Picking the Right Therapist
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- Опубліковано 25 сер 2024
- Dr. Charlotte Howard talks about 3 important questions you should consider asking your therapist as you go in for your first couple of sessions!
Your first few therapy appointments can be a bit nerve wracking, but it's a good idea to treat them as a mutual interview so you can figure out if this therapist is a good fit for you! Try and figure out how your therapist sees you working together and what types of things they think the both of you should focus on first. This will give you an idea of how good of a listener they are as well as the types of approaches they like to use. If you feel like something is off, or maybe they have a misconception about you it can be valuable to give them feedback on that and see if they respond with open-mindedness and curiosity or if they get defensive. Not every therapist will be a perfect fit for every client, but if they can adapt to your needs, are a good listener, and is someone who you can trust and respect then you could be on the road to a warm and healing relationship.
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Wow, this was good advice. I once went to a counselor who acted very confident, in fact over confident that she could help me - setting herself up very much. In one session, she said something just before I left that hurt my feelings deeply - letting me know she didn't get it at all. I determined that I was going to end the sessions. I went one last time because she had been promising to teach me some things that she kept putting off for the future. I told her that she had hurt my feelings. She acted like I was being abusive to her (I wasn't) but she got a narcissistic injury from me telling her that she had hurt me and I ended up apologizing to her. I didn't realize it back then, but there were so many signs that she was narcissistic and not good for me. There should be a personality test for counselors. That will never happen, but there should be!!!!!!
Very unprofessional
I've had similar experiences too, though, unfortunately. Amazing how many folks end up in this line of work because they personally wanted therapy or are HSPs
1. What would be your strategy to work with me to accomplish my goal?
2. What do you think we should work on first?
3. Give feedback about what they said to you. Do they get defensive or are they open to listen?
4. Do I feel comfortable opening up to her?
5. Why you became a therapist?
6. What differs you from others therapist?
After decades of counseling, therapy, in patient, and psychiatrists I thought I was the just broken. A burden to others. Now I realize I was helping them more than they were helping except for 3 wonderful souls that actually cared. Obviously everyone wanted to see them and they had work overload. I hah the most toxic relationship with my last counselor and asked another if they had any openings. She she just said " you have to advocate for yourself ". I did just that and the ex counselor said things to me I would never say to anyone let alone in counseling. I thank you for this video as I thought it was only my probem.
My fear is a therapist imposing their belief system onto me... especially if it's an African elder. Coming from an African household I think that's what I fear most
This was a good video and I bet will really help on my first session! Thank you
Great questions, Thank you.
This is so helpful!
Is asking them "What is the smallest reason you need for involuntarily hospitalizing me?" out of pocket or nah?
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Point of break off with you and all connected persons.
Here’s my conclusion after years of dealing with psychotherapists: Asking for “mental health tips” from the average therapist, whose own personal life is very often in worse shape than your own, is sort of like asking a paralyzed person to show you the latest dance step. Most of these people become interested in studying psychology to try to figure out why their own lives are such a mess. Then they get licensed to supposedly ‘help’ other people. Which is a rather unlikely scenario since they can’t even help themselves. But at least having that license and that title gives them the illusion that they’re actually more ‘together’ than their patients are. They rarely help anybody who comes to them unless that person really didn’t need much help to begin with.And when they haven’t helped you because of their lack of competency and skill as well as lack of insight into their own personal issues, 9 times out of 10 they will suggest that you get a prescription for a brain- damaging psychiatric drug from a psychiatrist that they just happen to have a professional association with. And of course they will tell you that the ideal situation is to continue going to them for therapy and to take the drugs at the same time. That way both they and their psychiatrist colleagues can make a living off of your suffering, which will increase tenfold when the drugs start damaging your brain and body. The majority of psychotherapists and psychiatrists are the worst kind of predators imaginable. They’re all about control and making money without providing any legitimate service for that money. . They will give you some scary diagnosis knowing that it will terrify you and make you desperately keep coming to them for the ‘cure’. The diagnoses are meaningless. The primary reason for them Is that they have to have a diagnostic code to put down on your insurance company’s billing form to get paid. So it’s all just part of the scam. They don’t really care what they put down or how meaningless, absurd and actually COUNTERPRODUCTIVE it is to your ‘mental health’ just as long as it enables them to get that money. And they bank (literally) upon the fact that the low self-esteem you have from your abusive upbringing and your resultant “Stockholm Syndrome” mentality will blind you to the fact that they themselves have become your new abusers with their self-esteem shattering diagnoses which make you feel that you will never be able to be a ‘normal’ member of society (like they are) without their ‘help’. They have it all figured out. They know that they can take advantage of people with low self-esteem because anybody with high self-esteem would know how full of sh*t they are right from the get go. 🤪
I hate this
Talk to your therapist about it.