Hi coach, do you happen to have like a "subscription" payment option? I live in mexico and 400 usd is almost what I make in a whole month, so it's a little bit difficult for me to put together the whole ammount of money to pay for one of your skype sesions
Coach Craig Kenneth hi coach I’ve been going threw ur work and I am working hard on myself my ex came back after 3 months we did well until she lied and I overreacted I know my fault and she said she loves me and gives me til December to sort myself out,she said i mustn’t block her or get into a relationship she is saying she really loves me...I blocked her and she then blocked me it’s better for me to focus on myself,her friend send me a friend request 4 days ago after my ex and I ain’t talking for 3 weeks should I be concerned she also still sends prayers to my mom etc I’m confused
My relationship ended because my ex girlfriend took all of her complaints about me/our relationship to her friends instead of me. She would not communicate her needs to be but instead talk trash about me to her friends/coworkers. She would be loving in the morning and be a completely different person after work. We broke up and I mistakenly begged for her back. That did not workout. Currently in NC.
i know its really big problem especially in the beginning because she cares about her long time friends more than you. but its very very sad if it keeps happening even later after you been living together.
@@carmelahorvath3128 You know, I sort of did. Or at least, I didn't react as expected and it threw them off completely. That was the last time we spoke and will likely be the last time we will ever speak. Felt like something of a 'last stand' for me and I'm proud of how I dealt with the situation. I am better off without them. Hope you're ok!
I feel like this is what happened to me. My ex-girlfriend made a group of girlfriends at work who were younger than her and single - thus they engage in more liberal behavior. In the group, my ex was the only one in a relationship, but I felt that them being single, made her curious and the group likely engaged in certain conversations that she couldn’t participate in (because she was in a relationship with me) which made her feel left out. Not saying that’s what sabotaged the relationship completely, but it is likely that it played a role.
I agree with this sentiment. My ex wife was influenced by an lady friend of hers to go out every other night and practically influenced the demise of my relationship.
I believe my exs family had a part to play in our breakup as well. I'm from Ireland, she's from South America. She lives in Ireland the last 10 years, we were together for 2.5 years. She went back home recently for the first time in 10 years. Very emotional time for her but 19 days after she came back she ended it. She mentioned about how we don't make plans for future, where do I see myself in 2-5 years and bizarrely she said, in order to make changes for the future we need to make sacrifices inn the present. Bear in mind I own my own house, have a job and have plenty of interests and hobbys. She now a single mother with 2 kids on social welfare. She was on a daring site 2 weeks after breaking up
@@timothymurray1236 I shit you not, my ex did the same thing, we where both at a university event, and I was with my family and she and her friend completely passed us by and ignored us. I’m sorry man
I wonder how this applies when dating divorced individuals or individuals who are separated. It seems that this might apply to the families they created when they married- not just their immediate family- mom, dad, sister, brother
Happened to me and my ex. My ex always said it doesn't matter what they say, but it was important to me that I was accepted by his family because family matters to me. He somewhat made his family have a negative first impression on me at first and I guess it will never change. It's a lost cause after all. Better get going and stop waiting for him. He's too close to his family anyway. I thought the breakup was solely my fault, but as I read and watch relationship tips I realized that it was not only me. There were times when I wanted to give up on him too because he was avoidant, which made him apathetic most of the time. I might find someone who takes my feelings seriously and would never do anything to break my heart. I hope there is.
My boyfriend broke up with me because his parents didnt approve of our relationship. I didn't even have hope of him coming back and I don't want him after what happened.
This is extremely thought provoking and rings completely true in my individual situation. This is Amazing as per usual from your channel. Thank you both.
No wonder our relationship went down hill ever since the mother in law moved in. My wife actually moved out as I'm working out of town. I hope she takes some time, maybe she's trying to make her own decisions away from her mother. Idk, I'm at a loss. What's confusing is that they don't even get along.
For me it wasn't intrusive family but a frie d that wanted to help. My es and his friend work together and his friend just got his graduate in psychology so he gave my ex some really biased advice, advice that would make him feel better and help him get over me. Things like, 'just stay friends but keep your emotional connection.' 'You're only 21 you haven't dated much, see what's out there.' No contact and strategic contact really are helping right now. I do believe he is confused because he acts like he was hurt by my not wanting to be his friend but trying to be so nice to me as well. If he does reach out on his own, seperate from any business together, depending on the time frame I will not be ready for a relationship again. I want one so bad but my future has been muddled and he said a lot of things that hurt me deeply during the break up and acted as if I could just be okay with that as a friend.
Our families are intertwined. Our mothers are best friends and hit off instantly when he and I reconnected after 30 years. Both our families are hoping we work it out. If anything his transition coach is telling him he is not ready for a relationship. He said the same thing to me when he found out we were dating. He has been saying we should have waited to be in a relationship.
