I thought I was doing everything right with my family member. Thanks to Teepa, I now see I was doing everything wrong. She is magnificent. I use her advice daily and I'm so grateful to her.
OH Victoria, you could not possibly have been doing everything wrong, look for the moments of joy you helped create. We are all doing the best we can until we find what works in the moment! Teepa has the incredible gift of seeing the possibilities that exist when things get tough. You are not alone, we have learned this new Positive Approach to Care through so MANY mistakes. The willingness to take a time-out, step back, grow new awareness, and try something else is what makes us successful! Anyone who wants to learn more as a Care Partner can join the Care Partner Support Series Or talk to a PAC Consultant for 30 min free: teepasnow.com/services/consulting/
Thank you Teepa, your always a comfort to me, Im several years into being diagnosed with dementia, and Im feeling VERY much like "the other", it breaks my heart a lot lately. Now I just wonder where that line in the sand is that I dont wanna cross, never thought I would be here at 52. Thank you for talking about it from our point, its not out there except for you and your team. Love n light from napa💝
You are such an amazing person, I wish I could hug you...I am sitting here listening to you with tears in my eyes and my heart, beside me is my darling husband...comparatively speaking he is not in such a bad situation as others, but enough to where he needs me 24/7..my heart hurts for him, for us, I try to make his days have a little giggle, do things together, but I literally hurt..and am isolated from everyone...I have trouble accepting his condition,,and want to chat the way we always did...but he has trouble following..I hurt and feel beyond sad....thank you..for being Teepa..
Tisha, my heart broke reading this. I can't compare my story to yours as your relationship with your husband is unique from any other...but I do remember the struggle with my grandma. I remember the pain of feeling so helpless and believing the best days of my life were behind me. You are a beautiful soul. This too shall pass and the sun will shine again! If your husband could truly see you now and all the ways you express your love...he would be so very proud of you. Keep the faith! You've got this.
As always, Teepa, you've given me something to think about, and I mean ponder deeply. I would never intentionally exclude my mom or make her feel less than (an other no longer desired). But maybe I do at times. Thank you for making me aware so I can be intentional about including her and ensuring she knows her worth and how valuable her presence is to me.
Yes @R.G. you are 100% right, painful as we start to notice it happening everywhere. Changing it, that is Teepa's mission: teepasnow.com/about/pac-mission-and-values/
I am so thankful for your videos. My grandpa hasn't been diagnosed with dementia. But he has definitely started changing. Sometimes moments of anger, confusion, sadness, inability to focus etc. Watching your videos is helping me learn ways that I can change my behavior with grandpa so he feels included and loved. Learning to change my speech pattern to help him understand me better. Listening to the same stories over and over, talking about the little things he finds joy in ( lately it's been turkey vultures or the "big beautiful black birds that soar in the sky") Repeating myself patiently. Breaking things down into smaller steps. Showing him how to physically do something. Explaining why he needs to take his medicine or why he's at the doctor. I feel like it's helping me have more meaningful time. He's 92 so I am thankful for any time I have with him
Hi, @Dianna Province, you are very welcome! I'm so happy that you are watching and trying out some new ways of connecting with your grandpa. If you'd like to learn/practive more, you might want to try our Champion Courses (teepasnow.com/services/one-day-public-skills-champion-course/) or reach out to our team at 1-877-877-1671. Keep trying!
Hello, @TonyMichaud! I'm so glad that you found this video helpful. We apologize for taking so long to respond. However, we wanted to let you know that a person living with dementia, we have some ways that you might connect with us and others like you. Please take a moment to check out this page on our website: teepasnow.com/resources/for-people-living-with-dementia/
Glad to hear that @Anise Flavored Hot Sauce! If you'd like to see more of our work, you might want to check out what we are doing these days on TikTok (www.tiktok.com/@teepasnow?) or visit our website (www.teepasnow.com)
This is valuable, and at times the person may be irritable agitated or even mean.. don’t take personal , remain calm, speak gently, you may repeat things over and over. Be calm
You are such a tremendous blessing to me. I clung to your videos when my mom was first diagnosed with vascular dementia. You taught me so much. Thank you. I am now a nurse educator and I am sharing your videos with my followers. I am telling them to follow you.
Thanks for all your videos. They are really helpful to understand better people with dementia and your tips are so valuable. You really make a difference for people with dementia and caregivers. Great job!
