Cheating GF Ended Herself Because I Refused 2 Take Her Back, Everyone Blames Me| Relationship Advice
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- Опубліковано 29 вер 2024
- Story 1:
I (M28) broke up with my ex-fiancée (F27) of 4 years 2 weeks ago after catching her in a huge lie and then finding out 3 days ago that she commited s--cide because i wouldn't take her back. I am in need of some serious advice as i'm being blamed for everything.
Story 2:
[UPDATE] I (28M) Is about to propose to my gf (28f) of 7 years, but then I discovered something. Need advice.
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If my mother told me it's my fault in a situation like that I'd legitimately never speak to her ever again.
Same. And i'm the type of person to hold that in the back of my mind till I take a dirt nap... people say holding a grudge isn't healthy but I disagree.
It wouldn't consume my life thinking about what my mother said to me. I'd just continue my life like normal without her in it.
NEVER
Same
If it would be me I would slap my mim and tell her if she would say them if my dad cheated one her (I know it would be harsh but I don't think I would regret it)
@@justinp9170 I honestly doubt my mother would ever pull this crap, but I wholeheartdly agree with you, my dude.
1st case: her suicide was the consequence of her bad decisions, not of your good ones!
Good, its a nicest thing for cheaters to take themselves out from loyal peoples.
First story: Stay strong.. She made her decision. None of it was your doing.
She never deserved you in the first place. Be glad she gave herself the appropriate punishment.
Fiancee didn't deserve a second chance. If he'd taken her back she would have continued to cheat because she'd done that before. Her actions after being dumped for cheating and then being given an opportunity to reconcile and cheating again are on her.
3:00 why did that rhyme so good?
Cut off the Toxic people in your life that keep Blaming you trash talking you there not going to help you.
Hard decision to make but blood is only so thick. When family does you like this? They are no longer family. That bond is broken. Severe all ties and start over elsewhere if you have the means.
Story 1: Not your fault.
Her own selfishness drove her down that road. Forget everyone who blamed you. It’s their own fault for letting her go on cheating.
First woman was the world's ultimate narcissist. Only thinking of self from start to finish.
OP is also a bonehead. You don't take back a woman after she cheats on the 3% chance she actually changes. Once a woman doesn't respect you you're doomed. Think about it, if she cheated she already didn't respect him. She hid it from him and used him, even less respect. Then when caught she begged him and the moment he took her back her respect for him went negative. At that point she was somebody else's girl.
Story 1: She only killed herself to manipulate OP. She couldn’t own up to her actions and even in death, she’s making OP’s life barren.
First Story: It was her own frickin fault for cheating on him let alone 2 times! Plus she deserved to get slapped in the face
Time to go no contact, at least temporarily, with every single person who has told you this was your fault. Consider your options. Consider moving, a new start if possible.
Bro i see you on all these youtube comments like I'm not even trying to be funny i mean it
@@kingturtle24k81 Pandemic lockdown + home based job that requires little attention + need new gaming computer badly to the point I cannot game atm = youtube.
@@shammydammy2610 oh ok i get that well let me be the first to say you have been good yet annoying person to debate against lol but it's been fun
@@kingturtle24k81 lol...thanks. you too.
Today is the first day of the rest of your life
She's gaslighting this dude from beyond the grave. That was probably the intent too.
Was hoping people noticed this
She did everything within her power to ruin his life.
You're not the only one who saw through her b*******.
Ya this is crazy. I normally lack sympathy for people because I'm jaded fuck but with this one even I can't help but feel fucking terrible for the dude. The fuck do you rationalize someone gaslighting you with your own life especially when you intimately know that person for years. Fuck
Hell won
If she couldn’t live without him, then she shouldn’t have cheated on him twice. That’s on her and not him.
Or maybe what she mean was : i couldn't live without your money
@@ryanafriansyah7487 yeah likely.
In general to not be able to live without someone is unhealthy attachment. Even if all of this never occurred she should have gotten away from him bc that's a toxic relationship. You are with someone bc you want to be not bc you need to be bc you are unable handle the emotional distress.
If my mom every blamed me for someone's suicide in a situation like this, she would never see or hear from me again, she would never meet her potential grand children or know anything about me till the day I or she dies.
Proper fucking order
I would have got a restraining order against her, if she ever drew close.
I'd tell her to join the ex
Story one: she manipulated him even in her death. She killed her self knowing everyone would blame him and bring him down.
I think the second part of the message is a bit much but you're right on the first half. She definitely had mental issues.