Thanks for the coaching this past Monday I was the guy whose ex left for the older guy craig I know it was a hard one even for you. But it gave me a lot of different perspectives and was surprised when u said it would definitely be at least 6 months which surprised me I thought it would be never. I was sad to hear there was nothing I could do but also understood
This feels like my exact situation. My ex is a twin who's mom is extremely controlling this way. I always remember overhearing her mom saying "Momma loves you, don't leave momma". My ex and I went to our separate families houses over Christmas and when she had some alone time with mom she ended up breaking up with me
I had a similar situation at one point in my relationship, where my sister was taking my girlfriend at the time and her mom home and my sister asked the mom something about where the two of us were going to live, or something like that, can’t remember the specifics of it and the mother said, “Oh, well the father and I thought they were going to live together with us.” After being with my ex girlfriend for over 5 years, the father is really a controlling person and does everything for the mother, but not my ex. He has it cemented in the mother’s mind about anything, that she can’t make decisions about anything for herself and my ex. My ex does not want to live with her parents anyway.
Holy shirt. That's exactly what happened to me. I started fighting with my ex when I started asking to build our family. He said he did not want to. He works in the family business and is very close to his family. By the end of the relationship I was almost living with my in-laws. I felt bad for pressing him and causing the end of the relationship. I felt bad for not being like this with my family. I felt bad for having to date not only him, but the whole family. And he made me love all of them. I did not. I loved him. The family I just liked. At the end of the relationship I asked, "Do you want to build a family with me?" And he: "No". Can he rethink all this? Is it something that can kill our chance to come back? How should I feel about this? I would appreciate some insight from you.
It's so much to handle... 3 years long distance four years of knowing each other. Four months n ongoing of no contact..... I'm still hoping, living life like it's a blur while working on bring better, a more reliable less anxious person. It's painful ...... I don't need him but I want him. I really am trying to stay positive but no signs or anything that can show me what I'm doing is working in every way
This sounds 100 percent of what I experienced. Is there any way of getting my ex back if they were pressured by family into doing the breakup because of their fear of losing their daughter? Does no contact work in this situation.
Yes it should work, because them specifically telling them not to get with you makes you taboo, increasing your scarcity and value through the process. This will be amplified if they still have strong feelings for you and you are not in pursuit. Ultimately they are their own person with their own beliefs, no matter how hard the parents try and change that.
Hello Margaret and Craig, thank you so much for all the amazing content you put online ! I've learned so much and it made me get more into psychology, which is very enlighting. Watching your video, I'm wondering if this concept could be applied to friends (the impact of friends on a relationship) or is there a specific theory about that ? Love you both.
i had an ex girlfriend in ohio who was like that she living with her parents and she was 40!! and i was living there with them, so i wanted us to get our own place and we moved out, then shortly after us moving out her parents house caught fire and they had to stay with us til they got the house fixed, so anyways when the bills came around my gorlfriend dumped me and ran back to her parents place
Hi Craig. I'm loving your videos. Just wondering if you can make a video regarding single friends of ex who have an influence on relationships. How to deal with this situation?
I live in Thailand and the entire culture is more or less organized around the family this way. My Thai gf just broke up with me. She couldn't give me a reason and says she is conflicted. Now I might know what's at the root of it.
Was living with My ex and her dad and for 2.6 years at the same time i got My own appartement still do but if i forgot something her dad would not call me and say it or wait for me to get home nope he would say it to My ex as a middleman and then she would be pissed of at the end and tell me that her dad was mad at me 😂 at the same time im getting better starting to have a focus on My life and its going well 😊 but if she reach out for a 2 chance should i tell her that she needs to move out from her fathers place b4 we Ca. Try again 🤔??? Btw she dumped me
Hmmmm wow this why eye opening for me....my exes sis got married and moved out a house she shared w their mother...my ex came back home after breaking up w his daughters mother..he pays all the bills takes care of the house i remember him saying to me how is he suppose to have his own life...move out..maybe get married if he has to be here helping his mother..i didnt even think about this when he ghosted me a wk ago smh...i met his mom once..i showed up to his house to get an answer as to wth was going on..because we had plans the day he went silent..we didnt fight or anything..so i thought something was wrong w him smh..he told me he didnt know why his feelings were up n down w me but they are..he needs to decide what he wants when it comes to me and him...i told him its disrespectful to just go ghost i didnt deserve that..i hope he doesnt regret his choice one day..we were dating for 4 months he told me he never felt this secure with a woman..he wanted a future w me so his behavior made no sense..crazy cause before this break up convo i knew something wasnt right i felt it!!!! I asked him if everything was ok he said yes..going w the flow smh..he like to throw that line in there everytime i brought up future talk..yet when he mentioned us in the future he seemed so excited..i told him i wont be contacting him any longer and he doesnt need to contact me..feel like its a mixture of his mother , his own issues or maybe another woman is involved that may be ok w no commitment..
