tbh i NEVER understood neither the boob job mania nor the bbl hype. I personally LIKE it when the boobs medium or smaller. Even if your totally flat like in that videos at the beginning it's totally fine for me. There is even a fetish name "dfc" - delicious flat chest - if you are into small to very small cup sizes. Same goes for ass. But both are of course just my personal preferences. Of course there ARE also men who have a preference of large boobs or large butts. But heres the thing: Why do you care? Why do you try to switch from being the type of some men to being the type of OTHER men?! If he is not physically attracted to you, the other guy maybe is. If you are slim and have a flat ass or a flat chest - embrace it and be happy about it! Of course you may not be attreactive to some men, but NOONE is attractive to ALL men! Yesterday a friend told me he doesn't like Zendayas looks. So.... do you think she should have plastic surgery because of his opinion?! ;-)
the way they talk, walk or simply the way they react to stuff in my opinion. you help a lot of people -including me- realize how beautiful they are, you are like a big sister i neved had
Honestly? I’m a big boob girly and my experience was still horrible. I also used to slouch to hide them, was called a sl*t and a wh*re. When I was A CHILD (literally 11 years old) people would look at my boobs instead of my face while talking to me. My family members would make comments about my breast and would make me really uncomfortable. Plus my back hurts all the time. It doesn’t matter if your boobs are big or small, society still finds the way to make you feel like sh*t. So you can just stop worrying and caring about it, cause there always will be a person who doesn’t like how you look. It’s not worth the risk in my opinion.
Same. And for me it grew so fast it left a ton of BRIGHT RED stretch marks on my boobs. I was ten at the time. The color faded over time, but the texture is still there. I had people asking "Oh did you c*t your boobs as a form of selfh*rm??" No, i didn't. It's just the way I am. And i would rather be flatter that the earth than have another bus ride turn into a free corn show.
That's really sad and I'm sorry, but to be completely polite...this video is about the problems flatter girls face. I'm glad you feel comfortable to share, but please don't undermine the problems smaller boobed girls face
YES OMG as a big chested girly (32H) i think ppl need to learn to love themselves as they are. i have scoliosis (since im tall) and with the weight of big boobs there is some serious pain i deal with. i also constantly get objectified, by guys but surprise here, MOSTLY GIRLS. i was a C in fifth grade and since then ive been getting unwanted attention from so many people, no matter what i wear since even baggy tshirts can only hide so much. the cons outweigh the pros in so many ways. im not saying ppl shouldnt get boob jobs if thats rly what they want to do, but to think that will be the solution for an insecurity i think is inaccurate.
Seeing adult men constantly sneaking looks at my 14yo daughter’s naturally large boobs, as they walked past, was repulsive. I also have naturally big boobs and remember the looks and comments I got, when I was younger. It made me feel ashamed of my body. I hope my (now 20yo) daughter doesn’t feel that way.
@@IfYouAreReadingThisILYI’ve heard if you have a baby, they get bigger, then shrink smaller than how they originally were after breastfeeding. So hoping for this outcome as an almost 18 yr old😭 maybe you won’t need one if you ever have a kid
@@anonim5750 the thing is that I am underage and often feel intimidated by those men. I am not trying to seduce them, I am literally just existing and an old guy will be staring. It's creepy
the chemicals like BPA used in cheap baby bottles and other plastic containers is what is causing early puberty and issues with hormonal change, while genetics play a part, its also bpa chemicals
I was also very self conscious about my two cherries and considered surgery. When i did my research and read all the stories of women who experienced all sorts of side effects, i decided my cherries are beautiful and healthy and if i need to put my life at risk to get a man, i'd rather stay flat chested and single, thank you very much. Love your flat chests ladies! Remember, most top models and some of the most beautiful actresses also have modest bossoms!
Right?? And they were considered the most beautiful women in the world in the 90s. I feel like everything would be different if we weren't bombarded with 'beauty standards' and other people's opinions on how we should look. I think if that wasn't a thing, women and girls would be more realistic when it comes to their bodies, meaning - they might not like a thing or two but they would be more acceptive of their own looks and would actually feel good and not insecure. PS. I'm glad you've put your insecurities behind you! :)
Yeah I listened to Haley Kalil's journey and she eventually had her implants removed but she got some fat transfer done to get the desired cherries. Alexandra Girly Talk also had her implants removed because she already had a good size and the implants were causing illness as was the case with Haley and Natalie's Outlet who also hers removed.
i have natural g cups - yes, G. and theyre a curse - i wish i was flat - theyre so uncomfortable (especially in the summer), my back is gone (im young, mind you, my back should be functioning) none of my clothes sit properly on me, (the front of a shirt will always ride up, or they push fabric in a way that makes my arms look weird for some reason) also cute bras dont exist for me. you think looks trump comfort until you have to spend more than 2 hours in a bra and then youre screaming towards comfort. so the only bras i can wear are these extra support ugly and atrociously expensive monstrosities (they literally look like bomb vests) to strap myself in - otherwise my posture looks like a cashew. i cant go anywhere without a bra either, and to reiterate - it is so bloody hard to find clothes that fit me (im a medium in everything but my boobs, and im petite on top of that so the struggle to find things is REAL). - bathing suits, HA, as if, i will never have a one-piece bathing suit that properly fits me unless i get it handmaid or tailored - i cant lie on my stomache - sometimes im just tryna breathe and the effort to lift my damn chest with every breath is exhausting ive legit had days where i wanted to rip them off if only to have the freedom of small boobs i yearn to breathe and stomache-sleep with ease
@@nopenerp6862 I have natural F cups an all of this feels so real, I find myeslf crying a lot of times for the hell that I have to overcome to find clothes that suit me and actually look good. It's imposible, shirts just look like I am under an umbrella and things that have any kind of neckline just don't fit. Also, even though most girls think is the opposite, clothes are made for really small chest, more than a C would not fit in most clothes and I'm tired of hearing people say "this would look really good on me if I had yours breasts". I get mad and told them that I will prove them wrong and then I put the top/dress/whatever and they start seeing the problem. Thinking in exercising make me anxious because I have to choose between not breathing or not doing exercise (I found swimming really nice because of the lack of gravity but finding a swimsuit is really hard and may produce a lot of anxiety and discomfort). Also I have a lot of chafings under my breasts. I have developed agoraphobia because I live in a small village where there's a lot of dirty old men that have commented on my body and say really pederastic things to me since I was 11. After I started to use a D cup (at 15 years old), that went worse and I just couldn't go out using an XL sweater that covered my body. I live in Europe and this shouldn't be happening. I have developed a lot of trauma with my chest and it's really horrible, I don't feel pretty, I feel horrible, with horrible bras, horrible skin in the chest. I just want to get them out but that's a really difficult surgery. It's expensive, the recovery is so long, it really hurts, there are big scars and you will probably be unable to brestfeed your children or have sensitivity in the nipples anymore. So it's a big thing, but I'm just tired of being like this.
When you get older your breast's will probably also get bigger especially around late twenties I'd say atleast wait till then to decide because doing it early could make you not get them naturally like you could've had before. I don't know many flat chested 30 year old women
It's funny how, on one side, girls are shamed when they are flat, but also, if they have bigger boobs. As a girl/woman, you're always on the losing side with your natural traits because if you are content with the way you look, not much money can be extorted from you🤷♀️
I'm a guy with body dysmorphia around my height, and while I had empathy for women's body image issues before seeing this, I'm glad to have a deeper understanding from reading all these comments. It's like some women feel like they have to constantly strike the right balance of weight, boob size, makeup, etc. for it to be "just right". And men need be one extreme as much as possible - big. Tall with big muscles and a strong jawline.
Depends. Celebrities go overboard with it so yeah but if a normal person with a receding chin will get it fixed they’re most likely going to look more attractive. Plastic surgery is okay as long as you want to change one/two things about yourself to fit the rest of your face/ your body but if you want to look like a completely different person then it’s wrong and you need to see a therapist.
I feel sad that so many women feel embarrassed about being flat chested when I think they look so feminine in a sleek and sophisticated way, especially with flowy clothing. Actually, most of the clothing that I like look the best on people with flatter chests!
Same! Sleek is the word I always use because they look so elegant and gorgeous. Like glass art, just so well shaped and they carry the clothes so well. Of course, there's still clothes that kind of "require" chest volume to hold the shape up, but there's plenty that work for flatter chests nowadays. I truly envy them. Own your flat chest!
In ancient India, it was not considered vulgar for women to go topless. This practice was influenced by the climate, local customs, and societal norms of modesty and propriety, which evolved over time.Many Hindu deities, including goddesses, are depicted in minimal clothing or topless in ancient temple carvings and sculptures, symbolizing purity, fertility, and divinity. This indicates a cultural acceptance of such depictions.The hot and humid climate in many parts of India made minimal clothing practical and comfortable. This practicality influenced the norms of dress.The perception of nudity and body display as vulgar largely came with the advent of British colonial rule in the 19th century, which imposed Victorian moral standards on Indian society. Before this, Indian norms were quite different.
Get your facts right. To your kind information only women of so called "low castes " were forbidden from covering their upper part of body, they had to pay tax to cover their body so ridiculous and here you are glorifying it so ridiculous. Women had to fight for their right that were always their. Many died in those protest just so that they could save their dignity. If you don't know both sides of the history then study don't blindly those complete biased one sided article and videos online just focusing on good part and neglecting the evil side. blindly saying that our culture was and is best and need no reforms but reality is that every culture , religion or just ideologies need some reforms to be best.
hmm , so you mean that wearing cloths on upper body is a britain gift, and you want to change it , .. really excited to see topless girls in world . and yeah dont call me pervert or start abusing my family , i am just stating my point👍👍
as a flat person dammmmn i care literally 0% what people think about it and yes i'm fine with it, i like sleeping on my stomach so it's pretty comfy xD no back pain i guess, less sweating and free from bras if u wish anyhow, women have to decide for themselves what fits them more, not the delusional society that changes trends daily
what fits women more is the breasts they were naturally born with, which are healthy and perform the functions they were designed to. no one needs a boob job.
When I was in middle school i would get bullied for being in 8th grade and still having a flat chest. I'm 16 now ab to be a senior in high school and still flat asf. It's been hard to accept myself, but looking up to women who are confident with the same body as me, makes me feel better
Hello, I’m 20. Still have a small chest. But over time you realize about what really matters in life and what doesn’t. If anything I’ve learned to embrace what I have. I’ve heard many horror stories from my big chested friends such as back pain and terrible fits of jiggling when they workout. But I don’t gotta worry about none of that. Fitting into any shirt is also a plus. Sleeping face down is another. Embrace what you have. ❤
Girl models are also small chested. And i think flat chested girls are rlly sleek and beautiful. Like so ethereal. Free from bras, no pain while jumping or running, no back pain, and clothes fit uu. Don't be insecure. Love your itty bitty titties 😝
I am curvy (wide hips and naturally bigger chest) and I never understood why smaller boobs or flat chest were considered unattractive or not feminine. Having or not having big breasts has nothing to do with being feminine or beautiful. I actually have some shirts in my closet that would fit so much better and look better on me if my breasts were smaller. It's all a matter of perspective; mine is - you all look freaking amazing.
My biggest issue with being flat chested is that I have to alter ALL my clothes. I got over how my chest looks and could not care what others think of me. That stopped bothering me a long time ago. But man the damn clothes. They never fit me properly.
The clothing industry is discriminating against anybody who is not standard shape. However that is a problem they are creating. We should not alter ourselves to fit clothes. The clothing industry needs to change (in more ways than this). Quality clothes and shoes made to fit actual humans should be the norm. Not cheap cookie cutter plastic clothes made by people who earn next to nothing only to make some disgustingly rich man even richer. Keep your perfect body. Change the clothes.
