Even if you're against illegal migrants, the kid isn't to blame. I'm absolutely in favour of strong borders and stopping illegal migrants cold, but I'd never blame the children and if I saw a child in need, I'd immediately want to help them out. What's disgusting is the parents pushing them off to another country to live like that, or the people who abandon their home to leach off the success of another nation, rather than trying to improve things where they were.
@@mariahmendoza9844 "If you pick up a starving dog and make him prosperous he will not bite you. This is the principal difference between a dog and man." - Mark Twain. But snappy quotes aside, it's a simple equation here: A nation has a limited amount of money that it can spend on welfare and public services. The more people are in a country, the less there is to go around. The plight of *refugees* is unfortunate and I believe in helping them to the best of a nation's ability and capacity, but *migrants* have NO inherent right to enter another country. Their movement simply robs their homeland of motivated individuals and puts a further strain upon the host nation. The end result is that no-one benefits from mass migration in the long-term. This is without even going into the issues with demographic and cultural shift that mass migration causes! I am not against legal, limited migration and I'm not even against sending aid to foreign countries, to help them become places that people don't WANT to emigrate from! I simply see the reality that just accepting anyone and everyone that shows up is not sustainable.
In my church we actually have a kid from Honduras who also doesnt speak english. He's barely 17 but he doesnt have parents or family and his older brother just left him on the streets. HE ended up dropping out of highschool after a year or 2 and is doing night classes to get his GED. Sadly he left school cuz his mother demanded he send more money to Honduras not caring about him having to pay the people who are letting him live in their home or his school work. Sadly he was jailed over a false accusation and thankfully its helping him get his legal documents. But its hard to see a kid go through that and not be able to do anything.
Not a teacher, but I'm studying to be one, and our lecturers often share stories from in the field. One of my lecturers had a student who was always late to school. His clothes were always filthy. His lunch consisted of a bag of chips and a soda. He never had his homework done, and he barely understood the material in class. The teacher contacted his guardian for a PTI, but she never showed. Then one day, the teacher ran into the student at the grocery store, and the student offered to introduce the teacher to his grandma (the guardian). Next isle over were the student's two younger siblings and his chronically ill grandmother. Turns out that the reason the student was usually so disorganized, dirty etc. was because he was the primary caregiver of the household. He spent all his time making sure his siblings and grandmother were taken care of, and he wasn't caring for himself the same way. My teacher essentially became a substitute parent after that: she had a couple of clean uniforms ready for him when he came into class, she packed 'too much food' in her own lunch and asked him to take the extras, she gave him as much affection and support as he would take. His grades didn't improve by much, since he was still focused on being a caregiver instead of being a student, but my teacher was satisfied with the fact that she knew she was making his life that little bit better with her actions.
CPCoulterTweedles That is so sweet and she really sounds like an amazing teacher 💛💛 Just doing it to actually help, even if the results won't be what is actually linked with her role (teacher and grades).
I feel like CPS should have been called so they could have provided a proper case manager for the young boy as well as his family, because I really appreciate how above and beyond this teacher went, but clearly still it was an entire family unit that was being impacted. No child should ever have to experience being the caregiver of the family, thats what home health aides or living companions are for.
Kayla A. Stephen having children is a great great great responsibility, that even if the parents want from the bottom of their hearts it still consumes them on so many levels. yet there are still some people who want to eliminate the choice to decide for yourself if you're ready or not to commit to it.
@@areswalker5647 oh no, you can still have children you are not capable of handling in every aspect even if you don't have your life together and are not in conditions to give a kid the quality of life that deserves, you just don't get to complain because you brought it into yourself, and thanks to that selfishness you'll be potentially screwing the kid's whole life and it's opportunities to succeed in the future :) As you can see in this video, even the kid with the greatest potential can be fucked up with the wrong parents. It should be something controlled, so that kids don't have to suffer with parents that don't give a fuck about them (and we're not even talking about the degenerated ones)
Kayla A. Stephen I absolutely agree, but just so you know genetics can’t change even if you figure out your problems. It’s DNA which doesn’t change when peoples’ character change....but yes I totally agree
Tbh, it's like that with most students and parents. The really nice children have really nice parents and the ones who act out normally have parents in a difficult situation that carries over to the child (e.g. divorce) or just have a nasty personality. Children are very much a product of their environment.
My mom was often in a psychiatric hospital and hooked on pills my dad was an abusive drunk but i was nice and polite to the teachers and they never questioned anything or asked me how i was. Trust me life isn’t that simple.
My nephew was amazing even when my sister and then BIL divorced. Both are teachers, and my sister is, also, a psichopedagogue, so they knew what could happen and had the resources to avoid serious problems.
PinkObsessedFreak I don’t feel bad for them. They raised their kid to be an entitled monster, and it’s their responsibility to teach their kid that not everything’s about him/her.
For everyone commenting “this is why i wont ever have a child“ - the fact that you even think about how your personality/life decisions/problems can effect your future child, already means that youre much more qualified to become a parent than the people in this video. I understand that having a child isnt for everyone but please dont stay childless for the wrong reasons. The world needs more good parents like you!
Understanding and acting upon what you understand are two different steps. Not everyone can get to step two. Just felt i'd help explain why not everyone has the confidence to raise a child.
In high school my dad used a phone to call his friend (because that's what they did in the 70s apparently, they taught you phone and office professionalism) and jokingly asked him out. When the teacher called my grandpa to complain, my grandpa responded, "God speaking".
@stockart whiteman dude, me and my sisters came up with the exact same thing a few years ago, but for Dallas TX. We haven't used it in a long time, thanks for the throwback.
when i was in 1st grade, there was this kid in my class who got held back. he had slightly violent tendencies as had anger issues and was also kind of a bully. i was paired up with him cause i was known as the ‘good kid’ in my school since i was overly nice and stuff so teachers used me as a way to get through to the bad kids without my knowledge. so while we were working, we started to talk and i remember asking him why he was so mean to the other kids. he told me that he has to or his dad would hurt him. i told him to stand up to his dad but he said he was too scared to. don’t know what happened to him, but i really hope he’s okay now. Edit: i never met his dad btw, but from what he described about his dad, REALLY explained his behaviour.
I could asume that kid's dad is the violent abusive type, who seems to promote the classic, outdated and toxic male image of being agressive and hostile
Big mood, I always used to be paired up w kids who acted up bc I make the effort to be as patient & helpful as I can. I haven’t always been kind & being ashamed of that cruelty made me nicer once I got a chance - switching schools in 4th grade let me reinvent myself as a sweet book-reading nerd instead of the brat I had been. Some kids need a chance to switch environments or switch their friend group up. Good on u op for bein a friend
Wit Bit I got paired up with the problem kid in grade 2 but I really couldn’t help him He probably had ADHD and he started calling me sexy when we were a bit older lol
My husband and I are really active in our children's education. My husband ended up having to work on meet the teacher night and didn't get to meet our oldest child's teacher. He had a day off the next week and I asked to set up a conference with the teacher so he could meet her. The teacher was confused when I asked for this thinking we had a problem, I told her no that my hubby wanted to meet her and ask questions about the curriculum himself. She was so shocked by this and told me that in the 10 years she had been a teacher no one had ever asked this before. We had our conference with her and she was so happy we had questions to help our kid do well, we even got some extra example worksheets so we can better help our kid with their work at home so we understood how it was suppose to be done. We would see her in the pick up line and talk to her all the time about how things were going. And even asked for another conference halfway through the year so we could get an idea of what the kids were going to be doing after the break. She told us that it was so refreshing to have proactive parents. This was the first time I ever realized that not every parent cared as much as we did about their child's education and it broke my heart. We're having our last conference with her Tuesday afternoon, I'm really going to miss this teacher, she's amazing and really cares about her students.
Francine Taylor my mom and dad used to do that too, but unfortunately my dad never graduated from the 8th grade so he can’t help me anymore. My mom is busy with my younger siblings all the time, so I’m on my own now.
Oh my god are you my parents? No but my parents do this a lot, too! They've also always encouraged me and my siblings so much with school and made sure to introduce us to the concept of school, homework, and stuff like that very early on since we were little in a happy and exciting manner - which has honestly really helped my attitude about school! It's awesome what you do, and I know I'm super grateful of my parents doing so for me! Makes me happy to hear other parents do this, too! 😸
My parents used to do that too but the teachers would be like ??? It’s unnecessary like they didn’t want to spend more time on their teaching job than they had to. Ofc there were some that loved to talk about school stuff with them and they even helped my younger brother (even though they weren’t his teacher) but most just did not want to meet the parents of the children in their class
Not a teacher. Not even a paraprofessional or anything (though I'm the daughter of a Para and my gosh the stories I could tell). I was getting volunteer hours in for college by working at my old school, helping teachers for events and stuff. I was taking tickets for the winter band concert (which my ex had been a part of when we attended high school, but his younger brother is in now). I remember my ex being clingy, and always in need of someone to cheer him on for anything. I'd never met his parents (broke up because of abuse from cousins hurled at me, for him using me for art, and because we just didn't click, but still). Well, I take the tickets of these people, and I see my ex. They're his parents. He says hi to me (we'd kinda stayed friends after the breakup since we mainly just felt we weren't right for each other), and before I can say anything, his mom just looks at me and goes "So this is Hetagirl?" I start to say yes, but stammer. Never heard anyone scoff before, but my gosh she acted like a Karen. Dad butts in. "How could your grades be lower than this retard?" Apparently a nervous stammer makes you retarded these days. Ex didn't even look up at them, and I heard them telling him how better his brother was as they went in. The poor guy just looked miserable as his parents went on with the whole retard thing. My GPA was 1 point away from making me Salutatorian of our class. They've been shitting on their son, comparing him to other students and downplaying his worth to the point he never pursued anything, and downplayed other students in the process. If he'd been told to try and be better than me, perhaps his grades would've at least gone to C level, but he always had D's and F's without fail, while I was a mostly straight A student. No wonder he needed me to validate him all the time. He didn't have anyone else.
Holy fuck! Jesus Christ people are like that? That must have been humiliating. I'm glad the breakup went as well as it did, did you talk to him after that? It's in no way your responsibility to care for the dude, but god it must feel awful to know the guy is in such shit.
When my daughter was in first grade in a Utah school she came home with a letter saying that she needed to go for speach therapy. I told me wife that she sounded normal to me but if she needed it we would do it. Three years later I meet the speach therapist at parent teacher conference and introduce my self. The therapist said in shock" X has a New Jersey accent " since I have a strong New Jersey/Bronx accent my daughter picked it up .
This is kindof understandable considering some accents are hard to understand or sounds like you're shouting which makes it seem like you're disrespectful
I don't have a thick accent maybe bit of a California surfer or skater accent but I do say ThetEer in stead of Theater Lyebarry instead of Library. lol Idk why or how I picked those words up the incorrect way but I have been saying them since I was a kid and I even went to speech therapy too. I do love the Bronx/New Jersey accents :) I like how that person sounds and speaks in that accent more then the Valley girl accent.
My friend is a teacher and told me this story: Lemme set the scene... 10th grade student, 3/4 through the school year, transfer student, often missing 2-4 days of school because of what he called were setbacks with his family. His teachers went easy on him but I never understood why but went easy on him with work. When during after school hours he was caught in the cafeteria stealing food from the ovens (Kept the bread warm and soft) and fridge, when he got caught he bolted leaving everything he had with him. He came back 3 days later and when asked about why he was stealing he started bawling and I mean BAWLING his eyes out. We went out side the building (in front of a door of course) and he told me why... Turns out his family had abused when he was young and wanted to run but wasn't allowed to leave his room, he was kept under constant surveillance by his parents (Tracker on his phone etc.) And they used him as a slave. 2 years ago they had died leaving enough money for him to finish school but not enough for food and had to make a choice... It also turned out the house was not left to him in their will but his uncle, he was just as bad as his parents and decided to run away leaving his most essential belongings such as his phone and spare cloths which his uncle sold when he was still living there... The kid was living homeless with no one to trust but himself and had to steal. He never stole money he never robbed anybody he just stole food to survive and was stealing leftover bread for the past 2 years. He never told this to anyone else. I told this story to every teacher and they ALL immediately helped him study gave him food and clothes and even money when they had cash on them and he would always refuse them thinking he was just leeching and just being a nuisance to everybody around him. That pushed us to help him more than ever and the principal set up the entire school to celebrate his birthday, I'm talking the Freshman, the Seniors, the Staff, EVERYONE. The school was decorated from left to right for him and he cried thanking all of us for giving the best they could to him and was emotionally healed after that I think. He ended up graduating as one of the top students and went off to do college. From what I've heard he has finished college, has a house, a girlfriend, and a dog (pug). I feel so proud of him... This story has been told from the perspective of not me but my friend
That sounds so fake. I dont know any school or teacher that would go out of their way to help this much. I'd like to believe it but we're not living in a fairytale.