How do you deal with a situation where he is under the impression u cheated and broke it off.and he doesn’t want to talk to u .blocked and unblocked me but I don’t know if I should talk to him
This video really made a lot of sense to me!. Not so much with my ex that I'm trying to work things out with but with my ex wife... my ex wife fits into this category without a doubt ... wow
You ex will probably take information back about you , the family will pick out all the bad in you red flags ect . You can do 100 great things for your partner but they will find one bad thing that will stick .
I listen too all that I can I try too be patient I don't get mad at much but I had been through a lot my Stepfather died and couple of days ago a d right before that I new I was torn up along with my heart with my boyfriend that I've had
My ex told me she won't marry me if her parents don't approve of me. It hurt like a bitch. I feel like at some point she wanted to reach out to me but her friends talked her out of it.
Can anyone relate to a 3 years ldr, 3 months no contact, non mutual breakup but non toxic kind of way? The relationship has been good, more ups than downs and has told me to take care of myself. Last time I broke no contact was three months ago when he said, it wasn't a good idea to talk. This is the second break so there's no messiness and all I said was ,'i understand and thanks for everything.' I do have my anxiety kept under control and much stronger but please I need hope.
I'm so angry at disgusting parents, why they have kids if they never help them, and abuse them everyday! My husband's parents are extremely abusive, they ruined our relationship, and pretend nothing happened, also rewrite the history in their brain to make themselves feel good
Thum rule. Always keep the power If you are more mature ,Listen 99% of people including your ex doesn’t know what a healthy relationship is. They may never learn these things. It feels better be dumper than dumpee.
Yep this is what happened to me. Its her F*cking girl best friend who sabotages our relationship and she just tolerates it. And when I try to talk about it she would always threaten me of a break up until it happened.
Please advice oeple with partners that have children from previous partners, they werent married, bit there is a child involved, how the other partner wants to move on in this relationship excpting her partners child , but he is expecting from her not to want to have children , only his and do not want to get married, I think thats very selfish , although he claimed loved her , and still cheated and walked out of the relationship . Brakeing her hart , she didnt just lost him but his daughter to .
This video is great completely discrib what’s going on, but now what??????? Should I cut her loose completely or should I stay nc still??? She broke up with me 5 times and is always family involve now this time is worst then ever, I love her and I just feel she is completely no in control of her life and she have a good soul, just hate to see her this way,
My ex broke up with me because I neglected her but I later found out through mutual friends that her parents had an influence on the breakup, so I really don’t know what to do at this point 3 and half weeks in NC and I’m having 0 hope at the moment
Belle I wasn’t that neglectful, I told her I loved her and how beautiful she was everyday, I just didn’t plan a lot of the dates and didn’t FaceTime call her everyday and she felt like I was abandoning her, again that May just be a coverup and it might all be her family’s doing
Belle not to mention her parents influence her a ton and she’s overall more on the immature side so I’d say my chances of getting back with her are slim too none.
My ex bf showed up last night after two months and 8 days of nc. He came around 1 AM to see me. He was drunk and crying. He told me he was sorry to hurt me and he still has feelings for me. I was calm and I said I respect ur decision, he wanted me to come over to his place but I thought it was too fast. So I told him to talk to me when he's sober. And he did unblocked me. I really do not know what to do. I know I need Craig's help!!
You don't need to do anything, as you now have all the power. Make him work for it to prove he's genuine, and then you can decide if you really want him back.
I did exactly the same thing he did! I meant everything i said even being drunk! Maybe i shouldn't had but i love my ex so so much. I hurt so much. Its been 90 days since our break up and 19 days with no contact. She's already in another relationship and it tears me apart. I've decided to let her be when i did showed up drunk and emotional her denying me. 15 years togethore and i feel 99% sure it's done. It also sucks i have to drive my child past her house to and from school seeing whoever she's with car there. It's sad. But i have to keep strong and continue my path and enjoy being single again
I listen to alot of stuff on UA-cam and read stuff through Google just to try and get an understanding of what is really emotionally going on with my ex. I feel like my brain is exhausted from reading and listening to too much and just don't know what's right or wrong anymore. Ok she has 3 older boys aged between 23-21 and 2 younger boys aged 11 n 9. The 3 older boys know about me and she was so proud to tell them that she came out of the closet. But they kinda knew! Anyway, but her two younger boys don't know exactly who I am to her. Just that they know of me from always talking on the phone. 2nd youngest has autism so his routine of having his mum have someone in her life would probably mean to him he will need to compete for the attention, as I noticed it just over the phone. And the youngest is showing signs of seperation anxiety. And yet again he would feel he would need to compete for the attention from his brother and me. So I thought to myself I don't know if these boys would except me because they wouldn't like to share their mum. And then there's her, raising all 5 boys by herself and being independent that maybe she didn't want to share them and their mental challenges. I'm just all over the place in my mind as you can imagine but also don't know how I feel
I can really use the private coaching, but I can’t afford it. 5 weeks without my ex, she’s staying at her sisters, but hasn’t fully moved out. Tough times and no good advice so far besides these top notch videos.
