I am 31 and from Delhi India, facing the same issue , not able to find even a single girl who understands deen who have the right aqeedah , who choose islam over the duniya over the money , who believe in Allah.
ایمان کے بعد سب سے بڑی نعمت شہادت ھے موت اپنے وقت سے پہلے نہیں آ سکتی اور نہ ایک سیکنڈ آگے پیچھے ھو سکتا وہ مسلمان بہت زیادہ خوش نصیب ہوتے ہیں جنہیں اللہ تعالیٰ خرید لیتے ہیں سبحان اللہ اللہ پاک ھمیں اپنے لیے چُن لے آمین #Allah #Muslim_Identity #Islam #IslamicMessagingSystem
Don't judge ...i understood her very well . She wanted someone brave who is educated as well as deendar ( means only Molvi bhi aur only liberal bhi nhi) she wants balance and effort not results or perfection. I get her point . Sis don't worry you will get one in sha Allah , we are all on same way . You need an islamic person but a brave too who can speak truth and cn raise voice fearlessly. Read dua of Surah al Furqan 74 verse. Believe in Allah . Allah will give you ( but never think he is poor or rich) If you find anyone of any caste or any nationalilty , just marry . Especially if you find in your city. And sometimes marriages are not good enough and then there are woman who takes stand after patience and after giving chances but then they have to take divorce step even my friend did ao and I learned from her. Masha Allah sheis strong . She was emotional but then Allah helped her . Now she is also looking for a person like you and me . And yes if you have to marry a married one then there's no issue if he is good then no problem marry him and do justice .
buht achi baat h k is bachi ne jo chvoice rakhe h q k ek bidaa krne wale bnde k sath rehna buht mushkil h q k main ase halat se guzri hon buht mushkil h ek aurt deen p ho or poora ghr bidat m h or mujhe hi kafir kehte the . buht mushkilon se mene apne bachon k k zehn m sahi deen ki sajh de di Allah ne meri buht madad ki mere shohar ne to mera confidance level khatmkrdiy pr Allah ne meri buht madad ki Alhamdulilah warna ase mahol rehna buht mushkl tha jahan app ko .ab kiya khon ..........Allah kre k is behn ko asa bnda mil jae . jesa wo chahti hn deeni . Allah kre hmare muaashre m bhi uort or khas kr apni zuoja ko izat de jae nake usko maan behn pr gaalyan den jaen .
I advice this girl that you should focus on munafat kuki sadi munafat ka Amal hai jaisi rahogi vaisa millega, inshallah Jo stardard tum dud rahi ho first you hv to be above that standard that only you can anlyse ,it is self assessment. Allah ke razi me razi ho jao inshallah Allah darvaje khud khol dega.
Every day you teat our heart and liver when you explain hów can we give scréfiçe with siñcerity alhamdoléllah alhmdo alhmdo lellh we can see óur in er persanalaty
Jabalpur mein to Jamaat-e-Islami ka bahut accha gad hai is type ke ladke bahut mil jayenge par aap soch rhi wo khubsurat bhi ho maldar v or videsh mein bhi ho aur aapane jo standard banaya hai to aap kisi se bhi shaadi kar le aur us bande Ko is type ka banale bahut aasan hai kisi Ko deendar banana aaj se 50 sal pahle meri maa ne mere papa ko banaya
Bhut mushkil hota h nayi bahu ki bat koi b sunne ko teyar nhi hota.. sasural walo ki ego hurt hoti h ..sun b le maan b le to unhe lgta k is trah to pura ghar apne ishare p chlaygi.. Jaise hi deen ko smjhte h ghar se shuru krte h to lgta h k deen to pura aya hi ladkiyo k liye h.. fir jo jahil hote wo problem create krte rhte h ghar k andar hi do giroh bn jate h ek manne wale aur ek naa manne wale.. Insano m bhi to shaitan sifat hote h kuch.. Unka sbse bada target fir miya biwi ko alag krne pr aa jate h .. Meri friend aalima h uske sath b esa kr rhe bs galati uski ye rhi k normal simple se log h deendar bna lugi,ye sochkr shadi kr li usne ab bs jhgde hote h use deen k kam se b rokte h khte h k beta iske khne me chlne lg gya..etc..
And marriage is not that important if you're doing it for children take first step make yourself economically, physically psychologically independent then adopt a child instead marrying a wrong person .