I've bigger ahem cherries for my waist size and for some reason I find it so hard to find bras and clothes that aren't too tight on my cherries and not too loose on the waist and mind you I don't have like extraordinary big cherries. I've to alter all my clothes too.
while i understand the opposing perspective, it is very frustrating seeing TONS of comments saying ‘i don’t get it’ from people with large chests. breasts are literally the pinnacle of feminine beauty. when you grow up with media showing you only medium/large breasts as attractive or beautiful, it starts to take a toll on you when you’re small chested. i have nearly no projection of my chest, and feel awful and unfeminine. it also really sucks if you don’t have wide hips or aren’t curvy. being compared to a boy sucks. and no, not all clothes fit us. i tried wearing a tubeless top in the smallest size from pacsun and it still didn’t fit me. it made me realize my boobs are smaller than what they are. granted i believe i suffer from body dysmorphia, as i literally cannot go a day without being insecure over my size and body shape. body positivity and loving yourself the way it is seems like a chore and a joke. i feel absolutely ugly in my own body. i would take (more) back pain if it meant i could have bigger breasts.
It’s bad faith to conflate your worth as an individual with your femininity or attractiveness, it’s true that society values women based on how beautiful they are, but it’s also true that the societies we live in are corrupt, cruel and unjust. Just because having bigger boobs might be pushed by society as being more desirable, doesn’t mean that you will automatically be better off or happier if you did have them. Regardless, women are treated terribly. And even the privileges that come with fitting in the societal standard aren’t real privileges, they come with exploitative expectations and objectification. Life becomes so much freer when you realize that you are so much more than what you look like. Don’t let society pressure you into believing different.
I don't see any comments saying they don't get it. I do see lots of comments by people with large breasts explaining that large breasts have a lot of problems too not to dismiss small breasts as not a trial but to explain, because she's talking about the fact she's considered plastic surgery. I'm sorry you feel bad about your body.
As someone who's smaller in size but with full breasts-which draw even more unwanted attention-I always fantasise about being flat-chested due to the sexualization I've experienced since I hit puberty. People of all genders feel comfortable commenting on my chest, which is super awkward, especially because I'm trying to hide them most of the time (I even wear binders sometimes). All of this is to say I always find it quite strange when people get boob jobs because, for me, bigger boobs equal discomfort and body dysmorphia. I guess we're never happy, huh!?
i dont like standing straight cause it feels like i want to draw attention to my chest cause theyre quite big. one of the reasons im usually slouching...
True, I like tight clothing, it’s cute and all when you see it on other people but as soon as I wear I hate how it looks on me. It’s real shitty and fact I see so much girls with smaller breast that look amazing wearing them, it makes me jealous tbh
That's so many things. Makeup (chemicals), eating disorders, pregnancy and stds, sooooo many things that make women's physical health worse. not to mention mental health. we sacrifice our mental health trying to meet these impossible, crazy double-standards -- we have to care about our appearances, but not too much or we're shallow and vapid. we have to be sexually appealing and available but only in theory -- If we are actually openly sexual we're sluts. we are responsible for our own safety and if we get in a bad situation or are exploited it's our fault, but also we are supposed to give men the benefit of the doubt and not generalize them???
The thing that sucks, if you dont have big boobs youre not feminine but god forbid youre an early bloomer and get harrased and bullied over that. There is no way to win.
Food for thought- Large breast implants can and DO reduce quality of the CPR you receive!!! Correct hand placement/ automated compression machine placement on the chest is made soooo hard by implants that don’t fall to the side like natural tissue.
I heard a lot of these insults as a kid, especially from my adult family members. Such lovely people. Keira Knightley, Shakira, and Kate Moss always made me feel better about my small boobs.
also the «shame» and «guilt» of being the only flatchested in the family! I'm so sorry for my younger self, worried about those banal things and destroying my mental health in the process. I'm still learning, I have bad and good days, but well, I don't want to cry silently for hours again. I want to accept that being healthy is the only thing I should worry about, and not those beauty standars. Thanks for making this video. Send you a hug 💐
Many of these beauty standards are perpetuated and upheld by women themselves rather than just over-sexualised media. My chest is on the smaller side and I have never felt extremely insecure about it. But there are moments that make me more insecure sometimes. Like there's a girl in my class with very desirable curves and she was making comments about models that we were watching practicing for runway ,(it was fashion week and I'm a fashion design student) ridiculing models with flat chests or small chests, and being thankful for her puberty as she doesn't look like a "teen boy". That moment made me question what she must think of me as well but I don't let such people affect me now.
Well yeah what I observe was that those masspower-champs of females actually imposed the majority of societal 'norms' (not really common sense nor anything making sense) because they're eachothers' pleaser regardless of gender. Not even having authentic 'standards' derived from their own thoughts let alone minimally subjective/more objective ones. Lol, most of nowadays society are made of dramaphiles and pickmes anyway.
Her comment comes from jealousy that she feels towards models because they get attention and money from their looks. That makes her feel less worthy so she tries to compliment her own features that she has that the models don’t.
As a person with a medium sized chest I can def say that society has definitely influenced on how I look at them. When I wore closed shirts I've been called conservative, and when I've worn tight shirts or even a tank top I've been called sl**y and asking for it. I don't think it's fair how society puts these pressures on women who are just trying to live life. And I think it's so sad how underaged girls going through puberty feel sad about their bodies when every body is different and beautiful.
My dad had a saying regarding breasts "anything bigger than a handful is a waist" granted it is meant to be said aloud because people will assume you're saying waste and are an itty bitty titty supremacist, but I digress. When I actually thought to ask him to explain what he meant he told me that no matter the size of the breasts on a woman they will always be a handful each, and no matter the size of a woman's waist it will always be two handfuls (as in put a hand on either side of her waist). Basically his way of saying be thankful for any handfuls a woman allows you to hold and don't get hung up on size. I hope this was at least somewhat coherent, to any ladies with small boobs reading this I hope my small anecdote in some way made you love your boobs (I know I do) even just a little.
That’s actually a pretty cool perspective. Wise man your dad is, and obviously knows how to appreciate women. Gives me an interesting insight for viewing my own body and smaller boobs now. Thanks for sharing 💗
I struggled for a long time to finally accept myself. I had it ingrained in my mind that I am flat-chested, since I was at school. Since school, and even though I have changed physically I have distorted image of myself! This should not be the time when someone worries if they look sexy or not :( I am glad that there are youtubers like you zoe!! genuinelly makes me feel like I am not alone. Social media gaslights us to think that it is weird to be imperfect. Let us embrace ourselves!
Let's be real this is crazy how normalized it became to do a chest implant. And im proud of myself that as a flat girl, i feel comfortable in society. Though ngl sometimes i had thoughts of how small they are. But then i think: it's so comfortable when they are small that i dont think of them at all. Once i met a guy that looked at chest like i have big ones and i realized that size doesn't matter 🙂 At the end of the day, with the real person you will be loved no matter how you look!
Plastic surgery in general has been so normalised??? Its crazy to me. Breast implants, bbls, all kinds of fillers, it seems like every second girl i see on social media has had her lips/chest/butt/ face in general surgically altered and im??? Speechless. How did that become so acceptable. Im all for plastic surgery if someone truly wants it but i do think we should ne a bit more critical about it, as in, maybe evaluate first what makes you dislike your body and why, and perhaps reconsider if its worth surgery, which is always invasive.
i've fallen down rabbit holes into fat transfer, augmentation, etc. But then when I hear about the complications (fat necrosis, issues with mammograms, etc) I decide that it is way better not to fuck with your body medically if you don't have to. and the thought of silicone ruptures, needing more surgeries to upkeep, etc. (not to mention the cost) always ends with me realizing that it is way healthier--mentally, physically, and financially--to just be happy with what you've got lol
Ask anyone who has had the pleasure of seeing them about how beautiful they are 😊 my husband always tells me how he appreciates the girls no matter how I feel about them
I was you a few years ago. Bought A to D bras because I was insecure. I also ended up getting implants and then removing them 3.5 years later. I can only tell you 1 thing. Love yourself. I know it’s cliche but it’s the best solution. Find outfits that make you feel good with your natural size, try different styles maybe. Smaller chests can look very elegant and sophisticated in the right clothes
Thank you for making this video. As a flat-chested woman I appreciate seeing other women that look like me on social media. I don’t even talk about my insecurities anymore cos they end up being minimized or brushed off. So I felt seen watching this. Yay acknowledgement!! I’ve come to learn that as long as we’re women, our physical appearance will be judged in some way because men (ofc not all) have an obsession with putting women down and women (ofc not all) feel the need to lower other women too. If you haven’t received this treatment yet, just live long enough… they judge women for aging too 🙃
Finally a woman is talking about all this, we need more women who think that way. All women, since we were little, have felt pressured to comply with stereotypes That society imposes on us. We always try to fit into those standards and feel bad for not fitting in. But the truth is, it has taken me years to realize that we are perfect the way we are, And if we don't love each other as we are, who will? The change begins when we begin to love ourselves deeply, there is nothing wrong with not fitting those stereotypes, we are all beautiful. So, please, do not mistreat your body, do not harm it, do not hate yourself, you are divine and unique ✨ Thank u so much @zoeunlimited for this video ❤
this video really hit, especially when you talked about how you would go back and tell your younger self that she really is beautiful. being flat-chested has never been easy, and I love how you tackled the issue of the perception of beauty and it's standards. in the end, you're right. we should all choose to set our own standards. thanks for making me feel seen, heard, and accepted. much love.
oooh a video about flat chests and girls with bigger boobs are here to belittling our problems and make it "we have it worse" again like it is some kind of competition. i hate that
for real, most of these other comments are from girls with bigger boobs and are talking about their problems, but if you see a video about having big boobs, the most i see from the flat-chested girls will be along the lines of 'i wish'. its the same thing with videos about fat shaming vs skinny shaming, smaller girls apparently arent supposed to have problems and talk about them. the double standard drives me crazy
A lot of smaller breasted women are saying things like ‘the most beautiful women in the world have smaller chests’ and ‘there’s a reason why all of the top models have small chests’ and ‘small chests are so elegant and sophisticated.’ Women with larger breasts are often called wh*res, sl*ts, cheap, and easy simply for having boobs irregardless of their actual behavior and level of modesty. To see a bunch of smaller chested women say the same thing they’ve been told all of their lives by men, medium chested women, and small chested women is obviously going to hurt. You can’t say ‘sympathize with my issue’ and then inadvertently insult the other party. It’s ignorant.
@@bambi9609 victim mentality at its finest. I have never, ever seen ANY woman with small breast saying "there is a reason why all of the top models have small chest" because guess what? Most of them are NOT small chested. What is wrong with calling small breast elegant and sophisticated? Does it annoy you when people call big breast femine, sexy? Becuase media and most of the people has been doing that for centuries. Do women like Mila Jovovich, Mila Kunis, Natalie Portman, Emma Watson, Cameron Diaz and Kendall Jenner are not beautiful because of their small chest? Nobody is saying that they are the most beautiful because of their small chest lol.
@@bambi9609 victim mentality of its finest. Where is the insult? there is no competition of who has it worse but thanks for proving my point, lol. Nobody wants your sympathy, just leave us a pleace to breathe. ‘there’s a reason why all of the top models have small chests’, said by no woman with smaller breasts, ever. Because guess what, most of them doesnt even have small breasts? do some small chested women say that small chests are so elegant and sophisticated? Damn, how dare they? Do you have the same problem when many big breasted women and the society saying big breasts are femine, sexy, beutiful etc? The society, media, most man and A LOT of woman has been saying it for the hundreds of years. Are they saying that ‘the most beautiful women in the world have smaller chests"? Again, how dare they! Woman like Milla Jovovich, Mila Kunis, Cameron Diaz, Natalie Portman, Gal Gadot, Emma Watson, Kendall Jenner etc cant be called the "most beautiful" woman of the world because they lack big breasts, which is the biggest symbol of feminity and female beauty. Maybe a lot of woman doesn't see brests a standart of beauty, thats all. It may shock you, but women with smaller breasts are often called wh*res, sl*ts, cheap, and easy simply for being woman irregardless of their actual behavior and level of modesty too, but you probably wont belive me, since only big breasted woman can be assaulted, catcalled, right? Small breasted or flat woman can go naked and uh, nothing would happen? Are the even woman? Many of your and other big breasted woman here very muc give "ugly woman dont get s-e-ually harassed" energy, which is disgusting. I beg you to have no symphaty with me. Tho i doubt that you even have it to begin with. To see a bunch of smaller chested women say the same thing they’ve been told all of their lives by men, medium chested women, and small chested women is obviously going to hurt? What does that even mean?