Just became a caregiver for in home care and watching your videos have helped me to be a better caregiver you are an amazing and beautiful person please don't stop what you are doing ❤️
Hi, @overcome, welcome to the world of care partnering! We are glad to have you. Please keep watching and if you want to learn more, please check out our champion courses (teepasnow.com/services/one-day-public-skills-champion-course/) and certifications (teepasnow.com/certifications/).
My loved one does have a combination of other things: autism, manic depression, paranoia, his diagnosis is schizoaffective disorder; your videos have helped me to cope and have more sympathy and understanding of what's going on with his brain and I realized I've been doing so wrong. Thank you Teepa for showing us a better way to do with what we have. It's a great teaching! Very well explained from any angle. You are an amazing and funny teacher with a great heart! ❤️
Hi, @Rosa Diaz! You are very welcome. I appreciate the fact that you've been able to use our techniques with your loved one with more sympathy and understanding. If you ever want to talk to someone, you can contact someone on our consulting team for a free 30-minute session (consult@teepasnow.com or 1-877-877-1671)
Hello @Mrs Fitz! Thank you for your kind comment! We are pleased that you have found something helpful from this video. If you are looking for more resources, we invite you to visit our website: www.teepasnow.com or our free on-line dementia journal at, teepasnow.com/online-dementia-journal/.
Brilliant Teepa. Thank you for your wonderful work. Caring for a mum with Alzheimers is the hardest thing one can do. Your videos are very helpful and insightful.
Hi, @Terri Harrigan! So glad that you are finding our videos helpful and insightful. If you are interested in some of our newer works, please visit our store (shop.teepasnow.com/product-category/online-video/) or consider becoming a member/subscriber to our UA-cam Channel (ua-cam.com/channels/SXrEX7LkWOmfTaV6u1C7wQ.html)
Insights and an arguably necessarily long plea... Teepa's comments do not only apply to those who have dementia. They apply to those who like myself have a disability. We are whole, yet we are different and we do not want to be. The parts of our brain which govern judgment, intellect and memory may work fine but some part(s) of our brain do not and cannot communicate properly with the rest of our body and/or vice versa. This truth manifests in a myriad of varying and different ways but regardless of specifics, it often makes us feel abnormal and to use an apt Biblical term, unclean --shunned outsiders. It also often makes others feel, albeit sometimes unconsciously and most often unintentionally, uncomfortable so that they push us away and treat us as the other, the odd one. As Teepa reminds us though, we are at our best when we all work, live, struggle and triumph together. As and for people of Faith, there is already an Other. For those who claim, uphold and espouse the Judeo-Christian tradition in particular, this Other loves us and wants us to love our fellows just as He does. To paraphrase St. Peter, Jesus is no respecter of persons. God loves us all equally. Furthermore as the saying goes, "There but for the grace of God go I." Those without disabilities are sometimes referred to as "the temporarily able-bodied" by those of us with disabilities. Everyone's dignity and worth is inherent: It's based on who we are, not on what we have or what we can do. Our bodies and even our brains are just a shell. Faith tells us we are more. Thank you Teepa. It tells all of us, regardless of ability and mental and/or physical capacity, that we share our identity and dignity with the Other and with everyone on our common human (and faith) journey. Having offered what I hope are well conceived and expressed insights, I now beg my readers to get to know and to truly discover those with disabilities, rather than shutting us out or down. Let us give you our gifts. Please validate, value and cherish them and us. Share yourself and your gifts with us. For that to happen, you must include and spend time with us. In a mutual relationship, we will grow, learn from and appreciate each other. Teepa's great wisdom reminds all of us, disabled or not, to focus on what we have, on our abilities. When we care for another --physically and/or spiritually-- especially for someone who has real and perceived deficits, we are called to bring her abilities out, to allow that person to shine, to be his best. To do that well, one must also acknowledge what is lost and allow and support the person with disabilities (and/or dementia) in mourning those losses and in being creatively realistic in living with them. Please help us who have disabilities to find and share the best of ourselves and to let us do the same with and for you. Let us walk this pilgrimage together, positively caring for each other. May God bless and keep all who read this.
Thank you. I pray my two cents fills many pockets and contributes to a positive approach to caring and care. You are touching many through who you are and where you've been. Please God, I may do the same. All of us will get over the rough patches together.
My son doesn’t speak, but you just spoke what I believe he would, given the ability! I also need to say: From the few who accepted my son over the years, I learned how God sees our obedience to His Son, Jesus Christ - by loving others as Jesus asks us to do, we show our love for God.