@@adamkricha2902 Not everybody who is ending his life, is crazy. But they are sure lacking the ability to cope with failures. If that means they are not adult or having mental problems, does not matter here. If she wanted to destroy him with this action, she would have put something in her farewell letter. We don't know if such a wording was put in there.
She was probably heavily self meditating after breakup too. It sounds like she had a lot of issues.
@@mikehawthorne5146 nowhere does it say that. Dont add false information.
Yep i second this,live with manipulating human being whole your life or snapped out of it and carry on wuth your life for a better person
Story 1: OP needs to address what his mother said. That is almost criminal for a mother to say to her child, grown or not!
Exactly. For his own mother to say that is fucking horrendous!
makes me believe that his mom had her own affair at some point
How much you wana bet his mom is single, or at the very least she has had an affair before. This is a classic response from a guilty person. But, at the same time, it's hard to say for sure. She could have been in shock too.
My mother defends me against anybody, even my ex-wife and mother of her grandchildren when she started to pull BS on me. My parents even stop me for even a little bad word against my siblings, they are literally the only people that are allowed to shit on me or my siblings. Anybody else trying it and it is: Piss off!
That is how I expect every parent to act like. (Maybe a bit lower defense if their kids is really bad and got caught in the act. But even then, they would continue to support their kids. - For getting better!)
If my mom said that to me cutting off contact completely.
Story 1: she can’t live without him, so she kept sneaking off with a lover, cool story bro
It was her choice but I'm sorry for your loss. This isnt your fault and don't listen to anyone blaming you.
Because women don't act like that? Clearly we have had much different experiences bc this is about as believable as these stories get.
She killed her self as a final act of manipulation. She was probably bipolar.
Good. thats her fault she killed herself
Emotions...hell, how one thinks isn't always rational.
I'd bet big money, that the ex gf showed all kinds of warning signs that she was suicidal and her parents saw them, yet ignored them and now they feel guilty. To deflect their guilt, they're putting it on the ex bf.
They parents probably feels embarrassed about her and they avoid her
Exactly. She had a whole family to give her support, where the hell had they been?
If they blame him for her death, they don't have to accept that their daughter did horrible shit to a poor guy that just tried to love her. Now they can remember her as a deeply wronged, deeply troubled, heartbroken girl, they can forget that she was sleeping around, got caught, convinced her husband to stay, then fucked another guy again. They can completely forget her short comings and remember her as an angel now. Also instead of coming to terms with her death as a completely self inflicted suicide, they can hold hate and resentment for her husband. They don't have to think about how they failed in how they raised her and they don't have to think about how they failed in stopping her from hanging herself. It makes sense, I don't blame them for blaming him, it's a coping mechanism, however his Mom is a bitch for saying that to him, I'd tell her that she's dead to me as well.
she told she was hanging with her girl friends, she was hanging with that guy, and ended up hanging by herself
the irony
If they wanted someone to blame for the suicide they could have picked on the the guy she was cheating with, not the boyfriend who already gave her a second chance
Not even him tbh lol it’s her the one that gave him the go. She was the one in the relationship.
The side guy probably didn't even know what was going on, I mean it was 3 hours away so it's unlikely that he knew.
It is 90% ex fiance's fault and 10% the parents.
The ex decided to sleep with the guy. She wasn't taken advantage of, nor was she pressured, otherwise she wouldn't have cheated a second time.
The parents sound like they are fresh off of r/entitled parents. They probably enabled her behaviour to the point where she thought she could get away with everything, only to get shot down. She can't even take responsibility for her actions.
She didn't kill herself. She had her parents join in on more lies toxic family.
He is def more to blame than the boyfriend, boyfriend acted natural, they were the ones doing bad stuff
First story: I get the strong feeling she didn't actually want to die. She just wanted to attempt and survive it to manipulate him to take her back. I'm disgusted by everyone who is blaming this guy.
She hung herself...that's not an attempt. An attempt is trying to cut your wrist but doing it "wrong" so that you survive. Funny how people are seeing her suicide when the most likely reason is she just couldn't live with the consequences and, most importantly, had some severe psychological issues.
@@alexdhamp And the Human species is stronger without her.
@@alexdhamp I agree with you. People want the wrongdoers to be comically evil villains. While most of the time, these Cheaters are otherwise good people. That's why such things hurt.
Honestly, if I came to know that my gf was a narcissistic manipulating bitch cheating on me, I'd be sad. But I'd be far too happy at having seen the truth and gotten out. After all, the Viper's is to bite.
But if I knew that a caring and genuine person went out of their way and acted against their nature to hurt me despite loving me. That's where the real hurt is.