Just take a test like a civil service one and if you pass, you can be a parent, if you fail, you can’t, you also have to go through a bunch of background checks and drug tests cus you do not want to have a child while you’re high or on cocaine, and you also get 3 tries on the test
The fourth one sounds a lot like mine. My mother always shit on me and even though I had a college level reading in 4th grade she told me I was stupid and couldn't read. Because I still couldn't pronounce certain words correctly. She always makes me feel stupid even though my IQ I am certain is higher than hers (She has literally tried to convince me you don't get urges till you've lost your virginity. For the early teens wondering, not this is not true). She has told me she never had me tested for autism like my siblings because she hoped I would be the smart one, but apparently she could only produce idiots. Basically if you say anything smarter than her or don't agree with something that she says that is completely wrong, she does this. My teachers always seemed upset by her reaction, because they used to tell me I was one of their smartest students but I never applied myself to school work or homework so they couldn't give me a grade on just my verbal stuff. I never applied myself till Senior Year of High School, because my mother always tried to convince me that I was stupid and I didn't have what it took to succeed yet always yelled at me for my D's and C's. I used to be an A+ student before I let her comments get to me. I wish I never had or I would have been in honor roll and probably have more college opportunities.
Tbh, I don't think you can blame yourself. Children are inherently made to listen to their parents and use them as markers for the boundaries they should follow. This works really well with encouraging parent, who know what lines not to cross, but it does mean that children with less encouragement or no boundaries put down at all grows up with a sort of handicap.
This happened to me as well except I still have an A in math because the shit to easy but I stopped applying myself after like 8th grade going into high school like I barely do hw now was an A+ student now I barely keep B's and the reason for this is because my brother failed a couple tests (he is a few years younger than me) she said it was ok and shit like that but when I was younger I would get my ass fucked if I made a bad grade so I was like y tf my brother getting treated softer than me, than she started saying how I wasn't as smart as my brother and how I'm dumb and that I wasn't even supposed to be born cause I was a mistake and then my grades slipped I started talking to less people cause she had my brother in this private school and after I finished at the public school I was at I joined that private school (it goes from K-4 to 12th) and everyone their is rich I can't relate to em and I got made fun of cause my dad left so I jus said fuck it and half assed my school work but I still try in math because I love the subject which is y it's still an A but what hurt is I didn't get recommended for the ap math class next year cause I never did my hw even tho I have the highest test scores in my class gonna be a Junior next year hopefully I'll finish HS strong
Comic Forts I do quite often, because I am 21 and taking care of her bills so they don’t shut off the lights on my siblings. So any time she starts her petty entitled bullshit I don’t hold back anymore.
We all wish we did things differently but don't beat yourself up about it. What you can do now is anything you want. Now she can't hold you back and you know what you're capable of.
I sadly can relate to this. For me it went too far (real bad consequences). But then I decided to quit talking to my dad and my whole live brightened up. I was always the best in class no matter where. I thought that he now learned his lesson and it definately seemed like it so I talked to him again. It went all cool until I began university. Shit went down same as always and even worse. I failed first semester because I never went there. No motivation anymore and a burnout. I learned my lesson. Haven't talked to him in months again. He still tries to provocate me but I can be even worse than him so I basically annoy him to the point of almost losing it, without exchanging a sentence directly with him lol. No university for a few years now but I will began in a few years again.
i’m not a teacher, i’m actually in high school lol but my friend always got on my nerves cause she was so hard on everyone, and a perfectionist, and always got mad at you if you messed up on the tiniest thing and then i met her parents and it all made sense. they were like her but 10x worse, and would pretty much punish her if she wasn’t this way and was nicer
Obligatory “not a teacher” comment, but applies to the question very well. I was bullied a lot throughout elementary school, but I’ll never forget this particular kid that bullied me named Ryan. He was very disruptive and a troublemaker in the classroom, he had failing grades (this was 5th grade mind you), had zero interest in learning, and bullied the absolute shit out of me. He was getting many detentions and called into the principal’s office daily. My mother was furious and decided to get my teacher to call a conference with his mother to ask her why she’s letting her son behave like this. The mother showed up, and she basically burst into tears, profusely apologizing. Turns out they were very poor, Mom was always working and didn’t have time to raise Ryan and his little sister since she could barely pay for the roof over their heads. Also, apparently the father walked out on them - just left without a word, cut off all contact, essentially disappeared. Ryan was angry and depressed and didn’t know what to do with his feelings because no one was there to support him. His mom was distraught and didn’t know how to help her son. My mother consoled her and they ended up becoming very good friends. She also told me their story and I immediately forgave Ryan, despite the bullying. I didn’t see him again until years later at a Fourth of July party a few years ago. His mother remarried to a rich guy and had another kid. Ryan seemed pretty depressed the whole time, never looking up from his phone to speak to anyone. His younger sister was very friendly and happy the whole time. Poor Ryan. I hope he finds happiness one day.
When I was in first grade my parents discovered that I was one of the few kids that had supply lists sent home. If I needed a notebook or a pack of construction paper my parents would always bring at least one extra. Some kids in my class showed up on the first day without even a backpack, not always because the parents couldn't afford it, but because they didn't care. For the record my parents did the extra notebook and supply thing all the way through my senior year.
The fruit doesn't fall far from the tree. Many years ago I taught at a high school in a middle to upper middle class area which had a decidedly academic tone - there was an expectation from the parent community and the students themselves that the kids would be going on to college or university. In the senior grades we set high standards for the students, but also spent a lot of time teaching the skills they'd need to succeed in the post-secondary world. But as you can imagine, some students didn't buy into this, and it was the usual mix of work not done, skipping classes or just generally not caring. After every report card we would have parent-teacher conference nights where the school's two gyms were set up with tables for meetings. It was always well advertised and we had a generally good turnout. Which parents took the time to come out? The ones whose kids were doing well or excelling. The parents who told their kids that they were going to take an evening to go and meet the teachers, and demonstrated to their kids the value that they, as parents, put in their kids' education. The ones who almost never showed up? You got it - the parents of the kids who didn't care and were performing well below their capabilities. It was sad but there was nothing we could do about that.
@@edwinortiz1262 Sure, buddy. And we made it clearly known that parents could at any point during the school year request a personal or phone meeting before or after school, or even during the day during our prep period. Guess what - no takers. "Too busy" to deal with your kids education starts to sound a lot like "don"t give a shit".
I’m working as a tutor for a small local school and there’s this one kid I tutor after school who is a handful, they would constantly come in yelling for everyone to look at him which they did, would never do any work, and would harass other girls and guys sitting beside him So on parent teacher night since I was one of persons teaching him I was to show up and show what he had done which was little to no work and as I pulled out a binder that had his empty worksheets, complaints from students and parents. The mom just completely let ripped into me saying I was discriminating against him and I shouldn’t have been allowed in the country and a brown t-word should never be able to teach As she was ripping into me u could see her little piece of shit go thru the teachers purse and pull out a 50note 2 weeks later the mother was arrested for child abuse,and assault on a officer while the kid was expelled and taken by cps The dad was of no use either he had left them both after he had won the lottery
Not a teacher, but when I was a kid my mom’s friend had two kids (a boy and a girl) both a bit younger than me and we became friends. The girl had this one friend who hated me for no reason. She would get irritated when the girl would hang out with me and would say things behind my back that I looked like a pig, didn’t care about me, etc. My friend defended me several times and would tell me what she would say. I wondered why she was still friends with her, since she even confessed to me once she didn’t want to be. I vented to my mom on the car ride once and she told me that the girl who was giving me a problem had a mom who was an alcoholic. I never met her in person but remember hearing a phone call with her and hearing some stories about her. Basically even though everyone thought of the girl as a pain they didn’t want her to be left under the care of a woman who was drunk all the time. Even as a child I understood.
I tried befriending this troubled kid my sophomore year of high school and he had stabbed his uncle(/dad? I forget). I believe the uncle had just been mad at him for whatever reason and they got into a fight. I also believe it was an abusive relationship on both sides. The kid himself was really nice though he seemed to have anger issues. In freshman year of high school, there was this 'cool, badass' girl who was really pretty, but she had attitude problems and fought a lot and probably did drugs, and even threatened another girl with a gun, though she was nice to me, but we never considered each other firends, because we were in different crowds. Turns out one day she was upset and complained her mom's boyfriend hit on her and was 'touching her up' and her mom didn't believe her. She was genuinely, deep down, a good person, though. I don't know, I could just tell. I think she just had been raised by her neighborhood. Then in senior year, there was this girl on my bus who was rude to everyone. She even flipped her hair in my face (ew) for trying to get off the bus first, even though on American school buses you usually have a right-left-right dismissal arrangement that was set and everyone kinda followed. She ALWAYS wanted to be first off the bus. Anyway, I was upset but I didn't respond and I prayed (bc God knows I needed it) and I thought- "ok maybe her mom is sick and she needs to get home, or siblings or other problems at home." Weeks later, she's walking home, (we would take similar routes) and she was crying into the phone that her mom was dying. I felt really bad, I had been exactly right. I'm really glad I didn't go off on her that day, though.
Not a teacher but I had a guy in my class (from year 5 to year 12) who was the definition of a bully. He would harass kids who he though were "different" (overweight kids, nerds, guys who had more 'feminine' styles, a girl diagnosed with depression) and would laugh if they got sad with what he was saying or doing. Never apologized. Always wanted to be the center of attention and would be loud and disruptive, often questioning the teachers' authorities. One day he called me "atrasada mental" ("mentally challenged" in English) when I asked something to the teacher, without being provoked. Anyway, his mom came in for the Parent-Teacher Conference in the last day of the year and she was the same as her son, loud, disruptive, would argue with other parents about the class average grades or the class behaviour or anything at all... Eventually she said something along the lines of "Well, my son doesn't deserve to be penalized for his behaviour in class. The teacher just doesn't like him" This made my mom very upset but she didn't say anything. Then the lady goes "It's not my son's fault that the class has poor behaviour, everyone seems to get along pretty well and everything! It's the teacher's fault". After this, my mom chimes in and says "Well, my daughter complained that someone in this class has been bullying her and some other students and that they don't feel safe. She was called "mentally challenged" DURING class time. So that's enough proof that this class has behaviour problems and that they don't get along well." Everyone shut up because they are already used to that mom and their kids complained about that kid all the time so they knew what this was all about. And you know what's funny? That kid once said in class "Some parents don't know their child, they think they have an obedient, perfect child and that they know everything about their child, but they don't. My mom, at least, knows me well, she knows the person she raised!" But then, here comes Parent-Teacher Conference and lo and behold, his mom doesn't know shit about her own son's behaviour and thinks he's an angel.
Mom always compared me to other ppls kids who did better, always do things for me, then complains i cant do anything, one time she told me , that if i cant keep a job she would just put me on disability. She just cared about me paying bills and helping stay afloat i feel trapped and i can be free but i lowkey feel bad leaving her to struggle
I used to work at a Saturday school as an assistant. I needed to speak to one of the teachers, but she was busy at the time explaining to a child's father why she was disappointed with his poor attitude and disregard for other students. The father didn't really seem too bothered. Towards the end of the conversation, another parent came to him to tell him that his car was blocking multiple people in and that he needed to move it immediately. After he left, I turned to the teacher and just said, "well, there's your problem!"
I actually shared a similar situation with the girl at 3:02 Me being an eighth grader last year I had been struggling with social anxiety and it had gotten worse to the point where I was so scared of people that I began skipping and avoiding school. I was a pretty good student you can say, especially in English and writing. Most of my work was online so I tried doing classwork and any homework I could online. I ended up becoming guilty about the whole situation so I came out to my mom and explained that I was struggling emotionally and I needed help. Her response to what I had to say was that I was faking it, making a big deal, and that I was only skipping school just because I can do my work online. She ended up forcing me to go to school. And since I had been skipping school so much it overwhelmed me and added onto the anxiety. I was behind in some classes, especially in math. In addition to this I should've gotten a truancy but I didn't, I think it was pity and my grades that kept me from getting a truancy. I was called to the principle's office at one point and she told me the same. She immediately judged me by my attendance but my grades kept me up. My English and Reading teacher ended up talking to me about it. And they helped me through the rest of the school year, I was really thankful for them, and fortunately I passed. But I still struggle with my anxiety, I never really seeked professional help since again my mom doesn't believe I need it and counseling isn't free. I'm trying my hardest I could for now but I'm struggling about what I can do.
I'd absolutely recommend getting professional help as soon as possible and in the meantime someone to talk about it who will listen to you without judgement. This can be a teacher you trust and feel comfortable around, like your English and Reading teacher, or maybe a hotline which helps people with emotional problems. I've never been in a situation as bad as yours, since my mother understood me, but she had the same social issues as I have, so she couldn't help me. My Englisch & Ethics teacher was a great help for me though. Not only did she help me to understand other peoples actions better ( I have Asperger Autism, so they just don't naturally make sense to me, but instead I have to analyse and learn them first), she also let me stay in the classroom during breaks, if everything got to much for me. If you don't have anyone to talk to, there are likely books, that can help you. I don't know what causes your social anxiety, nor what makes you want to avoid people, so that's all I can recommend. I hope you already got better in the month that passed and regardless if it did, I wish you the best of luck to find some(one) understanding. At last I want to say how much I admire your courage to tell your mom (It was the right thing to do, 'cause if you don't try, you have no chance whatsoever), how you finished that year (it must have cost so much mental energy every single day :( ) and I just admire how you still keep going. That alone can be so difficult an tiring. You are an incredibly strong person. Keep your head up, you deserve to walk proudly.
