Fear of being judged: how MINIMALISM can help
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- Опубліковано 2 сер 2024
- Why is it important to stop letting people’s opinions guide your life, what consequences it can lead to and how a minimalist mindset can help fight the fear of being judged?
In this video, I’m sharing my thoughts about the problem that were sparkled by the first hate comment I got here on UA-cam 😊
Hope it will be at least a bit helpful for you in overcoming worries about what other people think or say about you. Well, we are all humans and it’s in our nature to long to be liked by others….
Thank you for taking interest in my channel!
From Siberia with love,
Ana(stasia)
This channel is one of the finest hidden treasures on UA-cam. I'm so glad I stumbled upon you!
You are so kind, Elizabeth! ❤️ Thank you. Smiling huge 😊
I can't describe it better, I am just fascinated by this content. Keep going, Ana. You are great :)
Agree completely
I couldn't agree more!
Yes, this channel is truly a treasure. ❄
Anna I was diagnosed with stage 4 terminal colon cancer last year March and was given two weeks to live. I was blessed to be given more time and was allowed time to repent and spend time with family and friends as well as put my affairs in order. I just turned 41 years old last month and if someone had told me last year January I was going to get cancer I would have been “what nonsense u talking” I say all of this to say you’re right life is too short and I’m happy to be alive today to have been able to watch your channel as it’s one of my favorites here on UA-cam. Sending you positive vibes from the Caribbean, well Trinidad and Tobago 🇹🇹 to be exact
My dear friend, I can't express how sorry I am for what happened to you... You are a strong and beautiful person, I admire your resilience and such a wonderful sense of life ❤️Wish I could do anything to comfort you. But just knowing that you like the videos that I make, is happiness. Sending many hugs 🌸
@@anagoldberg awww. You too kind. Your videos brings me comfort. Don’t get discouraged with trolls both on and offline just keep those videos coming 😆😄👍🇹🇹❤️
@@bajan256 Thank you so much for being here. It's such a huge boost for me 🌿🌷🥰
"Emotional minimalism" it sounds so peaceful.
Happy the video brought you some comfort, my friend 🌸
Like my dad always said, "We wouldn't care what others thought about us if we knew how seldom they did." Wise words. :)
These words are just perfect to remember!❤ Thank you for sharing, your dad knows how to stay mindful for sure 😊
Hi, Anna, working at Court my whole 'job life', where 'judging' is the main thing, has brought me to the same results for my private life: be kind if you can and if explaining is wished, try to explain, or go away immediately. At the age of 66, I’m now more preferring the second choice, because I’m more and more aware, who will listen and respect you and who won’t. No waste of time… Glad to hear you found out in such young age. Love from Germany, Monika❣
Wow, Monika, working at court must be quite challenging and draining emotionally! And yes, I agree, it takes experience, tons of empathy, and self-respect to figure out who will listen and who won't. Thank you so much for being here! ❤️
@@anagoldberg I really like that you mentioned self-respect in this regard as it shifts the attention from those negative folks back towards oneself. It's definitively a form of self-care ❤ Learning about boundaries and how to keep them is so important.
@@XYZ-ib4go Indeed, keeping boundaries is a form of self-care, so well put! 🌿
As a person in my 60's, I can assure you that caring about what others think about oneself becomes less important as you age. There will always be people who won't agree with you or even like you, but that is life and life is short. Embrace your friends/family and forget about the trolls.
Anna, hello from the U.S! I discovered your channel this morning when I woke up at 3:30 a.m. and couldn't sleep. I just moved into a tiny studio apt with my two cats. I am a widow with three grown children and have been through some financial struggles. I have been transitioning to a more simple life and spending less out of necessity and survival. I admire your way of life and am so glad I found you! Looking forward to learning from you 🥰
Hi, Lori! So nice to meet you here ❤️I'm sorry to hear about your struggles...I hope your journey will bring you a lot of joy though, and that your little furry companions will absolutely contribute to that 🌸Big hugs from Siberia!
There’s a famous saying, “Your life does not belong to you if you care about what other people think”. Always stay true to yourself Ana 😊💛
Love the saying! Toy too, my friend! ❤️
@ 6:12 🙏😊 Anna I just SUBSCRIBED... You're a beautiful SPIRIT! Thank you for your WISDOM 😘❤️
@@divinetime999 Aww, thank you for being so kind and sweet, my friend! ❤️
well said
yes🍀👏
My Dad always said “Things only bother you as much as you let it.” Fits well with what you have said.