From a woman to another woman. Dakho asa banda to phir Hamay chai ya he nahi na. Ya achi baat nahi ha kay vo apnay asli rang shadi say phalay he daikha day? Kyoun ka asay log bhi hotay han Jo sab important issues jasay kay pasay ki baat shadi say phalay he kartay haan. To Aap ko agar wa kai may koi sahi banda chaiya ha na to phir ya sawal kar na maat chorna. Chaiya vo lalchi samja ya kya samjay. Because manay to ya phali dafa suna ha kay paiso ki discussion koi nahi karta kyou kay may to iss ko Bilkul normal si baat samajh ti hun. Bas shirt ya ho kay phir paiso say related baat realistic ho otherwise there is nothing wrong with discussing about money in fact in islam iss ka to hukam ha
Don't judge ...i understood her very well . She wanted someone brave who is educated as well as deendar ( means only Molvi bhi aur only liberal bhi nhi) she wants balance and effort not results or perfection. I get her point . Sis don't worry you will get one in sha Allah , we are all on same way . You need an islamic person but a brave too who can speak truth and cn raise voice fearlessly. Read dua of Surah al Furqan 74 verse. Believe in Allah . Allah will give you ( but never think he is poor or rich) If you find anyone of any caste or any nationalilty , just marry . Especially if you find in your city. And sometimes marriages are not good enough and then there are woman who takes stand after patience and after giving chances but then they have to take divorce step even my friend did ao and I learned from her. Masha Allah sheis strong . She was emotional but then Allah helped her . Now she is also looking for a person like you and me . And yes if you have to marry a married one then there's no issue if he is good then no problem marry him and do justice .
For inspiration you can study the lifestyle of Hazart Marrium or Hazart Khadija you can also study Hazart Aasiya's lifestyle but I guess you will need guidance for understanding that level and your mind concept is not been developed for that level yet.
Assalamoalikium ,sorry to say if you really want to check just keep a decent amount of haq mahar in front of him and keep the right of divorce in your hand as according to Islam you can do it ,while getting married and men's should see how wisely those women's are using their's haq mahar remember that Prophet Muhammad gives a decent amount of haq mahar to all his wife's and how wisely they used it specially Hazart Khadija we all know that. Point to be noted you're only 29 sweet sister I have seen lots of women's who are much older than you even I am 39 and I have seen those things but just clear your mind concept.
maine dhaarhi wale aalim ko,, biwoyon ko marta tha ,, suna hai apne rishtedaro me,,ab do biwiyaan chorhkr ja chuki uss aalim ko...uske bure akhlaaq ki wajeh se...aqeeda bhi thik tha..
iss largki ko.koi ye samjaao..29 me ye shrte...ye shrte 20 se shuru kr dedin...ya arab me jaakr kisi ki 4th biwi bun jao...waahn bohot deendr milenge..sautn k sath.
Or maa baap ko chiye k unki tarbiyat is tarha kary jesay humry nabii محمد رسول الله صلى الله عليه واله وسلم Nay apny ashabb ki tarbiyat ki phir unho nay apny bacho ki tarbiyat ,,,,,
@@canislupus909 truth is that if you want an intellectual wife /husband then you yourself need to be of the same level as well. I'm just saying, that generally speaking most men and women both can't look past unnecessary artibutes such as physical appearance etc. Which never made any sense to me and still does not because I never saw physical appearance as much of anything since intelligence has always been a bigger priority for me and of course deen as well. So the main point of my reply is that firstly we need to achieve that high level of which we would want our companion to be. Since we would not want to be with someone who was less than us in that criteria. Similarly we cannot get a partner like that if we are not just as good. Also it always takes more time and even more effort to obtain something that is better than the rest in this case a partner
@@lixie3672 I get your point. I wasn't particularly pointing intellectualism. I asked whether or not girls of recent time are having standards as of her? being an intellectual is good but being more aware of general knowledge information is more important than that. because, that's going to make your aperture more big than of an average person - and that I think would be my/man's duty to fulfill that he takes her to the field he wants her to know. as a rule of thumb, someone look for whether or not the person is curious enough, and is interested in those topics. and as for standards, it is very clear. if she is not a modernist and materialistic person, as you can find many archetypes in today's dramas. and here pointed that, this girl asking question, did reject many/so many persons because she have totally different parameters for qualification. I don't undermine the fact that beauty and other aspect are important as well but that is more of a secondary and sub-secondary thing. the thing I found in our culture is that, a girl would be religious and pious and all that but when it comes to standards, she is just so obeying and submissive to those orders of elders and norms of the society that she doesn't have any of her own parameters. A guy with good looks with a civic wearing a shalwar kameez is all more than a good guy in her perspective. i even know find girls writing Quranic verses in their bios and postings on social media, and I agree that they are pious but they lack this characteristic that has played a role when she was growing. Well, I also don't believe that a person can't change. not limited and limitations. more specifically, in practical life: well, if the husbands asks her to help him with tahajud (for instance. otherwise it can be any other religious activity... saving for sadaqah, etc.) and she does help with it. (if capable. I am not supposing that she has to do it herself first in order to make him.) but as you know, it will be a joke for many. and, let's say, she says YES, I will help you. and she does help with it. but here comes the next part. the husband says here's $1M deal and I can't take it because it involves certain haram activities and if he says, I am going on jihad... and all of a sudden, now she is not her pious wife. so that's actually contradiction in our lives. I am not saying men aren't corrupt but I say, more bigger responsibility is on women's shoulders. from mothers to wives. they are raising son's and supporting their husbands.