She just sounds like a weak individual with lack of any control and discipline. She couldn't live with what she had done. Not condoning her behaviour or excusing her crap. Just telling that she was just a person who didn't know right from wrong when it came to love and relationships.
@@akshaykumarjha9136 most accurate description of a cheater I could find, well most cheaters atleast...
@@akshaykumarjha9136 narcissistic behaviour is a lot of the time caused by trauma, we need to stop treating people like shit.
I love how the victim is blamed for the crimes of the cheater /s
Welcome to being a man lol, always getting blamed for shit women do.
My fiancé broke up with me, then a few days later asked me if *I* wanted to fix the relationship, as if I was the one who’d broken it off.
@@Nevir202 hopefully, you laughed in her face and walked away
@@WardenSpectreCommander I told her, “I didn’t break it, if you want to fix it go ahead.”
She really hated that lol.
@@Nevir202 MVP🎖🎖
@@WardenSpectreCommander *Takes a bow*
I don't think she expected to actually die. She thought she was gonna be found before she died. No loss.
So it is 'no loss' to her devastated family?
@@tardislady9546 Loss to the family. Less of a loss to wider society
@@tayloriousmaximus Another Reddit troll.
@@tardislady9546 Oi, I'll have you know I only use reddit for the porn
...based on what?
I had a girlfriend once who would often threaten to kill herself if I ever left her. There was no reason for any of that kind of talk, but she got more and more serious about it as time went on. I never gave her any reason to even think such thoughts and I thought it was a little weird for her to make such statements all the time. I just kind of chalked it up to some bad experiences she had with other men in her past. But it became an obsession with her and became worse as time went on. It became part of our conversations everyday. I started to hear a change in her tone of voice that seemed to be threatening as she brought it up. So I started to get thoughts of my own thinking that she could possibly take me with her by doing a murder suicide while I was sleeping or something. I got very nervous about her and thought that I should make sure I wasn't going to be a victim of something like that, so I did the dirty thing she was so afraid of. I left her. Well as time tells all tales, she never did kill herself. Glad about that. After some years went by she was still single and we ran into each other. She asked me what it was that made me leave her. I told her that she had started talking to much about killing herself and how her tone of voice had changed from being worried to being threatening. I told her I was starting to feel like I wasn't safe and she was going to eventually kill me to take me with her. She was shocked by my answer, and she said she would never do anything to ever hurt me. I just kept our visit short and wished her all the best. I saw a newspaper article about 5 or 6 years later with a picture of her in a bathing suit on an inner tube in the water at some river enjoying the sun. Thats the last I've ever seen or heard about her. So my moral of the story is if anyone says they are going to kill themselves if you leave them, run away, run as fast as you can. They may take you with them. Drop them like a hot rock.
That was funny I would be worried about that too bro 😹
She never was going to go through with it, she was just lying the whole time to emotionally bully you.
Not your fault, tell you mother to apologize or else you disown her.
I’d ask if she would forgive her husband if he cheated on Her
@vergorance Cut contact, no access to future grandchildren wife life all of it really
@vergorance I won't do that. I don't like revenge like that. But I would ask her to reconsider her opinion. No more. No explanation given. If she sticks to it, it would cancel her completely. That boy is already suffering and his mom is adding fuel to the fire. He does not need that and if she continues picking on him, he HAS TO GO to rescue his own mind. Instead of helping she is wounding him even more. I would not allow for it. He needs to go on and leave all this crap behind him. If his own family is part of the crap, he has to cut them off.
@vergorance Grandmothers don't use Reddit. Well, certainly not my Grandma Pat, that's for sure. Good ol' country gal.
@vergorance with ease if she takes the piss
His family knows he did take her back and this is the second time she cheated right? After a few weeks no less.
Also it sounds like his mom has a habit of blaming him for things that he really had nothing to do with.
@Zimi I think I can do you one better. I think the mother related and sympathized with this girl because she herself cheated on her husband in the past.
@@martinishot bingo
@@martinishot yup thought the very same
@@martinishot mayb not i think its simple female own group preference making the mother sympathetic to the exe that exed herself out of life
@@jld12er30 Nah, this "female group preference" wouldn't make a mother blame her son for someone else's suicide. @Martinshot is probably right, it's the only explanation that would make sense.
Story1: i suspect the mother to be a BIG CHEATER, and see herself in his ex-GF, so i think, she basicly resent him for not forgiving his EX and indirecly not forgiving her, if he ever knew she was a cheater.
Of course this is just how i perceive the situation🤔
@@martinishot you mean the DNA of his father?!
@@martinishot you do realise that he literally came out of her vagina right??
