When a Man Likes You, Here’s What He’s Thinking (This explains why some women attract the wrong men)
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The key to a good relationship is time. Don’t give all of yourself away too soon in the passion of the moment. Keep the mystery and the chase alive by not giving yourself until he’s ready to commit. Make him give more before he gets the prize. Then you won’t get hurt. The key is knowing your worth and holding out for real love.
stay away from me i have trust issues Thanks. This is based on my personal experience. I think women have really been cheated by the sexual revolution into giving away their power. Men get spoiled by too much sex, too soon. It’s not good for either sex. Sex should be the final seal on a lifelong love, not a freebie to get a guy interested. If that’s what it takes, then he’s not worth it.
@@revolutionaryviews9702 for men more sex is better
@@RK-su4hs till they get bored & then it’s next…
I’ve ended up holding out for too long now
@Ashley Chapman I understand. These are times when men’s hearts have grown cold, but I hope you don’t throw yourself away on someone undeserving. I also understand when women stay in bad relationships so they can have kids. These are hard times for women, with few honorable men, but women do have power and can change men and the culture by withholding themselves until they find the men who treat them right.
Too true. I was the one who made the first move. Now we've been married for 40 yrs. He said he was just waiting for the perfect timing. Hah! Nonsense. I'd be waiting forever lol
But in my Case, men Run away from me when I make the first move.
@@jenniferlorence1950 hahaha you make me 😂
@@SheilaLeighGwapa LOL, lol, lol, lol that is So Cute.
Jennifer Lorence lol He even literally ran away, like really really ran away whenever he see me, damn I swear I haven’t done anything strange to him! So confused 😅
@@lalitaanne I am Sorry for that because I understand where You're coming from. And You're Right it is very confusing when a person reacts that way when they See You and you know You did Nothing questionable, but at that point when a person behaves like that know that is usually because they have mental problems. That is Not the right behavior of a person who has a Sound mind. There are a lot of people that function, or apparently they do, function properly in Society, but they are High-Functioning because You don't know if they are taking medications for a mental-illness, or an emotional imbalance that You don't know about and they react that way. Just Know that NObody with an Sound Adult Mind will behave that Way, even if they didn't like the person, they will keep Grounded and Not Run away. Maybe in his Brain Development he is a 12 Year Old. Or, maybe he's Just a Dumb Old Man, I've Seen those too!!!!!!!! I know You must feel bad, but I Can guarantee You that is NOT YOU the problem, especially if You Know that you did nothing wrong to that person. Also, some men had a bad experience with a woman in the Past and they Stay Stuck in the Past and never move on, and then when They See a female that likes them (in the future) then they Run away, because they are Judging Every Female the Same. And if that is the Case, You don't want a man like that in Your life.
To shy men: Be creative. Do what it takes. There are lots of ways to approach a woman without looking aggressive or stupid. I found out 20 years later that a guy I really liked, liked me back as much but nothing happened cause he was too shy. Such a shame. I spent all these years thinking he wasn't interested.
K A oh gosh 🙁sadly
I got creative once. It worked. But then she told me she had a bf. It crushed me. I want to do it again (with someone else). Just haven't found the strength yet.
You didn't say if there was a reason why you couldn't approach him now. If you're both single,why not.
@@mariankyra6613relationship polarity is important.
I love shy men.
Another reason for being attracted to the wrong type of men has to do with your father, and how he treated you and your mother. We tend to repeat these relationships without knowing it.
Just as i have observed
Yeah like me from broken family, grew up without parents especially my father to guide so i feel like when a man give me attention i get easily attached and i enjoy it, its like i long for somones love and presence since i dnt have parents by my side most of the time
ABSOLUTELY
Not only, I have a very great dad and great relationship with him but still I have been in several abusive relationships. For women the ratio for abusive partners if 3out of 5 relationships, while for men it’s 1 out of 9, not all women have bad fathers, therefore I believe the reason is that most men are abusive.