Lil purple Moon Floof agreed. that's why I never gave teachers a hard time and I still don't my teacher right now is a very strict but good teacher and kids give her a hard time beacuse of that...
Not a teacher, but one of my friends... he was very competitive. He would yell at us or insult us whenever we get a grade or score higher than him. If he ever gets a grade higher than us, he would rub it in our faces. He was like that for at least half of the year. However, we never questioned it and only stopped him whenever it gets annoying and painful. Because this guy... this guy came from Class A, the elites. We are in Class B. Class A was filled with arrogant geniuses and bullies, we thought his competitive nature came from there. However, this attitude was fueled by his grandparents constantly shitting on him. "Oh you're in Class B, what a disappointment. Your cousins are top in their classes!" He is quite a sensitive guy so he fell for it. Thankfully, he got rid of it although when it came to his favorite subjects... *sighs*
I will never understand how some people don't consider their own problems/personality/past, etc will affect the way they raise a child. Fix your shit first before you start bring easily influenced kids into the world.
2:20 hits me hard. i understand how that kid feels. my dad constantly calls me a drop out and i never hand in any work bc i have no motivation. but when im in class i do well, and i also have teachers that give me makeup work to pass classes. it really helps. it just makes me upset that he was expelled, i really hope the best for them.
Here's an interesting fact: If the Child has dominion over the House and/or their Parents, then the Parent is classed as a Peerent. They are the victims technically, but I'm pretty sure in every case the parent either doesn't care or doesn't know what to do. Now, as for the more entitled crappy parents... Well... They can burn for all I care-
Not a teacher, but I have a friend who's always over analyzing gestures and giving weird "scientific and psychological" explanations to simple things or situations. Turns out her dad was very interested in psychology, but he just couldn't take that career so he became an accountant, but he still investigated, read and learned a bit about psychology by himself, and he taught everything he knew to her. It's kinda funny, the first time I talked to him my mind literally said "Ohhhh. Everything makes sense now."
It's stuff like that that convinces me kids shouldn't be always punished for bad behaviors, but the parents should be instead. Kids usually don't know better until later in life, the people they are closer to are going to be their model. If parents have trouble educating their children, I feel they should receive some help, like a specialized course or something.
The thing I wonder about a lot considering my own family is how much INSANE shit completely flies under the radar with abuse or even just weird/unhealthy shit....like so many people can "fake it" perfectly well and most families go completely unobserved 99% of the time. If your teacher or friend or whatever meets your parents and understands, I think you are lucky in a way at least.
I can’t remember the last time that i did homework. Nor can I remember the last time my parents said “Have any homework I can help with?” My mom doesn’t ask about my work. She asks “how was school?” I say fine. She goes into her room and sobs for a while before offering to make dinner. I eat dinner, go upstairs, and hang around. Then I go to bed. My other mom never offers to help with homework either, despite me telling them multiple times that I will forget to ask for things and they need to offer to help. I can’t ask for things- I suck at it. So I often tell people “if it looks like I need help, I do. Help me. I can be really dense and don’t ask for help when I need it.” I know people can’t read my mind, but thinking about your child every once and a while isn’t the worst thing.
I worked as an after-school counselor for 3rd grade for a summer job one year. This girl ((let’s call her Star)) that I watched for the whole year was a mess; she had her moments of quiet and doing all her work but then would flip the switch and be an absolute nightmare. One example was this whole war Star started with another girl in class on how she kept looking at her wrong and that her very voice “makes her ears want to bleed”. She kept trying to start fights out of nowhere, example: it’ll be the middle of homework time and Star would come up to me and very loudly say that the other girl keeps giving her ugly looks and trying to hit her ((the other girl is on the other side of the classroom and has her back to us)), resulting in the other girl yelling that she didn’t do anything and that Star was a liar. Fast- forward and the two are screaming and Star is crying saying that she feels attacked and that she’s being harassed. The absolute craziest thing this kid did was having a screaming, crying meltdown ((I’m talking hitting the walls and scratching her face)) to the point that I had to call the head counselor to come help and actually see what the hell is happening. Reason why Star is having this meltdown? She wasn’t first in line to play kickball. We call her parent ((Just mom)) to come in and instead we get the grandmother, mom is a RN Nurse and has the grandmother listed for pickup. We explain what happened with Star and the very first thing this woman says and does is turn to me, points her finger right under my damn nose, and loudly says that I wasn’t doing my job and that this was all my fault. I was flabbergasted at the amount of scorn she spat at me. The head counselor was with me and immediately jumped to my defense saying that I had nothing to do with Star having this reaction. The grandmother then flips out and saying that we were harassing Star and her and that she will sue us for trying to abuse her granddaughter and steal their money. Long story short, I never returned for the second year. Hell no.
Any future parents out there, do not be afriad to say no to your child. Kids who get everything they want will think they can do anything when you do this. Also, who here thinks that a parent who doesn't care that their child does things like threaten other children, should have their children taken away from them due to raising who will likely be a criminal.
How do you treat a child like an animal? How could you let a child live in your garage like an animal when their family entrusted you with taking care of them? I can't imagine having a guest uncomfortable much less neglecting a child to the point where they're 15 with no understanding of social norms. Like what the fuck any child coming into my home would be cared for and protected like my own I don't even like keeping tools in the garage how anyone could leave a person there is beyond my understanding
I work as a teachers aid in a classroom of 2 year olds, and while most of the kids have a LOT of words they mess up, but are reasonably understandable, there is one child in particular who speaks so fluently. He speaks in full sentences and questions and everything. One day, when mentioning butterflies, he made a butterfly motion with his hands. I pointed that out to the teacher, and she told me his mom is a sign language translator, and dad is a language arts teacher. His parents have instilled in him no baby talk that I can notice, and he is a really well spoken, well behaved child
I worked in an afterschool ESL program in Korea. One kid really stood out. He was in 3rd grade but big, I thought he was a 5th grader. He refused to stay awake during class or listen to any instructions from the teachers. The very first class, he was falling asleep so I made him stand up. He kept almost falling asleep while standing up so I was worried something was wrong at home. I asked him to come with me to the main teacher's office so she could talk to him in Korean. He refused, I had to literally push/pull him down the hallway to his office. He wasn't even in trouble! If we changed our assigned seats, he refused to move. I would give him the option, sit in the new seat or stand by the old one. He would stand only after I physically pulled him up and would try to murder me with his eyes throughout class. He refused to participate daily. I had to tell the kids to treat him as a ghost when he refused to participate but always gave him the chance. He actually almost hit me once but remembered at the last second I was his teacher and pulled his hand back. After the first few weeks, we heard back from the mom. She said he has a medical sleeping disorder (not narcolepsy or epilepsy so I think it was made up) and so she said just to let him sleep whenever he wants. All my research told me that childhood sleep disorders are almost always a routine issue with a few medical possibilities but I could tell he had no symptoms off after seeing him daily for months. His parents just refused to have any discipline at home and let him do absolutely anything he wanted. So this kid is basically running his house, staying up doing whatever he wanted all night with zero supervision (doubt mom and dad are staying up with him) and sleeping through school. He was so rude and disrespectful, he had zero friends. Of course, his mother couldn't handle him by this point. She asked us about sending him to Malaysia to learn English. Was it a good idea? The kid didn't learn any English in class and had zero English ability. She basically just wanted an excuse to send him away. All said and done, I hated having this kid in class but felt so bad for him. If his parents cared enough to get him actual help or even set routines and rules, he could turn out differently. I think his defiant behavior probably started from when he was a toddler and his parents just let him have his way from the beginning and it became a behavioral disorder that they have zero interest in correcting or giving him the help he needs. . I imagine I'm going to see him on the news one day, after he snaps and rage-murders someone.
I forgot to mention this, I speak basic Korean. Not enough to really converse with parents but plenty that the kids know what they are supposed to be doing. So it wasn't a language barrier, that is the first excuse every kid uses. I also had a Korean 'assistant' in that class. She had less English ability than the students and listened about as well 🙄
Not me but my mom is a fourth grade teacher. She had this kid who was misbehaving in class, she set up a parent teacher conference with parents and comes to find out that the mother is still bathing the kid..... a 10 year old kid...
I once did a three week long internship at an after-school care (mandatory, I didn't want to be there), and one child, about 9yo, was hell on earth. As soon as you told him to please be quiet or tidy up his workspace he'd threaten everyone, said he put us on his black list, and describe to us in great detail how he'd get his dad's guns (which were locked away, but he knew where the keys were etc) and shoot us all down. He had a friend who seemed sweet but also started to adapt some of his antics. I asked another intern who had been there way longer, what his parents thought about that. She said they don't believe any teacher and insist he's a little angel. Then I witnessed the dad coming to take the child home, and the child's personality did a 180° turn. Was suddenly excited, hugged his dad and told him happily about his day etc Idk what to make of this experience...
Some children as they grow into their teens are much better than they used to be because they acknowledge that some of their behaviour is unacceptable and they just really think about how they treat others.
@@devbyrd6127 that's really true. I was not trying to excuse their behaviour at all. I was just saying when they mature they (mostly) get a lot better. I hope that most of the people who act in such a foolish manner can understand what they are doing is wrong well before their teenage years.
my dad used to scream at me. when i was attempting to learn how to read and write. it made me scared of school almost on some sort of PTSD basically i had sever issues trying to learn new things. now i can take in information and talk and listen but doing is a problem for me. :/ no one would have known because my family was just wanting me to do it right and they thought i was doing it because i wanted to not do it when infact i was just really struggily to remember things and stay on track...... it got worse. and i started to be afraid of geting things wrong. thats when i as a person broke. i wasnt even anywhare near any type of exams and this was when iwas learning how to read and write and do maths and basic stuff. it broke me . though. made me have anxiety towards other people and slowly got worse and worse at an early age.. i left school completely broken with a 14% attendence. i went from a really nice kid at the beginning of high school. to the final year with me basically have mental break downs all the time silently in my head. my attendence was low because i liked being home alone to play games. because i could get away from everything. be in my own world. but also . i woudnt be judged..... i was scared of people judgeing me. :(
May I ask how they could have helped instead of scared you? I'm afraid I make the same mistake with my brother, like, I want to help him do it right, but instead I feel like I make him hate doing homework and learning new stuff. It feels horrible, so I avoid doing homework with him and instead my mother does, but I'd want to help him so much :(
I'm going to be honest, I don't think I'd be qualified to be a parent. I'm uncomfortable around kids for too long on a good day, and I don't want to be responsible for ruining another person's life because of my own inadequacies.
@@Ajehy That's why the entire district that I was in had a release form parents had to sign, We have to tape so much to be evaluated that there is no other way to get anything done otherwise. I actually caught one of our students in a massive lie when I was a student teacher that way.
When I was in high school we ran a preschool center that we were graded on for home economics and we had to make up games for the kids, have storytime and snacks. There was this one little boy that kept running around pinching all the butts of my fellow female teen students and running off giggling.
I'm in a school band of 8 other people and there's this one keyboard player that does whatever. He would add random parts to the song, ask constantly for solo parts, ect. We do swimming lessons at the end of the year at my school and he always complaint that the lessons were too easy and he wanted to be moved up. Never really met his parents, just felt like sharing. He does have a 3-4 year old brother.
6:30 As someone with ADHD, and whose parents probably had it as well, I totally relate to this. When you and your family are undiagnosed, ADHD just becomes a very stressful way of life.
When I was a kid I used to be bullied by lots of classmates; turns out the parents were always little shits themselves, either their kids were "incapable of doing such thing, your kid is lying", or "she deserves to be bullied, she's weird, my kid told me that", or "I know and I'm sorry, but I can't control my kids!" or even "yeah, I told my kid s/he should avoid your daughter because she's disgusting" (I had pimples when I was young due a hormonal problem). My mom was amazed how many of those parents were so BAD at parenting.
at the daycare i work at there's this girl that thinks she can do whatever she wants whenever she wants, and whenever she'd get in trouble she'd have a melt down. i once had to talk to her mother about her behavior (she was having a rough listening day, and i mean ROUGH), and after i told her mom about the behavior problems i have seen, her mom just smiled and said to her child "mary, you have to be good!" in a very sing-song and jokey voice, like she wasn't taking anything she was told seriously.
