Thanks for the talk. My comment on abuse from people with narcissistic traits, or other kinds of illnesses which make them cause suffering in other people: 'One can recognize what the abuse caused in oneself and the severity of it. After validating one's feelings and processing the whole event, one detaches from it for one's own well-being.'
I feel open, understanding, compassionate after just a few minutes of listening to her. It's amazing how the right words, and with the right tones and inflections, can convey so much wisdom. Wishing safety, health, and happiness to you all ^_^
I listened to half way. I cannot agree with the basic premise. There are those I know and who I love. There are those I know with whom I have not always had the best relationship. So far I agree, then there are the innumerable strangers who I meet every day and whose kindness humbles me. I look around and I see love everywhere.
I have been listening to ven Chodron's teachings and Breakfast corner for some years now and am so grateful that You Tube has enabled this across the ocean that divides. I just watched the slide show diary and loved how it showed the dedication and love and especially the mantra track that accompanied it. Thank you for continually sharing. I hear that this 2023 winter has been extreme so I am sending prayers of comfort. 🙏
The Role of Boundaries in Transforming Evil While compassion is key, it doesn’t mean tolerating harmful behavior. By removing ourselves from toxic situations or setting boundaries, we stop enabling harm. This, in turn, may force the wrongdoer to face their actions. Disengaging with wisdom helps "evil" exhaust itself without perpetuating harm.
This talk demonstrates quite directly and simply an aspect of our own "ignorance" and how that affects our relationship with everything and everyone in the relative sense when we are still dwelling in our notions of self and other, subject and objet. It is our ignorance, not so much as in the sense of stupidity, but in regards to ignoring. In that sense, there is great insight even within our ignorance. This is not really a "religious" talk in the Western sense. The functioning of the mind itself can be the essential matter and suffering is the overall issue. From a purely pragmatic viewpoint, concerning all of our relations, the talk delivers valuable reflections in the form of sound advice that one can easily test by way of practice.
The very first video of Ven Thubten Chodron that I saw back in 2015. She's an incredible woman, who has advanced gender equality and equanimity within Buddhism and beyond. She takes ancient eastern philosophies and relates them to our western way of life using laughter, warmth and kindness. This video is from 2004, she's grown in wisdom and kindness. sabbe satta sukhi hontu!!!
Thank you, peaceful1987, for posting this. I happen to like Thubten Chodron's talks quite a bit and was quite taken with her talk on Transforming problems (the first of her videos I've seen, also on youtube) and had had her recommended to me by a kind Tibetan-American Buddhist. While her speaking style (or for that matter the topics discussed) won't appeal to everyone, I think she communicates very clearly from a place of great personal authenticity.
+Jenayalynn Riojas It may be alright to find it hard. In other words, you may be discovering the place where that occurs and obtain insight into the process and outcomes of it, first. It being hard to do may be secondary to the valuable insights you obtain from attending to the idea of it and noticing the difficulty. Maybe you can keep in mind that to do the exchange in no way requires you to condone the behavior or enable it. It might be easier to consider the person and their core and needs and even motivations as the place of exchange and the behaviors as a way to see the impact and effects that they have. What suffering might result for that person due to that? Do you need to judge it, in that sense, or just recognize it for what it is? That is a place for compassion to arise, actually. There can and will be ethical problems in different situations in relation to your practice, you know. So, if you continue to practice, you make it simpler and easier for yourself to resolve them with your own, appropriate behavior and response, rather than an impulsive reaction--insights do arise naturally when unimpeded. Go easy and continue. Ask lots of questions. Tashi Delel
Hello Thubten Chodron. You made a great impact on me after I picked up your little book "I wonder why" from a temple in Singapore. Your clear explanation & even tone (in the book) was extremely comforting to me in difficult times, & I carried the book around like an amulet in my bag & read it over & over.. Definitely I have progressed in my practice so now I am learning Dharma exponentially on the web. Your kindness & radiant smile illuminated my life, for which I'm deeply grateful..
Thank you. She is incredible ,fantastic personality. I made my own conclusion .Used to be a Christian ,then deeply regret. I spend so many ears worshiping to a bloody nonsense .
+nikolas aylta Remember that time is empty. Don't regret your past or treat it as ignorance, merely rejoice in the fact that you are now on the path of the Sangha, which, provided you take seriously, you will never stray from until you reach enlightenment.