I never heard this before. This opened my mind cos i am normally shy type of girl and very traditional i expect men to come to me.
Same here Mar88 B, if I smile at them don't want them to think man she's bold.
I have had ENOUGH of bad boys, mind games, tricks and lies. I long for a man that likes peace and quiet. I may have met him. Thank you for your videos!! They are very apprecisted!!!❤❤❤
Yes, Brian. Do more scenarios like this, it would be great to see and hear "what's inside of his brain" when looking at one woman or so. Thank you, Brian.
YESSSS
im a guy and this is 99% true that made me laugh
Το ξέρουμε πως είσαστε εσείς οι άντρες - και τί παιχνίδια παίζεται !!! 😂
και ποιο είναι το 1 τοις εκατό
OMG! Brian , you are too funny, DO MORE OF THESE scenario video's! I need to know what is going on from the male perspective, thanks
Brian, you have such a wonderful voice, you should consider doing sleep stories 🙂
I think so too
Yes it's kinda sexy
I thought I was the only one! I literally listen to him every night as I have sleep problems and I fall as asleep so well now
actually he has a very nice choice of words...
@@sweetbutterfly5 Is he that boring?! 🤔😄
Thanks Brian! So tired of hearing that you're attracting bad guys because somehow you're damaged, you have low self-esteem or that something else must be wrong with you. Thank you so kindly for this. And the skit was quite funny
A player is like a T-Rex in jurassic Park... Haha I loved that.
This is very spot-on. For a very long time I was often approached by guys when I was out and about and would keep wondering why there were never any decent, good guys amongst them. At some point it even started diminishing my self-esteem as I started wondering why I as an attractive young woman wasn't approached by a good guy every now and again. Until I eventually realized the guys who approached me were a very badly pre-selected pool of guys and that I had to be more pro-active with the type of guys I really wanted to meet. Thanks for sharing this!
I feel your pain as a fairly attractive young man, in a different way. I have to overdo a lot of things to make girls feel comfortable. Being too confident in my approaches makes shy good girls mistake me for a player.
I totally agree with u on this one Geert ,indeed , narcissistics are those who show a lot of interest straight when they find their new prey , quick efforts from a man isnt necessary healthy ,
I felt curious for your video, I wanted to comfirm it. You're so right. Bad men give a lot of adrenalin, when I understood that, I married with a good man, who every day is the same.
😂 LOVE your imitation of the guy who sees an attractive woman and tries to play it cool -awesome! So what I assumed... So sweet to see especially in successful men; and with success I mean socially successful and with a job / life that fulfils him
Very honest, educated, in-depth analysis of a guy's head. I totally get it. Thanks, Brian.
yeeea. but of course there are "soft boy fuckboys" who don't approach you because they feel nervous or act as if they are shy because they think that shyness is an indicator of being sincere. but the minute you show them interest, they play games and take you for granted even if you don't show them an attitude that you're chasing them/being desperate. they like to manipulate. we don't want this kind of guy, ladies. it's good to be friendly and playful with the opposite sex, but we should not let our guard down easily, vet guys properly and not make excuses for soft boys once they mess up. because usually, girls make excuses for their inconsistencies and reason out that the soft boys are just shy or clueless about courting them/doing relationship stuff because soft boys are not like the "smooth and confident players". most of these guys are also love bombers once you start talking/dating them. they annoy me so much.
In my experience I always went for the bad boy because deep down I was too scared to have a real relationship, due to a bad marriage. It reinforced my belief that men can’t be trusted and that they are all the same. I now know this isn’t the truth. I had healing and growing to do. Now I can appreciate the real men who know how to respect and treat a woman.
"Then there's the cat thing" Lol. You're hilarious, and give awesome advice too. All the best guys are married or dating experts!