Hi Ana! A saying that has stuck with me and I find very meaningful is ..."people who matter don't mind, people who mind don't matter". Its far too easy to be crippled by others opinion, you're totally right! x
Hi, Tracy! Wow, this saying is just perfect! We need to keep it in mind all the time ❤️
Turning a blind eye and a deaf ear is universal. I am from Missouri USA and that's how it was in my childhood. But that was how my parents were raised. I am a Grandmother and I still struggle with the opinions of others sometimes.
Sorry to hear about family struggles. In my 20s i cared what others said, 30s too busy to notice, 40s dont give a damn. :) Next year i start the second half of my century and im curious what it will be like! Enjoy your day.
Thank you, Michelle🌱 so true what you've said! I'm approaching my 40s and enjoying this not-giving-a-damn mood 😃 have a lovely day !
Michelle VG........same
When someone is rude, it’s not about the target, it’s more about them. So happy you’re able to rise above it! You’re an intelligent person.
I was so sorry to hear about your mother and thank you for your open and honest video. As a sensitive person, other people’s remarks even when they are not meant to hurt are a real problem for me. I ruminate on them and it’s a constant battle to not allow others to define me.
Thank you for being so kind, my friend ❤️ I understand your struggles so well and hope that these emotional battles will make you even stronger day by day. 🌷
Dear Lynby, I used to say to my children, "there are billions of people on the planet, it is simply not possible for all of them to agree with you or like you". I hope that's a helpful thought. Perhaps also contemplate that you do not agree with or like everything about other people. That is OK! We don't need to be perfect, our efforts just need to be 'good enough'. This was a game-changing idea for me as I struggled with perfectionism and was a tyrrant towards myself!
@@madeleine7729 thank you
After watching many UA-cam channels about minimalism that all started to look the same, your channel is such a breath of fresh air! Very realistic, authentic and relatable. I am also in the journey of listening more to myself and caring less of what other people would think of me, so thank you for this video. Warm greetings from the Netherlands! 😊
Hey, my friend! thank you so much for waching and being here ❤️ Big hugs to the Netherlands from Siberia
This is uplifting. I like how you apply minimalism to everything. I enjoy thinking about how to apply minimalism to everything now. You are a positive force. Thank you
Oh, indeed, minimalsim can be applied to all sorts of things! Thank you for watching 🌿
Hello from Holly, Michigan I lived all my life being alone and thought there was something wrong with me. I enjoy and can relate to most all of your videos. Keep them up.Good job well done.☺️
Hugs to Holly, Michigan, my friend! So glad to have you here 💚 Thank you for your kind support.
Nice people are nice to everyone. If they are unkind consistently, they are not nice people. When they say mean things, they are saying a lot about themselves, but nothing about you. The reason it hurts is that YOU are a nice, kind person.
I recently found your channel and appreciate all the time you put into these videos. I’m making my way through each one over the next couple of days. You seem very sweet, almost like an older sister. Thank you for all you do
Aww, you're so sweet, Chalena, thank you! I'm happy to meet you here, sending hugs from Siberia ❤️
Hi Anna, very pleased to have discovered your channel. Original minimalist content - yay! Thank you from England 🙏
Hi, Claire! So nice to meet you here ❤️ Cheers to England from Siberia 🌿
Absolutely profound. I have struggled with this my whole life. It has become easier lately, but as someone who is 'far too sensitive', I still allow negative comments to sting - far too much! Your insights are very helpful.
Ugh, I know those stinging feelings, my friend... Absolutely. I guess, they never go away completely.
Thank you for watching! ❤️
Haven't seen someone got this excited upon receiving the first hater/troll on the channel! Keep this positivity up, this is very inspiring and the stories are also very touching, I'll keep these points in mind to make myself a better person.
"Life is too short to let an intruder in" and ruin your good vibes and peace of mind. YES! This!!!
Thank you for sharing ✨
Haha, excitement - this is what all haters are afraid of, it sips away their energy😆 No intruders, keep your vibes as beautiful as they are! Thank you for watching, my friend ❤️
@@anagoldberg I respectfully disagree with your opinions. From two points of view actually.
One would be the label of “hater” people are too quick to dish out when their encounter a different opinion. Many are nasty people, no disagreement there but I think it’s important to distinguish between (sometimes constructive) criticism and “hate”.