Its a never ending cycle of wanting what you don’t have even subconsciously… as a person with too much boob i’d love to be flat as a pancake, and from discussions with similar sized friends the consensus is the same we just want them gone, but i also have friends who have none and wish they did. Its a lose lose for the majority. the girlies just can never catch a break.
I just wish we all be nice to each other regardless of chest size. I think now people just hate boobs, in general. I have natural bigger boobs, but do I feel attractive with them? No. Cloths manufactures make things that are best for B or C cup. It's hard to find cloth that don't make me look like a grandmother, feeding mother or sex worker. In real life, I've only heard men say that they prefer smaller chests (I've heard not once men say that they prefer when they can fit a whole boob in their one palm). In MY opinion, men like to only look at big boobs, not to have a girlfriend with them. And my shoulders and back hurt. And if I dare complain about my struggles, people mock me. In this world we live in, there are only cons to have any boobs. That's why I just wish that every woman to be happy.
As a B cup- no, clothing is not good for me either. If it fits the boobs then it doesn't fit the shoulders/waist etc. It might be because my frame is small but trust me clothing hates anyone that isn't the "average" body type I'm convinced clothing just also hates women in general I've mostly heard guys say they want bigger boobed girls. Maybe it's a regional thing but where I live I was constantly flat shamed or compared to a child
@@HazZzel- but ig we shouldn't date guys who like you jus cuz of your body. Such guys are jus lusty, they don't know a thing about love. It's all about lust for them
@@blairxxxxxxxx real. Honestly glad for my chest sometimes because most of those kind of guys don't go after me. Man, I want a guy that loves me but also wants me. Or a girl. Hope I find someone soon 😭
@@HazZzel- yep. You will find for sure!..Someone who loves your face, body, personality and most importantly loves your heart over everything else. My way of looking for such guys is talking to only those who appreciate your kindness and beauty, not jus body. There are good people too. And we jus want one to ourselves so we can find him/her for sure.
This world really needs more people and not just girls who don't succumb to the pressure of selling their bodies for even a shrivel of pointless outside-validation and instead grow in silence where very fewer people can take advantage of them and will be blown away by what one person can do when they stop pleasing society and instead honor themselves.
I am someone who has very uneven breasts. It makes it difficult to wear some clothes and I struggle to wear bathing suits because of it. It began to happen when I hit puberty, didn't think much of it. Middle school rolled around, wore really baggy clothes to hide it. Freshman year of highschool, simple padding or a push-up bra wasn't fixing anything. My mom took me to a plastic surgeon to speak about it and I was given the option of getting plastic surgery after I turned 17. We talked about the different "implant" options, and I felt most comfortable with a fat transfer. I am still debating wether or not I want to actually get plastic surgery done, and if I do it will only be on one of my boobs. I'm not doing it for other people, I'm not doing it for any sexual reasons. None of that shit. I just want to feel comfortable in my own body. I want to be able to look at my body in the mirror and not see myself as "misshapen". If me getting plastic surgery to even-out my chest makes me happy, then I'll get it. If not, then I'll grow to embrace my uneven chest and not feel ashamed of it. You can have big or small breasts, it doesn't matter. As long as you're comfortable and happy. Remember that :)
Filters scar me so much because it’s one thing to see someone else with a body you want but to see YOURSELF with a body you don’t have is even more harmful to your own sense of self and reality!
A toxic thought I often tell myself is that it’s going to be hard to find a partner that likes my mosquito bites. I also tell myself that I should at least work on getting a booty by exercising to compensate for that. If anyone else feels like me, we need to reevaluate our values because we are so much more than our appearance. 💜 stay strong my flat girlies
Its really funny to me that everyone wants so desperately to have big boobs. Meanwhile in my head I always percieved myself as being flat chested or small but dissociated from the never ending growing size of my boobs. I stopped wearing real bras at 19 and so i never was conscious of my real "size". In my late 20s I got off mirena and my breasts grew like 3 cup sizes in 4 months and that was truly the last straw for me. I got top surgery this February. Went from a 30F to the equivalent of a 30A. I've never been happier. I may no longer be someone elses image of beauty and desirability but GOD doing this for ME was so worth it. I wasn't able to work out, I felt terrible in all my clothes. I couldn't wear fashion I liked without people oggling me. I had constant neck pain. I hope they never grow back.
Thank you so much for making this video, Im so glad someone is finally talking about this and how there are more risks to consider. It's hard to know whether you want to change how you look because it makes you "feel better" or if you are truly just doing it for approval. YOURE VIDEOS ARE THE BEST
I love this video so much. Women are being pressured into doing these kinds of invasive surgeries while men don't. People might say men are compensating on small size (of you know what) but they don't have to get surgery because no one is going to see it except for whoever they go to bed with. And I love Clara, the first girl you showed, cause she does body positivity posts on her IG even though she gets a ton of comments saying she's so flat. She's beautiful
What I really don't like about beauty standards is that it's shrowded in shame. I hope one day we can let go of beauty standards and acknowlege beauty without shame
The thing is you can’t get it right in today’s world! For example you are shamed if you are thinner and flat but also shamed if you are bigger and curvy! Because has Taylor swift said if you have enough weight on you to have curves then you are too fat but if you are skinny and may not have curves you are flat!! I is so hard to have confidence but if you are going to be judged and criticized either way then just do what YOU WANT! It is your beautiful body and your choice! I hope everybody has a great day and remember you are beautiful! ❤
When I was young I thought my boobs were normal, but all my friends had smaller ones, so everyone made fun of my boobs. It doesn't matter how you look, people will make fun of you anyways, so the only opinion that matters about your body is your own.
i'm watching this as someone who has considered getting a breast reduction bc growing up i would kill to be "flat", most models are flat and can wear so many dresses without worrying about bra situations
When I was a teenager I thought that someday I would have breast surgery and go up a size or two. As the years went by and I had friends with large breasts and I saw the problems that this entailed: back pain, discomfort, fear of wearing cleavage because of the looks, etc. In the end I did the hardest and cheapest thing: accept my body. No matter what size you are, you are fine as you are. PS: it's okay if you had the surgery and I hope you accept yourself and are happy.
What's always been frustrating to me is that, as a girl who was naturally on the opposite side of this issue by nature, I have a different set of insecurities and frustrations that stem from it. It just constantly feels like there is no winning. No matter the size, no one should ever feel like it's acceptable to comment on your breasts freely. I know as a woman on the larger side, I don't deal with the commentary, but I deal with being constantly annoyed with clothing and feeling ugly and/or out of place. A shirt doesn't fit right because it isn't made for my size boobs, so I have to go up a size, and then the rest of the shirt no longer fits, and I feel fat for having to go up a size, and the cycle of insecurity continues. I often found myself in my early adulthood wanting a breast reduction so I could feel "normal". I reiterate my original point, but it just feels like no one can win.
My partner tried to convince me to get implants like he convinced his last partner. Hell no. (Also, no shade for anyone who chooses implants for themselves. The issue was that if I did it, it wouldn't be for me.)
I grew up with very large breasts from a super young age (first in my school to develop, went from flat to D cup in 5th grade). At 18 I had my breasts removed for medical reasons. It's been just under a decade and I still feel like a part of the way I see myself has been taken, but breast implants scare the shit out of me so I guess I'm living with it now.
I had implants for 3.5 years. Wanted them for a decade because of social standards. After around 6mo I started developing an array of side effects like bloating, digestive issues, inflammation in my chest and face etc. Not to mention they changed my entire body and didn’t fit my slim frame at all, which after coming off the high of finally getting what I thought I wanted, made me super self conscious and uncomfortable with myself. Taking them out was the best decision ever. Haven’t looked back since
I've actually been thinking about getting implants for a long time. I'm not a flat chest girlie, but I have a mild case of tuberous breasts. It is my biggest insecurity and I don't think I could ever love myself with it. Everytime I look at them I cry. It's honestly depressing.
I remember being in 6th grade and two of my friends developed earlier and were talking about their bras and how cool it was to have boobs. At some point they turned to me and asked if I was wearing a bra with underwire and lace etc and I just said I wasn't because I didn't really need it yet. They told me "if you're not wearing a bra, you're not a real woman" and that my chest was too small. I was barely 12 and even though I developed later on, this thing haunted me for years. I would stuff my bras, wear two at a time, try and "pull on them" so they grow, anything at all. Even when I was 9 at a sports camp I remember other kids talking about stuff like that. KIDS. I can see how insane and ridiculous this was now but back then, my entire world revolved around it. It's so scary how early on we develop these insecurities and distorted outlooks on the world and ourselves.
My boobs weren’t even small (I was a B cup in high school, though I’m now a C) and I STILL was unhappy with them as a teen. Thinking back on my life now, I realize I was unhappy with them until I got married and felt validation of them from a man. That really reflects sadly on our society that so many women will only feel good about our boobs once we feel validated by men.
Funny, having large breasts just led me to be sexualised by grown men at a younger age and I ended up idolising flat chested women. At school it wasn't an issue, but I went to a girl's school and we didn't really compare or care about our cup sizes among ourselves. As an adult I've made peace with my body type, though I still want a reduction for health purposes (small back, large pain).
Jordan Theresa talked about this recently in her video about short hair, where she said that women are in this dilema. Woman who don not fit conventional beauty standarts get lots of hate, and get treated less kindly by others. However Beauty in woman is also associated with incompetance, which shows at the work place. As a woman in the computer sience field I can back this up. In both places I have worked in so far, the first thing they told me, was to wear longer skirts and higher necklines. I am naturally curvy, and I am sometimes jealous of girls who have flatter chests or bums, because I often feel like my coworkers might take me more seriously, if i was less curvy. At the same time I recognize the fact that they open up to me quicker, are polite, and find me generally likeable, has much to with the way I look. As women we are meant to look feminin, but not too feminin, and thats bullcr*p. Just love your body and stay healthy, physically and mentally. In this lifetime you will probably be the only person you'll be able to please.
I may have a D sized cup, but even then I was told by someone to have a breast reduction because my chest was "ugly" and undesirable... after years I was told by the same person my chest size was perfect but they were too saggy so I needed to have a breast lift ... btw I was 16 years old and the person was my mom
It's scary what's been coming out recently about breast implant illness (sidenote it is not yet considered an official diagnosis) but alone the rates of autoimmune disorders that correlate with breast implants is worrying, of course we don't know 100% if they're related and might just be because women are already more likely to have auto immune disorders. I reckon in a few years they'll be a lot more cases of BII , unfortunately like most women's health problems they aren't taken seriously or in many cases believed
ive been yearning for a boob job for yrs and yrs but i rlly wanna make it right and with a good chunk of money.. but rn w 23 ive been living paycheck to paycheck, having debts and still figuring out lots of adult life, so gotta prioritize especially my financial upstanding, i see that
I'm naturally curvy, and as a teen, it hasn't been a good experience. I always felt super self conscious about it, you can't run without feeling nasty (literally doing anything physically challenging is feels so ick), it's super awkward when you try on clothing because most shirts aren't really made for curvy girls, and it's super annoying to always have back pain. And I honestly don't feel comfortable going outside without wearing a hoodie because of my curves (but I've never wanted to surgically alter myself, I just feel uncomfie bc most girls my age aren't so curvy). Not to mention the fact that t-shirts always fit really weirdly.... Girls, moral of the story is: the grass is usually not as green on the other side as you think it is. Be yourself, no matter how uncomfortable, you are you. You are not defined by a trend!
i got called a boy for so long when i was younger (by men and women) that now when someone finds me attractive i'm like '' what '' because i can't really believe it. doesn't matter how many pics of myself i take, i never seem to know what i look like to other people.