I was a student teacher at an elementary school one year and I was working with first graders. After spelling tests, if a student was finished they could flip their paper over and draw until everybody else was done. This one kid finished and started drawing and I came around to see it and compliment it (get their confidence up) but noticed he was drawing what looked like somebody getting their head cut off and blood spraying everywhere. I took him outside to the hallway and ask him why he chose to draw that. He just shrugged and said it’s what he thinks about. Now, young kids don’t just think about murder unless they’ve seen it. Be movies, tv shows, or news. So I decided to set up a parent teacher conference w his dad, me, and my mentor teacher. The dad came in. He was huge, fat, and very much a hillbilly. I showed him the drawing and said I was really concerned for his son and that he needed to reach out to him and see if everything is okay. The dad then got mad at me and said to leave his kid alone and if not I’m gonna end up like the picture. Quickly transferred to a different school lmfao
When Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory got it so right, it's almost always the goddamn parents behind the bad kid. Pretty sure I'd be worth millions if my Mom didn't always call me slow, stupid, big nose, and essentially try to crush my self-esteem. I remember my sister gave me a confidence boost when I was little about a book I read aloud to here, and I doubt she even remembers that. I kind of want to do something about it, either be a teacher, or change how kids are treated at schools, not using fake-ass zero-tolerance rhetoric, but actually understanding kids and their parents, making both understand each other, and making some actual progress with treating oneself and others with some actual respect. Maybe some day.
3:29 sadly that'd exactly like me. I didnt get kept back but in the long run it really affected me. I lived in a verbally abusive household and lost the majority of my friends. I was often called the weird kid but I was friends with almost everyone in prep and grd 1 to grd 4. I was often seen as the person to resolve problems for people and it didnt help having other peoples problems on top of my own (OCD, panic disorder, body dysphoria, general anxiety, severe separation anxiety, major depression and PTSD. Needless to say my childhood was eventful. High school was no different (am currently grd 10) but luckily I'm at a different high school and am doing well
I have a friend that is way behind on critical thinking, problem solving, reading comprehension and some social skills. She doesn't read books that much because reading comprehension skills are low. Cant critical think/problem slove because her parents, mostly her mom does everything for her. I feel like no one is pushing her to try new things and push her out of her comfort zone. I, as one of her closest friends have been trying to help for multiple years but I haven't gotten that far. Anyone have any tips or tricks that might help?
@@teekay3929 ya. I know it's some sort of disability. I dont know exactly what it is, I have trying to figure it out but every time I ask if she knows, she said she doesn't know so i mention asking her parents about it and she says she will but never does.
@@teekay3929 I'm pretty sure it's the thing (its not autism) that I have but on a more severe level and/or something else. Its something else but it would be nice to know exactly what it is so I could help her more.
@@Kas_Styles Bring it up to their parents. If the parents don't care then you're at a loss. If the parents care they'll take their child to therapy and such and get them properly diagnosed and taken care of to overcome their issue.
My 8th grade History teacher told us about a student he had once. The kid was always loud, eccentric, and boisterous, and would always start off his sentences with "I'll tell you what!" and end his sentences with the same phrase. My teacher thought he was annoying and was a weird 14 y.o but the kid genuinely liked history and did his shit on time so he couldn't complain much. On open house, some man comes into his classroom, makes eye contact with him and immediately "Ah! I'll tell you what, it's so nice to finally meet you! My son is awfully fond of you, I'll tell you what!" all whilst shaking his hand and slapping his shoulder. My teacher said he just smiled and said "You must be John's dad." and it all made sense to him. Like father like son
I really enjoyed this Reddit video. It seems like you put an effort in typing in words like "Kidnergarden to five" for "K-5" And it's fun to listen while I'm working on other things. I hope you put more personal touches e.g editing in pictures at dramatic points etc to make your channel stand out more. Keep up the nice work!
Both my parents are quite laid back and have had history with addictions, e.g. drugs and alcohol. My mom raised me and always tried her best. A lot of stuff happened, she got cancer when I was doing my exams. I managed to stay on top of my grades despite what my dad put me through and caring for my mom at home. It annoys me when students make the excuse that their personal lives are the cause of their destruction. Obviously there are exceptions to the rule but when their lives aren't bad enough to excuse their behaviour, it seriously annoys me.
Not me but my sister who is an assistant teacher to an English class had this kid who was annoying and disrupted the class, never gets his homework done, his bag is full of papers and very unorganized, and he would always lose his erasers. Whenever he read, he would read it so slow and made the others laugh or snicker even if it wasn't funny (It really wasn't.). As she was the assistant teacher, she couldn't really do anything much and since the teacher was too 'kind', the teacher didn't bother with him. Fast forward, she met him late at night, like about 9pm in McDonalds playing games, so she went up to him because he's just like elementary-middle school, and asked what's he doing here. "Waiting for my dad to pick me up" He said. She stayed behind for him and when his dad finally came, it was like about 11pm. He just rolls up like he doesn't give a frick about letting his child wait for him that late, with his elbows out the window. So when my sister introduces herself as one of his teachers, he didn't really care. My sister was practically gesturing with her whole being and eyes on how much of a scum he was for being an ass to his kid. So this was when she realized that this was why the kid was like this. My sister tries to ask the other teachers to tell the parents on what's basically their parenting because why did they make a kid if they're not going to take good care of him? The teacher, rather than also caring about the children's education, they care more about the fact that they didn't want to get the parent's ire on them, basically because they weren't paid enough to bother with that. It's sad that they prioritize on that rather than a child. Mind you, the teachers were just from cram school. So basically what my sister did was give enough attention that he craved (but it wasn't enough as it wasn't his parents) and gave him enough work and motivation so that he wouldn't disrupt the class.
Not much in terms of "horror" stories, but I worked as a temporary computerclass teacher at my old elementary school. Make-up wasn't really allowed in heavy doses, but teachers understood that sometimes girls just liked trying it out, and they figured that if they learned to do it now when nobody cares, they wouldnt look like clowns in highschool (or at least I assume that was the reasoning). There was this one girl, absolute sweetheart, who would always come in with makeup that pretty much was at the acceptable boundaries. Eyelashes, eyeliner. It was there, it was visible, but it wasn't idiotically prominent. I'm not sure how to explain it. It kind of made you think "that kid is wearing makeup, and a little too much... but thats my opinion". She would also wear clothes I personally would never have my daughter wear. The kind of clothing that kind of oversexualises teenagers, but dont make sense on kids; lowcut shirts. Or skinny jeans (on a kid??). Sometimes she'd had earrings on (fake ones, but those werent allowed). As I said, the girl was an sweatheart in class. Polite, paid attention, overall decently behaved. I have to guess her age but I think she was... 10 or so. Having been bullied as a kid myself, I made it a case to always take a moment to ask the kids how they were doing at home, did they enjoy their weekends or whatever events happened. And this girl would always talk about her boyfriend (not unusual). Who was 14 (uhh). So I talked to her from time to time, never going into the whole age thing, but subtly telling her people should always have boundaries. Like a teacher running a class, a policeman upholding the law, or parents with their kids. As well as having personal boundaries with other people (not doing things you dont want to do). Now, since I was a temp, I didn't deal with parent-teacher conversations, just talking to the other teachers how their students were doing. As I talked to one teacher, there was this... well, kinda trashy looking lady approaching. HEAVY makeup. Like, "did you ask someone to hit you in the face with a spraycan" levels of makeup. gaudy necklace and earrings, weird hairdo that I cant put to words but had some accessories in it that made no sense, cigarettes. I didn't even think about it twice, I KNEW that was the kid's mom. And lo and behold it was. And she was by all acounts young. I was 23 at the time, I strongly doubt she was over 30. No father, because the parents were "divorced". It just all made sense in some way. The sad part is, I only worked there for a year, and I didnt see that girl again until she was probably 16 or 17. And she was visibly pregnant. And smoking, and an ungodly amount of (whore-y) makeup. I can honestly say it kind of broke my heart a little when I saw her like that. Nothing against teenage mothers, but this girl probably would not have ended up a teenage mom if her actual mom actually raised her properly and with a little bit of modesty.
We shouldn't treat Animals badly either. We are living beings and life and all beings, creatures and organisms, life in general, deserves Love, care and respect. Also, who the fuck keeps Animals in the garage? That's really, really dangerous and harmful for them, aswell as being cruel as it is basically keeping them prisoner and seperate. They are family.
this is semi related but i thought i’d share a story - i was in 6th grade, and i couldn’t stand my math class. i did no homework. i’d get detention nearly every day & skip that too. i didn’t do any school work in class either. my teacher pulled me aside often like “what is wrong w you.” one day she asked about my family, more specifically my brother she taught several years ago. i told her that he killed himself less than a year ago. she never once bothered me again for homework/detention/etc and even passed me when i should’ve failed.
At the kindergarten I used to teach at there was this 2 y/o girl who was the most annoying lil shit ever. There was a lot of things that annoyed me about her, but the worst one was that she loved to drink milk during lunch. The kids could always choose between milk or water, however it was obvious to anyone who had ever had to change her diaper that she was lactose intolerant so I always made her drink water instead. She would start to fake cry and scream, expecting me to give her what she wanted and when I didn't cave in she just got super quiet. But only after like 20 minutes of her screaming. Every day when her mom dropped her off or came to pick her up she would call the kid "princess" and I often overheard her saying stuff like "we'll do everything you like to do" or "I'll make your favorite food". She will be a nightmare as a teen.
That teacher that helped that kid from Honduras got my respect. That's a very rare kind of individual nowadays.
Even if you're against illegal migrants, the kid isn't to blame. I'm absolutely in favour of strong borders and stopping illegal migrants cold, but I'd never blame the children and if I saw a child in need, I'd immediately want to help them out. What's disgusting is the parents pushing them off to another country to live like that, or the people who abandon their home to leach off the success of another nation, rather than trying to improve things where they were.
That was sweet
@@Archris17 immigrants are human, and you're disgusting.
@@mariahmendoza9844 "If you pick up a starving dog and make him prosperous he will not bite you. This is the principal difference between a dog and man." - Mark Twain.
But snappy quotes aside, it's a simple equation here: A nation has a limited amount of money that it can spend on welfare and public services. The more people are in a country, the less there is to go around. The plight of *refugees* is unfortunate and I believe in helping them to the best of a nation's ability and capacity, but *migrants* have NO inherent right to enter another country. Their movement simply robs their homeland of motivated individuals and puts a further strain upon the host nation. The end result is that no-one benefits from mass migration in the long-term. This is without even going into the issues with demographic and cultural shift that mass migration causes!
I am not against legal, limited migration and I'm not even against sending aid to foreign countries, to help them become places that people don't WANT to emigrate from! I simply see the reality that just accepting anyone and everyone that shows up is not sustainable.
@@Archris17 also only douchebags use quotes to sound intelligent.
I feel so bad for the kid from Honduras... Teachers some times are the last life line.
Kayan L so I may be demented my like was the 666th I am apparently satan
@@pixelsticcs1181 kinda inappropriate ngl
I'm from Honduras 😳
Don't know what to say...
In my church we actually have a kid from Honduras who also doesnt speak english. He's barely 17 but he doesnt have parents or family and his older brother just left him on the streets. HE ended up dropping out of highschool after a year or 2 and is doing night classes to get his GED. Sadly he left school cuz his mother demanded he send more money to Honduras not caring about him having to pay the people who are letting him live in their home or his school work. Sadly he was jailed over a false accusation and thankfully its helping him get his legal documents. But its hard to see a kid go through that and not be able to do anything.
Not a teacher, but I'm studying to be one, and our lecturers often share stories from in the field. One of my lecturers had a student who was always late to school. His clothes were always filthy. His lunch consisted of a bag of chips and a soda. He never had his homework done, and he barely understood the material in class. The teacher contacted his guardian for a PTI, but she never showed. Then one day, the teacher ran into the student at the grocery store, and the student offered to introduce the teacher to his grandma (the guardian). Next isle over were the student's two younger siblings and his chronically ill grandmother. Turns out that the reason the student was usually so disorganized, dirty etc. was because he was the primary caregiver of the household. He spent all his time making sure his siblings and grandmother were taken care of, and he wasn't caring for himself the same way. My teacher essentially became a substitute parent after that: she had a couple of clean uniforms ready for him when he came into class, she packed 'too much food' in her own lunch and asked him to take the extras, she gave him as much affection and support as he would take. His grades didn't improve by much, since he was still focused on being a caregiver instead of being a student, but my teacher was satisfied with the fact that she knew she was making his life that little bit better with her actions.
CPCoulterTweedles That is so sweet and she really sounds like an amazing teacher 💛💛
Just doing it to actually help, even if the results won't be what is actually linked with her role (teacher and grades).
A+ teacher, making a difference!
I feel like CPS should have been called so they could have provided a proper case manager for the young boy as well as his family, because I really appreciate how above and beyond this teacher went, but clearly still it was an entire family unit that was being impacted. No child should ever have to experience being the caregiver of the family, thats what home health aides or living companions are for.
Sometimes teachers can be the best people on the planet
This reaffirms my belief that some people just shouldn't have children. Get your own stuff figured out before you try and pass down your genetics.
Kayla A. Stephen having children is a great great great responsibility, that even if the parents want from the bottom of their hearts it still consumes them on so many levels. yet there are still some people who want to eliminate the choice to decide for yourself if you're ready or not to commit to it.