Another point of view regarding your personal experience (which I share being from an ex-communist country too) is the understanding that others’s opinion does matter in a society like that. In communism if your neighbors had bad things to say about you, you were right to be afraid and care. One bad report and your life would be completely ruined. So don’t judge your parents too harshly for caring about that, you’re too young to fully remember that era. Trust me, addiction, divorce, telling a joke, not having enough children, anything could’ve landed someone in prison or fired from their job.
I became aware at a very young age 14 that I did not care what anyone thought about me except my mom. I considered this a gift . I don’t know where this self awareness came from but I have it and it is a super power. When I have been insulted in a text I block the person .if it is to my face I say , nothing you say moves me and I walk away. I’m always amazed at the lengths people will go to get a reaction from me but it never works I won’t engage them and I’m totally indifferent to what ever vile thing comes out of their mouth
I can't imagine how anyone could hate on Ana....
Thank you Ana for you wisdom and thoughts.
I’m really enjoying your channel and appreciate all the effort you put in.💛
Aww, thanks so much for being here, my friend! ❤️ It means a lot to me
Good for you for not feeding the trolls! Congrats on your channel growth ☺️
Thank you and the whole community for this growth that I've never expected ❤️ Yep, trolls need to stay hungry 😆
Wow last I checked you had 300 subscribers. Congratulations 🎉😁😁
Hey, Szilvia! It's all thanks to you, the wonderful UA-cam community ❤️
i love your energy and spirit and style.
I never knew about this organization! such a relief to know that people can find help there💚I took several therapy sessions that helped me accept many things and free myself from them.
I'm so sorry you had to go through that situation, my friend...
Sending so much love 💛
Please try to ignore them. They are lost and clueless. It's best not to feed them by responding. I'm so glad you're here. ♥️♥️♥️
“My heart wouldn’t make it.” Oof that hit so hard as a fellow HSP too 💓💓💓
I really admire your way of thinking. Your channel is a calm and wise voice in all this noise of UA-cam.
Fantastic …. Just what I need to hear today xx big hugs, love and brightest blessings 🤗🐶💜👏💐🇬🇧
Hi Ana! I agree with you about other people's opinion. Another thing about this topic that I always have in my mind is "These persons must be so bored with their own lives that judging others is the only interesting thing that happens to them. Poor, poor people!". Привет Вам от русской испанки)))
Ура, привет Испании! 😍
Haha, such a true saying, my friend 😊 💚
Its always like that. One "cancer" starts hurting another person in attempt to ease his grief and whoever he hurts starts dishing out pain to others. So often too people project their own failures onto others. At a certain age it becomes very visible because you've seen the pattern so many times already. Then it gets a bit easier because at least you can understand why and that the accuser is a real problem. Haters are very hard on younger people though as they lack the experience to figure out its the bully and troll who really has a problem.
Keep up good work, ignore the trolls 💖
Oh, thank you so much for this comment, right now I needed this so bad 😘
I use to be very affected by negative opinions or rude people or critisism/ judgments on my person or my actions/opinions/crafts/my style etc. They use to affect me so much, that they completely took over, taking charge and leaving me like a victim.
One day, about 20 years ago; dear friend and teacher at our local High School told me, that it was perfectly o.k., to leave a "room", when people crossed borders and became offending. This stuck with me forever and launched a completely new way of handling these situations for me. I saw parallels to the teachings of the Bible, which says "love thy enemy". I studied and became interested in Buddhism and all kinds of teachings for example by Laotse or New Age teachers like Neville Goddard. I started to take up Aikido, a peaceful martial art, in where you take the attackers energy and redirect it away from yourself. These are all the same priciples. Love thy enemy, leaving the "room", redirecting energy.... it is all the same thing. The "dark energies" will allways be there and when it happens, it will be up to ourselves, how we react to them, or if we react at all. I try to think of it as a spiritual practice, kind of like going to a spiritual gym, training my spiritual muscles, lol. If you let yourself be taken down by bad energies, they will take over. They are strong and if you are not guarded, they can take you by surprise. At the beginning of my spiritual journey, old behaviour patterns let me "react" to bad situations without thinking, like an autopilot I would response. But nowadays I have some tools at hand, some mental ones, to help me out.