@@canislupus909I see see. I understand now what you are talking about. Something else was on my mind when I replied earlier anyway my answer still remains the same which is that yes these type of women do exist but very few. I'm sure these women will still support you if you'd want to go on jihad and disagree if you wanted to take a large sum of money and it had something Haram attached to it even stopping you physically. In fact have such women in my family
This is so true, i have seen people having beard and praying 5 times a day, yet they choose to humiliate and physical abuse their wives!!
i have seen people observing hijab praying namaz doing fasts yet they still emotionally abuse and cheat on their husbands!!
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Sister I have also the same issue as boy couldn't find same visionary partner at the age of 27
I am 31 and from Delhi India, facing the same issue , not able to find even a single girl who understands deen who have the right aqeedah , who choose islam over the duniya over the money , who believe in Allah.
@sa23639 kisi b group me ni hu
ایمان کے بعد سب سے بڑی نعمت شہادت ھے موت اپنے وقت سے پہلے نہیں آ سکتی اور نہ ایک سیکنڈ آگے پیچھے ھو سکتا وہ مسلمان بہت زیادہ خوش نصیب ہوتے ہیں جنہیں اللہ تعالیٰ خرید لیتے ہیں سبحان اللہ
اللہ پاک ھمیں اپنے لیے چُن لے آمین
#Allah #Muslim_Identity #Islam #IslamicMessagingSystem
Deendar logo ko prefer karna chaye na ka dolat ko
Standards:- Rich, Tall, good looking practising muslim man who has good islamic knowledge, follows sunnah and must be settled abroad.
Don't judge ...i understood her very well .
She wanted someone brave who is educated as well as deendar ( means only Molvi bhi aur only liberal bhi nhi) she wants balance and effort not results or perfection.
I get her point .
Sis don't worry you will get one in sha Allah , we are all on same way .
You need an islamic person but a brave too who can speak truth and cn raise voice fearlessly.
Read dua of Surah al Furqan 74 verse.
Believe in Allah .
Allah will give you ( but never think he is poor or rich)
If you find anyone of any caste or any nationalilty , just marry . Especially if you find in your city. And sometimes marriages are not good enough and then there are woman who takes stand after patience and after giving chances but then they have to take divorce step even my friend did ao and I learned from her. Masha Allah sheis strong . She was emotional but then Allah helped her . Now she is also looking for a person like you and me .
And yes if you have to marry a married one then there's no issue if he is good then no problem marry him and do justice .
buht achi baat h k is bachi ne jo chvoice rakhe h q k ek bidaa krne wale bnde k sath rehna buht mushkil h q k main ase halat se guzri hon buht mushkil h ek aurt deen p ho or poora ghr bidat m h or mujhe hi kafir kehte the . buht mushkilon se mene apne bachon k k zehn m sahi deen ki sajh de di Allah ne meri buht madad ki mere shohar ne to mera confidance level khatmkrdiy pr Allah ne meri buht madad ki Alhamdulilah warna ase mahol rehna buht mushkl tha jahan app ko .ab kiya khon ..........Allah kre k is behn ko asa bnda mil jae . jesa wo chahti hn deeni . Allah kre hmare muaashre m bhi uort or khas kr apni zuoja ko izat de jae nake usko maan behn pr gaalyan den jaen .
الحمد لله sab tarha ki tarred ALLAH hi k liyae hai jo tamam qaiynat ka Rab hai main dua karu ga ap jasi maao Behno ko Allah or tofeeq day❤
I advice this girl that you should focus on munafat kuki sadi munafat ka Amal hai jaisi rahogi vaisa millega, inshallah Jo stardard tum dud rahi ho first you hv to be above that standard that only you can anlyse ,it is self assessment.