He did forgive her, she then fucked it up again
In other words she's a woman.
A possible theory. It makes sense if you hypothesize that her thought process included the thought "that means that if they found out what I did, and I tried to kill myself, none of them would try to stop me and tell me they forgive me, they would just let me go through with it". That's what she may be resenting them for too.
She offed herself to hurt him and make him the villain.
Also a reminder, there's no such thing as "Just that one time."
Like some "Gone Girl" scenario, only not as smart as the movie.
1st story:
Those family members and friends, in their grief, have given in to saying some really evil shit, until they wise up and apologize, they don’t deserve OP’s forgiveness or affection.
His own mother though ? His friend had his back more than his own mother.
they are prey instead
@@vsk1494 if that was my mother (never would be bc she always had my back) i would never speak to her again...
Cheaters hurt everyone, their partners, both sets of parents involved, any kids involved. It’s the ultimate selfish act. If you aren’t happy in your relationship, do the decent thing and break up before dating someone else. Don’t be so cruel as to keep a current partner as your back up plan. That’s evil, immoral, and heartbreaking.
You got any friends?
Friend thats good advise
yettiluch1 what type of question is that?
@@splash6267 one that didn't concern you......
@@splash6267 lol! I have a feeling he meant that question as a way to agree with and compliment the OP without directly hitting on her. :p
Story 1: Guy already forgave her for cheating and gave her another chance. She took that opportunity and cheated again! I don’t understand how when people die they some how have all their sins forgiven.
It's called projection... Ppl are afraid that their sins will carry over into the grave so project their own desire for individual mercy & forgiveness unto the dead hence the whole don't speak ill of the dead etc..
@@claudewinters2091 damn. That's a fantastic explanation. I learned something today. Totally makes sense. Thanks
Don't you remember we aren't allowed to talk bad on anyone who has died.
Not everyone has their sins forgiven. But you likely won't hear someone say the deceased is going to hell at a funeral.
@@TheGuardDuck True, good point. My only issue is how, in some cases, people forget how the deceased lived. Never understood that.
Story 1: Cut ties with everyone. Before doing that though, ask why they didn't confront her lover and just attack him...?? I'm sure someone knew about it. Even in death she's still screwing him over.
Maybe her lover didn't know that she already has a SO. We sometimes put blame on the cheater's affair, I don't get it.
Never take her back. Tons of stories and even women themselves saying how you shouldn't take back a cheater.
Yet you expect women to take back cheating MEN. Sickening double standards.
Story 1: Cut out everyone blaming you, including your mother. Until you get an apology, it's not worth having them in your life.
An apology would mean nothing, and from the sounds of it OP's mother probably hasn't tried to contact him since. She's not sorry, either because she herself is a cheater or she and her son already had issues.
Story 1, the garbage took itself out
Shane johnson.No there is still some garbage left. You
Defending a cheater? That took the cowardly way out. GTFO
@@lauriewise6271 I beg to differ. At least, trash and garbage still had some value in them. You can recycle them and had them remade into new products.
The girl in the first story is definitely not a trash. She is worse than trash.
Lol
@@lauriewise6271 can you please tell me why do you think she is not trash?
well damn, I already knew the "if you don't do X I will off myself!" manipulation tactic, but I never heard of anyone actually doing it.
That's some hardcore dedication to being a complete piece of shit.
That's one way to fuck someone's life up from beyond the grave
I hope no one ever comes to you if they are suffering, or in pain, or in despair.
@@tardislady9546 do you regularly use your depression to extort things from people?
@@tardislady9546 No one who is truly suffering, depressed, or in despair deliberately seeks to manipulate the people around them by threatening to kill themselves if they're mildly inconvenienced. Only manipulators do. If you've been manipulating people and blaming your mental illness for it, the jig is up, dollface.
@@Nerobyrne Seriously!
Every Person is responsable for their own actions. My ex chatted and took numbers from other guys so i ended it. She wants me back and her parents (divorced) told me the same garbage that my ex had a bad time bla bla bla.. am i allowed to k1ll someone cause i have a bad time? NO, you are responsible for your own actions, it doesnt matter if you have a bad time or not. Makes me puke if i hear those stories where you arent allowed to blame people (mostly women) for their bad actions and gaslighting the real victim.
Her parents are divorced? Meaning they don't even want each other back, but still expect you to want their daughter back? What an irony.
@Brad Smith Looks like they want to pass the responsibility for their brat on somebody else.
@@mflax4331 Very typical in Southern Asia. "Herrre, take my son and go. Figure out what's wrong with him on yourrr own. Just take him. And go." Says parents whose son is on antipsychotics.