Quq Balam Lol, "Believe nothing, no matter where you read it or who has said, not even if i have said it, unless it agrees with your own reason and your own common sense." Buddha. Does that sound like a religion that 'worships nonsense'. Buddhists don't worship anything and buddhism is a living tradition with ongoing debate, which includes scientific alterations. Do your research before you make yourself look like an idiot.
We are what we are, we react as we react. It’s nice thinking to believe that we could be otherwise, kind and compassionate as speakers like this suggest, but we’re not. We’re none of those things. We are who we are and life is as it is. There’s not even anyone who can observe this; it just is.
BUDDHA teaching is always TRUTH . even you believe it or not it wont change it. like fire is always hot . you see it touch it u get burnt, blind people touch it still get burnt. that is the TRUTH THE RULE. Cause and effect
The Buddha teaching is the deepest science and very profound. It's a vision not a belief. The vision arise to you when one is completely free from words. If you r free from the words you r free and you become the universe. You become the nature. You set free from time and distance the duality. You become eternal: how? The person we believe in us would be a fake belief and then you see there is no one in or out. You become eternal. Just like the experience you have in deep sleep. There is no I in deep sleep. The I only exist on awake state, with words.
You have the right to believe that. You are suffering, you just do not realize it yet. One day you will realize it and want to do something about it. Then you will pray for someone like Pema Chodron to teach you the way out of your suffering.
Awareness leads to perfection. Aware all within us and all around us is an awakening mind. Aware to change, to improve and make a difference, yet whether that awareness attached any negative, unpleasant or agitated feeling is only the person knows the person’s mind.
Everything I need to do . I have so much in built anger and get consumed by anger. Unfortunately the things my own family and people closest to me have done had completely ruined my life and future. It’s so hard but I am going to try. Very hard.
Happy people have the potential to uplift other people and make them happy too. Happiness is contagious and, unfortunately, misery is also contagious. Fortunately, happiness is more contagious because it tends to attract "normal people" (i.e. neither particularly happy nor unhappy people) whereas misery tends to repel "normal people". Everyone can experience temporary mood-elevation, but it takes skill to be truly happy. It's both wise and compassionate to develop this skill. May you be happy.
38:37 (edit)🤔she seems to still have some ?prejudice🙊 lol 😆 unconscious..picking George bush vs bin laden 😂👍interesting. The mind is really amazing.😊🧘♀️Good teachings and great truths🗣🧘♀️☮️🧡
+debbiewasshername Maybe she's baby-talking because she has limitless compassion and she sees everyone as her infant. Babies don't baby talk. It is the mothers that do.
This is the first time I've seen or heard of Thubten Chodron. I'm trying to listen with an open mind, but I have difficult with her style. It sounds like she's talking to first graders. (Although, maybe for beginners that's ok.)
I also feel a little strange with her style. But she is only human. We all have faults and some like us more than others. (I probably ave many more than her) I do not believe or enjoy everything I hear. I take a bit here and a bit there. For me, it is much more balanced way to learn my own path with this. My lesson: learn to care. Good luck.
***** I see your point. It is easy for us to forget what it will be like for beginners. This is not really appropriate for them. If I had started with this...I would have never of bothered looking at the precepts.
amazing the many silly comments hereabouts. No, this is not the movie 'Pretty woman'. Best switch off the screen, if you are led so easily astray. The "must watch" is another silliness ... there is never any compulsion in spiritual pursuits: for that, there are plenty of religions out there heavily into mind-control!
(part 2) It seems to be easier for many of us to instinctively focus on the negatives in ourselves and others. It takes a bit of effort to go against that habit and to form a new, more skillful, habit. It is worth it though, if we want to be happy. This is not living in denial of the negative; it is acknowledging cause and effect, and being pragmatic. Focusing (too much) on negativity leads to depression. Focusing (about 90%) on positive aspects of ourselves and others leads to happiness.
(part 1) It's not simply a matter of projection to see the good qualities in others. I can see (what I would deem to be) good qualities in the vast majority of people, in spite of also being able to see certain qualities that I might not like in the very same people. It is a matter of goals. If your goal is to be happy, then it is wise and skillful to focus primarily on the positive qualities in yourself and others...
Given the situation in the world today, when people are persecuting and killing their fellow human beings, how does one balance the need to protect innocent victims without falling victim to hatred of those who persecute and murder?