I think your AWESOME Brian Nox. You have a great way of communicating with your viewers. The simple fact that you speak in a very calming, gentle, tone is comforting and reassuring. Makes it easier for me to process what you are teaching. So thank you once again 😊👍🏼.
Brian,
I was approached by a very attractive man who attended an event I served at. He asked the duty ops person where to find me. I was at an adjoining location and he came in walked up to me and threw his fist up, for a fist bump and said " good job, we appreciate your excellent service".
I was in shock that this beautiful man came looking for me. The fist bump made me laugh. The complement was NOT what I expected. The abruptness of it made me feel like someone was trying to set me up for a joke.
Well the jokes on me alright. Turns out he just wanted quality service for the monthly recurring event. Lol.
Wow I needed to hear that last reason about the bad boys being a challenge. I’ve never heard it put that way before but it makes perfect sense. Raised with a mom chasing after an alcoholic stepdad. The pieces are clicking together. Thanks so much for your videos. ❤
Low self-esteem/bad childhood
Life Traps and/or "schemas". I have a book on it, it's really intense stuff to look at and work through. Basically learned patterns from childhood, indeed. They repeat over and over and over, until ppl learn to unlearn these behaviors. It's really difficult stuff.
@@NikkoYM I hate the fact that I realised it only in my 30s, not earlier
@@Whoeverwhateverwhenever Don't be too hard on yourself. No one is keeping track or time. We only know what we know at the time. I also didn't have certain realizations until my late 30's and 40's. I am still learning and nowhere near perfect (!!!) at 52. Give yourself a pat on the back for even being open and curious on this liife's journey. 🌸
@@Whoeverwhateverwhenever me too but at least we did
@@NikkoYM what is the book called? I am interested in reading it.
I remember the dating pool being very judgmental and very cruel. If you are a bit overweight, like I was at times, guys can and will reject you based entirely off of that, and they are not nice or polite about that rejection. My son has made me aware that girls can be just as bad. Girls want boys who are at least 6 feet tall and will reject a guy based entirely off their height. And sometimes I think girls are even more cruel in their rejection. After that has happened to you a few times, you get a little gun shy. Just saying. Nobody likes rejection.
I have a cat named Oliver 😠. But when I see a cute guy I act like i dont see them... shyness gets the best of me .. I have to force myself to smile 😊
I love your videos but this one was the cherry on top! I laughed so hard at that sketch/"what he's thinking" bit. Wow. I'm dead from that internal soliloquy!
The last point hit hard. It's true. Any man who takes you on an emotional rollercoaster is addictive. Good guys tend to be boring unfortunately.
That's your mistaken opinion.
I even feel shy to smile to the guys I think attractive 😆😆
Thank you for this. Women need to know about men like this.
I think you’re right. I’ve been that woman who dated a player. It’s aweful, but I recognized it and got over it. I have a friend with a player now. I wish there was a gentle way of making her aware of it.
I think what you said was true. I wasn’t looking for a normal man. But after much therapy I realized it was a pattern of behavior I learned growing up. Conflict was always around so picking my ex husband made sense. But the rollercoaster of emotions he put me through with a career and two kids was more than I could take. So I agree on your opinion on women picking bad guys. And now I pretty much date a bunch of guys, all different, trying to find the one perfect for me. Thera quantity not quality. Im not giving up on finding someone with integrity
THANK YOU so much for speaking about women who are attracted to the challenge men/"bad" guys instead of the normal guys because of the excitement of it. I have noticed this about myself and thought it was due to having greater masculine/feminine polarity with those "bad" guys. Now I see I want to increase my appreciation for men who aren't on again/off again. I wonder if there are videos about that... 🙂 Thanks again!
Thank you Brian! I recently came across a guy who wouldn't put in the effort after I took the first couple of steps so I really needed to hear this 🥰
Here's my problem with this I always feel.if I approach a man I'll never know if he really likes me because I feel if I approach a man even if he doesn't like me he'll go for it because he'll assume I'm easy or desperate
You'd be surprised to find out how difficult and afraid shy men can be. Another reason jerks will still win in these situations.