I start to breathe consciously and count until 10, before I react, for example. Or I "buy" myself time and let the other person know, that I will think or sleep upon it before I react. It allways depends on the situation you are in. If somebody is just plain hurtful and crosses borders, it is best to leave the situation for good, also meaning to block someone, as an emergency reaction. One has to protect oneself first. That is vital and it is an important messure in living "self love". That is another issue, we women have often. We try to please everybody, were brought up this way often and take more bs from others than we ever should. Women especially have to learn to set boundaries and learn self love. Remeber: If there is someone who attacs you, one can only guess the reasons behind it. Sometimes we will never know why. But the most importnt thing is, that we do not take it personal and see it just as a practice for our spiritual muscles, for a test on how we will react or handle the situation. It is almost like an execise God sends us, to see how far the pupil got on his or her journey. And the more we learn and accomplish, the harder the lessons get sometimes. ;-) But God knows, we are no beginners anymore, but advanced. So, it is like getting a black belt in martial arts, lol.
Blessings from Germany.
What an empowering personal story, my friend! Now I want to try Aikido too 😊 Thank you so much for sharing🌸
@@anagoldberg You are very welcome
Having watched several of your videos, I just wanted to say how much I love your sharing. Your realizations of how to best function (and indeed thrive) in this world despite the many obstacles you have faced, are inspirational. I also appreciate your commitment to a vegan way of life while maintaining a non-judgmental attitude towards those who are not on this particular path.
The story about the offical who didn't like their profile was a great anecdote. You drew a good pararel between the personal insecurities and how they result in hurting others, often unknowingly
I just stumbled upon this video by the homepage of UA-cam, thank you for your purity and wonderful insights.
Thank you for being so sweet and for watching this, my friend 🌷You're always welcome here.
Dearest Ana(stasia) 💕 Thank you for 'thinking' ... I appreciate very much the way you process your thoughts ... this is helping me look at my thoughts :) Thank you for sharing your life with us ... it is helping me realize we truly are in 'this' together and if we don't share, we do feel alone and somehow 'different' or 'bad' for our thoughts and feelings. As my late husband shared with me, 'that person you see has a story ... don't judge ...' -- the more we share our stories, maybe then, the understanding that comes allows them to dissolve :) thanking you again for your helpful sharing ... I am 73 in Canada ... 3 years into beginning a new life, suddenly ... the window of opportunity opened in the universe and I jumped in to not miss it -- I had no idea what would come of it, I just knew I had to take it ... YaY !! love from here 💕
Wishing you best luck, my friend! You're a daring and beautiful soul 😘
Hi Anna, I can absolutely relate. I’m originally from Hungary. Growing up the late 80’s and early 90’s experienced the same issues around me. I love your videos because sometimes I hear my deepest thoughts by you. Your videos are awesome. Thank you 🙏🏻
I love what you’re doing thank you for all the efforts you put into your content, these are invaluable vessels of insight …Finding your channel was a sweet serendipity. You are authentic and have the most wonderful way of looking at the world , lots of love from Cyprus 🌸⭐️🌸
Yes... Something that helped me is knowing when people are rude its not necessarily about you, often something is happening in the other persons life that makes them lash out. Source :10 years of working in hotels as a hsp.
Omg, how did you manage - an HSP in hotels? Wow, it must be a real challenge for you🌸 You're right, it's just something else that made a person do some rude stuff.
@@anagoldberg I managed with great difficulty... BUT having awesome collegues and doing daily meditations helped. I've been on a break since C happened, and studied interior design, but honestly not easy trying to get into a creative field in South Africa...
@@ariadnerunnalls3705 I totally agree per meditations! Please don't feel discouraged with your creative endeavor. I'm sure, it will work. Often, it takes some time❤️
You are wise beyond your years! It is the human condition, we all struggle with these issues. In the end, we must follow our hearts!
Yes, following our hearts is the only right way to be ❤️ Thank you for being here with me 🌷
How could you possibly get a hater 😱 you seem so nice - hi 👋 from Ireland 🇮🇪 🍀
Your aura is so refreshing, I love listening to your voice, it's so soothing and your profiency in English is absolutely amazing. Keep it up.
It's so cold out there
But your such a warm person
Yk, people with cold hands have warm hearts
You are so precious person. Worm heart from Siberia ❤🙂
so glad i found your channel, Ana! your opinions are very pertinent , considerate and expressed with much gentleness - a rare thing nowadays on the internet. Thank you for the bits of wisdom and beauty !