Mike Palumbo no contact man. I just got mine back from doing so but now I don’t even want her. Literally turn into a ghost. Don’t contact her at all and hide from her on social media. U only want her back bc u don’t have anything better lined up. If she left u then fuck her...
Yea I did a few mistakes reaching out, not crazily though. I realize you can’t convince someone. I neglected her needs and mistreated her due to my own mental problems. But I’m now doing no contact, but she hasn’t fully moved out. Think it’s the fear of her fully moving out that gets me. I’m in the gym, lost 14lbs since the new year, so I’ve been working on myself.
I’ve been in contact for 6 months from my ex! He is the one who left me and ghosted me and honestly I am hurt from the way things ended but I don’t care to be with him again! If someone can ghost you for 6 months and have no need or want to reach out at all then that tells me everything I need to know! FUCK HIM
Yep ! My ex is 45 still living at home , his sister 52 and her 16 year old son still living at home , even though she has her own house !!! All living with the father My ex continually used his father as an excuse for us not moving on in our relationship , we even got as far as getting a mortgage on a flat together then he changed his mind saying he would see me just weekends as usual !?! He had asked me to move in with him (them) How unhealthy is that !?! I was constantly aware of the triangle throughout our 7yr relationship all 3 other family members relied heavily on my ex and he on them , fused together sadly I refused to fit in ! Think seriously before ever entering into a relationship when this is someone's background
Leisa Coelho so familiar! Sucks so bad. Sorry 😐 yes, definitely find out the family dynamic beforehand. Unfortunately, my ex’s family dynamic changed while we were together but her & her sister (both adults 43 & 40 at the time) were living at home 🤦🏻♀️ if I knew now .... b4 I fell in love!
In reality that is someone else a whole lot of someone else's or multiple individuals the same thing outside influence or manipulation or control. It's the same dynamic as being a stranger or potential lover its incestuous and limiting that famliy members growth keeping them trapped.
Twice my ex had invited me now to her house and we made love.she says she wants to be my girlfrd again and I told her we should take things slowly this time but she can take as long as she wants to be fully ready.HOW DO I GO WITH THE FLOW NOW. GIRLS ARE NOT JUST TO BE TRUSTED.I DON'T WANT TO BE BROKEN AGAIN
Why havent you added me on Instagram yet? @CoachCraigKenneth 💪
I did last night... Twitter too..😁😁😁
I'm not on Instagram sweetest Craig
Hi coach, do you happen to have like a "subscription" payment option? I live in mexico and 400 usd is almost what I make in a whole month, so it's a little bit difficult for me to put together the whole ammount of money to pay for one of your skype sesions
I am scheduled for a Skype session later in the month. I've never done one. Do we video call you or do you call us?
Coach Craig Kenneth hi coach I’ve been going threw ur work and I am working hard on myself my ex came back after 3 months we did well until she lied and I overreacted I know my fault and she said she loves me and gives me til December to sort myself out,she said i mustn’t block her or get into a relationship she is saying she really loves me...I blocked her and she then blocked me it’s better for me to focus on myself,her friend send me a friend request 4 days ago after my ex and I ain’t talking for 3 weeks should I be concerned she also still sends prayers to my mom etc I’m confused
‘They say they still love you, but act confused!’ Spot on.
My relationship ended because my ex girlfriend took all of her complaints about me/our relationship to her friends instead of me. She would not communicate her needs to be but instead talk trash about me to her friends/coworkers. She would be loving in the morning and be a completely different person after work. We broke up and I mistakenly begged for her back. That did not workout. Currently in NC.
Update?
My boyfriend did the same thing
i know its really big problem especially in the beginning because she cares about her long time friends more than you. but its very very sad if it keeps happening even later after you been living together.
Same happened here.
Same, any update?
Family and close friends can be detrimental to a relationship. Sad sad sad 😢
Yeaahh, close 'friends'. Or snakes, in my case.
Kill them with kindness. 😊
@@carmelahorvath3128 You know, I sort of did. Or at least, I didn't react as expected and it threw them off completely. That was the last time we spoke and will likely be the last time we will ever speak. Felt like something of a 'last stand' for me and I'm proud of how I dealt with the situation. I am better off without them.
Hope you're ok!
Yes I am much better now. A year has went by and I’m loving myself more. Best to you General!
