How Many Dates Before You're Exclusive

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  • @Blazingwheel
    @Blazingwheel 2 роки тому +27

    3rd - 4th date is optimal, that way it won't drag on and you find out if you're wasting time or not

  • @alexandria4401
    @alexandria4401 4 роки тому +94

    I know it shouldn’t take a year.

    • @ciggytwiggy
      @ciggytwiggy 2 роки тому +3

      🤣🤣🤣

    • @brad3201
      @brad3201 Місяць тому

      Guilty of this. She finally left after 11 months. I feel bad

  • @5erytfshfjo97r7dygkpu
    @5erytfshfjo97r7dygkpu Рік тому +7

    After 4 dates, I'm already asking what they think. (1-2 weeks). I don't want to waste my time if they don't view relationship the same way.

  • @dave-j-k
    @dave-j-k Рік тому +8

    I think its important to have this conversation and get exclusivity sorted out as soon as you are ready to focus on building a relationship, I for one could not think of building a deeper connection if there is any thought that either party may be looking at others at the same time. Relationships need trust and loyalty. My guess is around 5-6 dates in - you should have a good idea by then if you are both suited to going further.

  • @esh2616
    @esh2616 2 роки тому +21

    I agree 💯 all it takes is one conversation
    And I did that last week and now we’re exclusive dating and heading into a relationship

  • @c.j.c7919
    @c.j.c7919 5 років тому +35

    we went on our second date last night and she said i think we should go on more see where our heads at and if were ready. in my head im like howwww longggg damn it

    • @MarkOBrian
      @MarkOBrian Рік тому

      Can you update us on this

    • @c.j.c7919
      @c.j.c7919 Рік тому +6

      @@MarkOBrian she felt she was dealing with a lot in her life at that time and let me go cause she didn’t want to drag me along

  • @Golds-worthy
    @Golds-worthy 3 роки тому +24

    I’m confused. Being exclusive doesn’t mean he’s your boyfriend right? It just mean exclusive dating. Which means getting to know only you and no one else but he’s not saying that you’re his girlfriend. Can you please give me your opinion? Thanks!

    • @JaeChristt
      @JaeChristt Рік тому

      I agree

    • @jenjames8005
      @jenjames8005 7 місяців тому +4

      That's exactly what exclusivity means. You're only seeing one another.... while possibly working towards commitment.

  • @janettaosborne6013
    @janettaosborne6013 4 роки тому +21

    3 months

  • @getitbck
    @getitbck 6 років тому +6

    Hey Coach Cass! I believe it is exactly what you said. It depends. Both have to be aligned on what they are looking for and commit by saying so. We will get in trouble by thinking something on what end while the other is on a totally different page :)

  • @shirlynpalmer1459
    @shirlynpalmer1459 6 років тому +7

    I am so glad that you said this because I realize I did the right thing, it was him that was misleading. He probably wasn't sincere with the answer he gave. Because his action showed other wise. I should have left a long time ago.

  • @tiaboo2008
    @tiaboo2008 2 роки тому +10

    I got here because I’m in the situation right now. I’ve sorta put all pause on my interactions with others outside of him but we still are not exclusive. It’s been well over 4 months. Im thinking of bringing up the convo after my bday to see if it’s going to be anything. I’ve been told that Men know.. if he is leading me on i want to get off this trail and on to another path. I really like him but I LOVE me even more and more so not to put myself in this situation. The question is should I stay and wait or just count my loss of 4 months and move on

  • @anvoeske
    @anvoeske 3 роки тому +15

    Im here for the “wassup”

  • @Bodahboi
    @Bodahboi 2 місяці тому

    Solid advice sis.🔥

  • @masikasauda7673
    @masikasauda7673 2 місяці тому

    I needed this

  • @user-jv5ju8qy2f
    @user-jv5ju8qy2f 11 місяців тому

    yes

  • @saramalveaux2221
    @saramalveaux2221 3 роки тому

    I agree

  • @jakecooley7603
    @jakecooley7603 2 місяці тому

    Amen

  • @mikeheffernan265
    @mikeheffernan265 4 роки тому

    Great vid!

  • @jizajularbal6387
    @jizajularbal6387 3 роки тому +3

    Do we have to ask to be exclusive before having sex?

    • @NiaMSnow
      @NiaMSnow 2 роки тому

      I would if I were you

    • @JohnVillalta
      @JohnVillalta Рік тому +3

      That's definitely up to your moral compass and theirs. I think the majority of us nowadays that are outside of my generation's "hook up" culture like to be exclusive before having sex. I'm the same way. It's difficult to bring up the subject of sex before being exclusive because it might come off as too direct and open. You could go that route however, I've seen other people who have had sex first and then gone exclusive. It's ultimately up to what both of you want. If you don't know what they want, ask them :)

  • @dcox3046
    @dcox3046 3 роки тому

    Hello

  • @juliannaokike4063
    @juliannaokike4063 4 роки тому +1

    1 year is courtship relationship.

  • @missleigh336
    @missleigh336 3 роки тому

    Amen 🙏🏾

  • @yasminemohamed913
    @yasminemohamed913 Рік тому

    ❤❤

  • @Tribulentertainment
    @Tribulentertainment Рік тому +1

    i asked her to be exclusive last night, after being with her for 3 years, her reply was ( what do you mean ) ( i said in a sexual manner, meaning its only you and me having sex, no one else ) her reply was your single and im single. ( which basically tells me she might be having sex with others )
    i replied okay with a smirk.
    she texted me today saying we can be exclusive but you gotta help me get this house. ( i havent yet replied to her text )
    i dont know what to do now, i do love her.

    • @azmike3572
      @azmike3572 10 місяців тому +1

      Did she mean helping financially to buy a house she wanted?

    • @Tribulentertainment
      @Tribulentertainment 10 місяців тому

      @@azmike3572 like in paying for the morgage

    • @dragonfly4494
      @dragonfly4494 7 місяців тому +2

      Dude,I hope you are not still with her because you are being played.

    • @Tribulentertainment
      @Tribulentertainment 7 місяців тому

      @@dragonfly4494 yes im still with her, and funny how today we get into an arguement cause hermom cussed her out, and she taken it out on me, and said shes done with me. now she wont answer my calls

    • @jenjames8005
      @jenjames8005 7 місяців тому +2

      Well damn.....

  • @marcedwards2464
    @marcedwards2464 9 місяців тому

    After 33 for women is over unless you got a fast metabolism you're not going to look like Jada pinkett at ,50 stomach area a major key then nobody talks about

    • @jenjames8005
      @jenjames8005 7 місяців тому

      You funny as hell! Have YOU looked at YOU! 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I'm 39 & fine AF. Ask my man. 😋🤷🏾‍♀

  • @yashara1e
    @yashara1e 11 місяців тому

    Hate that whatsup