This is my first time that I have came across this video of Thubten Chodron . I was quite suprise to see her attire that she have on. I also have notice that she have been called by the title Venerable Thubten Chodron. This was given me the impression that Thubten Chodron was ordained and is a Bhikkhu-ney (Female Bhikku). There are no more Bhikku-ney exist in the world today. A woman cannot be ordain, because the last Bhikku-ney have passed away about 1900 years ago. In order for a person to be ordain, a ceremonial proceedure is to be perform by two Bhikku or or Bhikku-ney. One stand on to the left and one to the right. Recite ordaination rules and practices that need to be follow as a monk. The rules are extra ordinary hard for an ordain person and must follow. Shaving head, dropping old clothes and belonging. The whole flesh of body is exposed from head to toes. Two Bhikku were there to help shield obsinity as to help put on the new attire. They show the new monk to tug here and there, and as doing so, the flesh is being touch during this proceeding by the two Bhikku. Now you must understand that only Bhikku can ordain to a male person, and Bhikku-ney can only ordain to a female person. Male cannot touch femal flesh and vice versa. This is a very strick rule to be a Bhikku as an ordain person. Bhikku-ney have been passed and gone, so there are no more Bhikku-ney to help and perform this ceremony to ordain any woman who want to become a monk in present time. That why there are no Bhikku-ney exist today. If you are asking a Bhikku to ordain to a woman, that is a greatest taboo. Imagine seeing an exposed of a female body while being a monk. A woman cannot ask a Bhikku to help with the proceedure because she wanted to be a monk. I am sure that she be politely refuse by any Bhikku she encounter. It is also not very polite and created a lot of suffering. It cannot be done period. Now Thubten Chodron can only represent as a nun in the Buddhist religious order. The attire that she have on and the color is reserve for ordain monk only. And for the nun, the attire has to be white in color and materials, represent purity of mind and soul. Now if Thubten Chodron thinks otherwise of what she have on, then she has changed the rules from Pali Canon that was written and prescribed by the Buddha. In other word, she has created her own though and a different religion all together. She have break away from the right path. I have no question of her convictions and believe toward peace. I hope that I have enlightened you a little bit of misunderstanding and follow the Buddha way into the right path.
***** Sacarsam is just another suffering too. I would presume that you don't read Pali Canon, and you are not a traditional Tharavada Buddhist. Mahayana is a little loose in following the decipline from Buddha's scripture.
women can be ordained nuns. That great masters and bodhisattvas have been women, is a fact. In Thailand, the male domination is unfortunate, and quite sad really..... I suspect it is political in large part . Close your eyes and listen..... there , isn"t that better. love, matt bard
.... cultures should respect each other, and it is hard to understand each other at times. I am American, but I don't speak for others, only myself. Sexual repression, male first attitudes, and fear of wealthy educated women are here too, but ever so slowly things are changing. I believe this is a good direction and liberating for all. The Tibetan nuns of Mindrolling have a long history of enlightened women...remarkable. Compassion and understanding repels fear and has no gender. be well.
@@mattbard7612 I know this reply is 6 years later. The American culture, cannot understand the passed down traditions of thousands of years from other cultures. And the previous comment is referring to that tradition. And, they are right. This person speaks with sarcasm. Which, until I read the comment, I realized, why, while at first it seemed like she was enlightened, at this point, she seems (edit) not. She grows her hair, changes her clothing, and even with her soft voice, she has a layer or more of the world to remove. The teachings have not been absorbed through her being. She lost me, after a comment, seemed hypocritical after that. Best regards.
This advice is all well and good between healthy individuals. But please, if you know someone with a personality disorder or mental illness, KNOW that all the compassion in the world won't change them Go, and save yourself, while being compassionate from AFAR 🙏
Thanks for the talk. My comment on abuse from people with narcissistic traits, or other kinds of illnesses which make them cause suffering in other people:
'One can recognize what the abuse caused in oneself and the severity of it. After validating one's feelings and processing the whole event, one detaches from it for one's own well-being.'
I feel open, understanding, compassionate after just a few minutes of listening to her. It's amazing how the right words, and with the right tones and inflections, can convey so much wisdom. Wishing safety, health, and happiness to you all ^_^
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I listened to half way. I cannot agree with the basic premise. There are those I know and who I love. There are those I know with whom I have not always had the best relationship. So far I agree, then there are the innumerable strangers who I meet every day and whose kindness humbles me. I look around and I see love everywhere.