I love Craig more than my ever hurting ex.
I feel like this is what happened to me. My ex-girlfriend made a group of girlfriends at work who were younger than her and single - thus they engage in more liberal behavior. In the group, my ex was the only one in a relationship, but I felt that them being single, made her curious and the group likely engaged in certain conversations that she couldn’t participate in (because she was in a relationship with me) which made her feel left out. Not saying that’s what sabotaged the relationship completely, but it is likely that it played a role.
I agree with this sentiment. My ex wife was influenced by an lady friend of hers to go out every other night and practically influenced the demise of my relationship.
Same with me :(
I believe my exs family had a part to play in our breakup as well. I'm from Ireland, she's from South America. She lives in Ireland the last 10 years, we were together for 2.5 years. She went back home recently for the first time in 10 years. Very emotional time for her but 19 days after she came back she ended it. She mentioned about how we don't make plans for future, where do I see myself in 2-5 years and bizarrely she said, in order to make changes for the future we need to make sacrifices inn the present. Bear in mind I own my own house, have a job and have plenty of interests and hobbys. She now a single mother with 2 kids on social welfare. She was on a daring site 2 weeks after breaking up
Did this ever turn around for you? I’m in the same situation
@@CountOfMonteCristo_ well, she passed my house a few days ago with her kids and I was coming home from the shop, completely ignored me
@@timothymurray1236 I shit you not, my ex did the same thing, we where both at a university event, and I was with my family and she and her friend completely passed us by and ignored us. I’m sorry man
Hey coach, any chance you could do a video on when the breakup is mutual and what to do if you want to re-attract them?
hellochips great suggestion
The fact that you guys take the time to make this videos is priceless. Thank you so much, currently going through no contact
Updates?
@@bloodysh6080 he texted me and asked “ you don’t even miss me” lol. It works
@@marlimarlirni damnnn that's good i guess
I wonder how this applies when dating divorced individuals or individuals who are separated. It seems that this might apply to the families they created when they married- not just their immediate family- mom, dad, sister, brother
Happened to me and my ex. My ex always said it doesn't matter what they say, but it was important to me that I was accepted by his family because family matters to me. He somewhat made his family have a negative first impression on me at first and I guess it will never change. It's a lost cause after all. Better get going and stop waiting for him. He's too close to his family anyway. I thought the breakup was solely my fault, but as I read and watch relationship tips I realized that it was not only me. There were times when I wanted to give up on him too because he was avoidant, which made him apathetic most of the time. I might find someone who takes my feelings seriously and would never do anything to break my heart. I hope there is.
My boyfriend broke up with me because his parents didnt approve of our relationship. I didn't even have hope of him coming back and I don't want him after what happened.
This is extremely thought provoking and rings completely true in my individual situation. This is Amazing as per usual from your channel. Thank you both.
My situation exactly, he has an interfering family. I'm done. Thank you both for clarifying that.
Updates?
@@bloodysh6080 nope.
Always enjoy when Margret has research to share. You don't get that in any dating or ex video.
No wonder our relationship went down hill ever since the mother in law moved in. My wife actually moved out as I'm working out of town. I hope she takes some time, maybe she's trying to make her own decisions away from her mother. Idk, I'm at a loss. What's confusing is that they don't even get along.
I’m running out of words to says.... I love u both so much MARGARET N CRAIG OX
For me it wasn't intrusive family but a frie d that wanted to help. My es and his friend work together and his friend just got his graduate in psychology so he gave my ex some really biased advice, advice that would make him feel better and help him get over me. Things like, 'just stay friends but keep your emotional connection.' 'You're only 21 you haven't dated much, see what's out there.'
No contact and strategic contact really are helping right now. I do believe he is confused because he acts like he was hurt by my not wanting to be his friend but trying to be so nice to me as well. If he does reach out on his own, seperate from any business together, depending on the time frame I will not be ready for a relationship again. I want one so bad but my future has been muddled and he said a lot of things that hurt me deeply during the break up and acted as if I could just be okay with that as a friend.
Our families are intertwined. Our mothers are best friends and hit off instantly when he and I reconnected after 30 years. Both our families are hoping we work it out. If anything his transition coach is telling him he is not ready for a relationship. He said the same thing to me when he found out we were dating. He has been saying we should have waited to be in a relationship.
Thanks for the coaching this past Monday I was the guy whose ex left for the older guy craig I know it was a hard one even for you. But it gave me a lot of different perspectives and was surprised when u said it would definitely be at least 6 months which surprised me I thought it would be never. I was sad to hear there was nothing I could do but also understood
This feels like my exact situation. My ex is a twin who's mom is extremely controlling this way. I always remember overhearing her mom saying "Momma loves you, don't leave momma". My ex and I went to our separate families houses over Christmas and when she had some alone time with mom she ended up breaking up with me
Updates?