@@salauerman7082 does your son have cerebral palsy? He did not speak but he certainly communicate. I can see he has a perceptive, loving and gentle mother. Christ has touched you both in a special way. Never lose heart. I will pray for you both. God bless you always.
I wish some members of my congregation who were closest to me understood this years ago - I felt I had to remove my father from worship service because of some who sat in judgment. It alienated me as a caregiver and my father as the sufferer. In short, he and I will never separate because I love him no matter what…the lack of faith-based support just makes our journey through dementia more rough. I can’t imagine Jesus not approaching the leper, Legion, etc. for fear of an outcome that made Him feel uncomfortable.
Hello, @2 and 26, wow it sounds like it was a very difficult situation for you and your father at church. It is often hard for many people to understand when a person is different than they used to be. You may want to suggest the following video to your congregation (shop.teepasnow.com/product/spirituality-in-dementia-care-streaming/) or if you would like to talk about this issues some more, reach out for a free 30-minute consult (consult@teepasnow.com).
To Teepa Snow,,, I am an RPN that has specialized in mental health and specifically dementia care for the most severe and aggressive people. I truly appreciate your ability to explain this disease to the level of understanding and experience that you share. I recommend you to all I can. You are truly a blessing Teepa. I love your understanding of behaviours and solutions to help out people with care dignity and a true quality of life that is provided. Thank you
Hi, @strength in numbers! what a wonderful UA-cam name! We are so happy that you share her message with others. As a member of her team, I try to do the same. We all agree that people need care with dignity. If you'd like to share even more of what she's doing, please recommend her TikTok Channel (www.tiktok.com/@teepasnow) or visit our website (www.teepasnow.com)
To have basic understanding of neuroscience and the disorders that can happen helps us to judge less. I think kids should be taught more about the brain in school
I love you so much. My husband has Ahlzheimers dementia moderate he fell 2 weeks ago broke his hip and with surgery and in nursing home I wonder how things are going to shape up.
@Susan Simpson, I'm so sorry to hear that your husband fell and broke his hip! If you are wanting to connect with someone, please contact us for a free 30-minute consult via email at consult@teepasnow.com or via phone 1-877-877-1671.
Hi, @Salima Ellis, your question actually raised more for us. I'm not sure exactly what you mean. Could you please reach out to our consultants for a free 30-minute session to talk about this question? Contact 1-877-877-1671 or consult@teepasnow.com
My sister has dementia- I don’t have the patience to even be around her - she has immense hate for me and another sister who are helping her daughter pay for an assisted living facility! She’s very mean and says horrible things to us! She got physical with me on my last visit and I’m never going back to visit her or take her treats . We didn’t get along before this all came about but we could be civil . She’s 72 and doesn’t think she’s old enough to be where she’s at - and I’m 75 and want to just slap her ungrateful butt! Paying what’s left owing of her on her monthly rent has really taken a bite out of my savings and my sisters - and she’s hoping we starve to death! The language she uses I realize is part of some dementia- my mom never said the words she used till she got dementia! It was bad! My sister is worse than my mother ever was. It’s a sad disease
Wow, @sherrywoodard8562, it sounds like things are really difficult for you, your sisters, and family. I'm so sorry that this is happening. This disease can be hard for everyone involved. If you and your family would like some help on working through some ways to communicate with your sister (or each other), we would be happy to help. We offer free 30-minute consultations, just email us at consult@teepasnow.com or call 1-877-877-1671. We're very happy to help.
I thought I was doing everything right with my family member. Thanks to Teepa, I now see I was doing everything wrong. She is magnificent. I use her advice daily and I'm so grateful to her.
OH Victoria, you could not possibly have been doing everything wrong, look for the moments of joy you helped create. We are all doing the best we can until we find what works in the moment! Teepa has the incredible gift of seeing the possibilities that exist when things get tough.
You are not alone, we have learned this new Positive Approach to Care through so MANY mistakes. The willingness to take a time-out, step back, grow new awareness, and try something else is what makes us successful!