True! So the waiting game truly tortured me
@@Protestan88 probably true lol
Indecision or hesitation isn't always a bad thing. If he's a "nice guy", you could have just caught him at the wrong time. Bad guys will gravitate to that and suck that life out of you.
With all due respect, Brian is not suggesting you approach the man, but I believe all women know when a man is interested in them. In that moment you need to let your insecurities go and open the door for that nice guy. Don't wink. Just say "hi"and smile. That's all we need. If that doesn't keep him talking then he's got other things going on. He could be married, girlfriend, you really don't know, but he's just not ready. If I'm single and a lady I have my eye on speaks to me and smiles, then I'm about to lead the rest of the conversation. And, I will definitely tease you about how you were salivating over me when you first smiled at me and said hi. We will laugh about it a bunch of times.
Excellent, true, & so SPOT ON !!! Keep the VIDEOS coming.
Waw, I've seen tons of video but nobody explained that situation that way. It really made me rethink the approach. Thanks a lot for this!!
Yes. A series of videos addressed to the men… help balance out their understanding of caring and desire… appreciate the true feminine… honor the true masculine… and let them know that a good woman is a prize. Not their rusty butt. No matter how cute it is. It’s true many women don’t appreciate and respect men or themselves well. You are helping with that already. Thank you. I appreciate your clarity and endings if the videos.
Love this! Getting rid of the 'rusty stuff' feels hugely satisfying. Like a weight being lifted... and an opening being created...
So deep. Actually made me angry that this stuff isn’t taught in school. It seems to me to be some of the most vital information to start out with in life.
Thank you so much 👍🏾
How women can't like shy guys. They're the most cute men alive
Can be more emotionally volatile and passive-aggressive though.
You are right. I dont do it, I should change that I think! 🤙🏼
@@Catherine_Kate Dating a shy guy and he IS passive aggressive. He isn't good at communicating when he's bothered by something or he doesn't like something so he just gives you the silent treatment....as punishment or whatever. I'm not sure I wanna live with that. I prefer open talk.
But that's different for all shy guys of course!
Danika Exactly. The problem with ‘shy’ guys who give the silent treatment is they are likely covert narcissists. If he’s doing that to punish early on, what would 20+ years of marriage escalate to?
@@Catherine_Kate Nah in his case he's not a narcissist ( at least I hope so ). He admits mistakes and is loving. Good with his family, but socially awkward, was bullied a lot when he was younger. It was much worse when he gave me a few details than I thought. So he's withdrawn a lot.
I washed his head though. He better not give me that treatment again. I might be gone. As much as I love him, I protect myself if a person becomes too toxic 😊
Besides the fact that i think you have a very pleasant voice to listen to and great advice..i love that this video had even more of your humour in it..hahaha..nice job
Your sincerity is obvious and your advice is helpful.
Thanks for this Brian- this was really helpful to me! Could you make a video at some point about how to make an effort from a woman's side? I think I have this problem because I can feel very insecure when I meet someone interesting or attractive so I tend to put up a wall and I guess that makes me unapproachable. Women also get told all the time how men are "the hunters" which makes women feel like they are prey and they just need to sit pretty and wait for some nice man to strike up a conversation. I really hate that idea! We forget that men are just human and also feel insecure :)
This is such important relationship knowledge!!! Thank you for getting this information out there!!!
There is someone i realy liked for along time i didnt think he liked me too but he surprised me one day and it scared me i got used to be without a man and now its too hard for me to let someone in to my life.
Even though stating these facts might be teasing to some women, its also really beneficial! So many articles lack to highlight the complete truth in regards to relationships which can cause so many conflicts! Its essential to see the truth of our actions rather than complaining every time why things are going wrong! Very pleased to watch this video. By the way, great imitation you did about how guys may think! Thank you very much Brian!!