Such a loving and gentle teacher and such clear teachings. Thank you for your kindness and compassion.
Agreed :) Shoryu Bradley at Gyobutsuji Zen Monastery is also like this :) Deep Zen practice there.
She is smiling all the time! So beautiful
We create our friends, enemies and strangers ourselves in our own mind!!!
So simple but so profound.......
“If we’re still miserable, what good does it make being right?” Thank you for your message 🙏🏻
I realize Im kind of randomly asking but do anybody know a good website to stream newly released series online?
@Saint Zyaire ehh lately I have been using flixportal. just google for it:D -leroy
@Leroy Lewis Thanks, signed up and it seems like they got a lot of movies there :D Appreciate it !!
@Saint Zyaire happy to help :)
There have been many times I'm "right" but it gives me no pleasure saying I told you so either.
I am watching her talk for the first time. she is so Wise. She is so AMAZING! :O
Sadho SAdho Sadho :)
I have been listening to ven Chodron's teachings and Breakfast corner for some years now and am so grateful that You Tube has enabled this across the ocean that divides. I just watched the slide show diary and loved how it showed the dedication and love and especially the mantra track that accompanied it. Thank you for continually sharing. I hear that this 2023 winter has been extreme so I am sending prayers of comfort. 🙏
I thought it was very profound when she said, "just because someone is wrong, why do you have to be angry?"
THUBTEN CHODRON WONDERFUL TALK. YOU CHOOSE THE RIGHT PATH. THANK YOU VERY MUCH
The Role of Boundaries in Transforming Evil
While compassion is key, it doesn’t mean tolerating harmful behavior. By removing ourselves from toxic situations or setting boundaries, we stop enabling harm. This, in turn, may force the wrongdoer to face their actions.
Disengaging with wisdom helps "evil" exhaust itself without perpetuating harm.
This talk demonstrates quite directly and simply an aspect of our own "ignorance" and how that affects our relationship with everything and everyone in the relative sense when we are still dwelling in our notions of self and other, subject and objet. It is our ignorance, not so much as in the sense of stupidity, but in regards to ignoring. In that sense, there is great insight even within our ignorance.
This is not really a "religious" talk in the Western sense. The functioning of the mind itself can be the essential matter and suffering is the overall issue. From a purely pragmatic viewpoint, concerning all of our relations, the talk delivers valuable reflections in the form of sound advice that one can easily test by way of practice.
THANKS VEN THUBTEN CHODRON! GREAT TALK !
so beautiful. thank you so much, venerable thubten!
The very first video of Ven Thubten Chodron that I saw back in 2015. She's an incredible woman, who has advanced gender equality and equanimity within Buddhism and beyond. She takes ancient eastern philosophies and relates them to our western way of life using laughter, warmth and kindness. This video is from 2004, she's grown in wisdom and kindness. sabbe satta sukhi hontu!!!
Gender shouldn't matter ;)
Thank you, peaceful1987, for posting this. I happen to like Thubten Chodron's talks quite a bit and was quite taken with her talk on Transforming problems (the first of her videos I've seen, also on youtube) and had had her recommended to me by a kind Tibetan-American Buddhist. While her speaking style (or for that matter the topics discussed) won't appeal to everyone, I think she communicates very clearly from a place of great personal authenticity.
I really enjoyed this Dhamma Talk. Thanks for sharing it.
so useful and nice teaching that is made for normal people ... funny too !
Great talk, seems like common sense but I don't think the message of the importance of forgiveness can ever be overstated :)
love ,love, love . . thank you - Thubten Chodron you are the best I have ever met !!
This talk is wonderful. I find it hard to self exchange when others are abusive no matter what you do. . .
+Jenayalynn Riojas It may be alright to find it hard. In other words, you may be discovering the place where that occurs and obtain insight into the process and outcomes of it, first. It being hard to do may be secondary to the valuable insights you obtain from attending to the idea of it and noticing the difficulty.
Maybe you can keep in mind that to do the exchange in no way requires you to condone the behavior or enable it. It might be easier to consider the person and their core and needs and even motivations as the place of exchange and the behaviors as a way to see the impact and effects that they have. What suffering might result for that person due to that? Do you need to judge it, in that sense, or just recognize it for what it is? That is a place for compassion to arise, actually.
