly grateful for this channel. Thank you 🙏🏽
in the past two years i've realized that i dont tend to love myself and lean towards self sacrifice to make others in my life happy. i thank u for your videos, they have taught me much about how to view topics differently and more critically
Your life is EVEYTHING, you serve ALL purposes. You should treat yourself NOW! and give yourself a piece of that oxygen in the ozone layer that's coming up so that you can breathe in this blue trap bubble. LOVE YOURSELF. I mean that with a %100, with a %1000. LTG aside actually love yourself.
i didn't knew i needed to watch someone giving life advice while struggling with minecraft but you definitely proved me how important it can be for me, thanks
going through a heartbreak rn, this helps a lot; i gave so much of myself to her that i almost forgot about loving and giving love to me too. thank you for telling us all this
Over the course of two months, I have had a horrendous experience. A lot of bad things have happened to me, and my reaction to these events (abnormal and out of my character) drove that sword deeper. Until significant damage was done and I essentially find myself starting from scratch. A large part of why this all happened was because I did not love myself the way I used to. My self esteem over these events, my confidence, and my overall person and sense of self has taken a severe nose dive. It was only until recently where I did my best to get out of my thoughts and regrets, to give myself the chance to grieve, to think, to hone myself as a person for *MYSELF* so that I can be better for the world around me. And I did this by a small start. Small steps to loving myself. One of those things was to start reading more. Books on ideologies, philosophy, sci-fi, genres that gauged my interest. And I didn’t make it anything grandiose either. 5 pages a day, 5 a night. Just to get comfortable for doing something I enjoy again. Because it’s a nice feeling that I believe all of us deserve as people. So that we cannot only be better for others, but be better for ourselves. Start small. If you hit a rock, chip away at it. We all start somewhere, and I believe it’s important to not lose yourself in that. I love you all. Take care and stay strong❤
Writing a daily journal that highlights moments of my life The steps i took Moments i had People i met And what i have learned so far It’s changing my life a little Plus I reduce my social media usage by setting a timer
last week i went out with a group of people from school (we're all in our internships rn so this was the occasion to meetup). i didnt rly talked to all of them but they invited me and when we went to that korean restaurant: I realized that we were all sitting next/facing each other. And it made me think about those movies where people my age go out with their friends. It made me happy bc i always had a huge social problem and have a real hard time appreciate others. Here people were talking to me, asking me questions and bringing back memories they had about me in class. I guess going out with them that day was self love
i have been for a bit more than a year trying to move on from a girl i never got to date but was close to it. ive started to go out more with friends, riding my bike, eating healthier and trying to keep myself as a low profile individual. I realised that all of this tiny steps made a signficant difference on my mood and my mental health state. reading all the comments made me feel less alone in my journey, so thx guys. i hope i can also make some of you feel less lonely. (btw my english might be bad cus its my second language so im sorry abt that)
Your video about breaking up is ok, and now this one, came up just at the most perfect timing, just broke up 2 months ago and realised that i didn't loved myself even a little for that time, now i'm trying to do things that whould make me fall in love with my self, and that a phrase that really sticked into my mind, make me fall in love with my self, and for this i'm taking care of my self doing things that i've never did before, just like skin care, try cutting my own hair (it turned out really good), take care of my nails, paint them brown, that's my favorite color, take care of me just like I would want some do, and that made me feel a liitle bit better, still trying to get over the breakup, currently in that phase where you can't imagine someone that can fit your style yk, but I know that can happen, but I need to focus on my self first, so I think thankyou so much for your videos, been watching them for the past 2 months and I just completely love this content style, thankyou very much!