Anyone who wants to learn more as a Care Partner can join the Care Partner Support Series Or talk to a PAC Consultant for 30 min free: teepasnow.com/services/consulting/
Thank you Teepa, your always a comfort to me, Im several years into being diagnosed with dementia, and Im feeling VERY much like "the other", it breaks my heart a lot lately. Now I just wonder where that line in the sand is that I dont wanna cross, never thought I would be here at 52. Thank you for talking about it from our point, its not out there except for you and your team. Love n light from napa💝
You are such an amazing person, I wish I could hug you...I am sitting here listening to you with tears in my eyes and my heart, beside me is my darling husband...comparatively speaking he is not in such a bad situation as others, but enough to where he needs me 24/7..my heart hurts for him, for us, I try to make his days have a little giggle, do things together, but I literally hurt..and am isolated from everyone...I have trouble accepting his condition,,and want to chat the way we always did...but he has trouble following..I hurt and feel beyond sad....thank you..for being Teepa..
Tisha, my heart broke reading this. I can't compare my story to yours as your relationship with your husband is unique from any other...but I do remember the struggle with my grandma. I remember the pain of feeling so helpless and believing the best days of my life were behind me.
You are a beautiful soul. This too shall pass and the sun will shine again! If your husband could truly see you now and all the ways you express your love...he would be so very proud of you. Keep the faith! You've got this.
Love this angle of loving the one whose “house” is falling apart. Wise words. Thank you as always!! 🙏🏻💗
Just realized I had commented on this video 6 months ago! 🤦🏼♀️🤣
Well, it’s still relevant and still excellent!
Stay True.
@Practical_Dementia_Care, love this!
You bless our family. The journey seems easier by understanding. I want to honor my husband along the journey. Thank you for your wisdom.
As always, Teepa, you've given me something to think about, and I mean ponder deeply. I would never intentionally exclude my mom or make her feel less than (an other no longer desired). But maybe I do at times. Thank you for making me aware so I can be intentional about including her and ensuring she knows her worth and how valuable her presence is to me.
It's not just faith communities- it's society.
Yes @R.G. you are 100% right, painful as we start to notice it happening everywhere. Changing it, that is Teepa's mission: teepasnow.com/about/pac-mission-and-values/
I am so thankful for your videos. My grandpa hasn't been diagnosed with dementia. But he has definitely started changing. Sometimes moments of anger, confusion, sadness, inability to focus etc. Watching your videos is helping me learn ways that I can change my behavior with grandpa so he feels included and loved. Learning to change my speech pattern to help him understand me better. Listening to the same stories over and over, talking about the little things he finds joy in ( lately it's been turkey vultures or the "big beautiful black birds that soar in the sky")
Repeating myself patiently. Breaking things down into smaller steps. Showing him how to physically do something. Explaining why he needs to take his medicine or why he's at the doctor. I feel like it's helping me have more meaningful time. He's 92 so I am thankful for any time I have with him
Hi, @Dianna Province, you are very welcome! I'm so happy that you are watching and trying out some new ways of connecting with your grandpa. If you'd like to learn/practive more, you might want to try our Champion Courses (teepasnow.com/services/one-day-public-skills-champion-course/) or reach out to our team at 1-877-877-1671. Keep trying!
Wow What a wonderful talk. a wonderful explanation! I have LBD and that' the way I want to be seen. As an equal
Hello, @TonyMichaud! I'm so glad that you found this video helpful. We apologize for taking so long to respond.
However, we wanted to let you know that a person living with dementia, we have some ways that you might connect with us and others like you. Please take a moment to check out this page on our website: teepasnow.com/resources/for-people-living-with-dementia/
I really enjoy your physical lecturing style. It is a real differentiator
Glad to hear that @Anise Flavored Hot Sauce! If you'd like to see more of our work, you might want to check out what we are doing these days on TikTok (www.tiktok.com/@teepasnow?) or visit our website (www.teepasnow.com)
This is valuable, and at times the person may be irritable agitated or even mean.. don’t take personal , remain calm, speak gently, you may repeat things over and over. Be calm
Hi, @Geronimo2u! Glad you find this valuable. Thanks for watching and commenting too!
Wow! You are amazing.x Thanks for your insight.x
You are so welcome
You are such a tremendous blessing to me. I clung to your videos when my mom was first diagnosed with vascular dementia. You taught me so much. Thank you. I am now a nurse educator and I am sharing your videos with my followers. I am telling them to follow you.
Thank you so much! Be sure to visit teepasnow.com for a look at all the resources we have created to share out with folks.
You and your colleagues are so very special. I haven't forgotten your request for a video.
The way you tell us to shake hands, then turn over their hand so theirs is on top, would, I think, be comforting for everyone
Hey, @Aishiya1, great "a-ha" moment in recognizing that Hand-under-Hand can be comforting for everyone! Nice Job!
Wow!
