Compromise on the road as a couple - Podcast
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Girl preach🙌🏻 My husband and I have been together 29 years and we sleep separately. We have very different sleeping styles ( tv on vs not ,different room temps,and my hubbie moves in his sleep so much) and would never been able to sleep together. I don’t know why people need to know how you SLEEP ? I think people are trying to be nosey about something else without saying it.
I think it’s more common that couples sleep separately than people think. There are no “rules”. So what works for your relationship… and it’s obviously working for them. (And you)
I’m only 20 minutes into this video and this is one of the best joint “podcasts” y’all have done since the “winter experience”!!!! Also, of your latest joint podcasts, I prefer when you video outside the rigs for this “joint back & forth” dialog….
Compromise and communication is the key to a successful relationship for sure. ❤
I truly enjoy the back and forth between you both. You can push back against each others thoughts/ideas/opinions with respect and understanding and love. Mostly I love The way you let each other be who they are without judgement or resentment. ❤ Thanks for sharing all this very personal stuff with all of us.
Thank you for being brave and putting yourselves out there. I actually see a lot of similarities between your relationship and the one I have with my girlfriend. I’m more like you Chris and my girlfriend is a lot like Linnea. I see how you love the way she lives life and think she’s amazing and appreciate the way she has come in and opened up your outdoor experiences. My girlfriend has done that for me. We both appreciate natures beauty and benefits. We want to experience the peace and freedom that comes from being outdoors, but our upbringings were very different and thus so are our comfort levels when it comes to conveniences. Last summer we made a 30+ day trek from Texas to the west side of Canada in her Toyota Yaris hatchback 🚗 with our pup! Wow! I had never done anything like that before and my comforts were challenged!! The compromise around our comfort levels and the challenge of finding the best time to express individual needs can put a lot of stress on a relationship. It’s been really helpful watching another couple like you guys going through and also trying to figure it out! Job well done! You’re not alone in this! Keep it up! Keep it real. I am wishing the best for you both just like I am for me and my girl ❤.
I love how everyone projects their own triggers and stuff onto you and the way you interact. I’m team separate covers and separate rooms when we’re at home. We even built our van that we can have separate beds. Helps a lot to not go crazy in small space😅 Been following girls for a while, first time on Chris channel. Like you and your energy guys❤ keep up the good work👍
I love to learn I'm 79 years old in a wheelchair so you guys make my life wonderful with youtubes like you make my life great
Thanks for joining!
My husband & I have been following along with Linnea & Akela for a little bit now, and this was the first time getting to know you a bit more, Chris.. which has been nice! This was really fun you guys! You were making me laugh a lot & think while I sealed some wood. Made the time fly by. Thanks for sharing!
Thanks for stopping by and checking out the podcast, I'm glad you enjoyed it!
Chris, you seem like a very nice man. Stay true to yourself. 🙏🐾😎
My problem would be, that I would want everything in the bus crammed into a van. I would probably need a lot of slide outs. And maybe a slide up.😂
Regarding sleep, its critical where yall are able to lineup... if one strays to a different bed and craves sleeping with another.. its where the conflict builds. IMO.
Chris I’m with you when it comes to showering everyday! I’m ok with going a day w/o showering that’s it! Yeah keep showering Chris😂
Great podcast. I loved how Chris turned around the question about keeping score of compromises to say that he is able to recognize when it's his turn to compromise in terms of where you're sleeping. That and the fact that you two couldn't even remember the discussion that lead to Chris traveling in the 4-window bus. That shows that the compromise wasn't that big of a deal to you both. Not like there was this massive "discussion" that lead to that compromise. So wonderful to see.
The way l look at it as long as you're happy, safe just do what feels good.❤
Y'all are awesome! I like that you have your own space. Living "together" doesnt mean you have to be up each other's butt's all the time. Everybody need space! Yall are awesome! ❤❤❤ Kisses for the puppers 😘🐾🐾
Love seeing Ya'll back together. All 4 of U . Safe Travels Always. God Bless Ya'll. Mucho Love from your friend in Michigan, Tam ❤❤❤
It’s very generous of both of you to share this. I’ll try to remember that y’all don’t require our feedback into your relationship.