you seem like you know so much. my breakup was yesterday as im writing this and im compleatly heart broken but just hearing you speak makes feel like i have a chance. thank you
me watching this after a breakup makes me realize why it happened and you really helped with that and i appreciate you posting. i’d say that the break up was a 50/50 where i didn’t love myself, didn’t know what i wanted yet and she didn’t know what she wanted in life yet and also may or may not loved herself. we both agreed to be friends because we were holding eachother back. If you have any advice i’d love to hear it! but anyways love your videos you’re awesome 😎
I’m going to the gym 5-6 times a week , eat really well , to love myself and I go out with my friends and eat a little bit of fast food on the weekends
Honestly I needed to hear this piece of advice. Like SO many others I tend to be hard on myself and a simple reminder to love myself goes a long way. ❤
Hey man thank you so much for making this video. I have had on my bucket list to buy myself something nice just because (since I never buy anything for myself even though I have disposable income), and I never really thought about why I would want to do that in the first place. I have noticed in my life that I really struggle to buy gifts for people, and I think part of that is bc I never buy anything for myself. I have Good Friday off in 2 days and I was gonna just workout like usual but I’m gonna go buy myself something fancy :) - thank you for helping me as I’m trying to love other people better
i helped myself to some ice cream the other day even though i am supposed to be on a healthy diet may as well do that today too.. idk why the video kinda just left me with this feeling that i have been unkind to myself and overworking recently...Thanks, really :)
This video seriously appeared in the time when I needed help. No matter how simple was this video, I appreciate everything that was said and I'm thankful that I decided to watch it. Thanks. Truly. You saved me from hopelessly waiting in the sun for someone who is unlikely to show up. This should describe it. I haven't been treating myself well in the past couple of weeks and this has been hurting me slowly since then. But, I think that it's time to take a break.
I started discovering new activities and hobbies, I've been trying to move on from a break-up, and I began to feel tired of feeling shitty some months ago, so I decided to finally open up to people, and start socializing again, I think I've been happier since then, obviously I don't feel that way always
Something I've done to love myself recently is take a week break off of going to class to refresh and reset and come back the next week. Midterms really screwed up my mental and motivation and it led to severe burnout, so I decided to take this week off to sort-of "restart." I don't know if this is exactly worth what I am losing in return, but I feel like it is what I need in order for the future of myself and this semester.
In a nutshell, I come from a dysfunctional and psychologically abusive relationship with my father who was a covert narcissist and had robbed me of my self-worth, I was homeless with him for a very long time during my upbringing and never had a good home life growing up. I managed to escape that and had to go great lengths to get away from him. I went to go be with my extended family that had found me on the internet, I genuinely felt that I would belong with them and I thought they felt same way, but unfortunately, I guess they didn’t. What seemed like a gift from the universe, just turned into something that only contributed to my psychological and emotional wounds, I was only with them for 3 months because of how difficult they were to live with, and how conditional their love and regard was towards me, their love was like a benchmark, I couldn’t really be loved or accepted for just the way I am and only if I meet certain criteria, and had to constantly jump through hoops in order to be loved, and if I wouldn’t, then it’s basically ‘bye peace out can’t live with your family’. It’s just unfair to me how my upbringing pretty much got robbed by a narcissist father and is something no kid should ever have to go through, while my fully related brother got to have what they called a ‘privileged life’. Yet, some online stranger on discord invalidates me and even went on to say “why should they love you” and “who are you and why should you be loved and cared for” and even a former friend laughs at me and invalidates me and minimizes my feelings saying “well they raised your brother and not you so he’s their kid and not you why do you think you deserve everything what he always gotten.” and that put more salt in the wound…it’s just really unfair, my aunt didn’t even have any idea why I went to go be with them, even though she invited me and was like “why not come stay here?”. It has put me in a constant endless loop of rumination. I remember I stayed with a friend of mine and his family because his mom couldn’t sleep at night knowing that I was sleeping in a car in a parking lot somewhere. They treated me as equally as their 2 boys… I wanted that with my brother… every other kid gets to have a family home life, the most basic thing in the world… except for me I guess… I have had someone that recognized the validity of my feelings though, and that person said “How on earth can you not be allowed just the same if not more”. All that I wanted was a life there with my family… why would anyone be wrong for that?
bro had so many languages to choose from, but he chose the language of facts
he chose the language of cows
Best comment ever
PLEASE, you, and EVERYONE, if you haven't already, embrace the One True Only God YHWH Jehovah, Only One Jesus Christ His Only Begotten Son and Lord and Savior of our souls and the Only One Holy Spirit. God is good. God is love. Jesus is Lord. Jesus IS coming. Your soul depends on it!
I have seen God act in my life. He saved my soul, changed my heart, changed my mind, helped people through me, took care of people in my life, people I hurt before I found God. God is the only reason I was able to reconcile with my dad before he died.
God worked through Jesus Christ to save our souls. Jesus Christ died on the cross for our sins. Believe in your heart and confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus, and that God raised Him from the dead and you will be saved. Be baptized in The Holy Spirit, and if He wills, water as well. Repent of your sins, accept God, Jesus Christ and the Holy Spirit into your heart, that Jesus Christ died on the cross for your sins.
For God so loved the world that He gave His only Begotten Son Jesus Christ, that all who believe on Him should not perish but have everlasting life. Jesus Christ is The Way, The Truth and The Life. No one comes to the Father Jehovah God but through Him.
