It's interesting to get to know this cute girl who is known for her enthusiastic energy. She brings light to our own childhood traumas small or big. Were they real? How would I see it as an adult? As an adult I learned that the words, should, ought, and must are too black and white. They create guilt no matter how caring we are. Think about how when we say, you should.....says whatever you want to say is wrong or whatever you did was the wrong choice. There is no other in between choice. It takes away agency and no matter what there is only one choice. It causes guilt that we don't realize. Just saying from experience and feeling freedom when I understood this.
Was it so traumatic that you are still thinking about it 30 years later?. Really that traumatic?. My Great Aunt, at 17, came home from work and her house, with every single member of her family, was volatilized. There was a 30 meter long, 5 meter high pile of smoldering rubble where her street was. She went to the police station, reported her work-place as her temporary address, and went and got somewhere to sleep from a friend . . . and went back to her job the next morning. This happened to 40 000 other young people, JUST IN HER CITY, * in that same three months . . . orphaned, no home, only rubble. USUALLY they just grit their teeth and carried on, and never bothered anyone with their feelings about the trauma. When she was approaching her 60th birthday, her daughter, my cousin, wanted to sit down and interview her, for a family history she was going to compile. My Great Aunt said "Oh, I decided I had my life to live, so I grieved then put that behind me. I don't make a habit of thinking about all that". and refused to go into it. But, PLEASE, tell us about how your mother wouldn't listen to you when you told them your chores were too hard. *at the time, the same thing and much worse, was happening all over Europe and REALLY worse in Asia, so it was probably so common that half the WORLD had ACTUAL trauma . . . which they dealt with without going on talk shows, and built the world we have inherited.
Interesting interview. I would've liked more time for Sarah to speak about her life and less by the interviewer who took too much time explaining her own life in my opinion.
she was awesome in dawn of the dead
A very good, thoughtful dialogue about family and memories.
I'm barely halfway through this conversation, and it's already rich and beautiful!
It's interesting to get to know this cute girl who is known for her enthusiastic energy. She brings light to our own childhood traumas small or big. Were they real? How would I see it as an adult? As an adult I learned that the words, should, ought, and must are too black and white. They create guilt no matter how caring we are. Think about how when we say, you should.....says whatever you want to say is wrong or whatever you did was the wrong choice. There is no other in between choice. It takes away agency and no matter what there is only one choice. It causes guilt that we don't realize. Just saying from experience and feeling freedom when I understood this.
Was it so traumatic that you are still thinking about it 30 years later?. Really that traumatic?.
My Great Aunt, at 17, came home from work and her house, with every single member of her family, was volatilized. There was a 30 meter long, 5 meter high pile of smoldering rubble where her street was. She went to the police station, reported her work-place as her temporary address, and went and got somewhere to sleep from a friend . . . and went back to her job the next morning.
This happened to 40 000 other young people, JUST IN HER CITY, * in that same three months . . . orphaned, no home, only rubble.
USUALLY they just grit their teeth and carried on, and never bothered anyone with their feelings about the trauma.
When she was approaching her 60th birthday, her daughter, my cousin, wanted to sit down and interview her, for a family history she was going to compile. My Great Aunt said "Oh, I decided I had my life to live, so I grieved then put that behind me. I don't make a habit of thinking about all that". and refused to go into it.
But, PLEASE, tell us about how your mother wouldn't listen to you when you told them your chores were too hard.
*at the time, the same thing and much worse, was happening all over Europe and REALLY worse in Asia, so it was probably so common that half the WORLD had ACTUAL trauma . . . which they dealt with without going on talk shows, and built the world we have inherited.
Interesting interview. I would've liked more time for Sarah to speak about her life and less by the interviewer who took too much time explaining her own life in my opinion.