I totally love watching you two travel. You need to not let people who criticize the way you live bother you because it's your life. Life is about living the way you want too. .❤😊
I came here thanks to Linnea as I had been following her channel for ages and figured... might as well get to know her partner since he has his own channel. I really enjoyed this podcast-style share because even if you're "just sitting and chatting" I like the video (visual) to go along with audio as I rarely listen to podcasts (audio only). I usually save these sorts of podcast UA-cam vids for when working it's lovely to hear the conversation "in the background" (as I do online work and it helps trick my mind into feeling less alone).
Glad you enjoyed it and we could join you while you work!
Really great topic and sharing your genuine experiences and solutions. I agree completely with couples nourishing their individuality as well as their relationship. So cute to see the “kids” being restless while filming and chewing and roaming while you are trying to focus 😂
Love Chris's comment at the end about the fake shots in other vkdels. Made me laugh. Loved the podcast. Wish I was young and had chance to do what you're doing 💜
Hey you two, love this insight into how two unique adults can appreciate each other so much. ✌️❤️🚐
Love the new format, couldn't get into the podcast before 🤙 Keep up the wonderful work both of you ❤
We have separate covers works great for us we live mostly in our caravan
Loved this one too (as usual), thanks for letting us be a fly on the wall guys ❤❤
Love podcasts, subscribed.
Loved this one!!!!! ....real
Thank you for sharing! This was really insightful and helpful in getting perspective. Love the podcast ❤
Nice to see you still on the road. Hope all is well.
Loved this podcast! I really like the relationship you both have built together. ❤
I completely agree with the showers, I do the same thing!! Good episode!
Good one, thx for the insights & authenticity!
She liked the warm bus in the all winter camp. 😂they both have their positives for sure!
You two are great together! Loved the podcast! ❤
It is cool that you are both so easy going about each other's needs.
I think y'all have a great relationship. What you've got going works. And never stop making each other laugh. Love y'all!❤❤🐾❤🐾❤
Oh, and the car driving by took me by surprise.😁
You guys are awesome and compromising is part of LOVE so keep on keeping on... ❤️ 💙 great talk.. communicating is everything even when it's hard.
Dude! I'm the same way about showers! Glad to know I'm not the only one lol
Love the podcast! The background is amazing. I live in car and just began my UA-cam channel and love that I keep getting new fellow nomad channels so cool ✨
Great chat Chris! I love how you and Linnea talk about things that are deep. Fyi, both the podcast and this format are great imo. They are not much different and are always insightful, thoughtful. Love seeing Kobuk and Akela too. Take care!
I loved your podcast, and your relationship
I think relationship wise I felt like it was early on in the relationship to be 24-7. I like alone time, I am independent if I can get that time I probably get the Linea look in my eyes too lol. You were both so happily independent, so that blending in a freezing cold forest, “forced togetherness” is huge, I was actually proud you rolled out together in the end. Does it mean you are not soul mates because you enjoy solo time, or different things no way. You are two awesome, whole people, on your own. Together-amazing. Just keep showing up for each other even if it means freedom to solo trip. ❤
We also have plenty of solo time, it's a must!
I think you two are such an amazing couple. Pretty crazy that the universe brought you two together. Love the new podcast!!!!🎉
Great podcast! Enjoyed getting to know you both better. Seems like this works great for you both.. and that’s the most important thing! Keep enjoying your life and each other and of course the pups! ❤
I think Buses are the Albatrosses of vanlife🎉 I love being amongst the melange of vehicles❤
I appreciate this structured format and the topic chosen, coupledom is chuck full of compromise! I appreciate the give and take you two share, it’s refreshing. I look forward to Chris’s bus being in CO! That’ll be a game changer, you will both be in your element. Keep working at the bed issue, small changes can bring big results, sleep really matters ❤ I’m pretty sure that Kobuck wants a little more’star’ time, funny how much they learn from each other!😂
I just love y'all ❤ Great podcast!