I remember when i was a teenager, i was the first at my age to start growing boobs and be curvy and let me tell you, i was so ashamed of my body! I would get overly sexualized with 11 years and that made me wear bigger clothes to hide how i really looked like. I wanted to be flat chested because i think it looks so cute 🥺 now I'm fine with how I look but it's been a journey jajsjaja. Seems like we women cant win 😵💫
I used to really hate my chest, but I’ve come to realize a lot of great things about it. For one, having a flat chest makes me look a lot more athletic and fit. Two, plenty of tops look much more elegant on me. And three, I don’t have to deal with bra size stress, back problems and more. 😂
I did a breast reduction recently and it was one of the top decisions I made. A lot of people were saying "give me part of your boobs haha" or "what does your bf think?", which were actually quite terrible comments. Scars are not exactly pretty and at the end of the day it's an operation with its risks, however, not thinking about your boobs all the time is a blessing. Going downstairs without thinking if they bounce/hurt, not having to wear double bra for working out, going to the stores and finding shirts pieces that fit, being able to buy bras and bikinis wherever, having less back pain, people not looking at your boobs before your face... never have I regretted the decision, I have no implants so there are none of the additional risks of inserting something foreign in your body :) (Actually, it's one of the plastic surgeries with the least amount of regret, 95%/98% satisfaction depending on the studies you're looking at and I consider it kind of medical in a way) Honestly you do you always, considering pros and cons from each procedure and having some kind of mental health considerations (to ensure you're not projecting other problems into your body and thinking less/more boobs will make you happy/satisfied with life)
I never had the world tell me I needed implants. When your body proportions are off and you are insecure of your boob size why not get them done after researching it. I am tall and have wide hip bones. Being flat didnt feel right on me. If I was skinnier I could have accepted but after 20 something years, I decided to finally ditch the double cup push up bras and just get implants. I love them!
I’m a 32D or double D depending on wait. I can’t find my bra size anywhere. I have to wear sport bras. I haven’t felt pretty in a bra since 2019. I can’t wear sundresses because the fabric for the boob doesn’t cover my boob. And if I tried, then either the seam that’s supposed to go under the breast, would go right straight through the middle of my boob, making it unflattering and look ill fitting, or, my whole sport bra would just be spilling out. It’s not fun. Also, I am always dismissed by the bigger chested girls whenever I join in and say yeah, I can’t find my bra size either, they say well, you’re not that big so it’s not a big deal you don’t understand. When I was younger, I didn’t get to feel sexy. I got to feel like I was the distraction, if I wore a V-neck men would make comments about how I just wanted attention, or women as well. It’s not fun. I just want anyone out there who wishes they had more to know, that I dream about that really good feeling to be able to wear whatever clothes you want. Please please please don’t hate yourself. Just try to find something to enjoy about it.
I feel the same, definitely trying to find the postive aspects of having either small or big boobs is the best thing to do, society will never be satisfied anyways, it's always sexualising or shaming women for their boobs, but we just want to live in our bodies like normal humans 😭
Something a lot of people don't think about is upkeep. These procedures need to be revisited and often changed and that costs money. It's not a one purchase deal.
i just can’t put into words how much i relate to you rn btw you’re so SO feminine that i was so focused on that, that i didn’t even pay attention to your chest until you pointed it out ^^
As someone who has had a bigger chest since 12 years old. Being asked if you got a boob job at 12 is the most belittling thing you can ask a girl. People would go up to me and poke them asking if they were real. I can not win women cannot win
It’s crazy because even if you have boobs or/and butt naturally. Many women will still feel unsatisfied. Especially since everything is getting more extreme. It’s better just to love yourself for what it is.
I’ve been ridiculed for having small boobs and always had someone misgender me bc of them. And I wish for all small boobied women to feel comfortable in their skin, but I’m still going to have to get a boob job just bc of my own mental health and gender affirmation:,) it’ll probably mess me up but idc at this point
Recently learned from a friend that I was bullied in middle school for my chest. My mind probably blocked out the memory, and I never wrote about it in my journal. I think I also didn’t realize they were making fun of me when it happened to my face. They’d say, “I bet it’s easier to figure skate with such a small chest” and I would very plainly agree with them and they’d giggle. I remember looking down at my chest and thinking about how I could make it look bigger, trying to outrun the nickname skinny mini, and the fact that I was in training bras. I think this conversation is so important. I am the smallest chested woman in my extended family, and for once in my life I am glad for it.
I recently became a subscriber of yours a few weeks back and I'm so glad I did. I'm 22 and if I saw this as a teenager I would have been so happy. I'm so glad this video exists for people who have a flat chest (like myself) and to gain self confidence in themselves and not just base it off chest size.
Girl you are beautiful. I’m a millennial and a mom of 3. I was small chested (before kids) and I have an uncommon nipple shape, so I know what you mean about insecurities. However I found a man who loves me, all of me, and also I had no issues breastfeeding my babies. They work marvelously. Plastic boobs won’t do that for anyone
I had big breast since 10 years old; was a fucking nightmare, I hated how grown adults men harasst me. When I was a teen thing didn't get better, I hated my body and I feel like I was deform; I eventually had a boyfriend that like big size chest thinking I would have some kind of vantage over other women, soon you get that there will be always a woman with a bigger chest, and feels like they never like u for how you are cuz It's never enough, and a person that only liked u for that it's going to change u for that. As an adult I understood that it wasn't never about my body and adjust your body for men validation it's a never ending story. So yeah, you better like yourself just the way you are, other ways it's never going to work. Sorry for bad English
To be fair! My obsession with just a slightly bbeeeg cherries started from animes because the characters would be my age and still have bigger cherries and i thought that maybe i was missing out on something , even the girls in my class had big cherries and i always took it personally...but theres a difference i dont want bigs because to "attract" i just want them for "myself satisfaction" so you dont need to pressure yourselves thats just how society works 💕💕💖
Anime is super weird about this!!! I don’t understand why it’s like that especially in shows meant for kids and teens to enjoy. Seems portrayed in an objectifying way. People love it and are fine with it though
Women should be reminded that breasts get a little bigger every year until you are mid 20s. I don't think any teens should be getting breast augmentation. Thin women are unlikely to have big breasts naturally.
never heard of your breast getting bigger until mid 20’s, at least in the case of starting out with small breasts. maybe if you gain weight or just gravity dragging them down, but I do agree that no teens should get any plastic surgery in general, along with it being risky health wise, maybe you will start regretting getting it done in the first place because your brain wasn’t even fully developed at the time
I am 33/34B chested,24inches waisted and 35inches butted girl and my overall body ratio is hourglass figure. I don't want to get any bigger.(I had dysphormia and i am trying to fix it) I love my present body. I built and found my confidence with pilates and healthy eating years ago. I just want to prioritize my happiness and health than other. As you said, i am happy for women got done their boobs job and happy for that. If you got beauty standard body, happy for you. If you didn't have standard size, ratio, keep your confidence up because you are beautiful and unique as well. Being a woman itself is very fascinating and enjoy your life.❤ With love 🎀💕
I had big boobs, they hurt my back, made me slouch often, I got way too much unwanted attention and the simplest clothes made me look kind of vulgar(not because of others think, but because I felt that way). So, I ended up getting a surgery and made them smaller. I feel happy and content now.
Respectfully- I'm glad big chested girls are supporting us...but you kind of don't get it. Hearing you say you wish your booba were smaller is nice and all, but it lowkey feels a bit like you're completely invalidating the problems small boobed girls face. Like, it sucks on both sides of the spectrum, but can we please actually acknowledge the point of this vid (girls with smaller booba and the unjust treatment they receive) rather then subtly going "oh but I have it worse!" It sucks either way. But right now we're talking about the "flat" pains. Ones I've struggled with my entirety of adolescence
this hit close to home, its kinda disturbing to think back to when i was young and have my self-incert character always have big boobs or even sexualize it in any way possible. I never found myself atractive, but my confidence was overall really low, not just bc of my body. Even though i like and dare say love anime, the hyper sexualization of women and the fixiation on their boobs, is a thing that i will put on the hall of shame. Still i somehow could climb over the low self-esteem part of my life and started to look more inward. I'm taking care of myself, as in skin care and make-up (since my acne hurts my skin, but also i see this as a sign of self love, since when i hated myself the most, i didn't even cared to shower) and the overall positivity kinda changed me to not hate on my flat self or the not that curvy look and feel absolutly good in my own body. I don't have any tipps or good explanation how i got here, but i feel like this has alot to do with my wish to change and start to embrace people, try to get out of my shell, find connections and reconect with some loose ends (like the trip back to china to visit my family helped in some way, this happened when i felt like i was becomming a different person, but in a good way). Can't say it will work 100% for everyone, but still wish you and everyone else who is struggling can reach the same destination and start loving themselves :')
For me I've always been insecure about the saggy-ness of mine and I got especially more-so when I worked up the courage to ask my childhood pediatrician if it was normal for them to look like this and her response was so awful I hated that lady. I just hate how if your boobs aren't "picture perfect" you get mentally damaged in all kinds of ways
And thats when i remember to be even more grateful for Islam and for being a hijaby, Muslim women wear the Hijab to be able to be perceived as for what she truly is, to give her her pure value without external standards and without her being sexualized or bodyshamed by society.
ok so i got a storytime right here, it was my farewell party and i have boobs, and one of my teachers said 'cover up your stuff is showing' like as if IM the one showing em like the things which exist will ofc be visible ( trust me i wasn't wearing anything revealing ) SO GIRLIES LISTEN. WE.👏WONT.👏WIN.👏EITHER.👏WAY.👏i just wanna say yall are SO beautiful whichever body type you have and collectively lets try to make it 'we will win either way' by spreading body positivity
What do you think makes someone feminine?🤍
Chromosomes, hormones, genitals. Everything else is just social constructs.
@@jjk4464 yup lol. having a p*ssy
a certain kind of grace who comes from the person...and you have it
tbh i NEVER understood neither the boob job mania nor the bbl hype. I personally LIKE it when the boobs medium or smaller. Even if your totally flat like in that videos at the beginning it's totally fine for me. There is even a fetish name "dfc" - delicious flat chest - if you are into small to very small cup sizes. Same goes for ass.
But both are of course just my personal preferences. Of course there ARE also men who have a preference of large boobs or large butts.
But heres the thing: Why do you care? Why do you try to switch from being the type of some men to being the type of OTHER men?!
If he is not physically attracted to you, the other guy maybe is.
If you are slim and have a flat ass or a flat chest - embrace it and be happy about it! Of course you may not be attreactive to some men, but NOONE is attractive to ALL men! Yesterday a friend told me he doesn't like Zendayas looks. So.... do you think she should have plastic surgery because of his opinion?! ;-)
the way they talk, walk or simply the way they react to stuff in my opinion. you help a lot of people -including me- realize how beautiful they are, you are like a big sister i neved had
It's sad how much the world pressures girls to change.
It's mostly other girls, men dgaf.
Obsessed with a prepubescent girls boobs is starting to crawl into my mind and it's gross to realize it...
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@ville__every girl and women cares.
Honestly? I’m a big boob girly and my experience was still horrible. I also used to slouch to hide them, was called a sl*t and a wh*re. When I was A CHILD (literally 11 years old) people would look at my boobs instead of my face while talking to me. My family members would make comments about my breast and would make me really uncomfortable. Plus my back hurts all the time. It doesn’t matter if your boobs are big or small, society still finds the way to make you feel like sh*t. So you can just stop worrying and caring about it, cause there always will be a person who doesn’t like how you look. It’s not worth the risk in my opinion.
Same. And for me it grew so fast it left a ton of BRIGHT RED stretch marks on my boobs. I was ten at the time.
The color faded over time, but the texture is still there. I had people asking "Oh did you c*t your boobs as a form of selfh*rm??"
No, i didn't. It's just the way I am. And i would rather be flatter that the earth than have another bus ride turn into a free corn show.
That’s so sad, I’m sorry you went through that
That's really sad and I'm sorry, but to be completely polite...this video is about the problems flatter girls face. I'm glad you feel comfortable to share, but please don't undermine the problems smaller boobed girls face
Girl same.
YES OMG as a big chested girly (32H) i think ppl need to learn to love themselves as they are. i have scoliosis (since im tall) and with the weight of big boobs there is some serious pain i deal with. i also constantly get objectified, by guys but surprise here, MOSTLY GIRLS. i was a C in fifth grade and since then ive been getting unwanted attention from so many people, no matter what i wear since even baggy tshirts can only hide so much. the cons outweigh the pros in so many ways. im not saying ppl shouldnt get boob jobs if thats rly what they want to do, but to think that will be the solution for an insecurity i think is inaccurate.