Not long after I got saved I prayed to God for help understanding the Holy Bible, and that same day someone knocked on my door asking me if I wanted to understand the Bible.
The Holy Bible says, "love thy enemy", "turn the other cheek", "If your enemy is hungry, feed him", "if he is thirsty, give him a drink", "pray for those who persecute you", "do not repay evil for evil".
LORD willing, all humans may commit sin of almost every kind (gay, straight), and that's wrong, and all humans sin, as God tells us through the The Holy Bible, "for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and all are justified freely by His grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus." The Holy Bible also says, "If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness."
Instructions unclear, I tried giving myself a piece of wheat and ended up starring in hell's kitchen
"Something beautiful happens"
*immediately pulls a sword
😂 Truly a minecraft player
I was about to comment this 🤣
We were all thinking the same thing I think XD I almost had a heart attack because I thought he was gonna kill the baby cow but I was very relieved that he didn’t.
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I love myself so much I take 4hours breaks After studying for 10 mins 🗿
hahahahaha
Agree, procrastination is self-love basically xd
@@FroggytronFrogUnderstood. Procrastination has been added to my positive trait storage bank.
LOL
That cow comparison was extraordinary
"YOU are fumbling MY BAG" is the greatest quote of all time
that can be interpreted in other ways
The classic. "You should love yourself NOW!"
Whenever I have difficulty trying to treat myself better, then I ask myself "What do I gain from treating myself worse?" Sadness? Lack of willpower? Demotivation? *Well, those things all suck.*
Even just saying "I'm okay with myself and who I am" or even "Maybe I do deserve this good thing" has helped a lot in letting me feel better about myself as a person. The slow incremental steps add up over time.
Another tip on loving yourself: Don't dwell on your mistakes that you've made in the past... there's nothing you can do about it now.
If you're struggling with a relationship, think about this: Everybody; and I mean *everybody* you meet, and ever will meet in your life will constantly learn, grow, and change... You will need to expect this moving forward, and if you're with the right people, they should expect the same from you as well.
So, I'll leave you with this: Even if you've screwed up really, REALLY badly, all we can do as people is learn from our mistakes and keep on trucking!
definitely. what we can do, however, is learn from those mistakes
Wish I could save this comment in my eyes
I've been through a relationships where mistakes had no place to be. That hurts like hell and I actually did feel guilty about it. But I shouldn't.
Self love ≠ narcissism.
It’s being compassionate to yourself, even if you make a mistake. It’s not a delusion of telling yourself: ‘it’s great I’m great! I love myself’ When you fuck up, it’s: ‘I messed up and that’s okay, that’s what people do. Lets try this again!’ With self love you can admit your mistakes and take responsibility without giving yourself the life sentence of shame and self-hate
Darling, come fourth for Niko has grazed the digital landscape yet again and has blessed us with another cintematic masterpiece.
Bro is TRYING to become banner art
There has been a lot of talk about you bringing back old youtube, but I think that sells you short. While the format may be like old youtube, what you say is far more interesting and profound than the phallic jokes of old youtube. You have brought in the emotional honesty and frank discussion of life which has arisen on the internet after old youtube. You have done something new and valuable, and should be praised for it.
I love the birds and bees explanation using cows 😂
It's really weird because people have been told that "thinking anything good about yourself = being egotistical = egoism bad" and "thinking about others first = good", and to some extent "being humble (hating, belittling yourself) = good"
And now we're here...
A big problem with that is people helping others to the point of neglecting themselves. There's nothing wrong thinking good things about yourself, that's entirely different from the extreme versions or being narcissistic/NPD.
There needs to be a healthy balance where you take care of yourself and help others, way too many people are takers and you can never help them "too much".
There's a saying that you need to "fill up your own cup before you can pour out to others". If not, you risk getting burnt out and ignored, since there tends to be quite few givers compared to takers.
Hey man, I don't know if you'll see this, but I'm so glad you're making videos. You've got a way of thinking about tough things and putting your thoughts into words that I really admire. Please keep doing what you're doing. Wish you the best.
I really admire people that aren't afraid to openly admire things and tell people how they make them feel
"You have got to learn to love Yourself, because In this world thats the realest love you'll get" -Kendrick Lamar
Thank you for the relationship advice!
You're welcome and thank you!
I genuinely love this guys content, really bringing back old youtube and Im all for it, keep it up man!