There can and will be ethical problems in different situations in relation to your practice, you know. So, if you continue to practice, you make it simpler and easier for yourself to resolve them with your own, appropriate behavior and response, rather than an impulsive reaction--insights do arise naturally when unimpeded. Go easy and continue. Ask lots of questions.
Tashi Delel
long life Ani Thupte Choedon la, Respect and love from Tibet
Hello Thubten Chodron. You made a great impact on me after I picked up your little book "I wonder why" from a temple in Singapore. Your clear explanation & even tone (in the book) was extremely comforting to me in difficult times, & I carried the book around like an amulet in my bag & read it over & over.. Definitely I have progressed in my practice so now I am learning Dharma exponentially on the web. Your kindness & radiant smile illuminated my life, for which I'm deeply grateful..
Such a lovely voice so calm and safe.
Thank you very much!
This Talk giving me some delightful idea that I am seeking so long .! Thanks
thanks for your fresh teachings.. Namastë.
I love her! I've been learning these concepts for a while, but some teachers just put things in a way that's so easy to understand.
Thank you so much for your videos. You are teaching me every day. Again tank
Sadhu sadhu
Thank you!
Thank you. She is incredible ,fantastic personality. I made my own conclusion .Used to be a Christian ,then deeply regret. I spend so many ears worshiping to a bloody nonsense .
yep me too when through the same bull
+nikolas aylta Remember that time is empty. Don't regret your past or treat it as ignorance, merely rejoice in the fact that you are now on the path of the Sangha, which, provided you take seriously, you will never stray from until you reach enlightenment.
You replaced a bloody religion that worships nonsense for another bloody religion that worships nonsense.
Quq Balam Lol, "Believe nothing, no matter where you read it or who has said, not even if i have said it, unless it agrees with your own reason and your own common sense." Buddha.
Does that sound like a religion that 'worships nonsense'. Buddhists don't worship anything and buddhism is a living tradition with ongoing debate, which includes scientific alterations. Do your research before you make yourself look like an idiot.
Johnny Tightlips Where does Buddha say that?
thanks for uploading/finding this ...Sunday fare. Very quick lady..
We are what we are, we react as we react. It’s nice thinking to believe that we could be otherwise, kind and compassionate as speakers like this suggest, but we’re not. We’re none of those things. We are who we are and life is as it is. There’s not even anyone who can observe this; it just is.
I listen to this to relax. A very relaxing video
BUDDHA teaching is always TRUTH . even you believe it or not it wont change it. like fire is always hot . you see it touch it u get burnt, blind people touch it still get burnt. that is the TRUTH THE RULE. Cause and effect
What she says is so true; families really show you whether you can walk the talk, and also are very good places to learn how to do so.
wow. she's so eloquent. what a great talk on bodhicitta
Thank you for sharing this.....such a great teacher. :)
i love this so much; thank you so much for the beautiful truth-tellings < 3
A very inspiring dharma talk about relationships. thanks! =)
This is my favorite dharma talk ever.
The Buddha teaching is the deepest science and very profound. It's a vision not a belief. The vision arise to you when one is completely free from words. If you r free from the words you r free and you become the universe. You become the nature. You set free from time and distance the duality. You become eternal: how? The person we believe in us would be a fake belief and then you see there is no one in or out. You become eternal. Just like the experience you have in deep sleep. There is no I in deep sleep. The I only exist on awake state, with words.
the I is called "ego", perception of self and the world. Ego stops us from seeing the universe for what it is.
Thank you so much, thubten chodron. Amitabha.
GRATITUDE FOR HER AND THANK YOU SISTER.
reminding me how important it is to look into our soul.
Excellent talk. Thank You.
here is a person who can make budisme simpel and clear !
this was a very interesting and i am going to watch it many times as there is so much in the teaching.
By,
Debra Linder .
Beautiful teachings
Thank you for such clear reminder.
Transformative. Thank you very much.
She is so wonderful.
Thank you so very much, Blessings!
thank you, great teaching, this teaching has helped me deeply! Jai!
Thanks for the good teaching video.
nammo amitaba...thank you for your teaching
Brilliant! Excellent message.
wonderful enriching and so true ! thank you alot !
She is wonderful!