Seeing adult men constantly sneaking looks at my 14yo daughter’s naturally large boobs, as they walked past, was repulsive. I also have naturally big boobs and remember the looks and comments I got, when I was younger. It made me feel ashamed of my body. I hope my (now 20yo) daughter doesn’t feel that way.
As a 17 year old with a large chest; I want that reduction
@@IfYouAreReadingThisILYI’ve heard if you have a baby, they get bigger, then shrink smaller than how they originally were after breastfeeding. So hoping for this outcome as an almost 18 yr old😭 maybe you won’t need one if you ever have a kid
Lol my b00bs are not even big and I used to have the same experience.. I can imagine how worse it was for you. This makes me furious
@@anonim5750 the thing is that I am underage and often feel intimidated by those men. I am not trying to seduce them, I am literally just existing and an old guy will be staring. It's creepy
the chemicals like BPA used in cheap baby bottles and other plastic containers is what is causing early puberty and issues with hormonal change, while genetics play a part, its also bpa chemicals
I was also very self conscious about my two cherries and considered surgery. When i did my research and read all the stories of women who experienced all sorts of side effects, i decided my cherries are beautiful and healthy and if i need to put my life at risk to get a man, i'd rather stay flat chested and single, thank you very much. Love your flat chests ladies! Remember, most top models and some of the most beautiful actresses also have modest bossoms!
Right?? And they were considered the most beautiful women in the world in the 90s. I feel like everything would be different if we weren't bombarded with 'beauty standards' and other people's opinions on how we should look. I think if that wasn't a thing, women and girls would be more realistic when it comes to their bodies, meaning - they might not like a thing or two but they would be more acceptive of their own looks and would actually feel good and not insecure. PS. I'm glad you've put your insecurities behind you! :)
Yeah I listened to Haley Kalil's journey and she eventually had her implants removed but she got some fat transfer done to get the desired cherries. Alexandra Girly Talk also had her implants removed because she already had a good size and the implants were causing illness as was the case with Haley and Natalie's Outlet who also hers removed.
i have natural g cups - yes, G. and theyre a curse - i wish i was flat - theyre so uncomfortable (especially in the summer), my back is gone (im young, mind you, my back should be functioning) none of my clothes sit properly on me, (the front of a shirt will always ride up, or they push fabric in a way that makes my arms look weird for some reason) also cute bras dont exist for me. you think looks trump comfort until you have to spend more than 2 hours in a bra and then youre screaming towards comfort. so the only bras i can wear are these extra support ugly and atrociously expensive monstrosities (they literally look like bomb vests) to strap myself in - otherwise my posture looks like a cashew. i cant go anywhere without a bra either, and to reiterate - it is so bloody hard to find clothes that fit me (im a medium in everything but my boobs, and im petite on top of that so the struggle to find things is REAL). - bathing suits, HA, as if, i will never have a one-piece bathing suit that properly fits me unless i get it handmaid or tailored - i cant lie on my stomache - sometimes im just tryna breathe and the effort to lift my damn chest with every breath is exhausting
ive legit had days where i wanted to rip them off
if only to have the freedom of small boobs
i yearn to breathe and stomache-sleep with ease
@@nopenerp6862 I have natural F cups an all of this feels so real, I find myeslf crying a lot of times for the hell that I have to overcome to find clothes that suit me and actually look good. It's imposible, shirts just look like I am under an umbrella and things that have any kind of neckline just don't fit.
Also, even though most girls think is the opposite, clothes are made for really small chest, more than a C would not fit in most clothes and I'm tired of hearing people say "this would look really good on me if I had yours breasts". I get mad and told them that I will prove them wrong and then I put the top/dress/whatever and they start seeing the problem.
Thinking in exercising make me anxious because I have to choose between not breathing or not doing exercise (I found swimming really nice because of the lack of gravity but finding a swimsuit is really hard and may produce a lot of anxiety and discomfort). Also I have a lot of chafings under my breasts.
I have developed agoraphobia because I live in a small village where there's a lot of dirty old men that have commented on my body and say really pederastic things to me since I was 11. After I started to use a D cup (at 15 years old), that went worse and I just couldn't go out using an XL sweater that covered my body. I live in Europe and this shouldn't be happening.
I have developed a lot of trauma with my chest and it's really horrible, I don't feel pretty, I feel horrible, with horrible bras, horrible skin in the chest. I just want to get them out but that's a really difficult surgery. It's expensive, the recovery is so long, it really hurts, there are big scars and you will probably be unable to brestfeed your children or have sensitivity in the nipples anymore. So it's a big thing, but I'm just tired of being like this.
When you get older your breast's will probably also get bigger especially around late twenties I'd say atleast wait till then to decide because doing it early could make you not get them naturally like you could've had before. I don't know many flat chested 30 year old women
growing up is realising your health was always more valuable than your appearance :')
And then taking steps to improve your health and watching your appearence improve as a side effect
This quote is set as my phone wallpaper. I hate the way I look and it always reminds me how pretty I am without beauty standards and procedures.
@@e_llie4life aww yes
@@hayley8907 absolutely!
It's funny how, on one side, girls are shamed when they are flat, but also, if they have bigger boobs. As a girl/woman, you're always on the losing side with your natural traits because if you are content with the way you look, not much money can be extorted from you🤷♀️
I'm a guy with body dysmorphia around my height, and while I had empathy for women's body image issues before seeing this, I'm glad to have a deeper understanding from reading all these comments. It's like some women feel like they have to constantly strike the right balance of weight, boob size, makeup, etc. for it to be "just right". And men need be one extreme as much as possible - big. Tall with big muscles and a strong jawline.
Yess it's all about money
The natural body is prettier than plastic surgery
yet there are scarcely any celebrity or model who has natural body
@@sir.sleepsalot2711ya got Zendaya and Ariana Grande 😊
yup
Absolutely! Nothing is as bad as a plastic body.
Depends. Celebrities go overboard with it so yeah but if a normal person with a receding chin will get it fixed they’re most likely going to look more attractive. Plastic surgery is okay as long as you want to change one/two things about yourself to fit the rest of your face/ your body but if you want to look like a completely different person then it’s wrong and you need to see a therapist.
I feel sad that so many women feel embarrassed about being flat chested when I think they look so feminine in a sleek and sophisticated way, especially with flowy clothing. Actually, most of the clothing that I like look the best on people with flatter chests!
Same! Sleek is the word I always use because they look so elegant and gorgeous. Like glass art, just so well shaped and they carry the clothes so well. Of course, there's still clothes that kind of "require" chest volume to hold the shape up, but there's plenty that work for flatter chests nowadays. I truly envy them. Own your flat chest!
@ville__ well you care enough to reply on every comment there is…?
Quite backhanded buddy, some women have naturally larger chest
Nothing about this comment was backhanded. They’re only expressing how they personally view flatter chests to look nice in certain styles.
In ancient India, it was not considered vulgar for women to go topless. This practice was influenced by the climate, local customs, and societal norms of modesty and propriety, which evolved over time.Many Hindu deities, including goddesses, are depicted in minimal clothing or topless in ancient temple carvings and sculptures, symbolizing purity, fertility, and divinity. This indicates a cultural acceptance of such depictions.The hot and humid climate in many parts of India made minimal clothing practical and comfortable. This practicality influenced the norms of dress.The perception of nudity and body display as vulgar largely came with the advent of British colonial rule in the 19th century, which imposed Victorian moral standards on Indian society. Before this, Indian norms were quite different.
This brought back memories of historically accurate fashion coloring books I enjoyed as a child. I always found that so cool.
A small correction here. The shift in the norms of dress started with the Sultans and the Mughals.
Get your facts right. To your kind information only women of so called "low castes " were forbidden from covering their upper part of body, they had to pay tax to cover their body so ridiculous and here you are glorifying it so ridiculous. Women had to fight for their right that were always their. Many died in those protest just so that they could save their dignity. If you don't know both sides of the history then study don't blindly those complete biased one sided article and videos online just focusing on good part and neglecting the evil side. blindly saying that our culture was and is best and need no reforms but reality is that every culture , religion or just ideologies need some reforms to be best.
@@iamaplant-5572 yaa thanks
hmm , so you mean that wearing cloths on upper body is a britain gift, and you want to change it , .. really excited to see topless girls in world . and yeah dont call me pervert or start abusing my family , i am just stating my point👍👍
as a flat person dammmmn i care literally 0% what people think about it
and yes i'm fine with it, i like sleeping on my stomach so it's pretty comfy xD no back pain i guess, less sweating and free from bras if u wish
anyhow, women have to decide for themselves what fits them more, not the delusional society that changes trends daily
I’m so glad that you’re happy the way you are! So many of the clothes that I love look amazing and sleek on people with flat chests!
@ville__ Apparently you do? You left more than one comment in the replies. But anyways, here's that attention you wanted.
sounds like a dream 😭*cries in back pain, sweating & bomb-vest-lookin-ass-bras-that-cost-a-mortgage*
@ville__who cares
what fits women more is the breasts they were naturally born with, which are healthy and perform the functions they were designed to. no one needs a boob job.
When I was in middle school i would get bullied for being in 8th grade and still having a flat chest. I'm 16 now ab to be a senior in high school and still flat asf. It's been hard to accept myself, but looking up to women who are confident with the same body as me, makes me feel better
better to not listen to them i'd rather stay flat or get sick, health first
Hello, I’m 20. Still have a small chest. But over time you realize about what really matters in life and what doesn’t. If anything I’ve learned to embrace what I have. I’ve heard many horror stories from my big chested friends such as back pain and terrible fits of jiggling when they workout. But I don’t gotta worry about none of that. Fitting into any shirt is also a plus. Sleeping face down is another. Embrace what you have. ❤
too much eating meat, eh
Girl models are also small chested. And i think flat chested girls are rlly sleek and beautiful. Like so ethereal. Free from bras, no pain while jumping or running, no back pain, and clothes fit uu. Don't be insecure. Love your itty bitty titties 😝
I am curvy (wide hips and naturally bigger chest) and I never understood why smaller boobs or flat chest were considered unattractive or not feminine. Having or not having big breasts has nothing to do with being feminine or beautiful. I actually have some shirts in my closet that would fit so much better and look better on me if my breasts were smaller. It's all a matter of perspective; mine is - you all look freaking amazing.
I had the same thoughts!
Ur saying this as the beauty standard 💀💀💀
Everyone wants what they don’t have
@@kroxxroad814 the appeal of the breasts is canceled out by the shrimp-posture they give me
@kroxxroad814 no girl it depends where you are
My biggest issue with being flat chested is that I have to alter ALL my clothes. I got over how my chest looks and could not care what others think of me. That stopped bothering me a long time ago. But man the damn clothes. They never fit me properly.
The clothing industry is discriminating against anybody who is not standard shape. However that is a problem they are creating. We should not alter ourselves to fit clothes. The clothing industry needs to change (in more ways than this). Quality clothes and shoes made to fit actual humans should be the norm. Not cheap cookie cutter plastic clothes made by people who earn next to nothing only to make some disgustingly rich man even richer. Keep your perfect body. Change the clothes.
i have to do the same thing except i’m a 32H 😭 like the other comment says, if ur not the standard it’s a bit brutal out here
Bro me too
as a 34G - i feel you 😭
I've bigger ahem cherries for my waist size and for some reason I find it so hard to find bras and clothes that aren't too tight on my cherries and not too loose on the waist and mind you I don't have like extraordinary big cherries. I've to alter all my clothes too.
“You will only ever be as beautiful as the standard you choose to set” is so beautiful and inspiring
while i understand the opposing perspective, it is very frustrating seeing TONS of comments saying ‘i don’t get it’ from people with large chests.
breasts are literally the pinnacle of feminine beauty. when you grow up with media showing you only medium/large breasts as attractive or beautiful, it starts to take a toll on you when you’re small chested. i have nearly no projection of my chest, and feel awful and unfeminine. it also really sucks if you don’t have wide hips or aren’t curvy. being compared to a boy sucks. and no, not all clothes fit us. i tried wearing a tubeless top in the smallest size from pacsun and it still didn’t fit me. it made me realize my boobs are smaller than what they are.
granted i believe i suffer from body dysmorphia, as i literally cannot go a day without being insecure over my size and body shape. body positivity and loving yourself the way it is seems like a chore and a joke. i feel absolutely ugly in my own body. i would take (more) back pain if it meant i could have bigger breasts.