Hi Ana thank you so much for your channel this video is helping me today I come from a family who was very dependent on alcohol both my parents plus all relatives on both sides of their family it’s pretty much all I remember from childhood and growing up I’m thankful to god I have not had this issue as my 3 brothers also have addiction issues I feel like I’ve never had a family because of this issue my mother god rest her soul also suffered depression and would leave the family home for 6 weeks at a time while I was still a teenager I was then made to take care of the family home cook clean etc this meant no schooling for me the list goes on I could write a book, thank my friend I appreciate your channel
well to be honest im thinking about coming off the computer social media altogether i think it makes you a target. and at the moment im not in a good place ..not strong enough for it. i actually logged ONTO your page to look for your strength xx thank u for being here.
Maggie, I understand you so well. And you should do what feels the best at the moment. We can be weak for a day or two or a week or a month but then we get stronger. Hope it will get better for you, my friend 💚
A friend shared your channel with me, and I’m so glad she did. I find your videos very inspiring. Kudos to you for reaction to the troll!
Dear Ana(stasia), it takes a lot of courage to share your experience with us. Every video you post I find highly inspirational and like a little retreat from the everyday routine and chaos that sometimes occurs. It is like talking to a friend. Thank you for letting us see your corner of the world, and the way you think ❤️ Keep up the good work, it is very appreciated 🙂
I'm so glad you find comfort in these videos, dear Milica ⭐
thank you for being here with me!
Sending warmest hugs 🤗
Hello Anna, I just discovered your channel this morning and watch almost all videos!
I love how you talk about your culture and life experiences, it doesn't matter where one's live, as you said we're all humans with almost the same issues in life.
I'm from France and one of my best friends is russian (both his parents from Siberia!) but born in Germany, and you remind me of him because he's embrassing a very frugal life, he's satisfied with very little things and he seems to live a peaceful life. I told him many times he inspires me and the way you speak is also very inspiring, I can relate.
Keep up the good stuff!
Hi, Julie! What a wonderful and thoughtful comment toy left 🌼 So cool that your friend's parents are from Siberia! After all, the world is such a small place and we're all good neighbors 😊 thanks for your support, it keeps me going ❤️
It's such a balance - natural feelings to wanting to be liked yet it can be so subjective. Thank you for being so open and sharing your thoughts!
AND so happy to see your subscribers growing!!
Hi Anna, thank you for this story. It has helped me so much.
You are truly wise and inspiring. I am very glad I found your channel. Lots of love. ⚘
Thank you, Debbie! 🤗 And I'm so glad to have you here ❤️
You are such a gift to our world. I love to listen to you while I’m in my art room. And I’m constantly nodding my head in agreement with your thoughts and often “talk” to you :) I’m learning to speak kindly to myself. The better I care for myself the less important other people’s actions and opinions matter to me. In this post, I want to thank you for talking about alcohol/drug abuse in your family. I come from a long history of women that lived harsh, short, addicted lives. I’ve been sober for two years and I am empowered knowing I’m breaking a cycle and showing our son we can learn from family mistakes and do better.
Tracy, you're so strong ♥️ such an inspiration! Thank you for your kind words 🌼
@@anagoldberg ❤️
Dear Anna, I suffer from this a lot you are so right..that other people own you if you fall into this...I just wish I knew how to deal with this....I heard that acceptance works. I try but its hard to accept bad things happen. Thank you for your great video, hoping you can continue.❤
Hi, Petra! I understand you so well, acceptance is a tough thing and not as easy as most people say. For me, it helps to look at things in perspective. For example, I think of some awful situation that happened years ago and then I try to see in what way my attitude to it changed. And then, I kind of apply this new attitude to the current painful situation. And I feel stronger and capable of coping with it. Hope this will help at least a bit! Thank you for watching and being here. Sending love ❤️
Thank you for your wisdom. I have enjoyed watching scenes of your everyday community & area & hope that you include more samples of these.
Happy you like the new video! 🌸 I will go including those scenes, I promise😊
Hi Ana,. Your comments reminded me of Stephen Fry, a wonderful wise man, British, Jewish and homosexual, who said once he wants the whole world to love him, every single person. So he's always kind and generous. It's worth listening to his talks and debates: he's really warm-hearted but he can also defend himself using his best weapon: his intelligence, along with his feelings. The response he gets is incredible: he touches your deepest feelings.
As for myself, I'm hipersensitive, and I don't like to argue so I resort to disappearing from the scene. It's always interesting to listen to you. Be well and happy holidays, from Argentina.