I finally have a good one at least I think so it's been seven months and going good so far he's thoughtful handsome and kind today he gave me a Swarovski bracelette and Burberry perfume
I’m married but watch you because you’re soooooo funny big hugs and great advice
I lowkey try to pronounce your name everytime I watch your videos. I think I finally perfected it! Thank you for this one! p.s. LOVE the role play
Hi Brian, I admire your videos in the sense that you base your relationship education on psycological perspectives.
In a previous video you mentiuoned that a woman should not let down her values just to please a man. I consider it very commendable
Your words....."are like Apples of Gold in a Setting of Silver!" Thank U. 🙏🙏🙏
Some men love that a woman makes the first move, it takes the stress off the situation and they can relax....you tend to see the normal side...not the one setting out to charm because he has been taken by surprise.
I agree!! I let a guy know i liked him ( thru a little flirting) and he actually said “ when I realized you liked me I went for it!” Some guys do wait for the green light... after that they are tigers!!
@T KJ Confucious say "go look in mirrar".
@T KJ What is this nonsense?
Thank you from the core of my heart for making these videos.I believe that those videos will help a lot of women to find a right guy.I wish, I could find your videos before getting married. ❤️
Falling for the bad guy is the dance between the codependent and the narcissist, unfortunately.
1991windsor sometimes it’s a dance between insecure attachment styles!
Codependent attachment styles can often be the anxious attachment or fearful avoidant style... sometimes dismissive avoidant styles are narcissistic, sometimes not... but they are often drawn to each other and play out this push pull, crazy making realm 😬
If the attachment styles heal, they can have better relationships...but with my experience, most dismissive avoidants aren’t interested in self work as much. Then it becomes the Codependent trying to do everything...and doesn’t really provide the best setup for breaking that toxic pattern!
I’m healing by putting energy/time into myself...that I wasted for so long on other relationships.
Wise words.
Yes but sometimes life needs a bit of excitement and danger to be life. That just need to be done with an expire date.
@@ereniasantiago8912 have you ever been in a relationship with a narcissist? I don't wish that on my worst enemy the effects that it leaves on someone.
@@1991windsor I Apologize to you I know well the awful things these guys do but I was just telling that unfortunately their challenging behaviour is what make people fall for them, we as human beings tend not to be attract to the easy. Yes, I have experienced relationships with Narcissists but I survived like everybody can do because the power is within us. I didn't mean to hurt anyone, sorry if I did it.
All my meetings in real life are with players. I've fallen for the player/bad guy and experienced that emotional rollercoaster, just as you described. But I do like extroverted guys, I'm not into shy or introverted guys very much
Well.. and then there is my bf. He was so nervous that he just kept bubbling and I initially didn't understand a word because he talked so fast.
Well damm... As a woman... I have the same sort of thoughts with my crushes 😂
Kristi Counts me tooo^^
It's just more appropriate for women to say that they are insecure. Men think like us but they act upon those thoughts differently.
You hit the nail on the head. I do recognize that I am attracted to players who go cold and hot on me. I also recognize it is detrimental to my future. But I cannot seem to change how I feel about the “boring” partners and players. How do I get around it?
As always, another fabulously helpful video Geert. Unfortunately, it is false that a man telling me that he loves me and wants to have a future with me means that he is a good guy. A habitual liar or a person who believes all the lies of the media about what love is and is not will say they love you when they don't. Case in point my ex!
Usually, women who are empaths play the prey for the narcissists, who are the predators. The first thing they must do is to know the signs of an empath, recognize it if you are one so that you can do something to defend yourself.
I LOVE you Hiirt! I think you're not only the funniest guy on utube, you're also right on the money with your insights, advice and tips! Thank you!! ❤❤️ 🌠🌠🌠🙏🙏
I appreciate at honest and compassionate approach on that tough but important subject.