It’s bad faith to conflate your worth as an individual with your femininity or attractiveness, it’s true that society values women based on how beautiful they are, but it’s also true that the societies we live in are corrupt, cruel and unjust. Just because having bigger boobs might be pushed by society as being more desirable, doesn’t mean that you will automatically be better off or happier if you did have them. Regardless, women are treated terribly. And even the privileges that come with fitting in the societal standard aren’t real privileges, they come with exploitative expectations and objectification. Life becomes so much freer when you realize that you are so much more than what you look like. Don’t let society pressure you into believing different.
I agree and really relate to your comment, feel hugged!
I think its the hips
Literally most of clothes don’t suit me because they have empty space for breasts.
I don't see any comments saying they don't get it. I do see lots of comments by people with large breasts explaining that large breasts have a lot of problems too not to dismiss small breasts as not a trial but to explain, because she's talking about the fact she's considered plastic surgery. I'm sorry you feel bad about your body.
As someone who's smaller in size but with full breasts-which draw even more unwanted attention-I always fantasise about being flat-chested due to the sexualization I've experienced since I hit puberty. People of all genders feel comfortable commenting on my chest, which is super awkward, especially because I'm trying to hide them most of the time (I even wear binders sometimes). All of this is to say I always find it quite strange when people get boob jobs because, for me, bigger boobs equal discomfort and body dysmorphia. I guess we're never happy, huh!?
i dont like standing straight cause it feels like i want to draw attention to my chest cause theyre quite big. one of the reasons im usually slouching...
True, I like tight clothing, it’s cute and all when you see it on other people but as soon as I wear I hate how it looks on me. It’s real shitty and fact I see so much girls with smaller breast that look amazing wearing them, it makes me jealous tbh
@@diejaykaynz3r078 same
You can always lose weight or get a reduction
“ compromising women’s health for male sexual pleasure” such an unreasonable statement to ponder on
That's so many things. Makeup (chemicals), eating disorders, pregnancy and stds, sooooo many things that make women's physical health worse. not to mention mental health. we sacrifice our mental health trying to meet these impossible, crazy double-standards -- we have to care about our appearances, but not too much or we're shallow and vapid. we have to be sexually appealing and available but only in theory -- If we are actually openly sexual we're sluts. we are responsible for our own safety and if we get in a bad situation or are exploited it's our fault, but also we are supposed to give men the benefit of the doubt and not generalize them???
The thing that sucks, if you dont have big boobs youre not feminine but god forbid youre an early bloomer and get harrased and bullied over that. There is no way to win.
Food for thought- Large breast implants can and DO reduce quality of the CPR you receive!!! Correct hand placement/ automated compression machine placement on the chest is made soooo hard by implants that don’t fall to the side like natural tissue.
I heard a lot of these insults as a kid, especially from my adult family members. Such lovely people.
Keira Knightley, Shakira, and Kate Moss always made me feel better about my small boobs.
also the «shame» and «guilt» of being the only flatchested in the family! I'm so sorry for my younger self, worried about those banal things and destroying my mental health in the process. I'm still learning, I have bad and good days, but well, I don't want to cry silently for hours again. I want to accept that being healthy is the only thing I should worry about, and not those beauty standars.
Thanks for making this video. Send you a hug
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I’m flat chested and never wear push up bras anymore. I’ve learned to embrace it.
That’s good!!! 👍 😊, keep doing you!! 🎉🎉🎉
God bless you pure heart matter💛💛💛💛
Many of these beauty standards are perpetuated and upheld by women themselves rather than just over-sexualised media. My chest is on the smaller side and I have never felt extremely insecure about it. But there are moments that make me more insecure sometimes.
Like there's a girl in my class with very desirable curves and she was making comments about models that we were watching practicing for runway ,(it was fashion week and I'm a fashion design student) ridiculing models with flat chests or small chests, and being thankful for her puberty as she doesn't look like a "teen boy". That moment made me question what she must think of me as well but I don't let such people affect me now.
never made such a long comment anywhere 😭 but yea just wanted to share lol
next time u should ask her if she thinks youre a "teen boy" i bet u her face would be priceless from realizing how dumb she sounds.
Well yeah what I observe was that those masspower-champs of females actually imposed the majority of societal 'norms' (not really common sense nor anything making sense) because they're eachothers' pleaser regardless of gender. Not even having authentic 'standards' derived from their own thoughts let alone minimally subjective/more objective ones. Lol, most of nowadays society are made of dramaphiles and pickmes anyway.
Her comment comes from jealousy that she feels towards models because they get attention and money from their looks. That makes her feel less worthy so she tries to compliment her own features that she has that the models don’t.
As a person with a medium sized chest I can def say that society has definitely influenced on how I look at them. When I wore closed shirts I've been called conservative, and when I've worn tight shirts or even a tank top I've been called sl**y and asking for it. I don't think it's fair how society puts these pressures on women who are just trying to live life.
And I think it's so sad how underaged girls going through puberty feel sad about their bodies when every body is different and beautiful.
My dad had a saying regarding breasts "anything bigger than a handful is a waist" granted it is meant to be said aloud because people will assume you're saying waste and are an itty bitty titty supremacist, but I digress. When I actually thought to ask him to explain what he meant he told me that no matter the size of the breasts on a woman they will always be a handful each, and no matter the size of a woman's waist it will always be two handfuls (as in put a hand on either side of her waist). Basically his way of saying be thankful for any handfuls a woman allows you to hold and don't get hung up on size.
I hope this was at least somewhat coherent, to any ladies with small boobs reading this I hope my small anecdote in some way made you love your boobs (I know I do) even just a little.
That’s actually a pretty cool perspective. Wise man your dad is, and obviously knows how to appreciate women. Gives me an interesting insight for viewing my own body and smaller boobs now. Thanks for sharing 💗
I struggled for a long time to finally accept myself. I had it ingrained in my mind that I am flat-chested, since I was at school. Since school, and even though I have changed physically I have distorted image of myself! This should not be the time when someone worries if they look sexy or not :( I am glad that there are youtubers like you zoe!! genuinelly makes me feel like I am not alone. Social media gaslights us to think that it is weird to be imperfect. Let us embrace ourselves!
Let's be real this is crazy how normalized it became to do a chest implant. And im proud of myself that as a flat girl, i feel comfortable in society. Though ngl sometimes i had thoughts of how small they are. But then i think: it's so comfortable when they are small that i dont think of them at all.
Once i met a guy that looked at chest like i have big ones and i realized that size doesn't matter 🙂
At the end of the day, with the real person you will be loved no matter how you look!
Plastic surgery in general has been so normalised??? Its crazy to me. Breast implants, bbls, all kinds of fillers, it seems like every second girl i see on social media has had her lips/chest/butt/ face in general surgically altered and im??? Speechless. How did that become so acceptable. Im all for plastic surgery if someone truly wants it but i do think we should ne a bit more critical about it, as in, maybe evaluate first what makes you dislike your body and why, and perhaps reconsider if its worth surgery, which is always invasive.
i've fallen down rabbit holes into fat transfer, augmentation, etc. But then when I hear about the complications (fat necrosis, issues with mammograms, etc) I decide that it is way better not to fuck with your body medically if you don't have to. and the thought of silicone ruptures, needing more surgeries to upkeep, etc. (not to mention the cost) always ends with me realizing that it is way healthier--mentally, physically, and financially--to just be happy with what you've got lol
@UTTP-142 you don't have any content
I literally just bought some padded bras because I'm insecure about my chest 😭😭
Ask anyone who has had the pleasure of seeing them about how beautiful they are 😊 my husband always tells me how he appreciates the girls no matter how I feel about them
I was you a few years ago. Bought A to D bras because I was insecure. I also ended up getting implants and then removing them 3.5 years later. I can only tell you 1 thing. Love yourself. I know it’s cliche but it’s the best solution. Find outfits that make you feel good with your natural size, try different styles maybe. Smaller chests can look very elegant and sophisticated in the right clothes
@@joonjiguk yea I am trying to find my own style
youre more than ur breast. see ur value pls
and boys also have insoles for height , dont be sad, after all its only hearts that matters🤷♂🤷♂👍👍
The right partner says whatever you have is what they want.
Henry vi wasn’t Queen Elizabeth the firsts father, that was king Henry viii 5:24
Thank you for making this video. As a flat-chested woman I appreciate seeing other women that look like me on social media. I don’t even talk about my insecurities anymore cos they end up being minimized or brushed off. So I felt seen watching this. Yay acknowledgement!!
I’ve come to learn that as long as we’re women, our physical appearance will be judged in some way because men (ofc not all) have an obsession with putting women down and women (ofc not all) feel the need to lower other women too. If you haven’t received this treatment yet, just live long enough… they judge women for aging too 🙃
Finally a woman is talking about all this, we need more women who think that way. All women, since we were little, have felt pressured to comply with stereotypes That society imposes on us. We always try to fit into those standards and feel bad for not fitting in. But the truth is, it has taken me years to realize that we are perfect the way we are, And if we don't love each other as we are, who will? The change begins when we begin to love ourselves deeply, there is nothing wrong with not fitting those stereotypes, we are all beautiful.
So, please, do not mistreat your body, do not harm it, do not hate yourself, you are divine and unique ✨
Thank u so much @zoeunlimited for this video ❤
The reply above me is retarded
I love your videos. There so informative and you always speak about important topics, while letting everyone Livingstone their live.
this video really hit, especially when you talked about how you would go back and tell your younger self that she really is beautiful. being flat-chested has never been easy, and I love how you tackled the issue of the perception of beauty and it's standards. in the end, you're right. we should all choose to set our own standards. thanks for making me feel seen, heard, and accepted. much love.
oooh a video about flat chests and girls with bigger boobs are here to belittling our problems and make it "we have it worse" again like it is some kind of competition. i hate that
right, same here
for real, most of these other comments are from girls with bigger boobs and are talking about their problems, but if you see a video about having big boobs, the most i see from the flat-chested girls will be along the lines of 'i wish'. its the same thing with videos about fat shaming vs skinny shaming, smaller girls apparently arent supposed to have problems and talk about them. the double standard drives me crazy
A lot of smaller breasted women are saying things like ‘the most beautiful women in the world have smaller chests’ and ‘there’s a reason why all of the top models have small chests’ and ‘small chests are so elegant and sophisticated.’
Women with larger breasts are often called wh*res, sl*ts, cheap, and easy simply for having boobs irregardless of their actual behavior and level of modesty. To see a bunch of smaller chested women say the same thing they’ve been told all of their lives by men, medium chested women, and small chested women is obviously going to hurt.
You can’t say ‘sympathize with my issue’ and then inadvertently insult the other party. It’s ignorant.
@@bambi9609 victim mentality at its finest. I have never, ever seen ANY woman with small breast saying "there is a reason why all of the top models have small chest" because guess what? Most of them are NOT small chested. What is wrong with calling small breast elegant and sophisticated? Does it annoy you when people call big breast femine, sexy? Becuase media and most of the people has been doing that for centuries. Do women like Mila Jovovich, Mila Kunis, Natalie Portman, Emma Watson, Cameron Diaz and Kendall Jenner are not beautiful because of their small chest? Nobody is saying that they are the most beautiful because of their small chest lol.
@@bambi9609 victim mentality of its finest. Where is the insult? there is no competition of who has it worse but thanks for proving my point, lol. Nobody wants your sympathy, just leave us a pleace to breathe. ‘there’s a reason why all of the top models have small chests’, said by no woman with smaller breasts, ever. Because guess what, most of them doesnt even have small breasts? do some small chested women say that small chests are so elegant and sophisticated? Damn, how dare they? Do you have the same problem when many big breasted women and the society saying big breasts are femine, sexy, beutiful etc? The society, media, most man and A LOT of woman has been saying it for the hundreds of years. Are they saying that ‘the most beautiful women in the world have smaller chests"? Again, how dare they! Woman like Milla Jovovich, Mila Kunis, Cameron Diaz, Natalie Portman, Gal Gadot, Emma Watson, Kendall Jenner etc cant be called the "most beautiful" woman of the world because they lack big breasts, which is the biggest symbol of feminity and female beauty. Maybe a lot of woman doesn't see brests a standart of beauty, thats all.