Allah ke razi me razi ho jao inshallah Allah darvaje khud khol dega.
Allah ke razi per razi hone ka matlab hi yahi hai ki Dua me kuch magna hi na pade Dil me koi hasrat ki khawhise hi na ho.
Well Done 👍👍👍
Every day you teat our heart and liver when you explain hów can we give scréfiçe with siñcerity alhamdoléllah alhmdo alhmdo lellh we can see óur in er persanalaty
Jabalpur mein to Jamaat-e-Islami ka bahut accha gad hai is type ke ladke bahut mil jayenge par aap soch rhi wo khubsurat bhi ho maldar v or videsh mein bhi ho aur aapane jo standard banaya hai to aap kisi se bhi shaadi kar le aur us bande Ko is type ka banale bahut aasan hai kisi Ko deendar banana aaj se 50 sal pahle meri maa ne mere papa ko banaya
Bhut mushkil hota h nayi bahu ki bat koi b sunne ko teyar nhi hota.. sasural walo ki ego hurt hoti h ..sun b le maan b le to unhe lgta k is trah to pura ghar apne ishare p chlaygi..
Jaise hi deen ko smjhte h ghar se shuru krte h to lgta h k deen to pura aya hi ladkiyo k liye h.. fir jo jahil hote wo problem create krte rhte h ghar k andar hi do giroh bn jate h ek manne wale aur ek naa manne wale..
Insano m bhi to shaitan sifat hote h kuch..
Unka sbse bada target fir miya biwi ko alag krne pr aa jate h ..
Meri friend aalima h uske sath b esa kr rhe bs galati uski ye rhi k normal simple se log h deendar bna lugi,ye sochkr shadi kr li usne ab bs jhgde hote h use deen k kam se b rokte h khte h k beta iske khne me chlne lg gya..etc..
Mujhe bhi aesi chahiye
And marriage is not that important if you're doing it for children take first step make yourself economically, physically psychologically independent then adopt a child instead marrying a wrong person .
Sir paiso ki discussion koi nhi krta.. agar ladki kre b to use lalchi smjhte k peso k bare me puchtach kr rhi h..fir kya kre?
From a woman to another woman.
Dakho asa banda to phir Hamay chai ya he nahi na. Ya achi baat nahi ha kay vo apnay asli rang shadi say phalay he daikha day? Kyoun ka asay log bhi hotay han Jo sab important issues jasay kay pasay ki baat shadi say phalay he kartay haan. To Aap ko agar wa kai may koi sahi banda chaiya ha na to phir ya sawal kar na maat chorna. Chaiya vo lalchi samja ya kya samjay. Because manay to ya phali dafa suna ha kay paiso ki discussion koi nahi karta kyou kay may to iss ko Bilkul normal si baat samajh ti hun. Bas shirt ya ho kay phir paiso say related baat realistic ho otherwise there is nothing wrong with discussing about money in fact in islam iss ka to hukam ha
Islamic man & Intellectually sound hona chahiye.
Yes absolutely.
Seedhe seedhe bolo deedndar bhi ho aur handsome bhi ho, koi burai nahi hai isme. Par baat ghumana bhi sahi nahi lol XD
not only handsome ,,paisa bhi.
Don't judge ...i understood her very well .
She wanted someone brave who is educated as well as deendar ( means only Molvi bhi aur only liberal bhi nhi) she wants balance and effort not results or perfection.
I get her point .
Sis don't worry you will get one in sha Allah , we are all on same way .
You need an islamic person but a brave too who can speak truth and cn raise voice fearlessly.
Read dua of Surah al Furqan 74 verse.
Believe in Allah .
Allah will give you ( but never think he is poor or rich)
If you find anyone of any caste or any nationalilty , just marry . Especially if you find in your city. And sometimes marriages are not good enough and then there are woman who takes stand after patience and after giving chances but then they have to take divorce step even my friend did ao and I learned from her. Masha Allah sheis strong . She was emotional but then Allah helped her . Now she is also looking for a person like you and me .
And yes if you have to marry a married one then there's no issue if he is good then no problem marry him and do justice .
deen k sath duniya wala bhi chahie tumhe..gareeb darhi wale se nahi krogi...tumhe islie dikkat ho.rahi hai ,,gareeb deendr jaldi mil jaega
For inspiration you can study the lifestyle of Hazart Marrium or Hazart Khadija you can also study Hazart Aasiya's lifestyle but I guess you will need guidance for understanding that level and your mind concept is not been developed for that level yet.