You have the right to believe that. You are suffering, you just do not realize it yet. One day you will realize it and want to do something about it. Then you will pray for someone like Pema Chodron to teach you the way out of your suffering.
Thanks for sharing the very good thing.
Awareness leads to perfection. Aware all within us and all around us is an awakening mind. Aware to change, to improve and make a difference, yet whether that awareness attached any negative, unpleasant or agitated feeling is only the person knows the person’s mind.
I like buddhis dharma
Everything I need to do . I have so much in built anger and get consumed by anger. Unfortunately the things my own family and people closest to me have done had completely ruined my life and future. It’s so hard but I am going to try. Very hard.
Beautiful, thank you :)
Happy people have the potential to uplift other people and make them happy too. Happiness is contagious and, unfortunately, misery is also contagious. Fortunately, happiness is more contagious because it tends to attract "normal people" (i.e. neither particularly happy nor unhappy people) whereas misery tends to repel "normal people". Everyone can experience temporary mood-elevation, but it takes skill to be truly happy. It's both wise and compassionate to develop this skill. May you be happy.
wise will realize the truth... Supreme Buddha's Dhamma is the greatest test in the world..
Perfect! Love it!
I just love her! She has taught me so much!
38:37 (edit)🤔she seems to still have some ?prejudice🙊 lol 😆 unconscious..picking George bush vs bin laden 😂👍interesting. The mind is really amazing.😊🧘♀️Good teachings and great truths🗣🧘♀️☮️🧡
shes on the path, and the comments that shes baby talking show the commenter is the baby. This girl is growing and making her way, namaste
debbiewasshername it's not baby talk, it's sweet talk.
+debbiewasshername This child saw a book with a red cover once and thought it must be about something red. Then, she read the book.
goog points, namaste
+debbiewasshername Maybe she's baby-talking because she has limitless compassion and she sees everyone as her infant. Babies don't baby talk. It is the mothers that do.
good points, namaste
This is the first time I've seen or heard of Thubten Chodron. I'm trying to listen with an open mind, but I have difficult with her style. It sounds like she's talking to first graders. (Although, maybe for beginners that's ok.)
Making something difficult look so easy a first grader could understand it's something I find very enviable. I suppose each has his own preferences.
I also feel a little strange with her style.
But she is only human. We all have faults
and some like us more than others.
(I probably ave many more than her)
I do not believe or enjoy everything I hear. I take a bit here and a bit there. For me, it is much more balanced way to learn my own path with this. My lesson: learn to care.
Good luck.
You might prefer the videos of Pema Chodron, also a Buddhist nun, who is older, has a deeper voice, and her own unique way of speaking.
***** Great.
***** I see your point. It is easy for us to forget what it will be like for beginners. This is not really appropriate for them. If I had started with this...I would have never of bothered looking at the precepts.
Amazing!
A fundamental Question !! Do we as individuals continue to live on in an alternative dimension when this physical body dies ?
Thank You I like how she puts it in perspective with our everyday relationships.
Thankyou for the nice video.. WHAT IS THAT SONG? who is the artist.. what album..what song . thank you ..peace..
smile and the world will smile back...
amazing the many silly comments hereabouts. No, this is not the movie 'Pretty woman'. Best switch off the screen, if you are led so easily astray.
The "must watch" is another silliness ... there is never any compulsion in spiritual pursuits: for that, there are plenty of religions out there heavily into mind-control!
Now....Ven. Thubten IS telling it like it is...........Modern day America is just like this.
What a drag this place is, in one large sense
I am thouroughly enjoying this video as my first dharma talk. I love it.
Lovely!
nonno bon professeur (monja buen maestro)
(part 2) It seems to be easier for many of us to instinctively focus on the negatives in ourselves and others. It takes a bit of effort to go against that habit and to form a new, more skillful, habit. It is worth it though, if we want to be happy. This is not living in denial of the negative; it is acknowledging cause and effect, and being pragmatic. Focusing (too much) on negativity leads to depression. Focusing (about 90%) on positive aspects of ourselves and others leads to happiness.
what's that beautiful choir at the beginning ? what is it called ??
(part 1) It's not simply a matter of projection to see the good qualities in others. I can see (what I would deem to be) good qualities in the vast majority of people, in spite of also being able to see certain qualities that I might not like in the very same people. It is a matter of goals. If your goal is to be happy, then it is wise and skillful to focus primarily on the positive qualities in yourself and others...