This is great for a couple of friends traveling together in operate rigs too. My cousin & I traveled some 3 years ago. I had to come home early due to my only sibling being ill. We lost him and I've been stuck in my grief since then.
We are about to head out again late spring. We travel well together because we communicate openly about our needs. We share a lot of things, she's in a van & me a tiny camper with a 4x4 truck for towing. It works out great, she does runs all the errands using my truck.
It's all about the compromises.
Safe travels y'all!!!
I love that you guys talk about living together separately.. I think maintaining your own "space" is really important... Having a "place to go".. ❤
I wish you both luck and happiness. You have totally different views on what your basic daily living wants, needs and desired location are which can really take a toll on a relationship.
Love the blim bus.
Its the creatures & the persons 😅
One place id wanna start out is the continental divide also old film set areas to camp out at
Get a water from air device!
The view in the background looks amazing 🤩
I love the podcast. Just signed up for the newsletter 😊
Thanks!
I dont have a bus but I get how Chris feels about his bus, he put his whole heart into his build so has an attachment that one doesnt understand unless you've done that.❤ So enjoyed your podcast, live life to the fullest everyday. One more thing, the fact that Lennea can find peace out in the wild by herself speaks volumes to me that I cant even comprehend nor would find peace in doing so.❤ Wait, wait one more thing, you two make it work for each other, dont ever let go of your own space, I think thats the ticket to happiness and freedom.❤
I love the way you guys live and some day I'm going to be right there
I hope so as well!
totally agree about separate bed sleeping... It's a basic of health and well being.
So yeah... I had a 4-window that I totaled. Only had liability. Happened 1-1/2 months after Covid started. Lost my car, house, job all at once. Homeless for 3 years. Now I'm in another 4-window. Full coverage insurance ... NEVER going down THAT road again!!! Thanks for sharing.
Sorry to hear about the homelessness. Full coverage for sure!
I saw the toothpaste … no just having fun 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Apologies I heard bus vs rig and then the pups came in the picture.
Wait you don’t like instant coffee Linnea 😶 instant coffee is the best … Folgers all the way 🤘
Chris still gotta ask what’s up with the get out while I poop? Just inquiring for a friend 😜
All in all you guys are so freaking awesome and I love both your channels and uploads
Bustelo instant espresso all the way! 😊🎉😂
Also I love that while editing you didn’t cut out the random moments. 😂 Like Akela off pooping, the bird that caught Linnea’s attention, the ants 😂 It’s just so adorable 🥰
Yep - compromise and adapting without losing oneself. Great job to acknowledge what and how you contribute to this journey - no best choice as this is so fluid. Great talk and thanks for sharing the respect you guys bring to the table. Stay well and safe travels...for how ever long possible. ❤️
Absolutely!
Really nice to hear how you guys compromise but also entertaining and the beauty of your lifestyle when you would shout out, "look at that bird" or "look at those ants", akin to a dog getting distracted by a squirrel. 😅
My partner and I have been together for 7 years. We live in an RV and have separate beds. The dog sleeps on the couch which is also a twin day bed.
Ohmygod! It's so nice to hear people talk more positively about couples having separate rooms. My parents always had separate rooms (my mom likes it hot and quiet; my dad snores LOUD and he likes it freezing). I'd definitely want my own bedroom in a relationship where I'm living with a partner.
Don't understand that😆, the best part of falling asleep is cuddling or feelings the body of your partner next to you at night, sleeping alone might as well be single as well as having separate covers 🥴
I’m here in Quartzsite.
Creat content, thanks!
Companionship is all about compromise. It's got tradeoffs. I like what you have, together but apart. The "children" (doggos) have the best kind of pack. Enjoy your freedom, and revel in togetherness. :) It is worth it.
Hey hey cool. Didn’t really know you Chris but this was good, you seem super chill, patient and kind… I have come from linneas channel and I always felt a little bit like she didn’t let you in, but here it is! subscribe!