Been dealing with a depressive bout recently. Sunday I spent my entire day in bed. I couldn’t physically move myself to do anything productive. So Monday and Tuesday I just read when I felt like it so I might be able to be the tiniest bit productivez
For me the hardest thing is to not give myself such a hard time. Because to be honest I don't have much sympathy for myself after seizures I have. I tend to just say "work hard, you don't have time to rest!" so I am learning though through all this even though its been years. I'm always learning from my mustakes to just say "Hey, relax, you need to rest to recover".
I genuinely don’t care about most things in life, I just do things I want and I try to make my life as good as I possibly can. Sometimes I just come off as an asshole tho, even when I don’t mean to be. Other times people get mad at me because I either don’t care about what they are saying so I genuinely just don’t want to talk to them about it and it’s hard for me to be social in general, let alone when I don’t want to be and when I don’t care about the topic. They also get mad because they think I should be more upset, worried, embarrassed, sympathetic, etc. when in reality that’s just not who I am and I’m not trying to just act like a big tough guy, I just genuinely dont care about a lot of things or mistakes. I’ve always wanted to just try to be less of an ass, but it’s really hard
i feel this on a deeper level. i understand you because im the same. its hard sometimes but its always good to know that we are not alone🫂 its hard but its okay. we cant all just care about every miniscule thing in the entire world
dont change ,unless it hurts people ... keep being yourself ;)
The thing I did to love myself if I finnaly got a haircut and now I finnaly love how I look
this is the type of stuff people need to hear
10:19 I try to plant more trees than I cut down, mostly to have more trees to cut down later. Regarding animals, I tend to wait until I have a few dozen of them before "harvesting" any of them. Unless I really need food, which I don't in my current world (got a few full stacks of bread and two nearby villages that have wheat farms setup).
Man, from the very bottom of my heart, thank you so much you're an insanely great person and I feel like talking to a friend listening to your vids
I love looking at these comment sections because you all are my type of people. It's nice to feel part of a community and niko brings such a wonderful group of people together with his videos. I literally just figured out the "secret" that is you have to love yourself before you can love others. I am on my journey of loving myself and the best way I can think about that is by saying, "what would you do for someone that you love" and then apply those things to yourself. In order to help others, you have to help yourself. There are two roads in life, the road of discipline and the road of regret. Far better things come from the road of discipline. To anyone reading this, I want to say thank you for your time and much love.
what i have recently done to love myself is to just be a better person in general. i had a lot of issues with my friends in the past of me having this "narcissist" type thing going on and i also blamed a lot of my issues on other people. mind you this was mainly back in december but i had a friend at the time that im not friends with anymore (more on that later) who made me at least a little bit aware of the things i needed to work on. this ultimately failed, and i actually thought it DID work, but in the end i was just being a narc which again i thought was loving myself. a lot of things in my life were going great, until march happened. i started to become probably the same person i was in december and that same friend made it aware of what i was doing, again. this time she said it in a less chill tone and in more of an agitated tone, which made me upset and caused me to stop being friends with her. after a few days, i realized that she was actually right and i should listen to her, so thats what i did. one of those things was actually loving myself more. some of the things i did in order to love myself more is take a break from social media, and give more time for myself. i also tried to admit my mistakes to others, so that people started to know i was self aware. i forgot to mention this but when i lost that one friend, around the same time i lost multiple of my other friends. besides that, i feel like i have been trying to love myself more and am really hoping that i am becoming a better person overall.
It’s currently 1:47 a.m where I live. I have school in the morning and I get bullied. I don’t know what I’m doing awake right now other than scrolling through this guy’s UA-cam page and trying to figure out what the hell I want to do. I’m okay mentally most of the time but I have bad days more often than most. Love y’all, thank for reading my yap.
To answer the question in the video, I’ve recently shown myself love by finding a new hobby, that being fashion.
I have been doing a couple things lately. First of all, I have been trying to allow myself to take mental breaks, to really rest my brain. I tend to avoid things, so I got into this habit of not truly allowing myself to rest just so I don't end up avoiding things that stress me out. But recently I learned that it's not avoiding if you intend to come back to it. That's what makes the difference. True avoidance is trying to push something out of your mind with the intent of never thinking about/doing that thing again. It's only natural to want and need breaks. Journaling helps a lot with this.
I genuinely appreciate these type of contents, it's like a little reminder to me to not always go overboard but instead, slowly but surely.
She broke up with me today. And I watched this and understood what I had done to get that outcome. Thank you niko I desperately needed to hear this.