@@areswalker5647 oh no, you can still have children you are not capable of handling in every aspect even if you don't have your life together and are not in conditions to give a kid the quality of life that deserves, you just don't get to complain because you brought it into yourself, and thanks to that selfishness you'll be potentially screwing the kid's whole life and it's opportunities to succeed in the future :)
As you can see in this video, even the kid with the greatest potential can be fucked up with the wrong parents.
It should be something controlled, so that kids don't have to suffer with parents that don't give a fuck about them (and we're not even talking about the degenerated ones)
Kayla A. Stephen I absolutely agree, but just so you know genetics can’t change even if you figure out your problems. It’s DNA which doesn’t change when peoples’ character change....but yes I totally agree
@@user-ve1ny3kj4y I know, I was just being snarky. I was tired and this made me frustrated at the world again.
I cant drive a car because i may ran into people but nothing stops me about having offspring.
Lovely
Tbh, it's like that with most students and parents. The really nice children have really nice parents and the ones who act out normally have parents in a difficult situation that carries over to the child (e.g. divorce) or just have a nasty personality. Children are very much a product of their environment.
oof i mean how else are you supposed to react
Really nice children can come from shitty parents too. But they are debilitatingly shy and nice almost to the point of being a people pleaser.
My mom was often in a psychiatric hospital and hooked on pills my dad was an abusive drunk but i was nice and polite to the teachers and they never questioned anything or asked me how i was. Trust me life isn’t that simple.
My nephew was amazing even when my sister and then BIL divorced. Both are teachers, and my sister is, also, a psichopedagogue, so they knew what could happen and had the resources to avoid serious problems.
Sharon I understand but it’s not always good to generalise, in my opinion, so i just wanted to give another perspective.
“As it turns out, the student’s uncle is most likely her father.”
Hol up
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While surprising it's not entirely unheard of. Cleopatra was incredibly successful esp. considering that she is of the Ptolemy dynasty.
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I feel kind of bad for the parents who are afraid and scared to say no to their kid.
But those entitled parents? Lemme just yeet them into the trash.
Or out the window
I do not feel bad for the parents who are afraid to say no to their kids, they should not be allowed to have children if they cannot control them
If you can't say no to your kid, is because you accustomed said kid to that.
Unless he is a born psycho, of course.
This bic trash... YEETT
PinkObsessedFreak I don’t feel bad for them. They raised their kid to be an entitled monster, and it’s their responsibility to teach their kid that not everything’s about him/her.
For everyone commenting “this is why i wont ever have a child“ - the fact that you even think about how your personality/life decisions/problems can effect your future child, already means that youre much more qualified to become a parent than the people in this video. I understand that having a child isnt for everyone but please dont stay childless for the wrong reasons. The world needs more good parents like you!
jlp less white people means less hate so its goog to give the fire to the next people
@@jaronmeshileichenbaum9934 ok so we're just going too pretend that wasn't very rascist
@@jaronmeshileichenbaum9934 less *racist* people means less hate.
Understanding and acting upon what you understand are two different steps. Not everyone can get to step two. Just felt i'd help explain why not everyone has the confidence to raise a child.
@@jaronmeshileichenbaum9934 We need less racists
In high school my dad used a phone to call his friend (because that's what they did in the 70s apparently, they taught you phone and office professionalism) and jokingly asked him out.
When the teacher called my grandpa to complain, my grandpa responded, "God speaking".
@stockart whiteman dude, me and my sisters came up with the exact same thing a few years ago, but for Dallas TX. We haven't used it in a long time, thanks for the throwback.
I've done that before, it's hilarious
Ok?
@stockart whiteman
"Mal's Meat Market, you whack it we'll pack it. Would you like our public or private service line?"
I don't get it.
when i was in 1st grade, there was this kid in my class who got held back. he had slightly violent tendencies as had anger issues and was also kind of a bully. i was paired up with him cause i was known as the ‘good kid’ in my school since i was overly nice and stuff so teachers used me as a way to get through to the bad kids without my knowledge. so while we were working, we started to talk and i remember asking him why he was so mean to the other kids. he told me that he has to or his dad would hurt him. i told him to stand up to his dad but he said he was too scared to. don’t know what happened to him, but i really hope he’s okay now.
Edit: i never met his dad btw, but from what he described about his dad, REALLY explained his behaviour.
I could asume that kid's dad is the violent abusive type, who seems to promote the classic, outdated and toxic male image of being agressive and hostile
TechnoKnight
probably, i just hope he’s okay though since it was so long ago since this happened
Big mood, I always used to be paired up w kids who acted up bc I make the effort to be as patient & helpful as I can. I haven’t always been kind & being ashamed of that cruelty made me nicer once I got a chance - switching schools in 4th grade let me reinvent myself as a sweet book-reading nerd instead of the brat I had been. Some kids need a chance to switch environments or switch their friend group up. Good on u op for bein a friend
Wit Bit
I got paired up with the problem kid in grade 2 but I really couldn’t help him
He probably had ADHD
and he started calling me sexy when we were a bit older lol
Wit Bit I was always the 'good kid' aswell.. but I was also quiet very quiet
My husband and I are really active in our children's education. My husband ended up having to work on meet the teacher night and didn't get to meet our oldest child's teacher. He had a day off the next week and I asked to set up a conference with the teacher so he could meet her. The teacher was confused when I asked for this thinking we had a problem, I told her no that my hubby wanted to meet her and ask questions about the curriculum himself. She was so shocked by this and told me that in the 10 years she had been a teacher no one had ever asked this before. We had our conference with her and she was so happy we had questions to help our kid do well, we even got some extra example worksheets so we can better help our kid with their work at home so we understood how it was suppose to be done. We would see her in the pick up line and talk to her all the time about how things were going. And even asked for another conference halfway through the year so we could get an idea of what the kids were going to be doing after the break. She told us that it was so refreshing to have proactive parents. This was the first time I ever realized that not every parent cared as much as we did about their child's education and it broke my heart. We're having our last conference with her Tuesday afternoon, I'm really going to miss this teacher, she's amazing and really cares about her students.
Francine Taylor my mom and dad used to do that too, but unfortunately my dad never graduated from the 8th grade so he can’t help me anymore. My mom is busy with my younger siblings all the time, so I’m on my own now.
My parents do this
Oh my god are you my parents?
No but my parents do this a lot, too! They've also always encouraged me and my siblings so much with school and made sure to introduce us to the concept of school, homework, and stuff like that very early on since we were little in a happy and exciting manner - which has honestly really helped my attitude about school!
It's awesome what you do, and I know I'm super grateful of my parents doing so for me! Makes me happy to hear other parents do this, too! 😸
I'm sure teachers who have had to deal w/parents telling them how to do their job would be glad to meet parents who want to work together w/them.
My parents used to do that too but the teachers would be like ??? It’s unnecessary like they didn’t want to spend more time on their teaching job than they had to. Ofc there were some that loved to talk about school stuff with them and they even helped my younger brother (even though they weren’t his teacher) but most just did not want to meet the parents of the children in their class
The story about the boy from Honduras makes me really sad....
I hope he’s doing ok.
Not a teacher. Not even a paraprofessional or anything (though I'm the daughter of a Para and my gosh the stories I could tell). I was getting volunteer hours in for college by working at my old school, helping teachers for events and stuff. I was taking tickets for the winter band concert (which my ex had been a part of when we attended high school, but his younger brother is in now). I remember my ex being clingy, and always in need of someone to cheer him on for anything. I'd never met his parents (broke up because of abuse from cousins hurled at me, for him using me for art, and because we just didn't click, but still). Well, I take the tickets of these people, and I see my ex. They're his parents. He says hi to me (we'd kinda stayed friends after the breakup since we mainly just felt we weren't right for each other), and before I can say anything, his mom just looks at me and goes "So this is Hetagirl?" I start to say yes, but stammer. Never heard anyone scoff before, but my gosh she acted like a Karen. Dad butts in. "How could your grades be lower than this retard?" Apparently a nervous stammer makes you retarded these days. Ex didn't even look up at them, and I heard them telling him how better his brother was as they went in. The poor guy just looked miserable as his parents went on with the whole retard thing.
My GPA was 1 point away from making me Salutatorian of our class. They've been shitting on their son, comparing him to other students and downplaying his worth to the point he never pursued anything, and downplayed other students in the process. If he'd been told to try and be better than me, perhaps his grades would've at least gone to C level, but he always had D's and F's without fail, while I was a mostly straight A student. No wonder he needed me to validate him all the time. He didn't have anyone else.
Holy fuck! Jesus Christ people are like that? That must have been humiliating. I'm glad the breakup went as well as it did, did you talk to him after that? It's in no way your responsibility to care for the dude, but god it must feel awful to know the guy is in such shit.
They shouldn't even be parents if they are going to degrade him like that. How low can some parents be? It's honestly so sad.
When my daughter was in first grade in a Utah school she came home with a letter saying that she needed to go for speach therapy. I told me wife that she sounded normal to me but if she needed it we would do it. Three years later I meet the speach therapist at parent teacher conference and introduce my self. The therapist said in shock" X has a New Jersey accent " since I have a strong New Jersey/Bronx accent my daughter picked it up .
I had to go to a speech therapist in school. They had the non-white kids do it
What a moron
This is kindof understandable considering some accents are hard to understand or sounds like you're shouting which makes it seem like you're disrespectful
@@nope-xe2lx I don't hear it my self but I drop "R," and add them to words that don't have them. I say "ax" instead of ask. Ca instead of car.
I don't have a thick accent maybe bit of a California surfer or skater accent but I do say ThetEer in stead of Theater Lyebarry instead of Library. lol Idk why or how I picked those words up the incorrect way but I have been saying them since I was a kid and I even went to speech therapy too.
I do love the Bronx/New Jersey accents :) I like how that person sounds and speaks in that accent more then the Valley girl accent.
The forgetful child and mom is a big mood.
Perhaps they're both dyspraxic.
My friend is a teacher and told me this story:
Lemme set the scene... 10th grade student, 3/4 through the school year, transfer student, often missing 2-4 days of school because of what he called were setbacks with his family. His teachers went easy on him but I never understood why but went easy on him with work. When during after school hours he was caught in the cafeteria stealing food from the ovens (Kept the bread warm and soft) and fridge, when he got caught he bolted leaving everything he had with him. He came back 3 days later and when asked about why he was stealing he started bawling and I mean BAWLING his eyes out. We went out side the building (in front of a door of course) and he told me why... Turns out his family had abused when he was young and wanted to run but wasn't allowed to leave his room, he was kept under constant surveillance by his parents (Tracker on his phone etc.) And they used him as a slave. 2 years ago they had died leaving enough money for him to finish school but not enough for food and had to make a choice... It also turned out the house was not left to him in their will but his uncle, he was just as bad as his parents and decided to run away leaving his most essential belongings such as his phone and spare cloths which his uncle sold when he was still living there... The kid was living homeless with no one to trust but himself and had to steal. He never stole money he never robbed anybody he just stole food to survive and was stealing leftover bread for the past 2 years. He never told this to anyone else. I told this story to every teacher and they ALL immediately helped him study gave him food and clothes and even money when they had cash on them and he would always refuse them thinking he was just leeching and just being a nuisance to everybody around him. That pushed us to help him more than ever and the principal set up the entire school to celebrate his birthday, I'm talking the Freshman, the Seniors, the Staff, EVERYONE. The school was decorated from left to right for him and he cried thanking all of us for giving the best they could to him and was emotionally healed after that I think. He ended up graduating as one of the top students and went off to do college.
From what I've heard he has finished college, has a house, a girlfriend, and a dog (pug). I feel so proud of him...
This story has been told from the perspective of not me but my friend
Damn, that's sounds like something straight out of a movie. What a hero that guy is
That sounds so fake. I dont know any school or teacher that would go out of their way to help this much. I'd like to believe it but we're not living in a fairytale.
@@Artem2034 well some people go above and beyond. I'll be honest the guy couldn't afford it so he had to get a loan
Stories like these make me wish you need a license to be a parent.
Just take a test like a civil service one and if you pass, you can be a parent, if you fail, you can’t, you also have to go through a bunch of background checks and drug tests cus you do not want to have a child while you’re high or on cocaine, and you also get 3 tries on the test
I feel bad for the unmotivated student, having to constantly be torn down all the time to the point of learned helplessness is damaging.
9:34
This person didnt just use "1 and 2" or "one and two"
They said
'1 and two'
Why,
_why?_
iguanadawn but i guess “1 and too” would be even worse tho !!
iguanadawn one and 2
The fourth one sounds a lot like mine. My mother always shit on me and even though I had a college level reading in 4th grade she told me I was stupid and couldn't read. Because I still couldn't pronounce certain words correctly. She always makes me feel stupid even though my IQ I am certain is higher than hers (She has literally tried to convince me you don't get urges till you've lost your virginity. For the early teens wondering, not this is not true). She has told me she never had me tested for autism like my siblings because she hoped I would be the smart one, but apparently she could only produce idiots. Basically if you say anything smarter than her or don't agree with something that she says that is completely wrong, she does this.
My teachers always seemed upset by her reaction, because they used to tell me I was one of their smartest students but I never applied myself to school work or homework so they couldn't give me a grade on just my verbal stuff.