Hi, Lidia! 💚
Oh, I love Stephen Fry too, he's a wonderful person who inspires everyone around him:)
Happy holidays! Big hugs to Argentina, my friend 🤗
Hi! Love your channel. Makes me more comfortable being "different" in a big city. I never understood people getting offended by haters unless they were family and/ or friends. For example when a cashier/supervisor/person on the street/facebook or whoever is rude to me I also use "kill them with kindness". They dont expect it and I truly feel for them not being happy with their own life. I always ask myself why are these people rude there must be something terrible going on in their life. I also don't see them as important enough in my own life for me to get offended or defend myself. I agree with you. just walk away and say thank you very much 😊 there are only like 3people that I care about and listen to their opinions.
Thank you for watching, sharing, and resonating! ❤️
You are one of the very few people I trust. Your presentations (conversations?) touch my soul, and are gently changing my life (and my soul) for the better. Thank you…
This so so precious, dear Julie... Thank you for finding time to say it. Sending lots of love 💚
Beautiful! You are very emotionally intelligent xx
The older I get, the less the opinion of others matters to me...I love your mindset.
It's the best attitude! Big hugs from Siberia 🤗
Ana, your beautiful soul shines in your videos........thank you for sharing us the positive vibes and life experience...
I just discover your channel. Thank you for your unique focus/ perspective of minimalism. Greetings from México.
Thank you for watching!🌸 And cheers to Mexico from Siberia ❤️
Согласна с тобой) Иногда хочется обрести суперспособность толстокожести, чтобы просто не обращать внимание. Сложно вовремя вспомнить, что в 99% случаев негатив человека на самом деле от недовольства собой.
People should be concerned about the log in their eye not the splinter in someone else’s. Be the best you want to be and don’t let negativity find it’s way into your soul.
Hi Anna. I’m new to your channel and live in Scotland, which, like where you live, also gets Siberian weather! 😁 I really enjoy your calm relaxing presentation style and also the varied subject matter. Keep up the good work x
Hi, Lisa! Thank you for being here and for your support ❤️ Haha, so we're sort of weather pals😄
@@anagoldberg sure are, woolly hats at the ready!! 🥶
Hi Anna, an older family member spent her life worried about the opinions that other people had about her family. Her children, as they grew, used to tease her about ‘ the peeebbles’, encouraging her to see the opinions of others about you and your family is something not to stress about. She continued to worry @ people, while many in family today still refer to those whose views are unwelcome and unwarranted as ‘ the peeeblees’ 🙄 you are doing a great job. I love your channel.
Thank you for watching and sharing, my fiend! Yes, it's a common thing for older generations, but i'm so glad that the situation is changing. Be well and stay true to yourself ❤️
Thank you for this video. It meant so much to me to listen to your thoughts. You have such a beautiful soul and I wish you all the love and happiness in the world. Thank you for this video.
Hi Ana, just came across your channel today, and I’ve already watched 4 of your videos. Thank you for making these videos. Your channel and philosophy is a breath of fresh air in a sea of minimalism videos that constantly have the same vibe (empty white walls, aesthetically pleasing apartment, monochrome wardrobe). Your channel has true value because for once, yours is a channel that is about purely “stuff” but the philosophy and mindset that stays even after stuff comes and goes away. I am so thankful to have found your channel. Keep doing what you’re doing. ☺️ Sending lots of love your way!
Hi, Elizabeth! Thank you so much for your kindness and support 💚 I'm lucky to have such an amazing community here. I hope to continue being of help to you. Sending huge hugs from Siberia 🤗
As a Canadian, I was raised to be sorry for all things, including being myself. I was even sorry for being raped as a child, and I had to work really hard on myself as an adult to acknowledge my uniqueness. It's not something that's celebrated really around here. Conformism is what's encouraged. My mom would say " why can't you be like others?" I grew up as a very sensitive girl and was told by my parents that it was " a weapon against myself" to be like that, that I had to be different. That life would crush me. I know they meant well. Today though, I remain sensitive but there are positive sides to it, such as empathy that comes easier. I wish I was brave enough to share my views, as you, but, I know the hate comments would keep me from sleeping at night. I feel invalidated too quickly when criticized. You are one very inspiring person. Thank you for sharing so generously your wisdom and take on life. It matters. Question: Do you feel that the haters are perhaps just faced with their own flaws while watching your videos and get annoyed because of it?
Oh my god... Your words are so well-timed, my dear friend 💚
First, I'm so, so sorry you had to go through that pain when a child... I wish I could hug your beautiful, unique self.
It's night here where I live and just finished a script for a new video, an unplanned one, addressing a huge amount of hate I received today on YT.