This is a really good analysis. I got a phone number from this really cute server last week, called her and didn’t hear back. I later ran into her friend at a different bar and found out that she told her friend “I don’t know what this guy sees in me.” Talk about low self-esteem...it took me a month to work out the nerve to ask her out, only to find she thought so little of herself she thought I would be disappointed.
At least she's not a narcissist.
You're hilarious! 😂 Thank you for the advice and the entertainment.
You have helped me so much to understand my issues with dating. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. This video was very helpful.
And I love your voice too. :)
Oh well we all have experienced, when you find someone attractive then what would I say or do to interact. But half of the things will never happen 🙂
What you are true! It's even ok to be brutally frank or over emphasize just to help us get the message across clearly.
Thanks for being honest. I finally got it. Omg I was waiting for this information for so long! But how can I rewire my brain to actually value the good guys and not be interested in that emotional rollercoaster anymore? I men I need years until I realize what is actually going on. Dont want to waste my life on bad guys anymore.... dont have time or nerves for that. And it just hurts.
Wow..You leave me breathless.. Thank you for making this video, its all i need. I love your brain Sir.keep up the good works.. i hope to see you again..!God bless!
Please do more this type of roleplays video👍 It would be great if you could also address the topic of online dating, as I believe many men don't approach women anymore because of it too.
I believe online dating especially apps such as Tinder have made men lazier, more inclined to hookups, overall more low value. This is definitely also women's fault because they don't use the magic word "NO" as you preach. A video on how to get the best out of online dating in this landscape would be helpful🙂
I think this is your BEST video YET!! So funny!! And very insightful too!! ❤️🌠🙏
You always do a great job Brian!💕thank you! I met a construction worker on his work site! He said how are you! Great voice I replied great! He seemed to like this socially distanced took his mask off? Didn’t want to talk only looking! Gave him a few seconds turned and continued my walk!
This explains a lot! I very rarely get chatted up. And I'm too shy to flirt first so the guys I date, more than not, date the emotionally stunted ones.
Loved ' When a Man Likes You, Here’s What He’s Thinking' Good info but so funny. lol
Oh dear, the story of my life attracting the wrong men, the adrenalin ups & downs. I didn't see that before but I see it now. Omg you're never too old to learn, here at 60 & still making the same old mistakes.
Well it's not all been about the adrenalin, there has been love too.
But I always did think that when things were going along well & got boring, I'd do something to rock the boat a bit, nothing bad or deceitful tho.
Or I'd just go for a narcissist who treated me like shit basically from the start.
Maybe it all started from not having a father as a child & being sexually abused by a male family member.
Not learning at a young age what is right or wrong treatment from males until late into my teens, if at all.
Well, other ladies have had it worse I know that for sure.
It just doesn't help knowing how to make the right choices & what mistakes you're making yourself.
Thank you Brian Knox for this insightful video.
You're a fabulous man.
God bless you. 💛
Have you tried working with a trauma therapist?
@@NikkoYM
No. I've only seen a phsyc dr when my marriage broke up 10 yrs ago when I had a breakdown from that. I've been on antidepressants ever since.
@@dutyforce233 Trauma therapists can try to help you work through the childhood issues. EFT or EMDR. Some people find this very helpful.
@@NikkoYM Thank you. It's something to consider but I'm really not keen on going over & over the past shit with another person, it really doesn't make you feel better.
Instead I just try to keep positive, be nice to people, help people if I can, love my pets & spend lots of time in my garden where there is peace.
I get you. I am 55 now. Similar story almost for me but it was violence and thankfully not sexual abuse. I have spent a year listening to Little Shaman, Inner Integration and Surviving to Thriving and other YTUBE channels on Healing from Narcissistic Abuse. It really helps to understand that it's not and never was us. Counsellors and psychiatrists don't really understand what Narcissistic Abuse is or about CPTSD. We have to retrain and Rewire our brains by pulling ourselves up and replacing negative thoughts re the past with good ones. Eg tell ourselves it's just an old program of our ANS (Autonomic Nervous system ) and stay in the present. Art and crafts help me. It's tough but we deserve to be happy. Good luck on your healing journey and God bless you.