I've never felt more understood than with the minecraft ecosystem point. One too many cows killed and I start STRESSING. Great video king :3
This is probably the best advice I heard in a while. I am a currently in highschool while also doing my first degree in math and computer science, and I tend to overwork myself. It took me a while to let myself actually rest from time to time and take a bit of a break, and every time a friend of mine told me about their problems and lack of time due to school my first thought was that they should suck it up and that it's not that serious. It really is important to know how to treat yourself in order to know how to treat others. Thank your for another banger of a video niko. 🙏
I really love this content, but people saying old yt is coming back don’t get the full picture. yes, old minecraft content is coming back, but stuff most people watch is still super over edited. while I believe old yt will come back, I just think its a bit overstated to say “OLD UA-cam IS COMING BACK!!!”
just a useless rant but anyway love this content, and it’s inspiring me to start making my own “old youtube” style videos.
10:45 The thing Ive done recently to love myself is allow myself to cry, to let my emotions out. Im not really sharing them with anyone, but Im not trying to suppress them as much anymore. It hurts because they mostly have to do with a break up, but I cant move on without letting myself feel them.
thats a very true statement i’m proud of you broski
Dude I always get the tree thing too lol, makes me never cut a tree without replanting one or two
It's so weird how the brain does that
personally. I find it easier to love or appreciate myself more when people tell me they love me and stuff. My self worth is dependent on how people think of me.
I don’t necessarily think this is a bad thing. As human beings, we are designed to tackle life with others! We aren’t meant to live life alone, but you do have to be aware about what might happen if you stop receiving that support from those around you. It can be very depressing and challenging to live life when feeling lonely if you don’t love yourself. Equally, it is also challenging to love others if you don’t love yourself. This is something to be aware of, especially since it’s never a bad thing to be able to love yourself!
@@Tr1qYY Im there right now. I get appreciated occasionally in school by teachers or classmates. Rarely by family and not at all by close friends. It feels lonely and depressing and I don't feel there's anyone to talk to. Specially cause my friends insult me for stupid shit and I catch strays even when I ain't there
@@wyawylI feel that! I got so wrapped up in the validation of good grades and helping classmates that I overlooked spending time with friends outside of school and taking care of myself. It’s a tough situation to be in, but I have found that reaching out and talking to your most trustworthy friends/peers helps so much! Pick a few people to have in your inner circle and devote time to growing your relationship with them! You may have to make some sacrifices to do this, but it is so worth it! Not only will it feel good to have friends, but you’ll have a stronger support group, and they might be people who you spend the rest of your life talking too!
THIS!!! exactly bro this is what I mention every time but nobody seems to get it, what others think of me is what I think of myself, there is literally no other way around it, if someone calls me ugly and worthless It's obviously going to change the way I view myself even if I know that I'm not ugly, subconsciously the way we think of ourselves is heavily dependent on how others view us, anybody who says otherwise is coping
honestly i try to accept myself as i am, and to improve loving myself, i cut my hair or just improve my looks, i feel like it gives more confidence to myself, not that i want to look better for the others but for myself.
i will never want to look better for myself i just want other people to think i look good
I absolutely love this kind of content, especially when I need it the most. definitely needed to hear this right now, thank you!
In terms of what I've done recently to love myself, I started making videos just about a month and a half ago. It wasn't for views, I just needed to do something creative with a medium I loved. It's felt really great these last weeks to make something I'm proud of, rather than just feeling like life is the same old boring routine every day. Thanks for another wonderful video and topic!
It's pretty easy to tell people to love themselves, but the actual act of finding reason to love yourself can be an insurmountable task. But to be fair, someone like me who despises themselves also usually aren't in a place in life where we should be trying to form deep and lasting bonds with other people, I'm just trying to keep my head above water.
looks at baby cow
*the sword in my pocket*
This is such an incredible truth. If you've been taught that you don't sympathy or a break, that internalized belief projects onto others as what people in general deserve.
i had my relationship end before finding this channel about 3 weeks ago. im about 19 years old and your videos help a lot to have an objective perspective on some things. this is the youtube everyone needs and you're doing a great job at it keep going niko
Niko, i think i can speak for all of us when i say that we absolutely love your videos where you do these talks about life. You make what your talking about easy to understand and it really helps out people. Thank you for what you do and have a good one mate.
I decided to not do homework and just recover and relax during a spring break. because I am more important than my grades. hope I will not regret this decision later though
Jesus christ SOMEONE HAD TO SAY IT. Thank you for this, its been on my mind for so long.