People like us, highly sensitive, empathetic people, are always an easy target for haters and bullies. But I believe we can change that. Our feelings are our perfect tools to evolve.
Answering your question: I don't really know, other people's hateful minds can be hell and I have no intention to look into them. But hatred is most times coming from utter insecurity.
Sending love, my friend 🌞 Stay true to yourself.
@@anagoldberg You bet i will stay true. I posted about you on Reddit yesterday and several people on the minimalism sub-reddit already knew about you, funny enough. I hope that's not where haters are coming from!!!!?? You're so right about not getting into them, I mean, I guess we simply acknowledge that it's hate, and how we feel about it. The rest belongs to them. A hug? I haven't been hugged in ages, I don't think i'd be able to let go if ever i'd get one, but I'll hold on to yours. Your timing for the hug is great as well as my words for you. I hope you can find solace in that new video and the answers it will bring to you from within you and from your community. You've done something good here.
@@thatcanadiangrandma oh, you touched my heart so deeply...thank you, it's such a profound feeling♥️
and nope, haters and main hater are from another yt channel:)
@@anagoldberg Question: I checked your " buy me a coffee page" but there's no Paypal option. Is there any other way to support you if I don't have a credit card but just Paypal??
@@thatcanadiangrandma I have PayPal: paypal.me/sibirbirdy
It's so sweet of you, but please do it only if you feel comfortable. I completely understand!
your channel has been such a joy to me ever since i discovered it! thank you, i love listening to u talk!
I'm so happy to have you here ❤️ Thank you 🌸
Hi Anna, thanks for sharing. We Asians are also consious of ' what the neighbours think' so we were brought up with that mentality as we were growing up. However now, the youth in my family think otherwise. Changes must be accepted although it can sometimes be hard. Take care of yoursef.
Sherry, thank you so much for sharing!🌿 I think, more and more, humanity as whole is embracing changes. Rigidity never helps...
I fall back on~ Sticks and stones may break your bones but, names will never hurt you!
Thank you for your channel which I have only just discovered. It is like a breath of fresh air and you speak so eloquently. I look forward to catching up with the other videos on your channel.
Loved your video today. This is an area where I struggle finding the balance between empathy and my own self care. Thank you for sharing 🙂
Thank you for watching, Patricia! Yes, the balance is crucial here 😊
Anna. Thank you for sharing. The culture of "not sharing or airing your problems in public " for fear of shame is also a culture i do not like in Asia. Thanks! Real feels good to know someone in Siberia shares many similar views like me. Love from Sophie in Singapore.
Hi, Sophie! Seems like Asian cultures and the Russian one have many things in common. It's so interesting! Thank you for being here, my friend 🤗
You have so much insight and are an excellent communicator.
It is a truely a pleasure to listen to you speak. You are very kind and thoughful person. I know different people but they are mostly only acquaintances and not good friends. I have very few close friends and was deeply saddened when a close friend passed away unexpectedly in April 2020. Nothing bad about the people I know who are not good friends, but just don't feel a certain bond with them to call them or think of them as a close friend. You have like a heart of a poet, who has so much wisdom and can feel empathy and understanding. You are the kind of person I would want as a friend, not just not an acquaintance. ( and I'm not even a minimalist- quite the opposite actually. 😊)..
From USA.
Thank you for this kind and sweet message, dear Suzanne!
I'm so sorry you lost a friend in 2020...
Sending lots of love and support 💖🌼
Hi! I really enjoy your talks and thoughts!
Really like how you talked about striking the balance between being open to discussion about important things even if they're not so pleasant, especially those that could threaten to ruin lives, while also keeping personal boundaries around what you are just not willing to disclose. This is something I'm working on... 💜
Thank you for watching, my friend!❤ I think, it's constant work, have never met a person in my life (yet) who could balance all that in a perfect way:)
I truly admire you. Thank you again for another great video 💫
Thank you for being so kind and supportive 🦋
Really enjoying your channel as an introverted self-employed creative. Clearly anybody who is intentionally rude to someone else has some issues in their own life. I usually feel sorry for the person that acts like this. You have to remember that you wouldn't want to be them, or be anyone else except you.
Yep, I have a very old pair of ski pants for super extreme situations, but I hate wearing them:)
I tell people judging me in a nice/kind way to mind their own business. I have shown empathy, and received empathy, but if someone makes a comment about my life, I feel that they're looking for a fight, instead I just say, why do you care? At least that's been my experience, unfortunately.