Hi Brian,
I agree with you..Some women do attract wrong man instead of good men. And I have experienced to have a bad relationships with a lousy guys for almost 3 to 4 years..He had lied to me from the initial relationship that he is single.
At last, I analysis and truly understand the motive towards me..some bad guys just need finanical support towards them. He had given all his love to me with his motives. In fact, he had been married with 2 kids. After I have find out the truth, I was so disappointed and disheartened at the moment.
At the end, I pull myself out of the relationship..I have stopped to communicate with him. I have pray to god to give me strength and courage to heal the wounds.
Therefore, I walk through the dark side..I have continue to build my happiness to take care of myself..I have moved on my own happiness towards my positive lifestyle.
Great points, and I agree with your second reason. But if women find normal guys boring, what should they do to change that? The emotional roller coaster isn’t good and yes they should leave bad guys, but a boring relationship isn’t good either. What’s the fix for that?
PS Love your channel, Brian!
Be friends first is what I've been told. See if the friendship can deepen and see if you have mutual interests first. Take time, and get to know them as a person before thinking of them as a future marriage partner (or similar). That is the advice I myself have heard. It's difficult to put into practice, of course, esp. if you are specifically looking for a romantic attachment right away.
Thank you Brian for this great video. Would you please talk about the steps of turning a friendship into a relationship?
What are the different key elements of each that we need to pay more attention to? And how is it truly possible to make a good relationship based on a friendship without distroying the friendship itself if it doesn't work out? Thank you
Interesting... & thank you for the laughs of the internal dialogue.
You're funny. 😁
I'd love more to know of how guy's think.
I can't tell if a man is interested unless they talk to me. I find it's much easier if all you want to be is friends and not date, but do things you both enjoy doing.
Thank you for the video! It was great how you managed to act out these types of guys! So talented!
What was said was more for those who are starting out the dating game! After a bit of dating, a smart gal has it down for her own good! 👍
Don’t like shy men.. I realize I attracted shy men in the past because I was more masculine.. I worked on myself and now I want a man with high self-esteem and knows who he is..
You upgraded yourself and your expectations went higher. It's perfectly logical. Just don't put people down. Lift them up. Then, reject them.
Shy doesn't contradict high self estime.
@@fannybindeki7686 It does. If you esteem yourself so much, then what's stopping you from introducing your awesome self to that attractive lady and getting to know her?
Some men (and women) are just introverts. They don’t need constant stimulation via social interaction. Doesn’t make them low self-esteem or lack confidence or even shy, but those things are often confused.
@@rockstarofredondo exactly..
Brian, thank you for the manner with which you share. This had an uncomfortable truth, but those are important. The impressions were funny and relatable. I had no clue.
Briannnnn yasss so happy you’re posting again and to be here early! I love been binge watching all your videos and was like whennnns the next one! I’m writing this as the video is beginning I’ll listen now 👂🏼
WoW just listened this is so me! I really need to do this and not just reciprocate with the guys that have too much arrogance. Amazing content as always Brian so super helpful my fav coach on YT
Always valuable to hear a sensitive man's point of view. His makes a lot of sense. Thank you!
You reminded me of chandler when you were doing the second guy character 🤣🤣🤣
Thank you Brian Knox! This was very helpful!
Wow. Thank you. I really appreciate your manner of delivery...kind, truthful, humorous. Thank you!
this must be why nobody asks me out... yes, that is it, I'm just very attractive..... sounds good to me
Hahahaha the first scenario with the beer. The accuracy.
if a woman only accepts crumbs from a player then she needs to learn self love and respect...a man who needs to be a player is obviously lacking in their emotional life and to lazy to work on themselves to be a better man for a decent self respecting woman..thats my opinion
You are absolutely correct
Women can be difficult sometimes. Players know when to quit the game lol
@@thehowlingmisogynist9871 obviously u have not read the comment correctly. seems like a nerve has been struck. are u one of those players that need validation from woman to feel good about yourself? co-dependancy is off putting..