Modern feminism, bitter single mothers and divorce has created a segment of society that can’t function in a meaningful relationship.
I think culminating point will finally erode society. Not holding holding women accountable has left me with no other choice than to walk away. I believe this problem is larger than the racial, economic, and political divide combined.
Story1: your ex was a sociopath and ending herself was pure cowardice, and another way to hurt you. Don’t feel sorry. Let people say what they wanna say, but you should feel relieved. Sounds like the people around you don’t care if you have already been ran through the ringer. You’re valid.
Being suicidal is not 'cowardice', nor is it a sign of being a sociopath, nor is it done with the intention of hurting others. People who are suicidal are in utter despair, and unbearable pain. They cannot see any way to make the pain stop, or the situation change. They feel that they are a burden to those they love, and that they would be better off without them. They think that death is the only way to make the pain stop. Anyone who thinks that someone should be 'relieved' when someone dies by suicide, THEY are the dangerous one. No doubt, you will laugh, and call me 'weak', and a 'snowflake'.
@@tardislady9546 they are cowards to not deal with failures they brought upon themselves. He only talks about cheaters who do so. If you are talking about suicide in general, that's another case.
Dude you are being had.. She cheated and you were done with her.. Very common ! No man or woman needs that crap.. She made a decision and you made yours..End of story ! Her suicide was not your issue it was hers and hers alone...I AM SURE YOU FEEL BAD ABOUT HER SUICIDE but again it was her decision.. Move on..The rest of this drama you don"t need !
So why are none of her friends accepting responsibility for their actions...it was their behavior that led to her death not yours...it was her actions that led to her death...not yours...at what point do you understand that she was responsible for her own actions...the loss is hers for she has eternity in hell to think about how she got there...
Damn cold blooded
Exactly what she deserves.
That's ice Mark. Perfectly understandable but ice nonetheless.
Amen. Sad, and horrible to think about, but sad. I better forget about her in the morning.
Damn. Cold, hard truth
Oh my God. Those friends and family are jerks who are blaming him for his ex cheating and then killing herself. Every part of that is her fault entirely.
So her being in utter despair, intolerable pain, her feeling like a burden to her loved ones, and that they would be better off without her, that's her fault is it? I sometimes question if the people who comment on posts like this on Reddit are even human.
@@tardislady9546 When you cheat twice you need to expect being left.Nobody is gonna be your bank while you go around sleeping with other people .The fact that he took her back once is more "human" than most people are.The inhuman people as you say would torture her and kill her first time she cheated.There is no inhuman person here.Cheating and basically breaking your husband's trust TWICE and sleeping with other men while he works and devotes himself to you makes you more than a burden yes they would be better without her I'm openly saying it.A user who only cares about herself is pathetic and only brings pain to others. Killing herself was obviously her own choice.Intolerable pain HA!that pain is a consequence of her actions. She was even relieved of it once as if she missed homework. But she started again. And this is not homework this is playing with people's lives.
@@tardislady9546 If she felt like she couldn't live without him, why did she cheat twice?
@@tardislady9546 wait you did read the story right?. This woman cheated on OP, OP FORGAVE her and then she cheated AGAIN. She fucked up multiple times and then killed herself because she realised her actions actually have consequences. A person who cheats on someone twice doesn't at all love said someone. The letter was probably an attempt to spite him from the grave.
@@066kshitizvsingh4 The level of hate on Reddit is beyond belief. You all come down like a tone of concrete on someone in utter despair, unbearable pain, who cannot see any way to make the pain stop, who feels they are a burden,that their loved ones will be better off without them. You berate me, for showing compassion. I truly hope that no one ever comes to any Redditor when they are in pain,as they will be shredded.
“She was a witch, a piece of ish”
Don’t know why but that line cracked me up.
Story 1: Cheated, lied, and got caught, he should have ended the relationship with her right there.
Instead, he took her back and she continued to cheat and lie, it wasn't his fault she took her own life when she got caught the 2nd time.
Story 1: OP should go no contact with Mother. Ex GF decided to end her life, it was her choice not yours. No need to feel guilt.
I agree with Angel on this. Also get a DNA test and make sure you dad "IS" your dad. It's not your fault, it never was. In death she doesn't have to explain her whorish ways. Also where were all the so called friends and family when she was cheating?
Tbh, on the cheater story: if OP would have taken her back: I'd have been petty and started dating someone else. Since we are clearly in a open relationship.
Lol
Perhaps. I wouldn't blame a guy for that. It's not me though, I'd rather end it than compromise my own moral compass of what being a couple means?