Well, all people are different and many of them can't wait to judge you:)) I think, your approach is wise. ❤
Dear Anna, thank you for this video. It helped me a lot. I love your content! Be well ❤️
I'm so glad it helped, Sabina. Thank you! Sending you all the best vibes 🌷
Love this vid! Now That I'm older I no longer care what people think of me, if they have an issue its there problem not mine! I've been through many problems over the years and my life is to precious
for someone else to be unkind to me, so like you I block them. Happy I found your channel, your very wise.
Suzanne x UK
Hi, Suzanne! I'm so glad you figured out how to protect your borders from those who are not welcome🌸 Thank you for watching and being here. Love to the UK from Siberia!❤️
So sorry to hear about your mother. I believe my mother has bipolar disorder. When I was under the age of ten, she would confide her suicidal ideation and how she would end her life. So here I was, a child, not knowing what to do, not telling anyone because I somehow knew it was a secret.
I'm sorry you had to go through this as a child... It's so hard and understand you perfectly well. Thank you for sharing, my friend ❤️
Hi, Anna. This episode is great, like all others. Would you be able to expand on it and talk about the peer pressure in Moscow, within your generation, and how you dealt with it? People's expectations, etc.? Thank you. :)
Love, love, love, love, love
Thanks for watching and being here with me, Maureen! ❤️
Love these topics. It is dear to my soul too. Going through the same phase )
Thanks for being here, Аина! 🌸 ❤️
I'm so glad I found your channel
Aww, and I'm glad to have you here 🤗
Great background on this video. The colors of the wall and your wardrobe goes very well.
Such a tough topic. It is very hard to be human. We must ignore those opinions that hurt us, but are we shutting out constructive criticism? We must be gentle on others, but then do they know the real us? Communication is fraught with missteps. Comments from others don’t actually hurt us; we are the ones who apply meaning that we find painful. If I attack you fir your pale skin and you have beautiful black skin, you are not hurt because you wonder if my eyes are bad. But if you are 6 feet tall and I attack you as too tall, you remember being teased as a child or turned down fir a date by a shorter person, and now you feel pain. It is always about meaning we give to the comment. And although they may intend to cause hurt, does that mean they are bad? Almost everyone is looking for a way to feel better in the moment. Perhaps it gives this person a moment of glee to cause pain. So it isn’t really about you; you are just a useful object, like a cigarette, to ease their burden. What we call communication is an inside job; we see ourselves in others. That is what we are looking for all the time. I am seeing myself in you. If I hate, I am a hurting, angry person trying to create myself in you. If we can only live ourselves, the world would be peaceful and joyful. If we can look at a hate filled comment and think ‘wow! That’s interesting’ then we are progressing on self-love. Those are my thoughts and not meant to imply I live up to them. But I’m trying.
Thank you for your insights! It's so difficult to not give a damn. I think way too much about what others think of me and then i can not be me anymore because i need to adjust all the time. I think we live in An ego-driven era. So you need to put others down to be cool. And we can transit to An eco-driven era, where we will see that we are all part of a much bigger living thing, here on earth. And that hurting others is hurting yourself. But until then... Finding a way of not letting others influence who you are... Spending enough time alone...
Sarah, you put it perfectly right with ego- and eco-driven era. I just hope so much that we'll be able to enjoy the latter soon enough. Honestly, even the community that I've found here on UA-cam makes me believe in humanity so much more than before 😊And I absolutely agree with the necessity to spend time alone... Thank you for being here and sharing! ❤️
Found your channel today. Thank you from Canada.
Thank you, my friend from Canada! 🤗
People in everywhere "loves" to judge another people. So sad!
Love to hear you and connect from far away. People are carrying lot of repressed emotions and pain inside. I learned that is their emotional state of being and I understand that is about them, and not to attach emotional to their actions or emotions. My family have been very secretive too. 😍
Hi, Maria! Oh, you're so right... People do not share their deepest pain even with themselves, prefer to ignore it, but then, it destroys them, slowly and steadily. It is sincerity and openness that matter. We're all connected, all people on earth, even if we think we're alone. Sending love from Siberia! ❤️
@@anagoldberg 💐
i have all my life--it has taken me alot to move on---thank you for sharing your thoughts on this subject--deatra
Thank you for watching and being here with me, Deatra ❤️
Hi Anna. I just found your channel. I can relate to your situation. Thanks for speaking out.
Thank you for being here and taking interest, my friend! ❤️