I 😍🥰🤟 how REAL you two are! Thank you for sharing! 🤗 #StayRARE (Real Authentic Respectful Empathetic)
Ok I am going to chime in since I have a skoolie and a van! The ONLY reason I got a bus was so my son could have his own room😅 if I did not have a kid I would be in my van! Sorry Chris lol I cannot wait to sell my bus!
Yeah, vans are nice for lots of reasons. I like my bus but it does have it's limitations.
i think the world of both of them and think they bring up some really good points and insight. but also, am i the only one who thinks linnea might have just a touch of a.d.d. no judgment at all! just noticing how she sort of gets distracted a bit more when compared to chris and in such a long stretch of video/talk. again, no judgment. i think both of them are so great and i love their videos.
the poopin' in the woods to van life pipeline is real
I loved this podcast! I also love how Linnea notices the birds and ants and sounds and is so excited about all of it 😊❤️😊❤️
I think you two live well together. Can’t wait to see the summer on the land!
I love the way your lives have merged, yet kept your individuality & sometimes separate spaces. You talk rather than sulk & blame. Seems to be a wonderful, mature adult relationship. Talking things out before any resentment builds up is so critical. I really like the fact that you're honest, not putting on a scripted show. I'm with Chris on the "showy, fake" stuff. I won't watch those channels. I enjoy your channels, the excellent videography, & the pups. Fortunately for me, the dog that has slept with me & been my best friend for 13 years only weighs about 30lbs. So, not a lot of fighting for space or covers. 😊 Thank you for the honest entertainment.
Glad you enjoyed it and thanks for the kind words!
"Once the realization is accepted that even between the closest people infinite distances exist, a marvelous living side-by-side can grow up for them, if they succeed in loving the expanse between them, which gives them the possibility of always seeing each other as a whole and before an immense sky.” - Rainer Maria Rilke (and the secret to my very happy 25 year marriage)
I am nearly 30 years together with my now husband. And we sleep in different beds and different rooms. Best solution fot both of us.
I loved this video.but there remains one question: what exactly is your work Chris? Is it building rigs? Is it filming?
You were both so independent
guys, it's ok to like different things lol
Chris, review your anxiety. You have some fear of loss and losing things.. Dont forget to live in the moment and have some full send moments.. Just an outside perspective. You are free, be free. its a challenge of lifestyles. know you will figure it out, but its never today or even tomorrow.. and the goal will evolve. But that spider bite was crazy AF.
Remember it’s her property not theirs - that speaks volumes and Chris is likely coming to terms with this.
@jaymondy you are wild with these comments. Judging how they sleep? Armchair psychologist over here talking about other people’s mental health. Do you even know Chris in real life? Or Linnea? You get a snippet of their lives, the parts that they choose to share with us. You do not know Jack about their actually lives. Seriously the audacity of these comments has me floored.
@@jackblock777”coming to terms “?? What in the? Again do you know him? At all? The real him not the social media him? Holy credo you people blow my effing mind. 😒
Y'all are great! Y'all do y'all! Damn what anyone thinks. Just love each other and each second you have bc one day we all won't have them. Stay together and always remember why you fell in love. Live the dream ❤
My husband and i sleep with seperate covers. I like to be bundled up. He does not. Married for 10 years in june. Together for 15
How did I not know that Chris had a channel too? Thanks UA-cam Algorithm
Is it compromise, or is it finding more compatibility ?
Kobuck seems very alert, like he’s on guard which is amazing and Akela is chill, searching the surroundings which is amazing as well lol
You have a wonderful family ❤
Busses are made and have to meet FTC standards to save the lives of kids who aren't wearing seatbelts. It's a steel cage. A van is a van. Nuff said! ;-) P.S. I have a 4-window. I might be biased. I'll own that!
Haha, once you have lived in a bus there's no going back.
Love the podcast and your transparent-ness. Does Linnea's van have a lift kit in it? Or bigger tires than it came with?
I’ve followed her almost since the beginning and I’m pretty sure it’s just the way it came no extras.
👍👍
Hi guys, I download as many films as possible incase I don't have signal, my question is perhaps for the future podcast, I know your vehicles are very different, what one has been more reliable, or easier fixed perhaps has less electronics to go wrong.