I never applied myself till Senior Year of High School, because my mother always tried to convince me that I was stupid and I didn't have what it took to succeed yet always yelled at me for my D's and C's. I used to be an A+ student before I let her comments get to me. I wish I never had or I would have been in honor roll and probably have more college opportunities.
Tbh, I don't think you can blame yourself. Children are inherently made to listen to their parents and use them as markers for the boundaries they should follow. This works really well with encouraging parent, who know what lines not to cross, but it does mean that children with less encouragement or no boundaries put down at all grows up with a sort of handicap.
This happened to me as well except I still have an A in math because the shit to easy but I stopped applying myself after like 8th grade going into high school like I barely do hw now was an A+ student now I barely keep B's and the reason for this is because my brother failed a couple tests (he is a few years younger than me) she said it was ok and shit like that but when I was younger I would get my ass fucked if I made a bad grade so I was like y tf my brother getting treated softer than me, than she started saying how I wasn't as smart as my brother and how I'm dumb and that I wasn't even supposed to be born cause I was a mistake and then my grades slipped I started talking to less people cause she had my brother in this private school and after I finished at the public school I was at I joined that private school (it goes from K-4 to 12th) and everyone their is rich I can't relate to em and I got made fun of cause my dad left so I jus said fuck it and half assed my school work but I still try in math because I love the subject which is y it's still an A but what hurt is I didn't get recommended for the ap math class next year cause I never did my hw even tho I have the highest test scores in my class gonna be a Junior next year hopefully I'll finish HS strong
Comic Forts I do quite often, because I am 21 and taking care of her bills so they don’t shut off the lights on my siblings. So any time she starts her petty entitled bullshit I don’t hold back anymore.
We all wish we did things differently but don't beat yourself up about it. What you can do now is anything you want. Now she can't hold you back and you know what you're capable of.
I sadly can relate to this. For me it went too far (real bad consequences). But then I decided to quit talking to my dad and my whole live brightened up. I was always the best in class no matter where. I thought that he now learned his lesson and it definately seemed like it so I talked to him again. It went all cool until I began university. Shit went down same as always and even worse. I failed first semester because I never went there. No motivation anymore and a burnout. I learned my lesson. Haven't talked to him in months again. He still tries to provocate me but I can be even worse than him so I basically annoy him to the point of almost losing it, without exchanging a sentence directly with him lol. No university for a few years now but I will began in a few years again.
That teacher who helped that kind from Honduras got to me. We underestimate how kind people can be sometimes
i’m not a teacher, i’m actually in high school lol but
my friend always got on my nerves cause she was so hard on everyone, and a perfectionist, and always got mad at you if you messed up on the tiniest thing
and then i met her parents and it all made sense. they were like her but 10x worse, and would pretty much punish her if she wasn’t this way and was nicer
koda */• it’s sad isn’t it? Some parents shouldn’t be parents
mega zoom agreed, some parents don’t deserve to raise anyone
this video has reinforced my child-free status.
Yeah wouldn't want your kids to be as stupid as you.
@@vapid9086 you're just mad that you gave up your dreams to reproduce. How does it feel to be normal?
Idiot...
Enida Bonghit He never implied that he would never have a child. He was rather dissing the last commentator for not wanting to have one
G-man du lendemain Which os still not a good thing because OP’s life choices are none of his business.
Obligatory “not a teacher” comment, but applies to the question very well. I was bullied a lot throughout elementary school, but I’ll never forget this particular kid that bullied me named Ryan. He was very disruptive and a troublemaker in the classroom, he had failing grades (this was 5th grade mind you), had zero interest in learning, and bullied the absolute shit out of me. He was getting many detentions and called into the principal’s office daily. My mother was furious and decided to get my teacher to call a conference with his mother to ask her why she’s letting her son behave like this. The mother showed up, and she basically burst into tears, profusely apologizing. Turns out they were very poor, Mom was always working and didn’t have time to raise Ryan and his little sister since she could barely pay for the roof over their heads. Also, apparently the father walked out on them - just left without a word, cut off all contact, essentially disappeared. Ryan was angry and depressed and didn’t know what to do with his feelings because no one was there to support him. His mom was distraught and didn’t know how to help her son. My mother consoled her and they ended up becoming very good friends. She also told me their story and I immediately forgave Ryan, despite the bullying. I didn’t see him again until years later at a Fourth of July party a few years ago. His mother remarried to a rich guy and had another kid. Ryan seemed pretty depressed the whole time, never looking up from his phone to speak to anyone. His younger sister was very friendly and happy the whole time. Poor Ryan. I hope he finds happiness one day.
How did the kid from Honduras get into the States?
He just... walked in
When I was in first grade my parents discovered that I was one of the few kids that had supply lists sent home. If I needed a notebook or a pack of construction paper my parents would always bring at least one extra. Some kids in my class showed up on the first day without even a backpack, not always because the parents couldn't afford it, but because they didn't care. For the record my parents did the extra notebook and supply thing all the way through my senior year.
Some of the parents need a good slap upside the head, some of the kids need it too....
The fruit doesn't fall far from the tree. Many years ago I taught at a high school in a middle to upper middle class area which had a decidedly academic tone - there was an expectation from the parent community and the students themselves that the kids would be going on to college or university. In the senior grades we set high standards for the students, but also spent a lot of time teaching the skills they'd need to succeed in the post-secondary world. But as you can imagine, some students didn't buy into this, and it was the usual mix of work not done, skipping classes or just generally not caring. After every report card we would have parent-teacher conference nights where the school's two gyms were set up with tables for meetings. It was always well advertised and we had a generally good turnout. Which parents took the time to come out? The ones whose kids were doing well or excelling. The parents who told their kids that they were going to take an evening to go and meet the teachers, and demonstrated to their kids the value that they, as parents, put in their kids' education. The ones who almost never showed up? You got it - the parents of the kids who didn't care and were performing well below their capabilities. It was sad but there was nothing we could do about that.
You ever think those parents just have busy work schedules? Not everyone is fortunate enough to work 9-5s. My mom worked night shifts
@@edwinortiz1262 Sure, buddy. And we made it clearly known that parents could at any point during the school year request a personal or phone meeting before or after school, or even during the day during our prep period. Guess what - no takers. "Too busy" to deal with your kids education starts to sound a lot like "don"t give a shit".
This is one of the first things everyone working in education perceives.
I’m working as a tutor for a small local school and there’s this one kid I tutor after school who is a handful, they would constantly come in yelling for everyone to look at him which they did, would never do any work, and would harass other girls and guys sitting beside him
So on parent teacher night since I was one of persons teaching him I was to show up and show what he had done which was little to no work and as I pulled out a binder that had his empty worksheets, complaints from students and parents. The mom just completely let ripped into me saying I was discriminating against him and I shouldn’t have been allowed in the country and a brown t-word should never be able to teach
As she was ripping into me u could see her little piece of shit go thru the teachers purse and pull out a 50note
2 weeks later the mother was arrested for child abuse,and assault on a officer while the kid was expelled and taken by cps
The dad was of no use either he had left them both after he had won the lottery
At least the mother was punished
Not a teacher, but when I was a kid my mom’s friend had two kids (a boy and a girl) both a bit younger than me and we became friends. The girl had this one friend who hated me for no reason. She would get irritated when the girl would hang out with me and would say things behind my back that I looked like a pig, didn’t care about me, etc. My friend defended me several times and would tell me what she would say. I wondered why she was still friends with her, since she even confessed to me once she didn’t want to be. I vented to my mom on the car ride once and she told me that the girl who was giving me a problem had a mom who was an alcoholic. I never met her in person but remember hearing a phone call with her and hearing some stories about her. Basically even though everyone thought of the girl as a pain they didn’t want her to be left under the care of a woman who was drunk all the time. Even as a child I understood.
that last one happend in Alabama?
Why, is that where your parents are from or something?
@@erickmejia4602 lel no i am not even from the US.
Alabama’s stereotype is second cousins not siblings that Louisiana
Every one of these videos has a bit of Alabama in it
@@erickmejia4602 r/woosh
I tried befriending this troubled kid my sophomore year of high school and he had stabbed his uncle(/dad? I forget). I believe the uncle had just been mad at him for whatever reason and they got into a fight. I also believe it was an abusive relationship on both sides. The kid himself was really nice though he seemed to have anger issues.
In freshman year of high school, there was this 'cool, badass' girl who was really pretty, but she had attitude problems and fought a lot and probably did drugs, and even threatened another girl with a gun, though she was nice to me, but we never considered each other firends, because we were in different crowds. Turns out one day she was upset and complained her mom's boyfriend hit on her and was 'touching her up' and her mom didn't believe her. She was genuinely, deep down, a good person, though. I don't know, I could just tell. I think she just had been raised by her neighborhood.
Then in senior year, there was this girl on my bus who was rude to everyone. She even flipped her hair in my face (ew) for trying to get off the bus first, even though on American school buses you usually have a right-left-right dismissal arrangement that was set and everyone kinda followed. She ALWAYS wanted to be first off the bus. Anyway, I was upset but I didn't respond and I prayed (bc God knows I needed it) and I thought- "ok maybe her mom is sick and she needs to get home, or siblings or other problems at home."
Weeks later, she's walking home, (we would take similar routes) and she was crying into the phone that her mom was dying. I felt really bad, I had been exactly right. I'm really glad I didn't go off on her that day, though.
Not a teacher but I had a guy in my class (from year 5 to year 12) who was the definition of a bully. He would harass kids who he though were "different" (overweight kids, nerds, guys who had more 'feminine' styles, a girl diagnosed with depression) and would laugh if they got sad with what he was saying or doing. Never apologized. Always wanted to be the center of attention and would be loud and disruptive, often questioning the teachers' authorities.
One day he called me "atrasada mental" ("mentally challenged" in English) when I asked something to the teacher, without being provoked.
Anyway, his mom came in for the Parent-Teacher Conference in the last day of the year and she was the same as her son, loud, disruptive, would argue with other parents about the class average grades or the class behaviour or anything at all...
Eventually she said something along the lines of "Well, my son doesn't deserve to be penalized for his behaviour in class. The teacher just doesn't like him" This made my mom very upset but she didn't say anything. Then the lady goes "It's not my son's fault that the class has poor behaviour, everyone seems to get along pretty well and everything! It's the teacher's fault". After this, my mom chimes in and says "Well, my daughter complained that someone in this class has been bullying her and some other students and that they don't feel safe. She was called "mentally challenged" DURING class time. So that's enough proof that this class has behaviour problems and that they don't get along well." Everyone shut up because they are already used to that mom and their kids complained about that kid all the time so they knew what this was all about.
And you know what's funny? That kid once said in class "Some parents don't know their child, they think they have an obedient, perfect child and that they know everything about their child, but they don't. My mom, at least, knows me well, she knows the person she raised!" But then, here comes Parent-Teacher Conference and lo and behold, his mom doesn't know shit about her own son's behaviour and thinks he's an angel.
Mom always compared me to other ppls kids who did better, always do things for me, then complains i cant do anything, one time she told me , that if i cant keep a job she would just put me on disability. She just cared about me paying bills and helping stay afloat i feel trapped and i can be free but i lowkey feel bad leaving her to struggle
khamaji Taylor That’s the big deal. Leave her. It’s better for the both of you.
Well just say you are still a better person overall than her next time she compares you to someone else!
Same here but she didn't do shit for me.
I used to work at a Saturday school as an assistant. I needed to speak to one of the teachers, but she was busy at the time explaining to a child's father why she was disappointed with his poor attitude and disregard for other students. The father didn't really seem too bothered.
Towards the end of the conversation, another parent came to him to tell him that his car was blocking multiple people in and that he needed to move it immediately. After he left, I turned to the teacher and just said, "well, there's your problem!"
That young man... I'm glad the the teacher kept in contact with him.
I actually shared a similar situation with the girl at 3:02
Me being an eighth grader last year I had been struggling with social anxiety and it had gotten worse to the point where I was so scared of people that I began skipping and avoiding school. I was a pretty good student you can say, especially in English and writing. Most of my work was online so I tried doing classwork and any homework I could online. I ended up becoming guilty about the whole situation so I came out to my mom and explained that I was struggling emotionally and I needed help. Her response to what I had to say was that I was faking it, making a big deal, and that I was only skipping school just because I can do my work online. She ended up forcing me to go to school. And since I had been skipping school so much it overwhelmed me and added onto the anxiety. I was behind in some classes, especially in math. In addition to this I should've gotten a truancy but I didn't, I think it was pity and my grades that kept me from getting a truancy. I was called to the principle's office at one point and she told me the same. She immediately judged me by my attendance but my grades kept me up. My English and Reading teacher ended up talking to me about it. And they helped me through the rest of the school year, I was really thankful for them, and fortunately I passed. But I still struggle with my anxiety, I never really seeked professional help since again my mom doesn't believe I need it and counseling isn't free. I'm trying my hardest I could for now but I'm struggling about what I can do.