Love your videos man, I find your videos very positive and makes my mood alot of better
Hands down yall the best🙌🏽. You guys know exactly what yall talking bout. I've been in a situation just like that
Any update?
I had a similar situation at one point in my relationship, where my sister was taking my girlfriend at the time and her mom home and my sister asked the mom something about where the two of us were going to live, or something like that, can’t remember the specifics of it and the mother said, “Oh, well the father and I thought they were going to live together with us.” After being with my ex girlfriend for over 5 years, the father is really a controlling person and does everything for the mother, but not my ex. He has it cemented in the mother’s mind about anything, that she can’t make decisions about anything for herself and my ex. My ex does not want to live with her parents anyway.
Holy shirt. That's exactly what happened to me. I started fighting with my ex when I started asking to build our family. He said he did not want to. He works in the family business and is very close to his family. By the end of the relationship I was almost living with my in-laws.
I felt bad for pressing him and causing the end of the relationship. I felt bad for not being like this with my family. I felt bad for having to date not only him, but the whole family. And he made me love all of them. I did not. I loved him. The family I just liked.
At the end of the relationship I asked, "Do you want to build a family with me?" And he: "No".
Can he rethink all this?
Is it something that can kill our chance to come back?
How should I feel about this?
I would appreciate some insight from you.
I hope my ex isn't listening to her friends and family. I used to but quickly realized that it was a mistake.
It's so much to handle... 3 years long distance four years of knowing each other.
Four months n ongoing of no contact..... I'm still hoping, living life like it's a blur while working on bring better, a more reliable less anxious person. It's painful
...... I don't need him but I want him. I really am trying to stay positive but no signs or anything that can show me what I'm doing is working in every way
This sounds 100 percent of what I experienced. Is there any way of getting my ex back if they were pressured by family into doing the breakup because of their fear of losing their daughter? Does no contact work in this situation.
Same situation as you brother. Any updates?
Yes it should work, because them specifically telling them not to get with you makes you taboo, increasing your scarcity and value through the process. This will be amplified if they still have strong feelings for you and you are not in pursuit. Ultimately they are their own person with their own beliefs, no matter how hard the parents try and change that.
My ex is very affected by his family even though they aren’t living in the same country and he is at his 50s. I think we are done for good.
Do you have updates?
Again, a very helpful video. Thanks!
Hello Margaret and Craig, thank you so much for all the amazing content you put online ! I've learned so much and it made me get more into psychology, which is very enlighting. Watching your video, I'm wondering if this concept could be applied to friends (the impact of friends on a relationship) or is there a specific theory about that ? Love you both.
How I miss Margaret! ❤
i had an ex girlfriend in ohio who was like that she living with her parents and she was 40!! and i was living there with them, so i wanted us to get our own place and we moved out, then shortly after us moving out her parents house caught fire and they had to stay with us til they got the house fixed, so anyways when the bills came around my gorlfriend dumped me and ran back to her parents place
This is very true omg, this 99% of my break up...
Updates?
Dynamic duo..
It's an amazing discovery for me. I really want to know if a fruitful loving relationship can grow from the member of this background?
In for details. I may have a similar situation.
Great video bro..
Hi Craig. I'm loving your videos. Just wondering if you can make a video regarding single friends of ex who have an influence on relationships. How to deal with this situation?
I live in Thailand and the entire culture is more or less organized around the family this way. My Thai gf just broke up with me. She couldn't give me a reason and says she is conflicted. Now I might know what's at the root of it.
My husbands daughter refused to accept me in the family so he left me. I get this family system dynamic!
OMG..this is so enlightening!
Was living with My ex and her dad and for 2.6 years at the same time i got My own appartement still do but if i forgot something her dad would not call me and say it or wait for me to get home nope he would say it to My ex as a middleman and then she would be pissed of at the end and tell me that her dad was mad at me 😂 at the same time im getting better starting to have a focus on My life and its going well 😊 but if she reach out for a 2 chance should i tell her that she needs to move out from her fathers place b4 we Ca. Try again 🤔??? Btw she dumped me
Hmmmm wow this why eye opening for me....my exes sis got married and moved out a house she shared w their mother...my ex came back home after breaking up w his daughters mother..he pays all the bills takes care of the house i remember him saying to me how is he suppose to have his own life...move out..maybe get married if he has to be here helping his mother..i didnt even think about this when he ghosted me a wk ago smh...i met his mom once..i showed up to his house to get an answer as to wth was going on..because we had plans the day he went silent..we didnt fight or anything..so i thought something was wrong w him smh..he told me he didnt know why his feelings were up n down w me but they are..he needs to decide what he wants when it comes to me and him...i told him its disrespectful to just go ghost i didnt deserve that..i hope he doesnt regret his choice one day..we were dating for 4 months he told me he never felt this secure with a woman..he wanted a future w me so his behavior made no sense..crazy cause before this break up convo i knew something wasnt right i felt it!!!! I asked him if everything was ok he said yes..going w the flow smh..he like to throw that line in there everytime i brought up future talk..yet when he mentioned us in the future he seemed so excited..i told him i wont be contacting him any longer and he doesnt need to contact me..feel like its a mixture of his mother , his own issues or maybe another woman is involved that may be ok w no commitment..