How dare he ? It's open for me ,not for him.
what if she ended herself while with him and then he got charged with murder?
@@thebluephanto7655 I mean: OP has evidence she had threatened suicide before. But it would nonetheless potentially be a mess to clean up.
I mean getting caught in a mall three hours away holding hands with a guy when she was supposed to be at work? WTF?
I love how devoted she was to you, not!
She Started All This.... You Gave Her Another Chance, Was Still Cheating... You Did All You Could Do It’s Not Your Fault
Talk It Out ....I’m Here For You
Story 1: OP’s family are in the wrong on so many levels is disgusting
Story 1. I feel for that guy. His mother was even toxic.
For #1, if she was doubletiming then her friends knew about it.
Story 1: "I'm disloyal, lie and still love you. But I'm going to cheat on you again then realize my mistake after two lovers/possibly the same man." Wow. Great story. I feel terrible for the family but they shouldn't blame him for not wanting to be cheated on multiple times...
That first 1. I am thinking that the secret lover wouldn't have her. He just wanted to fool around. She packed her bags and left OP without anybody knowing where she went. Obvious that she went to her lover. I just think her secret lover wouldn't have her, except to play with and then kick to the curb. OP needs to show some others that incriminating pic. They might get a good look at the real guy who drove her to end her own life.
Yeah exactly. She went for the lover thinking she would get him. He said to f*ck off. I mean why the sudden change and confess when she never did it before? And she even fought with him about a date so that she can meet her lover. I really don't see any love from her.
Hold on a minute. Why would the guy be to blame? He slept with someone's girlfriend, dick move for sure (tho, we don't even know if he knew she had a boyfriend), but how does that make him in any way responsible for her death?
She made bad decisions and couldn't live with the consequences. It's all on her.
@@vsk1494 she doesn’t realize by cheating nobody will take her in the end. AP doesn’t want a cheater and neither does the bf. All of them are usually manipulators like the one in this story but she took it to the next level. She definitely seems to be insane but was overall a shitty person
Seems to me the girl who ended herself, had more serious issues to begin with than an infidelity issue.
Yeah, serial cheating and promiscuity is a sign of deeper mental problems.
@@JohnSmith-wx9wj seems like BPD tbh
@@JohnSmith-wx9wj If a MAN cheats, you would not think that he had 'mental problems'.
@@tardislady9546 wrong
@@JohnSmith-wx9wj Yeah Right. Reddit ALWAYS sides with the man.
Story 1: who cares if she yeeted herself. She's the only one's at fault for her action and she couldn't deal with consequences of said actions. And yeeting herself is further proof of her selfishness.
Simple: cut everyone off that blames you for her action.
It sounds like she was a fundamentally defective partner , and maybe even decided to get one last dramatic moment to try and hurt you with. You really need to get better friends and family if they're blaming you.
If you consider pain, despair and suffering to be things that make a person 'defective', then you do not deserve a partner that is not inflatable.
@@tardislady9546 while I see where you're coming from, that...thing was not in any pain, suffering or despair. You don't willingly annihilate someone's trust TWICE and then feel "pain" or "despair". You don't just cheat and expect everything to a-OK. That heartless creature didn't feel love for OP. Not anymore. Whatever she felt, it wasn't pain.
@@tardislady9546 found the cheater, dont off yourself mmkay
Sounds to me like his mom probably had an affair at some point herself!
Go get therapy. This was not on you. She needed help. Keep and open mind she was cheating on you and was a liar . Not your fault. These are the choices she made. You are just the person left to pick up the pieces. If she truly loved you it would have been not cheating. You give her a chance which she was still lieing to you about. She had issues that u and her family knew nothing about.this is not on you. As for your so called mother drop her go no contact she is not a mother if she was she would have been there for you . To help support you. You need that now more than ever.
If every cheater would just do the same thing the world would be full of honest non-cheating people. To hell with the people blaming him, she cheated not him.
Not OPs fault. She's no longer his responsibility. Story #1
She wanted to use you for a comfortable and secure life, while going out and having fun with other people. You forgave her once, then took her back, and she didn’t hesitate to lie again. Then she realizes she lost this perfect plan she had, and she couldn’t take the guilt and realization of what she did
Story 1 reminds of when I caught my gf cheating with my best friend. I broke up with her and then everyone blamed me for making her depressed. All her friends kept randomly texting me calling me a jerk and kept saying that i was over Reacting. She later got a new bf and would still hook up with me from time to time so I would say I made the right choice in the end.