That's a great idea!
In Linnea's QA almost a year ago, she spoke on the topic of children, frankly she wasn't so sure about raising children. And there has been recently times, I think when her mom came to visit that she voiced not wanting children.
So on the topic of compromise, knowing Chris' interest in raising a family, are you two going to touch on that again for public viewing? Or is that still something to be worked out amongst respective parties?
Hi, guys….my thoughts on compromise for you two is that Chris definitely compromises more. Love you , Linnea, but you aren’t the big compromiser here. And, as far as bus living goes, I see your points, but I think your winter off grid last year in Wisconsin woukd have been much less enjoyable without the big, comfy bus to go into. Linnea, I can totally relate to being negatively affected by the sounds of citites….and I also cannot abide the sound of generators out in nature! Chris, I HATE being “sticky” as well. I grew up in New Orleans and, in summer, I was always sticky….hate it!
@teslah2997 I’m glad you think you can judge an entire relationship based on a single podcast episode, the audacity. That being said, if you’ve watched ANY of their previous videos they’ve done together you would see that Linnea has ALWAYS been up front about who she is and what she wants her life to look like and Chris has always accepted that with open arms. In his own words, he’s said this in other videos. As much as I love UA-cam and the glimpses into people’s lives that I enjoy and respect, I don’t expect that I know everything about them. It’s an hour out of their lives, we don’t know everything. So when people sit here and judge or act like they actually know some shit it’s infuriating. It’s the #1 reason I could never do UA-cam. I would not be as kind as these two to people who think they know Jack shit about my life based on a tiny tiny portion of my entire life. 😒
@@ginabrytowski3564 while I appreciate your loyalty to Linnea and Chris, as I, too, greatly admire them…..your over-the-top outrage is very misplaced. I have watched Linnea from the beginning. I was merely expressing what I have observed, no attack going on. My observation was not meant as a criticism. They could think about it or not. So, respectfully, you can stick YOUR ATTACK, YOUR JUDGMENT on me up your you-know-what. My comment was merely to acknowledge, which I am pretty sure Linnea realizes, what a gem of a man Chris is
@@teslah2997 it’s not judgment or outrage, it’s aggravation over the arrogance. If you respect them at all (you said admire it’s different) you would realize you only get a snippet of their life and you are not qualified to make assumptions. Again the absolute audacity is wild.
@@ginabrytowski3564 and yet, you have the ARROGANCE to suppose you know me. do you have anger management issues? Seems like it….and, clearly, you grasped nothing of what I was expressing to you. I am not going to keep going back and forth with you….don’t think Chris or Linnea would appreciate that. I will end this ridiculous argument now.
@@teslah2997 listen honny I never claimed to know you I stuck strictly to what you said in your comment. I never said I knew you. As for me missing the point of your comment I think I actually addressed it so…🤷🏼♀️ I mean at least make some sense
Where is Linnea’s channel
Top of the description :-)
it sounds like Linnea experiences sensory overload as I do. Curious Linnea if you consider yourself an empath or if you have experienced empathic abilites?
Yes, she says she absolutely does!
Chris and Linnea….I made a comment that someone took great offense to. I could care less about that person….she also jumped on other people’s comments as well. But what YOU GUYS think does matter. I totally admire, respect, care very much about you both. PERIOD
Sounds like lasting love to me....
Not many women out there that cut there man up because he likes to be clean and showers everyday. Being a Veteran and having been on tours where a shower is a luxury you might get once a week and washing out of a bowl daily is the norm I dont understand why you cut the boy up because he likes to shower. Definitely says something about you and your personal hygiene..... yuck! You also mentioned that City life and all that entails the noise etc to you is Bullshit well how would you like people talking about your lifestyle that negatively. It aint Bullshit its just another way of living and it takes all kinds.
And I’d love to know the astrological signs of these two …….
Morning this is my second comment YOU GUYS ARE A SUPER COUPLE AND TO BEAUTIFUL PUPS AGAIN THANKS