Assalamoalikium ,sorry to say if you really want to check just keep a decent amount of haq mahar in front of him and keep the right of divorce in your hand as according to Islam you can do it ,while getting married and men's should see how wisely those women's are using their's haq mahar remember that Prophet Muhammad gives a decent amount of haq mahar to all his wife's and how wisely they used it specially Hazart Khadija we all know that. Point to be noted you're only 29 sweet sister I have seen lots of women's who are much older than you even I am 39 and I have seen those things but just clear your mind concept.
رضی الله عنها
marry a tablighi bhai
you will get this inshaALlah
maine dhaarhi wale aalim ko,, biwoyon ko marta tha ,, suna hai apne rishtedaro me,,ab do biwiyaan chorhkr ja chuki uss aalim ko...uske bure akhlaaq ki wajeh se...aqeeda bhi thik tha..
#maryamkhan4808
Mazloom pay hath uthnay wala inssan momin nai ho sakta
iss largki ko.koi ye samjaao..29 me ye shrte...ye shrte 20 se shuru kr dedin...ya arab me jaakr kisi ki 4th biwi bun jao...waahn bohot deendr milenge..sautn k sath.
😂I’m sory
Lakin mere khiyal say bacho ko 12,14 ki age say hi deen ka sahi concept clear hona chiye
Or maa baap ko chiye k unki tarbiyat is tarha kary jesay humry nabii محمد رسول الله صلى الله عليه واله وسلم Nay apny ashabb ki tarbiyat ki phir unho nay apny bacho ki tarbiyat ,,,,,
Subhan Allah!
Any girl here in Pakistan with those standards?
Allahumdurilla we do exist. Lakin bhoat kam percentage ma well at least from what I know personally
@@lixie3672 MashaAllah. This gives me a hope then.
@@canislupus909 truth is that if you want an intellectual wife /husband then you yourself need to be of the same level as well. I'm just saying, that generally speaking most men and women both can't look past unnecessary artibutes such as physical appearance etc. Which never made any sense to me and still does not because I never saw physical appearance as much of anything since intelligence has always been a bigger priority for me and of course deen as well. So the main point of my reply is that firstly we need to achieve that high level of which we would want our companion to be. Since we would not want to be with someone who was less than us in that criteria. Similarly we cannot get a partner like that if we are not just as good. Also it always takes more time and even more effort to obtain something that is better than the rest in this case a partner
@@lixie3672 I get your point. I wasn't particularly pointing intellectualism. I asked whether or not girls of recent time are having standards as of her?
being an intellectual is good but being more aware of general knowledge information is more important than that. because, that's going to make your aperture more big than of an average person - and that I think would be my/man's duty to fulfill that he takes her to the field he wants her to know.
as a rule of thumb, someone look for whether or not the person is curious enough, and is interested in those topics.
and as for standards, it is very clear. if she is not a modernist and materialistic person, as you can find many archetypes in today's dramas. and here pointed that, this girl asking question, did reject many/so many persons because she have totally different parameters for qualification.
I don't undermine the fact that beauty and other aspect are important as well but that is more of a secondary and sub-secondary thing.
the thing I found in our culture is that, a girl would be religious and pious and all that but when it comes to standards, she is just so obeying and submissive to those orders of elders and norms of the society that she doesn't have any of her own parameters. A guy with good looks with a civic wearing a shalwar kameez is all more than a good guy in her perspective.
i even know find girls writing Quranic verses in their bios and postings on social media, and I agree that they are pious but they lack this characteristic that has played a role when she was growing.
Well, I also don't believe that a person can't change. not limited and limitations.
more specifically, in practical life:
well, if the husbands asks her to help him with tahajud (for instance. otherwise it can be any other religious activity... saving for sadaqah, etc.) and she does help with it. (if capable. I am not supposing that she has to do it herself first in order to make him.)
but as you know, it will be a joke for many.
and, let's say, she says YES, I will help you. and she does help with it. but here comes the next part. the husband says here's $1M deal and I can't take it because it involves certain haram activities and if he says, I am going on jihad... and all of a sudden, now she is not her pious wife.
so that's actually contradiction in our lives. I am not saying men aren't corrupt but I say, more bigger responsibility is on women's shoulders. from mothers to wives. they are raising son's and supporting their husbands.
@@canislupus909I see see. I understand now what you are talking about. Something else was on my mind when I replied earlier anyway my answer still remains the same which is that yes these type of women do exist but very few. I'm sure these women will still support you if you'd want to go on jihad and disagree if you wanted to take a large sum of money and it had something Haram attached to it even stopping you physically. In fact have such women in my family