How do you deal with a situation where he is under the impression u cheated and broke it off.and he doesn’t want to talk to u .blocked and unblocked me but I don’t know if I should talk to him
This video really made a lot of sense to me!.
Not so much with my ex that I'm trying to work things out with but with my ex wife... my ex wife fits into this category without a doubt ... wow
GREAT VIDEO.... Again... As always!!!
Love from India!!! 🇮🇳♥️♥️♥️🇮🇳
You ex will probably take information back about you , the family will pick out all the bad in you red flags ect . You can do 100 great things for your partner but they will find one bad thing that will stick .
I listen too all that I can I try too be patient I don't get mad at much but I had been through a lot my Stepfather died and couple of days ago a d right before that I new I was torn up along with my heart with my boyfriend that I've had
My ex told me she won't marry me if her parents don't approve of me. It hurt like a bitch. I feel like at some point she wanted to reach out to me but her friends talked her out of it.
Can anyone relate to a 3 years ldr, 3 months no contact, non mutual breakup but non toxic kind of way? The relationship has been good, more ups than downs and has told me to take care of myself. Last time I broke no contact was three months ago when he said, it wasn't a good idea to talk. This is the second break so there's no messiness and all I said was ,'i understand and thanks for everything.' I do have my anxiety kept under control and much stronger but please I need hope.
any update on this?
@@roevive I'm 7 months in no contact.
I'm so angry at disgusting parents, why they have kids if they never help them, and abuse them everyday! My husband's parents are extremely abusive, they ruined our relationship, and pretend nothing happened, also rewrite the history in their brain to make themselves feel good
Update?
Yep, I know this feeling.
Thum rule. Always keep the power If you are more mature ,Listen 99% of people including your ex doesn’t know what a healthy relationship is. They may never learn these things. It feels better be dumper than dumpee.
Where is the other video on this? Thank you
Yep this is what happened to me. Its her F*cking girl best friend who sabotages our relationship and she just tolerates it. And when I try to talk about it she would always threaten me of a break up until it happened.
Please advice oeple with partners that have children from previous partners, they werent married, bit there is a child involved, how the other partner wants to move on in this relationship excpting her partners child , but he is expecting from her not to want to have children , only his and do not want to get married, I think thats very selfish , although he claimed loved her , and still cheated and walked out of the relationship . Brakeing her hart , she didnt just lost him but his daughter to .
Dude. Literally right now.
This video is great completely discrib what’s going on, but now what??????? Should I cut her loose completely or should I stay nc still??? She broke up with me 5 times and is always family involve now this time is worst then ever, I love her and I just feel she is completely no in control of her life and she have a good soul, just hate to see her this way,
This makes a lot of sense and i think is where i am at right now. Question is, is there a way to save this kind of relationship?
My ex broke up with me because I neglected her but I later found out through mutual friends that her parents had an influence on the breakup, so I really don’t know what to do at this point 3 and half weeks in NC and I’m having 0 hope at the moment
Why did you neglect her? Sounds like not the right relationship.
Belle I wasn’t that neglectful, I told her I loved her and how beautiful she was everyday, I just didn’t plan a lot of the dates and didn’t FaceTime call her everyday and she felt like I was abandoning her, again that May just be a coverup and it might all be her family’s doing
@@DuHastMicch Whoa, that's not 'neglectful' my friend. Her issues are with abandonment... and within herself . You can't fix that. Only she can.
Belle not to mention her parents influence her a ton and she’s overall more on the immature side so I’d say my chances of getting back with her are slim too none.
@@DuHastMicch I'd say you deserve someone who will appreciate you back.
What can I do about family issue? Give up and move on? 😭
Natthakan T. Exactly same here, it just so sad, my ex have a good soul, only if she just able to escape them, her mom and sister is so toxic
My ex bf showed up last night after two months and 8 days of nc. He came around 1 AM to see me. He was drunk and crying. He told me he was sorry to hurt me and he still has feelings for me. I was calm and I said I respect ur decision, he wanted me to come over to his place but I thought it was too fast. So I told him to talk to me when he's sober. And he did unblocked me. I really do not know what to do. I know I need Craig's help!!
He's avoidant and maybe a little narcissistic. I don't know if his tears were real cuz I don't seem to trust him.