What an incredibly uplifting way to look at this challenging journey.
Glad you think so, @Mary-vt7px!
Thanks for all your videos. They are really helpful to understand better people with dementia and your tips are so valuable. You really make a difference for people with dementia and caregivers. Great job!
Just became a caregiver for in home care and watching your videos have helped me to be a better caregiver you are an amazing and beautiful person please don't stop what you are doing ❤️
Hi, @overcome, welcome to the world of care partnering! We are glad to have you. Please keep watching and if you want to learn more, please check out our champion courses (teepasnow.com/services/one-day-public-skills-champion-course/) and certifications (teepasnow.com/certifications/).
My loved one does have a combination of other things: autism, manic depression, paranoia, his diagnosis is schizoaffective disorder; your videos have helped me to cope and have more sympathy and understanding of what's going on with his brain and I realized I've been doing so wrong. Thank you Teepa for showing us a better way to do with what we have. It's a great teaching! Very well explained from any angle. You are an amazing and funny teacher with a great heart! ❤️
Hi, @Rosa Diaz! You are very welcome. I appreciate the fact that you've been able to use our techniques with your loved one with more sympathy and understanding. If you ever want to talk to someone, you can contact someone on our consulting team for a free 30-minute session (consult@teepasnow.com or 1-877-877-1671)
Thank you, that was really amazing. I needed to hear this.
Hello @Mrs Fitz! Thank you for your kind comment! We are pleased that you have found something helpful from this video. If you are looking for more resources, we invite you to visit our website: www.teepasnow.com or our free on-line dementia journal at, teepasnow.com/online-dementia-journal/.
Brilliant Teepa. Thank you for your wonderful work. Caring for a mum with Alzheimers is the hardest thing one can do. Your videos are very helpful and insightful.
Hi, @Terri Harrigan! So glad that you are finding our videos helpful and insightful. If you are interested in some of our newer works, please visit our store (shop.teepasnow.com/product-category/online-video/) or consider becoming a member/subscriber to our UA-cam Channel (ua-cam.com/channels/SXrEX7LkWOmfTaV6u1C7wQ.html)
Insights and an arguably necessarily long plea... Teepa's comments do not only apply to those who have dementia. They apply to those who like myself have a disability. We are whole, yet we are different and we do not want to be. The parts of our brain which govern judgment, intellect and memory may work fine but some part(s) of our brain do not and cannot communicate properly with the rest of our body and/or vice versa. This truth manifests in a myriad of varying and different ways but regardless of specifics, it often makes us feel abnormal and to use an apt Biblical term, unclean --shunned outsiders. It also often makes others feel, albeit sometimes unconsciously and most often unintentionally, uncomfortable so that they push us away and treat us as the other, the odd one. As Teepa reminds us though, we are at our best when we all work, live, struggle and triumph together. As and for people of Faith, there is already an Other. For those who claim, uphold and espouse the Judeo-Christian tradition in particular, this Other loves us and wants us to love our fellows just as He does. To paraphrase St. Peter, Jesus is no respecter of persons. God loves us all equally. Furthermore as the saying goes, "There but for the grace of God go I." Those without disabilities are sometimes referred to as "the temporarily able-bodied" by those of us with disabilities.
Everyone's dignity and worth is inherent: It's based on who we are, not on what we have or what we can do.
Our bodies and even our brains are just a shell. Faith tells us we are more. Thank you Teepa. It tells all of us, regardless of ability and mental and/or physical capacity, that we share our identity and dignity with the Other and with everyone on our common human (and faith) journey.
Having offered what I hope are well conceived and expressed insights, I now beg my readers to get to know and to truly discover those with disabilities, rather than shutting us out or down. Let us give you our gifts. Please validate, value and cherish them and us. Share yourself and your gifts with us. For that to happen, you must include and spend time with us. In a mutual relationship, we will grow, learn from and appreciate each other. Teepa's great wisdom reminds all of us, disabled or not, to focus on what we have, on our abilities. When we care for another --physically and/or spiritually-- especially for someone who has real and perceived deficits, we are called to bring her abilities out, to allow that person to shine, to be his best. To do that well, one must also acknowledge what is lost and allow and support the person with disabilities (and/or dementia) in mourning those losses and in being creatively realistic in living with them. Please help us who have disabilities to find and share the best of ourselves and to let us do the same with and for you. Let us walk this pilgrimage together, positively caring for each other. May God bless and keep all who read this.