It may shock you, but women with smaller breasts are often called wh*res, sl*ts, cheap, and easy simply for being woman irregardless of their actual behavior and level of modesty too, but you probably wont belive me, since only big breasted woman can be assaulted, catcalled, right? Small breasted or flat woman can go naked and uh, nothing would happen? Are the even woman? Many of your and other big breasted woman here very muc give "ugly woman dont get s-e-ually harassed" energy, which is disgusting. I beg you to have no symphaty with me. Tho i doubt that you even have it to begin with.
To see a bunch of smaller chested women say the same thing they’ve been told all of their lives by men, medium chested women, and small chested women is obviously going to hurt? What does that even mean?
Its a never ending cycle of wanting what you don’t have even subconsciously… as a person with too much boob i’d love to be flat as a pancake, and from discussions with similar sized friends the consensus is the same we just want them gone, but i also have friends who have none and wish they did. Its a lose lose for the majority. the girlies just can never catch a break.
I just wish we all be nice to each other regardless of chest size.
I think now people just hate boobs, in general.
I have natural bigger boobs, but do I feel attractive with them? No. Cloths manufactures make things that are best for B or C cup. It's hard to find cloth that don't make me look like a grandmother, feeding mother or sex worker. In real life, I've only heard men say that they prefer smaller chests (I've heard not once men say that they prefer when they can fit a whole boob in their one palm). In MY opinion, men like to only look at big boobs, not to have a girlfriend with them. And my shoulders and back hurt.
And if I dare complain about my struggles, people mock me.
In this world we live in, there are only cons to have any boobs. That's why I just wish that every woman to be happy.
As a B cup- no, clothing is not good for me either. If it fits the boobs then it doesn't fit the shoulders/waist etc. It might be because my frame is small but trust me clothing hates anyone that isn't the "average" body type
I'm convinced clothing just also hates women in general
I've mostly heard guys say they want bigger boobed girls. Maybe it's a regional thing but where I live I was constantly flat shamed or compared to a child
@@HazZzel- but ig we shouldn't date guys who like you jus cuz of your body. Such guys are jus lusty, they don't know a thing about love. It's all about lust for them
@@blairxxxxxxxx real. Honestly glad for my chest sometimes because most of those kind of guys don't go after me.
Man, I want a guy that loves me but also wants me. Or a girl. Hope I find someone soon 😭
@@HazZzel- yep. You will find for sure!..Someone who loves your face, body, personality and most importantly loves your heart over everything else. My way of looking for such guys is talking to only those who appreciate your kindness and beauty, not jus body. There are good people too. And we jus want one to ourselves so we can find him/her for sure.
This world really needs more people and not just girls who don't succumb to the pressure of selling their bodies for even a shrivel of pointless outside-validation and instead grow in silence where very fewer people can take advantage of them and will be blown away by what one person can do when they stop pleasing society and instead honor themselves.
I am someone who has very uneven breasts. It makes it difficult to wear some clothes and I struggle to wear bathing suits because of it. It began to happen when I hit puberty, didn't think much of it. Middle school rolled around, wore really baggy clothes to hide it. Freshman year of highschool, simple padding or a push-up bra wasn't fixing anything. My mom took me to a plastic surgeon to speak about it and I was given the option of getting plastic surgery after I turned 17. We talked about the different "implant" options, and I felt most comfortable with a fat transfer.
I am still debating wether or not I want to actually get plastic surgery done, and if I do it will only be on one of my boobs. I'm not doing it for other people, I'm not doing it for any sexual reasons. None of that shit. I just want to feel comfortable in my own body. I want to be able to look at my body in the mirror and not see myself as "misshapen".
If me getting plastic surgery to even-out my chest makes me happy, then I'll get it. If not, then I'll grow to embrace my uneven chest and not feel ashamed of it.
You can have big or small breasts, it doesn't matter. As long as you're comfortable and happy.
Remember that :)
Thank you so much from a 36 year old flat chesticled woman. I too suffered when I was 16, how I wish I could have a talk with my younger self
Filters scar me so much because it’s one thing to see someone else with a body you want but to see YOURSELF with a body you don’t have is even more harmful to your own sense of self and reality!
A toxic thought I often tell myself is that it’s going to be hard to find a partner that likes my mosquito bites. I also tell myself that I should at least work on getting a booty by exercising to compensate for that. If anyone else feels like me, we need to reevaluate our values because we are so much more than our appearance. 💜 stay strong my flat girlies
As a DDD, I see someone with anything more than a C and think, their poor back! Big boobs aren't worth the back pain, honestly! 😂
@ville__ Anyone who has to deal with said back pain, obviously! 🙄
Its really funny to me that everyone wants so desperately to have big boobs. Meanwhile in my head I always percieved myself as being flat chested or small but dissociated from the never ending growing size of my boobs. I stopped wearing real bras at 19 and so i never was conscious of my real "size". In my late 20s I got off mirena and my breasts grew like 3 cup sizes in 4 months and that was truly the last straw for me. I got top surgery this February. Went from a 30F to the equivalent of a 30A. I've never been happier. I may no longer be someone elses image of beauty and desirability but GOD doing this for ME was so worth it. I wasn't able to work out, I felt terrible in all my clothes. I couldn't wear fashion I liked without people oggling me. I had constant neck pain. I hope they never grow back.
Was it expensive?
people want things they cant have. i mean even small breasted girls think its "funny" that you would want smaller boobs.
Thank you so much for making this video, Im so glad someone is finally talking about this and how there are more risks to consider. It's hard to know whether you want to change how you look because it makes you "feel better" or if you are truly just doing it for approval. YOURE VIDEOS ARE THE BEST
I love this video so much. Women are being pressured into doing these kinds of invasive surgeries while men don't. People might say men are compensating on small size (of you know what) but they don't have to get surgery because no one is going to see it except for whoever they go to bed with. And I love Clara, the first girl you showed, cause she does body positivity posts on her IG even though she gets a ton of comments saying she's so flat. She's beautiful
What I really don't like about beauty standards is that it's shrowded in shame. I hope one day we can let go of beauty standards and acknowlege beauty without shame
The thing is you can’t get it right in today’s world! For example you are shamed if you are thinner and flat but also shamed if you are bigger and curvy! Because has Taylor swift said if you have enough weight on you to have curves then you are too fat but if you are skinny and may not have curves you are flat!! I is so hard to have confidence but if you are going to be judged and criticized either way then just do what YOU WANT! It is your beautiful body and your choice! I hope everybody has a great day and remember you are beautiful! ❤
When I was young I thought my boobs were normal, but all my friends had smaller ones, so everyone made fun of my boobs. It doesn't matter how you look, people will make fun of you anyways, so the only opinion that matters about your body is your own.
i'm watching this as someone who has considered getting a breast reduction bc growing up i would kill to be "flat", most models are flat and can wear so many dresses without worrying about bra situations
When I was a teenager I thought that someday I would have breast surgery and go up a size or two. As the years went by and I had friends with large breasts and I saw the problems that this entailed: back pain, discomfort, fear of wearing cleavage because of the looks, etc. In the end I did the hardest and cheapest thing: accept my body. No matter what size you are, you are fine as you are.
PS: it's okay if you had the surgery and I hope you accept yourself and are happy.
What's always been frustrating to me is that, as a girl who was naturally on the opposite side of this issue by nature, I have a different set of insecurities and frustrations that stem from it. It just constantly feels like there is no winning. No matter the size, no one should ever feel like it's acceptable to comment on your breasts freely. I know as a woman on the larger side, I don't deal with the commentary, but I deal with being constantly annoyed with clothing and feeling ugly and/or out of place. A shirt doesn't fit right because it isn't made for my size boobs, so I have to go up a size, and then the rest of the shirt no longer fits, and I feel fat for having to go up a size, and the cycle of insecurity continues. I often found myself in my early adulthood wanting a breast reduction so I could feel "normal". I reiterate my original point, but it just feels like no one can win.
i’m flat chested and i love my body, including my small breasts. my body is feminine and beautiful because its a natural female body.
My partner tried to convince me to get implants like he convinced his last partner. Hell no. (Also, no shade for anyone who chooses implants for themselves. The issue was that if I did it, it wouldn't be for me.)
Omg you deserve a better partner
Umm... Is this your current partner or an ex?
I love this kind of video bc, It makes me more aware and less insecure about my outer appearance
I grew up with very large breasts from a super young age (first in my school to develop, went from flat to D cup in 5th grade). At 18 I had my breasts removed for medical reasons. It's been just under a decade and I still feel like a part of the way I see myself has been taken, but breast implants scare the shit out of me so I guess I'm living with it now.
big boobs or not im sure youre still beautiful. You put your health first and thats all that matters
I had implants for 3.5 years. Wanted them for a decade because of social standards. After around 6mo I started developing an array of side effects like bloating, digestive issues, inflammation in my chest and face etc. Not to mention they changed my entire body and didn’t fit my slim frame at all, which after coming off the high of finally getting what I thought I wanted, made me super self conscious and uncomfortable with myself. Taking them out was the best decision ever. Haven’t looked back since
I've actually been thinking about getting implants for a long time. I'm not a flat chest girlie, but I have a mild case of tuberous breasts. It is my biggest insecurity and I don't think I could ever love myself with it. Everytime I look at them I cry. It's honestly depressing.
Oh shit me too it sucks so bad
I remember being in 6th grade and two of my friends developed earlier and were talking about their bras and how cool it was to have boobs. At some point they turned to me and asked if I was wearing a bra with underwire and lace etc and I just said I wasn't because I didn't really need it yet. They told me "if you're not wearing a bra, you're not a real woman" and that my chest was too small. I was barely 12 and even though I developed later on, this thing haunted me for years. I would stuff my bras, wear two at a time, try and "pull on them" so they grow, anything at all. Even when I was 9 at a sports camp I remember other kids talking about stuff like that. KIDS. I can see how insane and ridiculous this was now but back then, my entire world revolved around it. It's so scary how early on we develop these insecurities and distorted outlooks on the world and ourselves.
My boobs weren’t even small (I was a B cup in high school, though I’m now a C) and I STILL was unhappy with them as a teen. Thinking back on my life now, I realize I was unhappy with them until I got married and felt validation of them from a man. That really reflects sadly on our society that so many women will only feel good about our boobs once we feel validated by men.
oh my god i almost got a heart attack because i was expecting MY FAVORITE UA-camR judging about other peoples boobs BUT YOU NEVER DISAPPOINT ZOE
Funny, having large breasts just led me to be sexualised by grown men at a younger age and I ended up idolising flat chested women. At school it wasn't an issue, but I went to a girl's school and we didn't really compare or care about our cup sizes among ourselves. As an adult I've made peace with my body type, though I still want a reduction for health purposes (small back, large pain).
Jordan Theresa talked about this recently in her video about short hair, where she said that women are in this dilema. Woman who don not fit conventional beauty standarts get lots of hate, and get treated less kindly by others. However Beauty in woman is also associated with incompetance, which shows at the work place.
As a woman in the computer sience field I can back this up. In both places I have worked in so far, the first thing they told me, was to wear longer skirts and higher necklines. I am naturally curvy, and I am sometimes jealous of girls who have flatter chests or bums, because I often feel like my coworkers might take me more seriously, if i was less curvy. At the same time I recognize the fact that they open up to me quicker, are polite, and find me generally likeable, has much to with the way I look.
As women we are meant to look feminin, but not too feminin, and thats bullcr*p. Just love your body and stay healthy, physically and mentally. In this lifetime you will probably be the only person you'll be able to please.