Same shit happened to me these hoes always want us to follow w everything they want never let them take advantage of u dawg
OP is not to blame for his ex committing suicide. Suicide is a choice made by a person who isn't prepared to face reality and work through their problems. It is also often used as emotional blackmail. OP's fiancee cheated, it was her choice to cheat and OP had no obligation to take her back or salve her conscience. She chose to cheat and she chose to commit suicide. Anyone trying to blame OP should be cut out of his life.
It's people like this that make those who commit suicide due to real problems that actually cause people pain be labeled as selfish, she cheated and she ruined her life,op is not the asshole.
I wonder if she intended it to actually work, or was she supposed to be found in the nick of time? I wonder because that would be quite the weapon to try to get OP back.
You're an idiot, at best. People who die by suicide are not 'weak', or 'not prepared to face reality and work through problems.' They are in utter despair. They feel utterly without hope. They feel that they are a burden. They feel that their loved ones would be better off without them. They can see no way to make the pain stop. It is not 'emotional blackmail', it is utter desperation, pain that is too much to bear, that the person cannot see ever stopping. You'll probably laugh at me, and call me 'weak' or 'snowflake', given your heartless attitude.
@@tardislady9546 Op is still valid, people don't all commit suicide for the same reasons. You example is highly unlikely when we objectively consider the girls actions.
@@Q-64 So that makes it alright, for someone to drive someone to end their own life? No one can be 'objective' when they are suicidal. Not many people are as cold as you are. No doubt, you'll sniff, and make fun of me, now.
Story 1:
I (M28) broke up with my ex-fiancée (F27) of 4 years 2 weeks ago after catching her in a huge lie and then finding out 3 days ago that she commited s--cide because i wouldn't take her back. I am in need of some serious advice as i'm being blamed for everything.
Story 2: 8:57 UPDATE 13:07
[UPDATE] I (28M) Is about to propose to my gf (28f) of 7 years, but then I discovered something. Need advice.
You are not to blamed or take reponsibility for her actions period. Guess you would have been in a worst situation if married, right? The only thing I regret that this incident is going to beat you down. Keep your spirits up. Good luck and press on.
You did nothing wrong dude. Nothing.
And people talk about all this male privilege. My ex cheated for 5 of 7 years of marriage. I left and the courts gave her everything, my apartment, our kids, child support(had multiple checks at 0 because it all went to cs) and all the debt we accumulated the judge put on me. Appeals went no where. Guys dont have power like most people think(especially if they have a ring on their finger lol)
Poor guy, the audacity of anyone blaming him for his ex's suicide
if only all cheaters ended themselves
What a ridiculous statement. The idea that cheating is a crime on par with rape, murder and telemarketing and is deserving of death is absolute nonsense. As if a cheater has committed an unredeemable atrocity and is incapable of any form of meaningful change or contrition. Seek help.
@@TheKennethECarper if you cheat you belong to the streets and you’re a damaged baggage
@@haridj8532 You would not say that if the MAN had cheated.
@@tardislady9546 i would. i think EVERY cheater should end themselves. as well as all murderers and rapists. all the same shade of evil.
Story 1: Oh, yeah, the old "girls night out" ploy. Always a big red flag.
These videos made me realize love isn’t real! And if it once was, it left this world a long time ago! (Edited last sentence cause it didn’t make the point I wanted)
That's extremely hyperbolic. There's plenty of love in the world, even if it's not in yours right now.
keep in mind these are examples that are one in a million. Ofcourse youre not going to get good stories about love here lmao
@@ChrisMaxfieldActs love is always conditional and usually temporary though. Only your mommy and daddy can love you unconditionally and forever, and that only if you are lucky to not have abusive/narcissistic parents
Eh I know I have found the person that makes me happiest. He doesn't have time to cheat plus I'm using his phone cuz I can't find mine so no room to do it anyways. I used to think the same way but then I found the person I can be completely real with. Same with him.
@@firesnakex8 it is more common than you think. Apparently 50% divorces are due to infedility. And 20% of people are victims of paternity fraud. And I don't know how true it is but a guy in the comments mentioned that 2-5million cases of paternity fraud were recorded in US and in 2019 alone.
Story 1: Hang in there Bro...
Very ironic choice of words
@@Emmie12Rainbow nice...
@@Emmie12Rainbow lmao
I'm dead lol
Story 1: Yeah the moment someone starts accusing me of something that atrocious, they're dead.
Story 2: Good on him for sticking to his guns. Always err on the side of caution.
she threw it away, all of that was on her shoulders.
Cheater ruins your life and then does the universe a favor. Cool.
Jorgumander you need to do the universe a favor
@@lauriewise6271 haha ok cheater 🤣
@@lauriewise6271 did you know that it’s illegal to tell someone to commit suicide, but bot to laugh about it?