You don't need to do anything, as you now have all the power. Make him work for it to prove he's genuine, and then you can decide if you really want him back.
Thanks for the advice, I really appreciate it.
I did exactly the same thing he did! I meant everything i said even being drunk! Maybe i shouldn't had but i love my ex so so much. I hurt so much. Its been 90 days since our break up and 19 days with no contact. She's already in another relationship and it tears me apart. I've decided to let her be when i did showed up drunk and emotional her denying me. 15 years togethore and i feel 99% sure it's done. It also sucks i have to drive my child past her house to and from school seeing whoever she's with car there. It's sad. But i have to keep strong and continue my path and enjoy being single again
How long does it take to receive books. I ordered weeks ago
Are you talking about the workbooks? They are digital and you receive a link through email
Hi, how you know when your ex sister is sabataging your relationship... When she came over she wss not happy..
Yep. And im thankful for whatever reasons he had to leave me. It wasnt too comfortable for me to date him and his whole family either.
This is very relatable
I listen to alot of stuff on UA-cam and read stuff through Google just to try and get an understanding of what is really emotionally going on with my ex. I feel like my brain is exhausted from reading and listening to too much and just don't know what's right or wrong anymore. Ok she has 3 older boys aged between 23-21 and 2 younger boys aged 11 n 9. The 3 older boys know about me and she was so proud to tell them that she came out of the closet. But they kinda knew! Anyway, but her two younger boys don't know exactly who I am to her. Just that they know of me from always talking on the phone. 2nd youngest has autism so his routine of having his mum have someone in her life would probably mean to him he will need to compete for the attention, as I noticed it just over the phone. And the youngest is showing signs of seperation anxiety. And yet again he would feel he would need to compete for the attention from his brother and me. So I thought to myself I don't know if these boys would except me because they wouldn't like to share their mum. And then there's her, raising all 5 boys by herself and being independent that maybe she didn't want to share them and their mental challenges. I'm just all over the place in my mind as you can imagine but also don't know how I feel
I can really use the private coaching, but I can’t afford it. 5 weeks without my ex, she’s staying at her sisters, but hasn’t fully moved out. Tough times and no good advice so far besides these top notch videos.
Mike Palumbo no contact man. I just got mine back from doing so but now I don’t even want her.
Literally turn into a ghost. Don’t contact her at all and hide from her on social media. U only want her back bc u don’t have anything better lined up. If she left u then fuck her...
Agreed with marcus. Just forget her man, not worth it.
Yea I did a few mistakes reaching out, not crazily though. I realize you can’t convince someone. I neglected her needs and mistreated her due to my own mental problems. But I’m now doing no contact, but she hasn’t fully moved out. Think it’s the fear of her fully moving out that gets me. I’m in the gym, lost 14lbs since the new year, so I’ve been working on myself.
I’ve been in contact for 6 months from my ex! He is the one who left me and ghosted me and honestly I am hurt from the way things ended but I don’t care to be with him again! If someone can ghost you for 6 months and have no need or want to reach out at all then that tells me everything I need to know! FUCK HIM
Wow! So interesting
Yep ! My ex is 45 still living at home , his sister 52 and her 16 year old son still living at home , even though she has her own house !!! All living with the father
My ex continually used his father as an excuse for us not moving on in our relationship , we even got as far as getting a mortgage on a flat together then he changed his mind saying he would see me just weekends as usual !?!
He had asked me to move in with him (them) How unhealthy is that !?! I was constantly aware of the triangle throughout our 7yr relationship all 3 other family members relied heavily on my ex and he on them , fused together sadly I refused to fit in !
Think seriously before ever entering into a relationship when this is someone's background
Leisa Coelho so familiar! Sucks so bad. Sorry 😐 yes, definitely find out the family dynamic beforehand. Unfortunately, my ex’s family dynamic changed while we were together but her & her sister (both adults 43 & 40 at the time) were living at home 🤦🏻♀️ if I knew now .... b4 I fell in love!
In reality that is someone else a whole lot of someone else's or multiple individuals the same thing outside influence or manipulation or control.
It's the same dynamic as being a stranger or potential lover its incestuous and limiting that famliy members growth keeping them trapped.
Twice my ex had invited me now to her house and we made love.she says she wants to be my girlfrd again and I told her we should take things slowly this time but she can take as long as she wants to be fully ready.HOW DO I GO WITH THE FLOW NOW. GIRLS ARE NOT JUST TO BE TRUSTED.I DON'T WANT TO BE BROKEN AGAIN
Phansa Yuthachack how can you not invest much emotion if you really love that person?
Well im screwed
This was my ex with her sisters!
Omg! i have a feeling that this is ome factor of our break up. 😔
Codependent relationship
27th! Great video!
First!!!