I may have a D sized cup, but even then I was told by someone to have a breast reduction because my chest was "ugly" and undesirable... after years I was told by the same person my chest size was perfect but they were too saggy so I needed to have a breast lift ... btw I was 16 years old and the person was my mom
It's scary what's been coming out recently about breast implant illness (sidenote it is not yet considered an official diagnosis) but alone the rates of autoimmune disorders that correlate with breast implants is worrying, of course we don't know 100% if they're related and might just be because women are already more likely to have auto immune disorders. I reckon in a few years they'll be a lot more cases of BII , unfortunately like most women's health problems they aren't taken seriously or in many cases believed
ive been yearning for a boob job for yrs and yrs but i rlly wanna make it right and with a good chunk of money.. but rn w 23 ive been living paycheck to paycheck, having debts and still figuring out lots of adult life, so gotta prioritize especially my financial upstanding, i see that
I'm naturally curvy, and as a teen, it hasn't been a good experience. I always felt super self conscious about it, you can't run without feeling nasty (literally doing anything physically challenging is feels so ick), it's super awkward when you try on clothing because most shirts aren't really made for curvy girls, and it's super annoying to always have back pain. And I honestly don't feel comfortable going outside without wearing a hoodie because of my curves (but I've never wanted to surgically alter myself, I just feel uncomfie bc most girls my age aren't so curvy).
Not to mention the fact that t-shirts always fit really weirdly....
Girls, moral of the story is: the grass is usually not as green on the other side as you think it is. Be yourself, no matter how uncomfortable, you are you. You are not defined by a trend!
you ate this up. loved so much 🫶🏻🫶🏻
i got called a boy for so long when i was younger (by men and women) that now when someone finds me attractive i'm like '' what '' because i can't really believe it. doesn't matter how many pics of myself i take, i never seem to know what i look like to other people.
I remember when i was a teenager, i was the first at my age to start growing boobs and be curvy and let me tell you, i was so ashamed of my body! I would get overly sexualized with 11 years and that made me wear bigger clothes to hide how i really looked like. I wanted to be flat chested because i think it looks so cute 🥺 now I'm fine with how I look but it's been a journey jajsjaja. Seems like we women cant win 😵💫
I can definitely relate to this, Im in my early 20s and only now learning to be okay with having a larger chest.
I used to really hate my chest, but I’ve come to realize a lot of great things about it. For one, having a flat chest makes me look a lot more athletic and fit. Two, plenty of tops look much more elegant on me. And three, I don’t have to deal with bra size stress, back problems and more. 😂
I did a breast reduction recently and it was one of the top decisions I made. A lot of people were saying "give me part of your boobs haha" or "what does your bf think?", which were actually quite terrible comments. Scars are not exactly pretty and at the end of the day it's an operation with its risks, however, not thinking about your boobs all the time is a blessing. Going downstairs without thinking if they bounce/hurt, not having to wear double bra for working out, going to the stores and finding shirts pieces that fit, being able to buy bras and bikinis wherever, having less back pain, people not looking at your boobs before your face... never have I regretted the decision, I have no implants so there are none of the additional risks of inserting something foreign in your body :) (Actually, it's one of the plastic surgeries with the least amount of regret, 95%/98% satisfaction depending on the studies you're looking at and I consider it kind of medical in a way)
Honestly you do you always, considering pros and cons from each procedure and having some kind of mental health considerations (to ensure you're not projecting other problems into your body and thinking less/more boobs will make you happy/satisfied with life)
I never had the world tell me I needed implants. When your body proportions are off and you are insecure of your boob size why not get them done after researching it. I am tall and have wide hip bones. Being flat didnt feel right on me. If I was skinnier I could have accepted but after 20 something years, I decided to finally ditch the double cup push up bras and just get implants. I love them!
I’m a 32D or double D depending on wait. I can’t find my bra size anywhere. I have to wear sport bras. I haven’t felt pretty in a bra since 2019. I can’t wear sundresses because the fabric for the boob doesn’t cover my boob. And if I tried, then either the seam that’s supposed to go under the breast, would go right straight through the middle of my boob, making it unflattering and look ill fitting, or, my whole sport bra would just be spilling out. It’s not fun. Also, I am always dismissed by the bigger chested girls whenever I join in and say yeah, I can’t find my bra size either, they say well, you’re not that big so it’s not a big deal you don’t understand. When I was younger, I didn’t get to feel sexy. I got to feel like I was the distraction, if I wore a V-neck men would make comments about how I just wanted attention, or women as well. It’s not fun. I just want anyone out there who wishes they had more to know, that I dream about that really good feeling to be able to wear whatever clothes you want. Please please please don’t hate yourself. Just try to find something to enjoy about it.
I feel the same, definitely trying to find the postive aspects of having either small or big boobs is the best thing to do, society will never be satisfied anyways, it's always sexualising or shaming women for their boobs, but we just want to live in our bodies like normal humans 😭
There are more online stores now that do sell 32D and even have band sizes for 28D. Understance is pretty good and they frequently have sales
Something a lot of people don't think about is upkeep. These procedures need to be revisited and often changed and that costs money. It's not a one purchase deal.
My flat chest is the last thing I can think of since I have bigger fishes to fry 😂 and my insecurities are endless my flat chest is negligible 😂😭
i just can’t put into words how much i relate to you rn
btw you’re so SO feminine that i was so focused on that, that i didn’t even pay attention to your chest until you pointed it out ^^
As someone who has had a bigger chest since 12 years old. Being asked if you got a boob job at 12 is the most belittling thing you can ask a girl. People would go up to me and poke them asking if they were real. I can not win women cannot win
😮wooow as someone who have big boobs since also 12 years old... people would also stare at themmm.. but never been asked if they were real. Wow!
It’s crazy because even if you have boobs or/and butt naturally. Many women will still feel unsatisfied. Especially since everything is getting more extreme. It’s better just to love yourself for what it is.
I’ve been ridiculed for having small boobs and always had someone misgender me bc of them. And I wish for all small boobied women to feel comfortable in their skin, but I’m still going to have to get a boob job just bc of my own mental health and gender affirmation:,) it’ll probably mess me up but idc at this point
Recently learned from a friend that I was bullied in middle school for my chest. My mind probably blocked out the memory, and I never wrote about it in my journal. I think I also didn’t realize they were making fun of me when it happened to my face. They’d say, “I bet it’s easier to figure skate with such a small chest” and I would very plainly agree with them and they’d giggle. I remember looking down at my chest and thinking about how I could make it look bigger, trying to outrun the nickname skinny mini, and the fact that I was in training bras. I think this conversation is so important. I am the smallest chested woman in my extended family, and for once in my life I am glad for it.
I recently became a subscriber of yours a few weeks back and I'm so glad I did. I'm 22 and if I saw this as a teenager I would have been so happy. I'm so glad this video exists for people who have a flat chest (like myself) and to gain self confidence in themselves and not just base it off chest size.
Girl you are beautiful. I’m a millennial and a mom of 3. I was small chested (before kids) and I have an uncommon nipple shape, so I know what you mean about insecurities. However I found a man who loves me, all of me, and also I had no issues breastfeeding my babies. They work marvelously. Plastic boobs won’t do that for anyone
I had big breast since 10 years old; was a fucking nightmare, I hated how grown adults men harasst me. When I was a teen thing didn't get better, I hated my body and I feel like I was deform; I eventually had a boyfriend that like big size chest thinking I would have some kind of vantage over other women, soon you get that there will be always a woman with a bigger chest, and feels like they never like u for how you are cuz It's never enough, and a person that only liked u for that it's going to change u for that. As an adult I understood that it wasn't never about my body and adjust your body for men validation it's a never ending story.
So yeah, you better like yourself just the way you are, other ways it's never going to work.
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I love your videos so much
i got the big thighs, small boobs but i totally wish it was the other way around
@ville__ dude get a life, you comment this for everyone
To be fair! My obsession with just a slightly bbeeeg cherries started from animes because the characters would be my age and still have bigger cherries and i thought that maybe i was missing out on something , even the girls in my class had big cherries and i always took it personally...but theres a difference i dont want bigs because to "attract" i just want them for "myself satisfaction" so you dont need to pressure yourselves thats just how society works 💕💕💖
Anime is super weird about this!!! I don’t understand why it’s like that especially in shows meant for kids and teens to enjoy. Seems portrayed in an objectifying way. People love it and are fine with it though
Women should be reminded that breasts get a little bigger every year until you are mid 20s. I don't think any teens should be getting breast augmentation. Thin women are unlikely to have big breasts naturally.
this doesn’t happen for everyone though.
never heard of your breast getting bigger until mid 20’s, at least in the case of starting out with small breasts. maybe if you gain weight or just gravity dragging them down, but I do agree that no teens should get any plastic surgery in general, along with it being risky health wise, maybe you will start regretting getting it done in the first place because your brain wasn’t even fully developed at the time
I am 33/34B chested,24inches waisted and 35inches butted girl and my overall body ratio is hourglass figure. I don't want to get any bigger.(I had dysphormia and i am trying to fix it) I love my present body. I built and found my confidence with pilates and healthy eating years ago. I just want to prioritize my happiness and health than other. As you said, i am happy for women got done their boobs job and happy for that. If you got beauty standard body, happy for you. If you didn't have standard size, ratio, keep your confidence up because you are beautiful and unique as well. Being a woman itself is very fascinating and enjoy your life.❤
With love 🎀💕
Love your videos! Keep up the good work!❤
It’s sad how it’s not only the chest…
I never felt worthy, beautiful or attractive because I don’t have a flat tummy😢
Too much pressure with the appearance goddammit 😩
I had big boobs, they hurt my back, made me slouch often, I got way too much unwanted attention and the simplest clothes made me look kind of vulgar(not because of others think, but because I felt that way). So, I ended up getting a surgery and made them smaller. I feel happy and content now.
Respectfully- I'm glad big chested girls are supporting us...but you kind of don't get it. Hearing you say you wish your booba were smaller is nice and all, but it lowkey feels a bit like you're completely invalidating the problems small boobed girls face. Like, it sucks on both sides of the spectrum, but can we please actually acknowledge the point of this vid (girls with smaller booba and the unjust treatment they receive) rather then subtly going "oh but I have it worse!"
It sucks either way. But right now we're talking about the "flat" pains. Ones I've struggled with my entirety of adolescence
Agree, I've read probably more comments from the other side than what the actual video was about...
@@VideosForYou90 no fr like not to be rude but they're making it about them
this hit close to home, its kinda disturbing to think back to when i was young and have my self-incert character always have big boobs or even sexualize it in any way possible. I never found myself atractive, but my confidence was overall really low, not just bc of my body. Even though i like and dare say love anime, the hyper sexualization of women and the fixiation on their boobs, is a thing that i will put on the hall of shame. Still i somehow could climb over the low self-esteem part of my life and started to look more inward. I'm taking care of myself, as in skin care and make-up (since my acne hurts my skin, but also i see this as a sign of self love, since when i hated myself the most, i didn't even cared to shower) and the overall positivity kinda changed me to not hate on my flat self or the not that curvy look and feel absolutly good in my own body.
I don't have any tipps or good explanation how i got here, but i feel like this has alot to do with my wish to change and start to embrace people, try to get out of my shell, find connections and reconect with some loose ends (like the trip back to china to visit my family helped in some way, this happened when i felt like i was becomming a different person, but in a good way). Can't say it will work 100% for everyone, but still wish you and everyone else who is struggling can reach the same destination and start loving themselves :')
For me I've always been insecure about the saggy-ness of mine and I got especially more-so when I worked up the courage to ask my childhood pediatrician if it was normal for them to look like this and her response was so awful I hated that lady. I just hate how if your boobs aren't "picture perfect" you get mentally damaged in all kinds of ways
And thats when i remember to be even more grateful for Islam and for being a hijaby, Muslim women wear the Hijab to be able to be perceived as for what she truly is, to give her her pure value without external standards and without her being sexualized or bodyshamed by society.
ok so i got a storytime right here, it was my farewell party and i have boobs, and one of my teachers said 'cover up your stuff is showing' like as if IM the one showing em like the things which exist will ofc be visible ( trust me i wasn't wearing anything revealing ) SO GIRLIES LISTEN. WE.👏WONT.👏WIN.👏EITHER.👏WAY.👏i just wanna say yall are SO beautiful whichever body type you have and collectively lets try to make it 'we will win either way' by spreading body positivity