I understand you dude... I've also been attacked by a creeper while talking about a breakup. Jokes aside, good video.
Just found your channel today. It is honestly one of best ‘hidden’ gems I’ve found on UA-cam.
The cow comparison was 😩✨👌🏼 bro beat 90% of therapists playing ing Minecraft
I never thought cows can be a great lesson 😂❤ You're the best man ❤
You are better than any self-improvement channel
Recently after listening to some of your videos, reading Into the Wild, and taking time to understand what things make me happy and what makes me sad and stressed, I’ve embraced a drastic change in my lifestyle to facilitate my more adventurous spirit. I’ve gone to different hangouts and parties with both familiar and new people, mostly, but I’ve also trying to instill workouts and routine into my life, along with more outings. I’m very early in so I’m hoping it still succeeds, but, when before I was entirely unmotivated and lonely, I now feel more fulfilled. Also, thanks for the advice on family. My relationship with my family is honestly one of my difficulties, so hearing that I shouldn’t abandon them in my path to happiness helped
I baked myself some cookies and cleaned my room because a tidy room makes my mind peaceful and organized ☺️
I feel so bad rn i had a autistic breakdown today im so sad and my depression is being worse just not fealing it today thanks for the vid niko
Hang in there…
As someone with a savior complex, I had to acknowledge when to trying to help others that don't want my help without them saying no, since then I no longer exhaust myself on others, I learn to accept that not everyone can be helped, and worst case scenarios go from me snapping and friendships being burned and hateful to simply sizzled out and neutral.
Thank you Niko for these awesome talks. So glad I found your channel, man!
Love is complicated. But, those who cannot love themselves are unable to show that same level of affection to others.
Love yourself for who you are. Show it through your actions. Then, you'll be able to show love to others in the way you want.
I made the hard choice of letting go of a girl that would only start to hurt me emotionally if I kept perusing her
You’re the reason i started playing Minecraft again. I went mining, made a nice wooden house, and it burnt down. Good times.
>> social media is the bane of your existence
can't be more true. in my case i just find social media boring. some people over-exaggerate everything they have for attention, and it just makes them so fake that i don't even want to talk to them in real irl
I swear I judge people differently based on how they use social media
Man this video is perfect i love how you talked about the whole situation and how it affects not only your personal life but also lives of others around you, and how you also clarified you don't mean that kinda selfish toxic cringy self love but just the healthy peaceful one when you feel yourself and others the same
Instructions clear: I now understand what I should do for myself so I can show love for others. Subbed
I allowed myself to have 1 run of Hades while studying for the test the next day. Oh man that felt so good, because that was a full run, the build was good. And I passed the test the next day. So love yourself first and the universe will love you
Personally for me, my form of loving myself as of recently usually comes in the form of doing little chores like washing dishes, watering my plants or stuff around the house when I’m living alone for the school semester. Those things actually give me a break from doing a lot of tough programming hw at my uni.
And if I am doing that hw I try to go into a nice enough environment where I just feel relaxed while doing so without much interruption.
That’s my form of self-love.
Today I went for a walk. The weather was nice, the sun was shining. And I truly enjoyed being by myself.
My relationship was draining energy and happiness day by day. But I didn't notice it. I was loved. And then it ended.
It crushed me. The future that I dreamed of was shattered.
I gave myself time to heal. I put off all tasks and just relaxed. For the first time in months I was free. No one told me what to do, no one pressured me to do what I didn't want to do.
I became myself again. I started to love myself. I started to do things that I hadn't done in a while because of her. I became happy
If you are reading this I hope that you find yourself. And you will love yourself for who you are. Because if you don't, than you would never find happiness anywhere. Put yourself above anyone. Remember Only you are responsible for your well-being.
You are loved. The universe loves you. I wish you all the best❤
Thanks for video Niko❤️
I gave myself enough time to just relax, or just did exercise consistently to build discipline.
I also have some trouble with relying on myself and I’m glad that I needed to hear this
I honestly couldn't say what I have done to love myself nor would I know what that could be. I think I can say that I have kind of admired myself in the mirror instead of talking shit about how bad I look and that. It's really hard for me to love myself and life for that matter at this moment because I have gone through a bad personal experience with the girl that I had my first kiss with (I am 19). Anyway thank you niko for your videos they are pretty chill as always.