@@thehowlingmisogynist9871 lol @ ur keyboard anger. no offence but u kind of look like a dickhead raging on a "player' comment that u clearly have not read properly. there are meditation subliminals u might want to look at on utube..might do u good
When men say a lot of sweet words , usually too good to be true then weed them out.
Lol I love your "thought re-enactment " acting... it's the best 🤣
Now, I have a question, apparently I don't understand anything.
I always believed that if man is interested - he will go for it. Its a man after all.
If woman chases a guy (which I always include the first move) it automatically puts her in the
"Nah, I don't have to move finger for her, oh great she is easy, better - no respect required, that the "fun girl but nothing serious" compartment.
Ok. I'm a relatively shy guy who most of the times doesn't "go for it". It's not necessarily just fear holding me back. I've approached girls (I'm 24 now) who initially showed signs of interest (either physically or because of my sense of humor) and exchanged numbers with them. When I text, all of a sudden they stop showing interest. If I call them, either they respond very nonchalantly or not pick up and send me a text asking why I'm calling. Being quite introverted, it annoys me to go through hoops to get a date. I'm quite lazy and putting in effort for me has to be met with effort from the other side.
I've been down paths where I put more effort than the girl and she ended up friendzoning me or playing games to get my attention and validation. I end up putting them down with my brutal honesty. It makes me feel a bit like an asshole and then I have to do mental gymnastics to realize I'm not a punching bag.
Girls who have made the first move usually never take the risk to ask for a date. Only hinting, which based on experience puts them in a spot to deny responsibility if the date doesn't go as planned. I hate bringing up the fact that the girl showed me interest so I just move on. But it does leave a sour taste.
All in all, whoever puts in effort (first) has to stand their ground and expect the other to do the same. I know it sounds too logical, but in our times women have all the same rights as men. Entitlement to traditional roles is only attractive if it's followed in all aspects, not just the ones that are convenient to the person.
@@Protestan88 ok, so I tell you something to it....
Equality between man and woman...
Woman doesn't get equal pay as man.
Woman has to be better than man to get credit.
Woman is expected to take care of household and carrier while being pretty. While man only takes care if himself - the carrier.
Yet man ask quiet often on the first dates if woman cooks..... Excuse me but I must to to restroom to laugh. Because if I would be same donkey I would answer: do you build a house with your hands? Do you fix a car by yourself? Or only something? Cuz if only something...then I think its fair if I buy precooked things and warm it up for you in microwave.
Now about the man and woman in the dating scene....
Man wants to "milk a cow without buying and feeding it."
So in my opinion - no. You want something? Be a man and go get it.
You can't? Too bad.
And if some woman out of pitty, desperacy or whatever - approaches man first - she is basically telling him, you good, no efgort needed, here I am, a cow you can milk without buying and feeding.
.... but again...I apparently don't understand anything...
@@Dexterosa Yes, you don't understand anything....
@@commanddept so please provide your explanation and enlighten me ;)
post more frequently please.
that's what I wanna request 😊
I just have to say I am mid video maybe 5 th and I paused to say you are freaking funny, the most wanted list I’m still laughing and the angry looking pigeons, the what guys are thinking hilarious. Thank you for the info and the laughs
This was sooo good Brian!!! Thanks for making it. You are THE BEST!!!!👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
Brian, I have to say I started watching your videos a few years ago and I didn't particularly care for me but NOW - Idk if I've grown or you have or both lol -your videos really resonates with me now and I find you so sincere, compassionate and truly helpful. Thank you!
Just open up a conversation and let them take over. That way no one leaves embarrassed, he can ask you out or smile and keep moving.