I'd absolutely recommend getting professional help as soon as possible and in the meantime someone to talk about it who will listen to you without judgement. This can be a teacher you trust and feel comfortable around, like your English and Reading teacher, or maybe a hotline which helps people with emotional problems. I've never been in a situation as bad as yours, since my mother understood me, but she had the same social issues as I have, so she couldn't help me. My Englisch & Ethics teacher was a great help for me though. Not only did she help me to understand other peoples actions better ( I have Asperger Autism, so they just don't naturally make sense to me, but instead I have to analyse and learn them first), she also let me stay in the classroom during breaks, if everything got to much for me. If you don't have anyone to talk to, there are likely books, that can help you. I don't know what causes your social anxiety, nor what makes you want to avoid people, so that's all I can recommend.
I hope you already got better in the month that passed and regardless if it did, I wish you the best of luck to find some(one) understanding. At last I want to say how much I admire your courage to tell your mom (It was the right thing to do, 'cause if you don't try, you have no chance whatsoever), how you finished that year (it must have cost so much mental energy every single day :( ) and I just admire how you still keep going. That alone can be so difficult an tiring. You are an incredibly strong person. Keep your head up, you deserve to walk proudly.
I feel terrible for these teachers. Dealing with lazy and bratty students? I have always respected them but here's some more respect.
Lil purple Moon Floof agreed. that's why I never gave teachers a hard time and I still don't my teacher right now is a very strict but good teacher and kids give her a hard time beacuse of that...
The last one had one hella of a plot twist
Not a teacher, but one of my friends... he was very competitive. He would yell at us or insult us whenever we get a grade or score higher than him. If he ever gets a grade higher than us, he would rub it in our faces.
He was like that for at least half of the year. However, we never questioned it and only stopped him whenever it gets annoying and painful. Because this guy... this guy came from Class A, the elites. We are in Class B. Class A was filled with arrogant geniuses and bullies, we thought his competitive nature came from there. However, this attitude was fueled by his grandparents constantly shitting on him. "Oh you're in Class B, what a disappointment. Your cousins are top in their classes!" He is quite a sensitive guy so he fell for it. Thankfully, he got rid of it although when it came to his favorite subjects... *sighs*
Honestly, if you're not stable enough to have a child, don't have one.
@Aaron Davis Most people who have kids think that other people shouldn't have kids. Rarely do they ever consider themselves the bad parents.
Emerald 919 yeah education and work is more important than a sucessor.... always following a fad nize
I will never understand how some people don't consider their own problems/personality/past, etc will affect the way they raise a child. Fix your shit first before you start bring easily influenced kids into the world.
That last one tho got me like
SWEET HOME ALABAMA
Oof thanks for the heart 💜❤
Forever_ Blonde sweet home Alabama
Apparently your heart has been revoked.
@@jeckmeck2476 where the skies are so blue :V
Maybe the uncle was actually her uncle and her grandfather/grandmother just passed it down.
@@aegis5021 uncle as in mom's brother
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ive worked as a intern at a school, most teachers say funding is whats holding the education system back, but im sure its the parents.
Bruno Novello throwing money at the problem doesn’t solve the issue that some education systems needs a total overhaul.
2:55 this, so many parents release their frustration on kids, my mother always used to compare me to other kids and tell me how they were better
My mom and grandparents would, too, and then wonder why in high school and on into college I was so critical of myself to the point of anxiety.
2:20 hits me hard. i understand how that kid feels. my dad constantly calls me a drop out and i never hand in any work bc i have no motivation. but when im in class i do well, and i also have teachers that give me makeup work to pass classes. it really helps. it just makes me upset that he was expelled, i really hope the best for them.
Some people shouldn't be allowed to have children. What's the point of having a kid if you can't take care of them?
@lyndsay grey calm the fuck down, I was just saying. You need to chill
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Here's an interesting fact: If the Child has dominion over the House and/or their Parents, then the Parent is classed as a Peerent. They are the victims technically, but I'm pretty sure in every case the parent either doesn't care or doesn't know what to do.
Now, as for the more entitled crappy parents... Well... They can burn for all I care-
Not a teacher, but I have a friend who's always over analyzing gestures and giving weird "scientific and psychological" explanations to simple things or situations. Turns out her dad was very interested in psychology, but he just couldn't take that career so he became an accountant, but he still investigated, read and learned a bit about psychology by himself, and he taught everything he knew to her. It's kinda funny, the first time I talked to him my mind literally said "Ohhhh. Everything makes sense now."
It's stuff like that that convinces me kids shouldn't be always punished for bad behaviors, but the parents should be instead. Kids usually don't know better until later in life, the people they are closer to are going to be their model. If parents have trouble educating their children, I feel they should receive some help, like a specialized course or something.
".... Well there is this Lannister in my class..."
The thing I wonder about a lot considering my own family is how much INSANE shit completely flies under the radar with abuse or even just weird/unhealthy shit....like so many people can "fake it" perfectly well and most families go completely unobserved 99% of the time. If your teacher or friend or whatever meets your parents and understands, I think you are lucky in a way at least.
Children be like Matilda not whatever her brother is called
1:40 wow this wasn't what I expected from this video
sounds like a PSA for condoms or vasectomies
I can’t remember the last time that i did homework.
Nor can I remember the last time my parents said
“Have any homework I can help with?”
My mom doesn’t ask about my work. She asks “how was school?” I say fine. She goes into her room and sobs for a while before offering to make dinner. I eat dinner, go upstairs, and hang around. Then I go to bed.
My other mom never offers to help with homework either, despite me telling them multiple times that I will forget to ask for things and they need to offer to help.
I can’t ask for things- I suck at it. So I often tell people “if it looks like I need help, I do. Help me. I can be really dense and don’t ask for help when I need it.”
I know people can’t read my mind, but thinking about your child every once and a while isn’t the worst thing.
as a teacher, all of these stories either make me sad or just piss me off
I worked as an after-school counselor for 3rd grade for a summer job one year. This girl ((let’s call her Star)) that I watched for the whole year was a mess; she had her moments of quiet and doing all her work but then would flip the switch and be an absolute nightmare. One example was this whole war Star started with another girl in class on how she kept looking at her wrong and that her very voice “makes her ears want to bleed”. She kept trying to start fights out of nowhere, example: it’ll be the middle of homework time and Star would come up to me and very loudly say that the other girl keeps giving her ugly looks and trying to hit her ((the other girl is on the other side of the classroom and has her back to us)), resulting in the other girl yelling that she didn’t do anything and that Star was a liar. Fast- forward and the two are screaming and Star is crying saying that she feels attacked and that she’s being harassed.
The absolute craziest thing this kid did was having a screaming, crying meltdown ((I’m talking hitting the walls and scratching her face)) to the point that I had to call the head counselor to come help and actually see what the hell is happening. Reason why Star is having this meltdown? She wasn’t first in line to play kickball.
We call her parent ((Just mom)) to come in and instead we get the grandmother, mom is a RN Nurse and has the grandmother listed for pickup. We explain what happened with Star and the very first thing this woman says and does is turn to me, points her finger right under my damn nose, and loudly says that I wasn’t doing my job and that this was all my fault. I was flabbergasted at the amount of scorn she spat at me. The head counselor was with me and immediately jumped to my defense saying that I had nothing to do with Star having this reaction. The grandmother then flips out and saying that we were harassing Star and her and that she will sue us for trying to abuse her granddaughter and steal their money.
Long story short, I never returned for the second year. Hell no.
Any future parents out there, do not be afriad to say no to your child. Kids who get everything they want will think they can do anything when you do this.
Also, who here thinks that a parent who doesn't care that their child does things like threaten other children, should have their children taken away from them due to raising who will likely be a criminal.
How do you treat a child like an animal? How could you let a child live in your garage like an animal when their family entrusted you with taking care of them? I can't imagine having a guest uncomfortable much less neglecting a child to the point where they're 15 with no understanding of social norms. Like what the fuck any child coming into my home would be cared for and protected like my own I don't even like keeping tools in the garage how anyone could leave a person there is beyond my understanding
I work as a teachers aid in a classroom of 2 year olds, and while most of the kids have a LOT of words they mess up, but are reasonably understandable, there is one child in particular who speaks so fluently. He speaks in full sentences and questions and everything. One day, when mentioning butterflies, he made a butterfly motion with his hands. I pointed that out to the teacher, and she told me his mom is a sign language translator, and dad is a language arts teacher. His parents have instilled in him no baby talk that I can notice, and he is a really well spoken, well behaved child
I worked in an afterschool ESL program in Korea. One kid really stood out. He was in 3rd grade but big, I thought he was a 5th grader. He refused to stay awake during class or listen to any instructions from the teachers. The very first class, he was falling asleep so I made him stand up. He kept almost falling asleep while standing up so I was worried something was wrong at home. I asked him to come with me to the main teacher's office so she could talk to him in Korean. He refused, I had to literally push/pull him down the hallway to his office. He wasn't even in trouble! If we changed our assigned seats, he refused to move. I would give him the option, sit in the new seat or stand by the old one. He would stand only after I physically pulled him up and would try to murder me with his eyes throughout class. He refused to participate daily. I had to tell the kids to treat him as a ghost when he refused to participate but always gave him the chance. He actually almost hit me once but remembered at the last second I was his teacher and pulled his hand back.
After the first few weeks, we heard back from the mom. She said he has a medical sleeping disorder (not narcolepsy or epilepsy so I think it was made up) and so she said just to let him sleep whenever he wants. All my research told me that childhood sleep disorders are almost always a routine issue with a few medical possibilities but I could tell he had no symptoms off after seeing him daily for months. His parents just refused to have any discipline at home and let him do absolutely anything he wanted. So this kid is basically running his house, staying up doing whatever he wanted all night with zero supervision (doubt mom and dad are staying up with him) and sleeping through school. He was so rude and disrespectful, he had zero friends.
Of course, his mother couldn't handle him by this point. She asked us about sending him to Malaysia to learn English. Was it a good idea? The kid didn't learn any English in class and had zero English ability. She basically just wanted an excuse to send him away.
All said and done, I hated having this kid in class but felt so bad for him. If his parents cared enough to get him actual help or even set routines and rules, he could turn out differently. I think his defiant behavior probably started from when he was a toddler and his parents just let him have his way from the beginning and it became a behavioral disorder that they have zero interest in correcting or giving him the help he needs. . I imagine I'm going to see him on the news one day, after he snaps and rage-murders someone.
I forgot to mention this, I speak basic Korean. Not enough to really converse with parents but plenty that the kids know what they are supposed to be doing. So it wasn't a language barrier, that is the first excuse every kid uses. I also had a Korean 'assistant' in that class. She had less English ability than the students and listened about as well 🙄
Not me but my mom is a fourth grade teacher. She had this kid who was misbehaving in class, she set up a parent teacher conference with parents and comes to find out that the mother is still bathing the kid..... a 10 year old kid...
I once did a three week long internship at an after-school care (mandatory, I didn't want to be there), and one child, about 9yo, was hell on earth.
As soon as you told him to please be quiet or tidy up his workspace he'd threaten everyone, said he put us on his black list, and describe to us in great detail how he'd get his dad's guns (which were locked away, but he knew where the keys were etc) and shoot us all down.
He had a friend who seemed sweet but also started to adapt some of his antics.
I asked another intern who had been there way longer, what his parents thought about that.
She said they don't believe any teacher and insist he's a little angel.
Then I witnessed the dad coming to take the child home, and the child's personality did a 180° turn. Was suddenly excited, hugged his dad and told him happily about his day etc
Idk what to make of this experience...
Rainy Season potential murderer it sounds like?
Some people really shouldn't have children if they're NOT capable of taking care of one.
Some children as they grow into their teens are much better than they used to be because they acknowledge that some of their behaviour is unacceptable and they just really think about how they treat others.
Naila Rahman I like when some kids learn that way but it shouldn’t take into their teens for some to realize that some behaviors are unacceptable.
@@devbyrd6127 that's really true. I was not trying to excuse their behaviour at all. I was just saying when they mature they (mostly) get a lot better. I hope that most of the people who act in such a foolish manner can understand what they are doing is wrong well before their teenage years.
HER UNCLE IS LIKELY HER FATHER
*happy alabama noises*
5:55 "everything had to be about him or he'd throw a fit" Narcissism? lol
my dad used to scream at me. when i was attempting to learn how to read and write. it made me scared of school almost on some sort of PTSD basically i had sever issues trying to learn new things. now i can take in information and talk and listen but doing is a problem for me. :/ no one would have known because my family was just wanting me to do it right and they thought i was doing it because i wanted to not do it when infact i was just really struggily to remember things and stay on track...... it got worse. and i started to be afraid of geting things wrong. thats when i as a person broke.
i wasnt even anywhare near any type of exams and this was when iwas learning how to read and write and do maths and basic stuff. it broke me . though. made me have anxiety towards other people and slowly got worse and worse at an early age..
i left school completely broken with a 14% attendence. i went from a really nice kid at the beginning of high school. to the final year with me basically have mental break downs all the time silently in my head. my attendence was low because i liked being home alone to play games. because i could get away from everything. be in my own world. but also . i woudnt be judged..... i was scared of people judgeing me. :(
Are things getting better?