I love him
❤❤🙏
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
wise AND cute!
Thank you.
Given the situation in the world today, when people are persecuting and killing their fellow human beings, how does one balance the need to protect innocent victims without falling victim to hatred of those who persecute and murder?
Again thank you
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I like her! She is funny :)
This is my first time that I have came across this video of Thubten Chodron . I was quite suprise to see her attire that she have on. I also have notice that she have been called by the title Venerable Thubten Chodron. This was given me the impression that Thubten Chodron was ordained and is a Bhikkhu-ney (Female Bhikku). There are no more Bhikku-ney exist in the world today. A woman cannot be ordain, because the last Bhikku-ney have passed away about 1900 years ago. In order for a person to be ordain, a ceremonial proceedure is to be perform by two Bhikku or or Bhikku-ney. One stand on to the left and one to the right. Recite ordaination rules and practices that need to be follow as a monk. The rules are extra ordinary hard for an ordain person and must follow. Shaving head, dropping old clothes and belonging. The whole flesh of body is exposed from head to toes. Two Bhikku were there to help shield obsinity as to help put on the new attire. They show the new monk to tug here and there, and as doing so, the flesh is being touch during this proceeding by the two Bhikku. Now you must understand that only Bhikku can ordain to a male person, and Bhikku-ney can only ordain to a female person. Male cannot touch femal flesh and vice versa. This is a very strick rule to be a Bhikku as an ordain person. Bhikku-ney have been passed and gone, so there are no more Bhikku-ney to help and perform this ceremony to ordain any woman who want to become a monk in present time. That why there are no Bhikku-ney exist today. If you are asking a Bhikku to ordain to a woman, that is a greatest taboo. Imagine seeing an exposed of a female body while being a monk. A woman cannot ask a Bhikku to help with the proceedure because she wanted to be a monk. I am sure that she be politely refuse by any Bhikku she encounter. It is also not very polite and created a lot of suffering. It cannot be done period. Now Thubten Chodron can only represent as a nun in the Buddhist religious order. The attire that she have on and the color is reserve for ordain monk only. And for the nun, the attire has to be white in color and materials, represent purity of mind and soul. Now if Thubten Chodron thinks otherwise of what she have on, then she has changed the rules from Pali Canon that was written and prescribed by the Buddha. In other word, she has created her own though and a different religion all together. She have break away from the right path. I have no question of her convictions and believe toward peace. I hope that I have enlightened you a little bit of misunderstanding and follow the Buddha way into the right path.
***** Sacarsam is just another suffering too. I would presume that you don't read Pali Canon, and you are not a traditional Tharavada Buddhist. Mahayana is a little loose in following the decipline from Buddha's scripture.
women can be ordained nuns. That great masters and bodhisattvas have been women, is a fact. In Thailand, the male domination is unfortunate, and quite sad really..... I suspect it is political in large part . Close your eyes and listen..... there , isn"t that better. love, matt bard
.... cultures should respect each other, and it is hard to understand each other at times. I am American, but I don't speak for others, only myself. Sexual repression, male first attitudes, and fear of wealthy educated women are here too, but ever so slowly things are changing. I believe this is a good direction and liberating for all. The Tibetan nuns of Mindrolling have a long history of enlightened women...remarkable. Compassion and understanding repels fear and has no gender. be well.
@@mattbard7612 I know this reply is 6 years later. The American culture, cannot understand the passed down traditions of thousands of years from other cultures. And the previous comment is referring to that tradition. And, they are right. This person speaks with sarcasm. Which, until I read the comment, I realized, why, while at first it seemed like she was enlightened, at this point, she seems (edit) not. She grows her hair, changes her clothing, and even with her soft voice, she has a layer or more of the world to remove. The teachings have not been absorbed through her being. She lost me, after a comment, seemed hypocritical after that. Best regards.
She was ordained as a full bhikshuni in Taiwan according to the Dharmaguptaka lineage. She was not ordained in a Theravada lineage.
Exactly, thank you.
Good education so useful
Our anger or fear is an indicator, but not an excellent one. Anger or fear are more likely to warp reality in a way that impedes grounded judgement.
whats the song in the introduction?
This advice is all well and good between healthy individuals. But please, if you know someone with a personality disorder or mental illness, KNOW that all the compassion in the world won't change them
Go, and save yourself, while being compassionate from AFAR 🙏