To love myself, I’ve started to work on allowing myself to not feel guilty for enjoying gaming. I even started posting video game clips and stuff, I use to feel real guilty about enjoying gaming. I felt like I needed a laundry list worth of “productive task” to rattle off before I could justify taking a breather, and I’m happy I’m working not too do that anymore. This video was great, and I’m incredibly grateful for this channel. Thank you 🙏🏽
in the past two years i've realized that i dont tend to love myself and lean towards self sacrifice to make others in my life happy. i thank u for your videos, they have taught me much about how to view topics differently and more critically
I love hearing you talk. In fact I literally fell asleep to your playlist accidentally 💀
Your life is EVEYTHING, you serve ALL purposes. You should treat yourself NOW! and give yourself a piece of that oxygen in the ozone layer that's coming up so that you can breathe in this blue trap bubble. LOVE YOURSELF. I mean that with a %100, with a %1000. LTG aside actually love yourself.
Just the old style talk while playing games on this YT channel
i didn't knew i needed to watch someone giving life advice while struggling with minecraft but you definitely proved me how important it can be for me, thanks
going through a heartbreak rn, this helps a lot; i gave so much of myself to her that i almost forgot about loving and giving love to me too. thank you for telling us all this
Over the course of two months, I have had a horrendous experience. A lot of bad things have happened to me, and my reaction to these events (abnormal and out of my character) drove that sword deeper. Until significant damage was done and I essentially find myself starting from scratch. A large part of why this all happened was because I did not love myself the way I used to.
My self esteem over these events, my confidence, and my overall person and sense of self has taken a severe nose dive. It was only until recently where I did my best to get out of my thoughts and regrets, to give myself the chance to grieve, to think, to hone myself as a person for *MYSELF* so that I can be better for the world around me. And I did this by a small start. Small steps to loving myself.
One of those things was to start reading more. Books on ideologies, philosophy, sci-fi, genres that gauged my interest. And I didn’t make it anything grandiose either. 5 pages a day, 5 a night. Just to get comfortable for doing something I enjoy again. Because it’s a nice feeling that I believe all of us deserve as people. So that we cannot only be better for others, but be better for ourselves.
Start small. If you hit a rock, chip away at it. We all start somewhere, and I believe it’s important to not lose yourself in that. I love you all. Take care and stay strong❤
”Love yourself damn it.” -niko
Writing a daily journal that highlights moments of my life
The steps i took
Moments i had
People i met
And what i have learned so far
It’s changing my life a little
Plus I reduce my social media usage by setting a timer
Watching Movies and just getting better and trying to self love myself
last week i went out with a group of people from school (we're all in our internships rn so this was the occasion to meetup).
i didnt rly talked to all of them but they invited me and when we went to that korean restaurant:
I realized that we were all sitting next/facing each other. And it made me think about those movies where people my age go out with their friends.
It made me happy bc i always had a huge social problem and have a real hard time appreciate others. Here people were talking to me, asking me questions and bringing back memories they had about me in class.
I guess going out with them that day was self love
I love those random pauses 😂 every time he gets shocked by something
i have been for a bit more than a year trying to move on from a girl i never got to date but was close to it. ive started to go out more with friends, riding my bike, eating healthier and trying to keep myself as a low profile individual. I realised that all of this tiny steps made a signficant difference on my mood and my mental health state. reading all the comments made me feel less alone in my journey, so thx guys. i hope i can also make some of you feel less lonely. (btw my english might be bad cus its my second language so im sorry abt that)
Your video about breaking up is ok, and now this one, came up just at the most perfect timing, just broke up 2 months ago and realised that i didn't loved myself even a little for that time, now i'm trying to do things that whould make me fall in love with my self, and that a phrase that really sticked into my mind, make me fall in love with my self, and for this i'm taking care of my self doing things that i've never did before, just like skin care, try cutting my own hair (it turned out really good), take care of my nails, paint them brown, that's my favorite color, take care of me just like I would want some do, and that made me feel a liitle bit better, still trying to get over the breakup, currently in that phase where you can't imagine someone that can fit your style yk, but I know that can happen, but I need to focus on my self first, so I think thankyou so much for your videos, been watching them for the past 2 months and I just completely love this content style, thankyou very much!