May I ask how they could have helped instead of scared you? I'm afraid I make the same mistake with my brother, like, I want to help him do it right, but instead I feel like I make him hate doing homework and learning new stuff. It feels horrible, so I avoid doing homework with him and instead my mother does, but I'd want to help him so much :(
I'm going to be honest, I don't think I'd be qualified to be a parent. I'm uncomfortable around kids for too long on a good day, and I don't want to be responsible for ruining another person's life because of my own inadequacies.
Well.. at least you're honest.
For the one 4th grade bully kid with a mom in denial, next time just video him and show the mom and boom PROOF
Kealila Sok - videotaping minors without their parents permission is a HUGE can of worms, alas.
@@Ajehy That's why the entire district that I was in had a release form parents had to sign, We have to tape so much to be evaluated that there is no other way to get anything done otherwise. I actually caught one of our students in a massive lie when I was a student teacher that way.
When I was in high school we ran a preschool center that we were graded on for home economics and we had to make up games for the kids, have storytime and snacks. There was this one little boy that kept running around pinching all the butts of my fellow female teen students and running off giggling.
I'm in a school band of 8 other people and there's this one keyboard player that does whatever. He would add random parts to the song, ask constantly for solo parts, ect. We do swimming lessons at the end of the year at my school and he always complaint that the lessons were too easy and he wanted to be moved up. Never really met his parents, just felt like sharing. He does have a 3-4 year old brother.
6:30 As someone with ADHD, and whose parents probably had it as well, I totally relate to this. When you and your family are undiagnosed, ADHD just becomes a very stressful way of life.
When I was a kid I used to be bullied by lots of classmates; turns out the parents were always little shits themselves, either their kids were "incapable of doing such thing, your kid is lying", or "she deserves to be bullied, she's weird, my kid told me that", or "I know and I'm sorry, but I can't control my kids!" or even "yeah, I told my kid s/he should avoid your daughter because she's disgusting" (I had pimples when I was young due a hormonal problem). My mom was amazed how many of those parents were so BAD at parenting.
at the daycare i work at there's this girl that thinks she can do whatever she wants whenever she wants, and whenever she'd get in trouble she'd have a melt down.
i once had to talk to her mother about her behavior (she was having a rough listening day, and i mean ROUGH), and after i told her mom about the behavior problems i have seen, her mom just smiled and said to her child "mary, you have to be good!" in a very sing-song and jokey voice, like she wasn't taking anything she was told seriously.
My parents never went to parents-evening or events, ever
2:59 Im pretty sure he made a diss at your teaching and not his son lady
I was a student teacher at an elementary school one year and I was working with first graders. After spelling tests, if a student was finished they could flip their paper over and draw until everybody else was done. This one kid finished and started drawing and I came around to see it and compliment it (get their confidence up) but noticed he was drawing what looked like somebody getting their head cut off and blood spraying everywhere. I took him outside to the hallway and ask him why he chose to draw that. He just shrugged and said it’s what he thinks about. Now, young kids don’t just think about murder unless they’ve seen it. Be movies, tv shows, or news. So I decided to set up a parent teacher conference w his dad, me, and my mentor teacher. The dad came in. He was huge, fat, and very much a hillbilly. I showed him the drawing and said I was really concerned for his son and that he needed to reach out to him and see if everything is okay. The dad then got mad at me and said to leave his kid alone and if not I’m gonna end up like the picture. Quickly transferred to a different school lmfao
Sarah Ryan I hope you’re doing better at that other school. Hopefully that other child is ok and being monitored closely
I love looking at their usernames that these teachers likely made before they even started their teaching major in college
6:05 that might have been my kindergarten teacher, because I had a small class in kindergarten
2 views 4 likes. Total sense
Yoongi is bias
@Sabrina Glaviano yaaaAaAAaaAAaA
Your profile pic makes me feel happy
At least there was some positivity at the end.
When Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory got it so right, it's almost always the goddamn parents behind the bad kid.
Pretty sure I'd be worth millions if my Mom didn't always call me slow, stupid, big nose, and essentially try to crush my self-esteem. I remember my sister gave me a confidence boost when I was little about a book I read aloud to here, and I doubt she even remembers that.
I kind of want to do something about it, either be a teacher, or change how kids are treated at schools, not using fake-ass zero-tolerance rhetoric, but actually understanding kids and their parents, making both understand each other, and making some actual progress with treating oneself and others with some actual respect. Maybe some day.
9:59 student’s uncle is likely her father?
*sweet home Alabama..*
3:29 sadly that'd exactly like me. I didnt get kept back but in the long run it really affected me. I lived in a verbally abusive household and lost the majority of my friends. I was often called the weird kid but I was friends with almost everyone in prep and grd 1 to grd 4. I was often seen as the person to resolve problems for people and it didnt help having other peoples problems on top of my own (OCD, panic disorder, body dysphoria, general anxiety, severe separation anxiety, major depression and PTSD. Needless to say my childhood was eventful. High school was no different (am currently grd 10) but luckily I'm at a different high school and am doing well
I have a friend that is way behind on critical thinking, problem solving, reading comprehension and some social skills. She doesn't read books that much because reading comprehension skills are low. Cant critical think/problem slove because her parents, mostly her mom does everything for her. I feel like no one is pushing her to try new things and push her out of her comfort zone. I, as one of her closest friends have been trying to help for multiple years but I haven't gotten that far.
Anyone have any tips or tricks that might help?
@lyndsay grey shut up troll
@@teekay3929 ya. I know it's some sort of disability. I dont know exactly what it is, I have trying to figure it out but every time I ask if she knows, she said she doesn't know so i mention asking her parents about it and she says she will but never does.
@@teekay3929 I'm pretty sure it's the thing (its not autism) that I have but on a more severe level and/or something else. Its something else but it would be nice to know exactly what it is so I could help her more.
@@Kas_Styles Bring it up to their parents. If the parents don't care then you're at a loss. If the parents care they'll take their child to therapy and such and get them properly diagnosed and taken care of to overcome their issue.
@@Kas_Styles You'll have to ask the parents yourself or bring it up with a teacher or counselor for the information.
My 8th grade History teacher told us about a student he had once. The kid was always loud, eccentric, and boisterous, and would always start off his sentences with "I'll tell you what!" and end his sentences with the same phrase. My teacher thought he was annoying and was a weird 14 y.o but the kid genuinely liked history and did his shit on time so he couldn't complain much.
On open house, some man comes into his classroom, makes eye contact with him and immediately "Ah! I'll tell you what, it's so nice to finally meet you! My son is awfully fond of you, I'll tell you what!" all whilst shaking his hand and slapping his shoulder. My teacher said he just smiled and said "You must be John's dad." and it all made sense to him. Like father like son
God I'm so happy I wasn't a pain in my teachers ass
“As it turns out, the student’s uncle is most likely her father.”
Wait a Damn Minute, Wait a Damn Minute....
I really enjoyed this Reddit video. It seems like you put an effort in typing in words like "Kidnergarden to five" for "K-5" And it's fun to listen while I'm working on other things. I hope you put more personal touches e.g editing in pictures at dramatic points etc to make your channel stand out more. Keep up the nice work!
Both my parents are quite laid back and have had history with addictions, e.g. drugs and alcohol. My mom raised me and always tried her best. A lot of stuff happened, she got cancer when I was doing my exams. I managed to stay on top of my grades despite what my dad put me through and caring for my mom at home. It annoys me when students make the excuse that their personal lives are the cause of their destruction. Obviously there are exceptions to the rule but when their lives aren't bad enough to excuse their behaviour, it seriously annoys me.
6:43 reminds me of one plotline from The Turnabout Storm fan video. Yes, while I realize it's nothing new.. but it was my first thought
Literally most of these kiss are the definition of Bakugou
Like if you get it
Not me but my sister who is an assistant teacher to an English class had this kid who was annoying and disrupted the class, never gets his homework done, his bag is full of papers and very unorganized, and he would always lose his erasers. Whenever he read, he would read it so slow and made the others laugh or snicker even if it wasn't funny (It really wasn't.). As she was the assistant teacher, she couldn't really do anything much and since the teacher was too 'kind', the teacher didn't bother with him. Fast forward, she met him late at night, like about 9pm in McDonalds playing games, so she went up to him because he's just like elementary-middle school, and asked what's he doing here. "Waiting for my dad to pick me up" He said. She stayed behind for him and when his dad finally came, it was like about 11pm. He just rolls up like he doesn't give a frick about letting his child wait for him that late, with his elbows out the window. So when my sister introduces herself as one of his teachers, he didn't really care. My sister was practically gesturing with her whole being and eyes on how much of a scum he was for being an ass to his kid. So this was when she realized that this was why the kid was like this. My sister tries to ask the other teachers to tell the parents on what's basically their parenting because why did they make a kid if they're not going to take good care of him? The teacher, rather than also caring about the children's education, they care more about the fact that they didn't want to get the parent's ire on them, basically because they weren't paid enough to bother with that. It's sad that they prioritize on that rather than a child.
Mind you, the teachers were just from cram school.
So basically what my sister did was give enough attention that he craved (but it wasn't enough as it wasn't his parents) and gave him enough work and motivation so that he wouldn't disrupt the class.
Not much in terms of "horror" stories, but I worked as a temporary computerclass teacher at my old elementary school. Make-up wasn't really allowed in heavy doses, but teachers understood that sometimes girls just liked trying it out, and they figured that if they learned to do it now when nobody cares, they wouldnt look like clowns in highschool (or at least I assume that was the reasoning).
There was this one girl, absolute sweetheart, who would always come in with makeup that pretty much was at the acceptable boundaries. Eyelashes, eyeliner. It was there, it was visible, but it wasn't idiotically prominent. I'm not sure how to explain it. It kind of made you think "that kid is wearing makeup, and a little too much... but thats my opinion". She would also wear clothes I personally would never have my daughter wear. The kind of clothing that kind of oversexualises teenagers, but dont make sense on kids; lowcut shirts. Or skinny jeans (on a kid??). Sometimes she'd had earrings on (fake ones, but those werent allowed).
As I said, the girl was an sweatheart in class. Polite, paid attention, overall decently behaved. I have to guess her age but I think she was... 10 or so. Having been bullied as a kid myself, I made it a case to always take a moment to ask the kids how they were doing at home, did they enjoy their weekends or whatever events happened. And this girl would always talk about her boyfriend (not unusual). Who was 14 (uhh). So I talked to her from time to time, never going into the whole age thing, but subtly telling her people should always have boundaries. Like a teacher running a class, a policeman upholding the law, or parents with their kids. As well as having personal boundaries with other people (not doing things you dont want to do).
Now, since I was a temp, I didn't deal with parent-teacher conversations, just talking to the other teachers how their students were doing. As I talked to one teacher, there was this... well, kinda trashy looking lady approaching. HEAVY makeup. Like, "did you ask someone to hit you in the face with a spraycan" levels of makeup. gaudy necklace and earrings, weird hairdo that I cant put to words but had some accessories in it that made no sense, cigarettes. I didn't even think about it twice, I KNEW that was the kid's mom. And lo and behold it was. And she was by all acounts young. I was 23 at the time, I strongly doubt she was over 30. No father, because the parents were "divorced". It just all made sense in some way.
The sad part is, I only worked there for a year, and I didnt see that girl again until she was probably 16 or 17. And she was visibly pregnant. And smoking, and an ungodly amount of (whore-y) makeup.
I can honestly say it kind of broke my heart a little when I saw her like that. Nothing against teenage mothers, but this girl probably would not have ended up a teenage mom if her actual mom actually raised her properly and with a little bit of modesty.
We shouldn't treat Animals badly either. We are living beings and life and all beings, creatures and organisms, life in general, deserves Love, care and respect. Also, who the fuck keeps Animals in the garage? That's really, really dangerous and harmful for them, aswell as being cruel as it is basically keeping them prisoner and seperate. They are family.
this is semi related but i thought i’d share a story - i was in 6th grade, and i couldn’t stand my math class. i did no homework. i’d get detention nearly every day & skip that too. i didn’t do any school work in class either. my teacher pulled me aside often like “what is wrong w you.” one day she asked about my family, more specifically my brother she taught several years ago. i told her that he killed himself less than a year ago. she never once bothered me again for homework/detention/etc and even passed me when i should’ve failed.
I always love to read teachers stories on Reddit and Tumblr. It’s like an exclusive bts scoop.
At the kindergarten I used to teach at there was this 2 y/o girl who was the most annoying lil shit ever. There was a lot of things that annoyed me about her, but the worst one was that she loved to drink milk during lunch. The kids could always choose between milk or water, however it was obvious to anyone who had ever had to change her diaper that she was lactose intolerant so I always made her drink water instead. She would start to fake cry and scream, expecting me to give her what she wanted and when I didn't cave in she just got super quiet. But only after like 20 minutes of her screaming.
Every day when her mom dropped her off or came to pick her up she would call the kid "princess" and I often overheard her saying stuff like "we'll do everything you like to do" or "I'll make your favorite food". She will be a nightmare as a teen.