Thank you, Colleen! Well said, especially during this time when everyone is under some sort of distress. What a nice grounding voice you project.
Thank you. I pray my two cents fills many pockets and contributes to a positive approach to caring and care. You are touching many through who you are and where you've been. Please God, I may do the same. All of us will get over the rough patches together.
My son doesn’t speak, but you just spoke what I believe he would, given the ability!
I also need to say: From the few who accepted my son over the years, I learned how God sees our obedience to His Son, Jesus Christ - by loving others as Jesus asks us to do, we show our love for God.
@@salauerman7082 does your son have cerebral palsy? He did not speak but he certainly communicate. I can see he has a perceptive, loving and gentle mother. Christ has touched you both in a special way. Never lose heart. I will pray for you both. God bless you always.
I wish some members of my congregation who were closest to me understood this years ago - I felt I had to remove my father from worship service because of some who sat in judgment. It alienated me as a caregiver and my father as the sufferer. In short, he and I will never separate because I love him no matter what…the lack of faith-based support just makes our journey through dementia more rough. I can’t imagine Jesus not approaching the leper, Legion, etc. for fear of an outcome that made Him feel uncomfortable.
Hello, @2 and 26, wow it sounds like it was a very difficult situation for you and your father at church. It is often hard for many people to understand when a person is different than they used to be. You may want to suggest the following video to your congregation (shop.teepasnow.com/product/spirituality-in-dementia-care-streaming/) or if you would like to talk about this issues some more, reach out for a free 30-minute consult (consult@teepasnow.com).
To Teepa Snow,,,
I am an RPN that has specialized in mental health and specifically dementia care for the most severe and aggressive people. I truly appreciate your ability to explain this disease to the level of understanding and experience that you share. I recommend you to all I can. You are truly a blessing Teepa. I love your understanding of behaviours and solutions to help out people with care dignity and a true quality of life that is provided. Thank you
Hi, @strength in numbers! what a wonderful UA-cam name! We are so happy that you share her message with others. As a member of her team, I try to do the same. We all agree that people need care with dignity. If you'd like to share even more of what she's doing, please recommend her TikTok Channel (www.tiktok.com/@teepasnow) or visit our website (www.teepasnow.com)
Teepa 🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for your compassion and elevating this care work
Thanks for watching!
To have basic understanding of neuroscience and the disorders that can happen helps us to judge less. I think kids should be taught more about the brain in school
Yes! You are so right. Afterall, we all have brains and we can learn alot about ourselves and others.
This is excellent. So good. Thank you💗
Glad you enjoyed it, @Practical_Dementia_Care!
I love you so much. My husband has Ahlzheimers dementia moderate he fell 2 weeks ago broke his hip and with surgery and in nursing home I wonder how things are going to shape up.
@Susan Simpson, I'm so sorry to hear that your husband fell and broke his hip! If you are wanting to connect with someone, please contact us for a free 30-minute consult via email at consult@teepasnow.com or via phone 1-877-877-1671.
So beautifully said. Thank you!!!!!
👋🌟Happy New Year! !!💝🙌🙌✌Thank You!! 😍Another Awesome Video🙌🙌👋
What if the Caregiver isn’t receiving help when others want to help?
Hi, @Salima Ellis, your question actually raised more for us. I'm not sure exactly what you mean. Could you please reach out to our consultants for a free 30-minute session to talk about this question? Contact 1-877-877-1671 or consult@teepasnow.com
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My sister has dementia- I don’t have the patience to even be around her - she has immense hate for me and another sister who are helping her daughter pay for an assisted living facility! She’s very mean and says horrible things to us! She got physical with me on my last visit and I’m never going back to visit her or take her treats . We didn’t get along before this all came about but we could be civil . She’s 72 and doesn’t think she’s old enough to be where she’s at - and I’m 75 and want to just slap her ungrateful butt! Paying what’s left owing of her on her monthly rent has really taken a bite out of my savings and my sisters - and she’s hoping we starve to death! The language she uses I realize is part of some dementia- my mom never said the words she used till she got dementia! It was bad! My sister is worse than my mother ever was. It’s a sad disease
Wow, @sherrywoodard8562, it sounds like things are really difficult for you, your sisters, and family. I'm so sorry that this is happening. This disease can be hard for everyone involved. If you and your family would like some help on working through some ways to communicate with your sister (or each other), we would be happy to help. We offer free 30-minute consultations, just email us at consult@teepasnow.com or call 1-877-877-1671. We're very happy to help.