“how can i expect someone else to love me if i cant even love myself”
- me lmao
you seem like you know so much. my breakup was yesterday as im writing this and im compleatly heart broken but just hearing you speak makes feel like i have a chance.
thank you
me watching this after a breakup makes me realize why it happened and you really helped with that and i appreciate you posting. i’d say that the break up was a 50/50 where i didn’t love myself, didn’t know what i wanted yet and she didn’t know what she wanted in life yet and also may or may not loved herself. we both agreed to be friends because we were holding eachother back. If you have any advice i’d love to hear it! but anyways love your videos you’re awesome 😎
I’m going to the gym 5-6 times a week , eat really well , to love myself and I go out with my friends and eat a little bit of fast food on the weekends
Never did I think id be getting some of the most helpful life advice from a Minecraft voiceover and here I am.😂
Honestly I needed to hear this piece of advice. Like SO many others I tend to be hard on myself and a simple reminder to love myself goes a long way. ❤
I slept well yesterday. And I will today
One of the things I do to love myself is taking the time to laugh and appreciate how weird my thoughts are and take the time to let myself breathe
Hey man thank you so much for making this video. I have had on my bucket list to buy myself something nice just because (since I never buy anything for myself even though I have disposable income), and I never really thought about why I would want to do that in the first place. I have noticed in my life that I really struggle to buy gifts for people, and I think part of that is bc I never buy anything for myself. I have Good Friday off in 2 days and I was gonna just workout like usual but I’m gonna go buy myself something fancy :) - thank you for helping me as I’m trying to love other people better
i helped myself to some ice cream the other day even though i am supposed to be on a healthy diet may as well do that today too.. idk why the video kinda just left me with this feeling that i have been unkind to myself and overworking recently...Thanks, really :)
This video seriously appeared in the time when I needed help. No matter how simple was this video, I appreciate everything that was said and I'm thankful that I decided to watch it.
Thanks. Truly. You saved me from hopelessly waiting in the sun for someone who is unlikely to show up. This should describe it.
I haven't been treating myself well in the past couple of weeks and this has been hurting me slowly since then. But, I think that it's time to take a break.
I allowed myself to begin to forgive my past self, and I allowed myself to begin to love that version of me
Getting back to the gym after a year long break definitely helped me regain a bit of controll over my mental wellbeing.
12:22 rude but thanks
that cow metaphore was unironically really good haha good stuff
I started discovering new activities and hobbies, I've been trying to move on from a break-up, and I began to feel tired of feeling shitty some months ago, so I decided to finally open up to people, and start socializing again, I think I've been happier since then, obviously I don't feel that way always
Something I've done to love myself recently is take a week break off of going to class to refresh and reset and come back the next week. Midterms really screwed up my mental and motivation and it led to severe burnout, so I decided to take this week off to sort-of "restart." I don't know if this is exactly worth what I am losing in return, but I feel like it is what I need in order for the future of myself and this semester.
In a nutshell, I come from a dysfunctional and psychologically abusive relationship with my father who was a covert narcissist and had robbed me of my self-worth, I was homeless with him for a very long time during my upbringing and never had a good home life growing up. I managed to escape that and had to go great lengths to get away from him. I went to go be with my extended family that had found me on the internet, I genuinely felt that I would belong with them and I thought they felt same way, but unfortunately, I guess they didn’t. What seemed like a gift from the universe, just turned into something that only contributed to my psychological and emotional wounds, I was only with them for 3 months because of how difficult they were to live with, and how conditional their love and regard was towards me, their love was like a benchmark, I couldn’t really be loved or accepted for just the way I am and only if I meet certain criteria, and had to constantly jump through hoops in order to be loved, and if I wouldn’t, then it’s basically ‘bye peace out can’t live with your family’. It’s just unfair to me how my upbringing pretty much got robbed by a narcissist father and is something no kid should ever have to go through, while my fully related brother got to have what they called a ‘privileged life’. Yet, some online stranger on discord invalidates me and even went on to say “why should they love you” and “who are you and why should you be loved and cared for” and even a former friend laughs at me and invalidates me and minimizes my feelings saying “well they raised your brother and not you so he’s their kid and not you why do you think you deserve everything what he always gotten.” and that put more salt in the wound…it’s just really unfair, my aunt didn’t even have any idea why I went to go be with them, even though she invited me and was like “why not come stay here?”. It has put me in a constant endless loop of rumination. I remember I stayed with a friend of mine and his family because his mom couldn’t sleep at night knowing that I was sleeping in a car in a parking lot somewhere. They treated me as equally as their 2 boys… I wanted that with my brother… every other kid gets to have a family home life, the most basic thing in the world… except for me I guess… I have had someone that recognized the validity of my feelings though, and that person said “How on earth can you not be allowed just the same if not more”. All that I wanted was a life there with my family… why would anyone be wrong for that?