Have fun talking to the Authorities Laurie
@@lauriewise6271 simp
Wow. You can't help but feel bad for the guy...
First OP: Regardless of what ANYONE says, YOU ARE NOT AT FAULT. She was abusive and manipulative. You are not a super hero. You have a right to love yourself and not be abused by others - and you should’t have to sacrifice your integrity and well-being for her sake. This was a manipulative tactic from her-she intended to haunt you with her actions after death not because she couldn’t live without you. This was her decision and hers alone.
Story 1: for once the cheater got what they deserve. Screw the ppl who blame you if they were in your shoes they would have done the same
Classic fool me once shame on you , fool me twice shame on me. ending the relationship was appropriate
"Girls' night out" ALWAYS means all girls involved are looking to hook up. There are no exceptions.
@Jamilah toenailkilla That is a girls' night IN, not OUT. One involves bars and clubs and alcohol. The other does not.
@@phoenixshade3 I couldn't agree more after you phrased it like this facts
when you end youself because of a relationship you really had problems before
For a cheater, suicide is the one gesture of apology I might accept.
Story 1: 4:36 when the mom said “ You’re clearly worth committing suicide over” how can a mother say that to her son after his ex committed suicide because of the fact that he dumped her because SHE was cheating?
Story 1, oh well, life goes on.
"Don't throw away everything we built together"
Says someone who cheated on him twice....pretty sure she did that.
Story 1: Cut off every person that ever said anything to the effect it was your fault and NEVER let them back into your life. Mother included.
I don’t understand the point of cheating. If you don’t want your boyfriend/girlfriend anymore, just leave them. Yeah it’ll hurt but it’ll hurt them more finding out that you’re with someone else while you’re with them
I absolutely love the offer of puppy and kitten photos to distract his mind.
The fiance took the coward's out and threw one more low blow after dying putting it all on the OP.
OP should have told his mom that he did take her back and show her the photo saying "This is the second chance she threw away" if I were OP I would make a social media post along with the photo while telling everyone about the second chance she threw away after OP forgave her the first time for the cheating, how can the OP’s mother side with the cheater over her own son?! I think it was a bit too much to slap the ex-fiancé
"don't throw away everything we have together" - says the one who cheated. wtf.
Story 1. she had deppising and some times with deppising you wanna Hurt People like the you were but its NOT YOUR foult okay you did the normal think in that kind of situation okay and remember she did it not you okay bud
Anyone know if there was an update on story 1 since it was written a year agi
She made the choice to cheat and she made the choice to cheat again she made the choice to suicide. You deserve better and she made a daily choice to lie to you. You should have ended it the first time and whatever she does she does.
I am just so disgusted by all these insensitive comments here 😭😫😭😫
Don’t you guys understand? Women have highly complex emotions OK? They have crazy hormonal changes as the menstrual cycles go and that makes it hard for many women to cope.
So because of women’s highly complex emotions it is normal that they seek more than one sexual partner because maybe the one who she is with is not enough for her to help her deal with her longings and emotions.
Whereas men have stable hormonal structures, they can deal easily with their emotions. Poor girl, her ex was an a-hole for dumping her the way she did. He never loved her truly. If he did he’d be understanding of her emotional needs and stay with her.
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[ just kidding 😁! ]
Just being sarcastic! 😛. She was too weak to cope with the consequences of the s-it she did and killed herself. She basically cloaked herself in the “victim trope” because she couldn’t bear the stigma of losing a nice fiancé because of her bad choices.
I can imagine the die-hard feminists saying that she was a victim of a patriarchal society that condemns adulterous women. They should really shut their holes up and stop saying crap.
Story one. That girl was psycho, you just never noticed. Dude did nothing wrong but fall for a psycho, which too many of us can do.
It is attitudes like yours, and use of terms like 'psycho', that stops people with mental illness from seeking help. Then again, that's probably what you wanted anyway. You will spew more Reddit poison.
Fellas....
I don't know HOW many times you need to hear this but:
DON'T ask the "W" questions if your woman is cheating. Jeezus!!
W questions?
@@clashofqueen93 who, what, why, where, when.
@@rantradio how come?
@@clashofqueen93 and the "how" question too..
It'll only destroy you more.
Just accept the fact that she cheated and likes the OP enough to fuck him, maybe more than you.
Accept. Adapt. Refine. Overcome.
You 2 live together. So you need to give her the boot! You should confront her in person not over the phone, text,emailer social media!
I'm at least happy to see that people support this fellow in his time of need.